Attraction in marriage doesn't just disappear overnight, but it can fade through the habits, energy, and unspoken patterns you fall into over time.
In this episode, we reveal the biggest emotional and physical turn-offs (and turn-ons) based on anonymous submissions from real couples. This episode is for couples who want to feel that spark again—without needing to go back to the beginning.
In this episode you will hear:
- What's quietly draining desire in your relationship
- Five patterns that slowly erode attraction
- How to reignite emotional connection and physical intimacy—without pressure or perfection
Plus, learn how to take small daily actions with the 30-Day Best of Us Intimacy Challenge (sign ups officially open now - only available 3x/year)
Reignite emotional & physical intimacy through small, meaningful actions by starting this September 1st challenge here 👉 mycoupleschallenge.com/best
Episode Time Stamps:
3:54 – Attraction in marriage takes effort
5:34 – How attraction quietly erodes
6:06 – Biggest turn-offs (survey results)
7:23 – Biggest turn-ons (survey results)
8:54 – Turn-offs women report most
10:18 – Turn-offs men report most
11:28 – Average satisfaction score (2.07 out of 5!)
12:25 – Criticism vs appreciation
15:12 – Physical self-care and energy
19:25 – The roommate dynamic
24:30 – Resentment is blocking desire
28:00 – Emotional shutdown erodes intimacy
30:33 – Rebuilding intimacy from now, not the past
31:39 – Energy you bring to the room
32:50 – Making your partner feel admired
35:33 – Refreshing rituals to spark attraction
37:00 – Timing matters: don't wait till exhaustion
38:00 – Join The Best of Us 30-Day Couples Challenge
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