February 6, 2025 • 18 mins
Have you ever felt like life's chaos is pulling you away from what truly matters? Join me on a journey through the everyday challenges faced by busy moms striving to keep their spiritual connection with Jesus Christ alive. I'll share a personal story about a day that didn't exactly go as planned due to a child's illness, highlighting the grace and understanding needed in our spiritual journeys. We'll tackle the guilt, distractions, and busyness that often hinder our time with God and discover practical strategies to overcome these obstacles, ensuring that even amid life's madness, we can find meaningful ways to stay connected to the divine.
This episode dives into the reality new parents often face when trying to maintain a spiritual routine in the whirlwind of life changes. I open up about my own struggle after the birth of my son, dealing with the guilt of not meeting unrealistic spiritual expectations. We'll explore the distractions posed by modern technology and how to manage them for more intentional moments with both loved ones and the Lord. Plus, discover how carving out personal quiet time, even just a few minutes a day, can foster a consistent habit of spiritual connection. Let's embrace the chaos, find peace, and renew our strength by staying rooted in the divine source.
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Aliese (00:01):
staying connected to the vine, to jesus christ, makes
everything better.
It makes our life more peaceful, more abundant, more full of
joy all around.
It's just better.
Right, I know that you knowthat, but the thing is, are we
doing it?
Are you living it out as momswith young kids and young
(00:23):
businesses, or flourishingbusinesses?
I don't know where you're at.
It can be really difficult toknow that everyone needs
something from you all the time.
Right, your clients need you,your children need you, your
husband needs you, your familyneeds you, your friends need you
All the time.
There are all of these thingsthat are coming at you from a
(00:44):
million directions.
I totally feel you.
Even just today, I was in ameeting in my backyard on a zoom
meeting coaching call amastermind, and it was awesome,
it was super great.
But my son has been sick and sohis sleep schedule is
everywhere, and so he wasn'tasleep yet.
Normally we would be somewherewhere I could be totally and
(01:07):
completely connected with thepeople that I was talking to,
but it didn't work out that way,because we have kids and with
kids, your life just looksdifferent.
Often, right, you have a plan,but sometimes that plan doesn't
always work out, and so, like Isaid, he's been getting over
being sick and so he is needyand once in my lap, once in my
(01:28):
face and he's dirty because ourbackyard's muddy and I'm trying
to get him to not touch mycomputer and, honestly, I just
had to leave because I couldwatch the replay later.
It was very good, but the thingis it was not the moment I
needed to be on that call.
He needed me not the moment Ineeded to be on that call.
He needed me, okay.
And so I said that to say Iknow that life can absolutely be
(01:54):
crazy, and what that means isthis is the season, these are
the challenges in this seasonthat you're in.
It is not an excuse to notspend time with the Lord.
It is the obstacles that you'vebeen given right now to
overcome, and so I know that youcan do that and I know that I
can do that, and I don't alwaysdo it.
Sometimes I fail.
Often I fail.
Now I want you to give yourselfgrace, like 100% give yourself
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grace, because there are timeswhen your kids are sick and you
are sleeping on their floor andyou are not sure what time it is
because you don't have yourwatch or your phone and so you
have no idea if you're gettingup on time or not.
But you know he hasn't beensleeping, so now you're not
going to wake him up, you'rejust going to stay on the floor.
And now you've missed yourquiet time and the day has
started.
So give yourself some grace.
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That's a real thing that justhappened to me today, actually
and so just be aware that thethings that I'm saying give
yourself grace.
God gives you grace, and allowyourself to fall and to make
mistakes right.
We are not giving ourselvesexcuses to not do it normally.
(02:58):
We are giving ourselves graceto know that God's not going to
smite you.
Jesus still loves you, Even ifyou miss a day spending time
with him and, honestly, you canspend time with them in a
different way that day, sayingprayers all throughout your day.
So, saying all this, I have formyself, my own personal life and
from talking to lots ofdifferent women, I have found
(03:20):
three things that reallydistract us or really keep us
better word, keep us away fromdoing the time that we know we
need to do with the Lord, givinghim what he deserves, because
he is the God of the world,right Of the universe, and he
asked, he wants to spend timewith us.
What a beautiful, gloriousthing.
(03:42):
He wants to spend time with youand he wants to spend time with
me.
Why aren't we doing it?
Now?
These are the three reasonsthat I have found that really
hinder it, and so we're going towalk through these three and
we're going to talk about how tocombat these three, and then
we're going to talk about how tomake sure that even in this
season, the season of littlepeople, business, regular life,
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being a wife, being a friend,all the things that you can
still find that time to spendwith the Lord.
Okay, these are the threethings that I have found often
keep us from making that timeand making an effort to spend
that time with the Lord Stayingconnected to the vine, there are
guilt, distractions andbusyness.
(04:27):
So let's start with guilt first.
I have shared this before, butit is mentioned.
It can be mentioned again.
I very quickly felt guiltyafter I had my son, because the
time that I was spending withthe Lord well, first off, it was
like nothing in the verybeginning Newborn life did not
expect, did not understand whatI was about to get myself into
(04:49):
Anywho, that's a side note so Ijust felt so bad that I couldn't
get myself one out of the bagand two, I couldn't figure out
how to make my time look like itused to look whenever I didn't
have kids.
Like what it looked like before, which was a lot.
I did a lot, I spent a lot oftime with the Lord, but then I
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just couldn't do it.
And so all that guilt of notmaking it look like the way it
used to look was a big deal tome and it hindered me from even
giving him what I did have, whatI did have.
You know, we talk about tithingand with money, right, if you
make no money, then there's notithe to give.
(05:31):
If you have no energy, there'svery little energy to give.
So, like, honestly, it's notreally in the Bible like that,
but it's a good way to think ofit, right, if you have very
little energy, then God is notexpecting you to spend four
hours with him in the morning.
If you give him what you have,that is what he's expecting.
(05:52):
And I was talking about whatalso, like what do you think it
should look like?
What we expect our quiet timeto look like?
If, before you had kids, youwere spending time with them.
Maybe you wanted to look justlike that, but maybe you weren't
spending time with him.
Before you had kids, you werespending time with them.
Maybe you wanted to look justlike that, but maybe you weren't
spending time with them beforeyou had kids.
(06:12):
Maybe you weren't even aChristian, maybe you didn't know
the Lord yet.
Now the Internet is full ofBible studies, devotionals,
curriculums, pins that tell youall these things that you can do
on Pinterest, instagram, postsof people's quiet time and all
of those things.
They're cool, they're great,actually, if you want to use one
of them, but honestly, it'sterribly overwhelming to try to
(06:35):
do everything that the internettells you to do.
So the thing is, it doesn'thave to be complicated, it
doesn't have to look pretty, itdoesn't have to be, at a certain
time, like none of those thingsmatter.
So just take a step back fromthe overwhelm which is the
internet, which is can be good,but also not great.
Okay, it can take over yourlife.
(06:56):
So take a step back and realizethat you can spend time with
the Lord without all of thatextra stuff Not important at all
.
He just wants to spend timewith you, all right.
So that is guilt.
So let's back away from guilt.
Let's say no to thatDistractions.
If I had my phone, I wasn'trecording this on it.
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I would show it to you.
Okay, our phones are abeautiful thing.
We are the first time inhistory at least recent history
at the very least because theinternet came out when I was a
kid.
It's came out for public use,like regular people.
I was little whatever.
The AOL CDs came out.
Maybe you don't know what thoseare, but I'm telling you I'm
(07:39):
only 34 and the internet has notbeen around that long.
Okay, so there is that, and sothe internet and these
smartphones.
They're definitely haven't beenaround for that much longer.
I was 18 when I got asmartphone, and so the history
of them are not that it's notthat long in the scheme of the
world Right, and so we don'tknow what it does to us to have
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so much access to so many things.
Now, I love the internet and Ilove my smartphone, and I can
get places that I would never beable to get to if I didn't have
my GPS.
Now, all that being said, it cancertainly take away your time
that you're spending with yourfamily, your kids, with the Lord
, with your clients, all ofthose things, because it's
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always there and there's alwayssomething to look up, something
to learn, a podcast, to listento a YouTube video, something
that you forgot, a calendarevent to add which I love my
calendar, by the way Somethingthat you could be doing at every
moment in time, and then you'renot available for the people
that you need to be availablefor, you're not present with the
Lord whenever you're trying tobe present with him and whenever
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there are times in your daywhen you could be connecting to
the vine.
Instead, it is full of thisGuilty, totally guilty.
I am guilty of this, and it isso easy to do.
It is a habit that has to bebroken, and intentionally broken
, because it won't just go awaybecause you want it to.
You can pray to ask to take itaway, ask the Lord to help you
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find times to put it down, and Ihave found myself doing that.
Lord, please help me.
Not want to just pick up myphone all the time.
And then also, there are appsout there that will lock you out
of your phone, just straight up.
Lock you out.
I think it's literally calledlock me out.
I think that's the app that Iuse and it is very helpful, and
so I put a time limit on myphone that I can use it every
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day and then a certain time atnight it locks me out of almost
everything, except for my GPS,which I need to get places just
in case I'm somewhere, travelingor whatever and texting people.
Those are basically the onlythings I can do after nine
o'clock until 8 pm the next or 8am the next day.
So if you need something likethat, I needed something like
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that so I wasn't so distracted,especially at night when I could
have been doing something moreproductive, like spending time
with the Lord, or in the morning, when I could be looking at my
phone.
Instead I'm spending time withthe Lord, or in the morning when
I could be looking at my phone.
Instead I'm spending time withthe Lord, and I can't get on my
phone anyway.
So it's very helpful for me.
So if that's helpful for you,go ahead and use that thing as
well.
Another distraction is using metime selfishly.
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We do need time to ourselves.
Moms 100% need to spend time ontheir self doing things for
themselves.
I agree with that.
But it is so easy to say, oh,I'm spending me time and then
wind up watching four hours oftelevision Now.
Do you feel better after that?
I don't feel better after that.
(10:32):
Watching a movie that I reallywanted to watch, that's one
thing, something that made mefeel good, right.
But binging something that isnot important in any way just
because I feel like I need to bealone and do something that I
want to, that's never made mefeel better, right.
So using me time moreconstructively, right, like what
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actually fills you up, and ifyou are actually being filled up
regularly, then you'll bedistracted less by me time and
you'll feel like you can wishfirst off, we should be giving
the Lord our first time, youknow, before the meantime anyway
.
But not feeling like you haveto do something for yourself
constantly because you're notactually filling yourself up
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with the stuff that you're doingwill make it easier for you to
not be distracted by spendingtime with the Lord, and you will
feel better if you just spendtime with the Lord, like I know.
We've talked about this already.
All right, moving on Busyness,that's the last one of the three
Busyness.
No, they're all prettyimportant.
Busyness takes over.
Now are you?
You allow too many things intoyour life, into your family's
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life, and we've talked aboutthis in the seasons of a little
kid, of all kids, of all seasonsof life, you cannot do
everything.
You can do a lot of things, youcan do important things, but
you cannot do everything at thesame time.
You can do it all in your wholelife, sure, but you can't do it
all at the same time, so youneed to back up and figure out
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what's most important.
Where are you spending yourtime that's actually good for
you, good for your family andgood for your business?
Are you glorifying the lord andall of the things that you're
doing now?
If not, then it's time to backup.
If you're burning yourself atboth ends and you don't feel
like you ever have any time tobreathe and you can't find the
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time to spend with the Lord,then you don't need to be doing
everything that you're doing Now.
Are you adding those things toyour calendar or is someone else
adding them to your calendar?
That is a conversation you needto be having, because that is
an easy thing to happen Familyobligations, friends that feel
like you need to be there forthem and for particular reasons.
You are the steward of your timeand your families.
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You and your spouse are a teamand the two of you need to
decide in this season of lifelittle little kid season, new
business season Are you?
Should you be doing everythingthat you're doing?
Because that will rob you ofall of your energy, rob you of
your peace and take away thetime that you could be spending
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and should be spending with theLord.
So that's how you combat them,right?
We combat guilt by saying itdoes not have to look like
anything.
Certain God of the universewants to spend time with me.
So, yes, jesus, let's do thisthing, okay, whatever it looks
like, however long it is,whatever I've got time for,
whatever you've got for me inthis block of time that I'm
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going to give you because youare important to me, I will give
that to you.
Take away the guilt, move awayfrom the guilt, move away from
the distractions.
Put your phone away, put thescreens away, take away your
brain.
That is just.
You can't take away your brain.
That's crazy.
But ask the Lord to calm yourmind so you can spend that time
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with him and you can stay calm,the undistracted that you can
stay.
Pay attention, I don't know theright word is and then remove
busyness from your life becauseit'll wear you down.
Wear you down.
So now, after you know thesethree things that really could
be hindering you from spendingthe quality quiet time that you
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want with jesus christ the beingconnected to the vine so that
the heat can pour into you andyou can overflow into all of the
areas of life that you have Mom, wife, business owner, friend
all of those things Now, how doyou find the time to do it?
Where is it?
Now, what I want you to do islook at your day and find some
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spaces that you canintentionally give the Lord.
What does that look like Withlittle people?
We often have a couple ofblocks right.
We could get up before them ifyou can.
You know, there was a season ofmy life where I was literally
not able to get up before my sonwas up.
It felt like every time I triedto get up before him, he would
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know and he would wake up.
We've passed that season, butlike there was a point, and so
the mornings were not it for me,okay, but maybe they are for
you.
There's nap times, and maybe naptime would be your time.
Maybe that's the time that youwork on your business time.
I work on my business, but iteach of us get to do it
differently, right?
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And if the nap time is the onlytime, let me just give you this
If you got, give God the firsttime, he will bless the rest of
it, okay.
So if you feel like I reallyneed to work on my business in
the two hours that my son or mydaughter is asleep, give God
some of it and see what he doeswith the rest of it.
Give, put your heart towardshim and see what he does with
the rest of it.
Put your heart towards him andsee what he does with the rest
of it.
Just focus on him.
God is so much bigger and somuch so and is outside of time
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Sorry, words that he can helpyou do amazing things.
Just put your energy with himfirst, get your mind right.
So if you're finding morningtime or nap time, or maybe after
they've gone to bed, rightbefore you go to bed or right
after they go down for sleep,like whenever, that would work
best for you, you know that Ineed to lay him down or lay the
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kids down, and then for the next30 minutes, I'm just going to
be in my Bible, read the word,do journaling or whatever it
looks like for you when you doyour quiet time.
Just set that up and haveconversations with the people
around you that it will affect,like your spouse, and so you're
just finding these pockets oftime and if, for some reason,
you can't find one, you're toobusy.
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You are too busy.
There is something in there,even if it's only 10 minutes.
There is something in there.
Find a time, put it in there,make it sit on your calendar.
Tell the people that it's goingto affect mostly your spouse,
maybe older children who aren'tasleep yet, or whatever that
looks like for you.
Tell some people, tell yourbest friend, that you want to do
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it, hold it, let them hold youaccountable and just do it and
keep doing it and show up overand over and over and the habit.
That in the beginning will behard.
It'll get easier as it goes andthen something will happen.
You'll have to change it, butthat's just the way it goes,
because we've got little peopleto keep alive.
That's just the way it is thisseason, like we said, not an
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excuse to not spend time withthe Lord.
These are the challenges thatyou've been given.
These are the little people,the business that God has given
you and you are called tosteward them, and I know that
you can do it, and I know thatyou can do it, in his grace, by
being connected to the vine.
Let us find times to spend withhim.
Set yourself apart him.
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Set yourself apart, stop beingbusy, don't be so guilt-ridden
and remove distractions.
I know those things can be hard, but they absolutely can be
done, especially in the power ofthe Holy Spirit, which you, my
friend, you, my sister, have.
In the name of Jesus, I ask himthat he would help you step
away from all of thedistractions, all of the
busyness, all of the guiltthat's holding you down, and
that he would clearly illuminatea time that you can spend with
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him and that you would see thefruit of being connected to that
vine the joy, the peace, thepatience that you didn't know
you had until you actuallystarted getting filled up by
Christ.
Okay, my friends, go do it,spend time with the Lord.
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Amen.
staying connected to the vine, to jesus christ, makes
everything better.
It makes our life more peaceful, more abundant, more full of
joy all around.
It's just better.
Right, I know that you knowthat, but the thing is, are we
doing it?
Are you living it out as momswith young kids and young
(00:23):
businesses, or flourishingbusinesses?
I don't know where you're at.
It can be really difficult toknow that everyone needs
something from you all the time.
Right, your clients need you,your children need you, your
husband needs you, your familyneeds you, your friends need you
All the time.
There are all of these thingsthat are coming at you from a
(00:44):
million directions.
I totally feel you.
Even just today, I was in ameeting in my backyard on a zoom
meeting coaching call amastermind, and it was awesome,
it was super great.
But my son has been sick and sohis sleep schedule is
everywhere, and so he wasn'tasleep yet.
Normally we would be somewherewhere I could be totally and
(01:07):
completely connected with thepeople that I was talking to,
but it didn't work out that way,because we have kids and with
kids, your life just looksdifferent.
Often, right, you have a plan,but sometimes that plan doesn't
always work out, and so, like Isaid, he's been getting over
being sick and so he is needyand once in my lap, once in my
(01:28):
face and he's dirty because ourbackyard's muddy and I'm trying
to get him to not touch mycomputer and, honestly, I just
had to leave because I couldwatch the replay later.
It was very good, but the thingis it was not the moment I
needed to be on that call.
He needed me not the moment Ineeded to be on that call.
He needed me, okay.
And so I said that to say Iknow that life can absolutely be
(01:54):
crazy, and what that means isthis is the season, these are
the challenges in this seasonthat you're in.
It is not an excuse to notspend time with the Lord.
It is the obstacles that you'vebeen given right now to
overcome, and so I know that youcan do that and I know that I
can do that, and I don't alwaysdo it.
Sometimes I fail.
Often I fail.
Now I want you to give yourselfgrace, like 100% give yourself
(02:16):
grace, because there are timeswhen your kids are sick and you
are sleeping on their floor andyou are not sure what time it is
because you don't have yourwatch or your phone and so you
have no idea if you're gettingup on time or not.
But you know he hasn't beensleeping, so now you're not
going to wake him up, you'rejust going to stay on the floor.
And now you've missed yourquiet time and the day has
started.
So give yourself some grace.
(02:37):
That's a real thing that justhappened to me today, actually
and so just be aware that thethings that I'm saying give
yourself grace.
God gives you grace, and allowyourself to fall and to make
mistakes right.
We are not giving ourselvesexcuses to not do it normally.
(02:58):
We are giving ourselves graceto know that God's not going to
smite you.
Jesus still loves you, Even ifyou miss a day spending time
with him and, honestly, you canspend time with them in a
different way that day, sayingprayers all throughout your day.
So, saying all this, I have formyself, my own personal life and
from talking to lots ofdifferent women, I have found
(03:20):
three things that reallydistract us or really keep us
better word, keep us away fromdoing the time that we know we
need to do with the Lord, givinghim what he deserves, because
he is the God of the world,right Of the universe, and he
asked, he wants to spend timewith us.
What a beautiful, gloriousthing.
(03:42):
He wants to spend time with youand he wants to spend time with
me.
Why aren't we doing it?
Now?
These are the three reasonsthat I have found that really
hinder it, and so we're going towalk through these three and
we're going to talk about how tocombat these three, and then
we're going to talk about how tomake sure that even in this
season, the season of littlepeople, business, regular life,
(04:03):
being a wife, being a friend,all the things that you can
still find that time to spendwith the Lord.
Okay, these are the threethings that I have found often
keep us from making that timeand making an effort to spend
that time with the Lord Stayingconnected to the vine, there are
guilt, distractions andbusyness.
(04:27):
So let's start with guilt first.
I have shared this before, butit is mentioned.
It can be mentioned again.
I very quickly felt guiltyafter I had my son, because the
time that I was spending withthe Lord well, first off, it was
like nothing in the verybeginning Newborn life did not
expect, did not understand whatI was about to get myself into
(04:49):
Anywho, that's a side note so Ijust felt so bad that I couldn't
get myself one out of the bagand two, I couldn't figure out
how to make my time look like itused to look whenever I didn't
have kids.
Like what it looked like before, which was a lot.
I did a lot, I spent a lot oftime with the Lord, but then I
(05:10):
just couldn't do it.
And so all that guilt of notmaking it look like the way it
used to look was a big deal tome and it hindered me from even
giving him what I did have, whatI did have.
You know, we talk about tithingand with money, right, if you
make no money, then there's notithe to give.
(05:31):
If you have no energy, there'svery little energy to give.
So, like, honestly, it's notreally in the Bible like that,
but it's a good way to think ofit, right, if you have very
little energy, then God is notexpecting you to spend four
hours with him in the morning.
If you give him what you have,that is what he's expecting.
(05:52):
And I was talking about whatalso, like what do you think it
should look like?
What we expect our quiet timeto look like?
If, before you had kids, youwere spending time with them.
Maybe you wanted to look justlike that, but maybe you weren't
spending time with him.
Before you had kids, you werespending time with them.
Maybe you wanted to look justlike that, but maybe you weren't
spending time with them beforeyou had kids.
(06:12):
Maybe you weren't even aChristian, maybe you didn't know
the Lord yet.
Now the Internet is full ofBible studies, devotionals,
curriculums, pins that tell youall these things that you can do
on Pinterest, instagram, postsof people's quiet time and all
of those things.
They're cool, they're great,actually, if you want to use one
of them, but honestly, it'sterribly overwhelming to try to
(06:35):
do everything that the internettells you to do.
So the thing is, it doesn'thave to be complicated, it
doesn't have to look pretty, itdoesn't have to be, at a certain
time, like none of those thingsmatter.
So just take a step back fromthe overwhelm which is the
internet, which is can be good,but also not great.
Okay, it can take over yourlife.
(06:56):
So take a step back and realizethat you can spend time with
the Lord without all of thatextra stuff Not important at all
.
He just wants to spend timewith you, all right.
So that is guilt.
So let's back away from guilt.
Let's say no to thatDistractions.
If I had my phone, I wasn'trecording this on it.
(07:17):
I would show it to you.
Okay, our phones are abeautiful thing.
We are the first time inhistory at least recent history
at the very least because theinternet came out when I was a
kid.
It's came out for public use,like regular people.
I was little whatever.
The AOL CDs came out.
Maybe you don't know what thoseare, but I'm telling you I'm
(07:39):
only 34 and the internet has notbeen around that long.
Okay, so there is that, and sothe internet and these
smartphones.
They're definitely haven't beenaround for that much longer.
I was 18 when I got asmartphone, and so the history
of them are not that it's notthat long in the scheme of the
world Right, and so we don'tknow what it does to us to have
(08:01):
so much access to so many things.
Now, I love the internet and Ilove my smartphone, and I can
get places that I would never beable to get to if I didn't have
my GPS.
Now, all that being said, it cancertainly take away your time
that you're spending with yourfamily, your kids, with the Lord
, with your clients, all ofthose things, because it's
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always there and there's alwayssomething to look up, something
to learn, a podcast, to listento a YouTube video, something
that you forgot, a calendarevent to add which I love my
calendar, by the way Somethingthat you could be doing at every
moment in time, and then you'renot available for the people
that you need to be availablefor, you're not present with the
Lord whenever you're trying tobe present with him and whenever
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there are times in your daywhen you could be connecting to
the vine.
Instead, it is full of thisGuilty, totally guilty.
I am guilty of this, and it isso easy to do.
It is a habit that has to bebroken, and intentionally broken
, because it won't just go awaybecause you want it to.
You can pray to ask to take itaway, ask the Lord to help you
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find times to put it down, and Ihave found myself doing that.
Lord, please help me.
Not want to just pick up myphone all the time.
And then also, there are appsout there that will lock you out
of your phone, just straight up.
Lock you out.
I think it's literally calledlock me out.
I think that's the app that Iuse and it is very helpful, and
so I put a time limit on myphone that I can use it every
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day and then a certain time atnight it locks me out of almost
everything, except for my GPS,which I need to get places just
in case I'm somewhere, travelingor whatever and texting people.
Those are basically the onlythings I can do after nine
o'clock until 8 pm the next or 8am the next day.
So if you need something likethat, I needed something like
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that so I wasn't so distracted,especially at night when I could
have been doing something moreproductive, like spending time
with the Lord, or in the morning, when I could be looking at my
phone.
Instead I'm spending time withthe Lord, or in the morning when
I could be looking at my phone.
Instead I'm spending time withthe Lord, and I can't get on my
phone anyway.
So it's very helpful for me.
So if that's helpful for you,go ahead and use that thing as
well.
Another distraction is using metime selfishly.
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We do need time to ourselves.
Moms 100% need to spend time ontheir self doing things for
themselves.
I agree with that.
But it is so easy to say, oh,I'm spending me time and then
wind up watching four hours oftelevision Now.
Do you feel better after that?
I don't feel better after that.
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Watching a movie that I reallywanted to watch, that's one
thing, something that made mefeel good, right.
But binging something that isnot important in any way just
because I feel like I need to bealone and do something that I
want to, that's never made mefeel better, right.
So using me time moreconstructively, right, like what
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actually fills you up, and ifyou are actually being filled up
regularly, then you'll bedistracted less by me time and
you'll feel like you can wishfirst off, we should be giving
the Lord our first time, youknow, before the meantime anyway
.
But not feeling like you haveto do something for yourself
constantly because you're notactually filling yourself up
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with the stuff that you're doingwill make it easier for you to
not be distracted by spendingtime with the Lord, and you will
feel better if you just spendtime with the Lord, like I know.
We've talked about this already.
All right, moving on Busyness,that's the last one of the three
Busyness.
No, they're all prettyimportant.
Busyness takes over.
Now are you?
You allow too many things intoyour life, into your family's
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life, and we've talked aboutthis in the seasons of a little
kid, of all kids, of all seasonsof life, you cannot do
everything.
You can do a lot of things, youcan do important things, but
you cannot do everything at thesame time.
You can do it all in your wholelife, sure, but you can't do it
all at the same time, so youneed to back up and figure out
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what's most important.
Where are you spending yourtime that's actually good for
you, good for your family andgood for your business?
Are you glorifying the lord andall of the things that you're
doing now?
If not, then it's time to backup.
If you're burning yourself atboth ends and you don't feel
like you ever have any time tobreathe and you can't find the
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time to spend with the Lord,then you don't need to be doing
everything that you're doing Now.
Are you adding those things toyour calendar or is someone else
adding them to your calendar?
That is a conversation you needto be having, because that is
an easy thing to happen Familyobligations, friends that feel
like you need to be there forthem and for particular reasons.
You are the steward of your timeand your families.
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You and your spouse are a teamand the two of you need to
decide in this season of lifelittle little kid season, new
business season Are you?
Should you be doing everythingthat you're doing?
Because that will rob you ofall of your energy, rob you of
your peace and take away thetime that you could be spending
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and should be spending with theLord.
So that's how you combat them,right?
We combat guilt by saying itdoes not have to look like
anything.
Certain God of the universewants to spend time with me.
So, yes, jesus, let's do thisthing, okay, whatever it looks
like, however long it is,whatever I've got time for,
whatever you've got for me inthis block of time that I'm
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going to give you because youare important to me, I will give
that to you.
Take away the guilt, move awayfrom the guilt, move away from
the distractions.
Put your phone away, put thescreens away, take away your
brain.
That is just.
You can't take away your brain.
That's crazy.
But ask the Lord to calm yourmind so you can spend that time
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with him and you can stay calm,the undistracted that you can
stay.
Pay attention, I don't know theright word is and then remove
busyness from your life becauseit'll wear you down.
Wear you down.
So now, after you know thesethree things that really could
be hindering you from spendingthe quality quiet time that you
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want with jesus christ the beingconnected to the vine so that
the heat can pour into you andyou can overflow into all of the
areas of life that you have Mom, wife, business owner, friend
all of those things Now, how doyou find the time to do it?
Where is it?
Now, what I want you to do islook at your day and find some
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spaces that you canintentionally give the Lord.
What does that look like Withlittle people?
We often have a couple ofblocks right.
We could get up before them ifyou can.
You know, there was a season ofmy life where I was literally
not able to get up before my sonwas up.
It felt like every time I triedto get up before him, he would
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know and he would wake up.
We've passed that season, butlike there was a point, and so
the mornings were not it for me,okay, but maybe they are for
you.
There's nap times, and maybe naptime would be your time.
Maybe that's the time that youwork on your business time.
I work on my business, but iteach of us get to do it
differently, right?
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And if the nap time is the onlytime, let me just give you this
If you got, give God the firsttime, he will bless the rest of
it, okay.
So if you feel like I reallyneed to work on my business in
the two hours that my son or mydaughter is asleep, give God
some of it and see what he doeswith the rest of it.
Give, put your heart towardshim and see what he does with
the rest of it.
Put your heart towards him andsee what he does with the rest
of it.
Just focus on him.
God is so much bigger and somuch so and is outside of time
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Sorry, words that he can helpyou do amazing things.
Just put your energy with himfirst, get your mind right.
So if you're finding morningtime or nap time, or maybe after
they've gone to bed, rightbefore you go to bed or right
after they go down for sleep,like whenever, that would work
best for you, you know that Ineed to lay him down or lay the
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kids down, and then for the next30 minutes, I'm just going to
be in my Bible, read the word,do journaling or whatever it
looks like for you when you doyour quiet time.
Just set that up and haveconversations with the people
around you that it will affect,like your spouse, and so you're
just finding these pockets oftime and if, for some reason,
you can't find one, you're toobusy.
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You are too busy.
There is something in there,even if it's only 10 minutes.
There is something in there.
Find a time, put it in there,make it sit on your calendar.
Tell the people that it's goingto affect mostly your spouse,
maybe older children who aren'tasleep yet, or whatever that
looks like for you.
Tell some people, tell yourbest friend, that you want to do
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it, hold it, let them hold youaccountable and just do it and
keep doing it and show up overand over and over and the habit.
That in the beginning will behard.
It'll get easier as it goes andthen something will happen.
You'll have to change it, butthat's just the way it goes,
because we've got little peopleto keep alive.
That's just the way it is thisseason, like we said, not an
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excuse to not spend time withthe Lord.
These are the challenges thatyou've been given.
These are the little people,the business that God has given
you and you are called tosteward them, and I know that
you can do it, and I know thatyou can do it, in his grace, by
being connected to the vine.
Let us find times to spend withhim.
Set yourself apart him.
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Set yourself apart, stop beingbusy, don't be so guilt-ridden
and remove distractions.
I know those things can be hard, but they absolutely can be
done, especially in the power ofthe Holy Spirit, which you, my
friend, you, my sister, have.
In the name of Jesus, I ask himthat he would help you step
away from all of thedistractions, all of the
busyness, all of the guiltthat's holding you down, and
that he would clearly illuminatea time that you can spend with
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him and that you would see thefruit of being connected to that
vine the joy, the peace, thepatience that you didn't know
you had until you actuallystarted getting filled up by
Christ.
Okay, my friends, go do it,spend time with the Lord.
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Amen.
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