This episode is for the woman who’s tired of shrinking. Tired of performing. Tired of not knowing who she is when the room is empty.
Because once you know who you are-you stop entertaining people who don’t.
If tomorrow every title you’ve ever had disappeared--who would be left?
Not a mother. Not a wife. Not a friend. Not a manager.
Just you.
In this episode of The Bold Frequency, we’re getting all the way real. You’ve been so busy being everything for everyone else that you haven’t stopped to ask, Who am I outside of the roles I play? We’re unpacking the three pillars that make up your true identity: your values, your beliefs, and your personal interests. It’s time to separate who you are from what you’ve been assigned.
This episode is your invitation to pause and reflect:
Who are you really, without the labels?
What do you stand for when no one’s watching?
What do you value enough to protect with your boundaries?
Let’s talk about values.
I didn’t even know what values were at first. I had to look it up. No one in my life ever sat me down and explained it in a way that made sense. So, if you're in that same boat—this one’s for you.
Values are the ideals and beliefs that guide our attitudes, actions, and choices.
They help us determine what’s truly important. And without them? You can’t build boundaries. You can’t set standards. And you definitely can’t live confidently.
Values are poured into us as children - by parents, communities, schools, culture. But here’s the thing: if your parents didn’t have many values, they couldn’t pour them into you. That means you’ve got to be intentional about defining your own. Some values we adopt, some we outgrow. Over time, those become our core values—the ones that shape our identity and guide every decision we make.
So, I want you to really sit with this:
What are your core values?
What beliefs are still guiding you - and are they still serving you?
What lights you up? What are your interests outside of who you serve or take care of?
You deserve to know yourself deeply. And you can’t step into your power until you do. The world doesn’t need more people playing roles. It needs more women who are rooted in who they are - unapologetically.
This episode will challenge you to dig deeper. To take inventory of your soul. To build your life on a foundation of who you truly are, not who others expect you to be.
You are not your titles. You are not just what you do.
You are valuable because you exist.
Let’s rebuild your identity from the inside out.
Tune in to The Bold Frequency and join a community of women learning to live boldly, love deeply, and embrace their confidence — one vulnerable moment at a time.
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