June 2, 2025 • 27 mins
Have you ever felt like you needed someone else's approval before moving forward with something important? Or questioned whether you were good enough, ready enough, or worthy enough? From a young age, we're conditioned to look outside ourselves for validation—but what if the most powerful guidance you need is already inside you?
Your inner knowing is sacred and strong, even when it speaks in whispers. The journey of self-discovery isn't a destination but a beautiful unfolding that gets easier with practice. As your brain becomes familiar with this new way of being, your life will transform in ways you never imagined. Stop dimming your light and come home to yourself—because you're more powerful than you know, not because of what you've achieved, but because of who you truly are.
#FAITHOVERFEAR #INNERKNOWING # INTUITION # SPIRITUALAWAKENING # RAMDASS #ESTERABRAHAMHICKS #WAYNEDYER #TEENLIVING #HEARTCENTEREDLIFE
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Welcome back.
Welcome back to Transform yourLife.
Just count me in.
I'm your host, sari, and I'mreally thrilled that you're here
today.
As a coach a life coach and atutor, I work with so many
incredible people, from teens toadults and everybody's
navigating big feelings and newexperiences, to parents guiding
(00:25):
their families all kinds ofgrowth-minded individuals ready
to unlock their potential, andlately, a lot has come up as far
as things we want to leavebehind.
The number one for the pastcouple weeks has been
self-abandonment, and that's apretty common one for everybody
(00:49):
and pretty easy to cure.
We understand why it happens,but we can definitely take care
of it.
So have you ever felt like youneeded someone else's approval
to move forward, or youquestioned whether you were good
enough or you were ready?
You were worthy.
You maybe needed more training,a stronger foundation, maybe
(01:12):
you were too old, maybe you weretoo young I think we all have.
From a young age.
We're really conditioned tolook outside ourselves for
validation.
And teachers, parents, socialmedia, test scores they all
shape our self-perception, butthe truth is you were born with
(01:34):
absolutely everything you need.
So this topic is foundationalfor every transformation it's
self-trust and truly taking thetime to know yourself.
Think about it.
How often are we lookingoutside ourselves for answers,
for validation for what weshould do?
(01:55):
We're constantly bombarded withopinions and expectations and
trends.
What if the most powerfulguidance you already need is
inside of you?
It's already there.
Almost every session I had withmy coach my last coach it ended
up trust yourself.
(02:16):
What's guidance telling you?
Trust yourself.
So this is not a new topic.
This has been around a longtime, actually, in the Bible,
jesus was quoted as saying thekingdom of God is within you,
and it's not really a metaphor,it's the truth that divine
(02:39):
intelligence is actually yourinner knowing.
Wayne Dyer said you'll see itwhen you believe it, and
actually it's not the other wayaround.
Belief precedes manifestation.
When you believe in yourself,you actually activate your
ability to co-create.
Abraham Hicks reminds us, whenyou believe in your worthiness,
(03:03):
you're aligned with sourceenergy, and so many people are
out of alignment just becausethey don't trust their worth.
The quieter we become, the morewe can actually hear.
So there were a couple ofpeople that I studied when I was
18, actually that I studiedwhen I was 18, actually, and it
(03:31):
was after.
I had a few times in my lifewhere I almost gave up on a
dream and the outside noise wastelling me you are just not
ready, you don't have the moneyfor this, you don't have the
credentials for this.
Who do you think you are?
And if that sounds familiar, Ithink it's familiar for a lot of
people.
But then I got still and Iasked my soul what do you say?
(03:56):
The answer was really clear Imade you for this.
I made you for this.
When I started believing thattruth, everything changed.
I stopped outsourcing my power,I stopped abandoning who I was
(04:17):
and it came back.
It happened a few times duringlife and I mean, we wake up and
we go to sleep.
We wake up, we go to sleep, butevery time that I don't
self-abandon and every time thatI do take the step you're
listening to an example of itright now with the podcast it's
one more time that I've gotunder my belt, it's one more
(04:39):
time that I can count on.
It's one more thing that bringsme closer to making this
familiar and making my brainfeel safe, making me trust
myself even more.
So I was starting to say when Iwas 18, a good friend of mine
and my stepdad at the same time,two people put Emerson and
(05:00):
Thoreau literally in my handsand said hey, you've got to read
these books, and let's startwith Ralph Waldo Emerson.
He wrote an essay calledSelf-Reliance and if you do
nothing else after this podcast,I would say just take a look at
it.
Emerson's core message wassimple and, at the time,
(05:23):
revolutionary.
It was trust yourself.
He believed that every singleone of us has an inner wisdom
and a unique spark, a divinereason.
That's our direct connection totruth.
He said and I love this whowould be a man must be a
non-conformist.
Now he used man and that wasthe language of the time, but we
(05:45):
have to.
His message was clear for allof us.
He meant every person.
He was telling us that to trulybe ourselves, we have to resist
the constant pressure to conform, to blend in, to follow the
crowd.
So think about it for a moment,especially you teens out there.
(06:07):
You're constantly beingbombarded with what's cool, what
you should wear, what youshould like, things you should
try at parties, parents we seethis too the pressure to raise
our kids a certain way, to havethem achieve certain milestones
by certain ages, and then peopleyou can be a single person or a
(06:29):
person in a relationship.
There are milestones.
I mean people in their 60s well, you're going to retire, right.
People in your 30s well, time'sa ticking, are you going to
have a baby yet?
I mean you could literally haveyour whole life written for you
.
You could have the whole lifewritten for you.
You could have the whole scriptwritten for you by listening to
other people's expectations, oryou could listen to that inner
(06:53):
voice to direct you to yourinner self.
And we have to resist thisconstant pressure to conform, to
blend in, to follow the crowd.
So Emerson believed intuitionover intellect.
So again we're coming to thisnow and we talk about trusting
(07:16):
your heart.
Your heart is the strongestenergy center.
Trust your heart.
Your mind is good for certainthings, but for the big picture,
your heart and your gut havethe answers.
So he knew it back then and Ilove when he said imitation is
suicide.
And it sounds dramatic, itreally does, but when you think
(07:37):
about it, it's suicide of theself.
Each person has a unique giftand a unique purpose and trying
to be someone else means you areselling out, you are losing
your authentic self.
He also believed in thedivinity of the individual and
(07:58):
he believed that everyindividual holds within them a
piece of the divine.
And my teacher used to say tome all the time doubt yourself,
doubt God, trust yourself, trustGod.
And when you trust yourself,one is essentially trusting the
divine within.
(08:18):
And this connection empowersindividuals to act with more
courage and more integrity,because I feel the strength of
so many people when I make thosealigned choices.
Living for itself he advocatedfor a life for itself, not for
spectacle, and this is reallyblown up.
(08:40):
This was before social media.
This was before you looked athow many downloads or how many
likes or how many friends youhave it.
Constant external validationand living life for itself and
not for a spectacle means livingauthentically rather than
performing for others andseeking constant external
(09:02):
validation.
And hey, let's face it, we alllike external validation.
I mean, I think every humanenjoys positive feedback, myself
included.
But there's a differencebetween liking it and needing it
and there's a differencebetween appreciating, hearing it
(09:23):
, when you know that you'rebeing authentically yourself, or
molding yourself, shapingyourself into some kind of a
mold so that you will get thatvalidation.
So just some things to thinkabout.
Henry Thoreau was actually adisciple of Emerson's and he
(09:43):
took things a different way.
They were bothtranscendentalists.
He took those ideas into adifferent practice and he went
into the woods and his point wasto live really deliberately,
not to get to the end of yourlife and discover that you have
not lived.
He went into nature life anddiscover that you have not lived
(10:07):
.
He went into nature.
He wanted to truly understandwhat was just essential for him.
So for people that are usingscreens a lot, this might mean
taking a break from screens,finding a quiet space and just
thinking about what makes youhappy, what truly energizes you,
what problems you care aboutthat are giving you a sign that
(10:28):
maybe you want to get involvedand follow that direction.
I know a couple of my familiesare doing a tech-free summer
where the kids are only ontechnology if it has to do with
learning for the whole summer,and I totally support that, I
think it's great.
I think it's a good idea totake a break, if you possibly
(10:52):
can, for parents andgrowth-minded adults.
It's about simplifying.
It's about decluttering notjust our homes but our schedules
, our minds.
What are the essential facts ofyour life when it gets down to
it, what truly brings you joy,meaning and purpose?
So by consciously choosing howwe spend our time and energy, we
(11:17):
get closer to knowing our trueselves.
This weekend, my husband and Iare both very conditioned to do
the things that we have to dofirst, and then, for dessert, we
get to do the things that wereally want to do, and we've
been trying to live a little bitmore in the flow of things.
And Saturday we both woke up,we were both off and I realized
(11:41):
you know what I really didn'tfeel like doing, what was on my
list for the day, and he didn'teither.
And I looked at him and I saidwhy don't you just do what you
want to do?
And I'm going to do what I wantto do, and you know we'll meet
up around dinner time.
Let's just figure it out.
This is new for both of us andI think it was harder for me
(12:02):
than it was for him, because Iwork less hours than he does and
so I have more of the domesticresponsibility.
And I was thinking man, thehouse wasn't clean, the laundry
was washed, dried but not putaway.
There was a list, there werethings that normally I would get
done before.
I would open up a book and reador write the podcast, and I
(12:26):
didn't do that.
I literally got myself an icedpeppermint tea and went out in
the sun and just read and didnothing for a while, for a few
hours, and then by dinnertime Iwas like I'm good, I filled
myself.
I was like I'm good, I filledmyself.
(12:48):
So it's a matter of gettingback in touch with when you can
do that for yourself and workingthose moments into your life
where you can respect the flowof your life, the flow of your
energy and what you actuallywant to do, what your real self
wants to do, not the self thatyou want to present to the world
as the good wife or the goodmom or the, you know, the
diligent worker or whatever, butwho you actually really are
(13:12):
inside at the end of the day.
What I liked about Thoreau, andwhy my stepdad thought I would
really like him, was because Ihave a very close affiliation
with nature and to me, as longas I can be outside somewhere,
I'm good, I'm fine, preferablyby the ocean, preferably with
(13:33):
trees, but if I can just hearbirds and see grass and just
breathe fresh air, that helps meto calm down and feel connected
.
And Thoreau taught us thatnature is a really powerful
teacher and when we connect withthe natural world, we also find
a clear connection to ourselves.
(13:53):
It's a place where we canbreathe, we can reflect, we can
hear our own thoughts withoutinterruption and we can really
learn a lot from just being theobserver.
So he also believed insimplicity and essentialism.
And now we have people thatlook the tiny houses, we have
(14:18):
people that get paid to come anddeclutter closets.
Between that and trustingnature as a teacher, I think his
connection to the universalrhythms and the laws that
fostered his own self-trust.
And what are we getting back tonow?
I heard on somebody's podcastgo outside if you have insomnia.
(14:41):
Spend a few minutes in themorning after the sun first
comes up to reset yourself.
For the day you can look intothe sun at that time just for a
few minutes.
It's safe.
And at night, go out and walkbarefoot on the grass.
Now we naturally could be doinga lot of those things and we
naturally did do a lot of thosethings for a long time.
(15:02):
So how does this look for us?
How does this look for regularpeople?
How do we take these ideas andapply them to our lives right
now?
So I broke it down to fivebasic things I would say turn
inside every day, even ifthere's just a small couple
(15:23):
minutes of quiet it could befive minutes before bed or a
couple minutes, or I have oneperson who does it on his way to
school, somebody else does itwhile she's doing the dishes and
ask yourself what am I reallyfeeling right now?
What do I truly need right now?
(15:45):
What actually feels right forme?
And if you have youngerchildren, they can draw it.
If they can't verballyarticulate it, they can draw how
they're feeling or show youwith their bodies how they're
feeling.
(16:05):
Number two challenge the shoulds.
When you feel that pressurethat not to do something that
you're not really into, or thatpull to be someone you're not
ask, or that pull to be someoneyou're not ask.
Is this what I really want, oris it what I think I should want
(16:25):
?
And this is a really big onefor all of us, whether you're a
teenager learning to balancesocial pressures, or parents
balancing family expectationswith their own well-being, or
just a regular person like me.
At this point in my life, I'mdefinitely a mom and a grandmom,
(16:48):
and also just a person who'strying to navigate life and stay
true to myself and imitation,just acting like everybody else.
It would be easier to docertain things to fit in for the
social norms right now and Iwould feel like I was abandoning
(17:09):
myself.
They're not things that I feelgood about, so I'm not doing
them.
Embrace your uniqueness.
Emerson said limitation issuicide.
You are uniquely you.
You've got your own talents,your own little quirks, your own
perspectives.
(17:29):
So celebrate that.
Don't try to be a carbon copyof other people.
Your unique contribution isexactly what the world needs.
You don't desire anything ifit's not already yours or meant
to be yours at some level.
Number four I would saysimplify your life.
Think about what you can removefrom your life that doesn't
(17:54):
serve you, that doesn't make youfeel expansive.
It could be physical clutter.
It could be some time you cleanup in your schedule.
It can be things you'resubscribed to that you're done
with.
You've outgrown, it was goodfor the time and now you're done
.
It can be toxic influences.
(18:16):
You're done.
It can be toxic influences.
We used to say that we didn'twant to watch anything in the
house that would be similar tosomeone that we wouldn't want to
invite into our home, and Ireally strongly advocate for
that.
If you wouldn't invite thatperson or that situation into
(18:40):
your house.
I would say think about what'son your screen, think about what
you're watching, because youare inviting that energy into
your house.
And my grandma used to say,garbage in, garbage out.
And I think she was right.
And I have lived both ways.
I have lived where I've watchedthings or just kind of went
(19:01):
along with what other peoplewanted to watch, and I knew that
they weren't good and I knew ifit was violent I was going to
have nightmares or I knew I feltyucky, like I had to unwind
after I watched the movie and Istill watched it.
But again, I don't do thatanymore.
I'll just remove myself fromthe situation if I need to.
But frankly, I'm not in thatsituation because my husband
(19:23):
also doesn't invite anybody intothe house, on the screen or
anywhere else that he wouldn'twant to be sitting at the dinner
table with us.
So trusting yourself isn't aboutbeing selfish, it's about being
authentic.
It's about building a strongfoundation in yourself so that
(19:50):
you can navigate challenges andmake decisions that keep you
aligned with your values andtruly thrive.
I, my life right now isabsolutely 100 percent better
than it's ever been.
My relationships are better.
I'm just so grateful for this.
But I've also done the work.
(20:10):
I also get in touch with myselfand I can say, the more I trust
myself, the more I becomeunshakable, I make decisions
that align with my values and Ifeel like I'm more and more
becoming the leader of my ownlife.
And you take your place in thisworld, you take your seat.
(20:32):
The journey of self-discoveryand self-trust is continuous.
It's not a destination, it's abeautiful unfolding and I
promise you, when you commit toit, the more you stay on this
path, the easier it is to stayon it.
Because, remember, the brainlikes familiar.
So the more familiar thisbecomes, the more you're going
(20:54):
to feel safe.
Your life will begin totransform in ways that you never
imagined.
I, literally a year ago, I hada great life, I was very happy
with my life and my life justkeeps getting continuously
(21:14):
better and better and better.
And, yeah, I have my days andyeah, once in a while there's a
bump in the road or a lessonI've got to learn, but generally
speaking, when I look back onthings, oh my gosh, just
exponentially better because I'mtrusting myself and I'm
trusting in the universe, I'mtrusting in God.
(21:38):
So I do want to give you acouple of journaling prompts and
a couple of affirmations.
If you want to try, I like totake a couple minutes every day
and I do sit, I do meditate,whether you meditate or not.
If you could just even take acouple moments and find a quiet
(22:01):
place just to close your eyesand take a couple deep breaths
and breathe into your heart, youcan even take your hand and put
your hand on your heart and putyour other hand on top of that
hand and just let that light inyour heart grow and let these
(22:30):
words in I am safe to trustmyself.
I'm guided by divine wisdom.
I already am who I was createdto be.
I'm worthy, I'm guided and I'mwhole.
(23:02):
And I would invite you to takeout a journal and write down
anything that might have come upfor you when you were listening
to those words, because veryoften Michael Beckwith has
people do this.
It's a powerful practice.
Very often, when we'repracticing something, we write
the words down.
All of a sudden, bam, you getyour resistance, or you get
(23:25):
exactly what it is you need towork on, or exactly.
The uninvited guest comes intoyour house via the voice in your
head and it gives you theguidance and sheds light on some
beliefs and some mindsets thatyou need to shift.
Some other journaling promptsthat you can try are where my
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life have I handed away my power?
And there was a list for me andwhat did it cost me?
And this is not to feel guilty,this is just to see, to
(24:10):
articulate it, to own it.
Every single thing that I'vedone, all my mistakes, all my
screw-ups and all the goodthings, I stand on all of those,
they are all part of me.
They're all part of who theperson is that's talking right
now.
They made me who I am and youneed to stand on yours too.
(24:32):
Don't hide them, don't act likethey didn't happen.
Own them, realize them andstand on them, because they made
you stronger or you wouldn'thave been listening for this
long to this podcast.
Another question what would I doif I really trusted myself and
(24:53):
I mean really, really trustedyourself?
What would I do?
What would I do if I knew Icouldn't fail right now?
Couldn't fail?
What does my inner voice evensound like?
(25:14):
How can I tune into it moreoften?
What is she saying right now?
Sometimes the heart speaks inwhispers.
What limiting beliefs am Iready to?
Just let go of today?
(25:34):
Let go of today and rememberyour inner knowing is sacred and
strong.
Hey, trusting yourself is notabout being selfish, it's about
being authentic.
(25:54):
Thank you so much for joiningme today.
I hope that this episodeinspires you to turn inward,
trust your amazing self andembrace your unique journey.
Come home to yourself.
You are the only one that cando it.
(26:16):
And and remember, if you haveeverything you need within you,
just count yourself in.
You're more powerful than youknow, not because of what you
achieved, but because of who youare.
We'll be back next time withmore tools and insights to help
(26:38):
you live your most authentic andfulfilling life.
Until then, stop dimming thatlight, be kind to yourself,
trust your gut and keeptransforming.
Until next time.
Remember you're not alone.
You're guided and you canalways count me in.
(26:58):
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Welcome back.
Welcome back to Transform yourLife.
Just count me in.
I'm your host, sari, and I'mreally thrilled that you're here
today.
As a coach a life coach and atutor, I work with so many
incredible people, from teens toadults and everybody's
navigating big feelings and newexperiences, to parents guiding
(00:25):
their families all kinds ofgrowth-minded individuals ready
to unlock their potential, andlately, a lot has come up as far
as things we want to leavebehind.
The number one for the pastcouple weeks has been
self-abandonment, and that's apretty common one for everybody
(00:49):
and pretty easy to cure.
We understand why it happens,but we can definitely take care
of it.
So have you ever felt like youneeded someone else's approval
to move forward, or youquestioned whether you were good
enough or you were ready?
You were worthy.
You maybe needed more training,a stronger foundation, maybe
(01:12):
you were too old, maybe you weretoo young I think we all have.
From a young age.
We're really conditioned tolook outside ourselves for
validation.
And teachers, parents, socialmedia, test scores they all
shape our self-perception, butthe truth is you were born with
(01:34):
absolutely everything you need.
So this topic is foundationalfor every transformation it's
self-trust and truly taking thetime to know yourself.
Think about it.
How often are we lookingoutside ourselves for answers,
for validation for what weshould do?
(01:55):
We're constantly bombarded withopinions and expectations and
trends.
What if the most powerfulguidance you already need is
inside of you?
It's already there.
Almost every session I had withmy coach my last coach it ended
up trust yourself.
(02:16):
What's guidance telling you?
Trust yourself.
So this is not a new topic.
This has been around a longtime, actually, in the Bible,
jesus was quoted as saying thekingdom of God is within you,
and it's not really a metaphor,it's the truth that divine
(02:39):
intelligence is actually yourinner knowing.
Wayne Dyer said you'll see itwhen you believe it, and
actually it's not the other wayaround.
Belief precedes manifestation.
When you believe in yourself,you actually activate your
ability to co-create.
Abraham Hicks reminds us, whenyou believe in your worthiness,
(03:03):
you're aligned with sourceenergy, and so many people are
out of alignment just becausethey don't trust their worth.
The quieter we become, the morewe can actually hear.
So there were a couple ofpeople that I studied when I was
18, actually that I studiedwhen I was 18, actually, and it
(03:31):
was after.
I had a few times in my lifewhere I almost gave up on a
dream and the outside noise wastelling me you are just not
ready, you don't have the moneyfor this, you don't have the
credentials for this.
Who do you think you are?
And if that sounds familiar, Ithink it's familiar for a lot of
people.
But then I got still and Iasked my soul what do you say?
(03:56):
The answer was really clear Imade you for this.
I made you for this.
When I started believing thattruth, everything changed.
I stopped outsourcing my power,I stopped abandoning who I was
(04:17):
and it came back.
It happened a few times duringlife and I mean, we wake up and
we go to sleep.
We wake up, we go to sleep, butevery time that I don't
self-abandon and every time thatI do take the step you're
listening to an example of itright now with the podcast it's
one more time that I've gotunder my belt, it's one more
(04:39):
time that I can count on.
It's one more thing that bringsme closer to making this
familiar and making my brainfeel safe, making me trust
myself even more.
So I was starting to say when Iwas 18, a good friend of mine
and my stepdad at the same time,two people put Emerson and
(05:00):
Thoreau literally in my handsand said hey, you've got to read
these books, and let's startwith Ralph Waldo Emerson.
He wrote an essay calledSelf-Reliance and if you do
nothing else after this podcast,I would say just take a look at
it.
Emerson's core message wassimple and, at the time,
(05:23):
revolutionary.
It was trust yourself.
He believed that every singleone of us has an inner wisdom
and a unique spark, a divinereason.
That's our direct connection totruth.
He said and I love this whowould be a man must be a
non-conformist.
Now he used man and that wasthe language of the time, but we
(05:45):
have to.
His message was clear for allof us.
He meant every person.
He was telling us that to trulybe ourselves, we have to resist
the constant pressure to conform, to blend in, to follow the
crowd.
So think about it for a moment,especially you teens out there.
(06:07):
You're constantly beingbombarded with what's cool, what
you should wear, what youshould like, things you should
try at parties, parents we seethis too the pressure to raise
our kids a certain way, to havethem achieve certain milestones
by certain ages, and then peopleyou can be a single person or a
(06:29):
person in a relationship.
There are milestones.
I mean people in their 60s well, you're going to retire, right.
People in your 30s well, time'sa ticking, are you going to
have a baby yet?
I mean you could literally haveyour whole life written for you
.
You could have the whole lifewritten for you.
You could have the whole scriptwritten for you by listening to
other people's expectations, oryou could listen to that inner
(06:53):
voice to direct you to yourinner self.
And we have to resist thisconstant pressure to conform, to
blend in, to follow the crowd.
So Emerson believed intuitionover intellect.
So again we're coming to thisnow and we talk about trusting
(07:16):
your heart.
Your heart is the strongestenergy center.
Trust your heart.
Your mind is good for certainthings, but for the big picture,
your heart and your gut havethe answers.
So he knew it back then and Ilove when he said imitation is
suicide.
And it sounds dramatic, itreally does, but when you think
(07:37):
about it, it's suicide of theself.
Each person has a unique giftand a unique purpose and trying
to be someone else means you areselling out, you are losing
your authentic self.
He also believed in thedivinity of the individual and
(07:58):
he believed that everyindividual holds within them a
piece of the divine.
And my teacher used to say tome all the time doubt yourself,
doubt God, trust yourself, trustGod.
And when you trust yourself,one is essentially trusting the
divine within.
(08:18):
And this connection empowersindividuals to act with more
courage and more integrity,because I feel the strength of
so many people when I make thosealigned choices.
Living for itself he advocatedfor a life for itself, not for
spectacle, and this is reallyblown up.
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This was before social media.
This was before you looked athow many downloads or how many
likes or how many friends youhave it.
Constant external validationand living life for itself and
not for a spectacle means livingauthentically rather than
performing for others andseeking constant external
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validation.
And hey, let's face it, we alllike external validation.
I mean, I think every humanenjoys positive feedback, myself
included.
But there's a differencebetween liking it and needing it
and there's a differencebetween appreciating, hearing it
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, when you know that you'rebeing authentically yourself, or
molding yourself, shapingyourself into some kind of a
mold so that you will get thatvalidation.
So just some things to thinkabout.
Henry Thoreau was actually adisciple of Emerson's and he
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took things a different way.
They were bothtranscendentalists.
He took those ideas into adifferent practice and he went
into the woods and his point wasto live really deliberately,
not to get to the end of yourlife and discover that you have
not lived.
He went into nature life anddiscover that you have not lived
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.
He went into nature.
He wanted to truly understandwhat was just essential for him.
So for people that are usingscreens a lot, this might mean
taking a break from screens,finding a quiet space and just
thinking about what makes youhappy, what truly energizes you,
what problems you care aboutthat are giving you a sign that
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maybe you want to get involvedand follow that direction.
I know a couple of my familiesare doing a tech-free summer
where the kids are only ontechnology if it has to do with
learning for the whole summer,and I totally support that, I
think it's great.
I think it's a good idea totake a break, if you possibly
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can, for parents andgrowth-minded adults.
It's about simplifying.
It's about decluttering notjust our homes but our schedules
, our minds.
What are the essential facts ofyour life when it gets down to
it, what truly brings you joy,meaning and purpose?
So by consciously choosing howwe spend our time and energy, we
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get closer to knowing our trueselves.
This weekend, my husband and Iare both very conditioned to do
the things that we have to dofirst, and then, for dessert, we
get to do the things that wereally want to do, and we've
been trying to live a little bitmore in the flow of things.
And Saturday we both woke up,we were both off and I realized
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you know what I really didn'tfeel like doing, what was on my
list for the day, and he didn'teither.
And I looked at him and I saidwhy don't you just do what you
want to do?
And I'm going to do what I wantto do, and you know we'll meet
up around dinner time.
Let's just figure it out.
This is new for both of us andI think it was harder for me
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than it was for him, because Iwork less hours than he does and
so I have more of the domesticresponsibility.
And I was thinking man, thehouse wasn't clean, the laundry
was washed, dried but not putaway.
There was a list, there werethings that normally I would get
done before.
I would open up a book and reador write the podcast, and I
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didn't do that.
I literally got myself an icedpeppermint tea and went out in
the sun and just read and didnothing for a while, for a few
hours, and then by dinnertime Iwas like I'm good, I filled
myself.
I was like I'm good, I filledmyself.
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So it's a matter of gettingback in touch with when you can
do that for yourself and workingthose moments into your life
where you can respect the flowof your life, the flow of your
energy and what you actuallywant to do, what your real self
wants to do, not the self thatyou want to present to the world
as the good wife or the goodmom or the, you know, the
diligent worker or whatever, butwho you actually really are
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inside at the end of the day.
What I liked about Thoreau, andwhy my stepdad thought I would
really like him, was because Ihave a very close affiliation
with nature and to me, as longas I can be outside somewhere,
I'm good, I'm fine, preferablyby the ocean, preferably with
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trees, but if I can just hearbirds and see grass and just
breathe fresh air, that helps meto calm down and feel connected
.
And Thoreau taught us thatnature is a really powerful
teacher and when we connect withthe natural world, we also find
a clear connection to ourselves.
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It's a place where we canbreathe, we can reflect, we can
hear our own thoughts withoutinterruption and we can really
learn a lot from just being theobserver.
So he also believed insimplicity and essentialism.
And now we have people thatlook the tiny houses, we have
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people that get paid to come anddeclutter closets.
Between that and trustingnature as a teacher, I think his
connection to the universalrhythms and the laws that
fostered his own self-trust.
And what are we getting back tonow?
I heard on somebody's podcastgo outside if you have insomnia.
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Spend a few minutes in themorning after the sun first
comes up to reset yourself.
For the day you can look intothe sun at that time just for a
few minutes.
It's safe.
And at night, go out and walkbarefoot on the grass.
Now we naturally could be doinga lot of those things and we
naturally did do a lot of thosethings for a long time.
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So how does this look for us?
How does this look for regularpeople?
How do we take these ideas andapply them to our lives right
now?
So I broke it down to fivebasic things I would say turn
inside every day, even ifthere's just a small couple
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minutes of quiet it could befive minutes before bed or a
couple minutes, or I have oneperson who does it on his way to
school, somebody else does itwhile she's doing the dishes and
ask yourself what am I reallyfeeling right now?
What do I truly need right now?
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What actually feels right forme?
And if you have youngerchildren, they can draw it.
If they can't verballyarticulate it, they can draw how
they're feeling or show youwith their bodies how they're
feeling.
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Number two challenge the shoulds.
When you feel that pressurethat not to do something that
you're not really into, or thatpull to be someone you're not
ask, or that pull to be someoneyou're not ask.
Is this what I really want, oris it what I think I should want
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?
And this is a really big onefor all of us, whether you're a
teenager learning to balancesocial pressures, or parents
balancing family expectationswith their own well-being, or
just a regular person like me.
At this point in my life, I'mdefinitely a mom and a grandmom,
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and also just a person who'strying to navigate life and stay
true to myself and imitation,just acting like everybody else.
It would be easier to docertain things to fit in for the
social norms right now and Iwould feel like I was abandoning
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myself.
They're not things that I feelgood about, so I'm not doing
them.
Embrace your uniqueness.
Emerson said limitation issuicide.
You are uniquely you.
You've got your own talents,your own little quirks, your own
perspectives.
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So celebrate that.
Don't try to be a carbon copyof other people.
Your unique contribution isexactly what the world needs.
You don't desire anything ifit's not already yours or meant
to be yours at some level.
Number four I would saysimplify your life.
Think about what you can removefrom your life that doesn't
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serve you, that doesn't make youfeel expansive.
It could be physical clutter.
It could be some time you cleanup in your schedule.
It can be things you'resubscribed to that you're done
with.
You've outgrown, it was goodfor the time and now you're done
.
It can be toxic influences.
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You're done.
It can be toxic influences.
We used to say that we didn'twant to watch anything in the
house that would be similar tosomeone that we wouldn't want to
invite into our home, and Ireally strongly advocate for
that.
If you wouldn't invite thatperson or that situation into
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your house.
I would say think about what'son your screen, think about what
you're watching, because youare inviting that energy into
your house.
And my grandma used to say,garbage in, garbage out.
And I think she was right.
And I have lived both ways.
I have lived where I've watchedthings or just kind of went
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along with what other peoplewanted to watch, and I knew that
they weren't good and I knew ifit was violent I was going to
have nightmares or I knew I feltyucky, like I had to unwind
after I watched the movie and Istill watched it.
But again, I don't do thatanymore.
I'll just remove myself fromthe situation if I need to.
But frankly, I'm not in thatsituation because my husband
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also doesn't invite anybody intothe house, on the screen or
anywhere else that he wouldn'twant to be sitting at the dinner
table with us.
So trusting yourself isn't aboutbeing selfish, it's about being
authentic.
It's about building a strongfoundation in yourself so that
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you can navigate challenges andmake decisions that keep you
aligned with your values andtruly thrive.
I, my life right now isabsolutely 100 percent better
than it's ever been.
My relationships are better.
I'm just so grateful for this.
But I've also done the work.
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I also get in touch with myselfand I can say, the more I trust
myself, the more I becomeunshakable, I make decisions
that align with my values and Ifeel like I'm more and more
becoming the leader of my ownlife.
And you take your place in thisworld, you take your seat.
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The journey of self-discoveryand self-trust is continuous.
It's not a destination, it's abeautiful unfolding and I
promise you, when you commit toit, the more you stay on this
path, the easier it is to stayon it.
Because, remember, the brainlikes familiar.
So the more familiar thisbecomes, the more you're going
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to feel safe.
Your life will begin totransform in ways that you never
imagined.
I, literally a year ago, I hada great life, I was very happy
with my life and my life justkeeps getting continuously
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better and better and better.
And, yeah, I have my days andyeah, once in a while there's a
bump in the road or a lessonI've got to learn, but generally
speaking, when I look back onthings, oh my gosh, just
exponentially better because I'mtrusting myself and I'm
trusting in the universe, I'mtrusting in God.
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So I do want to give you acouple of journaling prompts and
a couple of affirmations.
If you want to try, I like totake a couple minutes every day
and I do sit, I do meditate,whether you meditate or not.
If you could just even take acouple moments and find a quiet
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place just to close your eyesand take a couple deep breaths
and breathe into your heart, youcan even take your hand and put
your hand on your heart and putyour other hand on top of that
hand and just let that light inyour heart grow and let these
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words in I am safe to trustmyself.
I'm guided by divine wisdom.
I already am who I was createdto be.
I'm worthy, I'm guided and I'mwhole.
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And I would invite you to takeout a journal and write down
anything that might have come upfor you when you were listening
to those words, because veryoften Michael Beckwith has
people do this.
It's a powerful practice.
Very often, when we'repracticing something, we write
the words down.
All of a sudden, bam, you getyour resistance, or you get
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exactly what it is you need towork on, or exactly.
The uninvited guest comes intoyour house via the voice in your
head and it gives you theguidance and sheds light on some
beliefs and some mindsets thatyou need to shift.
Some other journaling promptsthat you can try are where my
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life have I handed away my power?
And there was a list for me andwhat did it cost me?
And this is not to feel guilty,this is just to see, to
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articulate it, to own it.
Every single thing that I'vedone, all my mistakes, all my
screw-ups and all the goodthings, I stand on all of those,
they are all part of me.
They're all part of who theperson is that's talking right
now.
They made me who I am and youneed to stand on yours too.
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Don't hide them, don't act likethey didn't happen.
Own them, realize them andstand on them, because they made
you stronger or you wouldn'thave been listening for this
long to this podcast.
Another question what would I doif I really trusted myself and
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I mean really, really trustedyourself?
What would I do?
What would I do if I knew Icouldn't fail right now?
Couldn't fail?
What does my inner voice evensound like?
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How can I tune into it moreoften?
What is she saying right now?
Sometimes the heart speaks inwhispers.
What limiting beliefs am Iready to?
Just let go of today?
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Let go of today and rememberyour inner knowing is sacred and
strong.
Hey, trusting yourself is notabout being selfish, it's about
being authentic.
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Thank you so much for joiningme today.
I hope that this episodeinspires you to turn inward,
trust your amazing self andembrace your unique journey.
Come home to yourself.
You are the only one that cando it.
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And and remember, if you haveeverything you need within you,
just count yourself in.
You're more powerful than youknow, not because of what you
achieved, but because of who youare.
We'll be back next time withmore tools and insights to help
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you live your most authentic andfulfilling life.
Until then, stop dimming thatlight, be kind to yourself,
trust your gut and keeptransforming.
Until next time.
Remember you're not alone.
You're guided and you canalways count me in.
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