Why Am I Always The Only Black Girl Here?

In this episode of The Suburban Black Girl Podcast, we’re getting honest about the quiet weight of being “the only one” — the only Black girl in the classroom, at work, in the friend group, or at the table. From early moments of invisibility to the complex pressure of being seen as a representative for an entire community, we explore what it feels like to constantly navigate spaces that were never built with us in mind.

We unpack the emotional labor of code-switching, shrinking, and performing just to be accepted — and the exhaustion that comes with always having to “keep it cute” in the face of ignorance or microaggressions. We also reflect on the suburban experience and how it shaped our sense of identity, belonging, and Blackness itself.

This conversation is a space for softness, clarity, and reclamation — where we affirm that you don’t have to earn your right to exist fully and freely. Because being the only one shouldn’t mean being alone.