February 24, 2025 • 17 mins
Embracing Sustainable Success: Overcoming the Urgency Trap
Welcome to the Muscles and Mindset Revolution podcast! I'm Anne Jones, your host and a certified life coach and fitness professional with over 15 years of experience. This episode is for ambitious women ready to achieve lasting results, build stronger bodies, and form sustainable habits. We dive into the importance of progressing at a sustainable pace and overcoming the pressure to rush success. Through the breakdown of urgency, importance, and significance, I will guide you on how to prioritize wisely and embrace a long-term approach to fitness, nutrition, and mindset. Learn why true success is about sustained progress, not quick fixes, and how to keep moving, stay strong, and be kind to yourself.
01:00 The Temptation of Quick Results
01:38 The Pitfalls of Crash Diets and Quick Fixes
03:39 Understanding Urgency, Importance, and Significance
12:34 The Trap of Feeling Behind
15:10 Embracing Abundance and Long-Term Success
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Speaker 7 (00:00):
Welcome to the muscles and mindset revolution
(00:02):
podcast, the podcast forambitious women who are tired of
chasing quick fixes and areready to finally achieve real
lasting results, strongerbodies, sustainable habits, and
longterm weight loss.
I am your host Anne Jones,certified life coach and fitness
professional for over 15 yearshere to help you break free from
(00:23):
inconsistency, overwhelm andburnout.
No BS, just simple, sustainablestrategies.
Welcome back in this episode, weare talking about succeeding at
a sustainable pace.
If you have ever felt thepressure to rush your progress,
if you have ever felt like youwere falling behind or struggled
(00:45):
with the fear of missing out,this episode is for you.
We are diving into the mindsetbehind.
All of that and uncovering howyou can find success at a pace
that actually works for you longterm.
Let's dive into it.
I know how tempting it is towant quick results.
We've all been there.
You start something new, whetherit is a fitness routine, a
(01:09):
business, a meal plan, a mindsetshift, a meditation practice,
baby led weaning with your babyand you want to see instant
changes.
You want to see the scale drop,you want to see the muscles
show, you want that thing inyour brain to shift overnight,
to click overnight.
And I get it, waiting is hard,but here's the thing, fast does
(01:35):
not mean sustainable.
Let me ask you something.
Have you ever seen, and I knowyou have, have you ever seen
someone crash diet, lose 10pounds in two weeks and then a
month later they're back wherethey started or worse, they've
gained more weight?
That is what happens, right?
And I, and I do have to say noshade to any other like method
(01:59):
or program, but a missedopportunity by most.
By any diet, in my opinion, andby most programs or methods, is
that they get you from point Ato point B, wonderful.
And then there is no plan forafter, and what happens, the
person reverts back to their oldhabits.
If it was a weight loss thing,they gain all the weight back.
(02:21):
Usually more and not only that,but they are stuck in this I
failed mindset and they have togather all that momentum to
start all over again and theystill don't have the tools to
keep it going.
What's rushed is rarelyretained.
The same goes for buildingstrength, changing your habits
and shifting your mindset.
(02:42):
I've been there too.
Oh my gosh.
I have had mindset coachessince.
2019 and I know this now, butthere were so many times where I
was so frustrated and honestlyshaming myself.
Ask my coach Cara where I waslike, I've been doing this for
so long, I'm doing all thethings.
Why am I still feeling this way?
(03:02):
Or why do I still do this thing?
Or why am I engaging in this badhabit or self deprecating
language or whatever?
It takes.
So much time, especially ifthese are habits or thoughts and
beliefs that we've been holdingfor years.
And so when you build somethingfast, it's like stacking a house
(03:22):
of cards, right?
It might look good for a second,but it won't stand the test of
time.
True success isn't about howquickly you can get results.
It's about how long you can keepthem.
And sustainable results requiresustainable methods.
Don't confuse urgency,importance, and significance.
(03:46):
Let's break this down in somereal life examples number one,
Urgency.
Urgency is the scarcity driven,anxiety inducing trap.
Urgency makes you feel like youhave to do everything now, or
you are failing.
If you are comparing your hometo, like, the home edit, it's
gonna feel very urgent, like, ohmy god, I'm a garbage person, I
(04:09):
have to fix all of this now.
Your phone, with its little reddot.
That which you can turn off, bythe way, I have no red dots on
my phone.
Oh my gosh, no, they can gostraight to hell because they're
just lying to you.
Oh, that's a sense of urgency.
I need to do this thing.
It's not urgent.
Urgency makes you feel like youhave to do everything now or
you're failing here.
I'm going to give you a fitnessmindset and nutrition example
(04:31):
for each of these thoughts.
So in fitness, urgency is like,I missed a workout yesterday.
I need to double up today or I'mgoing to lose all my progress.
With mindset, it's like, I haveto respond to this message
immediately, or they'll thinkI'm unreliable.
They'll think I'm flaky.
They won't like me anymore.
They'll be mad at me.
That's coming from a place ofurgency.
(04:52):
Nutrition is like, I need tostart a strict diet on Monday or
I'll never lose weight.
That's urgency.
This creates panic.
This creates reactive behavior.
You're not being proactive.
You're constantly reactive.
That keeps you in fight orflight.
And that does not feel good.
Even if you're not aware thatyour nervous system is in
dysregulation, is insympathetic, that's where
(05:15):
urgency lives.
And you can get quite good atit.
In fact, most ambitious womenwho I know, including most of my
clients,
Speaker 8 (05:21):
we're very comfortable in urgency, high
anxiety, and reactive behavior.
We actually perform quite wellthere.
Speaker 7 (05:29):
We may have even been awarded for it.
I have tons of clients who arepolice officers and nurses and
on live television.
And so they got where they arebecause they got quite good at
responding to panic and reactivebehavior, but it's either not
serving them anymore or it's notserving them in their personal
life.
(05:49):
Everything feels like anemergency, but it's really not.
So that's urgency.
Those things feel urgent, right?
And they are not trueemergencies, which I hope we can
recognize the differencebetween.
Number two.
Is importance.
So that's urgency.
Here's importance.
Importance is intentional and itis focused, right?
(06:12):
This is important.
However, still not everythingcan be important.
Importance helps you prioritizewisely instead of reacting to
everything like it's do or die.
Right?
So.
Not urgency, but you do have toknow what your priorities are
and you cannot prioritizeeverything because then you're
essentially not prioritizingAnything at all when you
prioritize everything youprioritize nothing.
(06:35):
I'm just gonna slide this inhere that you can't really
prioritize anything or placeimportance on anything If you
don't know what your personalpolicies and values are I will
say this to my clients all thetime like they'll have a
disagreement with their partnerabout money, where money is to
be spent, or who is to do whataround the house, or is it okay
(06:55):
for me to work out at this time,and I'll be like, what's your
policy as a couple, like, whatare your values, what's your
personal policy when thishappens?
And often we don't have apersonal policy, so we can't
prioritize everything.
We get into thinking everythingis important, and then we get
into that sense of urgency, andthen there's panic and conflict,
because we don't know who weare, what we want, what our
values are, or what the otherparty's personal policies are so
(07:21):
we're both reacting toeverything like it's do or die
and there's no plan at all.
So you have to know who you are.
Which sounds big, but you haveto know what your values are at
the very least so that you canplace importance on things so
that you can prioritize wiselyin the moment.
So here's importance in actionin regards to fitness.
(07:41):
Consistency matters more thanperfection.
I'll move my body today in a waythat works for my energy.
That's like, this is important.
This is important to me.
I would rather be consistentthan perfect.
So this is what I'm going to doin terms of mindset.
it can wait until I'm done withmy deep focused work time.
Like I do not have notificationspinging at me.
I have no email notifications.
(08:03):
When it is time to check myemail, I will go and check the
email.
Like somebody who urgently needsme is going to call me.
I just, right before this,actually, I got a call.
My daughter's at musicaltheater.
I got, I was in the bathroomabout to come down and record
this.
And I got a call from thetheater.
My daughter has an upsetstomach, so I'm like, okay,
like, is she okay?
Is she puking?
(08:23):
And they're like, yeah, she'sokay.
But she says she wants to comehome.
I'm like, okay, this isimportant.
She's important.
It's important that I took thiscall.
And there is some significancethat we respond to her so that
she feels safe.
You know, when she's not feelingwell, that's not urgent, she has
not broken her leg.
So same with, all that to say, Ianswer my phone when it's the
(08:45):
theater where my daughter is at,I'm not responding and reacting
to notifications on my phone orcomputer all the time,
particularly not on a Sunday,which it is today.
So it can be like, this email isimportant, but it can wait until
I'm done with what I'm doing.
For nutrition, fueling my bodywell is important, but it
doesn't have to be all ornothing.
Like I can have a shortbreadcookie.
(09:07):
when you shift out of urgency toimportance, you move from
reacting to responding in linewith your values and what you
have said is important.
So that's urgency andimportance.
And now let's talk about the bigone, the big picture
perspective, which issignificance.
Significance shifts your focusto long term sustainable success
(09:29):
instead of the short term hustleand scramble.
for fitness this is like liftingweights consistently over time
will make me stronger, moreconfident, more resilient in
life.
And I know that's the number onething that leads to longevity.
So if you're looking at living along time, you know you need to
strength train.
For mindset.
significance is consistentlysetting boundaries and
(09:50):
respecting my time because thathelps me show up better for
myself and for others.
So this person might bemessaging me or asking something
of me now on Sunday afternoon.
And if I was coming from a placeof urgency, I would just be
responding to it and doingwhatever they say that they
(10:12):
need.
And that's not of service to meand it's not of service to them
because then it's just trainingthem to be more in urgency,
right?
So by consistently knowing mypersonal policies, knowing what
my priority is right now, andsetting boundaries and
respecting my time, helps meshow up better.
Like, I'm here with you rightnow.
(10:32):
This is the time that I'mspending with you right now,
recording this podcast.
sharing this with you.
I had to intentionally plan andprioritize this because it's a
commitment that I've made.
I'm doing it on Sunday, whereasnormally I do it on Monday
because it was a busy week and Ihave a plan and the plan is
flexible.
So setting up the boundaries,knowing what's important to me,
(10:54):
respecting my time helps me tofully do those things, like to
go skating with her.
the 30 minutes I spent doing ourmeal plan and grocery order last
night.
Sets us up for the week.
Like that is significant becauseit gives me my time back later
in the week when I'm nothustling to figure out what to
make for dinner.
I go to a grocery store, I pickup that grocery order and
(11:15):
usually I don't step foot in astore for the rest of the week
unless I want like specialsourdough bread or something
that I can't get in my groceryorder.
That gives me so much time backspending that 30, 45 minutes to
meal plan and grocery order.
So then I'm able to show upbetter for my clients.
I'm not cutting out of workearly.
My daughter, we have such chillevenings when I'm like, I have
(11:39):
the meal plan.
We're hanging out making dinner.
That investment in my time, iscompounded interest.
It saves me time in the longrun.
And that is significant.
And it makes it feeds everybodywell, right?
So speaking of nutrition,significance and nutrition is
nourishing my body.
Well, isn't about perfection.
(12:00):
It is about feeling my best so Ican live fully.
That's significant over time inyears, right?
If you feel your best and you'rewell fueled so that you can live
fully and chase your kids aroundnot have a nervy B when you go
to a restaurant when you don'tknow what's going to be there.
That is significant.
And when you focus onsignificance, you stop obsessing
(12:23):
over what's fast and startbuilding what lasts.
Ooh, that's good.
You stop obsessing over what'sfast and start building What
lasts.
I love that.
So now let's talk aboutsomething that I know many of
you struggle with.
And that's the feeling of eitherbeing behind or falling behind.
So I am on social media as youguys know, because I have an
(12:45):
online business, but I am not ascroller.
I do not see anything onFacebook.
I don't scroll.
I watch people's stories, myclients, my friends, people I
know.
But I'm just like, I just, I'mnot falling into the comparison
trap.
And I've even been known to givemy clients like a cutoff, like a
no social media scrolling forlike three weeks.
(13:06):
Because maybe you see someone onsocial media who just ran a
marathon or lost 20 pounds.
And then a moment ago, you werehaving no kind of thought about
yourself and then you're havingthe thought that you're not
doing enough because you aren'tdoing both of those things.
Maybe you're thinking, why is itso easy for her and not easy for
(13:27):
me?
First of all, What you see onsocial media is a highlight
reel.
I know we know this, but weforget, we forget.
you're looking at all thesedifferent people, putting them
all together and then thinkingthat you're not doing all of
these things, which no singleperson is doing.
Everyone's not doing something.
People rarely post theirstruggles, their setbacks, and
(13:48):
the days they wanted to quit.
It's more common forinfluencers, people are getting
honest now and sharing theirstruggles.
But let's be honest, yourfriends, your colleagues, the
people that you know on a dailybasis are mostly not.
Because it's scary.
And it's not their job, so whyshould they?
They're probably just postingtheir kids birthday parties,
when their house looks clean,when they have makeup on, and
(14:09):
the workout that they actuallydid do.
They're not posting all theworkouts they didn't do.
the spider on the floor oranything else, right?
So keep your eyes on your ownpage because what they are or
are not doing has literallynothing to do with you.
Secondly, there is no behind.
You are always exactly where youneed to be.
(14:30):
And if you don't like where youare, that's cool.
You can change it.
But You probably needed to behere to feel uncomfortable so
that you would move.
Your pace is your pace and youcan have goals, you can have
places that you want to go, butyou are exactly where you need
to be right now until you'reready to move forward.
(14:55):
I think you're usually ready,but sometimes we're not.
Sometimes we're not.
Scarcity will tell you there'snot enough time.
There's not enough money.
There's not enough progress.
There's not enough success to goaround.
If she's already started it andshe's lost 20 pounds and I
haven't, I'm behind.
What's the point?
But abundance says you have allthe time you need to succeed.
I am all about this.
(15:15):
I'm always just like, there'salways enough.
There's always enough ofeverything to go around.
There's no point in believingthat there is not.
I have more than enough time todo all the things I want to do.
We can't change time anyway.
It's just happening.
It's ticking.
Regardless of what we're doing,there's always enough money.
I can always just get moremoney.
There's always enough love.
There's always enough likefriendship to go around.
(15:36):
I'm not going to gatekeep orwithhold when you adopt that
belief.
That there is always enough, youstop racing, you stop comparing
and you start actually enjoyingthe process because you start
stepping into an embodying whatyou do want, where you do want
to go.
I want to leave you withsomething powerful, something
(15:56):
that will help you to shift outof urgency and into
significance.
I want you to ask yourself this.
If I knew 100 percent confidentI would reach my goal in exactly
one year, how would I approachit today?
Would you panic over missing aworkout?
Would you feel like you neededto overhaul your whole diet in
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one week?
Would you still rush thisprocess?
Or would you focus on buildinghabits you can actually sustain?
The truth is, when you see thebig picture, when you look at
that long runway, everythingshifts.
So, my challenge for you todayis this.
(16:41):
Slow down to speed up.
Pick one habit that you cancommit to for the next Month.
It's the end of February.
Let's do it for March.
Not out of urgency, but becauseit is important and significant
to your long term success Okay?
All right, friend, that is itfor today's episode.
I really hope this helped toshift your mindset around
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success and what it means tomove at a sustainable pace.
Please remember you are notbehind.
You are exactly where you needto be.
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I know women need to hear this.
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I would love to connect with youuntil next time.
(17:46):
Keep moving, stay strong and bekind to yourself.
I love you.
Mean it.
Welcome to the muscles and mindset revolution
(00:02):
podcast, the podcast forambitious women who are tired of
chasing quick fixes and areready to finally achieve real
lasting results, strongerbodies, sustainable habits, and
longterm weight loss.
I am your host Anne Jones,certified life coach and fitness
professional for over 15 yearshere to help you break free from
(00:23):
inconsistency, overwhelm andburnout.
No BS, just simple, sustainablestrategies.
Welcome back in this episode, weare talking about succeeding at
a sustainable pace.
If you have ever felt thepressure to rush your progress,
if you have ever felt like youwere falling behind or struggled
(00:45):
with the fear of missing out,this episode is for you.
We are diving into the mindsetbehind.
All of that and uncovering howyou can find success at a pace
that actually works for you longterm.
Let's dive into it.
I know how tempting it is towant quick results.
We've all been there.
You start something new, whetherit is a fitness routine, a
(01:09):
business, a meal plan, a mindsetshift, a meditation practice,
baby led weaning with your babyand you want to see instant
changes.
You want to see the scale drop,you want to see the muscles
show, you want that thing inyour brain to shift overnight,
to click overnight.
And I get it, waiting is hard,but here's the thing, fast does
(01:35):
not mean sustainable.
Let me ask you something.
Have you ever seen, and I knowyou have, have you ever seen
someone crash diet, lose 10pounds in two weeks and then a
month later they're back wherethey started or worse, they've
gained more weight?
That is what happens, right?
And I, and I do have to say noshade to any other like method
(01:59):
or program, but a missedopportunity by most.
By any diet, in my opinion, andby most programs or methods, is
that they get you from point Ato point B, wonderful.
And then there is no plan forafter, and what happens, the
person reverts back to their oldhabits.
If it was a weight loss thing,they gain all the weight back.
(02:21):
Usually more and not only that,but they are stuck in this I
failed mindset and they have togather all that momentum to
start all over again and theystill don't have the tools to
keep it going.
What's rushed is rarelyretained.
The same goes for buildingstrength, changing your habits
and shifting your mindset.
(02:42):
I've been there too.
Oh my gosh.
I have had mindset coachessince.
2019 and I know this now, butthere were so many times where I
was so frustrated and honestlyshaming myself.
Ask my coach Cara where I waslike, I've been doing this for
so long, I'm doing all thethings.
Why am I still feeling this way?
(03:02):
Or why do I still do this thing?
Or why am I engaging in this badhabit or self deprecating
language or whatever?
It takes.
So much time, especially ifthese are habits or thoughts and
beliefs that we've been holdingfor years.
And so when you build somethingfast, it's like stacking a house
(03:22):
of cards, right?
It might look good for a second,but it won't stand the test of
time.
True success isn't about howquickly you can get results.
It's about how long you can keepthem.
And sustainable results requiresustainable methods.
Don't confuse urgency,importance, and significance.
(03:46):
Let's break this down in somereal life examples number one,
Urgency.
Urgency is the scarcity driven,anxiety inducing trap.
Urgency makes you feel like youhave to do everything now, or
you are failing.
If you are comparing your hometo, like, the home edit, it's
gonna feel very urgent, like, ohmy god, I'm a garbage person, I
(04:09):
have to fix all of this now.
Your phone, with its little reddot.
That which you can turn off, bythe way, I have no red dots on
my phone.
Oh my gosh, no, they can gostraight to hell because they're
just lying to you.
Oh, that's a sense of urgency.
I need to do this thing.
It's not urgent.
Urgency makes you feel like youhave to do everything now or
you're failing here.
I'm going to give you a fitnessmindset and nutrition example
(04:31):
for each of these thoughts.
So in fitness, urgency is like,I missed a workout yesterday.
I need to double up today or I'mgoing to lose all my progress.
With mindset, it's like, I haveto respond to this message
immediately, or they'll thinkI'm unreliable.
They'll think I'm flaky.
They won't like me anymore.
They'll be mad at me.
That's coming from a place ofurgency.
(04:52):
Nutrition is like, I need tostart a strict diet on Monday or
I'll never lose weight.
That's urgency.
This creates panic.
This creates reactive behavior.
You're not being proactive.
You're constantly reactive.
That keeps you in fight orflight.
And that does not feel good.
Even if you're not aware thatyour nervous system is in
dysregulation, is insympathetic, that's where
(05:15):
urgency lives.
And you can get quite good atit.
In fact, most ambitious womenwho I know, including most of my
clients,
Speaker 8 (05:21):
we're very comfortable in urgency, high
anxiety, and reactive behavior.
We actually perform quite wellthere.
Speaker 7 (05:29):
We may have even been awarded for it.
I have tons of clients who arepolice officers and nurses and
on live television.
And so they got where they arebecause they got quite good at
responding to panic and reactivebehavior, but it's either not
serving them anymore or it's notserving them in their personal
life.
(05:49):
Everything feels like anemergency, but it's really not.
So that's urgency.
Those things feel urgent, right?
And they are not trueemergencies, which I hope we can
recognize the differencebetween.
Number two.
Is importance.
So that's urgency.
Here's importance.
Importance is intentional and itis focused, right?
(06:12):
This is important.
However, still not everythingcan be important.
Importance helps you prioritizewisely instead of reacting to
everything like it's do or die.
Right?
So.
Not urgency, but you do have toknow what your priorities are
and you cannot prioritizeeverything because then you're
essentially not prioritizingAnything at all when you
prioritize everything youprioritize nothing.
(06:35):
I'm just gonna slide this inhere that you can't really
prioritize anything or placeimportance on anything If you
don't know what your personalpolicies and values are I will
say this to my clients all thetime like they'll have a
disagreement with their partnerabout money, where money is to
be spent, or who is to do whataround the house, or is it okay
(06:55):
for me to work out at this time,and I'll be like, what's your
policy as a couple, like, whatare your values, what's your
personal policy when thishappens?
And often we don't have apersonal policy, so we can't
prioritize everything.
We get into thinking everythingis important, and then we get
into that sense of urgency, andthen there's panic and conflict,
because we don't know who weare, what we want, what our
values are, or what the otherparty's personal policies are so
(07:21):
we're both reacting toeverything like it's do or die
and there's no plan at all.
So you have to know who you are.
Which sounds big, but you haveto know what your values are at
the very least so that you canplace importance on things so
that you can prioritize wiselyin the moment.
So here's importance in actionin regards to fitness.
(07:41):
Consistency matters more thanperfection.
I'll move my body today in a waythat works for my energy.
That's like, this is important.
This is important to me.
I would rather be consistentthan perfect.
So this is what I'm going to doin terms of mindset.
it can wait until I'm done withmy deep focused work time.
Like I do not have notificationspinging at me.
I have no email notifications.
(08:03):
When it is time to check myemail, I will go and check the
email.
Like somebody who urgently needsme is going to call me.
I just, right before this,actually, I got a call.
My daughter's at musicaltheater.
I got, I was in the bathroomabout to come down and record
this.
And I got a call from thetheater.
My daughter has an upsetstomach, so I'm like, okay,
like, is she okay?
Is she puking?
(08:23):
And they're like, yeah, she'sokay.
But she says she wants to comehome.
I'm like, okay, this isimportant.
She's important.
It's important that I took thiscall.
And there is some significancethat we respond to her so that
she feels safe.
You know, when she's not feelingwell, that's not urgent, she has
not broken her leg.
So same with, all that to say, Ianswer my phone when it's the
(08:45):
theater where my daughter is at,I'm not responding and reacting
to notifications on my phone orcomputer all the time,
particularly not on a Sunday,which it is today.
So it can be like, this email isimportant, but it can wait until
I'm done with what I'm doing.
For nutrition, fueling my bodywell is important, but it
doesn't have to be all ornothing.
Like I can have a shortbreadcookie.
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when you shift out of urgency toimportance, you move from
reacting to responding in linewith your values and what you
have said is important.
So that's urgency andimportance.
And now let's talk about the bigone, the big picture
perspective, which issignificance.
Significance shifts your focusto long term sustainable success
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instead of the short term hustleand scramble.
for fitness this is like liftingweights consistently over time
will make me stronger, moreconfident, more resilient in
life.
And I know that's the number onething that leads to longevity.
So if you're looking at living along time, you know you need to
strength train.
For mindset.
significance is consistentlysetting boundaries and
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respecting my time because thathelps me show up better for
myself and for others.
So this person might bemessaging me or asking something
of me now on Sunday afternoon.
And if I was coming from a placeof urgency, I would just be
responding to it and doingwhatever they say that they
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need.
And that's not of service to meand it's not of service to them
because then it's just trainingthem to be more in urgency,
right?
So by consistently knowing mypersonal policies, knowing what
my priority is right now, andsetting boundaries and
respecting my time, helps meshow up better.
Like, I'm here with you rightnow.
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This is the time that I'mspending with you right now,
recording this podcast.
sharing this with you.
I had to intentionally plan andprioritize this because it's a
commitment that I've made.
I'm doing it on Sunday, whereasnormally I do it on Monday
because it was a busy week and Ihave a plan and the plan is
flexible.
So setting up the boundaries,knowing what's important to me,
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respecting my time helps me tofully do those things, like to
go skating with her.
the 30 minutes I spent doing ourmeal plan and grocery order last
night.
Sets us up for the week.
Like that is significant becauseit gives me my time back later
in the week when I'm nothustling to figure out what to
make for dinner.
I go to a grocery store, I pickup that grocery order and
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usually I don't step foot in astore for the rest of the week
unless I want like specialsourdough bread or something
that I can't get in my groceryorder.
That gives me so much time backspending that 30, 45 minutes to
meal plan and grocery order.
So then I'm able to show upbetter for my clients.
I'm not cutting out of workearly.
My daughter, we have such chillevenings when I'm like, I have
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the meal plan.
We're hanging out making dinner.
That investment in my time, iscompounded interest.
It saves me time in the longrun.
And that is significant.
And it makes it feeds everybodywell, right?
So speaking of nutrition,significance and nutrition is
nourishing my body.
Well, isn't about perfection.
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It is about feeling my best so Ican live fully.
That's significant over time inyears, right?
If you feel your best and you'rewell fueled so that you can live
fully and chase your kids aroundnot have a nervy B when you go
to a restaurant when you don'tknow what's going to be there.
That is significant.
And when you focus onsignificance, you stop obsessing
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over what's fast and startbuilding what lasts.
Ooh, that's good.
You stop obsessing over what'sfast and start building What
lasts.
I love that.
So now let's talk aboutsomething that I know many of
you struggle with.
And that's the feeling of eitherbeing behind or falling behind.
So I am on social media as youguys know, because I have an
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online business, but I am not ascroller.
I do not see anything onFacebook.
I don't scroll.
I watch people's stories, myclients, my friends, people I
know.
But I'm just like, I just, I'mnot falling into the comparison
trap.
And I've even been known to givemy clients like a cutoff, like a
no social media scrolling forlike three weeks.
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Because maybe you see someone onsocial media who just ran a
marathon or lost 20 pounds.
And then a moment ago, you werehaving no kind of thought about
yourself and then you're havingthe thought that you're not
doing enough because you aren'tdoing both of those things.
Maybe you're thinking, why is itso easy for her and not easy for
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me?
First of all, What you see onsocial media is a highlight
reel.
I know we know this, but weforget, we forget.
you're looking at all thesedifferent people, putting them
all together and then thinkingthat you're not doing all of
these things, which no singleperson is doing.
Everyone's not doing something.
People rarely post theirstruggles, their setbacks, and
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the days they wanted to quit.
It's more common forinfluencers, people are getting
honest now and sharing theirstruggles.
But let's be honest, yourfriends, your colleagues, the
people that you know on a dailybasis are mostly not.
Because it's scary.
And it's not their job, so whyshould they?
They're probably just postingtheir kids birthday parties,
when their house looks clean,when they have makeup on, and
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the workout that they actuallydid do.
They're not posting all theworkouts they didn't do.
the spider on the floor oranything else, right?
So keep your eyes on your ownpage because what they are or
are not doing has literallynothing to do with you.
Secondly, there is no behind.
You are always exactly where youneed to be.
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And if you don't like where youare, that's cool.
You can change it.
But You probably needed to behere to feel uncomfortable so
that you would move.
Your pace is your pace and youcan have goals, you can have
places that you want to go, butyou are exactly where you need
to be right now until you'reready to move forward.
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I think you're usually ready,but sometimes we're not.
Sometimes we're not.
Scarcity will tell you there'snot enough time.
There's not enough money.
There's not enough progress.
There's not enough success to goaround.
If she's already started it andshe's lost 20 pounds and I
haven't, I'm behind.
What's the point?
But abundance says you have allthe time you need to succeed.
I am all about this.
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I'm always just like, there'salways enough.
There's always enough ofeverything to go around.
There's no point in believingthat there is not.
I have more than enough time todo all the things I want to do.
We can't change time anyway.
It's just happening.
It's ticking.
Regardless of what we're doing,there's always enough money.
I can always just get moremoney.
There's always enough love.
There's always enough likefriendship to go around.
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I'm not going to gatekeep orwithhold when you adopt that
belief.
That there is always enough, youstop racing, you stop comparing
and you start actually enjoyingthe process because you start
stepping into an embodying whatyou do want, where you do want
to go.
I want to leave you withsomething powerful, something
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that will help you to shift outof urgency and into
significance.
I want you to ask yourself this.
If I knew 100 percent confidentI would reach my goal in exactly
one year, how would I approachit today?
Would you panic over missing aworkout?
Would you feel like you neededto overhaul your whole diet in
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one week?
Would you still rush thisprocess?
Or would you focus on buildinghabits you can actually sustain?
The truth is, when you see thebig picture, when you look at
that long runway, everythingshifts.
So, my challenge for you todayis this.
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Slow down to speed up.
Pick one habit that you cancommit to for the next Month.
It's the end of February.
Let's do it for March.
Not out of urgency, but becauseit is important and significant
to your long term success Okay?
All right, friend, that is itfor today's episode.
I really hope this helped toshift your mindset around
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success and what it means tomove at a sustainable pace.
Please remember you are notbehind.
You are exactly where you needto be.
And if this episode resonatedwith you, I would so love for
you to leave us a five starreview and to share it with a
friend who needs to hear this.
I know women need to hear this.
And if you're ready to go evendeeper to build strength, to
feel confident, to achievelasting fat loss without the
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stress, I would love for you tocheck out muscles and mindset.
The link is in the show noteshere.
Inside Muscles and Mindset, wecreate a customized fitness and
mindset journey that works foryou, not against you.
There's no falling behind.
You can find the details in theshow notes, or you can send me a
message on Instagram at@annejonesfit.
I would love to connect with youuntil next time.
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Keep moving, stay strong and bekind to yourself.
I love you.
Mean it.
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