Exploring Values as an Avenue to Peace After Abusive Relationships

In this conversation, Yana Empowers and Virginia Terrill discuss the importance of boundaries and values in recovering from traumatic relationships. Virginia shares her personal experience of being in an emotionally and financially abusive relationship and how she learned about the importance of boundaries. She emphasizes that boundaries are a way to protect oneself and maintain wellbeing. Virginia also talks about the role of values in her recovery journey and how they helped her find purpose and make decisions. Both Yana and Virginia highlight the significance of seeking help and support, such as therapy, when navigating these challenging situations. In this conversation, Yana and Virginia discuss the importance of finding one's values and living by them, especially during difficult times. They emphasize the need to ignore external opinions and focus on what's inside, cultivating inner strength and resilience. Virginia shares her personal journey of rediscovering herself and finding peace after leaving an abusive relationship. They also discuss the impact of trauma on physical health and the importance of self-care. The conversation concludes with advice for those going through similar experiences, including seeking help, practicing patience, and showing up for oneself.

Takeaways

• Boundaries are essential for protecting oneself and maintaining wellbeing in relationships.

• Values provide a sense of purpose and guide decision-making.

• Seeking help and support, such as therapy, is crucial when recovering from traumatic relationships.

• Identifying and aligning with personal values can bring clarity and simplicity to life. Ignore external opinions and focus on what's inside of you.

• Cultivate inner strength and resilience during difficult times.

• Trauma can have a significant impact on physical health, so prioritize self-care.

• Seek help and support from others, whether through therapy or online communities.

• Practice patience and take small steps towards healing and self-discovery.

• Show up for yourself and make choices that prioritize your well-being.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

02:52 The Importance of Boundaries

07:12 Implementing Boundaries and Taking Action

13:40 Managing Anger and Finding Acceptance

18:59 The Power of Values in Finding Purpose

24:20 The Role of Honesty in Setting Boundaries

30:14 Simplifying Life Through Aligned Values

34:33 Introduction and the Importance of Finding Values

39:33 The Connection Between Trauma and Physical Health

46:09 The Importance of Setting Boundaries

51:55 Patience and Commitment to Self-Care in the Healing Process

"Boundaries are very important. It's a way to protect yourself."