March 31, 2025 • 20 mins
Have you ever felt like every time things start going well in your life, they mysteriously fall apart? There's actually a neurological reason behind this frustrating pattern of self-sabotage, and understanding it is the first step to breaking free.
Self-sabotage isn't a character flaw or bad luck—it's what happens when your brain's need for familiarity clashes with new positive experiences. Your subconscious mind, programmed largely before age seven, runs the show 90% of the time. When success or happiness feels unfamiliar, your brain can perceive it as threatening, triggering behaviors that return you to your comfort zone—even when that zone isn't actually comfortable.
Through powerful real-world examples I share insights into how these patterns form and, more importantly, how to overcome them.
This New Moon in Aries offers the perfect cosmic backdrop for releasing old patterns and embracing renewal. If you're ready to increase your capacity for joy, shift from scarcity to abundance thinking, and finally allow yourself to thrive without unconsciously pulling the emergency brake, this episode provides the roadmap. Don't let your limiting beliefs continue writing your story—it's time to claim the success you've always deserved but perhaps never allowed yourself to keep.
Thank you for joining me!
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Welcome to Just Count Me In, a podcast designed to
help you break free from yourlimitations and step into the
life that you actually weremeant to live.
I'm Sari Stone and I'm aholistic coach with a background
in education.
For the past six years, I'vebeen guiding people to transform
their lives from the inside out.
My journey, to be honest withyou, was not always clear out.
(00:27):
My journey to be honest withyou was not always clear.
For years, I actually felt likeI was living someone else's
life, checking all the rightboxes but never feeling quite
truly fulfilled.
That all changed when Iexperienced a few miracles, met
some incredible teachers and hada major wake-up call that
forced me to shift my entireperspective.
And had a major wake-up callthat forced me to shift my
entire perspective.
Wayne Dyer once said when youchange the way you look at
(00:48):
things, the things that you lookat change.
And that is exactly what thispodcast is about Helping you see
your life in a new way so thatyou can start living with
authenticity, purpose andpassion.
Each week, I'm going to bringyou 30 minute episodes filled
with insights, practicalstrategies and inspiring
(01:15):
interviews to help you uncoverwhat truly lights you up and
identify what's been holding youback.
Eventually, this is going toignite your motivation and
create real change.
Are you ready to step into thelife you were meant to live?
Then just count me in, hit,subscribe and join me on this
journey.
If this episode resonates,please share it with a friend
(01:35):
who needs a little inspirationtoday.
Let's do this together.
Hi, welcome back and happy newmoon.
New moon in Aries today andit's an eclipse day, big day
astrologically.
So have you ever felt like everytime things start going well,
they fall apart for you?
Well, you're not really alonein this at all.
(01:58):
Can you think of a time whenyou actually sabotaged your own
success?
If you feel ready to create anidentity and a new identity and
increase your capacity for joyand success, this episode is
absolutely for you.
Join me.
(02:20):
So why does this happen?
Why do we sabotage?
I have clients and I love thepeople that I work with, so it
is hard sometimes, even as acoach, for me to remove myself
and just watch and then coachthem through these situations.
But literally in the last month,I had somebody who achieved a
(02:44):
huge accomplishment and she'sactually recovering.
She's a recovering addict andas soon as she got paid for her
first work opportunity where shewas speaking her truth, working
in her strength, literally thatnight.
(03:04):
It triggered her and she wentback to using and we're now
coming out of it.
She's now coming back out of it.
But so we explored what wasstill in there, what was still
in there that we hadn't cleared,and it's the same thing that
isn't in, wasn't in a studentthat got promoted to a higher
(03:29):
math class and did well, andthen, within about a month,
started going back to the samehabits because she almost didn't
feel comfortable, she wasalmost scared to succeed.
It was so unfamiliar to her.
So these things happen, and itreminded me of my initial
(03:49):
introduction to self-sabotage,which was in my own relationship
, my marriage and the two of us.
We would go along really wellfor quite a while and one of us
inevitably one or the other ofus would do something to trigger
the other person or somethingthat we knew would create a
(04:10):
fight, or we would just getanxious or depressed or feel
withdrawn and not know why,which really drove me nuts.
And he wasn't happy either.
And we knew we loved each other.
We knew that we loved eachother.
We knew that we needed to workthrough this and so, luckily,
through the research and throughthe school I attended and the
(04:33):
classes I did and the workshopsand all the psychology through
my career and the coaching thatI was receiving, we figured out
what it is, and it's due to afew different reasons.
It's due to a few differentthings when you sabotage your
success.
Okay, one of the reasons why iswe all know that the brain likes
(04:56):
familiar.
We didn't know that 40 yearsago, but we definitely know it
now.
The brain likes familiar andits job is to keep us safe.
So if it's normal for you,let's say you grew up in an
environment that was explosiveor your parents fought a lot,
and he actually grew up in ahouse with alcoholism, so it was
(05:18):
almost more anxiety producingfor him when things were going
well with us.
Because it's almost easier whenyou're in the thick of the bad
times, because you know you'regoing to make it through at that
point, than it is when thingsare going well and you're
waiting because you knowdisaster is just lurking right
(05:38):
around the corner but you don'tknow when.
So, like you really can't evenenjoy the good times at that
point.
Right, and when your brain isfamiliarized with that, you're
going to bring yourself back tothat, because it actually feels
threatened and scared when thereare prolonged periods of the
unfamiliar, happy, satisfied,content, joyful, successful type
(06:01):
emotions, which sounds crazybecause it makes no logical
sense.
But you're dealing with thesubconscious here.
Unfortunately, yoursubconscious is what runs the
show 90% of the time, so we needto address it at that level.
Another reason that weself-sabotage is a lot of the
scripts inside of us and there'sthings that we were programmed
(06:26):
with.
Usually, most of yourprogramming I think it's 90% of
your inner substance is formedby the time you're five years
old, definitely by the timeyou're seven.
You've heard a lot of thesethings and it's a matter of
examining beliefs and flippingbeliefs.
So if you find yourself eversaying this is too good to last,
(06:49):
or when things are going reallywell and you're saying this is
insane, I mean, think about it.
Is it really insane or is itreally something you deserve and
something you love andsomething you can enjoy?
Okay, good times don't lastforever is another one that I
was told very frequently, andyou know what they didn't,
because another thing we knowabout the brain is guess what it
(07:12):
likes to make itself right.
Our brain likes to make itselfright.
Our brain also cannot holdconflicting beliefs.
So I could be walking aroundwith smiley face stickers on
everything in the 1980s, but ifI had a belief that marriage is
only good for certain stages inyour life and you're going to
(07:34):
have multiple partners becausethe long life partners don't
really last, that doesn't reallyexist, which was a lot of my
negative programming exist,which was a lot of my negative
programming.
It's going to trip up because Icould think I'm in love and I
make vows for the rest of mylife.
But I know I also have thatother belief.
It can be like this foreverbecause you fill in the blank.
(07:58):
Or all men are blank, all womenare blank.
I don't really deserve thissuccess.
Okay, I'm not really goodenough for this right now.
Or this is possible, but notfor me, that's for other people.
So there's a lot of things thatwe say to ourselves and a lot of
(08:21):
beliefs that we have andconditioning that we have.
Too good to be true.
Well, you'll make sure to makeyourself right and it won't be.
So what do you do withsomething like that?
I mean, do you notice that youhave this pattern in any way?
(08:42):
Just think about it.
It can come up in your ownpersonal goals, like getting in
better shape or getting thehouse you want, having the
relationships you want.
It could come up in your job.
It can come up so manydifferent ways where you just
don't let yourself feel goodabout something for that long
(09:04):
and it's almost like you trip acircuit, like a circuit breaker
just trips because your braincan't handle it.
So now that we understand whyself-sabotage actually happens,
let's talk about how to stop it.
What do you think you couldpossibly do about this?
Because self-sabotage is sooften a result of limiting
(09:29):
beliefs.
The good news is they'resubject to change and that is
the beauty in all this.
I've seen the change.
I am living evidence thatthere's change in this and I'm
so happy.
I'm so happy.
I was raised that really a womancan do this or do that, not do
this and do that well, and I cando both well.
(09:51):
You know my mom was raised thateither you were pretty or you
were smart, and we know now youcan be both and these things
sound like no brainers, but I'lltell you what.
We've come a very long way andthey were believed for a very
long time.
I mean, women didn't even getthe vote for many years.
So one of the things you can dois to remind your brain what's
(10:16):
going on and have a littleconversation with yourself.
You can let yourself know hey,hey, you're safe, you're not
going to die.
This is just something new foryou.
And then you notice when youlearn to detect the drift.
You learn to detect when you'regoing off course a little bit
and Seth Godin talks aboutcatching the drift and making a
(10:37):
shift.
I love that in his book.
So you learn to catch thatdrift and you feel the trigger.
Take a little space, stop whatyou're doing, Don't proceed, let
that caution light go off andjust don't do anything for that
time and sit with it.
Okay, you can sit with thefeeling and we know, we were
(10:59):
taught and I've taught my kids90 seconds.
You feel an emotion fully andit lasts for 90 seconds.
Then it's what you're thinkingabout it.
That can last longer if youdon't feel it.
And the truth is that within 17seconds, if you can switch your
thought and this isresearch-based you will not call
(11:22):
in other like-minded thoughts.
So, for example, if I have adoubt and I start to go into
that self-criticism mode, if Ican quickly recognize it, catch
it and supplant it withsomething else within that 17
seconds.
And this is measured under MRIsof the brain, right, it's
(11:42):
measured under the scope that Iwill be able to change that, and
if I don't, well, we all knowwhat happens.
It's that two o'clock in themorning thing where you start
thinking one thing and then it'salmost as if the word gets out
hey, she's up and she's thinkingshe's solving the problems of
the world and all these otherproblems are like, oh good, the
door's open, I'm just going tocome in, right, so that those
(12:06):
are two things that you can dorecognize the emotion, and you
can also recognize it and flipit to something else.
Just think about something elseif those are harder for you to
do, and sometimes just thinkingabout something else is harder
for me.
One thing that I can always dois remember my breath.
(12:27):
So if I start to breathe deeply, if I start to slow my
breathing down, but if I canbreathe as though everything is
okay and calm down, that willchange the chemical reaction
that's going on in my mind andthen we can calmly tell
(12:52):
ourselves.
You know, practice is whatmakes this familiar and the
brain likes familiar.
And the more we work onrestating beliefs, writing down
what we believe we are.
We can use affirmations,because if we change, on a
(13:12):
subconscious level and aconscious level, what we're
saying to ourselves and what webelieve about ourselves and
remember, your mind can't holdconflicting beliefs and those
beliefs that areself-destructive will no longer
be true.
I use the book Atomic Habits alot when I coach.
(13:33):
It's one of my favorite booksand he talks about your identity
.
So, rather than say I'm goingto make sure that I exercise 30
minutes a day, six days a week,to get my cardio, I identify as
(13:58):
a person with greatcardiovascular health and I do
score in that excellent rangewith my cardiovascular health,
thank goodness, and it's becauseI do these things.
But I don't think about it interms of I'm going to do this
that many times a week.
That's just something that I dothat goes along with my
identity.
And when I'm doing somethingthat goes against my identity,
like blowing things off for morethan a couple days, I can feel
(14:20):
it and it kind of goes againstmy grain.
For more than a couple days, Ican feel it and it kind of goes
against my grain A big thing anda big part of why I think we
were able to make changes isthat I am very big on meditation
and we're going to have moresessions with meditation because
I do teach meditation.
But I want to give you the whybehind it.
(14:42):
Number one your GABA levelsincrease and they're showing now
that the gray matter, thedensity in your hippocampus and
the frontal regions, actuallygets affected when people
meditate, and that has to dowith the areas of emotional
regulation and executivethinking, which is the big
(15:03):
buzzword right now.
It decreases the volume thatgoes into your amygdala, which
is the stress, fear and anxietyin the prefrontal cortex, and it
helps you with planning anddecision making, and this is all
good for you.
Now, meditation has been arounda lot longer than brain
(15:24):
research, but since we're usedto going to google for
everything and we don't alwaysgo to scholars and people that
have had this wisdom for so manyyears, I figured I would give
you the rundown, because I doboth.
I believe in the wisdom and Ialso question things sometimes,
so I love it when there is braveresearch on something.
(15:46):
It makes me very, very happy.
So when I increase my capacityfor joy, I'm totally changing.
I make a shift and I changefrom someone who views happiness
(16:16):
and joy as states and emotionsthat are available, sometimes
more than they're available forme, to somebody that believes
that I can truly feel joy insideof my heart, even though all
the conditions might not behappy.
I can feel the joy andconnection that comes with
(16:36):
knowing that inside I haveunlimited capacity to receive
all that life has to give me, toreceive that joy, to receive
that love, to receive thatabundance, to receive the money.
And it's not as if I receive itso you'll get less.
(16:59):
That's a scarcity mentality.
It so you'll get less, that's ascarcity mentality.
It's all around us, all aroundus, all the time.
And, truth be told, when Ireceive more, I give more, so
everybody benefits.
The danger in not taking nippingthis habit in the bud is that
(17:23):
we can give up on something thatactually is good for us.
We can give up on being in thehigher mouth section.
We can give up on doing what welove for a living because look
see what happened.
We can give up on thatrelationship because we don't
make it more than two monthswithout a fight.
We can give up on things andit's our own patterns.
(17:47):
So self-sabotage is just aresult of limiting beliefs, and
they are subject to change.
Change.
(18:08):
The key to this is recognizingyour doubt, reframing your
mindset and then creating anidentity that's linked to
success.
So, if you notice this patternanywhere in your life and if you
think of times that you aresabotaging your own success, I
would encourage you to listen tothis episode again and please
subscribe, save and share.
(18:31):
Subscribing is good and ithelps to support the podcast.
I know I've not beenemphasizing that enough, so I'm
asking, please and please, ifthere's anyone you could share
this with, do it, and I'm hopingthat you're ready to break
through your limitations.
If you want to pursue thisfurther, please message me.
(18:53):
Now.
This is a new moon I mentionedthat earlier and that's the
beginning of a new lunar cycle,and as the moon withdraws her
glow, we felt a call the lastcouple weeks to turn inward, and
we have to do that.
We have to feel that, thatrenewal feeling to be open to
(19:13):
new beginnings.
So it's like.
It's like the ocean, it's liketrees, it's it's animals that
have dormant cycles, it's plantsthat don't flower all the time.
I have orchids and they justflower, but they don't
constantly flower.
Okay, there's a cycle forthings, there's season for
things.
So this lunar cycle, at thistime, it's a sacred time to just
(19:37):
release the old and renew yourspirit and be open to new
beginnings, so you can startthinking what is it that I want
to manifest and what's beengetting in my way?
In this episode, we worked onreleasing the blockages of
self-sabotage and this willrenew your energy sabotage and
(20:08):
this will renew your energy.
I hope you tune in with me nextweek when we work on some
manifestation practices.
Thank you so much for joiningme today.
If you like this episode,please let me know.
Stop by social media, onInstagram or my Facebook page,
just count me in and pleaseleave a comment.
If there's anybody that youthink could benefit from this
episode, please forward it tothem and I look forward to
(20:29):
seeing you next time.
We're all in this together.
Welcome to Just Count Me In, a podcast designed to
help you break free from yourlimitations and step into the
life that you actually weremeant to live.
I'm Sari Stone and I'm aholistic coach with a background
in education.
For the past six years, I'vebeen guiding people to transform
their lives from the inside out.
My journey, to be honest withyou, was not always clear out.
(00:27):
My journey to be honest withyou was not always clear.
For years, I actually felt likeI was living someone else's
life, checking all the rightboxes but never feeling quite
truly fulfilled.
That all changed when Iexperienced a few miracles, met
some incredible teachers and hada major wake-up call that
forced me to shift my entireperspective.
And had a major wake-up callthat forced me to shift my
entire perspective.
Wayne Dyer once said when youchange the way you look at
(00:48):
things, the things that you lookat change.
And that is exactly what thispodcast is about Helping you see
your life in a new way so thatyou can start living with
authenticity, purpose andpassion.
Each week, I'm going to bringyou 30 minute episodes filled
with insights, practicalstrategies and inspiring
(01:15):
interviews to help you uncoverwhat truly lights you up and
identify what's been holding youback.
Eventually, this is going toignite your motivation and
create real change.
Are you ready to step into thelife you were meant to live?
Then just count me in, hit,subscribe and join me on this
journey.
If this episode resonates,please share it with a friend
(01:35):
who needs a little inspirationtoday.
Let's do this together.
Hi, welcome back and happy newmoon.
New moon in Aries today andit's an eclipse day, big day
astrologically.
So have you ever felt like everytime things start going well,
they fall apart for you?
Well, you're not really alonein this at all.
(01:58):
Can you think of a time whenyou actually sabotaged your own
success?
If you feel ready to create anidentity and a new identity and
increase your capacity for joyand success, this episode is
absolutely for you.
Join me.
(02:20):
So why does this happen?
Why do we sabotage?
I have clients and I love thepeople that I work with, so it
is hard sometimes, even as acoach, for me to remove myself
and just watch and then coachthem through these situations.
But literally in the last month,I had somebody who achieved a
(02:44):
huge accomplishment and she'sactually recovering.
She's a recovering addict andas soon as she got paid for her
first work opportunity where shewas speaking her truth, working
in her strength, literally thatnight.
(03:04):
It triggered her and she wentback to using and we're now
coming out of it.
She's now coming back out of it.
But so we explored what wasstill in there, what was still
in there that we hadn't cleared,and it's the same thing that
isn't in, wasn't in a studentthat got promoted to a higher
(03:29):
math class and did well, andthen, within about a month,
started going back to the samehabits because she almost didn't
feel comfortable, she wasalmost scared to succeed.
It was so unfamiliar to her.
So these things happen, and itreminded me of my initial
(03:49):
introduction to self-sabotage,which was in my own relationship
, my marriage and the two of us.
We would go along really wellfor quite a while and one of us
inevitably one or the other ofus would do something to trigger
the other person or somethingthat we knew would create a
(04:10):
fight, or we would just getanxious or depressed or feel
withdrawn and not know why,which really drove me nuts.
And he wasn't happy either.
And we knew we loved each other.
We knew that we loved eachother.
We knew that we needed to workthrough this and so, luckily,
through the research and throughthe school I attended and the
(04:33):
classes I did and the workshopsand all the psychology through
my career and the coaching thatI was receiving, we figured out
what it is, and it's due to afew different reasons.
It's due to a few differentthings when you sabotage your
success.
Okay, one of the reasons why iswe all know that the brain likes
(04:56):
familiar.
We didn't know that 40 yearsago, but we definitely know it
now.
The brain likes familiar andits job is to keep us safe.
So if it's normal for you,let's say you grew up in an
environment that was explosiveor your parents fought a lot,
and he actually grew up in ahouse with alcoholism, so it was
(05:18):
almost more anxiety producingfor him when things were going
well with us.
Because it's almost easier whenyou're in the thick of the bad
times, because you know you'regoing to make it through at that
point, than it is when thingsare going well and you're
waiting because you knowdisaster is just lurking right
(05:38):
around the corner but you don'tknow when.
So, like you really can't evenenjoy the good times at that
point.
Right, and when your brain isfamiliarized with that, you're
going to bring yourself back tothat, because it actually feels
threatened and scared when thereare prolonged periods of the
unfamiliar, happy, satisfied,content, joyful, successful type
(06:01):
emotions, which sounds crazybecause it makes no logical
sense.
But you're dealing with thesubconscious here.
Unfortunately, yoursubconscious is what runs the
show 90% of the time, so we needto address it at that level.
Another reason that weself-sabotage is a lot of the
scripts inside of us and there'sthings that we were programmed
(06:26):
with.
Usually, most of yourprogramming I think it's 90% of
your inner substance is formedby the time you're five years
old, definitely by the timeyou're seven.
You've heard a lot of thesethings and it's a matter of
examining beliefs and flippingbeliefs.
So if you find yourself eversaying this is too good to last,
(06:49):
or when things are going reallywell and you're saying this is
insane, I mean, think about it.
Is it really insane or is itreally something you deserve and
something you love andsomething you can enjoy?
Okay, good times don't lastforever is another one that I
was told very frequently, andyou know what they didn't,
because another thing we knowabout the brain is guess what it
(07:12):
likes to make itself right.
Our brain likes to make itselfright.
Our brain also cannot holdconflicting beliefs.
So I could be walking aroundwith smiley face stickers on
everything in the 1980s, but ifI had a belief that marriage is
only good for certain stages inyour life and you're going to
(07:34):
have multiple partners becausethe long life partners don't
really last, that doesn't reallyexist, which was a lot of my
negative programming exist,which was a lot of my negative
programming.
It's going to trip up because Icould think I'm in love and I
make vows for the rest of mylife.
But I know I also have thatother belief.
It can be like this foreverbecause you fill in the blank.
(07:58):
Or all men are blank, all womenare blank.
I don't really deserve thissuccess.
Okay, I'm not really goodenough for this right now.
Or this is possible, but notfor me, that's for other people.
So there's a lot of things thatwe say to ourselves and a lot of
(08:21):
beliefs that we have andconditioning that we have.
Too good to be true.
Well, you'll make sure to makeyourself right and it won't be.
So what do you do withsomething like that?
I mean, do you notice that youhave this pattern in any way?
(08:42):
Just think about it.
It can come up in your ownpersonal goals, like getting in
better shape or getting thehouse you want, having the
relationships you want.
It could come up in your job.
It can come up so manydifferent ways where you just
don't let yourself feel goodabout something for that long
(09:04):
and it's almost like you trip acircuit, like a circuit breaker
just trips because your braincan't handle it.
So now that we understand whyself-sabotage actually happens,
let's talk about how to stop it.
What do you think you couldpossibly do about this?
Because self-sabotage is sooften a result of limiting
(09:29):
beliefs.
The good news is they'resubject to change and that is
the beauty in all this.
I've seen the change.
I am living evidence thatthere's change in this and I'm
so happy.
I'm so happy.
I was raised that really a womancan do this or do that, not do
this and do that well, and I cando both well.
(09:51):
You know my mom was raised thateither you were pretty or you
were smart, and we know now youcan be both and these things
sound like no brainers, but I'lltell you what.
We've come a very long way andthey were believed for a very
long time.
I mean, women didn't even getthe vote for many years.
So one of the things you can dois to remind your brain what's
(10:16):
going on and have a littleconversation with yourself.
You can let yourself know hey,hey, you're safe, you're not
going to die.
This is just something new foryou.
And then you notice when youlearn to detect the drift.
You learn to detect when you'regoing off course a little bit
and Seth Godin talks aboutcatching the drift and making a
(10:37):
shift.
I love that in his book.
So you learn to catch thatdrift and you feel the trigger.
Take a little space, stop whatyou're doing, Don't proceed, let
that caution light go off andjust don't do anything for that
time and sit with it.
Okay, you can sit with thefeeling and we know, we were
(10:59):
taught and I've taught my kids90 seconds.
You feel an emotion fully andit lasts for 90 seconds.
Then it's what you're thinkingabout it.
That can last longer if youdon't feel it.
And the truth is that within 17seconds, if you can switch your
thought and this isresearch-based you will not call
(11:22):
in other like-minded thoughts.
So, for example, if I have adoubt and I start to go into
that self-criticism mode, if Ican quickly recognize it, catch
it and supplant it withsomething else within that 17
seconds.
And this is measured under MRIsof the brain, right, it's
(11:42):
measured under the scope that Iwill be able to change that, and
if I don't, well, we all knowwhat happens.
It's that two o'clock in themorning thing where you start
thinking one thing and then it'salmost as if the word gets out
hey, she's up and she's thinkingshe's solving the problems of
the world and all these otherproblems are like, oh good, the
door's open, I'm just going tocome in, right, so that those
(12:06):
are two things that you can dorecognize the emotion, and you
can also recognize it and flipit to something else.
Just think about something elseif those are harder for you to
do, and sometimes just thinkingabout something else is harder
for me.
One thing that I can always dois remember my breath.
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So if I start to breathe deeply, if I start to slow my
breathing down, but if I canbreathe as though everything is
okay and calm down, that willchange the chemical reaction
that's going on in my mind andthen we can calmly tell
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ourselves.
You know, practice is whatmakes this familiar and the
brain likes familiar.
And the more we work onrestating beliefs, writing down
what we believe we are.
We can use affirmations,because if we change, on a
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subconscious level and aconscious level, what we're
saying to ourselves and what webelieve about ourselves and
remember, your mind can't holdconflicting beliefs and those
beliefs that areself-destructive will no longer
be true.
I use the book Atomic Habits alot when I coach.
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It's one of my favorite booksand he talks about your identity
.
So, rather than say I'm goingto make sure that I exercise 30
minutes a day, six days a week,to get my cardio, I identify as
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a person with greatcardiovascular health and I do
score in that excellent rangewith my cardiovascular health,
thank goodness, and it's becauseI do these things.
But I don't think about it interms of I'm going to do this
that many times a week.
That's just something that I dothat goes along with my
identity.
And when I'm doing somethingthat goes against my identity,
like blowing things off for morethan a couple days, I can feel
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it and it kind of goes againstmy grain.
For more than a couple days, Ican feel it and it kind of goes
against my grain A big thing anda big part of why I think we
were able to make changes isthat I am very big on meditation
and we're going to have moresessions with meditation because
I do teach meditation.
But I want to give you the whybehind it.
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Number one your GABA levelsincrease and they're showing now
that the gray matter, thedensity in your hippocampus and
the frontal regions, actuallygets affected when people
meditate, and that has to dowith the areas of emotional
regulation and executivethinking, which is the big
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buzzword right now.
It decreases the volume thatgoes into your amygdala, which
is the stress, fear and anxietyin the prefrontal cortex, and it
helps you with planning anddecision making, and this is all
good for you.
Now, meditation has been arounda lot longer than brain
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research, but since we're usedto going to google for
everything and we don't alwaysgo to scholars and people that
have had this wisdom for so manyyears, I figured I would give
you the rundown, because I doboth.
I believe in the wisdom and Ialso question things sometimes,
so I love it when there is braveresearch on something.
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It makes me very, very happy.
So when I increase my capacityfor joy, I'm totally changing.
I make a shift and I changefrom someone who views happiness
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and joy as states and emotionsthat are available, sometimes
more than they're available forme, to somebody that believes
that I can truly feel joy insideof my heart, even though all
the conditions might not behappy.
I can feel the joy andconnection that comes with
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knowing that inside I haveunlimited capacity to receive
all that life has to give me, toreceive that joy, to receive
that love, to receive thatabundance, to receive the money.
And it's not as if I receive itso you'll get less.
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That's a scarcity mentality.
It so you'll get less, that's ascarcity mentality.
It's all around us, all aroundus, all the time.
And, truth be told, when Ireceive more, I give more, so
everybody benefits.
The danger in not taking nippingthis habit in the bud is that
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we can give up on something thatactually is good for us.
We can give up on being in thehigher mouth section.
We can give up on doing what welove for a living because look
see what happened.
We can give up on thatrelationship because we don't
make it more than two monthswithout a fight.
We can give up on things andit's our own patterns.
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So self-sabotage is just aresult of limiting beliefs, and
they are subject to change.
Change.
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The key to this is recognizingyour doubt, reframing your
mindset and then creating anidentity that's linked to
success.
So, if you notice this patternanywhere in your life and if you
think of times that you aresabotaging your own success, I
would encourage you to listen tothis episode again and please
subscribe, save and share.
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Subscribing is good and ithelps to support the podcast.
I know I've not beenemphasizing that enough, so I'm
asking, please and please, ifthere's anyone you could share
this with, do it, and I'm hopingthat you're ready to break
through your limitations.
If you want to pursue thisfurther, please message me.
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Now.
This is a new moon I mentionedthat earlier and that's the
beginning of a new lunar cycle,and as the moon withdraws her
glow, we felt a call the lastcouple weeks to turn inward, and
we have to do that.
We have to feel that, thatrenewal feeling to be open to
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new beginnings.
So it's like.
It's like the ocean, it's liketrees, it's it's animals that
have dormant cycles, it's plantsthat don't flower all the time.
I have orchids and they justflower, but they don't
constantly flower.
Okay, there's a cycle forthings, there's season for
things.
So this lunar cycle, at thistime, it's a sacred time to just
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release the old and renew yourspirit and be open to new
beginnings, so you can startthinking what is it that I want
to manifest and what's beengetting in my way?
In this episode, we worked onreleasing the blockages of
self-sabotage and this willrenew your energy sabotage and
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this will renew your energy.
I hope you tune in with me nextweek when we work on some
manifestation practices.
Thank you so much for joiningme today.
If you like this episode,please let me know.
Stop by social media, onInstagram or my Facebook page,
just count me in and pleaseleave a comment.
If there's anybody that youthink could benefit from this
episode, please forward it tothem and I look forward to
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seeing you next time.
We're all in this together.
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