Why does being alone feel so uncomfortable for so many of us? We fill our time with distractions—endless scrolling, binge-watching TV, surrounding ourselves with people who don’t pour into us—just to avoid sitting in our own presence. But here’s the truth: when you don’t know how to be alone, you end up settling. Settling for people who don’t respect you. Settling for relationships that drain you. Settling for situations that don’t align with your worth.
In this episode of The Bold Frequency, we’re diving deep into what it really means to love your own company. Because being alone isn’t a punishment—it’s an opportunity. It’s the space where you heal, grow, and build confidence in yourself without needing outside validation.
Why We Struggle to Be Alone
A lot of us keep ourselves busy so we don’t have to deal with loneliness. I know, because I did it too. I stayed in a toxic relationship far longer than I should have simply because I was afraid of being alone. I convinced myself that dealing with his insecurities, his manipulation, and his disrespect was better than dealing with my own thoughts. The thought of not having someone—even someone who treated me badly—felt scarier than walking away.
But let me tell you something: learning to be alone saved me. It taught me self-respect. It gave me the power to make choices that actually served me instead of choices that kept me in a cycle of pain.
Choosing Yourself Over Loneliness
I was conditioned to believe that being with him was better than being alone.
This is what we, as women, are taught.
We’re taught to stick it out.
To be understanding.
To forgive and endure.
But here’s the truth: we have a choice.
We can choose them, or we can choose ourselves. But if we’re always choosing them, who is choosing us?
When we don’t learn to be alone, we end up neglecting ourselves just to make other people comfortable.
Your Challenge This Week
This week, I want you to spend some intentional time alone. No distractions. No phone. Just you.
Sit with your thoughts. Take yourself out on a date. Journal. Reflect. Ask yourself:
- What am I afraid to face when I’m alone?
- What do I actually enjoy doing when no one else is around?
- How can I start creating a life where I am my own best company?
Because the moment you master being alone, the moment you start truly loving yourself—that’s when your confidence becomes unshakable.
Final Thoughts
If this episode resonated with you, I want to hear about it! DM me, comment, or share your story. What’s been your biggest struggle with being alone? And if you’ve already embraced your own company, how has it changed your life?
Remember: you are whole all by yourself. The love you seek from others? It starts with YOU.
Tune in next time as we continue this journey to self-confidence, healing, and empowerment. Until then—love yourself, choose yourself, and never be afraid to stand on your own.
Tune in to The Bold Frequency and join a community of women learning to live boldly, love deeply, and embrace their confidence — one vulnerable moment at a time.
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