March 17, 2025 • 21 mins
Doubt creeps in just when we feel most certain about our path. That's exactly what happened when I packed my belongings into a small Pinto with a U-Haul attached and set off for Arizona at age 18. I had never been out West but felt an inexplicable pull toward a new life there.
When my car broke down in Colorado, depleting my savings for repairs, I questioned everything. Was this a sign I was on the wrong path? I continued to Arizona only to discover within hours that it wasn't my place after all. Alone, with barely enough money for a week of expenses, I made the pivotal decision to return to Colorado—where I would ultimately spend nearly 30 years of my life.
What looked like obstacles were actually perfect redirections. Like squirrels leaping between tall trees, we need to keep our eyes fixed on where we're going, ignoring the distractions and dangers along the way. When we face challenges in pursuit of our dreams, they aren't necessarily signs we're on the wrong path but opportunities for growth and confirmation.
This pattern appears repeatedly in our lives. A coaching client left a relationship with a narcissist without waiting for another person to come along. Despite holidays alone and moments of doubt, she maintained her connection to deserving love and acceptance. Within months, she met her life partner. Sometimes the unexpected detour—the obstacle in the way—turns out to be the biggest and best redirection possible.
Ready to trust your journey? Try making unfamiliar feelings familiar through daily practice, share your dreams with one trusted person who won't mirror your doubts, surround yourself with people who embody what you're seeking, and consider working with a coach to reprogram limiting beliefs. Remember my 103-year-old stepmom Clara Gee's advice: "Live life with bent knees," ready to pivot when necessary.
Have you faced a moment where life redirected you? I'd love to hear your story. Subscribe, share, and join me—we're all in this together.
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Sari Stone (00:00):
Welcome to Just Count Me In a podcast about
coming home to yourself andfinding your expression,
figuring out who exactly youcame here to be also known as
living your best life.
I'm Sari Stone and I'll be yourhost.
So have you ever doubted yourpath just when you were right in
(00:21):
the middle of it?
In this episode, I'm going toshare my journey.
There was an unexpected detourthat actually led me exactly to
where I was meant to be.
Have you ever felt so sureabout a decision and then you
question everything whenobstacles appear?
Well, I hope you tune into thisepisode today because in this
(00:47):
episode, I share what I did acouple of times when I faced
moments where life completelyredirected me.
I share my journey of followingmy intuition, the unexpected
turns that led me to the rightplace, and lessons from my life,
as well as one of my coachingclients.
(01:08):
It's been a journey and it'sbeen a trip, learning how to
overcome fear and trust.
The process manifest my bestlife.
But if you're seeking clarity,courage and inspiration, and if
you've ever struggled withself-doubt in the middle of what
you thought was your chosenflow, check this episode out and
(01:32):
please share if you've everfaced a moment where your life
was redirected Enjoy.
So.
Wayne Dyer was once quoted insaying trust in your journey and
remain steadfast in your belief.
Doubt has no power.
(01:52):
Where determination and faithreside, even when nothing seems
to indicate that you'reaccomplishing what you desire in
your life, refuse to entertaindoubt.
Remain steadfast in your life.
Refuse to entertain doubt.
Remain steadfast in your belief.
So I'm looking outside my window, teaching my yoga class this
morning, and I see somesquirrels and they're just
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leaping from one tree to thenext.
They're pretty tall trees, butI noticed that the squirrels
just keep their eye on the treethat they're jumping to.
They ignore the barking dognext door, they ignore the hawks
circling above them.
Their eye is on that tree, theyknow that they're going to go
there and they end up on thenext tree every time.
(02:35):
Okay.
So I thought, man, I could takea lesson from these squirrels,
because sometimes, when I knowwhat I need to do and when I can
feel what I want to do and whatI'm meant to do and what I'm
supposed to do, when somethinggets thrown in my path, I get a
little diverted, a little bit ofdoubt creeps in and I think
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maybe this isn't the right pathfor me.
Maybe this wouldn't havehappened if I was in my flow
state the way I thought I was,and I might abandon ship before
I should.
So point in case my trip toColorado and how I ended up
there.
Actually, this should be calledmore like my trip to Arizona
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and how I ended up in Colorado.
So when I was 18, after a yearof just not being happy where I
lived, I decided completely froma knowing in my soul that I
needed to live out West.
I had never been out West.
I did not research the Westthere wasn't Google then I just
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had a feeling about it and I hada feeling that it was going to
be Arizona.
This was not very logical.
My parents were not extremelyhappy about it, but my mom knew
that I need to really follow myheart.
She knew me, she got it andthey just made sure that my car
was safe and I was safe and sentme on my way.
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I went with a girlfriend andshe was excited about going.
The other friends that I hadthat were excited about going
kind of fell away as the schoolyear came to a close and we
graduated.
They ended up deciding thatthey were going to stay put in
their zip code, which I am notknocking.
There's nothing wrong with itif that's where you're meant to
be.
But I could feel that I wasmeant for something different
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and I was.
So we headed out and we got toColorado, got as far as Colorado
, noticing what a big, beautifulcountry it was.
I mean, I had never been westof Pennsylvania before, I was on
the East Coast and I just wasin awe of everything, just so
excited for my journey.
But I knew I was going to endup in Arizona and get my
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residency and then start schoolthere in January and I just I
had my plan and I felt my pull.
Well, there were other plansfor me on the trajectory that I
didn't know about.
So when I got to Estes StatePark, we were supposed to camp,
my girlfriend and I were campingacross the country and the
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rings blew on my pinto.
This was a pinto pulling a 4x6U-Haul not the brightest idea, I
know that.
But I thought it was going tobe okay.
And when that happened I waspretty scared.
But at least Estes Park was areally nice place and luckily a
(05:27):
friend of mine had a brother andsister-in-law.
Their family lived in ColoradoSprings, so blowing smoke out
the car all the way from EstesPark to Colorado Springs and I'm
still apologizing to the peoplewho were behind me at that time
.
I made it, people who werebehind me at that time.
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I made it Okay and was able tostay at their house for five
days, which was amazing and kind, and explore a little bit of
Colorado, because I didn'treally have a car.
But they kind of took me aroundand showed me a few places and
this was while my car was beingfixed.
The man was able to fix it.
It did take five days and ittook $500, which was my savings.
Okay, that was the money that Ihad for my cushion for when I
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landed in Arizona to get me aroom for a week or two.
Then the plan was get a job,waiting tables, make my money
and then get going, you know,with my life, root into my life
a little bit.
So I was pretty scared thatthat money was gone, but I still
felt the pull so I still went.
I decided to go.
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So I thanked the family I wasstaying with and realized, wow,
colorado is really a very, verybeautiful place and it felt
pretty good there, but I wasstill going to live in Arizona.
So I drove the 12 hours toArizona, got there and within a
few hours I was prettydisappointed is a light word for
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the way I felt.
I can't even come up withactually the right word.
I felt like the floor had justbeen pulled up from under my
feet and I was falling down anelevator shaft because Arizona
is a great place but it was notmy place and I had thought it
was going to be my place, and itwas a moment.
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My girlfriend got completelyhysterical.
She wanted to go home.
She had her plane ticket money,so literally I dropped her off
at the Phoenix airport.
So then I was alone with enoughmoney to get me through about a
week of gas and living and nomoney for when I got there and
didn't know what I was going todo but I knew I wasn't going to
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do it in Arizona so it occurredto me maybe, maybe I can just go
stay in Colorado for a littlewhile.
It felt pretty good to me thereand maybe that was just so much
better.
Maybe that was where I wassupposed to be for a while and
as it turned out, I was supposedto be there for a while.
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I lived there out of my life atotal of close to 30 years and I
definitely felt that it was aplace that I needed to be for
most of that time.
So if I had just given up andgone back to New Jersey where I
grew up, I think I would havemissed out on a lot and I didn't
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know then, to be very honest, Ididn't know about manifesting
then.
I knew about Wayne Dyer and Iknew about he was into more like
your erroneous zones andgetting rid of your conditioning
from your parents and all thatand very valuable, but not this
manifesting, not destiny, noneof that.
(08:50):
But I knew my pull and Itrusted my inner guidance and my
mom always supported me withthat.
To her I'm forever grateful.
I also thought of anotherexample where this worked, where
somebody that I was coachingtook a leap out of her
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relationship with a narcissistinto basically nowhere.
She didn't wait for the nextperson to come along.
She didn't wait for anythingcatastrophic or dramatic to
happen.
She didn't wait for anythingcatastrophic or dramatic to
happen.
She, just after a couple ofcoaching sessions, she realized
that she was better than thatand she started to feel the
(09:33):
calling of her best life.
She kept connecting to Sourceand just affirming that what she
believed, clearing things.
She cleared any conflictingbeliefs.
That happen very often.
We have one belief that saysI'm going to get into a great
(09:55):
relationship, I deserve that.
And then you have anotherbelief relationships don't last,
or men can't be trusted, orthere's some garbage in there
that's conflicting with yourbelief, or you would just be
totally.
Your life would be a completereflection of all of your
highest and best beliefs.
There's something that you needto just clear up and those
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things will become apparent inyour path when you're on the
right path.
So it didn't mean that she wason the wrong path when she had
doubtful moments and it didn'tmean that she was on the wrong
path when she was alone onValentine's Day and on her
birthday again, she just keptfeeling.
And when we coached, we justkept connecting her to that
(10:40):
feeling and exploring practicesto help her stay connected on a
daily basis so that she actuallybecame that feeling.
That feeling was familiar toher and we made the feeling of
love and belonging andacceptance familiar.
We know that the brain likesfamiliar.
And, lo and behold, within afew months she literally met the
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love of her life.
They're getting ready to getmarried next year.
I'm just I mean, I get tearedup when I even think about it,
because she's one of the mostbeautiful people I've met and
I'm just so grateful that she'shappy with her life now and she
feels fulfilled, becauseeverybody deserves that.
Everyone deserves that.
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Because everybody deserves that.
Everyone deserves that.
We all deserve to feel thebeauty and the freedom that we
can only feel when we are being100% ourselves.
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So is the fear of failinggreater than the risk you take
by remaining on the same tree inyour life?
And how do you want to liveyour life?
Do you want to make choicesbased on love or as a result of
fear?
It's easier said than done.
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I'm still practicing.
My stepmom, clara G, was a greatexample of this, and she was
103, and she told me that shelived her life.
She said, sari, live your lifewith bent knees.
Get ready to pivot at anymoment when you need to change.
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Be flexible.
And I thought, boy, she reallyhad it.
Faith is taking the first stepwhen you can't always see the
staircase.
And courage isn't about beingunafraid.
It's about facing your fearsand doing what's right in spite
of them, and Martin Luther Kingsaid that.
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So if you're at a space in yourlife where you're feeling the
pull and you're feelingconnected and you get a little
bit spooked when somethingdoesn't go your way, stay the
course, feel the pull, cl, climbthat rope and keep reaching for
your dreams.
Just take one step at a timeand if you'd like to take those
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steps together, I would love theopportunity to work with you.
If you know a child who wouldlike to take those steps in
their life, in whatever formthat takes, I would love to work
with them in any capacity.
And if you know someone whomight benefit from hearing this
episode, please share it withthem, because that's why I do
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this.
We're all in this together.
So a couple things you can do tohelp you in this process.
Number one on your own, youneed to make familiar the
unfamiliar and making thisfamiliar, making the feeling
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familiar, or the emotion thatyou feel familiar, or the
emotion that you feel, thefeeling that you feel in your
body associated with thecircumstances that you're
feeling pulled towards or justgetting grounded with yourself.
The more that you make thatfamiliar because your brain
likes the familiar, your brainwill feel safe, and I know Kathy
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Heller always says that changehappens at the speed of safety.
So we need to make sure thatwe're making it familiar so that
we do feel safe when we'remaking the change and we have
faith in ourselves.
And you can do this even justin five minutes a day of just
practicing the feeling,imagining that feeling,
listening to a song that putsyou in that feeling state, maybe
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sitting outside or in theshower.
You can think about thatfeeling state, just something
that gets you there, somethingthat gets you there, but
something that gets you theredaily.
So that's the commitment part.
But it's really not that hardbecause you love the way this
feels, or you wouldn't want tobe going there, you wouldn't
feel pulled to go there.
Another thing you can do that'shelped me a lot is I share it
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with just one person that Itrust a lot.
And boy, this part is reallyimportant.
You've got to be very carefulwho you choose for this, because
you'll have some people in yourlife that are your mirrors, as
far as they mirror all of yourdoubts about yourself.
A lot of times it's the peopleclosest to you.
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Just a warning In my case, I'mvery fortunate that I'm married
to somebody who I do trust withthese very delicate topics and
he doesn't mirror all my doubts.
He actually calls me out whenI'm speaking my doubts, which is
good, and that way, when I takea little dip or I feel a little
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bit off track or I thinksomething's in my way or I'm
losing sight of the next tree,the next pole, the next step,
the next stage, he reminds mehe's very, very patient and he
reminds me to let go of it,because your control only goes
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so far and you can't controljust does not take you where you
want to go.
You've got to let go of things,and when you actually let go,
that takes you a lot furtherthan your fake sense of control
could ever take you.
So scary at times, butdefinitely worth it.
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Another thing that I wouldstrongly recommend would be to
be around people every singleday that are it, whatever that
feeling is.
So it might not if it's anotherplace.
It could be people that loveliving where they are.
If it's a different type ofcareer, it could be people that
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love their jobs.
If those people aren't in yourphysical proximity, go to a
podcast, read a book, listen toan audio book just a few minutes
a day, because we become and Itell kids this all the time the
five people that we spend themost time with.
We become an average of thempretty much, so it's really
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important to align yourself thatinspire you and are at that
frequency of living their bestlives.
Another thing that I wouldstrongly recommend is and it
does not need to be me, but geta coach if you possibly can and
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do the work, Because it doestake some work and often but not
always often we need coaches tohelp us or counselors to help
us reprogram our subconscious,which runs the show about 90% of
the time, and a coach can helpus clear up our conflicting
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beliefs.
I don't know where I'd bewithout the coaches in my life,
so, but there are plenty outthere, plenty out there to
choose from, and I'd say, evenif you just do a few sessions,
you'll feel something and itwill be a shift.
I have clients who shiftedwithin three or four sessions,
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and there were adults that madehuge life changes, and so it is
definitely possible.
I see a coach more often thanthat, but everybody has their
own style and their own budget,so those are just a couple
things that I thought I wouldshare with you, and I wish you
the best on your journey.
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I'd love to be part of it, soplease, even if it's just
listening to this podcast, countme in.
I trust in the process of life.
Life happens for me, through meand by me.
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I trust.
So I actually learned that thewrong turn ends up being my
perfect path.
Sometimes the unexpected detour, the obstacle in the way turns
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out to be the biggestredirection and the best
redirection that could havepossibly happened for me.
I would never have evenimagined that could have
possibly happened for me.
I would never have evenimagined.
So the key lessons I think fromthis are that doubt is normal,
but I'm working my hardest tonot let it make my decisions for
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me, and setbacks to me arestarting more and more to mean
redirection instead of failure,as they used to.
Trusting my gut is definitely askill.
It's like a muscle and Istrengthen it.
I use it all the time and it'sstill a practice.
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So the more intuitive decisionmaking I make, the more clarity
I get with my life's choices,and it helps me to manifest
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success.
The more I trust the process,the more I feel the pull, the
more I follow my guidance andthe more I just believe, the
more I become.
So please, if you faced a momentwhere life redirected you, I
would love to hear about it.
I would love to hear about itin the chat, and if you enjoyed
this episode, please like,subscribe, share and join me.
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We're all in this together.
Thank you for listening.
Thank you so much for joiningme today.
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seeing you next time.
We're all in this together.
Welcome to Just Count Me In a podcast about
coming home to yourself andfinding your expression,
figuring out who exactly youcame here to be also known as
living your best life.
I'm Sari Stone and I'll be yourhost.
So have you ever doubted yourpath just when you were right in
(00:21):
the middle of it?
In this episode, I'm going toshare my journey.
There was an unexpected detourthat actually led me exactly to
where I was meant to be.
Have you ever felt so sureabout a decision and then you
question everything whenobstacles appear?
Well, I hope you tune into thisepisode today because in this
(00:47):
episode, I share what I did acouple of times when I faced
moments where life completelyredirected me.
I share my journey of followingmy intuition, the unexpected
turns that led me to the rightplace, and lessons from my life,
as well as one of my coachingclients.
(01:08):
It's been a journey and it'sbeen a trip, learning how to
overcome fear and trust.
The process manifest my bestlife.
But if you're seeking clarity,courage and inspiration, and if
you've ever struggled withself-doubt in the middle of what
you thought was your chosenflow, check this episode out and
(01:32):
please share if you've everfaced a moment where your life
was redirected Enjoy.
So.
Wayne Dyer was once quoted insaying trust in your journey and
remain steadfast in your belief.
Doubt has no power.
(01:52):
Where determination and faithreside, even when nothing seems
to indicate that you'reaccomplishing what you desire in
your life, refuse to entertaindoubt.
Remain steadfast in your life.
Refuse to entertain doubt.
Remain steadfast in your belief.
So I'm looking outside my window, teaching my yoga class this
morning, and I see somesquirrels and they're just
(02:15):
leaping from one tree to thenext.
They're pretty tall trees, butI noticed that the squirrels
just keep their eye on the treethat they're jumping to.
They ignore the barking dognext door, they ignore the hawks
circling above them.
Their eye is on that tree, theyknow that they're going to go
there and they end up on thenext tree every time.
(02:35):
Okay.
So I thought, man, I could takea lesson from these squirrels,
because sometimes, when I knowwhat I need to do and when I can
feel what I want to do and whatI'm meant to do and what I'm
supposed to do, when somethinggets thrown in my path, I get a
little diverted, a little bit ofdoubt creeps in and I think
(02:56):
maybe this isn't the right pathfor me.
Maybe this wouldn't havehappened if I was in my flow
state the way I thought I was,and I might abandon ship before
I should.
So point in case my trip toColorado and how I ended up
there.
Actually, this should be calledmore like my trip to Arizona
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and how I ended up in Colorado.
So when I was 18, after a yearof just not being happy where I
lived, I decided completely froma knowing in my soul that I
needed to live out West.
I had never been out West.
I did not research the Westthere wasn't Google then I just
(03:38):
had a feeling about it and I hada feeling that it was going to
be Arizona.
This was not very logical.
My parents were not extremelyhappy about it, but my mom knew
that I need to really follow myheart.
She knew me, she got it andthey just made sure that my car
was safe and I was safe and sentme on my way.
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I went with a girlfriend andshe was excited about going.
The other friends that I hadthat were excited about going
kind of fell away as the schoolyear came to a close and we
graduated.
They ended up deciding thatthey were going to stay put in
their zip code, which I am notknocking.
There's nothing wrong with itif that's where you're meant to
be.
But I could feel that I wasmeant for something different
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and I was.
So we headed out and we got toColorado, got as far as Colorado
, noticing what a big, beautifulcountry it was.
I mean, I had never been westof Pennsylvania before, I was on
the East Coast and I just wasin awe of everything, just so
excited for my journey.
But I knew I was going to endup in Arizona and get my
(04:45):
residency and then start schoolthere in January and I just I
had my plan and I felt my pull.
Well, there were other plansfor me on the trajectory that I
didn't know about.
So when I got to Estes StatePark, we were supposed to camp,
my girlfriend and I were campingacross the country and the
(05:06):
rings blew on my pinto.
This was a pinto pulling a 4x6U-Haul not the brightest idea, I
know that.
But I thought it was going tobe okay.
And when that happened I waspretty scared.
But at least Estes Park was areally nice place and luckily a
(05:27):
friend of mine had a brother andsister-in-law.
Their family lived in ColoradoSprings, so blowing smoke out
the car all the way from EstesPark to Colorado Springs and I'm
still apologizing to the peoplewho were behind me at that time
.
I made it, people who werebehind me at that time.
(05:49):
I made it Okay and was able tostay at their house for five
days, which was amazing and kind, and explore a little bit of
Colorado, because I didn'treally have a car.
But they kind of took me aroundand showed me a few places and
this was while my car was beingfixed.
The man was able to fix it.
It did take five days and ittook $500, which was my savings.
Okay, that was the money that Ihad for my cushion for when I
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landed in Arizona to get me aroom for a week or two.
Then the plan was get a job,waiting tables, make my money
and then get going, you know,with my life, root into my life
a little bit.
So I was pretty scared thatthat money was gone, but I still
felt the pull so I still went.
I decided to go.
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So I thanked the family I wasstaying with and realized, wow,
colorado is really a very, verybeautiful place and it felt
pretty good there, but I wasstill going to live in Arizona.
So I drove the 12 hours toArizona, got there and within a
few hours I was prettydisappointed is a light word for
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the way I felt.
I can't even come up withactually the right word.
I felt like the floor had justbeen pulled up from under my
feet and I was falling down anelevator shaft because Arizona
is a great place but it was notmy place and I had thought it
was going to be my place, and itwas a moment.
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My girlfriend got completelyhysterical.
She wanted to go home.
She had her plane ticket money,so literally I dropped her off
at the Phoenix airport.
So then I was alone with enoughmoney to get me through about a
week of gas and living and nomoney for when I got there and
didn't know what I was going todo but I knew I wasn't going to
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do it in Arizona so it occurredto me maybe, maybe I can just go
stay in Colorado for a littlewhile.
It felt pretty good to me thereand maybe that was just so much
better.
Maybe that was where I wassupposed to be for a while and
as it turned out, I was supposedto be there for a while.
(08:06):
I lived there out of my life atotal of close to 30 years and I
definitely felt that it was aplace that I needed to be for
most of that time.
So if I had just given up andgone back to New Jersey where I
grew up, I think I would havemissed out on a lot and I didn't
(08:30):
know then, to be very honest, Ididn't know about manifesting
then.
I knew about Wayne Dyer and Iknew about he was into more like
your erroneous zones andgetting rid of your conditioning
from your parents and all thatand very valuable, but not this
manifesting, not destiny, noneof that.
(08:50):
But I knew my pull and Itrusted my inner guidance and my
mom always supported me withthat.
To her I'm forever grateful.
I also thought of anotherexample where this worked, where
somebody that I was coachingtook a leap out of her
(09:11):
relationship with a narcissistinto basically nowhere.
She didn't wait for the nextperson to come along.
She didn't wait for anythingcatastrophic or dramatic to
happen.
She didn't wait for anythingcatastrophic or dramatic to
happen.
She, just after a couple ofcoaching sessions, she realized
that she was better than thatand she started to feel the
(09:33):
calling of her best life.
She kept connecting to Sourceand just affirming that what she
believed, clearing things.
She cleared any conflictingbeliefs.
That happen very often.
We have one belief that saysI'm going to get into a great
(09:55):
relationship, I deserve that.
And then you have anotherbelief relationships don't last,
or men can't be trusted, orthere's some garbage in there
that's conflicting with yourbelief, or you would just be
totally.
Your life would be a completereflection of all of your
highest and best beliefs.
There's something that you needto just clear up and those
(10:17):
things will become apparent inyour path when you're on the
right path.
So it didn't mean that she wason the wrong path when she had
doubtful moments and it didn'tmean that she was on the wrong
path when she was alone onValentine's Day and on her
birthday again, she just keptfeeling.
And when we coached, we justkept connecting her to that
(10:40):
feeling and exploring practicesto help her stay connected on a
daily basis so that she actuallybecame that feeling.
That feeling was familiar toher and we made the feeling of
love and belonging andacceptance familiar.
We know that the brain likesfamiliar.
And, lo and behold, within afew months she literally met the
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love of her life.
They're getting ready to getmarried next year.
I'm just I mean, I get tearedup when I even think about it,
because she's one of the mostbeautiful people I've met and
I'm just so grateful that she'shappy with her life now and she
feels fulfilled, becauseeverybody deserves that.
Everyone deserves that.
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Because everybody deserves that.
Everyone deserves that.
We all deserve to feel thebeauty and the freedom that we
can only feel when we are being100% ourselves.
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So is the fear of failinggreater than the risk you take
by remaining on the same tree inyour life?
And how do you want to liveyour life?
Do you want to make choicesbased on love or as a result of
fear?
It's easier said than done.
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I'm still practicing.
My stepmom, clara G, was a greatexample of this, and she was
103, and she told me that shelived her life.
She said, sari, live your lifewith bent knees.
Get ready to pivot at anymoment when you need to change.
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Be flexible.
And I thought, boy, she reallyhad it.
Faith is taking the first stepwhen you can't always see the
staircase.
And courage isn't about beingunafraid.
It's about facing your fearsand doing what's right in spite
of them, and Martin Luther Kingsaid that.
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So if you're at a space in yourlife where you're feeling the
pull and you're feelingconnected and you get a little
bit spooked when somethingdoesn't go your way, stay the
course, feel the pull, cl, climbthat rope and keep reaching for
your dreams.
Just take one step at a timeand if you'd like to take those
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steps together, I would love theopportunity to work with you.
If you know a child who wouldlike to take those steps in
their life, in whatever formthat takes, I would love to work
with them in any capacity.
And if you know someone whomight benefit from hearing this
episode, please share it withthem, because that's why I do
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this.
We're all in this together.
So a couple things you can do tohelp you in this process.
Number one on your own, youneed to make familiar the
unfamiliar and making thisfamiliar, making the feeling
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familiar, or the emotion thatyou feel familiar, or the
emotion that you feel, thefeeling that you feel in your
body associated with thecircumstances that you're
feeling pulled towards or justgetting grounded with yourself.
The more that you make thatfamiliar because your brain
likes the familiar, your brainwill feel safe, and I know Kathy
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Heller always says that changehappens at the speed of safety.
So we need to make sure thatwe're making it familiar so that
we do feel safe when we'remaking the change and we have
faith in ourselves.
And you can do this even justin five minutes a day of just
practicing the feeling,imagining that feeling,
listening to a song that putsyou in that feeling state, maybe
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sitting outside or in theshower.
You can think about thatfeeling state, just something
that gets you there, somethingthat gets you there, but
something that gets you theredaily.
So that's the commitment part.
But it's really not that hardbecause you love the way this
feels, or you wouldn't want tobe going there, you wouldn't
feel pulled to go there.
Another thing you can do that'shelped me a lot is I share it
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with just one person that Itrust a lot.
And boy, this part is reallyimportant.
You've got to be very carefulwho you choose for this, because
you'll have some people in yourlife that are your mirrors, as
far as they mirror all of yourdoubts about yourself.
A lot of times it's the peopleclosest to you.
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Just a warning In my case, I'mvery fortunate that I'm married
to somebody who I do trust withthese very delicate topics and
he doesn't mirror all my doubts.
He actually calls me out whenI'm speaking my doubts, which is
good, and that way, when I takea little dip or I feel a little
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bit off track or I thinksomething's in my way or I'm
losing sight of the next tree,the next pole, the next step,
the next stage, he reminds mehe's very, very patient and he
reminds me to let go of it,because your control only goes
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so far and you can't controljust does not take you where you
want to go.
You've got to let go of things,and when you actually let go,
that takes you a lot furtherthan your fake sense of control
could ever take you.
So scary at times, butdefinitely worth it.
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Another thing that I wouldstrongly recommend would be to
be around people every singleday that are it, whatever that
feeling is.
So it might not if it's anotherplace.
It could be people that loveliving where they are.
If it's a different type ofcareer, it could be people that
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love their jobs.
If those people aren't in yourphysical proximity, go to a
podcast, read a book, listen toan audio book just a few minutes
a day, because we become and Itell kids this all the time the
five people that we spend themost time with.
We become an average of thempretty much, so it's really
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important to align yourself thatinspire you and are at that
frequency of living their bestlives.
Another thing that I wouldstrongly recommend is and it
does not need to be me, but geta coach if you possibly can and
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do the work, Because it doestake some work and often but not
always often we need coaches tohelp us or counselors to help
us reprogram our subconscious,which runs the show about 90% of
the time, and a coach can helpus clear up our conflicting
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beliefs.
I don't know where I'd bewithout the coaches in my life,
so, but there are plenty outthere, plenty out there to
choose from, and I'd say, evenif you just do a few sessions,
you'll feel something and itwill be a shift.
I have clients who shiftedwithin three or four sessions,
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and there were adults that madehuge life changes, and so it is
definitely possible.
I see a coach more often thanthat, but everybody has their
own style and their own budget,so those are just a couple
things that I thought I wouldshare with you, and I wish you
the best on your journey.
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I'd love to be part of it, soplease, even if it's just
listening to this podcast, countme in.
I trust in the process of life.
Life happens for me, through meand by me.
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I trust.
So I actually learned that thewrong turn ends up being my
perfect path.
Sometimes the unexpected detour, the obstacle in the way turns
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out to be the biggestredirection and the best
redirection that could havepossibly happened for me.
I would never have evenimagined that could have
possibly happened for me.
I would never have evenimagined.
So the key lessons I think fromthis are that doubt is normal,
but I'm working my hardest tonot let it make my decisions for
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me, and setbacks to me arestarting more and more to mean
redirection instead of failure,as they used to.
Trusting my gut is definitely askill.
It's like a muscle and Istrengthen it.
I use it all the time and it'sstill a practice.
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So the more intuitive decisionmaking I make, the more clarity
I get with my life's choices,and it helps me to manifest
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success.
The more I trust the process,the more I feel the pull, the
more I follow my guidance andthe more I just believe, the
more I become.
So please, if you faced a momentwhere life redirected you, I
would love to hear about it.
I would love to hear about itin the chat, and if you enjoyed
this episode, please like,subscribe, share and join me.
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We're all in this together.
Thank you for listening.
Thank you so much for joiningme today.
If you like this episode,please let me know.
Stop by social media, onInstagram or my Facebook page,
just count me in and pleaseleave a comment.
If there's anybody that youthink could benefit from this
episode, please forward it tothem, and I look forward to
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seeing you next time.
We're all in this together.
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