August 14, 2025 • 14 mins
We live in a world that moves fast — so fast that slowing down feels wrong. But here’s the truth: if you don’t make time for patience, life will make time for patients.
In this episode, I talk about how rushing, pushing, and forcing everything can take a real toll on your health, and why learning to pause might be the best thing you do for yourself. No preachy lectures — just real talk, personal stories, and a reminder that slowing down isn’t falling behind.
In this episode, I talk about how rushing, pushing, and forcing everything can take a real toll on your health, and why learning to pause might be the best thing you do for yourself. No preachy lectures — just real talk, personal stories, and a reminder that slowing down isn’t falling behind.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
This is the Still Standing Strong podcast, bringing you an
exciting mixture of self improvement, self help and comedy. Thanks
for tuning in. The episode will begin shortly. I hope
you enjoy patience or patience. One keeps you calm, the
(00:26):
other sends you to the waiting room. Welcome back to
another episode of Still Standing Strong. Thank you for tuning in,
Thank you for all the support. Looking forward to the
journey ahead today. As the episode suggests, we're going to
be talking about something that is incredibly difficult to possess,
(00:51):
hold on, to learn, maintain. And no it's not money,
it's patience. I have so much and also so little
experience with patients. I guess you could call it an
oxymoron of a word, or maybe I'm an oxymoron of
(01:11):
a man, but I have experienced the lack of patience
so many times in my life. I'll give a better
example as we continue, but the very first one that
comes to mind is literally the example we hear day
in and day out of why you should have patients
(01:33):
when driving. I was driving home from work one day
and I was hitting every single red light. I was
getting so upset, so irritated. It was late at night.
This was years ago. It was Friday night, it was
the weekend. I had plans to go out, but I
(01:54):
just could not get past these traffic lights. But as
I got to the final light before I ended up home,
there was a massive accident right in front of my
at the time apartment complex, and all I could do
was take a deep breath, revel in the epiphany that
(02:15):
I had, and just remind myself how important it is
to have patients and to understand we will get there
when we get there, and there's got to be a
reason for it. But why don't we talk about where
patience matters the most, where we see it being drained,
(02:37):
where we need it, where we don't have it. That'll
be a good place to start. Most of us listening
to this podcast, I would imagine have had a job
at some point, and work pressures are a major major
part of having patience. Whether it be a deadline, whether
(02:57):
it be a project, whether it be moving up the
corporate ladder, whether it be having patients with your boss
or a coworker, you definitely need it. And we live
in a culture, in a society that encourages pushes, almost
(03:18):
requires instant gratification response culture just this. We have to
do it right now. We have to get it right now,
or we're going to just take our brain elsewhere. It's
hard to have patience. It's a hustle culture. That's what
it is, and there's nothing wrong with that. There are
(03:41):
some things wrong with that. I had to quickly correct myself.
There are some things, but it's good to sometimes not
accept the way that things are. For the most part,
we should because there are greater plans work outside of
(04:01):
the external pressure. There is this internal pressure that we
place on ourselves to achieve what our ultimate goal is,
and of course that depends on the person. If you're
like me, you are very hard on yourself. You're not
where you want to be. You're wanting to continue pushing, grinding,
(04:27):
moving up the ladder. Even if you're not like me,
there's still some sort of pressure that you place on
yourself and you're always comparing yourself to others or you
are sometimes doing so. Either way, it is very and
can be very draining, and the focus becomes on this speed,
(04:50):
this dynamic, instant requirement that we achieve it right now,
that we don't need to just grow in the role.
This applies so much more than just to work. It
can apply to college, to schooling relationships, It applies everywhere,
(05:13):
and we'll have a separate episode discussing time. But time
is a great healing mechanism, and that's what patience teaches
us requires of us. When we don't have patience, when
we are jumping out of our seat, when we are
the metaphorical ping pong ball that is being batted between
(05:37):
two players and we can't sit still, that tends to
equal stress because you just can't stop moving. And although
good for burning calories, it is not so good for
maintaining a healthy mental health. And it impacts the body
(05:59):
negatively as well. You may experience headaches, fatigue, sickness. There
are a lot of different health detriments if you are
not being patient, if you're forcing something, if you are
stressing yourself out over something that is beyond your control.
(06:19):
This has happened time and time again to me, and
for some reason, I struggled to live by what I
try to teach others and discuss and advise others. But
when you've done all that you can in a particular situation,
it is time to just let be forcing. It is
(06:40):
going to make matters worse and you don't want to
do that. Let me tell you about an example that
I have that'll paint this perfectly. When my wife and
I were looking for a home, we ended up putting
our house up for sale first. That's what we had
to do. This was years ago and we all know
(07:02):
what the home market is like. But we put her
home up for sale with a contingency, and we began
the search. We probably looked at thirty forty houses, put
in the seven eight offers something like that, and we
just kept getting beat out where there was just something
in each of the other houses. We did not put
(07:23):
an offer in that we could not live with that
we were not willing to pay for, whether it be
needed in a new roof immediately, or there was a
monster in the closet, something was preventing us from purchasing
the home. But with a contingency, I believe we gave
it sixty ninety days. We were beginning to get nervous
because at the end of that our home would be gone.
(07:46):
We had had several offers for our home. We ended
up accepting one, so we know we have someone willing
to buy her home. So at the end of that
we're going to have to move into a rental? Would
it be the worst case scenario? Not even by a
long shot. We're very lucky to have been in that situation. However,
that doesn't mean that it wasn't stressful. The final week approached,
(08:07):
we had probably ten to fifteen houses to look at.
That week, the realtor suggested we look at the house,
this one house that we had previously looked at on
Zilo shout out Zilo, and we both passed over it.
It was too small or something was up with that.
We didn't like it, but we both agreed to it
because hey, why not. We looked at the other nine houses,
(08:29):
the ninth house being in the same neighborhood as the
one the tenth house, and then we went over to
the tenth house, and my goodness, this house ended up
being the one we felt like home. Every single thing
about it we absolutely could live with, and we looked
forward to living in. My wife was visualizing her home office.
We could see ourselves cooking in the kitchen. We put
(08:52):
in an offer, and remember the prior nine offers, we
just we couldn't close on it. We were being out
in this one worked. Had we just not stressed out,
bend patient, not worried. It still would have worked out.
(09:15):
But that is what I experience almost all the time,
and I just can't stop. And hopefully this episode is
me speaking this into action. But I'm sure you have
a similar story where you worried and worried and worried,
you didn't think it was going to work out and
it did. Share your story either on Spotify or whatever
(09:41):
medium you're listening to this podcast through, or hey, on
our Facebook page. Please go visit our Facebook page Still
Standing Strong Podcast. There's an outstanding question I have for you.
I love interacting with folks. Challenge me, give me a
reason to log on to Facebook. Go over there and
tell me what what kind of situation have you experienced
(10:05):
where you ended up worrying over nothing and maybe not nothing,
but worrying and worrying and thinking and thinking and sweating
and dreading just for everything to work out just fine
as always. Let's get into some tools to help work
through this lack of patience or void of patience. This
(10:29):
is going to sound like a silly one, but it works.
Schedule some breathing space into your week, into your day.
We move so fast sometimes we forget that we only
have a finite time on this planet. We need to
make sure we stop and smell the roses. Make sure
(10:51):
that you do that. Schedule that time be intentional. You
will find, as I've mentioned in a prior episode, it
will move slower and you'll find yourself feeling refreshed. Set
some goals and make sure that those goals entail we'll
call them realistic deadlines. Make sure you're not setting goals
(11:13):
and deadlines that cannot be achieved, cannot be attained. That
isn't fair to you or your brain. This is a
big one positive reinforcement. Make sure you're giving yourself some congrats.
Celebrate progress, and before it's finished, do the same, because
guess what progress is worth celebrating. As I've mentioned before,
(11:41):
if you set a goal to lose ten pounds by
the end of the month and you get into the gym,
or you go for a run, or you begin making
positive changes, those changes are still worth celebrating. And you
know what, our brains like being celebrated. The more that
we celebrate ourselves, the more that we positively reinforce changes
(12:01):
and behavior, the more effective whatever we're looking to do
will be. Make sure to do that. And you know what,
sometimes learning is better than anything else. We have to
make mistakes to learn. I've made so many mistakes with
patients that I could probably write a book on it.
(12:24):
But we have to make mistakes, we have to forget
in order to grow and to learn. But don't forget that.
Patience is a tool. It is a power tool. It
is something that will save you years and years of
your life simply by waiting. And I'm not at all
saying don't go after what you want, but there does
(12:48):
come a waiting period where you need to collect your energy,
collect your thoughts, recenter yourself. So make sure that you
build that time in. I think we're at about times.
So let's wrap this episode up and let's jump back
to the title patience or patience what a fun language.
(13:12):
English is to have the same word spelled two different ways.
But make sure that you slow down now or life
will slow down for you and it won't be pretty.
Make sure it is your choice, do it intentionally. Stress
can be a good thing, but you certainly don't want
(13:33):
to experience bad stress that very easily could have been avoided.
Thank you so much for joining. We'll expand on this
in later seasons, but patience is something that I myself
need to learn. So if you have any suggestions, please
jump onto our Facebook page, our Twitter page, Instagram. Even
(13:56):
if the post that I have on there has nothing
to do with this. Get a convert going, I promise
you I'll interact. I want to make sure that we're
beginning to build a community that is in for the
betterment of all, the betterment of ourselves, the way that
we live our lives. We don't want to just exist,
we want to live. We're going to do that together.
(14:19):
Thank you so much for your time. I hope that
this helped. Take care and remember we're still standing strong.
This is the Still Standing Strong podcast, bringing you an
exciting mixture of self improvement, self help and comedy. Thanks
for tuning in. The episode will begin shortly. I hope
you enjoy patience or patience. One keeps you calm, the
(00:26):
other sends you to the waiting room. Welcome back to
another episode of Still Standing Strong. Thank you for tuning in,
Thank you for all the support. Looking forward to the
journey ahead today. As the episode suggests, we're going to
be talking about something that is incredibly difficult to possess,
(00:51):
hold on, to learn, maintain. And no it's not money,
it's patience. I have so much and also so little
experience with patients. I guess you could call it an
oxymoron of a word, or maybe I'm an oxymoron of
(01:11):
a man, but I have experienced the lack of patience
so many times in my life. I'll give a better
example as we continue, but the very first one that
comes to mind is literally the example we hear day
in and day out of why you should have patients
(01:33):
when driving. I was driving home from work one day
and I was hitting every single red light. I was
getting so upset, so irritated. It was late at night.
This was years ago. It was Friday night, it was
the weekend. I had plans to go out, but I
(01:54):
just could not get past these traffic lights. But as
I got to the final light before I ended up home,
there was a massive accident right in front of my
at the time apartment complex, and all I could do
was take a deep breath, revel in the epiphany that
(02:15):
I had, and just remind myself how important it is
to have patients and to understand we will get there
when we get there, and there's got to be a
reason for it. But why don't we talk about where
patience matters the most, where we see it being drained,
(02:37):
where we need it, where we don't have it. That'll
be a good place to start. Most of us listening
to this podcast, I would imagine have had a job
at some point, and work pressures are a major major
part of having patience. Whether it be a deadline, whether
(02:57):
it be a project, whether it be moving up the
corporate ladder, whether it be having patients with your boss
or a coworker, you definitely need it. And we live
in a culture, in a society that encourages pushes, almost
(03:18):
requires instant gratification response culture just this. We have to
do it right now. We have to get it right now,
or we're going to just take our brain elsewhere. It's
hard to have patience. It's a hustle culture. That's what
it is, and there's nothing wrong with that. There are
(03:41):
some things wrong with that. I had to quickly correct myself.
There are some things, but it's good to sometimes not
accept the way that things are. For the most part,
we should because there are greater plans work outside of
(04:01):
the external pressure. There is this internal pressure that we
place on ourselves to achieve what our ultimate goal is,
and of course that depends on the person. If you're
like me, you are very hard on yourself. You're not
where you want to be. You're wanting to continue pushing, grinding,
(04:27):
moving up the ladder. Even if you're not like me,
there's still some sort of pressure that you place on
yourself and you're always comparing yourself to others or you
are sometimes doing so. Either way, it is very and
can be very draining, and the focus becomes on this speed,
(04:50):
this dynamic, instant requirement that we achieve it right now,
that we don't need to just grow in the role.
This applies so much more than just to work. It
can apply to college, to schooling relationships, It applies everywhere,
(05:13):
and we'll have a separate episode discussing time. But time
is a great healing mechanism, and that's what patience teaches
us requires of us. When we don't have patience, when
we are jumping out of our seat, when we are
the metaphorical ping pong ball that is being batted between
(05:37):
two players and we can't sit still, that tends to
equal stress because you just can't stop moving. And although
good for burning calories, it is not so good for
maintaining a healthy mental health. And it impacts the body
(05:59):
negatively as well. You may experience headaches, fatigue, sickness. There
are a lot of different health detriments if you are
not being patient, if you're forcing something, if you are
stressing yourself out over something that is beyond your control.
(06:19):
This has happened time and time again to me, and
for some reason, I struggled to live by what I
try to teach others and discuss and advise others. But
when you've done all that you can in a particular situation,
it is time to just let be forcing. It is
(06:40):
going to make matters worse and you don't want to
do that. Let me tell you about an example that
I have that'll paint this perfectly. When my wife and
I were looking for a home, we ended up putting
our house up for sale first. That's what we had
to do. This was years ago and we all know
(07:02):
what the home market is like. But we put her
home up for sale with a contingency, and we began
the search. We probably looked at thirty forty houses, put
in the seven eight offers something like that, and we
just kept getting beat out where there was just something
in each of the other houses. We did not put
(07:23):
an offer in that we could not live with that
we were not willing to pay for, whether it be
needed in a new roof immediately, or there was a
monster in the closet, something was preventing us from purchasing
the home. But with a contingency, I believe we gave
it sixty ninety days. We were beginning to get nervous
because at the end of that our home would be gone.
(07:46):
We had had several offers for our home. We ended
up accepting one, so we know we have someone willing
to buy her home. So at the end of that
we're going to have to move into a rental? Would
it be the worst case scenario? Not even by a
long shot. We're very lucky to have been in that situation. However,
that doesn't mean that it wasn't stressful. The final week approached,
(08:07):
we had probably ten to fifteen houses to look at.
That week, the realtor suggested we look at the house,
this one house that we had previously looked at on
Zilo shout out Zilo, and we both passed over it.
It was too small or something was up with that.
We didn't like it, but we both agreed to it
because hey, why not. We looked at the other nine houses,
(08:29):
the ninth house being in the same neighborhood as the
one the tenth house, and then we went over to
the tenth house, and my goodness, this house ended up
being the one we felt like home. Every single thing
about it we absolutely could live with, and we looked
forward to living in. My wife was visualizing her home office.
We could see ourselves cooking in the kitchen. We put
(08:52):
in an offer, and remember the prior nine offers, we
just we couldn't close on it. We were being out
in this one worked. Had we just not stressed out,
bend patient, not worried. It still would have worked out.
(09:15):
But that is what I experience almost all the time,
and I just can't stop. And hopefully this episode is
me speaking this into action. But I'm sure you have
a similar story where you worried and worried and worried,
you didn't think it was going to work out and
it did. Share your story either on Spotify or whatever
(09:41):
medium you're listening to this podcast through, or hey, on
our Facebook page. Please go visit our Facebook page Still
Standing Strong Podcast. There's an outstanding question I have for you.
I love interacting with folks. Challenge me, give me a
reason to log on to Facebook. Go over there and
tell me what what kind of situation have you experienced
(10:05):
where you ended up worrying over nothing and maybe not nothing,
but worrying and worrying and thinking and thinking and sweating
and dreading just for everything to work out just fine
as always. Let's get into some tools to help work
through this lack of patience or void of patience. This
(10:29):
is going to sound like a silly one, but it works.
Schedule some breathing space into your week, into your day.
We move so fast sometimes we forget that we only
have a finite time on this planet. We need to
make sure we stop and smell the roses. Make sure
(10:51):
that you do that. Schedule that time be intentional. You
will find, as I've mentioned in a prior episode, it
will move slower and you'll find yourself feeling refreshed. Set
some goals and make sure that those goals entail we'll
call them realistic deadlines. Make sure you're not setting goals
(11:13):
and deadlines that cannot be achieved, cannot be attained. That
isn't fair to you or your brain. This is a
big one positive reinforcement. Make sure you're giving yourself some congrats.
Celebrate progress, and before it's finished, do the same, because
guess what progress is worth celebrating. As I've mentioned before,
(11:41):
if you set a goal to lose ten pounds by
the end of the month and you get into the gym,
or you go for a run, or you begin making
positive changes, those changes are still worth celebrating. And you
know what, our brains like being celebrated. The more that
we celebrate ourselves, the more that we positively reinforce changes
(12:01):
and behavior, the more effective whatever we're looking to do
will be. Make sure to do that. And you know what,
sometimes learning is better than anything else. We have to
make mistakes to learn. I've made so many mistakes with
patients that I could probably write a book on it.
(12:24):
But we have to make mistakes, we have to forget
in order to grow and to learn. But don't forget that.
Patience is a tool. It is a power tool. It
is something that will save you years and years of
your life simply by waiting. And I'm not at all
saying don't go after what you want, but there does
(12:48):
come a waiting period where you need to collect your energy,
collect your thoughts, recenter yourself. So make sure that you
build that time in. I think we're at about times.
So let's wrap this episode up and let's jump back
to the title patience or patience what a fun language.
(13:12):
English is to have the same word spelled two different ways.
But make sure that you slow down now or life
will slow down for you and it won't be pretty.
Make sure it is your choice, do it intentionally. Stress
can be a good thing, but you certainly don't want
(13:33):
to experience bad stress that very easily could have been avoided.
Thank you so much for joining. We'll expand on this
in later seasons, but patience is something that I myself
need to learn. So if you have any suggestions, please
jump onto our Facebook page, our Twitter page, Instagram. Even
(13:56):
if the post that I have on there has nothing
to do with this. Get a convert going, I promise
you I'll interact. I want to make sure that we're
beginning to build a community that is in for the
betterment of all, the betterment of ourselves, the way that
we live our lives. We don't want to just exist,
we want to live. We're going to do that together.
(14:19):
Thank you so much for your time. I hope that
this helped. Take care and remember we're still standing strong.
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