May 19, 2025 • 30 mins
Letting go is not about loss or giving up—it's about liberation and making space for who we're becoming. This episode explores how true freedom comes when we align with our authentic selves. Let go to grow.
• Letting go requires addressing the root causes of our attachments, not just changing surface behaviors
• Parents often struggle with knowing when and how to let go
• Our habits and patterns serve deeper needs that must be acknowledged before lasting change can occur
• True safety comes from alignment with our authentic selves, not from controlling our circumstances
• Rescuing others from failure robs them of valuable life lessons and growth opportunities
• Journal prompts and affirmations help identify what needs to be released
• Guided meditation to integrate your work
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Welcome to Just Count Me In, a podcast designed to
help you break free from yourlimitations and step into the
life that you actually weremeant to live.
I'm Sari Stone and I'm aholistic coach with a background
in education.
For the past six years, I'vebeen guiding people to transform
their lives from the inside out.
My journey, to be honest withyou, was not always clear out.
(00:27):
My journey to be honest withyou was not always clear.
For years, I actually felt likeI was living someone else's
life, checking all the rightboxes but never feeling quite
truly fulfilled.
That all changed when Iexperienced a few miracles, met
some incredible teachers and hada major wake-up call that
forced me to shift my entireperspective.
And had a major wake-up callthat forced me to shift my
entire perspective.
Wayne Dyer once said when youchange the way you look at
(00:48):
things, the things that you lookat change.
And that is exactly what thispodcast is about Helping you see
your life in a new way so thatyou can start living with
authenticity, purpose andpassion.
Each week, I'm going to bringyou 30 minute episodes filled
with insights, practicalstrategies and inspiring
(01:15):
interviews to help you uncoverwhat truly lights you up and
identify what's been holding youback.
Eventually, this is going toignite your motivation and
create real change.
Are you ready to step into thelife you were meant to live?
Then just count me in, hit,subscribe and join me on this
journey.
If this episode resonates,please share it with a friend
(01:35):
who needs a little inspirationtoday.
Let's do this together In orderto live our best life.
We realize at some point thatwe have to let go, and this
episode is about letting go.
It's about letting go not justphysically, but emotionally,
(02:01):
mentally, spirituallyEmotionally, mentally,
spiritually.
This episode is for people whoare getting ready to take the
next step into their best livesand notice when they look around
that there are some things tolet go of, a little bit of
clutter to clear.
(02:21):
So I hope you enjoy it.
Thank you again for joining.
Transform your Life.
Just count me in.
Letting go is not about givingup.
It's about making space.
It's not loss.
Letting go is actuallyliberation.
It's making space for peace,making space for truth in your
(02:46):
life and making space for who weare becoming.
I hope you enjoy this episode.
In this season of transformationand, as I mentioned before, I
have five seniors graduatingthat I'm coaching and parents I
work with and even in my ownlife there's actually been a few
(03:06):
things that have come up latelyand letting go of people as
they transition, the finaltransition die.
So letting go has come up a lotand letting go is so necessary
for us to be able to move on andmake the changes that we want
(03:27):
to see in our lives and becomethe person that we want to be in
our lives.
We take a look around and we'relike, oh, I thought I was ready
, but I've got this stuff andit's like gum on the bottom of
your shoe and you know you thinkyou just wipe it off, but there
it is and you've got to figureout another way to get it off
because it's sticking to you andyou can't take a step without
(03:49):
it making a big string.
I mean, we've all stepped ingum at some point and it's gummy
, it's sticky, and then yourealize that you let go for
different reasons and that's thething.
Letting go is so much deeperthan simply saying I let go,
because if we don't make theenergetic shift inside of
(04:13):
ourselves to figure out why westarted doing this to begin with
, we're just going to recreatethe same thing in another form
with.
We're just going to recreatethe same thing in another form.
So example maybe, um, maybe ifyou're leaving a job or you've
got a boss who's abusive, if wedon't look at the root cause of
(04:35):
why you allow this to go on?
To begin with, meaning you'vegot a belief of about what you
deserve.
Maybe you've got a belief thatyou're not enough.
Maybe there's a belief thatwork has to be hard and you have
to suffer in order to succeed.
I don't know any.
You fill in the blank.
(04:55):
You're going to then createthat same situation in your next
job relationship, etc.
Letting go of children is one ofthe hardest things and
personally one of the hardestthings and personally one of the
hardest things I have doneletting go of habits and letting
go of some thoughts.
So it's a lot deeper and whenit comes to our children and our
(05:24):
families, we're not actuallyletting go of them.
We're letting go of our need tocontrol the part of us that
wants everything to be okay,everyone to be happy, so that we
can feel like we've done ourjob well, um, and it?
This was probably the hardestone for me, worse even than
quitting smoking cigarettes,which, I'm embarrassed to say, I
(05:45):
ever even did, but I did.
I've got to own all parts ofmyself and this one was hard
because I had to look at thereason and you can't blame your
parents forever.
But basically I was raised in ahousehold where I was the strong
one, I was the one they couldcount on to always be okay and
(06:06):
as a result, they communicatedthat it was as if I had control
over everything, and I mean mydad, up until gosh.
He was in his nineties andcalling me saying well, how
could you let that happen?
Like if one of my children whowere adults, adults, was going
through a hard time and I fullytook that on.
(06:27):
I was like, I don't know,they're living their own lives,
so I could intellectualize it,but I deeply had a belief that I
had to be sure that everybodywas okay all the time.
Or it was my fault, myresponsibility was okay all the
(06:47):
time, or it was my fault.
My responsibility and that wasthe deepest one for me to clear
and created, you know, for awhile, their separation with my
children, because they couldfeel it that I needed them to be
okay.
I don't, I prefer that they'reokay, but I can honestly say
finally, I don't need for themto be okay for me to be okay, so
(07:08):
that one is a tough one.
Letting go as a parent also,like we're used to mentoring our
children If you have youngerchildren, letting go is very
emotional.
And the parents I've beentalking to, especially the
parents of seniors we wantwhat's best for them, we want to
protect them, we want tosupport them, but often we
(07:31):
actually end up holding on tootightly, which has the opposite
effect.
So another thing that came upthat was popular this past week
in my coaching for letting gowas letting go of expectations
Expectations of how other peopleshould act, expectations of who
(07:53):
our children should be, howthey should behave, even how our
family should look.
We have a lot of affiliationand identity based around our
family and this is difficultbecause when our children are
small, we actually areresponsible for their safety.
So where's the line betweenprotection and control?
(08:13):
It's delicate and it takes alot of self-awareness and
redirecting them back to what istheir truth so that we can
release a little bit knowing andtrusting that they've got a
strong foundation with who theyare from which to make their
decisions.
(08:36):
When we talk about letting go,we've also talked about letting
go of habits this week.
And it's important to lookbeyond the surface, because
habits don't just come out ofnowhere.
They often rise up to meet adeeper need, like you can quit
smoking and then become reallyanxious.
So you have to look.
Why did I start?
(08:56):
I started because I wanted tofeel grown up, like I could
handle what was going on in mylife and I could feel calmer and
in more control so I could quitthe cigarettes.
But then I had to deal with whyI started them.
Right, it's the same thing withclients I've had that stopped
drinking and then they startedoverworking or overeating.
(09:20):
Because if we don't address theroot cause when we're letting go
, if we're not, don't sit withit and honestly ask ourselves
what started this?
When was the first time I feltlike I needed to do this, and
was it love or was it fear?
Usually it's fear if it'ssomething we want to let go of.
And where did that fear comefrom?
(09:43):
So we literally, unless weaddress the root, the emotional
need, the wound or the beliefthat the habit was just kind of
covering up or medicating, we'relikely just to drift this
energy right into something else, which is why so many times
when we let go of things.
(10:04):
They come back.
So they come back just in adifferent form.
Letting go isn't really anaction.
It's the result of a shift ofenergy, and this was something
(10:24):
that Stan brought to myattention.
It's a change in our vibration.
It's a change in our frequency.
Sometimes we let go becausewe've just had enough.
It hurts too much to hold on,or maybe we sense that something
is interfering with our highestand greatest good.
Or, for me, if it's interferingwith my happy because I'm a
happy person and I don't like itwhen anything messes with my
(10:45):
happy I've got to figure out howto choose thoughts that align
with that and let go of theother.
Sometimes letting go doesn'tcome from a moment of pain, like
graduating high school orleaving a soccer team that
you've been on for five years.
It comes from clarity, likethere's an inner alignment that
(11:09):
says I'm not a match for thisanymore, I no longer need this
and it just.
Those are the easiest becausethey kind of.
You have to think about it, butthen they just kind of fall
away.
You know people that we'veoutgrown places that don't feel
right, jobs where you feel likeyou've gotten all that you can.
(11:31):
So at its core, we really don'tcrave certainty and control.
What we are wanting is safety.
We want our children to be safe, we want ourselves to be safe,
but safety doesn't always comefrom knowing how things will
turn out.
We really can't always know howthings are going to turn out.
We can predict from likelihood,but possibilities are endless.
(11:59):
Possibilities meaning what ifin a good way, not possibilities
meaning what could go along,but technically we're not really
in control of as much as wewould like to be.
So then you've got at some point, give up and just let go and
trust.
What you can count on isyourself.
You can count on the wisdominside of you, you can count on
(12:25):
the part of you when you comehome.
That shows you what feels good,so trusting in the process,
that life is going to support us, and life supports growth.
So if you're struggling to letgo, maybe the real invitation
(12:45):
isn't to force the release, butit's to shift your energy and to
change your relationship withthe thing that you're holding on
to, to become more aligned withyour truth, and then that which
no longer serves you will startto gently fall away.
No longer serves, you willstart to gently fall away.
(13:07):
Letting go becomes a byproductof healing, of presence, of
wholeness.
Just to give a little recap asparents, we're not letting go of
our children.
We let go of our need to manageevery detail of their life and
attachment to the outcome andensure their happiness, just to
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feel like we've done our jobright.
Yes, we do need to let go ofthat.
As far as expectations go, wecan let go of how life, family
or success should look.
What if this is success?
What if this is success?
What if this is success andit's not what you had on your
vision board last year?
Or it's not what you thoughtyou would be five years from now
(13:54):
or five years ago, you know,and there's a place for those
things.
But sometimes the closer I getto myself, the less I need it,
because the more it's justnaturally happening.
So when we try to break habits,we have to ask what need was
this habit needing?
And if we don't meet the rootneed in a new way, the pattern
(14:18):
just returns in a different form.
Letting go often happens whenwe just can't carry the weight
anymore or our soul knows it'stime.
But deeper than that, ithappens when we shift internally
, when we remember that we don'tneed certainty, we need safety,
and safety is actually found inalignment more so than control.
(14:43):
Alignment more so than control.
So what actually does it looklike to let go?
My coach used to alwaysencourage me to ask is this mine
?
First of all, if I feelsomething that is not right, is
out of alignment in my life, orif it's a pattern I've been in,
(15:08):
she would say ask is this mineor have I just picked up on
something around me?
Was it a belief that my parentshad?
Was it something that I saw?
Was it trying to compare myselfwith somebody's perfect life on
social media posts?
Is this really really mine?
Do I own this?
And then, if it is, takeanother deep breath and pause
(15:32):
and, instead of pushing, tryallowing allowing the people
around you to fail sometimes andlearn from their failure.
When we try to rescue people,we're actually robbing them of
(15:52):
the opportunity that they'rebeing presented with to further
their soul's evolution, theirlife lesson.
When we go and rescue and fixand prevent failure all the time
, we are, in essence, taking theopportunity from them.
We're taking the lesson.
It's not our lesson, it's theirlesson.
So then that lesson will justcome back again in a different
(16:13):
form to them, so we're actuallynot doing them a favor.
Letting go also looks likereleasing the belief that you're
not doing enough.
This was a tough one for mebecause I always felt like there
could be more give till ithurts.
You can always do better.
(16:34):
You know what.
These are not beliefs that Iwould ever want my children to
have or my clients to have, andpart of it had to do with making
peace with the past, and I hadto forgive all parts of myself
(16:56):
and forgive other people theperson, not the actions before I
could move on and not keepgetting hooked into that pattern
.
It always starts with this isno longer mine to carry.
I let it go.
And letting go creates such abeautiful space for miracles to
(17:18):
come in and for healing andclarity and a deeper connection
with ourselves and others.
So ask yourself think about it.
What do I need to let go ofright now?
What would I like to let go ofright now?
Where can I choose peace overcontrol?
(17:41):
Because letting go isliberation and that's your life.
I'd like to give you somejournal prompts if you have a
moment, or you can always comeback to this if you're listening
in your car, because I findthat journaling really helps me
(18:04):
personally process things.
A lot of times things come outwhen I'm putting them from my
mind onto the paper that Iwouldn't normally say.
So some of these prompts are isthere a belief that I have that
(18:25):
is telling me I must controlthings for them to be okay?
And where did that come from?
When I look at my life, whathabit or pattern keeps
resurfacing and what's thedeeper need behind it?
Is it safety?
(18:47):
Is it recognition?
Is it just?
Is it recognition Just?
Take a look when I think of atime that I've let go before.
What forces came into play?
How did life support me when Ilet that go?
How can I detach fromexpectations?
(19:12):
What would it look like totrust more and grip less?
So letting go creates so muchroom for healing, for clarity,
(19:35):
for a deeper connection toourselves.
I would suggest that you spendsome time with this.
Don't rush.
You can also ask yourself whatthoughts or beliefs have been
feeling heavy and where am Igiving my energy to something
(19:55):
that does not serve me anymore?
And here are some affirmationsthat you might want to use and
please, if you have some, thatyou write, please share them
with me.
I love hearing from you.
I'm just starting to hear frompeople now and I hope it's a
trend.
Please message me.
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I let go of what no longerresonates with my highest self.
I honor this cycle of lettinggo and welcome the peace.
I trust what is meant for mewill stay and what isn't will
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gently fall away.
As I lighten my energy, I makespace for miracles and my
favorite I am safe to grow.
I am safe to grow.
I am safe to change.
It's safe for me to let go.
I let go with love.
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I put together a shortmeditation to go along with this
theme of letting go and I wouldrecommend that you come back to
it and play it, even if it'sjust that section, once a day
for a period of a couple weeks,two or three weeks.
(21:20):
21 days is the magic number foryour brain, but some people
they can listen to it once andget a lot out of it, just to
start making those neuralconnections.
I hope you enjoy it.
So begin by finding a quietplace where you won't be
(21:42):
disturbed and allow yourself tosit or lie down comfortably and
just gently close the eyes down,and you can even, if you like,
roll as though you're looking uptoward the ceiling, even though
your eyelids are closed.
Take a deep breath in throughyour nose and exhale slowly
(22:16):
through your mouth.
Let's do that again.
Inhale deeply and exhalecompletely, emptying out, and
exhale completely emptying out.
With each breath, feel yourbody begin to soften, to settle,
(22:46):
to let go.
So breathe in, let and breatheout, go.
You are safe, you are supportedand you have nothing to worry
about right now, just yourbreath.
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Now imagine a gentle wave ofrelaxation.
It begins at the top of yourhead and it flows down across
your forehead.
And it flows down across yourforehead, behind your eyes, your
(23:37):
cheeks, your jaw.
Feel your shoulders release,your arms become soft and heavy.
This wave of peace moves downyour spine, your chest, your
stomach, radiates around yourheart, all the way down through
(23:58):
your toes, and with every breathyou're drifting deeper, deeper
into the stillness, deeper intothe calm You're letting go.
Now imagine that you're holdinga lantern and it's beautiful.
(24:23):
Inside this lantern iseverything you've been carrying
your thoughts, your beliefs,your expectations, your pressure
, even emotions that no longerserve you.
(24:46):
This lantern's not a burden,it's a blessing.
It's shown you who you were.
Now it's time to set it down sogently, with love and gratitude
(25:11):
and great presence andreverence.
You place it on the ground and,as you do, you feel lighter,
freer, more connected to yourtrue self.
You whisper to yourself I amallowed to feel light, to begin
(25:56):
again.
I let go and rise.
You walk forward barefoot, free,unburdened into a beautiful
moonlit field.
The waning moon shines overhead, reminding you that release is
a part of growth.
Letting go is letting in.
(26:17):
Endings are secret and youdon't have to hold on to
everything to prove your worth.
You are enough just as you are.
As you relax into the safespace, allow these truths gently
(26:45):
to seep into your subconscious.
I am worthy of peace and ease.
I trust in the divine.
I trust in the process.
I am safe to let go of the oldand make space for the new.
(27:11):
What is meant for me will stay.
I choose presence.
I choose joy.
I choose joy.
I choose alignment.
(27:32):
I choose love.
I choose me.
Let these words echo, gentle inyour heart, becoming part of
your new inner script.
Feel where they land.
(27:54):
If they had a color, what colorwould they be?
Where do you feel the most inyour body?
Now, slowly bring yourattention back into your body
(28:14):
and feel the ground beneath you,feel the earth supporting you.
Your breath is moving in andout.
Wiggle your fingers and toes,sw swallow to release your jaw,
gently stretch your arms if youwant and then, when you're ready
(28:36):
, slowly open your eyes,returning to the room.
The same, yet different, becauseyou are returning with more
clarity, more peace, a deepknowing You've gone home, you've
(28:59):
cleaned house and you've let go.
You had to let go.
You're lighter now and you'velet go.
You had to let go.
You're lighter now and you'refree to rise.
And if this episode resonatedwith you, please share it with a
(29:28):
friend or family member whoneeds to hear it.
And don't forget to subscribe,rate and leave me a review.
Your words really help thiscommunity to grow and your
feedback is so important for me.
If you're looking for deepersupport in letting go or
shifting habits, finding clarityin personal growth or parenting
, please DM me or visit me on myInstagram and book a free
(29:52):
clarity call.
I'm giving those out for thismonth of May.
Thank you.
Welcome to Just Count Me In, a podcast designed to
help you break free from yourlimitations and step into the
life that you actually weremeant to live.
I'm Sari Stone and I'm aholistic coach with a background
in education.
For the past six years, I'vebeen guiding people to transform
their lives from the inside out.
My journey, to be honest withyou, was not always clear out.
(00:27):
My journey to be honest withyou was not always clear.
For years, I actually felt likeI was living someone else's
life, checking all the rightboxes but never feeling quite
truly fulfilled.
That all changed when Iexperienced a few miracles, met
some incredible teachers and hada major wake-up call that
forced me to shift my entireperspective.
And had a major wake-up callthat forced me to shift my
entire perspective.
Wayne Dyer once said when youchange the way you look at
(00:48):
things, the things that you lookat change.
And that is exactly what thispodcast is about Helping you see
your life in a new way so thatyou can start living with
authenticity, purpose andpassion.
Each week, I'm going to bringyou 30 minute episodes filled
with insights, practicalstrategies and inspiring
(01:15):
interviews to help you uncoverwhat truly lights you up and
identify what's been holding youback.
Eventually, this is going toignite your motivation and
create real change.
Are you ready to step into thelife you were meant to live?
Then just count me in, hit,subscribe and join me on this
journey.
If this episode resonates,please share it with a friend
(01:35):
who needs a little inspirationtoday.
Let's do this together In orderto live our best life.
We realize at some point thatwe have to let go, and this
episode is about letting go.
It's about letting go not justphysically, but emotionally,
(02:01):
mentally, spirituallyEmotionally, mentally,
spiritually.
This episode is for people whoare getting ready to take the
next step into their best livesand notice when they look around
that there are some things tolet go of, a little bit of
clutter to clear.
(02:21):
So I hope you enjoy it.
Thank you again for joining.
Transform your Life.
Just count me in.
Letting go is not about givingup.
It's about making space.
It's not loss.
Letting go is actuallyliberation.
It's making space for peace,making space for truth in your
(02:46):
life and making space for who weare becoming.
I hope you enjoy this episode.
In this season of transformationand, as I mentioned before, I
have five seniors graduatingthat I'm coaching and parents I
work with and even in my ownlife there's actually been a few
(03:06):
things that have come up latelyand letting go of people as
they transition, the finaltransition die.
So letting go has come up a lotand letting go is so necessary
for us to be able to move on andmake the changes that we want
(03:27):
to see in our lives and becomethe person that we want to be in
our lives.
We take a look around and we'relike, oh, I thought I was ready
, but I've got this stuff andit's like gum on the bottom of
your shoe and you know you thinkyou just wipe it off, but there
it is and you've got to figureout another way to get it off
because it's sticking to you andyou can't take a step without
(03:49):
it making a big string.
I mean, we've all stepped ingum at some point and it's gummy
, it's sticky, and then yourealize that you let go for
different reasons and that's thething.
Letting go is so much deeperthan simply saying I let go,
because if we don't make theenergetic shift inside of
(04:13):
ourselves to figure out why westarted doing this to begin with
, we're just going to recreatethe same thing in another form
with.
We're just going to recreatethe same thing in another form.
So example maybe, um, maybe ifyou're leaving a job or you've
got a boss who's abusive, if wedon't look at the root cause of
(04:35):
why you allow this to go on?
To begin with, meaning you'vegot a belief of about what you
deserve.
Maybe you've got a belief thatyou're not enough.
Maybe there's a belief thatwork has to be hard and you have
to suffer in order to succeed.
I don't know any.
You fill in the blank.
(04:55):
You're going to then createthat same situation in your next
job relationship, etc.
Letting go of children is one ofthe hardest things and
personally one of the hardestthings and personally one of the
hardest things I have doneletting go of habits and letting
go of some thoughts.
So it's a lot deeper and whenit comes to our children and our
(05:24):
families, we're not actuallyletting go of them.
We're letting go of our need tocontrol the part of us that
wants everything to be okay,everyone to be happy, so that we
can feel like we've done ourjob well, um, and it?
This was probably the hardestone for me, worse even than
quitting smoking cigarettes,which, I'm embarrassed to say, I
(05:45):
ever even did, but I did.
I've got to own all parts ofmyself and this one was hard
because I had to look at thereason and you can't blame your
parents forever.
But basically I was raised in ahousehold where I was the strong
one, I was the one they couldcount on to always be okay and
(06:06):
as a result, they communicatedthat it was as if I had control
over everything, and I mean mydad, up until gosh.
He was in his nineties andcalling me saying well, how
could you let that happen?
Like if one of my children whowere adults, adults, was going
through a hard time and I fullytook that on.
(06:27):
I was like, I don't know,they're living their own lives,
so I could intellectualize it,but I deeply had a belief that I
had to be sure that everybodywas okay all the time.
Or it was my fault, myresponsibility was okay all the
(06:47):
time, or it was my fault.
My responsibility and that wasthe deepest one for me to clear
and created, you know, for awhile, their separation with my
children, because they couldfeel it that I needed them to be
okay.
I don't, I prefer that they'reokay, but I can honestly say
finally, I don't need for themto be okay for me to be okay, so
(07:08):
that one is a tough one.
Letting go as a parent also,like we're used to mentoring our
children If you have youngerchildren, letting go is very
emotional.
And the parents I've beentalking to, especially the
parents of seniors we wantwhat's best for them, we want to
protect them, we want tosupport them, but often we
(07:31):
actually end up holding on tootightly, which has the opposite
effect.
So another thing that came upthat was popular this past week
in my coaching for letting gowas letting go of expectations
Expectations of how other peopleshould act, expectations of who
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our children should be, howthey should behave, even how our
family should look.
We have a lot of affiliationand identity based around our
family and this is difficultbecause when our children are
small, we actually areresponsible for their safety.
So where's the line betweenprotection and control?
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It's delicate and it takes alot of self-awareness and
redirecting them back to what istheir truth so that we can
release a little bit knowing andtrusting that they've got a
strong foundation with who theyare from which to make their
decisions.
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When we talk about letting go,we've also talked about letting
go of habits this week.
And it's important to lookbeyond the surface, because
habits don't just come out ofnowhere.
They often rise up to meet adeeper need, like you can quit
smoking and then become reallyanxious.
So you have to look.
Why did I start?
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I started because I wanted tofeel grown up, like I could
handle what was going on in mylife and I could feel calmer and
in more control so I could quitthe cigarettes.
But then I had to deal with whyI started them.
Right, it's the same thing withclients I've had that stopped
drinking and then they startedoverworking or overeating.
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Because if we don't address theroot cause when we're letting go
, if we're not, don't sit withit and honestly ask ourselves
what started this?
When was the first time I feltlike I needed to do this, and
was it love or was it fear?
Usually it's fear if it'ssomething we want to let go of.
And where did that fear comefrom?
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So we literally, unless weaddress the root, the emotional
need, the wound or the beliefthat the habit was just kind of
covering up or medicating, we'relikely just to drift this
energy right into something else, which is why so many times
when we let go of things.
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They come back.
So they come back just in adifferent form.
Letting go isn't really anaction.
It's the result of a shift ofenergy, and this was something
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that Stan brought to myattention.
It's a change in our vibration.
It's a change in our frequency.
Sometimes we let go becausewe've just had enough.
It hurts too much to hold on,or maybe we sense that something
is interfering with our highestand greatest good.
Or, for me, if it's interferingwith my happy because I'm a
happy person and I don't like itwhen anything messes with my
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happy I've got to figure out howto choose thoughts that align
with that and let go of theother.
Sometimes letting go doesn'tcome from a moment of pain, like
graduating high school orleaving a soccer team that
you've been on for five years.
It comes from clarity, likethere's an inner alignment that
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says I'm not a match for thisanymore, I no longer need this
and it just.
Those are the easiest becausethey kind of.
You have to think about it, butthen they just kind of fall
away.
You know people that we'veoutgrown places that don't feel
right, jobs where you feel likeyou've gotten all that you can.
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So at its core, we really don'tcrave certainty and control.
What we are wanting is safety.
We want our children to be safe, we want ourselves to be safe,
but safety doesn't always comefrom knowing how things will
turn out.
We really can't always know howthings are going to turn out.
We can predict from likelihood,but possibilities are endless.
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Possibilities meaning what ifin a good way, not possibilities
meaning what could go along,but technically we're not really
in control of as much as wewould like to be.
So then you've got at some point, give up and just let go and
trust.
What you can count on isyourself.
You can count on the wisdominside of you, you can count on
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the part of you when you comehome.
That shows you what feels good,so trusting in the process,
that life is going to support us, and life supports growth.
So if you're struggling to letgo, maybe the real invitation
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isn't to force the release, butit's to shift your energy and to
change your relationship withthe thing that you're holding on
to, to become more aligned withyour truth, and then that which
no longer serves you will startto gently fall away.
No longer serves, you willstart to gently fall away.
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Letting go becomes a byproductof healing, of presence, of
wholeness.
Just to give a little recap asparents, we're not letting go of
our children.
We let go of our need to manageevery detail of their life and
attachment to the outcome andensure their happiness, just to
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feel like we've done our jobright.
Yes, we do need to let go ofthat.
As far as expectations go, wecan let go of how life, family
or success should look.
What if this is success?
What if this is success?
What if this is success andit's not what you had on your
vision board last year?
Or it's not what you thoughtyou would be five years from now
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or five years ago, you know,and there's a place for those
things.
But sometimes the closer I getto myself, the less I need it,
because the more it's justnaturally happening.
So when we try to break habits,we have to ask what need was
this habit needing?
And if we don't meet the rootneed in a new way, the pattern
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just returns in a different form.
Letting go often happens whenwe just can't carry the weight
anymore or our soul knows it'stime.
But deeper than that, ithappens when we shift internally
, when we remember that we don'tneed certainty, we need safety,
and safety is actually found inalignment more so than control.
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Alignment more so than control.
So what actually does it looklike to let go?
My coach used to alwaysencourage me to ask is this mine
?
First of all, if I feelsomething that is not right, is
out of alignment in my life, orif it's a pattern I've been in,
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she would say ask is this mineor have I just picked up on
something around me?
Was it a belief that my parentshad?
Was it something that I saw?
Was it trying to compare myselfwith somebody's perfect life on
social media posts?
Is this really really mine?
Do I own this?
And then, if it is, takeanother deep breath and pause
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and, instead of pushing, tryallowing allowing the people
around you to fail sometimes andlearn from their failure.
When we try to rescue people,we're actually robbing them of
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the opportunity that they'rebeing presented with to further
their soul's evolution, theirlife lesson.
When we go and rescue and fixand prevent failure all the time
, we are, in essence, taking theopportunity from them.
We're taking the lesson.
It's not our lesson, it's theirlesson.
So then that lesson will justcome back again in a different
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form to them, so we're actuallynot doing them a favor.
Letting go also looks likereleasing the belief that you're
not doing enough.
This was a tough one for mebecause I always felt like there
could be more give till ithurts.
You can always do better.
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You know what.
These are not beliefs that Iwould ever want my children to
have or my clients to have, andpart of it had to do with making
peace with the past, and I hadto forgive all parts of myself
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and forgive other people theperson, not the actions before I
could move on and not keepgetting hooked into that pattern
.
It always starts with this isno longer mine to carry.
I let it go.
And letting go creates such abeautiful space for miracles to
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come in and for healing andclarity and a deeper connection
with ourselves and others.
So ask yourself think about it.
What do I need to let go ofright now?
What would I like to let go ofright now?
Where can I choose peace overcontrol?
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Because letting go isliberation and that's your life.
I'd like to give you somejournal prompts if you have a
moment, or you can always comeback to this if you're listening
in your car, because I findthat journaling really helps me
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personally process things.
A lot of times things come outwhen I'm putting them from my
mind onto the paper that Iwouldn't normally say.
So some of these prompts are isthere a belief that I have that
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is telling me I must controlthings for them to be okay?
And where did that come from?
When I look at my life, whathabit or pattern keeps
resurfacing and what's thedeeper need behind it?
Is it safety?
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Is it recognition?
Is it just?
Is it recognition Just?
Take a look when I think of atime that I've let go before.
What forces came into play?
How did life support me when Ilet that go?
How can I detach fromexpectations?
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What would it look like totrust more and grip less?
So letting go creates so muchroom for healing, for clarity,
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for a deeper connection toourselves.
I would suggest that you spendsome time with this.
Don't rush.
You can also ask yourself whatthoughts or beliefs have been
feeling heavy and where am Igiving my energy to something
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that does not serve me anymore?
And here are some affirmationsthat you might want to use and
please, if you have some, thatyou write, please share them
with me.
I love hearing from you.
I'm just starting to hear frompeople now and I hope it's a
trend.
Please message me.
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I let go of what no longerresonates with my highest self.
I honor this cycle of lettinggo and welcome the peace.
I trust what is meant for mewill stay and what isn't will
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gently fall away.
As I lighten my energy, I makespace for miracles and my
favorite I am safe to grow.
I am safe to grow.
I am safe to change.
It's safe for me to let go.
I let go with love.
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I put together a shortmeditation to go along with this
theme of letting go and I wouldrecommend that you come back to
it and play it, even if it'sjust that section, once a day
for a period of a couple weeks,two or three weeks.
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21 days is the magic number foryour brain, but some people
they can listen to it once andget a lot out of it, just to
start making those neuralconnections.
I hope you enjoy it.
So begin by finding a quietplace where you won't be
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disturbed and allow yourself tosit or lie down comfortably and
just gently close the eyes down,and you can even, if you like,
roll as though you're looking uptoward the ceiling, even though
your eyelids are closed.
Take a deep breath in throughyour nose and exhale slowly
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through your mouth.
Let's do that again.
Inhale deeply and exhalecompletely, emptying out, and
exhale completely emptying out.
With each breath, feel yourbody begin to soften, to settle,
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to let go.
So breathe in, let and breatheout, go.
You are safe, you are supportedand you have nothing to worry
about right now, just yourbreath.
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Now imagine a gentle wave ofrelaxation.
It begins at the top of yourhead and it flows down across
your forehead.
And it flows down across yourforehead, behind your eyes, your
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cheeks, your jaw.
Feel your shoulders release,your arms become soft and heavy.
This wave of peace moves downyour spine, your chest, your
stomach, radiates around yourheart, all the way down through
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your toes, and with every breathyou're drifting deeper, deeper
into the stillness, deeper intothe calm You're letting go.
Now imagine that you're holdinga lantern and it's beautiful.
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Inside this lantern iseverything you've been carrying
your thoughts, your beliefs,your expectations, your pressure
, even emotions that no longerserve you.
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This lantern's not a burden,it's a blessing.
It's shown you who you were.
Now it's time to set it down sogently, with love and gratitude
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and great presence andreverence.
You place it on the ground and,as you do, you feel lighter,
freer, more connected to yourtrue self.
You whisper to yourself I amallowed to feel light, to begin
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again.
I let go and rise.
You walk forward barefoot, free,unburdened into a beautiful
moonlit field.
The waning moon shines overhead, reminding you that release is
a part of growth.
Letting go is letting in.
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Endings are secret and youdon't have to hold on to
everything to prove your worth.
You are enough just as you are.
As you relax into the safespace, allow these truths gently
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to seep into your subconscious.
I am worthy of peace and ease.
I trust in the divine.
I trust in the process.
I am safe to let go of the oldand make space for the new.
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What is meant for me will stay.
I choose presence.
I choose joy.
I choose joy.
I choose alignment.
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I choose love.
I choose me.
Let these words echo, gentle inyour heart, becoming part of
your new inner script.
Feel where they land.
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If they had a color, what colorwould they be?
Where do you feel the most inyour body?
Now, slowly bring yourattention back into your body
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and feel the ground beneath you,feel the earth supporting you.
Your breath is moving in andout.
Wiggle your fingers and toes,sw swallow to release your jaw,
gently stretch your arms if youwant and then, when you're ready
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, slowly open your eyes,returning to the room.
The same, yet different, becauseyou are returning with more
clarity, more peace, a deepknowing You've gone home, you've
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cleaned house and you've let go.
You had to let go.
You're lighter now and you'velet go.
You had to let go.
You're lighter now and you'refree to rise.
And if this episode resonatedwith you, please share it with a
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friend or family member whoneeds to hear it.
And don't forget to subscribe,rate and leave me a review.
Your words really help thiscommunity to grow and your
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If you're looking for deepersupport in letting go or
shifting habits, finding clarityin personal growth or parenting
, please DM me or visit me on myInstagram and book a free
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Thank you.
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