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W four WN Radio. Are youready to take a journey? Let's connect
with the healers of the world.It's that time. It's time for the
Language of Healing on W four WNRadio and Talk for TV. Now here's
your host, doctor Nicole fort Helloeverybody, and welcome to the Language of
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Healing podcast. This is the showwhere we exchange ideas, philosophies, and
experiences with all things related to health, healing, and good life living for
your personal and professional growth. AndI'm your host, doctor Nicole Fortin.
And I'm especially excited about this podcastand this project because it's a platform for
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me to take what I like,my passions and my interests and share that
knowledge and experience with you, becausetoday, in today's culture of stress and
overwhelm and overstimulation and so much information, it can be difficult to cut through
the bs and get really clear onwhat it is that you want, what
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it is that is you know mattersto you in regards to your health,
relationships, career, purpose in life, and when those things aren't balanced,
it can be disruptive and draining.And so this show is a place where
we can make fun and light oflife and truly begin to play it life
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and enjoy life as an adventure,which is something that I'm all about,
and so much more that we willget into as we go on. Let's
let's introduce the other man on thescreen. Here, we got our side,
the superstellar uh uh pipe man DNKPiper. Well. First, first,
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I'm so honored to be your cohost on this show. But also,
whoever that dude is that did yourintro? He's really good. I
love his voice. Yeah, Ican connect you with him. You want
you want his contact? No,I don't like him very much. I
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already know who he is. Yeah, so you don't know it's it's you
because you're you're You've got like awhole list of amazing credentials and ventures and
you are a natural born legend.Well, thank you. You're very honored
and happy to have you on thelanguage of healing as well. Well,
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I'm gonna need some healing on thisshow because this morning my power cord to
my laptop was sparking, which isnot a good thing. Like yeah,
and it wasn't charging, so Iwasn't going to be able to do the
show. And so I had Andof course, as you know, and
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maybe the listeners know, I wasin Costa Rica for like three months and
there was no rain, not evento drop for three months. And of
course I'm back in Florida and todayI had to go out in a storm
to go try to find on anadventure to find a power cord just to
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do this show today. And hereI am. Whoa, that's pretty epic.
What an adventure? Wait to startstarted off? Oh yeah, our
engineer will tell you, Rebel willtell you that. Literally, I fixed
the whole situation five minutes before Icame on here. Okay, Well,
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timing is everything, isn't it divinetiming? Sometimes you can plan, you
can plan so much, and thenthat last minute moment, it's like all
plans go out the window and nowit's improvised. And that's why I don't
worry like worry. Why worry?If you want to achieve your goals and
your dreams, worrying is just goingto get in your way because whatever's going
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to happen is going to happen whetheryou worry or not. Okay, to
me, worry is like one ofthose emotions that we over use because we
worry about things that may or maynot ever happen. And I could have
sat there and worried like, ohcrap, I won't be able to be
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on the show. Instead, youdidn't even have an idea, text you
I and call you because listen,there's no reason for anybody to know anything
until there's a reason. And I'ma big believer in order to achieve your
goals and your dreams, you needto solve the problem opposed to worrying about
the problem. So I solved theproblem because I couldn't miss this show with
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the guests that you have today whoI've been on the phone with, and
I am so excited that on yournew season that she's the first guest because
she's somebody that if I'm listening,I would want to know if I wanted
to achieve my goals and dreams.Yeah. Well, no, we have
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a great guest lined up today too, And I did get word from a
little bird that she also ran intosome glitches today. So is the nature
of the beast. And here weall are. You know, I guess
that's like part of it, partof life. And you know, with
the language of feeling, even itcomes around to like healing is like non
linear. You can't plan that.It's not textbook. It's not you know,
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it's not like one size fits all, and you know, life happens.
And then it's really about how wereact and respond react or respond to
life, you know. And Ibelieve that every day is a practice.
Every day is a practice run.We get new opportunity to learn and grow
and try try again, and ifyou failed the first time, it will
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show up again and again and again. There you go. But I'm happy
that you got all that resolved.And yeah, so let's bring on our
guests. Okay, so yeah,so okay, another note though, because
in the background making all the happen, the magic happened, and the back
end we have Rebel Medler, who'smaybe she'll say hello and she's making all
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this happen on the back end soundengineer, Hello, thank you, thank
you, thank you. Yeah,hey, Rebel. We'll hear from her
every now and again. And yeah, let's introduce our guests. Then,
why not? We have Anita Adams, so welcome her on and we can
hear all about her and her newbook, Whispers of the Soul, and
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your guys clarity, confidence, andjoy. I love that. I love
that name. By the way,welcome, thanks for making it as well.
Yeah, thanks so much to behere. And I'm sitting in the
green room listening to you guys banterand I'm just delighted. I love I
love the energy. I love youryour dedication, pipemin to be here and
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do what you can to make thingswork and all of that. It's pretty
pretty awesome. Well, and isn'tit true? Though? Like you can
sit there and focus on like,oh my god, what am I going
to do? And then nothing getsdone? Or you get up, you
go out and you find yourself apower chord so you can do your show.
That sounds so manly. Get up, go out, you find yourself
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a power chord just right. It'sfunny you should say that because I guess
you're right. That is, youknow, there's something to do with language,
because one thing being a father tothree daughters has taught me is there's
definite another language you have to learnbesides your own. And that leads to
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language of healing, because we allspeak different languages, not even just males
and females, but just in general. Where you're geographically from, you know,
can make a difference. Say whatexperiences you've had. You know.
I know people that like, ifthey don't believe what they believe, they
must be the other people must bethe uninformed people. And my answer to
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them is, well, maybe theyjust had different influences, Maybe they had
different experiences, Maybe they were froma different period, you know, maybe
they were from a different place.You know, me. You know,
there's so many myriad of things thatI think one of the keys to reaching
our goals and dreams is to beable to understand other people, especially to
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people that are not like us.Yeah, and you know, being curious
is the way to go, youknow, and just if you have a
curious heart and just just enter everyconversation in every situation, with a state
of curiosity, it really gets youthrough all sorts of challenges and keeps it
helps you to keep an open mind. And it's simple. I mean,
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it's just simple if we adopt thisattitude of curiosity, right, yeah,
So what were some of the whatwere some of the steps that you went
through here this morning with your littlelittle blitch, Because I was thinking,
this is like a big day foryou, This is like book launch day.
Gripping for this for quite some time, I can only imagine the work,
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Like I love writing, and I'vebeen working on a book for six
years now and it's like no reachedcompletion or even close to it. So
I just to really admire the dedicationand the commitment it takes to bring that
to completion. So today is abig day. And I was just like
I wonder where she's at and likehow that feels to be on that day.
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And then you know, I getyour message and it's like, oh,
everything's like not not happening as asthat's in that life. So well,
let me tell you, Oh gosh, it's just it's so interesting and
eye opening and I feel like theyou know, I'm I'm I'm having to
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learn what I preach, practice whatI preach, you know. So,
yes, it's been a big journeyin writing this book, bringing it to
fruition. It's been two years inthe making. I put my business literally
on hold to really just hunker downand get this this book out. Then
I then I hit a wall aboutsix months ago. Fear gripped me.
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I just because I was so freakedout about taking that next step and how
to get this bring this vulnerable storyinto the world. And that's when I
bought on somebody I realized I needed. Even though I knew what I needed
to do, I was scared,I was fearful, and so I found
somebody that I could literally she couldhold my hand and help me through that
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next step. And so in thelast six months, I've been really focusing
on now that this is the publishing. Now I got the book done,
and I've got it all you know, lined up. I've been working with
partners. I have fifty partners,launch partners that I'm working with help bring
this book into the world and advancereaders and all of that. So there's
a lot of behind the scenes activitythat was going on, and all these
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partners geared up to get the wordout that this book launched is on April
thirtieth, twenty twenty four, andthere's so much excitement around it. And
then Amazon. I'm on Amazon,and well, I don't know, it's
just not live yet. It's justnot live. It's it's sitting in the
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back end with a note saying thatit's in review and it's been in that
stage for about almost a week nowand it's supposed to take seventy two hours
to you know, go live.So the first when I realized that this
might not go live on on ourdo date, the cuss words that came
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out of this little mouth that's fastand furious and gnarly. And then I
took a breath and I realized,Okay, you know what this this is
completely out of my control. Youknow, it's like what you were saying,
Pipe Main. What's your real name? Pipe Man? My real name
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is Dean, but most people onthe radio don't know that, so don't
tell them. Oh I'm sorry,I reviewed Dean pipe Main. Part of
me, Pipe Man, you whatyou were saying about, you know,
you just go when you take careof what needs to be done and stop
worrying. And that's that's absolutely true, and we need to recognize sometimes there's
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things that are just out of ourcontrol and we have to let go.
That's the key. That's key rightthere, because I always say that to
my kids. Even it's like,stop worrying about things that you have no
control over. Worry about what youdo have control over, which is basically
your attitude towards whatever is happening.Absolutely, that's your mindset you've got.
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You've got that control over how youchoose. So how hard is the publishing
process hard? No, it's actually, well, the hard part is the
mindset stuff, right like this isthis is the hard part. It's the
the other part part of it isyou know, you finish your book and
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then you you get it you uploadedto Amazon and is actually super ridiculously simple,
and then you know like I gotI got the you see a little
band on it not for not forresale. This is the author proof.
I got this within days of uploadingmy book to the to Amazon. So
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I thought, wow, that's amazing, you know, like it's gonna be
all good to go. But thenbut then when you hit publish, you
know published now, then something happensand I don't fully understand that process.
And and that's all right. SoI'm just you know, letting it go.
And and I have to say,I'm using this, if you will,
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as an opportunity because what I wassaying earlier about being curious, I'm
like, Okay, instead of going, why is this happening to me?
You know, drop the the tome and adopt an attitude of what am
I going to learn from this?You know? I asked, So what
is what am I to learn?Or what are the opportunities? Where's the
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gift that might come from this?And I think one of the opportunities is
to share share this experience. Ibelieve that every dream that we have,
there there are obstacles on the alongthe way. There's bumps along the road,
and we as a society tend tosweep the perceived failures and challenges under
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the rugs and only only celebrate thevictories. Well, it's that's that's creates
a falsehood, doesn't it, Becausethere's so many challenges along the road,
and our our our job is tois to trust the path that we're on,
to surrender to the flow of theuniverse, to detach from the outcomes
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from our expectations of those outcomes andto really lean into the belief that everything
happens as it should in divine righttime. And with those with those beliefs,
it's easier to smile, it's easierto laugh and play. I love
that this show is about you know, letting, letting go and playing and
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having some fun. That's a bigpart of healing, isn't it. Yeah,
Patience is a virtue. I remember. I'm just reminded of, like,
it's not one of my virtues,by the way, is a virtue.
Yeah, I wonder that what arethe lessons that I'm having to continue
to learn? You know, likethat has always been a challenge for me
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to be patient, and it's like, okay, I get it right.
Yeah, you know what the oppositeof from Chinese medicine perspective, it's like
impatience is the unbalanced emotion of theheart. You know, so the heart
is like the joy and you know, a bit connected to the present moment.
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So when we spend too much timein impatience, it's hard on the
heart. It's like, yeah,that's that's beautiful. Thank you for sharing
that. I love that and Ido feel that this is part of my
lesson is so maybe you know,the virtue and the blessing of every like
there's challenges or it might make yourheart like flutter, you know, or
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create a bit of extra tension stress, but you know, it's it is
a virtue, it's it's the blessingin it. Yeah, what is your
book about? I mean, yeah, yeah, thanks for asking me to
dive into that. Yeah, wellit's so interest like it must be about
it must be about like all ofthis, this is all happening as a
perfect example, you know, Iimagine that this is what you know.
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The Wisdom Way method is also abouttoo, your transformational process that you've you've
created as well, So yeah,let's hear about that. Yeah, well
it's it is about learning how totune into the whispers of the soul so
you can step into your true potentialand the best version of who you are.
And I have to tell you thoughthat I find this so interesting.
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So chapter number seventeen is called inDivine Right Time, Trusting your Journey to
Success. I had to reread thatchapter this morning, and then I have
another chapter. Chapter twenty seven isagain back into the trust theme, trust
surrender Detached navigating the river of yourdreams. And so that's that's what I'm
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living what my book is about rightnow. Again. You know, it's
all about really leaning in and listeningto your inner wisdom, your soul voice,
and trusting that that path that it'sgoing to lead you to the best
version of who you are. Thanks, and I love that you reread your
own chapters because there's different viewpoints onthat. There could be people out there.
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I'm going to speak for the audience. There could be people out there
like, well, that's a littleegotistical, you know, as somebody who's
a published author. Myself too.It's like if you tell people you read
your own book, they look atyou weird. Sometimes sometimes they don't.
But the bottom line is is ifI'm not willing to read my own book,
why should I expect anybody else to. I mean, you should reread
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your own chapters because listen, forall of us, no matter how motivated
you are, how positive you are, you know, we all go through
things. We're all human beings,you know, and we all go through
things. How we handle those thingscan be different. But the bottom line
is it's these tools that we havethat come from a book like yours.
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They're not tools that you read onetime and that's it. The repetition is
the mother of skill, and soyou have to read over and over.
And it's just like any any book. You could read it several times and
get something different out of it everytime. Yeah, absolutely, Yeah,
thank you for saying that. Andit's true, and it's you know,
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we I wonder you know about this, the art of mastering trust, surrender,
and detachment. I think there areactually very few people in the world
who master that. We developed thatskill and through intention and practice, and
we build it in degrees. Andso I'm I'm one percent better today because
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of this experience than I was justyesterday, you know. And I really
do feel that there are others outthere that need to be reminded of this,
that this is part of the journeyof any dream that we're chasing.
It's just part of the journey.And I want to listening to this.
I want to encourage you. Justif you're feeling disappointed or discourage about any
step back, you know, justbe curious, get curious about what it
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is that is yours to learn andcarry on. Yeah, I'm curious to
know what you know if you couldgive lead us through a step by step
like what was the the chain ofevents through your You got the cuss words,
okay, the event, the event, the okay, it's not loaded,
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and then the reaction which is likeoh yeah, and then and then
what And I want to hear yourlanguage to yourself, because Nicole will tell
you I'm big on our inner vocabulary. Yes. Yeah, it's also another
thing with like well, yeah,we'll get into I mean, all the
magicalness of the pipemine here and somuch, but yeah, important words are
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important, right, absolutely, Well, after the initial big F bomb that
just came out very slow and drawnout, like just really letting that word
just roll, I took a deepbreath and I just said, Okay,
Nita, this is this is outof your control. Just breathe. You
know what you should do now gofor a walk. And that's my go
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to is stepping out into nature.I find it very calming. In fact,
my book talks a lot about thisis a part of yours, your
journey and your story of like theparked that yeah, okay, sorry to
no, yeah, this is wherewe had. Okay, what do you
want to play with next? I'llrewind a little bit off that it's okay.
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So how the story this book cameto be was during the early stages
of the pandemic I used to run. I was a founder and executive director
of a national nonprofit arts organization thatI ran for eighteen years, and it
got hit really hard by the pandemic. All of my funding got pulled practically
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overnight, and all of my sponsorsalso pulled out, and I was going
deeper and deeper into my line ofcredit. I had a staff that I
felt responsible for, and just whatwas going on in the world was,
you know, like anxiety invoking andI just became this other crazy woman,
Like I literally I don't I can'trecognize this the woman that I became.
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She was just so worked up andstressed out. And I reached out to
my my business coach, and Iknow, I asked, Hearli, what
should I do? You know?Am I What am I going to do?
And she asked me one simple question, and it was what do you
typically do when you're feeling stressed.I'm like, well, I usually go
for a walk in the woods.Perfect she said, here's what you're gonna
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do every day for the next thirtydays, You're going to go for a
walk in the woods. And I'mlike, what, No, I can't
do that. I need business advice, not nature therapy. But she really
insisted, and I'm glad she did. And somehow I managed to find a
way to do this. And itwasn't hard. Actually, it was just
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you know, when you have theintention, you find ways, right,
And I just got up a littleearlier in the day and I started my
day every day with a walk innature. And at first I was asking
that same question to God, theuniverse, the squirrels, what am I
supposed to do? And I wasdemanding really like I was. I was
angry and uptight. But over timeI started to really settle down. I
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started to feel calmer and more relaxed, and I was connecting to my environment
and I was actually starting to feelgrateful to my business coach and this space
that I'm in. And in thatspace of gratitude and feeling calm, I
asked that question again, what amI supposed to do? And this time
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I got an answer, well,another question actually, but it bubbled up
from within and it was it wasmy voice that I was hearing. But
it was like an older, wiserversion of me, and she simply asked,
what do you want to do?And I didn't miss a beat,
and she's like, what do youmean? What do I want to do?
What am I supposed to do?It's like, no, anito,
what do you want to do?I don't know, I don't know,
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Yes you do. And that justthat stumped me. But I was intrigued,
and I walked away, went backhome, tried to get some work
done, just couldn't. And Iended up going to the bookstore later that
day and I found myself in thespirituality section, clearly still looking for answers,
and this one book was caught myeye, pulled it off the shelf,
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I flipped it open, and itwas a book by Neil Donald Walsh
called Conversations with God and Dean.That was a book that I have read
now three or four times over,like it's one of those books that I
just keep coming going back to.But in the moment this day, the
first day I discovered it, Iflip it open and this one line felt
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like it literally leapt off the pageat me, and it said, frustration
and anxiety come from not listening tothe soul and that just really hit home.
And I've been there before. I'vebeen in that position where I had
stopped listening to my soul voice andit just about ruined my marriage. And
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I realized I needed to get connectedagain. I needed to find a way
to tap into that soul voice orthat inner wisdom. So dedicated myself to
figuring out how to do that againand how to really tune into that part
of us that understands who we reallyare. So every day I was back
in the forest and I did.I did find a way that works for
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me, that works for a lotof my clients. And can I share
that with you? It's a asimple five step process. Or am I
talking too much? We would lovefor you to share that with us,
Okay, it's it's really it's justfive simple things. And the first thing
is just literally unplug from your phones, from the devices and get outside,
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plug into nature, step away fromthe crazy busyness of your of your day.
And we all, we all areso tuned into our devices in our
computers that we need to physically unplugand step outside. So that's step number
one. The second thing is tospeak your gratitude, you know, and
that just helps to elevate your yourvibe, your mood. It gets you
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out of the monkey noise that goeson in here when you start to speak
your vibe, speak your gratitude.The third thing is to connect with your
environment using all your senses. Whatdo you see here, smell, taste,
even, get really tactile with it, and really take in your environment.
This grounds you and presents you inthe here and now, and that's
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the key. You need to bepresent in the here and now. You
need to have this being quiet andconnecting to this moment with your body through
all your senses. And at thatpoint when you've got that grounding, that
sense of presence and you're feeling grateful, then you ask your question. And
I always recommend start with who amI because so many of us don't really
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know who we are or what doI want? What do I really want?
And there's a third question that youcome back to much later in the
process. Once you are super clearabout who you are and what you want,
you ask why does it matter?Why is it important to me?
You get clear on those three answers, you're golden and that The fifth step
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is to listen without judgment and that'sthe hard that's a really hard bit because
what you start to hear that willbubble up from within and when I say
here, like for me, Ireceive things in different ways from my soul
voice. And sometimes it's my voiceand like that old or wiser version of
me. Sometimes it's ideas and thingsthat just pop into my head or you
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know, a feeling that I'm thisis something that I'm supposed to do,
or direction I'm supposed to go in. This is how we are connected to
the here and now. We hearin different ways through our body and so
listening without judgment is crucial. Andthis this takes time to develop the skill
as well, because we're our greatestcritic, you know, And you were
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talking about that in the voice youknow that we hear in our head,
and often it tells us we're notenough. Who are you to do that?
Right? That's a voice that Ihear, are heard a lot before.
Sometimes it still crops up, youknow, but I'm I'm more aware
of it now and I can Ican get rid of that nasty DJ spinning
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those nasty records and invite to anotherkinder, softer voice into and I love
what you said about the judging becauseit goes back to what I said before
that, you know, what Iwas saying about when people think differently than
you. My way of not judgingis realizing that maybe they add a different
upbringing, maybe they had different environmentalfactors. Maybe it's because of the business
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they're in, maybe it's because ofwhere they live, like even you know,
when it comes to what people wantas policies in their life, what
they do for a living plays abig role in then. I think people
don't realize that. Like, soyou may do one thing that's something may
affect how your life is, butit may affect somebody else's life totally different.
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So instead of judging them for thinkingdifferently than you, maybe try listening
and understanding why they have a differentbelief than you. Yeah. Absolutely,
And we can practice that with otherpeople and with ourselves, you know,
and stop judging ourselves and stop judgingother people. So it takes time and
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intention and awareness, oh yeah,and then judging ourselves that you know,
I think all three of us hereon here and even the engineer could relate
to that because generally, when you'repeople like us, you tend to be
people pleasers. And a lot oftime you're people pleasing because of your own
judgments, you know, and soyou think of things one way in your
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head that maybe the rest of theworld isn't perceiving it that way, you
know. And so basically, youknow, like one of my big things
is if you let somebody down,I probably think about it more than the
peron I let down type of thing, you know, And that's you know,
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or if you're going somewhere and youare somebody that is a people pleaser,
you know. What I think,what I've learned in later years in
life is everybody does what they wantanyway, you know, at the end
of the day. And so maybeI shouldn't have spent all that time in
my younger years worrying about that andworrying about me doing what I want because
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I was always worrying about doing whateverybody else wanted. Yeah, it's one
of the best things about getting older. We start to let go of that,
don't we just exactly you know,and you start to learn like certain
things. And Nicole and I havetalked about this before about you know,
once you know as what you werepaying, knowing what you want and why
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you want it, then no matterwhat anybody says, because when you're younger,
people kind of talk you out ofthat that. You know, like
as an example, you know,you could go to other people and they
can say, well, that's notreality base. You should do this,
this and this and this. Butmaybe it is reality based because we already
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did those other things and they didn'treally serve us well. And that's the
thing. A lot of times wedo things in life that don't serve us
well, and we're only smart ifwe learn that lesson so that later in
life we don't let people influence usin a way that will inhibit our dreams
and goals of what we really wantto have life. Absolutely, and it
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really comes back to what you said, you have to know you who you
are and what you want. Iread an article not too long ago.
I found it fascinating and it's saidthat three percent of Americans only know their
their core values. Only three percentknow their core values, and I thought,
wow, really, and then Irealized that I was one of those
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people a decade ago who did notunderstand who she really what she really valued,
and even you know, like whatyou were saying about being influenced by
others. If you're not clear onwhat's important to you, then that's why,
that's how we can so easily beinfluenced and derailed from our true path.
And even you know when when Idid this exercise initially, when I
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went into the forest and I startedlistening, the message that I got,
or the whisper I got about whatit was that I really wanted was that
I wanted to close my business,my film business. And that came as
a bit of a shock to me. At first, It's like, what
do you mean, No, doI do? I really want to know?
I want to I want to saveit, don't I. And then
when I really leaned into figuring outwhat it was I wanted, and I
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realized the truth in the fact thatI that I had actually lost my passion
for that business and number of yearsago, but I was holding on to
it for a number of reasons,expectations, but also it was my identity
and I was so afraid to letgo of that identity and not knowing what
else I really wanted to do orcould do that it kept me stuck.
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But when I realized that, yeah, I do want to close my business,
I had just to I kept thatto myself for two weeks before telling
you my husband, because I neededto be so rooted in the belief of
this is what I want, soI was not going to be influenced by
I knew I was going to havea ton of people asking me or trying
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to influence me to stay with thatbusiness. So what is the best way
to re establish your core values?Great question, Mistine, Thanks for thanks
for asking. There's two things,and I actually teach that a bit in
my book. There's two things thatyou can do. You can actually do
a Google search and create a finda list of core values, and there's
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all sorts of things tools out thereonline. Get that list of core values,
go through it, identify ten thingsthat are on that list that are
your that you think are your mosthigh likely core values. Then go back
to that core those ten lists andidentify your top four. That will take
a little bit of time to reallyflesh out and figure out, but invest
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some time in getting really clear what'smost important to you, And for me,
I ended up choosing family, freedom, fun and flexibility, and make
a life decision. I have tohave three of those have to match.
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And I recognize that sometimes we haveto make decisions and choose things that might
be out of alignment with what ourultimate goals are. You know, for
instance, if my you know,my goals are family, freedom, fund
and flexibility, or my core values. And you know, if I was
given or offered a job to thatwas paid a lot of money, but
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with seventy hours a week of time, that would seem like it's out of
alignment with those core values if Iaccepted that job. However, sometimes you
need to like, maybe there's theonly offer on the table, or it's
a stepping stone to something else.So it's not that you negate your core
values when you make that decision,but you make that decision knowingly, right,
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So you have to understand what thosecore values are so you can walk
into each decision with intention. Iwant to share one other way. You
want to say something I do onlybecause of one thing you said, because
the bottom line is is maybe itis your core value, because maybe that
job will enable you to get thoseother core values. And I think sometimes
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people don't think that way. Theyjust think, oh, because they think
of maybe just their one main,primary core value. But I think all
the core values all make you,and they all relate to each other.
Yeah, they do. I agreeone hundred percent. You just need to
understand what they are and then youcan make a decision based on those core
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values or what this action will doto get you closer or further away from
from those values. So it's verypowerful. The other way to help you
identify core values is to think ofa time in your life where you just
felt at your best, You justyou were really enjoying life. Write a
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story, rite out about that experience, and then go back and just circle
some of the key phrases and anduh characteristics that you used to describe that
experience, and that'll give you someinsights into into your core value. And
again I write about that in mybook to help people guide them through that
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process. It's a really fun journeyto do that and to reflect on,
you know, time that you feltat your at your grades, you were
the happiest or most joyful, andyou'll be able to pick out characteristic traits
that speak to your core values.For me, that was this morning before
my cored went bad. What didyou identify as your core values? I
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think I identify that I needed powerto do this interview, gotcha and get
all this wealth of information and tofind out how to get your book.
Maybe this is a good time totell all the listeners how they can get
your book. Now, that mightbe a tricky question because of your glitches
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today. Well I can direct you. I just want to say, Dean,
that you're you demonstrated dedication and commitmentso to me, like in that
story, what you did to makeit to the show. So to me,
that tells me that you that that'sa core value, that dedication,
commitment, commitment is a core value. So that you know what I mean.
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That's how you use a story.That's a story, a little story,
and it tells you about what's importantto you. Can core values change
absolutely? Great question, Great question. I recommend reviewing your core values every
six months. Yeah, they definitelychange. Yeah, So how you can
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get my book? Thank you forbeing interested in that. I'm directing everybody
to my website so I have there'sa couple of things there you can I'm
actually hosting a launch party on Maysecond. Maybe it'll be a pre launch
party still, but it's I don'tknow. We'll come together and celebrate anyways.
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It's an online event and there's alink on my website that you can
grab if you're interested in coming andbeing a part of that. I'll do
a little reading from the book.There's prizes, there's different things. It'll
be a fun online event. Andthen there's another place that you can just
sign up and say, hey,I'm interested in your book. Let me
know when it's going to be released, and I'll send you the direct links
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when it comes out and when you'reon my website. So it's Joyful Inspired
Living dot com backslash books. Scrolldown because there I have a number of
launch partners that are making some beautifuloffers giving a lot of a lot of
stuff away for for free. Soand and that's all available to you right
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now, so you can scroll throughsome of that content. There's meditations,
there's free ebooks, there's you know, uh, complimentary coaching calls. Somebody
was asking about the publishing process.My publisher, she's offering a step by
step process on on what to youknow, what to do to get your
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book live. So you know,it's a download, a free download that
you can you can get. Sogo and check all that great stuff out
and and while you're there, youknow, get on my list so I
can let you know when the bookis actually available. The day is still
going, you know, it's stillthere, so yeah, might still be
a chance. Definitely a compelling andengaging storyteller and really enjoyed hearing your you
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know, sharing your your joy andexcitement and journey with within this book process
for you, because it is thatis quite a journey. Yeah, and
like it just really does show youknow, your commitment and dedication. All
this information can be found on yourwebsite. Yeah, that's right. And
then did well we've we can maybepopping into the chat and and all the
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links that your website is Joyful InspiredLiving dot com. And for the book,
you can go to backslash books JoyfulInspired Living dot com, backslash Books.
Yeah, and I'm check out thethere's an events link there as well.
I'm offering a bunch of free thefree discussion groups on themes from the
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book, and once a month there'san opportunity for people to come together online
to talk about some of the themesand surrender. Surrender is one of the
themes I think when it comes tolike the Whispers of the Soul, It's
such an interesting topic and something thatwe can build a muscle around, you
know, it is it is askill, and it's something that maybe because
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of all the judgments or societies,you know, limitations or structures that we
think we need to live by.You know, we grow up kind of
in a container, most of us, right, and it's like it takes
courage and a lot of uncomfortable situationsto get out of that. Training reconditioning
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ourselves and listening to the whispers.I believe they get, you know,
more and more clear the more weare aware of them. And so I
can't wait to get my coffee.I'm very excited to have had you on
the on the show. Any Imean, we've got maybe some time here
to wrap up any last thoughts.Well, I'm super grateful for people like
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both of you who are leading conversationslike this and making it possible to help
help more. And the healing languageis so important. So yeah, I'm
just grateful, super grateful, AndI want to, you know, go
to what we were talking about aboutinfluence and the chatter and stuff, because
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your core values, I think alot of them are always there, and
as we get older, all theseoutside influences and outside chatter instead of our
inside chatter we start that starts gettinglouder instead of what's inside our head.
We all have these voices in ourhead and listen that soulful voice. Every
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time I've not listened to it,it has not been a good move.
But every time I listen to it, it's like, yeah, see I
knew it. I knew it.But we do tend to ignore things sometimes,
So I say, don't ignore,and I say, if you want
to get back to your core values, eliminate out of your brain those influences.
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And it sounds it sounds simple,which it is, but it's not
easy. Those influences and those voicesyou've had all your life that tried to
stop you from thinking the way youdo. You know a very important story
to that is, you know,there I was doing this charity event once
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and so I ice skate. Ihave my own ice skates. I'm fifty
seven years old at the time.I'll know it was what was I like
fifty three or fifty four, Ithink it happened, and there was somebody
else that you know, I hada show on the station, and she
was going with me to this charityevent and we were covering it and it
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was an ice skating rink here inWest Palm Beach. And so what did
I do? It was an iceskating charity event. I brought my skates
and I intended on going ice skating, and she looked at me and she's
like, you're gonna skate. I'mlike, uh yeah, it's that's why
it's called an ice skating charity event. Okay. And then she was like,
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and you have your own skates.I'm like, uh yeah. And
so the first part I'm going tosay about that is there's an outside influence
at outside chatter, because what camenext could change a person if you're not
strong enough in your inner vocabulary andyour soulful voice. Because she's like,
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what are you a child? Andlike who made up these rules? At
at fifty whatever years old? Iwas that you can't go ice skating and
you can't have your own ice skates, Like there's these rules that have been
put on us of what you doand don't do. Like I even remember
way back when I don't know,I was like entering middle school and my
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dad like was very forceful and stoppingme to watch cartoons, you know,
because you don't that's for kids,you know, there's plenty of adults that
watch anime or cartoons and stuff,you know, and there's even adult like
they have that Adult Swim Network becausethat's adult cartoons, right. So,
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but if you go by certain peoplelike that and it's like, oh my
god, I can't do something Ienjoy because society says I shouldn't, you
know, society says I shouldn't bedoing. Listen, yesterday, I was
skateboarding in the parking lot of mymy condo here where there are people that
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you know, forget that they arestill alive, and you know, they're
all looking at me weird, likeI'm like this teenager, and it's like,
you know, there's just certain thingsif you want to get back to
your core, just be you andmaybe go back to when you were a
kid before this other negative chatter.It's just like that we have in the
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world. It's taught little kids.They're too they don't even know enough to
hate somebody, you know, AndI think we could learn from them better
than we can learn from the adultsor try to influence us on our everyday
life. Absolutely, I often talk. Sorry, so you go go ahead,
No, no, no, it'simagination and creativity, and they're so
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pure, you know, and weget we get so beat down, and
then we get the stuckness and thejudgments and that's what creates like immobility and
disease in our body. And thisis what this is what it's like deciphering
that stuff, creating flow, freedom, flexibility. I love it. Go
ahead, Anita, Yeah, Iwas just gonna add that. I often
in my book I talk about notnecessarily just learning it. It's more about
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remembering, remembering who we really are. And how you do that is tuning
into that inner child, really,you know, connecting with that that youthful
child who loves everybody and everything andis curious. Bring back that word again,
and they they wear their wonder goggleseverywhere and they're you know, they're
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excited to just make new discoveries.And they they're not full of judgment,
they're full of acceptance, you know. So it's about reclaiming who we once
were, relearning how to do.I know, I'm very curious about the
question of like when did you forget? You know, when did you forget?
It's different for all of us,and I think for me it was
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in my early teens when I hadan abusive stepdad who came into my life
and was really pushing me down,you know, hammering, hammering me down,
telling me I was stupid and allthis stuff. You know, we
all have different stories, right,We all have our story where we felt
like we weren't enough or made tofeel small, or or where we were
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told what is going on in here? We shouldn't listen to it. We
shouldn't trust our intuition. We shouldn'ttrust you know, those hunches that our
other influences in our lives and societyon a whole tells us who we should
be. You know. The mediadictates to us how we should look,
what we should you know, howmuch we should wait. We'll just turn
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it all, turn it all offand get outside. Yeah that soul voice,
Yeah soul. Okay, So,Anita, well, we can find
you at Joyful Inspired Living dot comand we will wait for news on your
release of the soul. Thank youfor joining us. Yeah, it will
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be very soon. I'm sure certainyou've come so far, and just be
patient and enjoy the present moment.Yeah, thank you for this man,
for coming, for being the goThank you, and don't forget that they
need to tune in every Tuesday atthis time at two pm Eastern time,
or wherever you are in the world. And man, this was amazing.
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You're amazing. You're amazing Anita,and it's been a pleasure. Yeah,
thank you, Yeah, thanks somuch. All right, Rebel hit it
roll the credits. Thanks. Wow, what a show today, And the
journey does not stop here. Cometravel the world with Nicole every Tuesday at
two pm Eastern time, as togetherwe become more fluent in the language of
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healing on W four WN radio andtalk for TV. See you next week.