January 6, 2025 • 32 mins
Not sure where to meet amazing women? My guest Dan and I have done the research for you! With humor, honesty, and a touch of science, we reveal the top five environments for meeting women and share the do’s, don’ts, and unexpected surprises of each setting.
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In your ears right now, another banger, another TextGod.com podcast with Louis Farfields and
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Daan De Ram.
Today we're gonna talk about where to meet women.
We have, through scientific elimination method, identified five categories to meet delicious
women that you can then seduce, fornicate with.
Fornicate.
Yes, make children, start a family, reproduce.
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And in this podcast we're gonna go over all five of these places.
Which one is best for you?
Where are the women that you really like?
We're gonna give you some pros and cons per category.
Hey, let's not beat around the bush too much.
I'll already tell you the five categories.
There's day game, night game, social circle game, events, and online.
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Event game and online game.
Nice.
Those are the five in later episodes.
Once we identify what you want more information on, we're gonna delve deep into the five.
Into your favorite ones.
But for now I'm gonna give you a brief overview of these five.
Which one you should use and why and which ones you should steer clear from at all costs.
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Sounds good.
Let's start with day game, my favorite.
I wouldn't say it's my favorite, but as we agreed upon in an earlier podcast that hopefully
you heard, day game is a must do for 90% of all men in the world.
Why Dan?
Well, what is day game for the few that don't know meeting girls in the daytime?
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Why will you probably leave the house in the daytime at some point?
Some of you don't, some of you don't.
And maybe you live in a very secluded village, then it might be not for you, but most of
us live in cities.
You enter a shopping center, a supermarket, go and do an approach.
You have eye contact.
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And it's a good story.
This is sort of how we met at the park.
It's very fun to do.
It's outside of your comfort zone.
And again, sometimes you just have eye contact, sometimes you just see that stunner walking
and you're like, I wanna approach her and you feel like a massive bitch if you don't.
I feel like a massive bitch many times.
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It's a feeling I'm not particularly fond of.
No, but getting good at day game prevents that feeling from occurring one too many times.
You make a good point, I would say, even if you live in a village, most of the time meeting
women is gonna be in some sort of daytime situation.
Whether you're quickly grabbing lunch or you're going to the supermarket or you're going to
your gym or you're on your way to work or you're on your way to meet your cousin or whatever
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it is, you're gonna run into beautiful women.
And knowing that you are capable of just walking up to them, having a nice conversation, feeling
some feel-z's and having the potential of something nice and romantic flowing forth
out of that interaction, that is just amazing.
Plus, all the skills you learn in those day game interactions are gonna be useful in each
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and every one of those other four categories.
Yep, absolutely.
It's sober, it's very good for...
Well, actually, let me take one step back.
Should we discuss the pros and the cons for each category and finish up with who it's best for?
Sure.
Day game.
Pros.
You can do it almost anytime anywhere.
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Yep, creates opportunities.
We have eye contact when you see that stunner and you're one-on-one instantly.
No groups, no hassle.
You would have massive balls, you're one-on-two or one-on-three or one-on-four, but also possible.
I would say day game, more than any one of the other ones, is best for your self-esteem
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and for your overall confidence levels in life.
And that is something that every guy wants to have, wants to feel.
Yeah, indeed.
It's sober, can do it from early morning to evening.
And I'd say it's easier to be impressive if you go and talk with a girl on the daytime.
You're just way more stimulating than the rest of the surroundings.
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If you do the same thing at 3am in a nightclub, yeah, she's been approached before.
You have to be a bit more present, a bit more funny or witty or dominant.
It just takes a bit more to impress a girl just by the sake of approaching in a nightclub
versus in the daytime.
Yeah, put very simply, every girl that enters a nightclub knows that she's going to be approached.
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Every girl that leaves her house to go grocery shopping does not know she's going to be approached.
So it's like, whoa, you caught her by surprise.
And if you do a good job, she's pleasantly surprised.
Yeah, cons.
I can't think of any cons.
Yeah, if done wrongly, you might look like a freak, especially if you do it in your small
town.
I would even say just don't do day game in cities under 30k population or SDK population.
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Might not want to do that.
Yeah, okay, there's something.
Yes, it can be very difficult if you have not taken care of your appearance at all.
That goes for everything.
Another one I would say is that it's sometimes hard to get volume in.
Some cities just don't have a mall, shopping center, station, street, whatever it is, that's
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full of women.
If you live in New York or London, you can really get some approaches in.
Some cities just don't have that many hot women or just not built that way.
Like I was living in Medellin, Colombia for a while.
Quite some beautiful women there, but not the best city for day game.
So I could easily walk around for a while and just not do an approach for 20 minutes.
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And that's very different than a nightclub.
There's just no excuse in a nightclub.
I guess that is a valid point.
There are some other categories where you will not have that limited amount of options.
So maybe that is the biggest downfall to a day game.
So who is it for?
I would say for everyone that is ready to socialize.
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For everyone that is not in dire need of therapy first.
I love it.
I agree.
It's good for a very broad spectrum of guys.
Just not if you're living in a very rural secluded village, then it's not for you.
Yes, if you have massive social anxiety, maybe it's not for you.
Otherwise, it's just a really great skill that you have to practice.
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Okay, next one.
Next one.
Let's take events.
And by events, we mean dating events, right?
Not a festival because that would be day game again.
Dating events.
Night game, whatever.
I think we have the same opinion.
You need to have done it at least once.
Yeah.
How many times have we done it?
Speed dating, single trips, such events.
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So we're talking dating events.
How many of those events have you done?
Just a few times, probably twice.
Not a lot.
I did one.
Right.
Yeah.
It's not really for me, but we'll end there.
Pros, what are those?
Well, pros is exactly what you said could be the shortcoming of day game where maybe you
need to walk three hours to find two or three good women.
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Dating event, you show up and you meet 15 women where you want to or not within one
hour.
So it's good to get a lot of repetition, a lot of exposure in a short time.
There's no pushing out of the approach.
There's no, yeah, but this one's not hot enough.
You sit in front of her and you can practice.
Yeah.
They're sort of qualified, you could say.
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They're all single and looking for somebody.
So that's nice too.
Some events are a bit niche.
Speed dating for 35 and above.
If you're an older man looking for this age category.
That's great too.
Yeah.
So it can be qualified and yeah, it can be very qualified leads, you could say.
Yeah.
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There's definitely some pros and some good pros to it.
The reason I didn't really like speed dating is I can be very picky and then I showed up
and I had to do 15 interactions, but there was only one out of the 15 that I would have
considered sleeping with.
But at the same time, so I tried to make it a game.
After the 15 mini dates, you would find out how many people liked you and if you liked
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each other, you go to, you know, you exchange contact or whatever.
And I just wanted to get a 15 out of 15.
So I would practice my game.
I would try to, I was like thinking what are other guys going to do?
How am I going to do it differently?
You know, the guy's listening to this.
If you know that you have a weakness, you're not teasing enough, go to a dating event and
try teasing 15 times with 15 women.
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You're going to learn so much.
Awesome.
Yeah.
Yeah, I like that too about it.
Another big pro is that they typically, like if it's like a longer event, like, you know,
some travels that they typically organize stuff to get each other, get everybody to know
each other.
That's great.
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And like you said, we can get experience in bam, bam, speed dating, free men's convo,
free men's convo, free men's convo.
The biggest con, I guess you touched on that.
Like the quality, I think is a little lower.
Yeah.
The quality ain't always there, but I think a lot of guys that want to get better at dating,
to say it's very crudely or rudely, you haven't earned the right to bitch about quality yet
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because you haven't done enough approaches.
Why be super picky when you're just not a good flirt yet?
I don't know.
It's good to have, you know, to see yourself as a cool guy and stuff, but you can still
learn from talking to a woman who is not your dream woman.
Oh, yeah, yeah.
I hate this one of the guys like, oh, I don't even want to talk with her because I don't
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want to sleep with her.
It's like, dude, you spoke with like two girls in the last two months, so you just need to
get your reps in, man.
Talking doesn't equal sleeping.
Anyway, do you think that sums it up?
Well, oh, another downside is often they get canceled.
There's not enough people and, you know, that happens quite often.
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It's depending on the city, the place, but I've seen that quite a few times.
It's an all right way for who is this?
Yeah.
I think it is for everyone that wants to get in a lot of reps quickly or wants to train
a particular part of flirting.
I think it's also often good for older guys.
Also, I feel like the quality goes up once you're a bit older.
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Yeah.
And once you're older, you are looking more for qualified leads or simply put women that
are single because obviously, let's say you're 55 and you want to date women 35 years and
above.
Many of those women are going to be in relationships or married.
So it might just save you a lot of time.
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If you approach a few women in their 40s, you're going to hear so often, oh, I'm a relationship,
relationship, relationship.
So this really saves a lot of time in that case.
One quick thing I want to touch upon.
We've had day game and we've had these dating events.
I'm not sure where we put them, but you have these, the point of recording is these running
clubs are very in just people that meet up to go running together and they wear their
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silly hipster glasses and a little hipster vest and their whole costs or whatever new
shoes.
It is widely regarded as more of a social gathering slash dating event rather than really
a sports club.
So those things, they, they're a pretty good option for you as well.
I think there's somewhere in between day game and dating events, but if you do want
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to get a lot of reps and you want to meet people that are into a same type of thing
as you in this case running, well, then you go to one of these running clubs.
Interesting.
All right.
Next one.
Next one.
Let's do your specialty.
We already talked about my specialty.
Oh, your other specialty, night game.
Oh, okay, okay, okay.
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Well, okay.
For the listener that is not familiar with, with Dan here, he cannot do night game anymore
because he's coached in so many clubs that his ears are completely fucked.
And even with earplugs, he just cannot enter the club anymore.
Yeah.
Tonight is, it sucks.
Where earplugs gets.
Yeah.
Night game.
A lot of fun.
Cons.
I would say, no, pros first.
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I would say just the results are way more polarized.
So yeah, you can meet a girl in a group and make out with her in a few minutes in the
daytime, but I've done that like a few times in my life.
That's very extraordinary to meet her in a group.
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I've met up with many girls in the daytime and ended up making out with them, but still
that will not happen multiple times a day.
How many times have you pulled a threesome out of day game?
Oh yeah, never.
No.
I'll be very honest.
I also haven't done it in day.
Almost once, but it was with you.
So it's like a threesome, but it was like.
Oh, you're in Barcelona.
Yeah.
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I don't know.
That was just pretty weird.
But have you done it in night game?
Yeah, yeah, many times.
Yeah.
I also have done it in night game, but never in day game.
No.
Like that's just crazy.
So yeah, the results are just way quicker or like making out with multiple girls in
the evening.
That's pretty normal when she gets good in the daytime.
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That's just not going to happen.
Exactly.
I like how you said it.
Poor rise of results.
You can also have a really shit night where nothing's going your way and you just go home
feeling like a massive loser.
There's also a lot of growth in that.
Yeah.
The other one is the volume.
There's just clubs, just have a certain type of people and a lot of girls that are likely
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single.
It's just easy to get volume in.
There's just no excuse to enter a night club and not approach at least like 20 women.
Yeah, and that brings you to another point as well at the start of this podcast.
I was like, Hey, what is the right place for you?
So if you're looking for the mother of your future kids, you might not want to go look
for her in that skanky nightclub.
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You might want to hit her up at a wholesome bookstore or whatever.
But yeah, for any guy that wants to get an experience in, you want to learn to seduce
maybe a bit quicker, you want to learn how to be a bit more physical, you want to do
a lot of teasing, you want to be really strong with your eye contact or leading or the night
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club is a jungle.
Yeah.
Almost like the rules of society don't really exist there and it's an experimental playground.
Oh, I love that.
That's so true.
Like you can't say the most batsy shit, insane things.
Again, very polarizing, so it's a good place to learn the more extremes of game as well.
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Certain aspects as well, like getting physical.
Many guys are afraid to initiate it.
They're afraid to be creepy or, you know, and of course you should initiate that respectfully,
but you can just do it much quicker in a nightclub.
Whereas again, in the daytime, it's likely and unless you're getting advanced, not going
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to be very touchy from the start or even halfway through the conversation.
I agree.
Cons?
Quite a few.
Likewise, the polarized results, I've had nights where I just get cold shoulder or like
go away while you after saying hi, like you're like, oh, I just said hi, you just like go
away and say, whoa, you can just have really nice where you feel like shit.
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That's part of this.
Those nights will go better and better over time.
You'll have them less and less, but yeah, even if you're good, every once in a while
you just have a bad night.
That might still happen.
Massive con for me, especially the older you get is, well, it's night game.
It's at night and I want to sleep at night and then I'm not feeling as fresh the next
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day and you need to stay up late.
Then I get tired.
Back in the day, I wouldn't care about that, right?
The times where we would do infinite club sessions during boot camps and I'm thinking
mostly of our Barcelona times where we would go out every night.
Every night.
Seven days.
After night, after night, after night.
But yeah, for the guys who are getting a little bit older, night game is going to,
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it's going to wear you down.
Yep.
Yeah, through that.
Another con is the alcohol.
You cannot drink and go out.
I did that many, many times, but it's a part of it.
Sometimes you will get seduced by a drink.
It's just less healthy.
The one thing that really, like I remember one point, I just started to like it less
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and less and I had another night where the girl was with me and she was interested in
me.
We made out a few times, but just getting her home was clearly another like two hours of
being there because she's attached to the group and her this and that.
And I was like, fuck, am I just really going to just, I just want to go home and I know
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I can take her home, but it's got to be like another two, three more hours and it's like
five or six AM.
Oh, it's just tiring, man.
And the groups, they can just be a little bit annoying.
Yeah.
The logistics can be very hard.
I think that now you're mostly speaking out of your experience and you're a coach and
you've done it hundreds of times.
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Any guy who's learning game, he will put in the extra two hours and take the girl home
and have an amazing story to tell.
Yeah.
It's just worth it.
Yeah.
It's just lazy.
And that's so good about the dates, right?
Instantly one-on-one or day game.
So yeah, that's definitely con.
Other ones are, yeah, they allowed music.
Yep.
Yeah.
So who should do night game?
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One who wants to learn a lot fast, who has the luxury of spending those later hours.
So probably anyone who's younger, anyone who is like, the night club isn't really my scene.
You should especially go because you're probably just making excuses for yourself.
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You don't have to go a hundred times, but yeah.
I can't really pick a number, but you should go plenty of times.
Yeah.
I agree.
Some guys just write it off way too quickly.
I understand.
If you're not very social or you're very not expressive, yes, it's going to be a bit harder,
but I would still recommend you just give it a go.
I've had kind of like a judgment on the night clubs like, oh, it's so superficial and oh,
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I don't like this poppy music.
It's too mainstream for me.
And yeah, I still don't like many kinds of music.
They play many of the clubs, but get over it.
There's cool people there, socialize, give it a go and try it at least 10 times.
And go hard.
Because once you have a fun night where you just feel on, like you're on fire, that's
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very fun.
That's amazing.
Yeah.
Yeah.
The night club can make you feel a type of way that you're not going to feel in day game
or at your little speed dating event or on your Tinder.
Hey, one last thing I want to say about the night club that I think is a very, very, very
massive reason why everyone should do it enough times is there is no other place like a night
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club where so many unexpected things will come at you in such quick succession.
You get obstacle after obstacle and suddenly there's a friend and a puff, a stranger walks
past and they spilled a drink over you.
And then there's a mega drunk guy who talked to the girl that you were talking to earlier
and suddenly he wants to fight and you on the spot need to figure out how to not fight
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him.
And then you lost the girl you were talking to and now you need to come up with a plan
and there's, as we said earlier, it's a jungle with its own rules, but you need to do a lot
of quick thinking and just overcome so many hurdles.
And I feel like if you get those experiences and you become good at that, then how easy
is it suddenly to walk up to a girl in the supermarket where both of you are quite chill.
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The biggest issue there could be that she's a bit in a rush to hit the next meeting.
But you've, you know, last weekend you touched the fight and somehow convinced two of her
friends that you're the right guy for the girl and you let her through this chaotic,
very busy sweaty mess to the bar and then to the terrace because suddenly she needed
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a smoke where she usually doesn't smoke, but only when she's drunk and then you had to
somehow find her a cigarette or...
Yeah, yeah, it's such a mess and that's the really fun about it too.
Best stories are often from Night's Game.
For sure.
Yeah.
Next one.
Yeah.
Online?
Online.
Yeah, I think online is really bad.
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Yes, that's your forte.
Like, oh man, how many pros can you sum up?
There's infinite options.
Those three hot girls that you found during your 10 hour day game walk, now you saw all
of them plus 100 more while taking a shit.
At least if your profile is good enough.
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So there's infinite girls.
You can also experiment a lot.
You get quite direct feedback.
You know one thing that I like for guys who want to get better at game, you can do your
day game stuff and if you record your interactions then you have the same luxury as with online
dating because I wanted to say you can look at your convo.
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Where did I go wrong?
Where did I mess up?
You have like the whole interaction.
But a pro, which is also a con of online dating is that you're nice and safe behind your screen.
It's in your comfort zone.
You could talk to a very hot woman while you're unshowered and you haven't gotten a haircut
in too long and all those type of things.
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The same time though, a lot of our clients still feel hurt or uncomfortable when talking
to a hot girl even if it is through a screen.
Yeah, it makes sense.
Like, oh, that's my opportunity.
I matched this super hot girl and look at her bikini pics.
She has a cuddly body.
Yeah, I think there's so many pros to it.
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One is just like you're taking a nap and you open your phone and you just matched with
a hottie.
It can be like dating on passive mode.
If you fix your dating profile, there's usually a transition to the quality of your Instagram
profile, which is also very nice to have on points because it just gives more information
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to the girl.
So whether you meet her online or during the daytime, once you get her on your Instagram
and it is nice, then it just makes dating way easier.
Kons.
Yeah.
Kons, I kind of don't like that you can be a giant pussy in real life and still talk
to these women on dating apps.
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It's fine, but every guy that wants to become a more attractive guy, if you're doing online
game because you're afraid of the day game and the night game and the real life interactions,
you know, then you're just finding the easiest way out and that is how I hate it.
Yeah.
Well said.
When the dating apps came out, the barriers to entry was rather low.
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Anyone with a mediocre profile could still get matches.
The competition did get better.
Still a lot of guys have shitty profiles.
A lot of guys, but there is a larger group now versus that starts that did learn how
to make their profile on points and they do get more of the matches.
So yes, it requires a little bit more effort nowadays than eight years ago.
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Yeah.
I would say one con is for the little bit more extroverted guys.
Those are often the ones that get really frustrated with online dating because let's say you're
not the best looking guy and you don't have the best verbal game because let's be real
flirting over text is all verbal game.
Suddenly you don't have your nonchalant body language and you don't have your strong eye
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contact and these guys get really frustrated because like what the fuck.
Hey, I can stand my ground if I'm thrown in front of a girl on the street or in a club,
but here it's not working and they just get so annoyed.
So online dating is good for anyone with, I would say, good looks and good verbal game.
Yeah.
And those sets.
That's why I love online dating so much.
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Yeah, fair.
So even with okay looks, you can still do well, but they go well.
Just put some effort into the profile.
So yeah, it creates such massive reach.
I would say it's basically for everybody, young, old, just if, if, you know, working
on your looks is totally not your thing and you have a lot of courage, my IRL.
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Yeah.
Then just do they game.
Otherwise, I would say everybody just do, everybody just do online game.
Yeah.
And if you only do it while pooping or on your lunch break at work when there's no colleague
around to be a social with, I don't really see a reason not to do it.
Brings us to the last one, which is social circle game.
And I know that you're not a big fan of it.
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No, not that much.
But to clarify, and there's a hint for who it's not for.
I don't live to be in big friend groups all the time.
And now all we're going to go all be a weekend over there.
And now we're all going to play volleyball at the beach.
It's just not my thing.
So yeah.
So I did get some girls through social circle, which is to clarify friend groups, maybe
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work, you could say like your salsa class, like any extension of your social network.
So I guess the running club that I was talking about also kind of fits in here.
Yeah.
Yeah.
You know what is with social circle?
When I was on the come up in the pickup scene back in the day, whenever we would do meetups
or house parties before going out, a lot of these pickup guys would ask me like, how do
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you do it?
I see it at the house party at the spotlights on you and I see that the girls are gravitating
towards you and you're kind of running the show and stuff.
And I wouldn't really be doing anything on purpose.
That's where I think the natural part comes in.
And I am quite an extraverted guy.
So it was natural for me.
And this may just sound like a pure boast, but I'm actually trying to make a point that
is don't try to force the social circle thing if you're more of an introverted guy or that's
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just not your thing.
We were talking about it earlier here.
Coach Dan and I, we know a bunch of people that kind of try to study the social circle
thing and they're like, yeah, I'm going to figure this out.
But if you're honest with yourself, you know that that's just not the best use of your
time, right?
That is not your bottleneck to go back to an earlier episode.
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I think if you're an extroverted people and you love being around other people, you're
going to do well in social situations.
Absolutely.
Yeah, you might kill it, especially if you have an in into some group of girls or you
just have a friend group that's already very mixed.
Yeah, then you can just really meet some girls.
I think you met quite some girls like this through some family memory.
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Oh, that was looking at me carefully.
Can I say this?
Yeah, I got with quite a lot of girls because of my sister.
My group of friends and my sister group of friends, we would merge and party together.
And yeah, I, I enjoy those situations and I would just, the best out of me, the best
parts of me would shine and then results happen.
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But yeah.
So pros and cons?
Cons, it's very hard to force yourself to be that group, epic guy, if you're just not
it.
Yeah.
And that's also the pros.
If you will thrive automatically in these situations, I would say, look them up.
I don't know that I think if you are never in those social circle situations, if you
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are a bit more of a loner as with all other topics, I would say, look up some of the situations,
not to try and be the man there.
If only just to kind of observe people, it's like, you can learn from everyone.
What's this guy doing there?
And that would happen to me back in the day, then we'd have house parties and I would be
in my element and I would just see that some of the guys from the pickup scene were sort
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of, they're sort of studying you like, what's he doing?
Are kind of looking at you.
Yeah.
What can I learn here?
But yeah, props to them.
Hell yeah.
I would say a bit of a con is like it's hard to do massive volume and it's a slower game.
So typically you're not going to be like, if you're at your salsa class, for example,
don't go, yeah, super direct, like, Hey, by the way, if you're super cute and I really
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want to see you on a date on Friday, don't do that shit.
You'll make a name.
We had a client that went way to hard and he was really famous for hitting on every girl
at his dance class.
And then you build a bit of a reputation that's affected him negatively.
He did get a few dates out of it still, but you know what I mean.
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But if you're in for the long game and like Louis says, you enjoy it, then it's, it can
be amazing.
And let's be honest, a lot of relationships get formed from work, from friend groups.
So it can work.
It's just a bit limited.
And for me personally, hey, I'm not going to lie.
I stopped with a lot of girls that I was also not that picky about, but with it comes for
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a girlfriend.
I am picky AF.
So I'm not going to just pick a girlfriend from the 20 girls I know.
I need to go out there and approach a thousand people and then a few out of those might be
girlfriend material.
Yeah, yeah, so the point you're making is there's only a certain amount of girls in
your social circle.
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Yeah.
So don't, if you're going for a girlfriend.
Yeah, all dirty odds.
So that's perfect.
Maybe.
That's the wider net.
Hey, one very good point that you made though is in the social settings, you don't want
to be too direct.
And I feel like it is a bit similar in a club, but for me, what I have really learned over
time doing house parties or let's say it's daytime and you're with a whole bunch of
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guys and girls in the park playing volleyball or whatever, it is really good to be flirty
even with multiple girls.
And yes, sometimes girls will complain like, ah, I already saw you flirt with her and blah,
blah, blah.
Yeah, on paper, it sounds like he's complaining, but it's usually going to be in your favor.
But what Dan said is a really good point.
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You do not want to make the hard moves in front of everyone.
So I'll get a very concrete example.
I would host a bunch of house parties and we would give them themes like madman theme
or nerds versus jock team or whatever.
It was always fun and a lot of girls would be there and I would flirt with so many girls
and everyone could see it.
And it just, I was that guy that, you know, a cliché and stupid old school pickup as
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it sounds, it really helped me out.
Girls were like, okay, it seems like all the girls want to flirt with him.
So then when I finally talked with that girl who saw me flirting with other girls, she was
at least curious, what is it about him then?
But I would not make my hardcore moves in front of people.
If I'd want to kiss someone at, pull her behind the corner or we'd just open a random room
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or when the house party is coming to an end and we're all going to move to a club, everyone
would go to the club and they're at the club and oh, it looks like Louis is not here or
whatever.
So I'd just stay behind with one girl and then we, yeah.
Fornicated.
Yeah.
But so a lot of, I think the flirting can be done in plain sight.
Yeah.
But the more the acting and the bowing and kissing, asking out, a bit more covert there.
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Yeah.
Yeah.
So that sums it up.
Will we have episodes where we dive deeper in all these weeks?
Yeah, exactly.
So for you listening, if there's any of these topics that you're particularly interested
in knowing more specifics, you maybe have very specific questions about them, day game, night
game, online game, circle, social circle game or these events, let us know in the comments
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if you're listening to this on Spotify and there is no comments, then go post them on
YouTube.
Let us know what you want us to talk about and we'll talk about it.
Hell yeah.
As usual, Dan, could you give the viewer listener a very juicy kiss?
In your ears right now, another banger, another TextGod.com podcast with Louis Farfields and
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Daan De Ram.
Today we're gonna talk about where to meet women.
We have, through scientific elimination method, identified five categories to meet delicious
women that you can then seduce, fornicate with.
Fornicate.
Yes, make children, start a family, reproduce.
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And in this podcast we're gonna go over all five of these places.
Which one is best for you?
Where are the women that you really like?
We're gonna give you some pros and cons per category.
Hey, let's not beat around the bush too much.
I'll already tell you the five categories.
There's day game, night game, social circle game, events, and online.
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Event game and online game.
Nice.
Those are the five in later episodes.
Once we identify what you want more information on, we're gonna delve deep into the five.
Into your favorite ones.
But for now I'm gonna give you a brief overview of these five.
Which one you should use and why and which ones you should steer clear from at all costs.
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Sounds good.
Let's start with day game, my favorite.
I wouldn't say it's my favorite, but as we agreed upon in an earlier podcast that hopefully
you heard, day game is a must do for 90% of all men in the world.
Why Dan?
Well, what is day game for the few that don't know meeting girls in the daytime?
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Why will you probably leave the house in the daytime at some point?
Some of you don't, some of you don't.
And maybe you live in a very secluded village, then it might be not for you, but most of
us live in cities.
You enter a shopping center, a supermarket, go and do an approach.
You have eye contact.
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And it's a good story.
This is sort of how we met at the park.
It's very fun to do.
It's outside of your comfort zone.
And again, sometimes you just have eye contact, sometimes you just see that stunner walking
and you're like, I wanna approach her and you feel like a massive bitch if you don't.
I feel like a massive bitch many times.
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It's a feeling I'm not particularly fond of.
No, but getting good at day game prevents that feeling from occurring one too many times.
You make a good point, I would say, even if you live in a village, most of the time meeting
women is gonna be in some sort of daytime situation.
Whether you're quickly grabbing lunch or you're going to the supermarket or you're going to
your gym or you're on your way to work or you're on your way to meet your cousin or whatever
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it is, you're gonna run into beautiful women.
And knowing that you are capable of just walking up to them, having a nice conversation, feeling
some feel-z's and having the potential of something nice and romantic flowing forth
out of that interaction, that is just amazing.
Plus, all the skills you learn in those day game interactions are gonna be useful in each
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and every one of those other four categories.
Yep, absolutely.
It's sober, it's very good for...
Well, actually, let me take one step back.
Should we discuss the pros and the cons for each category and finish up with who it's best for?
Sure.
Day game.
Pros.
You can do it almost anytime anywhere.
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Yep, creates opportunities.
We have eye contact when you see that stunner and you're one-on-one instantly.
No groups, no hassle.
You would have massive balls, you're one-on-two or one-on-three or one-on-four, but also possible.
I would say day game, more than any one of the other ones, is best for your self-esteem
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and for your overall confidence levels in life.
And that is something that every guy wants to have, wants to feel.
Yeah, indeed.
It's sober, can do it from early morning to evening.
And I'd say it's easier to be impressive if you go and talk with a girl on the daytime.
You're just way more stimulating than the rest of the surroundings.
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If you do the same thing at 3am in a nightclub, yeah, she's been approached before.
You have to be a bit more present, a bit more funny or witty or dominant.
It just takes a bit more to impress a girl just by the sake of approaching in a nightclub
versus in the daytime.
Yeah, put very simply, every girl that enters a nightclub knows that she's going to be approached.
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Every girl that leaves her house to go grocery shopping does not know she's going to be approached.
So it's like, whoa, you caught her by surprise.
And if you do a good job, she's pleasantly surprised.
Yeah, cons.
I can't think of any cons.
Yeah, if done wrongly, you might look like a freak, especially if you do it in your small
town.
I would even say just don't do day game in cities under 30k population or SDK population.
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Might not want to do that.
Yeah, okay, there's something.
Yes, it can be very difficult if you have not taken care of your appearance at all.
That goes for everything.
Another one I would say is that it's sometimes hard to get volume in.
Some cities just don't have a mall, shopping center, station, street, whatever it is, that's
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full of women.
If you live in New York or London, you can really get some approaches in.
Some cities just don't have that many hot women or just not built that way.
Like I was living in Medellin, Colombia for a while.
Quite some beautiful women there, but not the best city for day game.
So I could easily walk around for a while and just not do an approach for 20 minutes.
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And that's very different than a nightclub.
There's just no excuse in a nightclub.
I guess that is a valid point.
There are some other categories where you will not have that limited amount of options.
So maybe that is the biggest downfall to a day game.
So who is it for?
I would say for everyone that is ready to socialize.
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For everyone that is not in dire need of therapy first.
I love it.
I agree.
It's good for a very broad spectrum of guys.
Just not if you're living in a very rural secluded village, then it's not for you.
Yes, if you have massive social anxiety, maybe it's not for you.
Otherwise, it's just a really great skill that you have to practice.
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Okay, next one.
Next one.
Let's take events.
And by events, we mean dating events, right?
Not a festival because that would be day game again.
Dating events.
Night game, whatever.
I think we have the same opinion.
You need to have done it at least once.
Yeah.
How many times have we done it?
Speed dating, single trips, such events.
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So we're talking dating events.
How many of those events have you done?
Just a few times, probably twice.
Not a lot.
I did one.
Right.
Yeah.
It's not really for me, but we'll end there.
Pros, what are those?
Well, pros is exactly what you said could be the shortcoming of day game where maybe you
need to walk three hours to find two or three good women.
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Dating event, you show up and you meet 15 women where you want to or not within one
hour.
So it's good to get a lot of repetition, a lot of exposure in a short time.
There's no pushing out of the approach.
There's no, yeah, but this one's not hot enough.
You sit in front of her and you can practice.
Yeah.
They're sort of qualified, you could say.
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They're all single and looking for somebody.
So that's nice too.
Some events are a bit niche.
Speed dating for 35 and above.
If you're an older man looking for this age category.
That's great too.
Yeah.
So it can be qualified and yeah, it can be very qualified leads, you could say.
Yeah.
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There's definitely some pros and some good pros to it.
The reason I didn't really like speed dating is I can be very picky and then I showed up
and I had to do 15 interactions, but there was only one out of the 15 that I would have
considered sleeping with.
But at the same time, so I tried to make it a game.
After the 15 mini dates, you would find out how many people liked you and if you liked
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each other, you go to, you know, you exchange contact or whatever.
And I just wanted to get a 15 out of 15.
So I would practice my game.
I would try to, I was like thinking what are other guys going to do?
How am I going to do it differently?
You know, the guy's listening to this.
If you know that you have a weakness, you're not teasing enough, go to a dating event and
try teasing 15 times with 15 women.
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You're going to learn so much.
Awesome.
Yeah.
Yeah, I like that too about it.
Another big pro is that they typically, like if it's like a longer event, like, you know,
some travels that they typically organize stuff to get each other, get everybody to know
each other.
That's great.
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And like you said, we can get experience in bam, bam, speed dating, free men's convo,
free men's convo, free men's convo.
The biggest con, I guess you touched on that.
Like the quality, I think is a little lower.
Yeah.
The quality ain't always there, but I think a lot of guys that want to get better at dating,
to say it's very crudely or rudely, you haven't earned the right to bitch about quality yet
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because you haven't done enough approaches.
Why be super picky when you're just not a good flirt yet?
I don't know.
It's good to have, you know, to see yourself as a cool guy and stuff, but you can still
learn from talking to a woman who is not your dream woman.
Oh, yeah, yeah.
I hate this one of the guys like, oh, I don't even want to talk with her because I don't
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want to sleep with her.
It's like, dude, you spoke with like two girls in the last two months, so you just need to
get your reps in, man.
Talking doesn't equal sleeping.
Anyway, do you think that sums it up?
Well, oh, another downside is often they get canceled.
There's not enough people and, you know, that happens quite often.
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It's depending on the city, the place, but I've seen that quite a few times.
It's an all right way for who is this?
Yeah.
I think it is for everyone that wants to get in a lot of reps quickly or wants to train
a particular part of flirting.
I think it's also often good for older guys.
Also, I feel like the quality goes up once you're a bit older.
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Yeah.
And once you're older, you are looking more for qualified leads or simply put women that
are single because obviously, let's say you're 55 and you want to date women 35 years and
above.
Many of those women are going to be in relationships or married.
So it might just save you a lot of time.
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If you approach a few women in their 40s, you're going to hear so often, oh, I'm a relationship,
relationship, relationship.
So this really saves a lot of time in that case.
One quick thing I want to touch upon.
We've had day game and we've had these dating events.
I'm not sure where we put them, but you have these, the point of recording is these running
clubs are very in just people that meet up to go running together and they wear their
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silly hipster glasses and a little hipster vest and their whole costs or whatever new
shoes.
It is widely regarded as more of a social gathering slash dating event rather than really
a sports club.
So those things, they, they're a pretty good option for you as well.
I think there's somewhere in between day game and dating events, but if you do want
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to get a lot of reps and you want to meet people that are into a same type of thing
as you in this case running, well, then you go to one of these running clubs.
Interesting.
All right.
Next one.
Next one.
Let's do your specialty.
We already talked about my specialty.
Oh, your other specialty, night game.
Oh, okay, okay, okay.
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Well, okay.
For the listener that is not familiar with, with Dan here, he cannot do night game anymore
because he's coached in so many clubs that his ears are completely fucked.
And even with earplugs, he just cannot enter the club anymore.
Yeah.
Tonight is, it sucks.
Where earplugs gets.
Yeah.
Night game.
A lot of fun.
Cons.
I would say, no, pros first.
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I would say just the results are way more polarized.
So yeah, you can meet a girl in a group and make out with her in a few minutes in the
daytime, but I've done that like a few times in my life.
That's very extraordinary to meet her in a group.
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I've met up with many girls in the daytime and ended up making out with them, but still
that will not happen multiple times a day.
How many times have you pulled a threesome out of day game?
Oh yeah, never.
No.
I'll be very honest.
I also haven't done it in day.
Almost once, but it was with you.
So it's like a threesome, but it was like.
Oh, you're in Barcelona.
Yeah.
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I don't know.
That was just pretty weird.
But have you done it in night game?
Yeah, yeah, many times.
Yeah.
I also have done it in night game, but never in day game.
No.
Like that's just crazy.
So yeah, the results are just way quicker or like making out with multiple girls in
the evening.
That's pretty normal when she gets good in the daytime.
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That's just not going to happen.
Exactly.
I like how you said it.
Poor rise of results.
You can also have a really shit night where nothing's going your way and you just go home
feeling like a massive loser.
There's also a lot of growth in that.
Yeah.
The other one is the volume.
There's just clubs, just have a certain type of people and a lot of girls that are likely
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single.
It's just easy to get volume in.
There's just no excuse to enter a night club and not approach at least like 20 women.
Yeah, and that brings you to another point as well at the start of this podcast.
I was like, Hey, what is the right place for you?
So if you're looking for the mother of your future kids, you might not want to go look
for her in that skanky nightclub.
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You might want to hit her up at a wholesome bookstore or whatever.
But yeah, for any guy that wants to get an experience in, you want to learn to seduce
maybe a bit quicker, you want to learn how to be a bit more physical, you want to do
a lot of teasing, you want to be really strong with your eye contact or leading or the night
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club is a jungle.
Yeah.
Almost like the rules of society don't really exist there and it's an experimental playground.
Oh, I love that.
That's so true.
Like you can't say the most batsy shit, insane things.
Again, very polarizing, so it's a good place to learn the more extremes of game as well.
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Certain aspects as well, like getting physical.
Many guys are afraid to initiate it.
They're afraid to be creepy or, you know, and of course you should initiate that respectfully,
but you can just do it much quicker in a nightclub.
Whereas again, in the daytime, it's likely and unless you're getting advanced, not going
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to be very touchy from the start or even halfway through the conversation.
I agree.
Cons?
Quite a few.
Likewise, the polarized results, I've had nights where I just get cold shoulder or like
go away while you after saying hi, like you're like, oh, I just said hi, you just like go
away and say, whoa, you can just have really nice where you feel like shit.
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That's part of this.
Those nights will go better and better over time.
You'll have them less and less, but yeah, even if you're good, every once in a while
you just have a bad night.
That might still happen.
Massive con for me, especially the older you get is, well, it's night game.
It's at night and I want to sleep at night and then I'm not feeling as fresh the next
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day and you need to stay up late.
Then I get tired.
Back in the day, I wouldn't care about that, right?
The times where we would do infinite club sessions during boot camps and I'm thinking
mostly of our Barcelona times where we would go out every night.
Every night.
Seven days.
After night, after night, after night.
But yeah, for the guys who are getting a little bit older, night game is going to,
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it's going to wear you down.
Yep.
Yeah, through that.
Another con is the alcohol.
You cannot drink and go out.
I did that many, many times, but it's a part of it.
Sometimes you will get seduced by a drink.
It's just less healthy.
The one thing that really, like I remember one point, I just started to like it less
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and less and I had another night where the girl was with me and she was interested in
me.
We made out a few times, but just getting her home was clearly another like two hours of
being there because she's attached to the group and her this and that.
And I was like, fuck, am I just really going to just, I just want to go home and I know
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I can take her home, but it's got to be like another two, three more hours and it's like
five or six AM.
Oh, it's just tiring, man.
And the groups, they can just be a little bit annoying.
Yeah.
The logistics can be very hard.
I think that now you're mostly speaking out of your experience and you're a coach and
you've done it hundreds of times.
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Any guy who's learning game, he will put in the extra two hours and take the girl home
and have an amazing story to tell.
Yeah.
It's just worth it.
Yeah.
It's just lazy.
And that's so good about the dates, right?
Instantly one-on-one or day game.
So yeah, that's definitely con.
Other ones are, yeah, they allowed music.
Yep.
Yeah.
So who should do night game?
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One who wants to learn a lot fast, who has the luxury of spending those later hours.
So probably anyone who's younger, anyone who is like, the night club isn't really my scene.
You should especially go because you're probably just making excuses for yourself.
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You don't have to go a hundred times, but yeah.
I can't really pick a number, but you should go plenty of times.
Yeah.
I agree.
Some guys just write it off way too quickly.
I understand.
If you're not very social or you're very not expressive, yes, it's going to be a bit harder,
but I would still recommend you just give it a go.
I've had kind of like a judgment on the night clubs like, oh, it's so superficial and oh,
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I don't like this poppy music.
It's too mainstream for me.
And yeah, I still don't like many kinds of music.
They play many of the clubs, but get over it.
There's cool people there, socialize, give it a go and try it at least 10 times.
And go hard.
Because once you have a fun night where you just feel on, like you're on fire, that's
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very fun.
That's amazing.
Yeah.
Yeah.
The night club can make you feel a type of way that you're not going to feel in day game
or at your little speed dating event or on your Tinder.
Hey, one last thing I want to say about the night club that I think is a very, very, very
massive reason why everyone should do it enough times is there is no other place like a night
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club where so many unexpected things will come at you in such quick succession.
You get obstacle after obstacle and suddenly there's a friend and a puff, a stranger walks
past and they spilled a drink over you.
And then there's a mega drunk guy who talked to the girl that you were talking to earlier
and suddenly he wants to fight and you on the spot need to figure out how to not fight
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him.
And then you lost the girl you were talking to and now you need to come up with a plan
and there's, as we said earlier, it's a jungle with its own rules, but you need to do a lot
of quick thinking and just overcome so many hurdles.
And I feel like if you get those experiences and you become good at that, then how easy
is it suddenly to walk up to a girl in the supermarket where both of you are quite chill.
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The biggest issue there could be that she's a bit in a rush to hit the next meeting.
But you've, you know, last weekend you touched the fight and somehow convinced two of her
friends that you're the right guy for the girl and you let her through this chaotic,
very busy sweaty mess to the bar and then to the terrace because suddenly she needed
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a smoke where she usually doesn't smoke, but only when she's drunk and then you had to
somehow find her a cigarette or...
Yeah, yeah, it's such a mess and that's the really fun about it too.
Best stories are often from Night's Game.
For sure.
Yeah.
Next one.
Yeah.
Online?
Online.
Yeah, I think online is really bad.
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Yes, that's your forte.
Like, oh man, how many pros can you sum up?
There's infinite options.
Those three hot girls that you found during your 10 hour day game walk, now you saw all
of them plus 100 more while taking a shit.
At least if your profile is good enough.
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So there's infinite girls.
You can also experiment a lot.
You get quite direct feedback.
You know one thing that I like for guys who want to get better at game, you can do your
day game stuff and if you record your interactions then you have the same luxury as with online
dating because I wanted to say you can look at your convo.
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Where did I go wrong?
Where did I mess up?
You have like the whole interaction.
But a pro, which is also a con of online dating is that you're nice and safe behind your screen.
It's in your comfort zone.
You could talk to a very hot woman while you're unshowered and you haven't gotten a haircut
in too long and all those type of things.
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The same time though, a lot of our clients still feel hurt or uncomfortable when talking
to a hot girl even if it is through a screen.
Yeah, it makes sense.
Like, oh, that's my opportunity.
I matched this super hot girl and look at her bikini pics.
She has a cuddly body.
Yeah, I think there's so many pros to it.
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One is just like you're taking a nap and you open your phone and you just matched with
a hottie.
It can be like dating on passive mode.
If you fix your dating profile, there's usually a transition to the quality of your Instagram
profile, which is also very nice to have on points because it just gives more information
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to the girl.
So whether you meet her online or during the daytime, once you get her on your Instagram
and it is nice, then it just makes dating way easier.
Kons.
Yeah.
Kons, I kind of don't like that you can be a giant pussy in real life and still talk
to these women on dating apps.
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It's fine, but every guy that wants to become a more attractive guy, if you're doing online
game because you're afraid of the day game and the night game and the real life interactions,
you know, then you're just finding the easiest way out and that is how I hate it.
Yeah.
Well said.
When the dating apps came out, the barriers to entry was rather low.
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Anyone with a mediocre profile could still get matches.
The competition did get better.
Still a lot of guys have shitty profiles.
A lot of guys, but there is a larger group now versus that starts that did learn how
to make their profile on points and they do get more of the matches.
So yes, it requires a little bit more effort nowadays than eight years ago.
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Yeah.
I would say one con is for the little bit more extroverted guys.
Those are often the ones that get really frustrated with online dating because let's say you're
not the best looking guy and you don't have the best verbal game because let's be real
flirting over text is all verbal game.
Suddenly you don't have your nonchalant body language and you don't have your strong eye
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contact and these guys get really frustrated because like what the fuck.
Hey, I can stand my ground if I'm thrown in front of a girl on the street or in a club,
but here it's not working and they just get so annoyed.
So online dating is good for anyone with, I would say, good looks and good verbal game.
Yeah.
And those sets.
That's why I love online dating so much.
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Yeah, fair.
So even with okay looks, you can still do well, but they go well.
Just put some effort into the profile.
So yeah, it creates such massive reach.
I would say it's basically for everybody, young, old, just if, if, you know, working
on your looks is totally not your thing and you have a lot of courage, my IRL.
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Yeah.
Then just do they game.
Otherwise, I would say everybody just do, everybody just do online game.
Yeah.
And if you only do it while pooping or on your lunch break at work when there's no colleague
around to be a social with, I don't really see a reason not to do it.
Brings us to the last one, which is social circle game.
And I know that you're not a big fan of it.
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No, not that much.
But to clarify, and there's a hint for who it's not for.
I don't live to be in big friend groups all the time.
And now all we're going to go all be a weekend over there.
And now we're all going to play volleyball at the beach.
It's just not my thing.
So yeah.
So I did get some girls through social circle, which is to clarify friend groups, maybe
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work, you could say like your salsa class, like any extension of your social network.
So I guess the running club that I was talking about also kind of fits in here.
Yeah.
Yeah.
You know what is with social circle?
When I was on the come up in the pickup scene back in the day, whenever we would do meetups
or house parties before going out, a lot of these pickup guys would ask me like, how do
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you do it?
I see it at the house party at the spotlights on you and I see that the girls are gravitating
towards you and you're kind of running the show and stuff.
And I wouldn't really be doing anything on purpose.
That's where I think the natural part comes in.
And I am quite an extraverted guy.
So it was natural for me.
And this may just sound like a pure boast, but I'm actually trying to make a point that
is don't try to force the social circle thing if you're more of an introverted guy or that's
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just not your thing.
We were talking about it earlier here.
Coach Dan and I, we know a bunch of people that kind of try to study the social circle
thing and they're like, yeah, I'm going to figure this out.
But if you're honest with yourself, you know that that's just not the best use of your
time, right?
That is not your bottleneck to go back to an earlier episode.
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I think if you're an extroverted people and you love being around other people, you're
going to do well in social situations.
Absolutely.
Yeah, you might kill it, especially if you have an in into some group of girls or you
just have a friend group that's already very mixed.
Yeah, then you can just really meet some girls.
I think you met quite some girls like this through some family memory.
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Oh, that was looking at me carefully.
Can I say this?
Yeah, I got with quite a lot of girls because of my sister.
My group of friends and my sister group of friends, we would merge and party together.
And yeah, I, I enjoy those situations and I would just, the best out of me, the best
parts of me would shine and then results happen.
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But yeah.
So pros and cons?
Cons, it's very hard to force yourself to be that group, epic guy, if you're just not
it.
Yeah.
And that's also the pros.
If you will thrive automatically in these situations, I would say, look them up.
I don't know that I think if you are never in those social circle situations, if you
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are a bit more of a loner as with all other topics, I would say, look up some of the situations,
not to try and be the man there.
If only just to kind of observe people, it's like, you can learn from everyone.
What's this guy doing there?
And that would happen to me back in the day, then we'd have house parties and I would be
in my element and I would just see that some of the guys from the pickup scene were sort
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of, they're sort of studying you like, what's he doing?
Are kind of looking at you.
Yeah.
What can I learn here?
But yeah, props to them.
Hell yeah.
I would say a bit of a con is like it's hard to do massive volume and it's a slower game.
So typically you're not going to be like, if you're at your salsa class, for example,
don't go, yeah, super direct, like, Hey, by the way, if you're super cute and I really
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want to see you on a date on Friday, don't do that shit.
You'll make a name.
We had a client that went way to hard and he was really famous for hitting on every girl
at his dance class.
And then you build a bit of a reputation that's affected him negatively.
He did get a few dates out of it still, but you know what I mean.
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But if you're in for the long game and like Louis says, you enjoy it, then it's, it can
be amazing.
And let's be honest, a lot of relationships get formed from work, from friend groups.
So it can work.
It's just a bit limited.
And for me personally, hey, I'm not going to lie.
I stopped with a lot of girls that I was also not that picky about, but with it comes for
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a girlfriend.
I am picky AF.
So I'm not going to just pick a girlfriend from the 20 girls I know.
I need to go out there and approach a thousand people and then a few out of those might be
girlfriend material.
Yeah, yeah, so the point you're making is there's only a certain amount of girls in
your social circle.
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Yeah.
So don't, if you're going for a girlfriend.
Yeah, all dirty odds.
So that's perfect.
Maybe.
That's the wider net.
Hey, one very good point that you made though is in the social settings, you don't want
to be too direct.
And I feel like it is a bit similar in a club, but for me, what I have really learned over
time doing house parties or let's say it's daytime and you're with a whole bunch of
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guys and girls in the park playing volleyball or whatever, it is really good to be flirty
even with multiple girls.
And yes, sometimes girls will complain like, ah, I already saw you flirt with her and blah,
blah, blah.
Yeah, on paper, it sounds like he's complaining, but it's usually going to be in your favor.
But what Dan said is a really good point.
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You do not want to make the hard moves in front of everyone.
So I'll get a very concrete example.
I would host a bunch of house parties and we would give them themes like madman theme
or nerds versus jock team or whatever.
It was always fun and a lot of girls would be there and I would flirt with so many girls
and everyone could see it.
And it just, I was that guy that, you know, a cliché and stupid old school pickup as
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it sounds, it really helped me out.
Girls were like, okay, it seems like all the girls want to flirt with him.
So then when I finally talked with that girl who saw me flirting with other girls, she was
at least curious, what is it about him then?
But I would not make my hardcore moves in front of people.
If I'd want to kiss someone at, pull her behind the corner or we'd just open a random room
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or when the house party is coming to an end and we're all going to move to a club, everyone
would go to the club and they're at the club and oh, it looks like Louis is not here or
whatever.
So I'd just stay behind with one girl and then we, yeah.
Fornicated.
Yeah.
But so a lot of, I think the flirting can be done in plain sight.
Yeah.
But the more the acting and the bowing and kissing, asking out, a bit more covert there.
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Yeah.
Yeah.
So that sums it up.
Will we have episodes where we dive deeper in all these weeks?
Yeah, exactly.
So for you listening, if there's any of these topics that you're particularly interested
in knowing more specifics, you maybe have very specific questions about them, day game, night
game, online game, circle, social circle game or these events, let us know in the comments
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if you're listening to this on Spotify and there is no comments, then go post them on
YouTube.
Let us know what you want us to talk about and we'll talk about it.
Hell yeah.
As usual, Dan, could you give the viewer listener a very juicy kiss?
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