12: The Invisible Scars of Growing Up with a Narcissistic Father

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Today, we continue with our ongoing series into the The Active & Passive Harm from a Narcissistic Father  and go into the unseen underbelly of coercion, intimidation, and blame shifting from a father; its impact on the psyche; and the path to integration. 

Why is this important? Because verbal abuse (which includes things like intimidation, coercion, berating and belittling, name-calling, and blame-shifting) shapes your inner world. 

It leaves behind an internal residue—a kind of emotional static—that distorts how you hear yourself.

• You begin to doubt your value. 
• You question your perceptions. 
• You minimize your needs. 
• You anticipate being misunderstood or rejected, even before you speak.
• Over time, you internalize that abuse.

You start talking to yourself the way they talked to you.

 Not because it’s true—but because repetition became belief.

 And belief became identity.

And your identity became your reality. 

In this episode, I also bring us back to the earlier intention behind the entire series, starting from episode 9, to clearly recognize the invisible scars of growing up with a narcissistic father so that real healing can begin. 

Remember, you can’t heal what you don’t acknowledge. You can’t acknowledge what you don’t recognize or understand. 

Recognize, understand, acknowledge, then heal. 

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