August 18, 2025 • 19 mins
We explore the invisible load that women carry and how to honor ourselves by embracing our authentic selves rather than trying to be all things to all people.
• Women's brains are wired differently, making us more perceptive of emotions and creating additional mental load
• The female nervous system tends toward people-pleasing (fawn) or freeze responses
• Decision fatigue and mental clutter prevent us from becoming the women we're meant to be
• Getting "a case of the f*ck-its" means honoring yourself rather than following "shoulds"
• Envisioning the woman you want to be helps guide aligned action
• Doing less but more of what matters creates space for what's truly important
• Honoring your cyclical nature and nervous system state is essential for self-care
• The most powerful version of you has clarity around what truly matters
Send me a message on Instagram @the_nourished_woman or visit kerimarino.com if this episode resonated with you.
If you're looking for deeper support, mentorship, or a space to feel held, I'd love to have you join us inside the Nourished Woman Sanctuary.
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Speaker 1 (00:12):
Welcome to the Nourished Woman Podcast, a space
for women on a growth andhealing journey who are ready to
live more joyfully and feeldeeply at home within themselves
, body, mind and spirit.
I'm Keri Marino, your host,somatic yoga therapist, mentor
and mama of three.
Let's dive in.
(00:33):
The invisible load that womencarry is intense y'all.
It doesn't matter what stage oflife you're in, whether you are
a mother of adult children orteenage children or young
(00:54):
children, or maybe you're not amother at all.
You're just a woman simplymoving through the world.
There is so much that we areholding.
Our brains are literally wireddifferently from the male-bodied
people walking around thisplanet.
There are different societalnorms and cultural things that
(01:16):
we are all influenced bysubconsciously.
Day in and day out, our nervoussystems are wired differently,
and that's not to mention all ofthe different decisions that we
are faced all day long.
The modern woman is constantly,constantly having to make one
decision or another.
(01:37):
Do I pick up my phone right nowor not?
Do I eat that thing or this?
What do I do with that messagethat I just heard on the radio?
Eat that thing or this?
What do I do with that messagethat I just heard on the radio.
How much do I engage with thenews.
How does that make me feel?
What do I see in the eyes ofthe person around me?
Oh, my kid has that thingcoming up in three weeks and I
need to start preparing for that.
These are just examples of afew of the different decisions
(02:00):
that we have going on.
A few of the differentdecisions that we have going on.
We have so much mind chatter aswell, so much nervous system
feedback that we are gettingbecause, as women, we are
hardwired to be more perceptiveof our own emotions and the
emotions of people around us.
That nurturing instinct isstrong, but also, let's be
(02:23):
honest, our desire to keepourselves safe and protected as
we move through the world isstrong, and so I want to just
acknowledge with you how much ofan invisible load you and I and
every woman you know iscarrying, and how real that is.
How real that is.
(02:49):
The other day, I bought acleaning schedule off of Etsy
and it literally breaks downlike okay, it's this day of the
week, I am going to mop thefloors in my kitchen today.
Okay, it's that day, it's timeto empty the trash in all of the
bathrooms.
And I tell you what like.
I downloaded this cleaningschedule and purchased it
because I wanted to make oneless decision and I wanted to
(03:10):
have one less piece of invisibleload swirling in my mind around
when I need to do what, and allof the managing that I do day
in and day out as a mother tothree children and a wife and a
business owner, day in and dayout, as a mother to three
children and a wife and abusiness owner.
And so I want you to know thatI see you and I also know that
(03:34):
people pleasing runs deep for alot of us.
In fact, the female nervoussystem kind of wires more
towards fawn, which is thatpeople pleasing place or freeze,
even more so sometimes thanfight or flight.
And so when we're in peoplepleasing mode, oftentimes
without you even knowing it, youare subconsciously trying to be
all things to all people, anddiscernment is so important
(03:56):
around this.
How do I want to show up in mylife, how do I want to be for me
, and then how do I want to showup for other people?
And this discernment issometimes really hard to access
because our energy is beingpoured out into so many other
(04:17):
places all of the time and weget into these sort of habits of
doing things, and you'll knowyou're at a time where this
podcast is totally for you ifyou see yourself really pouring
out into all these other thingsbut also noticing yourself doing
some habits that don't feelaligned Like.
(04:39):
For me, one of my tells issnacking when I'm not hungry.
It's like okay, carrie, what'sgoing on?
My love, your body is tellingyou it's not hungry and yet you
are reaching for a snack.
And so, having this awarenessof yourself and this inner
acknowledgement of, oh, mygoodness, love, I am carrying so
much, and a lot of the weightthat I'm carrying is actually
(05:01):
invisible and there's so muchmental clutter and I am having
decision fatigue and I'm tryingto be too, and there's so much
mental clutter and I am havingdecision fatigue and I'm trying
to be too many things for toomany people.
It's a really good time for youto say all right, it's time to
get a case of the fuck-its.
And I do not mean theself-destructive fuck-its, I
(05:21):
mean the self-honoring,self-nurturing, real, honest
conversations with yourselfabout how you are living.
Is your energy scattered?
Is the way that you are showingup in your life leading you to
be the woman that you came hereto be or not, and this is a
(05:46):
really important place for youto remind yourself that you can
go to not just moving throughthe day, not just pouring your
energy out and thinking that youshould.
One of my therapists one timetold me that shoulding is one of
the worst things that we can doto ourselves.
So instead of we should do allthese things.
(06:08):
What kind of woman do I want tobe?
And let's play with this for amoment together.
All of you have a vision of whatyou want for yourself, the kind
of woman that you want to be,the kind of way that you want to
live even more authentically,the kind of lifestyle that
(06:31):
really feels in alignment foryou.
You have these sort of soullongings, these deeply resourced
desires that live inside of you, and they're not the ones that
society has told you you shouldhave.
They're the ones that intuitionand inner knowing and your body
tells you yum, this is thestuff that I want for you and
(06:54):
for some of you.
That might be more ease in theway that you move through your
days.
It might be feeling morecomfortable in your body in a
soft, natural way.
It might be having more freedomwith money.
It might be having deepenedrelationships with other people,
your partner, a potentialpartner that you want to have,
(07:17):
your children, whatever it is.
You have these soul longings ofwhat you know, that your most
radiantly expressed, nourished,resourced self desires, and I
want you to think about her fora moment, that woman that you
are here to be.
How would she manage her time?
(07:39):
How would she move?
How would she dress herself?
What would she eat?
What would she say no to?
What does she move through theday, holding in her inner
knowing as a guiding force thatpropels her forward?
(08:03):
Because it's very likely thatthat version of you is not
trying to be all things to allpeople.
She is not shooting herselfthrough the day.
She is not shooting herselfthrough the day.
She is moving intentionally.
She is managing her energy anddirecting it purposefully into
(08:23):
what is in alignment and thenpracticing discernment around
what is not this version of you.
She moves effortlessly andintentionally.
She moves effortlessly andintentionally.
She is focused on what she iscreating and she is putting her
time, energy and effort behindthat.
(08:43):
She is not writing it on herto-do list and then writing it
on the to-do list the next dayand for three months and
ignoring it.
She is actually showing up andcultivating it through energy,
through effort, through time andthrough decision and all these
other things, these invisibleload things, this mental chatter
(09:04):
, this decision fatigue.
If you let them, they will getin the way of you being able to
embody that version of you.
And if you are in that placemaybe you've been in that place
for a while where all thosethings are getting in the way.
We are not judging that part ofyou, we are not bashing that
(09:27):
part of you.
We are simply picking that partof you up and saying boop time
for a new decision, boop timefor a new way of doing this.
Come over here with me now.
Let's look at this differently.
Let's show up differently,let's manage our time
differently.
Let's take a little less offour plate.
Let's literally do less so thatwe can do the things that are
(09:51):
actually more important to us.
One of my past clients.
She came to me and she sharedwith me oh my gosh, carrie, when
I signed up to do yoga with you, I thought that it was just
going to be one more thing on mylist and what she realized was
that this was actually the thingthat gave her more clarity and
(10:12):
gave her more aligned action andgave her more presence.
She thought that it was goingto be one more thing on her
to-do list that she had toschedule and structure and make
decisions around and make timefor, but what it actually did
was give her more.
It gave her more access to thatversion of you and to that
version of her that is showingup more clear, more aligned,
(10:37):
more self-directed, more guidedfrom that inner knowing and that
is so powerful.
Because this is what you'rehere to channel and this is
where your power lies and thisis where your gifts are meant to
pour out of you and through youand flow out into the world and
bless others.
(10:58):
And these are the women that weneed leading us, these are the
women that we need holding spacefor us.
These are the mothers that weneed.
Are these deeply resourcedwomen?
And that version of you?
She's not waiting, you'rewaiting.
So how do you get on board withher?
How do you look at that?
(11:18):
How do you make actions, moves,follow through that actually
come from that place, and notjust because you think you
should, but because deep in yourbones, all the way down into
your soul, you feel that calland you move towards that call
because you know that it ismeant for you, and you are
(11:39):
stepping yourself each daytowards that, not from a place
of judgment or shame, but from aplace of love.
And, following that innerknowing, it is a powerful force.
Kate Northrup wrote a bookcalled Do Less and I want to
share a quote with you from thatbook called Do Less, and I want
to share a quote with you fromthat.
And it says when you do less,you have more energy, time and
(12:02):
enthusiasm for the things thatmatter most to you.
When you do less, it doesn'tmean you do nothing, you simply
do less, but more of whatmatters.
And so I want to ask you whatcan you do less of in order to
do more of what matters to you?
(12:24):
And this may require yougetting a little creative, which
some of us are more naturallyinclined to than others.
But this is your invitation, mylove to get creative, and it
might come in the form of buyinga cleaning schedule and it
might be doing some meal prep.
(12:44):
And it might be doing some mealprep and it might be hiring
some help and it might be sayingno to that thing, whether it be
like an emotional no, likeabsolutely not going to take
that on.
That's my child's thing tofigure out.
Or it might be how you say yesto yourself.
All right, I keep tellingmyself I'm going to do my yoga
(13:05):
practice, but then another daypasses and I don't do it.
And I know that version of me,that woman I came here to be.
She is committed to doing heryoga practice more regularly and
so I am going to actually geton my mat and I'm going to say
yes to that.
And the dishes can wait, andthat text can wait, and that
phone call that I need to maketo the company who's going to
(13:27):
help me with my roof, it canwait.
It can all wait, because thevision of me that is here to be
channeled and owned and movedthrough life with she does this.
This is really important.
We live in a very masculinesociety, a society that wants us
(13:48):
to constantly have the sameoutput, but as women, we are
very different.
We move through a cycle eachmonth where our output is going
to be different.
When you're on your menstrualcycle, you're going to naturally
be drawn in and do less.
It's not a great time to beperforming at a high level.
You need to be resting more.
(14:09):
It is a time of letting go.
It is a time of reevaluatingand resting.
There are other parts of ourcycle where we are naturally
going to have a higher output.
We're going to have more togive, we're going to have more
energy, we're going to be moremagnetic, we're going to be
doing more things.
And this cyclical living, thisway of honoring our female way
(14:31):
of moving through the world, isnot just a conversation that you
have with yourself once right,like this sort of.
I'm going to let myself do lessso that I can do more.
I'm going to step fully intothe woman that I came here to be
.
She's going to changethroughout the month love, so
let that be part of theself-honoring work too.
(14:52):
Sometimes a case of thefuck-its is like I'm going to
stay up late and do the thingthat I know I need to do because
I want to get it done and I'vegot the energy to do it right
now.
And sometimes that healthy caseof the fuck it's is oh my gosh,
I'm going to slash five ofthose things off of my to-do
list today and I'm going to restinstead.
(15:13):
Maybe I'm going to roll out mymat and do restorative yoga
instead of pushing myself to doa more physically demanding
practice.
Honor the cycles that you'removing through and also it's
good to take in mind the stateof your nervous system.
What is your nervous systemtelling you?
Are you in a fight or flightmode?
(15:34):
Do you feel yourself more in afun or people pleasing mode?
What's going on there?
And then, how do you honoryourself?
How do you show up in thatreally aligned way, based on
what's going on cyclically foryou and then also your nervous
system, because these are reallygreat monitors of how you check
in with yourself?
(15:55):
I know if you're like me and alot of the women in my practice,
you like to have some structure.
Okay, I'm in this part of mycycle.
I'm going to do less during thatpart.
I'm going to intentionally doless during that part.
Okay, I'm in this part of mycycle.
I'm going to do less during thatpart.
I'm going to intentionally doless during that part.
Okay, I'm in that part of mycycle I'm going to do more.
Oh, when I'm in more of a fawnstate, I am going to know that
when I'm in fawn or freeze, Ireally need to do some
(16:19):
self-nurturing things.
I need to pay attention to whatis going on with me.
What am I feeling?
What do I need?
What do I want?
How can I take loving care ofmyself in this moment when I'm
in more of a fight or flightstate?
Okay, I'm going to beexternally oriented.
I'm going to be havingheightened level of stress
(16:40):
responses, I'm going to feelmore reactive.
So, again, how can I be moreaware of that as I move through
the day?
How can I manage my energy?
By knowing that I'm going to bemore reactive and so, when I
feel myself reacting, I canwitness that and choose whether
or not I want to follow the leadof that or just look at it for
(17:01):
information and have someself-nurturing and understanding
and do some things that aregoing to help my nervous system
channel that energy that it'smobilized and find a state that
feels more regulated andbalanced.
So I want you to know that it'snot just rolling out your
journal and being like, okay,how does the version of me that
I am here to live as and fullyembody and channel, how does she
(17:26):
eat and move and sleep andbreathe and show up and dress,
and how does she feel as shemoves through the day?
That's a really important partand I want you to have so much
fun toying with that idea.
But I also want you to thinkabout your energy in terms of
your cycle and then where yournervous system is.
Energy in terms of your cycleand then where your nervous
(17:49):
system is, and if this issomething that is inspiring for
you, maybe after this podcastepisode you journal about a
little bit and you start to seelike, okay, what's coming up for
me as I listen to this and makesome room for these ideas.
It is really important for youto know that the most powerful
version of you, she, has moreclarity around this, and I say
(18:11):
that as like a gentle bit ofwind underneath your wings,
something to light you up andinspire you to ask yourself what
can I let go of?
What matters to me most, andhow am I going to show up today
from that lit up from the insideout, deeply rooted resource
self who is in love with herlife and herself
(18:34):
unapologetically?
How am I going to show up inthe next five minutes for myself
in that way, and how am I goingto show up for myself when I'm
cooking dinner later in that way?
(18:58):
If this episode resonated withyou.
I'd love to hear about it.
Send me a message on Instagram,at the Nourished Woman or on my
website, kerrymarinocom, and ifyou're looking for deeper
support, mentorship or a spaceto feel held, I'd love to have
you join us inside the NourishedWoman Sanctuary.
The beautiful music that you'rehearing is from Shawn Johnson
(19:21):
and the Wild Lotus Band, and youcan find them on all streaming
platforms.
Welcome to the Nourished Woman Podcast, a space
for women on a growth andhealing journey who are ready to
live more joyfully and feeldeeply at home within themselves
, body, mind and spirit.
I'm Keri Marino, your host,somatic yoga therapist, mentor
and mama of three.
Let's dive in.
(00:33):
The invisible load that womencarry is intense y'all.
It doesn't matter what stage oflife you're in, whether you are
a mother of adult children orteenage children or young
(00:54):
children, or maybe you're not amother at all.
You're just a woman simplymoving through the world.
There is so much that we areholding.
Our brains are literally wireddifferently from the male-bodied
people walking around thisplanet.
There are different societalnorms and cultural things that
(01:16):
we are all influenced bysubconsciously.
Day in and day out, our nervoussystems are wired differently,
and that's not to mention all ofthe different decisions that we
are faced all day long.
The modern woman is constantly,constantly having to make one
decision or another.
(01:37):
Do I pick up my phone right nowor not?
Do I eat that thing or this?
What do I do with that messagethat I just heard on the radio?
Eat that thing or this?
What do I do with that messagethat I just heard on the radio.
How much do I engage with thenews.
How does that make me feel?
What do I see in the eyes ofthe person around me?
Oh, my kid has that thingcoming up in three weeks and I
need to start preparing for that.
These are just examples of afew of the different decisions
(02:00):
that we have going on.
A few of the differentdecisions that we have going on.
We have so much mind chatter aswell, so much nervous system
feedback that we are gettingbecause, as women, we are
hardwired to be more perceptiveof our own emotions and the
emotions of people around us.
That nurturing instinct isstrong, but also, let's be
(02:23):
honest, our desire to keepourselves safe and protected as
we move through the world isstrong, and so I want to just
acknowledge with you how much ofan invisible load you and I and
every woman you know iscarrying, and how real that is.
How real that is.
(02:49):
The other day, I bought acleaning schedule off of Etsy
and it literally breaks downlike okay, it's this day of the
week, I am going to mop thefloors in my kitchen today.
Okay, it's that day, it's timeto empty the trash in all of the
bathrooms.
And I tell you what like.
I downloaded this cleaningschedule and purchased it
because I wanted to make oneless decision and I wanted to
(03:10):
have one less piece of invisibleload swirling in my mind around
when I need to do what, and allof the managing that I do day
in and day out as a mother tothree children and a wife and a
business owner, day in and dayout, as a mother to three
children and a wife and abusiness owner.
And so I want you to know thatI see you and I also know that
(03:34):
people pleasing runs deep for alot of us.
In fact, the female nervoussystem kind of wires more
towards fawn, which is thatpeople pleasing place or freeze,
even more so sometimes thanfight or flight.
And so when we're in peoplepleasing mode, oftentimes
without you even knowing it, youare subconsciously trying to be
all things to all people, anddiscernment is so important
(03:56):
around this.
How do I want to show up in mylife, how do I want to be for me
, and then how do I want to showup for other people?
And this discernment issometimes really hard to access
because our energy is beingpoured out into so many other
(04:17):
places all of the time and weget into these sort of habits of
doing things, and you'll knowyou're at a time where this
podcast is totally for you ifyou see yourself really pouring
out into all these other thingsbut also noticing yourself doing
some habits that don't feelaligned Like.
(04:39):
For me, one of my tells issnacking when I'm not hungry.
It's like okay, carrie, what'sgoing on?
My love, your body is tellingyou it's not hungry and yet you
are reaching for a snack.
And so, having this awarenessof yourself and this inner
acknowledgement of, oh, mygoodness, love, I am carrying so
much, and a lot of the weightthat I'm carrying is actually
(05:01):
invisible and there's so muchmental clutter and I am having
decision fatigue and I'm tryingto be too, and there's so much
mental clutter and I am havingdecision fatigue and I'm trying
to be too many things for toomany people.
It's a really good time for youto say all right, it's time to
get a case of the fuck-its.
And I do not mean theself-destructive fuck-its, I
(05:21):
mean the self-honoring,self-nurturing, real, honest
conversations with yourselfabout how you are living.
Is your energy scattered?
Is the way that you are showingup in your life leading you to
be the woman that you came hereto be or not, and this is a
(05:46):
really important place for youto remind yourself that you can
go to not just moving throughthe day, not just pouring your
energy out and thinking that youshould.
One of my therapists one timetold me that shoulding is one of
the worst things that we can doto ourselves.
So instead of we should do allthese things.
(06:08):
What kind of woman do I want tobe?
And let's play with this for amoment together.
All of you have a vision of whatyou want for yourself, the kind
of woman that you want to be,the kind of way that you want to
live even more authentically,the kind of lifestyle that
(06:31):
really feels in alignment foryou.
You have these sort of soullongings, these deeply resourced
desires that live inside of you, and they're not the ones that
society has told you you shouldhave.
They're the ones that intuitionand inner knowing and your body
tells you yum, this is thestuff that I want for you and
(06:54):
for some of you.
That might be more ease in theway that you move through your
days.
It might be feeling morecomfortable in your body in a
soft, natural way.
It might be having more freedomwith money.
It might be having deepenedrelationships with other people,
your partner, a potentialpartner that you want to have,
(07:17):
your children, whatever it is.
You have these soul longings ofwhat you know, that your most
radiantly expressed, nourished,resourced self desires, and I
want you to think about her fora moment, that woman that you
are here to be.
How would she manage her time?
(07:39):
How would she move?
How would she dress herself?
What would she eat?
What would she say no to?
What does she move through theday, holding in her inner
knowing as a guiding force thatpropels her forward?
(08:03):
Because it's very likely thatthat version of you is not
trying to be all things to allpeople.
She is not shooting herselfthrough the day.
She is not shooting herselfthrough the day.
She is moving intentionally.
She is managing her energy anddirecting it purposefully into
(08:23):
what is in alignment and thenpracticing discernment around
what is not this version of you.
She moves effortlessly andintentionally.
She moves effortlessly andintentionally.
She is focused on what she iscreating and she is putting her
time, energy and effort behindthat.
(08:43):
She is not writing it on herto-do list and then writing it
on the to-do list the next dayand for three months and
ignoring it.
She is actually showing up andcultivating it through energy,
through effort, through time andthrough decision and all these
other things, these invisibleload things, this mental chatter
(09:04):
, this decision fatigue.
If you let them, they will getin the way of you being able to
embody that version of you.
And if you are in that placemaybe you've been in that place
for a while where all thosethings are getting in the way.
We are not judging that part ofyou, we are not bashing that
(09:27):
part of you.
We are simply picking that partof you up and saying boop time
for a new decision, boop timefor a new way of doing this.
Come over here with me now.
Let's look at this differently.
Let's show up differently,let's manage our time
differently.
Let's take a little less offour plate.
Let's literally do less so thatwe can do the things that are
(09:51):
actually more important to us.
One of my past clients.
She came to me and she sharedwith me oh my gosh, carrie, when
I signed up to do yoga with you, I thought that it was just
going to be one more thing on mylist and what she realized was
that this was actually the thingthat gave her more clarity and
(10:12):
gave her more aligned action andgave her more presence.
She thought that it was goingto be one more thing on her
to-do list that she had toschedule and structure and make
decisions around and make timefor, but what it actually did
was give her more.
It gave her more access to thatversion of you and to that
version of her that is showingup more clear, more aligned,
(10:37):
more self-directed, more guidedfrom that inner knowing and that
is so powerful.
Because this is what you'rehere to channel and this is
where your power lies and thisis where your gifts are meant to
pour out of you and through youand flow out into the world and
bless others.
(10:58):
And these are the women that weneed leading us, these are the
women that we need holding spacefor us.
These are the mothers that weneed.
Are these deeply resourcedwomen?
And that version of you?
She's not waiting, you'rewaiting.
So how do you get on board withher?
How do you look at that?
(11:18):
How do you make actions, moves,follow through that actually
come from that place, and notjust because you think you
should, but because deep in yourbones, all the way down into
your soul, you feel that calland you move towards that call
because you know that it ismeant for you, and you are
(11:39):
stepping yourself each daytowards that, not from a place
of judgment or shame, but from aplace of love.
And, following that innerknowing, it is a powerful force.
Kate Northrup wrote a bookcalled Do Less and I want to
share a quote with you from thatbook called Do Less, and I want
to share a quote with you fromthat.
And it says when you do less,you have more energy, time and
(12:02):
enthusiasm for the things thatmatter most to you.
When you do less, it doesn'tmean you do nothing, you simply
do less, but more of whatmatters.
And so I want to ask you whatcan you do less of in order to
do more of what matters to you?
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And this may require yougetting a little creative, which
some of us are more naturallyinclined to than others.
But this is your invitation, mylove to get creative, and it
might come in the form of buyinga cleaning schedule and it
might be doing some meal prep.
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And it might be doing some mealprep and it might be hiring
some help and it might be sayingno to that thing, whether it be
like an emotional no, likeabsolutely not going to take
that on.
That's my child's thing tofigure out.
Or it might be how you say yesto yourself.
All right, I keep tellingmyself I'm going to do my yoga
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practice, but then another daypasses and I don't do it.
And I know that version of me,that woman I came here to be.
She is committed to doing heryoga practice more regularly and
so I am going to actually geton my mat and I'm going to say
yes to that.
And the dishes can wait, andthat text can wait, and that
phone call that I need to maketo the company who's going to
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help me with my roof, it canwait.
It can all wait, because thevision of me that is here to be
channeled and owned and movedthrough life with she does this.
This is really important.
We live in a very masculinesociety, a society that wants us
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to constantly have the sameoutput, but as women, we are
very different.
We move through a cycle eachmonth where our output is going
to be different.
When you're on your menstrualcycle, you're going to naturally
be drawn in and do less.
It's not a great time to beperforming at a high level.
You need to be resting more.
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It is a time of letting go.
It is a time of reevaluatingand resting.
There are other parts of ourcycle where we are naturally
going to have a higher output.
We're going to have more togive, we're going to have more
energy, we're going to be moremagnetic, we're going to be
doing more things.
And this cyclical living, thisway of honoring our female way
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of moving through the world, isnot just a conversation that you
have with yourself once right,like this sort of.
I'm going to let myself do lessso that I can do more.
I'm going to step fully intothe woman that I came here to be
.
She's going to changethroughout the month love, so
let that be part of theself-honoring work too.
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Sometimes a case of thefuck-its is like I'm going to
stay up late and do the thingthat I know I need to do because
I want to get it done and I'vegot the energy to do it right
now.
And sometimes that healthy caseof the fuck it's is oh my gosh,
I'm going to slash five ofthose things off of my to-do
list today and I'm going to restinstead.
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Maybe I'm going to roll out mymat and do restorative yoga
instead of pushing myself to doa more physically demanding
practice.
Honor the cycles that you'removing through and also it's
good to take in mind the stateof your nervous system.
What is your nervous systemtelling you?
Are you in a fight or flightmode?
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Do you feel yourself more in afun or people pleasing mode?
What's going on there?
And then, how do you honoryourself?
How do you show up in thatreally aligned way, based on
what's going on cyclically foryou and then also your nervous
system, because these are reallygreat monitors of how you check
in with yourself?
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I know if you're like me and alot of the women in my practice,
you like to have some structure.
Okay, I'm in this part of mycycle.
I'm going to do less during thatpart.
I'm going to intentionally doless during that part.
Okay, I'm in this part of mycycle.
I'm going to do less during thatpart.
I'm going to intentionally doless during that part.
Okay, I'm in that part of mycycle I'm going to do more.
Oh, when I'm in more of a fawnstate, I am going to know that
when I'm in fawn or freeze, Ireally need to do some
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self-nurturing things.
I need to pay attention to whatis going on with me.
What am I feeling?
What do I need?
What do I want?
How can I take loving care ofmyself in this moment when I'm
in more of a fight or flightstate?
Okay, I'm going to beexternally oriented.
I'm going to be havingheightened level of stress
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responses, I'm going to feelmore reactive.
So, again, how can I be moreaware of that as I move through
the day?
How can I manage my energy?
By knowing that I'm going to bemore reactive and so, when I
feel myself reacting, I canwitness that and choose whether
or not I want to follow the leadof that or just look at it for
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information and have someself-nurturing and understanding
and do some things that aregoing to help my nervous system
channel that energy that it'smobilized and find a state that
feels more regulated andbalanced.
So I want you to know that it'snot just rolling out your
journal and being like, okay,how does the version of me that
I am here to live as and fullyembody and channel, how does she
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eat and move and sleep andbreathe and show up and dress,
and how does she feel as shemoves through the day?
That's a really important partand I want you to have so much
fun toying with that idea.
But I also want you to thinkabout your energy in terms of
your cycle and then where yournervous system is.
Energy in terms of your cycleand then where your nervous
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system is, and if this issomething that is inspiring for
you, maybe after this podcastepisode you journal about a
little bit and you start to seelike, okay, what's coming up for
me as I listen to this and makesome room for these ideas.
It is really important for youto know that the most powerful
version of you, she, has moreclarity around this, and I say
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that as like a gentle bit ofwind underneath your wings,
something to light you up andinspire you to ask yourself what
can I let go of?
What matters to me most, andhow am I going to show up today
from that lit up from the insideout, deeply rooted resource
self who is in love with herlife and herself
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unapologetically?
How am I going to show up inthe next five minutes for myself
in that way, and how am I goingto show up for myself when I'm
cooking dinner later in that way?
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If this episode resonated withyou.
I'd love to hear about it.
Send me a message on Instagram,at the Nourished Woman or on my
website, kerrymarinocom, and ifyou're looking for deeper
support, mentorship or a spaceto feel held, I'd love to have
you join us inside the NourishedWoman Sanctuary.
The beautiful music that you'rehearing is from Shawn Johnson
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