June 5, 2025 • 21 mins
Are you drowning in the constant hustle of motherhood while trying to build a business? That's not the life Jesus has invited you to live.
Ashley Perry Lambett, Christian lifestyle strategist and founder of the Prioritized Women Collective, brings a refreshing perspective on what it truly means to thrive as an ambitious mom. Having walked through her own journey of postpartum depletion, identity loss, and burnout while raising two young children, Ashley shares the transformative practices that helped her rediscover her purpose without compromising her values, health, or family.
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The conversation begins with a powerful reminder to start with stillness—sitting in silence with God before reaching for your phone or tackling your endless to-do list. Even five minutes of asking "Lord, where do you want me in this season?" can completely shift your perspective. Ashley then unpacks the divine order of priorities that many high-achieving moms overlook: God first, yourself second (yes, yourself!), your spouse third, followed by children, and then business or ministry.
For women accustomed to putting themselves last, this hierarchy feels revolutionary. But as Ashley explains through her river metaphor, water must flow into the river before it can nourish everything around it. Similarly, you must be filled before you can effectively pour into others. This isn't selfish—it's essential for sustainable motherhood and business growth.
Perhaps most liberating is Ashley's reminder that your current constraints are temporary: "You can do everything, just not at the same time." By focusing on the one or two priorities God has highlighted for this season and letting go of the rest (for now), you can break free from burnout and find deep fulfillment in His divine order.
Ready to rediscover who you are in Christ without compromising what matters most? Take Ashley's Overflow Quiz to identify your biggest struggle and receive personalized resources to help you reconnect with God's purpose for your life.
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
hustling in motherhood is wrecking your
calling.
So the question is what doesgod really want for you?
Instead, if you've ever feltstuck, overwhelmed or like you
lost a piece of yourself sincebecoming a mom, you are not
alone.
The world tells us to hustleharder, do more and all and
chase all the things, but thatis not the life that Jesus is
(00:26):
inviting you to.
I want to introduce my guesttoday, ashley Perry Lambett, and
she is a Christian lifestylestrategist and the founder of
the Prioritized Women Collective, a faith-based movement helping
high-achieving moms live inalignment with God's divine
order so they can thrive inmotherhood, marriage, health and
purpose.
(00:46):
As a wife and mom to two littlekings, ages two and four,
ashley knows firsthand what itfeels like to lose yourself in
the demands of motherhood whiletrying to juggle business,
wellness and faith.
After walking through her ownjourney of postpartum depletion,
identity loss and burnout, shemade it her mission to help
other ambitious Christian momsrediscover who they are in
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Christ, without compromisingtheir values, health or family.
Ashley, thank you so much forbeing here with us.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
I am so honored and so excited to be here with you
and your amazing community.
Thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
Yes, absolutely.
So you are right.
In line with what we're doingright, we are running businesses
, we are doing things, we arejuggling the mom life and all
the things we're doing itgrounded in Jesus, and that's
really the only way to make thiswork right.
So it's not a foreign idea tomost of us that this burnout,
this hustle, is like likedrowning us.
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So why do you think that thathappens?
Speaker 2 (01:47):
I think there's many reasons, so I'll touch on a few.
So I think for one, being ahigh achieving woman and just
being a go-getter we wanna be incontrol of everything, and so
sometimes it's easy for us tolike go ahead of God or think
we're supposed to be doing more,when God is saying actually
slow down and do less in thisseason and just be present with
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your babies.
I also think, just as a womanwho just wears so many different
hats, right, it's like we justget overwhelmed and we think we
cannot take a break because theneverything is going to just
implode and just be a hot mess.
But God called us in thisjourney for a reason.
He's put you here for a purposeand he's already equipped you.
(02:29):
So this like striving andhustling culture that we see
it's just not for us and that'snot what Jesus intended for us
as women in business and womenwho are raising families and the
next disciples.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
Yeah, absolutely.
I love that.
So I know that you coach women,you work with them.
So what do you tell someonewhen they first get to you,
right, and they are burnt out,they're struggling, they have
this business, they have theselittle people that require them
to keep them alive and they'rejust not sure what to do.
And what is there somethingthey can even let go of?
Like, what do you do with themwhen they first get there?
Speaker 2 (03:05):
Yes.
So, first and foremost, what wedo is I encourage them to just
sit with the Lord in silence.
So if that's five minutesbefore your kids wake up, if
that's while you'rebreastfeeding your baby,
whatever that looks like for youand just to ask him where do
you want me in this season, whatis my focus in this season?
And let him just minister toyour heart and see what he says.
If you have a journal, write itdown.
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But I think sitting instillness and just allowing him
to speak is something that's soforeign, especially having
littles and running a businessand doing a million different
things.
You're like, oh wait, sit insilence.
I haven't done that in a while.
Let's try that.
And normally the Lord, when youask him something, he's always
going to come through.
Maybe not in the way that youexpected, but he's going to give
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you some sort of answer for usto start moving in a direction
closer to him and his will foryour life in this season.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
Yeah, I love that.
That's very practical and sohard, like it doesn't sound
difficult.
I just went on this retreatwith my mastermind and we
literally sat in silence for twoand a half hours, like we just
like wandered off by ourselves.
And I was so excited about itCause I used to spend so much
time with the Lord, like bymyself, without, like you know,
people needing you and so.
But it was so beautiful and sopart of it was easy and then
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part of it got hard.
I was like what am I supposedto do now?
But you're right, like justbeing alone with Jesus will,
it'll just change everything,right, like that's that's so
good Silence and solitude, and Ilove that.
It's like not a cookie cutterthing.
I ask you what to do and you'relike go to the Lord.
That's the answer.
Man, that's the answer.
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I like it.
I like it, okay.
So how do you?
So here they are, okay, theyhave done this, they've gone to
the Lord, and they're likewondering what are some
practical steps that they cantake after they've sat in
silence with the Lord.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Yes.
So then we start getting moreinto alignment, like what are
your priorities?
And for a lot of women, ourpriorities are just all over the
place, like, first and foremost, I go by a divine alignment, so
it should be God first andforemost, and then it should be
yourself, and a lot of us forgetabout ourselves completely,
where it's just like the kidstake over everything.
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And so how do we bringourselves back to being a
priority?
Whether that looks like goingfor a five minute walk, whether
that looks like doing somestretches, whether that looks
like telling your husband I needsome more help.
Like what does that look likefor you in this season?
Because the Lord did not callus to just be like suffering and
in this survival mode.
That's not what he called us toin motherhood, and then, after
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you, it should be your hubby,right?
So a lot of women, we forgetcompletely about them.
When we have kids, it's like,oh, you're fine, I've got the
kiddos over here, and so justbringing some spark back into
that relationship.
Whether that's sitting andtalking with your spouse for
five minutes how was your day?
How are you?
I miss you, you know, I haven'tseen you and then we start
talking about our kiddos.
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And then we start talking aboutour business, our ministry and
all the other hats that we wear,but, like, let's get ourselves
back into the priority list.
What does that look like foryou?
Sitting, having coffee, meetinga friend?
Like, what does that look likefor you?
And then let's start makingsteps to do that, to start
refilling your cup as a woman,as a mom, as a wife, as a
business owner all of thosethings you have to pour into
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yourself in order to flow outinto everyone else.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
Yeah, absolutely, and I like what you said.
The divine order, that'sbeautiful, that's perfect, and
you can say that a lot of thingsare important to you, but if
you're not living them out, theyare not actually important to
you.
That's what I talk to myclients about.
It's like are we giving thesethings lip service or are we
really living them out?
Right?
So let's talk about so.
I like you're talking aboutmaking sure that you are, you
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know you're doing well, thatyou're being filled up, that you
have that intentional time,whatever that looks like in the
season, which changes dependingon how old your kids are and how
many kids you have or whatseason of life you're in with
your husband.
So, but I feel like guilt veryquickly becomes a problem here,
right, and?
But I feel like guilt veryquickly becomes a problem here,
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right, and so I know that you'veran into this.
So how do we make sure that weare doing the right things for
us in the season we're in, butthat we're not allowing guilt to
like steal that joy that weshould be getting from that?
Speaker 2 (07:18):
Yes.
So this is such a beautifulquestion because there's even
there's just like a lot of guiltwhether it's not spending
enough time with the Lord, notgoing to church every Sunday
like you used to before you hadkids, not spending enough time
with your husband, like notdoing everything that you think
perfectly for your kids, likethere's so many areas where
guilt starts to like fall uponus, and I think for a lot of
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women it's like.
So let's ask the Lord and let'ssee what his word says.
And so we go back to.
I like to explain it to women,like if you think of a river,
like water has to flow into thatriver in order for that water
to keep flowing, and that waterflows into all of the plants,
like the animals drink the waterand all of these things, things
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that you never even see, thatripple effect.
It has to come, being come from, being poured into.
And so when they think aboutthat, like okay, oh, yeah,
that's right.
Like you can't pour from anempty cup, so it doesn't have to
look like you're going off foran hour in the gym or whatever.
It doesn't have to look likethat.
It could be whatever feels goodto your heart in this season
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and, of course, take it to theLord, like your heart in this
season.
And of course, take it to theLord Like, do you feel like this
is what I should be doing?
And sometimes the Lord will giveyou the answer you don't want,
like, no, I don't want you doingthat in this season.
I want you to just be still andbe present and not start that
new business, not start that newventure, and so just being in
tune to like taking what youthink to the Lord is this an
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alignment for what you have inmy life?
And he will give you the answer.
I even think about myself.
After I had my first son.
It was like, all right, I'mready to go 110% in my business
and do all these things and gotalk and do a trial.
The Lord was like, if you don'tjust sit down in this season
and be present with your babybecause he's going to grow so
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fast, this time's going to go sofast, you're going to miss this
time and you're going to regretnot being present.
So just taking it to the Lordagain, letting him speak into
your heart and letting him giveyou the truthful answer, not
what you want to hear.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
That's beautiful.
I love that and I like that.
What you're talking about, it'slike God has given you this
gift but we're like so worriedabout all the other things that
we could be doing.
It's like, nah, man, just this,this is what I gave you.
Do the thing I said.
I really like that and I cantotally relate to that, because
my son's two and a half and Iwas ready to roll, like I wanted
to be with him.
I didn't.
I wanted to do the other thingsand even now sometimes I'm like
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have to make myself like no,this is not the time for those
things.
These are not the time forthose things.
So when you're talking aboutlike this alignment and making
sure that you and the Lord areon the same page and correct me
if I'm wrong, but I wouldimagine the next step would also
be talking to your spouse,right, if he's not on the same
page with you, then he can'tknow what you want, need what
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you need, and he can't help youget there Right.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
Exactly yes, like they, a lot of men, like they
just don't know what to do.
They don't know how to help you, like they see you, like
struggling, and like they don'tknow what to do.
And so, if you can sit down andtalk to them and even pray
together and just explain to himwhat you're going through, I
think about one of my clientswhere she was like she got
pregnant like immediately afterhaving her first baby, and she
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was like I had to go to him andbe like I love you, like thank
you for these beautiful gifts,but like I need you more, like I
need more help, and he had noidea because she didn't voice
that to him.
Like they're not mind readers,like as much as we want them to
be, you know, they're not mindreaders.
And a lot of times even I thinkabout myself when I'm praying
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like Lord, fix him, lord, dothis.
The Lord is like turn thatfinger to yourself, sister.
Like you need some work as well, like you need to change how
you're talking, how you'recommunicating.
And so I think it's sobeautiful when we can actually
turn that point to ourselves andbe like how can I be better?
Because then, in turn, that'sgoing to help him be better.
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That's going to help you bebetter as a unit.
So I think, just takingreflection too on yourself- can
be really helpful as well.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
Yeah, absolutely, I love that.
Psalm says like search me, ohGod, and know my heart, you know
.
It's like point out anything inme that offends you and lead me
along the path of righteousness, and so it's like are we
willing to pray that prayer?
Right, it's so easy to be likefix these other things, but it's
like show me what's ugly in me,Cause I know there's some stuff
in there, Right.
And so it's very I love thatlike self reflection, making
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sure that you are also you knowwhere you need to be.
Okay, so you have this growthmethod that you have talked
about a little bit, so can youtell us a little bit what that
looks like and what that means?
How does that help?
Speaker 2 (11:49):
Yes, so the growth method is basically the steps
that I take women through, andit includes your mind, body,
heart and soul.
So we start with alignment,figuring that out, what that
looks like for you in thisseason, and then start bringing
in the physical aspect as wellof your health, because it's one
thing to be praying and all ofthe things, but faith without
works is dead.
So if you're in a season whereyou're like I'm always tired or
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I'm not feeling my body properly, I'm not eating well, like we
have to take care of thosethings as well.
And so we bring that in to thisbeautiful growth method where
we not only talk about ourrelationship with the Lord but
we also start figuring out stepsto help us be better women,
mother, business owners and allof those things.
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And so I like to bring in thephysical aspect of movement and
that is such a beautiful form ofworship.
One of my favorite ways toworship the Lord is just to move
, go on a walk with him,literally.
Like we talked about silenceearlier, like if you go on like
a five, 10 minute walk inside,it's so hard at first because
you want to put your ear pods in, you want to listen to a sermon
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or a YouTube video or book,whatever, but he will just talk
to you in such a beautiful wayand give you encouragement that,
like you didn't even know youneeded, if you just allow him
that space.
And so I love to bring in allthe aspects of the woman, so her
physical, her emotional, herspiritual.
All of that makes up who we are, and so it's really important
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to me to make sure that we starttapping into all of those areas
to make us the strongestholistic woman as possible.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
That's wonderful, I love it.
That's perfect.
So I really like what you'retalking about, about when you're
going on walks not putting yourheadphones in.
I have been purposely doingthis and it is so helpful.
It's basically blocking out thenoise of the world, because how
much input are you allowing inyour life?
All of it can be really good,but if there's so much that
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you're never actually talking toChrist himself like there's a
problem, and so you got to givethat space to the Lord to be
able to talk to you.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
Yes, so good.
I saw a reel the other daywhere she was talking about that
.
She's like we're so quick to goto a YouTube video or a sermon
or this or that or whatever, andshe was like the first thing we
should do is just go to theLord Like ask him what does he
think about this situation?
What do you, what should I do?
Like go to him, first andforemost, not your friends, not
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your family.
Speaker 1 (14:18):
Go to him drop it at his feet, and so I love that.
You said that I can't agreemore.
Amen, awesome, okay, so how dowe break this burnout cycle?
Cause that is a thing that wesuffer with, especially as being
high achievers wanting to doall the things but like really
wanting to trust the Lord in allof our ways, right, so how do
we break that?
Speaker 2 (14:34):
cycle.
I think one huge way is just tofocus, like in this season,
what is most important to you inthis season and what do you
want to accomplish most in thisseason?
What do you feel the Lord iscalling to you to do right now?
Because we forget sometimesthat this is a season where your
kids are like so little andthey need you for absolutely
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everything.
We're like it's going to belike this forever and the Lord
is like this is such a small,precious window, like please
take advantage of it, be present.
And so, I think, focusing inbecause, as women, we like to do
so many different things, likewe have so many ideas and all of
these things, but it's likejust focus in on one thing, like
what's giving you joy, what'sallowing you to serve in this
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season in a way that stillfulfills you but doesn't take
you away from your family, yourhusband, all of those things.
I think focus is one way that wecan really get out of burnout
mode, because we don't have this.
I have to do everything andraise a baby, and if you're a
new mom, it's like I don't evenknow what I'm doing anyway, so
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I'm already like overwhelmed tothe hundredth power.
And so if we can just focus andremember that this is only a
season, it's not forever, it'sreally helpful with I can still
do this in six months to a year,two years, like ask the Lord,
what do you want me to do inthis season?
Give me one or two things tofocus on that are going to
fulfill me, and then moveforward in what he tells you to
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do.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
That is perfect.
Yeah, I love that Somebody.
I heard someone say you can doeverything, you just can't do it
at the same time, and I'm likethat's beautiful, that's perfect
, and giving yourself the graceto say, like not right now, but
it may be, I mean, it's notnever right.
Like your ideas are good.
God made you like the womenthat we're talking to.
(16:22):
I feel like I can really, youknow, understand them.
Yes, I have a million ideas,always something that
everything's a good idea and so,but, like, just write it down,
friend, write it down, it'llstill be there and you can do it
later.
Maybe, and maybe you'll evenhate that idea, cause there's a
lot of the ideas up here thatI'm like that was a dumb, but
that's okay.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
Um, but, yeah, it doesn't mean no, it just means
right now you know and he mayhave to prepare you.
Like I think about myself andwhere I started my business,
like in health and wellness.
The Lord has taken me on thislike journey that I had no idea
that it was in my future, butit's just refined me and made me
better in every area of life sothat I can be the leader that
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he's called me to be, the woman,the mom, the wife.
And so let him start to shredyou those, those lies that
you've believed your entire life, those things of the world that
you're idolizing Like.
It's a hard process, but you'regoing to be so much better on
the other side of it, Justletting him, just surrendering
everything to him and lettinghim make you new.
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It's, it's I, it'slife-changing.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
Yeah, I couldn't agree more.
I love that.
That's perfect.
So you have it.
Looks like you have threefaith-fueled mindset shifts to
overcome struggles.
Can you break those down for us?
Speaker 2 (17:42):
Yes.
So number one is going to bewhat we talked about earlier is
prayer, sitting in silence withthe Lord, first and foremost,
before you reach for your phonein the morning.
What I like to do is I like tojust open my eyes and say Lord,
I'm asking you to come intoevery part of my day, my actions
, my words, my thoughts, my work, everything.
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And then also I like to askwhat do you want me to focus on
today?
Like, what do you want my focusto be for today?
Sometimes he'll give me a word,he'll give me a scripture,
he'll tell me something and I'llbe like Ooh, yeah, I probably
do need to to work on that, butI think just, first and foremost
, like prayer and stillness.
And then number two what wealso talked about is similar is
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that focus right?
And that being present in themoment and just being thankful
and showing gratitude for whereyou are in this season?
That will change everything.
If you can just sit down andwrite three things that you're
thankful for, at the end of theday you will be like I am so
blessed.
Even if you don't feel like it,you're like I'm so blessed and
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I'm so thankful for what theLord has done and continues to
do in my life in this season.
And then I think number threejust being a high achiever is to
really just prioritize yourself.
Like don't get into this placewhere you are totally neglecting
every single need that you have, because it's only going to
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make everything else harder,because you're coming from a
place of complete destitute,Like you have nothing to give,
because you're giving toeveryone else.
So making sure that you'regetting yourself on that
priority list, whatever thatlooks like in your season,
whether that's asking for morehelp from family and friends,
your husband taking a nap,grabbing some coffee with a
friend like still prioritizingyou because the Lord still wants
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to do amazing things for you inthis season, even if it feels
very difficult.
Speaker 1 (19:34):
That's beautiful, that's wonderful.
Okay, so tell everybody aboutthe quiz that you're offering.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
So it's an overflow quiz, so it's really to help
women see where they arestruggling with the most and
where the Lord wants to speakinto your life the most in this
season.
And once you take this quiz,it's going to give you tools and
resources to help you startconnecting more with the Lord in
the area that he's chosen,whether it's your physical, your
mental, your emotional, yourspiritual, your motherhood, your
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relationship with your husband,like.
It will give you tools to startreconnecting and restoring that
area of your life.
And it's just, it's a short,quick quiz, but the resources
are so good and they're sohelpful.
If you feel like you aredrowning like this, this quiz is
for you.
He wants to restore you.
Speaker 1 (20:19):
That's amazing, all right, awesome, and so that will
be linked in the description ofthis.
So definitely check that out.
And then, if you had one lastpiece of advice for the
Christian mompreneur who's justsitting here listening right now
, what would you tell her?
Speaker 2 (20:37):
I would tell her that you are beautifully and
wonderfully made and even inthis season of motherhood.
If you don't feel that way, oryou feel like you've lost
yourself in this season, or youfeel like you've lost yourself
in this season, like, go to him,surrender it all to his feet.
He will restore you, he willreplenish you, he will show you
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your purpose in this new season,if it's changed.
He will show you your giftings.
He will show you exactly whathe wants you to do in this
season, if you allow him to.
Speaker 1 (21:07):
Awesome, awesome.
Thank you so much, Ashley.
This was great.
Thank you him to Awesome,Awesome.
Thank you so much, Ashley.
Speaker 2 (21:09):
This was great, thank you.
Thank you, I'm so honored tohave been here with you.
hustling in motherhood is wrecking your
calling.
So the question is what doesgod really want for you?
Instead, if you've ever feltstuck, overwhelmed or like you
lost a piece of yourself sincebecoming a mom, you are not
alone.
The world tells us to hustleharder, do more and all and
chase all the things, but thatis not the life that Jesus is
(00:26):
inviting you to.
I want to introduce my guesttoday, ashley Perry Lambett, and
she is a Christian lifestylestrategist and the founder of
the Prioritized Women Collective, a faith-based movement helping
high-achieving moms live inalignment with God's divine
order so they can thrive inmotherhood, marriage, health and
purpose.
(00:46):
As a wife and mom to two littlekings, ages two and four,
ashley knows firsthand what itfeels like to lose yourself in
the demands of motherhood whiletrying to juggle business,
wellness and faith.
After walking through her ownjourney of postpartum depletion,
identity loss and burnout, shemade it her mission to help
other ambitious Christian momsrediscover who they are in
(01:09):
Christ, without compromisingtheir values, health or family.
Ashley, thank you so much forbeing here with us.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
I am so honored and so excited to be here with you
and your amazing community.
Thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
Yes, absolutely.
So you are right.
In line with what we're doingright, we are running businesses
, we are doing things, we arejuggling the mom life and all
the things we're doing itgrounded in Jesus, and that's
really the only way to make thiswork right.
So it's not a foreign idea tomost of us that this burnout,
this hustle, is like likedrowning us.
(01:44):
So why do you think that thathappens?
Speaker 2 (01:47):
I think there's many reasons, so I'll touch on a few.
So I think for one, being ahigh achieving woman and just
being a go-getter we wanna be incontrol of everything, and so
sometimes it's easy for us tolike go ahead of God or think
we're supposed to be doing more,when God is saying actually
slow down and do less in thisseason and just be present with
(02:08):
your babies.
I also think, just as a womanwho just wears so many different
hats, right, it's like we justget overwhelmed and we think we
cannot take a break because theneverything is going to just
implode and just be a hot mess.
But God called us in thisjourney for a reason.
He's put you here for a purposeand he's already equipped you.
(02:29):
So this like striving andhustling culture that we see
it's just not for us and that'snot what Jesus intended for us
as women in business and womenwho are raising families and the
next disciples.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
Yeah, absolutely.
I love that.
So I know that you coach women,you work with them.
So what do you tell someonewhen they first get to you,
right, and they are burnt out,they're struggling, they have
this business, they have theselittle people that require them
to keep them alive and they'rejust not sure what to do.
And what is there somethingthey can even let go of?
Like, what do you do with themwhen they first get there?
Speaker 2 (03:05):
Yes.
So, first and foremost, what wedo is I encourage them to just
sit with the Lord in silence.
So if that's five minutesbefore your kids wake up, if
that's while you'rebreastfeeding your baby,
whatever that looks like for youand just to ask him where do
you want me in this season, whatis my focus in this season?
And let him just minister toyour heart and see what he says.
If you have a journal, write itdown.
(03:26):
But I think sitting instillness and just allowing him
to speak is something that's soforeign, especially having
littles and running a businessand doing a million different
things.
You're like, oh wait, sit insilence.
I haven't done that in a while.
Let's try that.
And normally the Lord, when youask him something, he's always
going to come through.
Maybe not in the way that youexpected, but he's going to give
(03:46):
you some sort of answer for usto start moving in a direction
closer to him and his will foryour life in this season.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
Yeah, I love that.
That's very practical and sohard, like it doesn't sound
difficult.
I just went on this retreatwith my mastermind and we
literally sat in silence for twoand a half hours, like we just
like wandered off by ourselves.
And I was so excited about itCause I used to spend so much
time with the Lord, like bymyself, without, like you know,
people needing you and so.
But it was so beautiful and sopart of it was easy and then
(04:16):
part of it got hard.
I was like what am I supposedto do now?
But you're right, like justbeing alone with Jesus will,
it'll just change everything,right, like that's that's so
good Silence and solitude, and Ilove that.
It's like not a cookie cutterthing.
I ask you what to do and you'relike go to the Lord.
That's the answer.
Man, that's the answer.
(04:36):
I like it.
I like it, okay.
So how do you?
So here they are, okay, theyhave done this, they've gone to
the Lord, and they're likewondering what are some
practical steps that they cantake after they've sat in
silence with the Lord.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Yes.
So then we start getting moreinto alignment, like what are
your priorities?
And for a lot of women, ourpriorities are just all over the
place, like, first and foremost, I go by a divine alignment, so
it should be God first andforemost, and then it should be
yourself, and a lot of us forgetabout ourselves completely,
where it's just like the kidstake over everything.
(05:14):
And so how do we bringourselves back to being a
priority?
Whether that looks like goingfor a five minute walk, whether
that looks like doing somestretches, whether that looks
like telling your husband I needsome more help.
Like what does that look likefor you in this season?
Because the Lord did not callus to just be like suffering and
in this survival mode.
That's not what he called us toin motherhood, and then, after
(05:36):
you, it should be your hubby,right?
So a lot of women, we forgetcompletely about them.
When we have kids, it's like,oh, you're fine, I've got the
kiddos over here, and so justbringing some spark back into
that relationship.
Whether that's sitting andtalking with your spouse for
five minutes how was your day?
How are you?
I miss you, you know, I haven'tseen you and then we start
talking about our kiddos.
(05:57):
And then we start talking aboutour business, our ministry and
all the other hats that we wear,but, like, let's get ourselves
back into the priority list.
What does that look like foryou?
Sitting, having coffee, meetinga friend?
Like, what does that look likefor you?
And then let's start makingsteps to do that, to start
refilling your cup as a woman,as a mom, as a wife, as a
business owner all of thosethings you have to pour into
(06:21):
yourself in order to flow outinto everyone else.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
Yeah, absolutely, and I like what you said.
The divine order, that'sbeautiful, that's perfect, and
you can say that a lot of thingsare important to you, but if
you're not living them out, theyare not actually important to
you.
That's what I talk to myclients about.
It's like are we giving thesethings lip service or are we
really living them out?
Right?
So let's talk about so.
I like you're talking aboutmaking sure that you are, you
(06:46):
know you're doing well, thatyou're being filled up, that you
have that intentional time,whatever that looks like in the
season, which changes dependingon how old your kids are and how
many kids you have or whatseason of life you're in with
your husband.
So, but I feel like guilt veryquickly becomes a problem here,
right, and?
But I feel like guilt veryquickly becomes a problem here,
(07:07):
right, and so I know that you'veran into this.
So how do we make sure that weare doing the right things for
us in the season we're in, butthat we're not allowing guilt to
like steal that joy that weshould be getting from that?
Speaker 2 (07:18):
Yes.
So this is such a beautifulquestion because there's even
there's just like a lot of guiltwhether it's not spending
enough time with the Lord, notgoing to church every Sunday
like you used to before you hadkids, not spending enough time
with your husband, like notdoing everything that you think
perfectly for your kids, likethere's so many areas where
guilt starts to like fall uponus, and I think for a lot of
(07:39):
women it's like.
So let's ask the Lord and let'ssee what his word says.
And so we go back to.
I like to explain it to women,like if you think of a river,
like water has to flow into thatriver in order for that water
to keep flowing, and that waterflows into all of the plants,
like the animals drink the waterand all of these things, things
(08:01):
that you never even see, thatripple effect.
It has to come, being come from, being poured into.
And so when they think aboutthat, like okay, oh, yeah,
that's right.
Like you can't pour from anempty cup, so it doesn't have to
look like you're going off foran hour in the gym or whatever.
It doesn't have to look likethat.
It could be whatever feels goodto your heart in this season
(08:22):
and, of course, take it to theLord, like your heart in this
season.
And of course, take it to theLord Like, do you feel like this
is what I should be doing?
And sometimes the Lord will giveyou the answer you don't want,
like, no, I don't want you doingthat in this season.
I want you to just be still andbe present and not start that
new business, not start that newventure, and so just being in
tune to like taking what youthink to the Lord is this an
(08:42):
alignment for what you have inmy life?
And he will give you the answer.
I even think about myself.
After I had my first son.
It was like, all right, I'mready to go 110% in my business
and do all these things and gotalk and do a trial.
The Lord was like, if you don'tjust sit down in this season
and be present with your babybecause he's going to grow so
(09:02):
fast, this time's going to go sofast, you're going to miss this
time and you're going to regretnot being present.
So just taking it to the Lordagain, letting him speak into
your heart and letting him giveyou the truthful answer, not
what you want to hear.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
That's beautiful.
I love that and I like that.
What you're talking about, it'slike God has given you this
gift but we're like so worriedabout all the other things that
we could be doing.
It's like, nah, man, just this,this is what I gave you.
Do the thing I said.
I really like that and I cantotally relate to that, because
my son's two and a half and Iwas ready to roll, like I wanted
to be with him.
I didn't.
I wanted to do the other thingsand even now sometimes I'm like
(09:39):
have to make myself like no,this is not the time for those
things.
These are not the time forthose things.
So when you're talking aboutlike this alignment and making
sure that you and the Lord areon the same page and correct me
if I'm wrong, but I wouldimagine the next step would also
be talking to your spouse,right, if he's not on the same
page with you, then he can'tknow what you want, need what
(10:00):
you need, and he can't help youget there Right.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
Exactly yes, like they, a lot of men, like they
just don't know what to do.
They don't know how to help you, like they see you, like
struggling, and like they don'tknow what to do.
And so, if you can sit down andtalk to them and even pray
together and just explain to himwhat you're going through, I
think about one of my clientswhere she was like she got
pregnant like immediately afterhaving her first baby, and she
(10:27):
was like I had to go to him andbe like I love you, like thank
you for these beautiful gifts,but like I need you more, like I
need more help, and he had noidea because she didn't voice
that to him.
Like they're not mind readers,like as much as we want them to
be, you know, they're not mindreaders.
And a lot of times even I thinkabout myself when I'm praying
(10:47):
like Lord, fix him, lord, dothis.
The Lord is like turn thatfinger to yourself, sister.
Like you need some work as well, like you need to change how
you're talking, how you'recommunicating.
And so I think it's sobeautiful when we can actually
turn that point to ourselves andbe like how can I be better?
Because then, in turn, that'sgoing to help him be better.
(11:11):
That's going to help you bebetter as a unit.
So I think, just takingreflection too on yourself- can
be really helpful as well.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
Yeah, absolutely, I love that.
Psalm says like search me, ohGod, and know my heart, you know
.
It's like point out anything inme that offends you and lead me
along the path of righteousness, and so it's like are we
willing to pray that prayer?
Right, it's so easy to be likefix these other things, but it's
like show me what's ugly in me,Cause I know there's some stuff
in there, Right.
And so it's very I love thatlike self reflection, making
(11:37):
sure that you are also you knowwhere you need to be.
Okay, so you have this growthmethod that you have talked
about a little bit, so can youtell us a little bit what that
looks like and what that means?
How does that help?
Speaker 2 (11:49):
Yes, so the growth method is basically the steps
that I take women through, andit includes your mind, body,
heart and soul.
So we start with alignment,figuring that out, what that
looks like for you in thisseason, and then start bringing
in the physical aspect as wellof your health, because it's one
thing to be praying and all ofthe things, but faith without
works is dead.
So if you're in a season whereyou're like I'm always tired or
(12:13):
I'm not feeling my body properly, I'm not eating well, like we
have to take care of thosethings as well.
And so we bring that in to thisbeautiful growth method where
we not only talk about ourrelationship with the Lord but
we also start figuring out stepsto help us be better women,
mother, business owners and allof those things.
(12:33):
And so I like to bring in thephysical aspect of movement and
that is such a beautiful form ofworship.
One of my favorite ways toworship the Lord is just to move
, go on a walk with him,literally.
Like we talked about silenceearlier, like if you go on like
a five, 10 minute walk inside,it's so hard at first because
you want to put your ear pods in, you want to listen to a sermon
(12:55):
or a YouTube video or book,whatever, but he will just talk
to you in such a beautiful wayand give you encouragement that,
like you didn't even know youneeded, if you just allow him
that space.
And so I love to bring in allthe aspects of the woman, so her
physical, her emotional, herspiritual.
All of that makes up who we are, and so it's really important
(13:16):
to me to make sure that we starttapping into all of those areas
to make us the strongestholistic woman as possible.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
That's wonderful, I love it.
That's perfect.
So I really like what you'retalking about, about when you're
going on walks not putting yourheadphones in.
I have been purposely doingthis and it is so helpful.
It's basically blocking out thenoise of the world, because how
much input are you allowing inyour life?
All of it can be really good,but if there's so much that
(13:46):
you're never actually talking toChrist himself like there's a
problem, and so you got to givethat space to the Lord to be
able to talk to you.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
Yes, so good.
I saw a reel the other daywhere she was talking about that
.
She's like we're so quick to goto a YouTube video or a sermon
or this or that or whatever, andshe was like the first thing we
should do is just go to theLord Like ask him what does he
think about this situation?
What do you, what should I do?
Like go to him, first andforemost, not your friends, not
(14:18):
your family.
Speaker 1 (14:18):
Go to him drop it at his feet, and so I love that.
You said that I can't agreemore.
Amen, awesome, okay, so how dowe break this burnout cycle?
Cause that is a thing that wesuffer with, especially as being
high achievers wanting to doall the things but like really
wanting to trust the Lord in allof our ways, right, so how do
we break that?
Speaker 2 (14:34):
cycle.
I think one huge way is just tofocus, like in this season,
what is most important to you inthis season and what do you
want to accomplish most in thisseason?
What do you feel the Lord iscalling to you to do right now?
Because we forget sometimesthat this is a season where your
kids are like so little andthey need you for absolutely
(14:55):
everything.
We're like it's going to belike this forever and the Lord
is like this is such a small,precious window, like please
take advantage of it, be present.
And so, I think, focusing inbecause, as women, we like to do
so many different things, likewe have so many ideas and all of
these things, but it's likejust focus in on one thing, like
what's giving you joy, what'sallowing you to serve in this
(15:18):
season in a way that stillfulfills you but doesn't take
you away from your family, yourhusband, all of those things.
I think focus is one way that wecan really get out of burnout
mode, because we don't have this.
I have to do everything andraise a baby, and if you're a
new mom, it's like I don't evenknow what I'm doing anyway, so
(15:38):
I'm already like overwhelmed tothe hundredth power.
And so if we can just focus andremember that this is only a
season, it's not forever, it'sreally helpful with I can still
do this in six months to a year,two years, like ask the Lord,
what do you want me to do inthis season?
Give me one or two things tofocus on that are going to
fulfill me, and then moveforward in what he tells you to
(15:59):
do.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
That is perfect.
Yeah, I love that Somebody.
I heard someone say you can doeverything, you just can't do it
at the same time, and I'm likethat's beautiful, that's perfect
, and giving yourself the graceto say, like not right now, but
it may be, I mean, it's notnever right.
Like your ideas are good.
God made you like the womenthat we're talking to.
(16:22):
I feel like I can really, youknow, understand them.
Yes, I have a million ideas,always something that
everything's a good idea and so,but, like, just write it down,
friend, write it down, it'llstill be there and you can do it
later.
Maybe, and maybe you'll evenhate that idea, cause there's a
lot of the ideas up here thatI'm like that was a dumb, but
that's okay.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
Um, but, yeah, it doesn't mean no, it just means
right now you know and he mayhave to prepare you.
Like I think about myself andwhere I started my business,
like in health and wellness.
The Lord has taken me on thislike journey that I had no idea
that it was in my future, butit's just refined me and made me
better in every area of life sothat I can be the leader that
(17:05):
he's called me to be, the woman,the mom, the wife.
And so let him start to shredyou those, those lies that
you've believed your entire life, those things of the world that
you're idolizing Like.
It's a hard process, but you'regoing to be so much better on
the other side of it, Justletting him, just surrendering
everything to him and lettinghim make you new.
(17:26):
It's, it's I, it'slife-changing.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
Yeah, I couldn't agree more.
I love that.
That's perfect.
So you have it.
Looks like you have threefaith-fueled mindset shifts to
overcome struggles.
Can you break those down for us?
Speaker 2 (17:42):
Yes.
So number one is going to bewhat we talked about earlier is
prayer, sitting in silence withthe Lord, first and foremost,
before you reach for your phonein the morning.
What I like to do is I like tojust open my eyes and say Lord,
I'm asking you to come intoevery part of my day, my actions
, my words, my thoughts, my work, everything.
(18:03):
And then also I like to askwhat do you want me to focus on
today?
Like, what do you want my focusto be for today?
Sometimes he'll give me a word,he'll give me a scripture,
he'll tell me something and I'llbe like Ooh, yeah, I probably
do need to to work on that, butI think just, first and foremost
, like prayer and stillness.
And then number two what wealso talked about is similar is
(18:24):
that focus right?
And that being present in themoment and just being thankful
and showing gratitude for whereyou are in this season?
That will change everything.
If you can just sit down andwrite three things that you're
thankful for, at the end of theday you will be like I am so
blessed.
Even if you don't feel like it,you're like I'm so blessed and
(18:45):
I'm so thankful for what theLord has done and continues to
do in my life in this season.
And then I think number threejust being a high achiever is to
really just prioritize yourself.
Like don't get into this placewhere you are totally neglecting
every single need that you have, because it's only going to
(19:05):
make everything else harder,because you're coming from a
place of complete destitute,Like you have nothing to give,
because you're giving toeveryone else.
So making sure that you'regetting yourself on that
priority list, whatever thatlooks like in your season,
whether that's asking for morehelp from family and friends,
your husband taking a nap,grabbing some coffee with a
friend like still prioritizingyou because the Lord still wants
(19:29):
to do amazing things for you inthis season, even if it feels
very difficult.
Speaker 1 (19:34):
That's beautiful, that's wonderful.
Okay, so tell everybody aboutthe quiz that you're offering.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
So it's an overflow quiz, so it's really to help
women see where they arestruggling with the most and
where the Lord wants to speakinto your life the most in this
season.
And once you take this quiz,it's going to give you tools and
resources to help you startconnecting more with the Lord in
the area that he's chosen,whether it's your physical, your
mental, your emotional, yourspiritual, your motherhood, your
(20:02):
relationship with your husband,like.
It will give you tools to startreconnecting and restoring that
area of your life.
And it's just, it's a short,quick quiz, but the resources
are so good and they're sohelpful.
If you feel like you aredrowning like this, this quiz is
for you.
He wants to restore you.
Speaker 1 (20:19):
That's amazing, all right, awesome, and so that will
be linked in the description ofthis.
So definitely check that out.
And then, if you had one lastpiece of advice for the
Christian mompreneur who's justsitting here listening right now
, what would you tell her?
Speaker 2 (20:37):
I would tell her that you are beautifully and
wonderfully made and even inthis season of motherhood.
If you don't feel that way, oryou feel like you've lost
yourself in this season, or youfeel like you've lost yourself
in this season, like, go to him,surrender it all to his feet.
He will restore you, he willreplenish you, he will show you
(20:58):
your purpose in this new season,if it's changed.
He will show you your giftings.
He will show you exactly whathe wants you to do in this
season, if you allow him to.
Speaker 1 (21:07):
Awesome, awesome.
Thank you so much, Ashley.
This was great.
Thank you him to Awesome,Awesome.
Thank you so much, Ashley.
Speaker 2 (21:09):
This was great, thank you.
Thank you, I'm so honored tohave been here with you.
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