The Jaye Spot Podcast

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (01:20):
Jay is j A why E.

Speaker 3 (01:24):
Happy Thursday, you all. I hope that your week has
been great. You know, listen, we have to remember to
stay focused.

Speaker 2 (01:34):
It's so much stuff.

Speaker 3 (01:36):
Just every day life is just life, and and sometimes
life life's harder for others.

Speaker 2 (01:43):
Than it is for you.

Speaker 3 (01:44):
So you know, before you take that moment and say,
you know what, let me complain about something, just be
grateful because you know what, somebody out there is having
a rough time right now. So you think that your
time is rough, Listen, somebody else is.

Speaker 2 (02:00):
Going through even worse than what you are.

Speaker 3 (02:04):
And if you think that I'm joking about that, listen,
let's hear it right on it to our first hot topic.
We're talking about did he listen, didd he did he
did it?

Speaker 2 (02:13):
Did it?

Speaker 3 (02:13):
This, did it, a did it everywhere? So listen, you
are Look, how do you all feel about this?

Speaker 2 (02:19):
Now?

Speaker 3 (02:20):
Howard University they are they have given back a million
dollars I'm gonna say allegedly, but it's it's it's the
stories are surfacing. Howard University has given They said that
they've given back the money that uh didd he has
donated to them. And they're also saying that they are

(02:41):
cutting tides with him after the video of the attack
of him on Cast Cassie, and they're also revoking his
his honorary degree after the video has surfaced. Now you
all what I saw this, I'm like, Okay, first of all,

(03:02):
I'm so freaking sick of everything and everybody. What the
heck what does his honorary degree have to do with anything?

Speaker 2 (03:12):
Listen?

Speaker 3 (03:14):
I said it once and I'll say it again. I
am not a condoner. I do not condone Diddy's behavior whatsoever.
But come on, for real, this is why, this is
what is the problem with us. We jump on the
bandwagon for everything. Howard University. You cannot afford to be
cutting ties with anybody.

Speaker 2 (03:35):
And here's the thing.

Speaker 3 (03:37):
Show me somebody that is innocent of all this. Listen,
this Diddy's skeletons have been dug up. But what you're
gonna do when your skeletons have been what you're gonna
do when your skeletons start to be dug up?

Speaker 2 (03:53):
What are you gonna do? It's just like, what is
the purpose?

Speaker 3 (03:57):
Like, I don't understand this man worked hard for what
it is that he accomplished and what he did achieved
and has achieved and is going to continue to achieve
in his professional life. Does that mean that he's supposed
to lose everything because of what he did in his

(04:20):
personal life? Again, I do not condone it. But she settled,
She took the money and that's it. It's like, it's
not fair. Why are these everybody's cutting tides? Listen, I
haven't heard anybody cut tides with anybody from them pedophiles

(04:43):
at Nickelodeon.

Speaker 2 (04:44):
I have not heard anyone do that.

Speaker 3 (04:47):
I'm not hearing any of those executives, nobody from Nickelodeon
and Dizzney.

Speaker 2 (04:53):
Nobody is being canceled nobody. But did he? Everybody is counseling?
Did he?

Speaker 3 (05:00):
And then listen, let's talk about counseling. It's why is
it only black people being counseled being counseled by other
black people?

Speaker 2 (05:12):
Howard University?

Speaker 3 (05:13):
Y'all could have sat down and stayed out of it,
because when yo is start coming out the closet, you're
gonna want somebody to come and have a little mercy
on you. What happened to mercy? Like do we not
believe in that anymore? Like, Okay, yeah, he did this
horrible thing, did this horrible thing to her?

Speaker 2 (05:32):
Yes? If she chose to not pursue.

Speaker 3 (05:37):
It legally, then who are we to try to end
things for this man? Like That's what I don't That's
what I don't like, and I don't get like we listen.
Some of you all have uncles and great granddaddies that listen,
been beating on Mada since nineteen seventy five.

Speaker 2 (05:56):
Have y'all counseled him?

Speaker 3 (05:58):
Some of you all have petiphile in your family that
you call dads and uncles and brothers and sisters and aunties.

Speaker 2 (06:06):
Are y'all counseling them?

Speaker 3 (06:08):
Because my thing is, if we gonna counsel, listen, let's
just make it a whole counseling.

Speaker 2 (06:15):
Listen, Let's just counsel the whole shebang.

Speaker 3 (06:18):
Let's just do that less counsel from top to bottom,
less counsel if we're gonna do that.

Speaker 2 (06:25):
But I'm tired of us.

Speaker 3 (06:28):
Doing this, Like now, this man, why does he have
to go broke trying to defend himself again, he was wrong.
If you didn't hear me say it the first time,
I'll say it again. I do not condone nor support
what he did.

Speaker 2 (06:47):
I do not.

Speaker 3 (06:49):
But I also don't condone the world and the media
and the other people media trying to you're this black man,
because that's who is spearhead in the campaign. My thing is,
if it was a if it was an even counsel culture,
all the way around. Then I would be a let's

(07:12):
we we counseling Diddy, let's counsel everybody.

Speaker 2 (07:15):
Then I'll be on board with that.

Speaker 3 (07:17):
But I'm tired of it just being black people that
are being counseled and we we ain't got no better.
What if it was your sister, or what if it
was your brother or your what what if it was
your mother? We gonna ride down there, That's what we're
gonna do. We gonna ride down there. We see a

(07:37):
video like that, we listen, I'm not expecting social media
in the world to come. Were riding down there because
we got some personal we got some business that we're
gonna have to take care of. Has nothing to do
with social media, and got nothing to do with his money.
Cassie should have been gathering her brothers and her uncle

(07:58):
and everybody else up, and Cassie should have been doing that,
but instead Cassie took the money. Again, I'm not blaming
her and I'm not fauoting her, and I'm not saying
that she was wrong for doing that, because listen, he's
a powerful man, very powerful man. But again, if we're

(08:18):
counseling Diddy, did I want to see some conselation of
these grown men that have come out that these the
young people now have reported. But that story has died
out because it ain't no black people involved, but all
those people, all the young people from all these Disney

(08:38):
and Nickelodeon films and shows that have came out weeks
ago and talked about being abused on the set and
being abused by these writers and producers and all these
other people. But you see that that story has died down,
that story.

Speaker 2 (08:57):
Has you know, it went away, but we still bashing Diddy.

Speaker 3 (09:01):
Cassie was grown and Diddy was grown, so we got more.
We're more concerned about what this man is doing with
the grown woman that consented to being in a relationship
with him than we are of kids that did not
consent and did not deserve.

Speaker 2 (09:19):
And now they are young adults and they've had their worlds.

Speaker 3 (09:22):
Turned upside down because of these nasty, filthy bastards touching
on them and doing all kinds of God God knows
what these people have done to these kids when when
they were kids, but now they're young adults. But we're
standing up here. All we can all we can focus
on is counseling Diddy. Okay, see how we see, See

(09:43):
how far that's gonna keep getting us?

Speaker 2 (09:44):
So we count while we counseling Diddy.

Speaker 3 (09:47):
We're counseling Diddy over here, We're having a counsel party
for Diddy. And these pink people still over there doing
what they doing to these kids because they already know
that we were.

Speaker 2 (09:57):
We we have tunnel vision.

Speaker 3 (09:59):
We're just gonna focus on what's brown, what's black right
in front of us.

Speaker 2 (10:03):
That's all we see.

Speaker 3 (10:04):
Everything, all bad news is black, black, black, black, black,
So much bad black news.

Speaker 2 (10:11):
But what about the other folks?

Speaker 3 (10:14):
And I don't even say, listen, Jack, we gotta handle
our own affairs and we gotta worry about what black
people doing it.

Speaker 2 (10:21):
Yes, so black people, let's jump up off of this council.
Did he think again? I'm not. I'm not.

Speaker 3 (10:28):
I will say it again. I do not condone any
of his behavior.

Speaker 2 (10:34):
I don't. I don't support it.

Speaker 3 (10:37):
But I also don't condone and support the conselation of
him because he's worked his behind off. So why do
we have to ensure that this man goes back to
ground zero being broke, poor, broken, starving because he made
bad choices or because he's a monster. It's plenty of

(10:58):
other monsters out there. It's plenty of Boogieyman. So I'm saying,
if we're gonna take the Boogeyman down, if we're taking
the monster down, let's take him all down.

Speaker 2 (11:08):
Let's just not choose one. Because here's the thing.

Speaker 3 (11:12):
Not only that, So now they don't they trying to
cancel didd he But now Will Smith slapped Chris Rock
how many years ago? And now that he has a movie,
the whatever movie is movie dot come out this weekend.
Now you got every black commentator on here talking negative.
Oh well, I'm not gonna I'm not gonna watch the

(11:34):
film because I still.

Speaker 2 (11:36):
Haven't gotten over him slapping him.

Speaker 3 (11:38):
Well, let him come slap you, and and then maybe
you could take your mind off him slapping Chris Rock
if he come and slap you, and lord let me
ooh and and then I'm gonna get off of celebrit
No talking about some real stump. But lord, please let
somebody slap Stephen A. Smith's hairline back on, because this
man sits up there and talks so much crap. Let

(12:01):
me say this, Stephen A. Smith is a hater. He's
a bonafide hater. I don't care how much money he got.
He's a bonafide miserable hater. Hashtag that bonafide hashtag hater.

Speaker 2 (12:17):
Stephen A. Smith, Your big mouth.

Speaker 3 (12:19):
You don't do nothing, but you talk all that crap
about us. I don't never see you talking crap about
other people, other races.

Speaker 2 (12:28):
You donkey donkey with a.

Speaker 3 (12:32):
Receiving hairline, steven A. Smith, And I'm to say it.
Whatever he got more money than you, I don't care,
he's still a donkey hater.

Speaker 2 (12:41):
He got it. He's a rich, miserable donkey hater, steven A. Smith.
I wouldn't support that.

Speaker 3 (12:51):
I'm not going out shut up like everything ain't meant
to be said on life. If you felt like you
not gonna support it, just like your and I understand,
just like your hairline.

Speaker 2 (13:03):
Don't support that big forehead you got. I got it.
I got it.

Speaker 3 (13:08):
I got it, steven A. We got it, we got it.
But you got other things that you need to be
worried about. You need to go find you some business,
find you somebody that can stitch on a couple more
inches of Listen, me and steven A.

Speaker 2 (13:22):
Smith, all foeheads are twins.

Speaker 3 (13:25):
The only difference is is his hairline is running from him.
But we got the same size fox head, so you go.
At least I can put a bang and cover my
faux head. But this big faux head, big mouth hater.
Now let's let that trend. Let's let that trend. Steven
A Smith hater, hater, hater, hater, and he's a scary hater.

(13:48):
You only talk about stuff that you You only talk
about people that you know ain't gonna say nothing to you.

Speaker 2 (13:54):
I want to see you talk about.

Speaker 3 (13:55):
Somebody that's gonna that's gonna make you, said with your chest.

Speaker 2 (13:59):
That's what I want to say.

Speaker 3 (14:00):
You do talk talk about somebody that's gonna make you,
said with your chest. But all you do is you
He talked trash, but he talked trash in the state,
in a safe zone.

Speaker 2 (14:10):
He wanted them instigated. Y'all know how back in.

Speaker 3 (14:12):
Grammar school, you know, the instigator had the best friend
that was a big bad person.

Speaker 2 (14:17):
But they the ones always doing all that talking. That's
who Stephen A.

Speaker 3 (14:21):
Smith is your your big faux here receiving line hater.

Speaker 2 (14:26):
Amen.

Speaker 3 (14:26):
So now that's that was my rant for today, because
you know, I get sick of this. I get really
sick of this because as black people, we gotta do better.

Speaker 2 (14:36):
Now, Jay, you just done set up.

Speaker 3 (14:37):
There and talked about Steve Stephen A Smith or talked
about his faux here because he's a hater. And you
know what, sometimes hater just need to be called out.

Speaker 2 (14:46):
They need to be called out. And stephen A.

Speaker 3 (14:48):
Smithy, what you know that Stephen A Smith. I know
he's a big mouth hater. That's what I do know,
a big mouth out. He got all this money and
he can do this and he he can do that work.
Go do it. Make yourself useful and stop being a hater.
Stop stop acting like you need somebody. Stop acting like

(15:08):
you on that time of the month, he'd be sitting
up here acting like he on his cycle. He acts
like he needs some might off. Somebody's sending this man
some might all in a pink a Victoria's Secret gift
card and send him some roses or something, send him
some hot tea and give him a heating pad and
rub his back and rub his stomach. Because sometimes I'll

(15:29):
be swearing this man is really on his time like
he I'll be.

Speaker 2 (15:33):
Swearing this man get a cycle. The way he sit
up there and talk and hate.

Speaker 3 (15:37):
I would think he be getting a cycle, y'all. Let
me know, I think, yeah, yeah, I think that's stephen A.
He gets a little cycle over there, you know, he
gets a little sensitive here and there.

Speaker 2 (15:47):
Come on over there.

Speaker 3 (15:48):
Send that, Send that brother, some might all send. Oh yes, oh,
thank you Cedric so much. Yes, and then let's not talk.
I was gonna get off of it, but Cedric, you
had me. You get gave me another name that I
must listen perse wearing k not needed, shinning, shake, shake clubs,
shay shape, this hating donkey, this, oh child.

Speaker 2 (16:12):
Let me tell you something. Oh my goodness. When I
tell you all, I can say, oh, they rich, they
got something you ain't got. No, No, I got something
that they don't have. I got pride and I got.

Speaker 3 (16:25):
Love for black people, which is something that these two
black men don't. That's what I got. That's so you
can have all the money in the world. Keep it up.
Your show is doing great, y'all. Shows are doing great.
And y'all selling black people out every time. Y'all open
y'all mouths, y'all selling black people out. Y'all selling black
men out every time. Y'all open your listen, sh shinning

(16:50):
sharp with your purse person wearing shining sharp. You selling
black folks out every time you open your mouth and
receding hairlines.

Speaker 2 (17:00):
Stephen A.

Speaker 3 (17:00):
Smith, he's selling black folks out to every time they
open them sweet sensitive lips of theirs. They selling black
folks out. So if that's what it takes to make it,
you know what, I'm cool over here. You know I'm
cool over here. Eat listen, I'm cool over here eating

(17:22):
oodles and noodles and raymonds and rocking. Listen, rocking like this.
You rite Cedric because integrity. And Myron, you're saying, do
you think Clyde Davis have any Listen, Myron, the closet,
Clyde Davis is the closet you talking about skeletons? He
is the skeleton what you're talking about? Do he got

(17:44):
skeletons in his closet? What? But ain't nobody talking about
Clyde Davis. That's what I'm trying to say. So instead
of Stephen A. Smith and Shannon Sharp going trying to
go in on Will Smith and Diddy, let's explore Clyde
Davis's closet. But they not, they not. They gonna keep

(18:04):
on picking on people that look like them. While, as
you said, Clyde Davis and his skeletons in his closet.
Guess what they stay in his closet cause we ain't
talking about it.

Speaker 2 (18:16):
We ain't nobody everybody our cancer did he did? He
did this? The Cassie and and r Kelly and Alice yup?
What did Clyde do?

Speaker 3 (18:26):
Oh?

Speaker 2 (18:26):
Listen all these listen. Mmm, we gonna go ahead on Marie.
You're saying he's a cemetery.

Speaker 3 (18:37):
I'm with you on that, but again, y'all feel where
I'm coming from, Like we don't talk about that. You
don't hear any of our any social media platforms. You
got the Shade Room and Revolt and all these other
big media outlets. Ain't nobody talking about Clive because they
know Clive will pull the plug. But all I'm saying

(18:58):
is have the same if you you ain't finna talk
about everybody.

Speaker 2 (19:03):
Listen, this is what I'm gonna be doing. I'ma i'm'na stop.
I'm just gonna start packing my stuff up. This is me.
I'm packing my stuff up just.

Speaker 3 (19:09):
Like this because I know as soon as I start
dropping names, you ain't got to tell me to get
out because I'm gone. I'm gonna go ahead on, go
ahead and already leave because I already know it's soon.

Speaker 2 (19:18):
I already know I'm not gonna have no job.

Speaker 3 (19:20):
I'm not gonna have nothing, and I'm gonna say it,
and then now y'all gonna be aftter me. So that's
why I'm glad I'm not famous. I like being just
right here because I know my mouth. Listen, I already
know I don't get along. I don't get along well
with others like that. So if we not finna tell
on everybody, then just leave me alone, because I don't
want to just talk about just one person. I wanna

(19:43):
talk about everybody, every bastard that's involved. We let's talk
about let's talk about all of them. But we not
gonna just pinpoint one.

Speaker 2 (19:51):
Oh yeah, you know, yeah he over there, he over
there doing.

Speaker 3 (19:55):
This, and yeah, diddy this and it shut your scary
butt up. That's a and you right, Cedric he paying them.
But you know what, Ah some Shannon Sharp, big folk here,
Shannon Sharp, dark mouth is scared, and so is receiving
hairlines Stephen Ah Smith.

Speaker 2 (20:13):
They scared. They're scared to talk about other real stories.
They know they right in the middle of it. They
know they know all that dirt.

Speaker 3 (20:20):
The way that pink man set up there and disrespected
Shannon Sharp for years.

Speaker 2 (20:24):
And he set up there, he had.

Speaker 3 (20:25):
You know, he held his clutches, he clutched his purse
for years, sitting right right across from that pink man.
It took him years to get his to finally say,
you know what, I'm gonna lead this abusive relationship. It
took him years. Took him years. And I will say
this now that he's left. He is doing a great job.

Speaker 2 (20:49):
No hate there.

Speaker 3 (20:50):
He's doing a great job. And I'm happy that he
is doing his thing. But don't do it at the
expense of other black people. Don't do it at the
expense of other black men. Have your own voice and
have your own rise to the top. But you ain't
gotta take you ain't gotta take a brother out in
the process because you whatever, You ain't gotta do that.

(21:13):
But to me, when any when men started talking all
that negative crap about another man, I be like, come
on over here, little girl, come on, come on over here,
Totsy Pop, come on over here, come on over here,
sweet mouth. Whenever men start talking like that, I'll just
be like, come on over here, come on.

Speaker 2 (21:31):
He need he need a hug.

Speaker 3 (21:32):
It's his time of the month. He needs somebody all
he needs some something. He needs something because grown me
in got other stuff to talk about. That's sitting up
here and running somebody else's running another man's name down,
Steven A. Smith and Shanna Sharp, and don't justify wearing
that purse.

Speaker 2 (21:53):
It was a purse. Yes, it was a very expensive perse,
but Shanna Sharp, it was a purse.

Speaker 3 (21:58):
You with your little that little pretty dog, it was
a purse. Just remind me of a big back where
I'm gonna go ahead on stop on that note. But
if we're gonna talk and we're gonna keep it real
and we're gonna just talk some.

Speaker 2 (22:14):
Stuff, make sure we talking.

Speaker 3 (22:16):
And as Maris said, listen, let's open up the closet
doors for some other people that got their secrets and
all this other stuff going on and they backyard. Let's
just not go exposing black people, especially when you in
this media thing.

Speaker 2 (22:33):
If you're gonna.

Speaker 3 (22:33):
Expose some people, and if we counseling people and we
talking all this, let's talk about everybody. Don't just do
don't just slam black people and then oh it's out. Yeah,
he had that coming and this and that. Shut up,
like shut up. Let's let's if we're gonna talk, like
I say, real talk. If we're gonna talk, let's let's
let's let's hit everybody. Let's hit everybody up. Let's let's

(22:57):
let's make it happen for everybody. Because again with Howard
University revoking Diddy's, you know, his honorary degree and giving
back money and cutting ties. Listen, now go through the list,
Howard of all the other donors and abusers and pedophiles
on that, and counsel them too. So I'm just saying,
if we giving back money and if we counseling people,

(23:20):
let's just go ahead on and council all the way
around the board. Let's just not counsel one person, Let's
counsel all the way around the board. Cedric gets saying,
jay Z too, You notice how quiet he been since
puffshed on him. But they were supposed to be road dogs.
Absolutely absolutely, And that's the thing. It's just like to me, like,

(23:43):
loyalty is man, loyalty is everything. And it's just like
today people are not really loyal, Like if you get
mad at somebody, if we fall out, it's certain stuff
that should never come out if we was really if
we were ever really cool and we fall out, certain

(24:07):
things should never come out. And that's just me. It
should never ever ever come out. If you really cool
with somebody and they done told you their deepest, darkest secrets.
But now you want to go and expose how you
exposing them?

Speaker 2 (24:24):
Like, how does that work?

Speaker 3 (24:26):
Like you're exposing somebody that you said you was cool with.
Y'all was supposed to being cool, y'all cooling everything, But
now y'all fall out. Now you go telling all of
their business, everything that they confided in you when.

Speaker 2 (24:42):
You guys were cool.

Speaker 3 (24:43):
Now this is your opportunity to expose them. You a
fake and a phony. Y'all was never cool in the
first place. Y'all were never cool in the first place.
If you can go, what do you guys think about that? Like,
when you fall out with somebody and then you go
and you start are airing out all the stuff that
they told you in secret, Were.

Speaker 2 (25:04):
You guys ever cool? Could you do that? Like?

Speaker 3 (25:07):
What do you guys think about that? If you airing
out somebody's secrets, y'all was cool. Now y'all fell out.
Now you go telling everybody telling all of they bis
and stuff that you know that they told you in secret.

Speaker 2 (25:21):
Now, are you guys cool?

Speaker 3 (25:22):
Were you ever do you consider yourself really cool with
that person? Or were you just waiting for a person
to you know where you just waiting for them.

Speaker 2 (25:31):
To y'all to have an out.

Speaker 3 (25:33):
Now you use that as an excuse to go and say,
you know what, yeah, now for the tear all this,
you wanted to tell that anyway, you were never a friend.
You was always a fake and a phony. If you
a person at a goal and tell somebody's deepest secrets
and stuff and that they've confided in you when you
all were friends. And now you take that upon yourself too.

(25:58):
Now you're going to telling a bis and to every body.
I would be cool on you. I would truly, truly,
truly be cool on you. Because again, when people, when
you fall out with people or you just stop talking,
y'all go, y'all separate ways.

Speaker 2 (26:12):
Listen, do people outgrow each other?

Speaker 3 (26:15):
I totally believe people can outgrow each other and friendships sometimes.

Speaker 2 (26:20):
Can you know? Friendships could change? Friendships can definitely change.

Speaker 3 (26:25):
So we gotta just be definitely be mindful of that,
you know, So gotta do that. But if we decide
for whatever reason, listen, we're not gonna be friends and
whatever the case is, we're not gonna be friends.

Speaker 2 (26:43):
Cool, Okay, that's cool. We ain't gotta be friends.

Speaker 3 (26:47):
But when we part ways, does that mean I have
to go and now it's okay for me to go
and spread all of your business and all the stuff
that you've told me in confidence? Now does that give
me a pass to go and say, you know, yeah,
she did this and she did that, Or does that

(27:07):
give me a pass to you know, go and start
going in on your character or your intection or is
that something that I.

Speaker 2 (27:14):
Always wanted to do? See? To me, that's the heart
of a hater.

Speaker 3 (27:19):
Like if you with somebody and now all y'all together
or y'all you know again, the friendship ends for whatever reason,
y'all not cool anymore?

Speaker 2 (27:28):
Cool, that's cool, Okay, we got it. Now you go, oh.

Speaker 3 (27:33):
Yeah, you was always a snake and you always did this.
I'm like, okay with that, tell me why you mad? Like,
won't you go ahead on and get it all off
of your chest.

Speaker 2 (27:43):
Since if since that's the way you feeling, say it.

Speaker 3 (27:47):
When you say it, stand on it, stand on it
because people like that mm hmm. They never had your
back from the beginning. They were never a friend in
the beginning. You guys, like, when you fall out and
they go blurting out all of this mean energy, mean
spirited stuff, you'd be like, WHOA, You've been holding that

(28:10):
in all this time? Cedric gets saying, it's like my mama,
rest of having RP to your mom, Cedric used to
tell me you a west side, You're a west side,
and we count your true friends.

Speaker 2 (28:24):
On one hand. Absolutely, you can definitely count it.

Speaker 3 (28:27):
Because again, if they going and telling everything that you
knew or they knew about you, and y'all was supposed supposed,
like I said, supposed.

Speaker 2 (28:38):
I've been friends.

Speaker 3 (28:40):
And now they going and they telling everything that they know,
They telling everything that you done told them again in confidence.
They just they baby, they are letting it rip, everything
that you've told them. They letting it rip all in
the name of friends. Yeah, And she told me and

(29:00):
she used to do this, and you think she is
and she ain't that and he this, and he that
I'm just like a jealous hearted person.

Speaker 2 (29:10):
Is the scariest person to be around.

Speaker 3 (29:14):
A jealous hearted person is the scariest kind of person
to be around because they come disguised as friends, but
are they really your friends? And you gotta be so
mindful of that because those are some dangerous situations, Like
you would be thinking you cool with somebody, you cool

(29:37):
with them, but they jealous of you, and you gotta
be mindful of that because again, some people, and it
don't necessarily have anything to do with money or anything
like that. Listen, some people jealous of your energy. Some

(29:58):
people are jealous of your vibe. Some people are jealous
because of your spirits. Some people are jealous because of
the way other people love on you. Some people are
jealous of that. Some people are jealous because they don't
like your energy, or they wish that they were you,
or they wish that they can have They wish people

(30:19):
would respond to them like they respond to you. So,
like you said, et cetera, you definitely count your friends
on one hand. And that type of stuff right there,
like I said, that little hating stuff right there that
these people do when you go.

Speaker 2 (30:35):
And y'all no longer friends, be mindful of that.

Speaker 3 (30:40):
Be mindful of that and make sure you not the
person that is spreading all that crap when you no
longer friends, when the friendship is over. Okay, I can
respect that the friendship is over, but I'm not about
to sit up there.

Speaker 2 (30:54):
I'm not for the bass you.

Speaker 3 (30:56):
I don't have to go to social media and make
up make an announcement. Oh yeah, you know, ease be
our phony and this and that and this and that.
I'm just like, yo, I don't have time for that.
Like you can move totally around, move two scoops to
the left and take the sugar cone with you, because

(31:20):
it's not that deep. It's not that deep, pretty Tasha,
you're seeing just like when I watched the Selena movie.
It was so crazy how our cousin murdered her and
was jealous. Absolutely, people would be jealous. Like I say,
people that you call friends, listen. It don't matter how
long you've known somebody.

Speaker 2 (31:40):
You listen. Some people are knowing people since childhood. Smile.

Speaker 3 (31:45):
Listen, since you listen in the playground playing together, third second,
third grade, just to find out years later, you know, man,
And don't think that time, the time, the length of
time that you've been around somebody means that they're a friend.
Because you can be a friend to somebody doesn't mean

(32:05):
that they are a friend to you. So we definitely
have to be mindful of that, and just you know what,
we gotta proceed accordingly in everything that you do. You
gotta make sure that you are watching your back and
you gotta make sure that you protect yourself because again, everybody,
they're not our friends.

Speaker 2 (32:25):
They're just not your friends. And you gotta be ever.

Speaker 3 (32:28):
Ye's so mindful because again, people will be smiling in
your face and like they, like OJ said, they.

Speaker 2 (32:36):
Smiling your face all the time.

Speaker 3 (32:39):
They want to take your place, those backstab bus backstab
us and you know what, I don't even know why
I'm going this way, but you know what, it's true anyhow,
Like we definitely have to be mindful for that because people,
again they will be smiling all up in your face
and all the time, hating the air that you breathe,

(33:02):
just just hating.

Speaker 2 (33:04):
And then listen, ain't nothing like a hater.

Speaker 3 (33:07):
Just okay, you can be a hater, but then guess what,
haters sometimes they go and recruit other haters. So you
gotta be mindful of that because Listen, ain't nothing like
a hater that go and recruit a whole bunch of
other haters, So you know, be mindful haters. And here's
how you know, in my opinion, that the person is

(33:28):
a hater, because again they'll go and now not only
are they had they feelings about you and they and
their feelings and whatever, but then they go and they
start aligning, and now they spread rumors and they saying
all of this stuff, all of this stuff that they
know is not true, but they'll say it so that

(33:51):
they can get people on their side to co sign
and validate how they feel about you. And we gotta
be so mindful of that. So I'm like, you know,
you're not gonna have me to jump on the bandwagon
of hating somebody.

Speaker 2 (34:06):
Now.

Speaker 3 (34:06):
My thing is listen. I talk my fair share of garbage. Listen,
I do, I'm listen. I'm always somewhere running my mouth.
But one thing I am, I'm a friend and I'm loyal.
And when we if we stop talking, you don't gotta

(34:29):
worry about your secrets coming out because I don't care.
I don't care because you told me that at a
time when we was cool, and I'm cool. Now that
I'm cool on you, that's cool. Your secrets they go
out the door, and I'm gonna move on. I'm gonna
let you sit there and stew and figure out. Oh

(34:51):
and she was this, and y'all think she'll listen, I'm
gonna let you. I'm gonna let you do that. I'm
gonna let because that's what you've been doing. That's why
you can't progress in life, because you stuck right there
on some hayten ish. So you go ahead on and
hate and tell people what she would and she hate
and eat it and eat that, and I'm gonna keep
on doing what I'm over here doing, trying to get

(35:13):
to the trying to get to this money. So you
keep hating. I'm gonna try to keep getting to this money.
And then that's just what we do. So you gotta
let haters and jealous hearted people do what they do,
and you focus on what you have to do don't
And sometimes it will get hard listen, especially when you
know you got some ammunition to blow some weaves off,

(35:35):
and you got some ammunition to you know, some of
the guys they be wearing that that that pain and stuff,
and they be having them two pays and stuff, you know,
cause they up in.

Speaker 2 (35:43):
The getting them done too.

Speaker 3 (35:45):
You got some information that can blow all of that off.
You know, sometimes you just got a chant and just
numb yodo riki or numb yodaic so you don't reveal it.
And so you could just stay focused on the task
and stay focused on the mission and just do what
you have to do to.

Speaker 2 (36:01):
Continue to better yourself.

Speaker 3 (36:04):
Because again, that jealous energy, that hating energy, man, that's contagious.

Speaker 2 (36:09):
That's like a rash. Listen, get listen, make my behind it,
that Hayden stuff.

Speaker 3 (36:14):
Listen, Like yo, you gotta really be careful with that cedria.
You're saying, stop associating with them, period, And that's easier
said than done. You gotta recognize when they show they
when they show their true hand, then you get to
associate with stop associating with them.

Speaker 2 (36:35):
But as long.

Speaker 3 (36:36):
As they're near you and you you haven't their their
phoniness hasn't been revealed yet, it's kind of hard to
stop associating with them until they play the full deck
of the hand. But as long as they're still pretending,
you know, sometimes it's hard.

Speaker 2 (36:55):
For people to do that.

Speaker 3 (36:56):
But people you gotta be so careful because you know,
it's just I think back to the young lady I
think it was last year when they when she went
to what was it, I think Mexico is somewhere, and
she went with her group of friends and then they
ended up killing her there. Like you gotta be you
gotta be careful for that because again, sometimes it's not

(37:17):
revealed until it's too late, and so we gotta be
careful again with that because again, people are jealous and
people some people are jealous, and some people are haters,
and it has nothing to do with anything physical, Like
sometimes it could just be you. People like you, people

(37:38):
gravitate to you, people vibe with you, and they don't
like it. They don't like it, and it's just like
you and you oblivious to it. You're walking around, walking
around in Candyland, and meanwhile your BFFs or people that
you call good friends, they hate you.

Speaker 2 (38:02):
And pretty Tasha, you're saying, there was a girl.

Speaker 3 (38:05):
In my hometown in Montgomery, Alabama that was in the
hospital for two months from March to May, and she
had to get several surgeries done to her. Her sister
threw acid on her, but thank god, it did not
deform her.

Speaker 2 (38:19):
She just got a scar on her forehead and a
little on the nose.

Speaker 3 (38:24):
Man, that is so you know, and that right there,
that sisterly jealous stuff and that family jealous now that's next.

Speaker 2 (38:33):
Level and that's so sad to hear.

Speaker 3 (38:35):
I'm pretty Tasha, and I'm definitely glad that the young
lady is okay.

Speaker 2 (38:39):
And you definitely have to watch that.

Speaker 3 (38:41):
And you know what, sometimes parents, you know, parents can
kind of play a role in that mix, you know,
of creating that that rivalry between kids. And so if
we're not careful when we start choosing picks and favorites
and this is you know, this is my favorite kid
right here, and this is my favorite, we gotta be

(39:04):
mindful of that because now you're pitting your kids against
each other and making you gotta favorite.

Speaker 2 (39:11):
This is my favorite, this is my favorite.

Speaker 3 (39:13):
And then as they get older, you know, sometimes that
can turn into resentment. So we definitely have to be
mindful of how we're raising our kids. And then we
just gotta be mindful on again how we move, how
we move as adults. We have to be mindful on

(39:33):
how we move as family. We gotta be mindful on
how we move as friends. Hey Peterson, Gary, how you doing.
We gotta be mindful on all of these things because again,
if we're not, not only are we putting ourselves in position,
you know, to be hurt if we're not watching our circle.
Like you said, Cedric, that's why you keep your circle small.

(39:56):
We gotta also keep you keep your circle small, but
also still watch who's in that small circle, you know,
because the circle could be small, but you know, if
if it's a jealous hearted person in that circle, you know,
you still definitely have to be mindful of that. And
then we have to be mindful on all the pressure

(40:17):
that we're putting on the kids. Again, doing this favoritism ish,
in my opinion, really is not you know, it's not
a good It's not a good thing to do. I
only got one, so that he was my favorite because
I only had one.

Speaker 2 (40:32):
But when with.

Speaker 3 (40:33):
Parents with multiple kids, we definitely have to be mindful
of doing that and putting you know, again putting pitting
our kids against each other and doing things of that nature,
because again, it's not a good look. And in the
long run, the kids and their relationship it suffers, and
it suffers big time because of the things that we're

(40:56):
doing and speaking of kids and pitting up against each other.

Speaker 2 (41:00):
Listen, you are I saw this the video.

Speaker 3 (41:04):
So the mom, she's on the video and she is
crying her heart out, and she says that she threw
a birthday party for her son and invited friends and family,
and nobody showed up to the birthday party, so she
had it at like some little venue where they have,
you know, for the kids. Now she's like, you know,

(41:25):
she wouldn't you know, She's done messing with everybody and
things of that nature. So my thing was this when
I saw the video and I saw how you know,
upset and how emotional she was.

Speaker 2 (41:36):
I don't know if it was a skit you.

Speaker 3 (41:37):
Are, because listen, skits are popping up all over the place.
Let's just be real these situations.

Speaker 2 (41:44):
And I'm not mad at I'm like, I'm not mad if.

Speaker 3 (41:46):
Your skit is that realistic, Listen, rock out, continue to
create the content that you created.

Speaker 2 (41:53):
But she is balling her eyes out.

Speaker 3 (41:55):
It's just her and her son, and she's there on
social media, you know, because nobody came to her her
kids party. So now I immediately thought, I'm just like, Okay,
you got a party and it was probably placed for
about fifteen twenty people, and I'm like, not one person
showed up, not one person that you invited. So I

(42:20):
immediately started to think, like, h why why didn't anybody?

Speaker 2 (42:26):
Is it?

Speaker 3 (42:28):
I mean, because not one person showed up, not a grandmother,
not your good judy or not, like not one person
showed up? Was the weather bad outside? Like okay, you know,
we give them a weather if the weather was bad.
But I can't see how you can invite that many
people to the party and not one person show up.

(42:52):
So I started thinking like, Okay, are these really you know,
do these people really rock with you?

Speaker 2 (42:59):
Or you know, listen, have you done something? Do you
show out? Do you clown? You know?

Speaker 3 (43:07):
I would think in real life, thank you such your
key saying it was a skit, because I would hope that,
you know, in real life, But like, how would you
handle a situation if you had a party for your
child and nobody showed up? So my thing was this,
like when growing up, when my mom used to throw
us parties because we were all born baby. We were

(43:30):
all born in February, a couple of days apart and
a year apart, so you got one birthday. Then a
few days later you had another birthday, and another birthday
the whole month of February. And my mother, she used
to always tell us, she was like, y'all are the parties.
As long as y'all are here together, we're not gonna

(43:51):
worry about who else comes. Whoever shows up shows up,
whoever don't, they don't. We show We show up, and
we show love, and we focus on who's here.

Speaker 2 (44:02):
If nobody comes, y'all got each other.

Speaker 3 (44:05):
We're here and we're gonna party and we're gonna celebrate
each other. So that's kind of what I instilled and
my son like growing up, you will invite a few
other people, but if they don't show up, as long
as your family is here, that's all that matters. So
that's kind of how we had always been brought up
to think, like, you know, listen, as long as family

(44:28):
is here, then that's all that matters. But baby, my
mama was getting it in and hey, my sister leave
on here. Hey, she said, I was just about to
say that as long as we show up even for
you know, just anything important, we like my family, we
are the party.

Speaker 2 (44:47):
And my sister we would talk about this all the time.
We like listen. You know we could listen.

Speaker 3 (44:53):
You either gonna love us or you're gonna wanna lock
us in the room and throw away the key.

Speaker 2 (44:58):
There is no end tow with us.

Speaker 3 (45:01):
You're gonna like us or you're gonna be like you
know what, Listen, let me push them and put them
in a room somewhere where they are away from everybody
and just leave them there. So that's how it is.
But you know, I appreciate the bond and I appreciate
my family because you know, listen, you need that to

(45:21):
equip you for this world. So it's just like, you know,
ain't nothing that you can say that it's gonna too
much ruffle my feathers because you know, I come from
a strong family.

Speaker 2 (45:33):
And you know, listen, when.

Speaker 3 (45:34):
I tell you the D, the disc and functional is there?
The dis and functional is maybe it's it's the capital D,
but only But we can only do it to each other.
Can't know outside to come in. You can't come in
and jump on my family and be dysfunctional.

Speaker 2 (45:53):
You can't. That's our job.

Speaker 3 (45:56):
We know that we got some people that listen the clock. Look,
the kool cool circulates around the We got some people
in our family that we know that happens. You know,
let us let us do it. Let us let us
let them know that. Listen, I need you to get

(46:16):
your mind right because you're crazy.

Speaker 2 (46:18):
Okay, let us do it. You can't do it, and.

Speaker 3 (46:21):
Y'all should have the same love for your family and listen,
you gotta love people for who they are, start, and
not for who you want them to be.

Speaker 2 (46:31):
Some of us like to think.

Speaker 3 (46:33):
That people are you know, and he just you know,
I just wish they would get it together.

Speaker 2 (46:40):
They not gonna get it together.

Speaker 3 (46:41):
Okay, if they ain't got it together in all these years,
they're not gonna get it together. So we gotta start
accepting people for they crazies and let them be. Hey, Gretchen,
how you doing. We gotta start accepting people for who
they are and let them be crazy. Stop trying to
make these people saying, you know, some of these people

(47:04):
need putscript mental prescriptions out here, and we getting mad
at them every time I turn around. Every time I
turn around, Vincing is always over here fighting. Vince sink
just can't get right. You know, they not gonna get
right because something wrong with them. So stop expecting them

(47:25):
to do the right thing because you know that they crazy. Listen,
you gotta accept them for what they crazy. Stop trying
to make them saying, because they not gonna be saying.
You just got to love them anyhow.

Speaker 2 (47:37):
Listen.

Speaker 3 (47:38):
If you know that your favorite auntie always stealing and
you know she a thief, Listen, stop trying to stop
trying to make hers stop stealing. She been stealing since
nineteen seventy eight. She's gonna die steal him. You gotta
accept that and leave it alone. Gretcha, she's saying, I
accept people who I accept people for who they are

(48:00):
as we should. You know, we definitely gotta accept people
for who they are and just and listen. When we
accept people for who they are, guess what, it makes
it so much easier for you to be able to
deal with them and for you to be able to
accept them because you're not trying to change them. Listen,
you know again, you know that they still Listen, don't

(48:25):
invite them to the house. You can't invite them to
the house. You gotta love them, but you know you
can't listen now, ain't he look? I love you, but
you know you got a problem with taking stuff that's
not your Now.

Speaker 2 (48:37):
Look, I ain't sy.

Speaker 3 (48:38):
I'm not gonna go through this with you, now, ain't
he Now, Look, I'm not gonna go through it with you.

Speaker 2 (48:42):
Okay.

Speaker 3 (48:44):
Look, I love you, but you're not gonna get up
here and steal all my stuff. I just got this stuff,
and you not finna come over here instill it. Now,
when we go to the restaurant, I'm gonna invite you.
You can steal all the silverware that that you want
to steal, but you're not gonna come to my house
and steal my silverware.

Speaker 2 (48:59):
Aintee. But I love you, Okay, So I love you,
ain't te And that's what's gonna be it. Your cousins
and whoever. Listen.

Speaker 3 (49:06):
If you know you got people that got some drinking
problems and they drink and then they start to fight,
you can't come. Look okay, you can't hold your liquor,
so you can't come, okay, because we're not trying to
have you to embarrass us.

Speaker 2 (49:22):
We're not trying to have the.

Speaker 3 (49:24):
Police being called and now we all on the news
because you wanna fight. Listen, they say liquor and alcohol
is a spirit.

Speaker 2 (49:33):
Listen, believe them.

Speaker 3 (49:35):
Folks, believe them. It's a spirit. It is a spirit,
and don't be bothered with it. But listen, I'm not
gonna get mad at you because this is who you are.
You drink, you fight, you cuss, and you clown. But
I don't have to deal with it. So I'm not

(49:56):
gonna get all up in my feelings and be like, God,
ho wish they changed.

Speaker 2 (50:02):
No, you just can't come over here. You just can't.
You just cannot come over here.

Speaker 3 (50:07):
You can't be no what listen, if you know, listen
some of y'all, listen, I'm not gonna say, y'all, some
of us are related to some folks that can't keep
their hands to theyself.

Speaker 2 (50:17):
You can't come over here. You can't come over here.

Speaker 3 (50:20):
We sitting up here trying to have a movie night,
and we turn around and you got your significant other,
you got your partner helm up over that bat of
cotton candy. We not gonna deal with that teat and
be like, see, that's why we can't bring you nowhere,
because you always showing out, You always clown, and you
always acting up. And then you be wondering why ain't

(50:41):
nobody bringing you nowhere? We don't bring you nowhere. Cause
you don't know how to act and pretty. Tasha is saying, yes,
mental illness is real.

Speaker 2 (50:50):
It truly is.

Speaker 3 (50:51):
So it's just like when you dealing with stuff like that. Listen,
focus on the party.

Speaker 2 (50:59):
She should have.

Speaker 3 (50:59):
Folks on the party, got off their social media, got
off the camera, and you and your baby there.

Speaker 2 (51:05):
You spend your money. You gotta have a good time.

Speaker 3 (51:07):
You cannot break down like that and ruin it for
your kid. It's about your kid. If you in a
big facility like that, you gotta rock out and go
ahead and enjoy the amenities, enjoy, enjoy the party that
you set for your child, and then don't go. This
is where we as parents, we gotta listen. We got

(51:29):
a choice to make. We can blast everybody because they
didn't come and tell our kid that, and now have
our kid feeling sad and now they looking at people
some type of way when they come around. Or you
can try to fix it. I'm not saying lie, I'm
just saying fix it up. Everything don't have to be

(51:51):
shared with kids.

Speaker 2 (51:52):
Listen.

Speaker 3 (51:53):
I'm not sure, baby, I'm not sure why people didn't
make it. You know, maybe next time, but listen, we
are here, We're finna enjoy the jungle gym and everything else.
We're finna get in here and are we finna do
this and we're gonna have some fun because it's all
about you. It's your special day. Let's rock out and
let's do it. That would be the way.

Speaker 2 (52:15):
To handle it. Opposed to and since and since.

Speaker 3 (52:19):
N didn't come, you better not let me catch you
talking to NaN's son Ray Ray, and you better be
talking to Rarai and man Man and Boogeyman and Duda. Look, ma'am,
that's see, that's probably why they didn't come. See, because
you're running your mouth with all that type of negative energy.
That's probably why they did not come. Because you're running

(52:40):
your mouth, right, Django lang in them. That's right. They
didn't come cause you're running your mouth now. That could
be a strong reason why they did not.

Speaker 2 (52:49):
Come because of your mouth. So we ain't gonna do that.

Speaker 3 (52:52):
We're just gonna focus on having a good time and
making the baby have a good time. Focus on you know,
the facility and rocking out from that point. But there's
no there's no reason to sending negative energy down to
your child.

Speaker 2 (53:10):
We we should be above that.

Speaker 3 (53:11):
We should be we should be above that and not
worrying about all the all of that because it's too much,
and you know what, it's not it's not necessary. So
let's just do what we have to do as parents,
and you know what, Look, we're gonna rock out and
we're gonna do what we have to do for our
kids and make them have a good time, because again,

(53:32):
it's about them, So we're not gonna focus on the
foolery or the negativity.

Speaker 2 (53:37):
Hey, Maurice, how you doing. We're not going to focus
on that.

Speaker 3 (53:40):
So again, let's just control it and and and and
wheel it in and you all let me tell you'll,
let me just'ma I'm gonna give y'all a reflection moment,
a real moment.

Speaker 2 (53:52):
Listen.

Speaker 3 (53:54):
Sometimes listen, I have to go and just sit down,
you know what, and talk to my self and gather
my thoughts because sometimes you all, I can be listen,
this mouth would have been out, just popped open before
before it and before I said listen, a whole bunch
of stuff have been I spilled out. But what I'm
learning to do, I'm learning to just center myself and listen.

(54:18):
I sent on myself right in front of people. I'd
be like listen. If I feel myself going left, I'd
be like, what now, Lord, Now I look, and I'd
be like, this prayer be for me, It don't be
for nobody else.

Speaker 2 (54:31):
Now, Lord, please.

Speaker 3 (54:33):
Help me, because you know the stuff that I was
just about to tell this system right here, it's not right.
You know it's not right.

Speaker 2 (54:42):
Lord. Now you know, Lord, you know I was about
to take it too far.

Speaker 3 (54:47):
What was about to be said was about to be
too far, not Lord, because you know that there is
when they say zero to ten. No Lord, I'm gonna
go zero to a thousand, and that's not what you
want me to do. You don't want me to go
zero to a thousand. You want me to be, you know,
nice and centered. So sometimes I just have to zone

(55:11):
out to collect myself because I just be you know,
if I get if anytime.

Speaker 2 (55:17):
I get mute.

Speaker 3 (55:19):
Y'all know how when the computer freeze and then it
gotta like reprocess real quick.

Speaker 2 (55:23):
That's what happens to me.

Speaker 3 (55:25):
Like I have to just I freeze and then I
just have to reprocess, and then I just have to
let the you know, let the is restarted. My program
is restarted, because clearly all of the wrong stuff came
to the forefront. All of it came to the forefront.
And that's not where I'm trying to where I'm trying

(55:48):
to be. Such what you said, hold your piece, Listen,
Sometimes hold your piece is like holding it, you know,
when you got to use the bare throne real bad
and it's about to come out. Sometimes That's how it
feels when when you say, oh your peace, That's how
I be feeling to me, like, oh God, this is
WHENNA come. That's how it feels.

Speaker 2 (56:05):
So it's not always easy to hold your peace.

Speaker 3 (56:07):
But like I said, I found that, you know, just
you know, centering out, just just trying to center sometimes.
And you know, now listen, my mother may be on here.
She don't like when I do this. Listen when I'm
look when when I'm talking with Sister Vance, baby, let
me tell you something, and she she just she sister
Vance get the leading.

Speaker 2 (56:28):
It she she she gets the leading. It ripped. Baby.
I'll just go this is she hate when I do
so why you gotta do that? So I'm round with you, ma'am.

Speaker 3 (56:37):
So she get to talk, babe, let me take something.
Several tabs I done did this? She just she I
don't know what where she be coming from. But listen,
I go right to any wall I can find, and
I just start banking. I'm like, now, lord, I know
you're gonna fix it. I know, I don't know what
have I done.

Speaker 2 (56:54):
Baby. She gets so mad when she see me banging
my head.

Speaker 3 (56:57):
Against the wall because I be trying to I do
that to quickly reset reprogram, because I've been trying to
figure out, ma'am, what's going, what's wrong?

Speaker 2 (57:09):
What is wrong?

Speaker 3 (57:11):
And then she get that you why you do? I
know she's gonna be mad that I'm telling you it
is because she she hate with She hate. She hate
when I do that. She hate when I bang my hand.
She's I'm gonna put you somewhere. Oh, Cedric, don't do
me like that talking about some Just think of a cicada.

Speaker 2 (57:28):
Landing on it. Baby, I've been on rent.

Speaker 3 (57:30):
Let me say, I've been on ran out that sister's
house so fast and will not be seen again.

Speaker 2 (57:35):
But you know, sometimes, you know, just hit my head on.
I'll be like. She's like, I mana, admit you, I'm
gonna put you somewhere. Keep on, keep on, keep on
banging your head against the wall like that.

Speaker 3 (57:46):
I'm puting somewhere. I'm like, ma'am, and I just I
just be like, ma'am.

Speaker 2 (57:49):
I'm just trying to you know, I'm just trying to.

Speaker 3 (57:52):
Regroup and reprocess and just trying to figure out where
you like where you at, like where which what you
just happened real quick? I'll just be trying to figure
it out. But I love my mama, and you know
she knows that. My sister says, she said I'm crazy. Listen,
I'm like, listen my mama. I love my mama to
pieces ma. If you won't here, turn off because I

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ain't no telling what else I'm about to say. She's
gonna be mad. But guys, listen, We're gonna take a
short musical break and when we return, we have more
hot topics to get into.

Speaker 2 (58:26):
Stay tuned, you don't want to miss it.

Speaker 3 (58:28):
You're listening to the j spot where we are strengthening
relationships and families one conversation.

Speaker 2 (58:36):
At a time.

Speaker 4 (58:43):
You been saying ogans that just sleep beam Sunday.

Speaker 2 (59:00):
You know I only had a patient my name, a
shot a double feet.

Speaker 5 (59:18):
Oh no, no, I never had it at your sever
until I'm at you, and I.

Speaker 4 (59:25):
Don't know it's just a phase I'll go through, but
I feel that is true.

Speaker 2 (59:35):
We don't need no labor's made.

Speaker 5 (59:38):
Well we got is something different.

Speaker 6 (59:42):
We don't need no labor's baby lady, we don't need
no labor to show.

Speaker 2 (59:53):
Then we'll be having something special, shapeful to shell for sure.

Speaker 5 (01:00:02):
I don't feel it is someone nice stand.

Speaker 6 (01:00:06):
It's the love you hear your heart, love and.

Speaker 2 (01:00:09):
Fair that one.

Speaker 6 (01:00:13):
Yes, the sweep you off your feet, have you everything
you need. That's a little things that don't be on
the phone because we want to be alone.

Speaker 5 (01:00:27):
And I never thought I feel this wave and you
came along and whom no, I never had an entry
fresh until I met you. Still love me and I
don't know anything really if it's really it's just a phase,
but I feel that it's true.

Speaker 6 (01:00:50):
We don't need no labor's name.

Speaker 5 (01:00:53):
Well we got is something different.

Speaker 6 (01:00:57):
We don't need no labor's name.

Speaker 5 (01:01:08):
Then we have something speci Since she came into my life,
I see Crue.

Speaker 3 (01:01:25):
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Speaker 2 (01:02:12):
Guys, listen.

Speaker 3 (01:02:13):
As of today, it's been a month, you all, and
these bastards still have control of the group. So Grown
and Sexy Conversations with Jay as of today, almost a
month later, and the group is going down to Pitts.
So if anybody listen, you all, we do not have

(01:02:34):
access or control to the Grown and Sexy Conversations with
Jay anymore. As of right now, I'm still working to
try to get it back right Grown and Sexy Conversations
with Jay. So our backup group is Grown in Sexy
Conversations with the J Spot.

Speaker 2 (01:02:51):
That's our new group. That's where we.

Speaker 3 (01:02:54):
Are rocking from right now until hopefully we eventually get
back to that page with the way that they posting
on all that stuff. Them people are like what they like,
what in the world is this Like I'm looking through there,
like a lot of the people that were, like the
normal people that used to poke, they're no longer in
that group.

Speaker 2 (01:03:12):
So, you know, I don't have a way to.

Speaker 3 (01:03:15):
You know, let them know that this is you know
that the group has been hacked.

Speaker 2 (01:03:19):
So we've been trying.

Speaker 3 (01:03:20):
So you know, I can't stay you know, I gotta
keep you gotta keep moving, gotta keep pushing. So but
if y'all can get the word out and let people
know that the group has been hacked, because a lot
of people are a lot of you all are.

Speaker 2 (01:03:33):
In both groups.

Speaker 3 (01:03:35):
But come on over so and come on over to
Grown and Sexy Conversations with the J Spot, and let's
make this one rock out like we did for Grown
and Sexy Conversations with Jay. Also, guys, listen, thank you
so much thirtying Up doing us, Tyson Smith, thank you,
the Real MVPs, thank you Grown and Sexy Conversations with

(01:03:56):
the J Spot, thank you, Pitt Life, thank you everybody
that rocks out with us.

Speaker 2 (01:04:00):
Now listen, it's just me, but sitting next to me.
You all. We had Esthetician.

Speaker 3 (01:04:10):
Chandler, mother of a group of cool dudes, y'all, and
a little lady lady lords.

Speaker 6 (01:04:20):
Say, hey, girl, how are you?

Speaker 2 (01:04:24):
I'm back girl all y'all.

Speaker 1 (01:04:27):
Yeah, little little princess been kicking my butt. We had graduation,
we had a ballet recital.

Speaker 2 (01:04:36):
It's just been NonStop to.

Speaker 1 (01:04:38):
Where I don't know if I'm coming or I'm going.
And finally it kind of calmed down.

Speaker 2 (01:04:44):
She's staying with t T for two weeks until she
is Yeah. I didn't know t T.

Speaker 1 (01:04:51):
The plan what she was supposed to keep this girl
from Monday night. I was gonna drop her off on
Monday night. Dad was gonna pick her up Thursday and.

Speaker 2 (01:04:59):
Then we all come back together after the show. So
I talked to her. She's like, no, I'm keeping my
baby for two weeks. I said, are you sure? Won't it?

Speaker 3 (01:05:07):
Do it?

Speaker 2 (01:05:07):
She said, yeah, not me. I'm good. Yay.

Speaker 1 (01:05:09):
He over here talking about but who. I don't understand
how the communication lines got crossed. It doesn't matter, she says,
she stayed for two weeks. I'm okay with it.

Speaker 2 (01:05:18):
If you are. She needs to be gone.

Speaker 1 (01:05:20):
But this is a product of we went to Auntie's
and cousins rouses. He's never done that, so he's always
been home. Well, I guess I'll go have lunch or
dinner with her.

Speaker 2 (01:05:30):
I guess that you did. You better do because she's
stay for two.

Speaker 1 (01:05:32):
Weeks packing, trying to move. I'm surviving, y'all.

Speaker 2 (01:05:40):
I'm here. Thank you for not forgetting about me.

Speaker 3 (01:05:42):
Well listen, let me tell you. Listen, I'm glad graduate.
We I still got one more graduation to do this
this summer and then I think it'll be Yeah, that's
the last one, So one more graduation.

Speaker 2 (01:05:52):
I'm breaking my heart. I just want y'all to know that.

Speaker 1 (01:05:55):
All y'all, everybody, all my friends, I don't like any
of you, but I love you.

Speaker 2 (01:05:59):
With the grondraduation, is.

Speaker 1 (01:06:00):
Everybody posting like they grown kids graduating? Listen here, I
am talking about Empress Fodgers graduating.

Speaker 2 (01:06:07):
From Free School.

Speaker 1 (01:06:09):
Why do I have to be the friend that shocks
my friends? Why do I have to be the friend
that always just do something.

Speaker 2 (01:06:17):
Just crazy like this?

Speaker 1 (01:06:18):
I'm talking about everybody going on prom send dolls. I
don't even think I've seen an eighth grade graduation.

Speaker 3 (01:06:24):
I just came from an eighth grade graduation. So my
niece she's just graduate. One of my nieces knees. Well
I'm done, so Matt, listen, mad I grew right, but like, yeah, yeah, but.

Speaker 2 (01:06:37):
At least I could say that. But girl, y'all making
me mad. I'm going. So the last graduation is the
college graduation. Okay, listen, class of two and thirty six.

Speaker 3 (01:06:49):
But let me tell you. I'm gonna tell y'all one thing.
These little kids, I'm not for these.

Speaker 2 (01:06:54):
Listen. I love the little kids. Listen.

Speaker 3 (01:06:57):
I had my little nephew, he little houses. Got This
guy is what how old nine or ten? So he
wanted to come and hang out with me for a
little bit. So, now, mind you, I'm used to always
being by myself or running my errands by myself. So
I told him, I said, now, listen, when we go
in this store, I need you to stay close to

(01:07:20):
me so that I can know that you're here. I say,
because sometimes I get in the zone and you are
being here, and so I say, and I would hate
to leave you.

Speaker 2 (01:07:29):
And then you got to call the people, and now
they got to call me.

Speaker 3 (01:07:32):
And I'd be like, oh dad, I left the boy
up at the store, I said, so don't don't don't
wonder off.

Speaker 2 (01:07:38):
And so I told him, I.

Speaker 3 (01:07:39):
Said, because I have left a kid before, and he
looked up, he was like, did you. I say, I'm
not gonna tell you who I left because I don't
want you to go back and tell La Mama, because
then I won't ever be able to get him again.
But yeah, when they was little, I did leave him,
you know, and you know, thankfully it was in a
safe place because they called me back.

Speaker 2 (01:07:58):
And I ain't gonna tell you what they what the
what they call me, because then they gonna know who
it was that I left. But you know left them.
I'm like, oh shoot, I told them.

Speaker 3 (01:08:07):
See why if they separate us, that's how that's how
they got.

Speaker 2 (01:08:11):
Left, you know.

Speaker 3 (01:08:12):
So I said, they don't stand there, I told them,
So don't let that happen to you. I said, because listen,
you know you'll be ain't you wouldn't mess around and
find out, That's all I told him. I say, don't
find out, so you know, you all, it wasn't on ten.
It wasn't intentional, and it wouldn't be that way. But
you know, listen, sometimes the tumbel vision just be like this,

(01:08:33):
and you know, listen, you can turn around and you
can be.

Speaker 2 (01:08:36):
In target call and having them call me over the
over the loud.

Speaker 3 (01:08:39):
Speaker, and I won't know what's going on, like like, oh,
shoot this this poor baby. And I said, I don't
want you to get tortured like that. So gods, listen,
we have a great show lined up for you.

Speaker 2 (01:08:50):
Listen. We're gonna go.

Speaker 3 (01:08:51):
Ahead and continue off with our hot topics. Now, listen,
what do you all think of this foolishness? Because it's like,
I don't care which hearing it is. I just don't
think that it's a good look.

Speaker 2 (01:09:04):
Well, what do you.

Speaker 3 (01:09:05):
All think about kissing these kids in the mouth? A
parent kissing a kid in the mouth. So there's a
picture in the mother she is kissing her her son
in the mouth, and this boy looks like he's every
bit of ten or eleven. Do you guys think that

(01:09:25):
that's appropriate or are other people just making it weird?
Like she's like, oh, it's a mother, it's innocent. Why
do y'all think it's so everything has to be over sexualized.

Speaker 2 (01:09:40):
But like a boy, even our father.

Speaker 3 (01:09:44):
Kissing anybody kissing the kid in the mouth, like I
don't know what you what are your thoughts on that?

Speaker 2 (01:09:51):
A Levey card?

Speaker 1 (01:09:52):
Okay, I don't think after I can't. I really do
agree what we over sexualize everything. But as point in age,
you cut certain behaviors off with your kids. So to
be ten years old and saying I'm kissing my son
on his mouth, nah, I wouldn't be doing that. But
when they're younger, it's like you you showing affection, you

(01:10:14):
show love, you know, give me a kiss.

Speaker 2 (01:10:16):
Now, I could say her dady never played that game.
He never like kissed her on her mouth or nothing
like that.

Speaker 3 (01:10:20):
But but see, I'm gonna tell you the reason why
I'm like, I don't.

Speaker 2 (01:10:26):
I'm not like it's sexualized.

Speaker 3 (01:10:28):
I don't think it's a look at it and see like,
oh this is sexual I look at it, and I'm
just like, now you're finna come and kiss show child
in the mouth.

Speaker 2 (01:10:40):
That one you' are slabbed all on. You just don't
just all just going to town.

Speaker 3 (01:10:46):
And now you now you coming and kissing your kid
in the mouth, and you passing all that bacteria all
to the baby, especially with these little babies. I'm like,
look and now not you. I'm not even gonna say
slobbing on Bob. They eating everything. They're eating everything like

(01:11:08):
it ain't nobody's business. They're eating everything from head to toe.
So it's just like mm. And now you now you
don't put Tyrone's too. Now you kiss the same to
you just put your lips all on Tyrone's too last night.
Now you're getting up in the middle of the night

(01:11:29):
kissing all on your baby. Now you're wondering why your
baby got colic and all of this other stuff because
ty you know, Tyrone is for the streets, you know,
he for the streets. And you still kissing your baby
in the mouth after dealing with all that foolishness.

Speaker 2 (01:11:47):
I'm not to you're not so.

Speaker 1 (01:11:50):
Like when I like, you gotta like real it in
lightly you just like go it all out that old man.

Speaker 2 (01:11:57):
No, just out there.

Speaker 3 (01:12:00):
Mission too, because see now now Finna get Now it's
gonna be even extra so now not only her, now
you you sitting up here eating all.

Speaker 2 (01:12:08):
Oh no, not's that wrong?

Speaker 3 (01:12:11):
Now and then now you want to listen, sir, you
shouldn't even be kissing your child on the forehead because
you out here with these chicks that be living and
listen they city girls and all this and that and
not washing. They bbl's right, and you sitting up here
kissing all on your baby, and now you're wondering why
your baby won't get rid of the rash on the face.

(01:12:33):
You you thinking that it's the detergent Oh man, I
donna put the room deterred. No no, no, no, no, no,
no no. It's where your mouth has been, which is
why your child is having a hard time. You know,
you can't keep the rash off the face and can't
keep them from coughing and all that other foolishness. It's
because of where your mouth has been. So please governing

(01:12:56):
your mouth accordingly before you start putting it all over
your kids like that. And also, listen, the second part
of that is what do you guys think about this?
You got kids at home and they're up in age
like the You know, I'm gonna say, I wanna say listen,
I wish I would.

Speaker 2 (01:13:13):
I'm just gonna say two years old.

Speaker 3 (01:13:15):
And I'm gonna tell y'all why I say two years
old after we talk about this hot topic.

Speaker 2 (01:13:19):
So I would say two years old and above.

Speaker 3 (01:13:22):
Is it okay for pearents to walk around the house,
either naked or in their just in their underwear. So
a mom, you got your kids and you walking around
in your panty and your brawl or you know, is
that is that appropriate to do?

Speaker 2 (01:13:38):
So with just your kids at home, you just walk
around the house but naked all the time. And she
was my favorite auntie.

Speaker 1 (01:13:48):
Oh I would have I had we got an aunty
that would never close the bathroom door. So she owned
the toilet number one, number two, three and four with
the bathroom door wide open.

Speaker 2 (01:13:58):
And that's like the coolest auntie.

Speaker 1 (01:14:00):
And she may if you walk past that door, you're
gonna end up sitting there talking to her.

Speaker 3 (01:14:05):
But okay, so outside as far as that goes, But
what about just walking around.

Speaker 1 (01:14:09):
We're an exhibition family. I were born that way and
we're gonna be that way.

Speaker 2 (01:14:14):
Okay.

Speaker 1 (01:14:14):
I don't like clothes. Okay, now I do not walk
around in the nude because I have sons. But I
have walked around in my like boy shorts and a
tank top.

Speaker 2 (01:14:25):
Okay, Now, if you come in my room, you know
that's on you.

Speaker 1 (01:14:30):
They'll come up in here without knocking on the door,
off the door closed. But to just say, you know,
everything's flying now I feel like sometimes that could over
sexualize children's thoughts, and I try, you know not to
now because I have a daughter. You know, it's different,
and we get to do what we want to do.

(01:14:51):
She like, you know, I gotta teach her. You gotta
let her breathe. You know, you could go to sleep
with just your you know you because you gotta breathe.

Speaker 2 (01:14:58):
So you know we might be breathing, but you know,
so with.

Speaker 1 (01:15:04):
Me, like, we're not doing that now other people kids, no, Now,
my little sister don't care.

Speaker 2 (01:15:09):
Who coming now, My little sister don't care y'all are
you walking that door? Shit, got no clothes on? That's
on you. You just go see it now.

Speaker 3 (01:15:18):
For me, like I've always cause I'm listen, our family
is huge. I come from a huge family, so we
had clothes on. Like I don't recall ever seeing my mom,
my parents, anybody walking around without any clothes on. So
for my family, like everybody got some clothes on, like
you know now listen, my son even even at home,

(01:15:41):
went between just me and him, like I'm I always
had some clothes on, never boy clothes. So like I
it was just a habit that we didn't do do
I think it's a problem for people to walk around
with they underwear. I'm like, to each his own, like,
you know, however, the family is comfortable with but.

Speaker 2 (01:16:00):
Nude, but hold naked. God, no, listen your look your
little homie quiz. I had a homegirl called me one day.
She was like, could you.

Speaker 1 (01:16:13):
Please tell your son to put some clothes on? Every
time I drive past your house his little bird chests.

Speaker 2 (01:16:22):
In the window.

Speaker 1 (01:16:23):
Yes, I'm just you know, the boys walk around they
with they boy shorts with they not boy shorts, but
they box the box shors.

Speaker 2 (01:16:30):
No briefs, just box of shorts. You know.

Speaker 3 (01:16:32):
Some like they take time, some don't. I'm like, listen,
you gotta you gotta listen. You got the wheel that
in and just governing yourself accordingly because it's m I
don't know, but like I said, I I personally don't
and because simply because it's so much stuff that people

(01:16:53):
are doing today, Like, it's so much stuff, and I
just don't want it, especially with other people's kids, to
put anybody in a compromising position.

Speaker 2 (01:17:03):
And I think that it's.

Speaker 3 (01:17:04):
Just from a standpoint of just being safe for me,
That's how I look at it. Because listen, I know
some stuff, and I don't seen some stuff, and I
heard some stuff, and everybody ain't anything, and I would
hate to have to put some lead in somebody, So like,
help me not putting no led in nobody. Help me
to stay cute and keep a cute smile, because I

(01:17:25):
don't think I'm not gonna.

Speaker 2 (01:17:27):
I would not survive in jail. I just would not.
So we not gonna. We're not gonna speak those things.
We're not gonna claim it because listen and gone, so
you are right now.

Speaker 3 (01:17:37):
Yeah, But I'm like, so now, even when I have
like other people kids, like when I have my nieces
and my nephews, I'm really selective because I don't really
like to have a whole bunch of kids over at
one time because I like to watch, you know, because
the little kids listen, you don't know what they're being

(01:17:59):
exposed to at home, and you just mixing all that
exposure and you're just putting it all together. And I'll say,
here's why I don't care, even down to two years old,
I kid you not. And I'm just like, okay, I'm
just trying to see should I post the video? But
I'm gonna tell y'all, then y'all should let me know
if I should post the video. But I'm sitting out

(01:18:21):
on the porch, and so my family were sitting out
and so a little kid comes. She a little girl,
she's about two years old, running up the street. Like
it was at first, it was like three of them.
I started I started getting nervous. I'm like, oh, child,
three of them with the little diapers on, little saget look.

Speaker 2 (01:18:39):
Diaper dragon, all the way up the street.

Speaker 3 (01:18:42):
So I'm just like, So we're sitting on the porch,
and so the house is surrounded by a fence. So
on the side gate, the little kid, the first little girl,
she sees it's a lock.

Speaker 2 (01:18:56):
The gate is locked.

Speaker 3 (01:18:58):
So the little girl she reaches her inside and she
feels for the lock.

Speaker 2 (01:19:03):
And so.

Speaker 3 (01:19:05):
Two years old, reaching inside, feels for the lock and
she's looking at it. So then she ran off. It
was two of them there, so they both ran off.
The other one came back. She came back with a
little stick. Baby, she took that stick and she was
trying to jimmy the lock open on the gate.

Speaker 2 (01:19:25):
Two years old. And so I'm sitting there and I'm like,
guess this. It's the fucker trying to break into the gate.
She was trying to open the gate.

Speaker 3 (01:19:38):
There's no I recorded it, just so I'm like, oh
my god, this little girl.

Speaker 2 (01:19:46):
But I'm saying that to say this. That's why they're
called the Alpha generation.

Speaker 3 (01:19:51):
She saw somebody breaking in somewhere, and now, at two
years old, you know how to break in somewhere. So
she saw that that stick wasn't working, so she ran
off to go get another stick to come back to
the gate and try to finish it and try to
figure out how she too.

Speaker 2 (01:20:10):
Mimic what they see.

Speaker 1 (01:20:11):
I should see this little girl with a stick that
looked like a hammer, and she was going from place
to place fixing stuff with her.

Speaker 3 (01:20:18):
And that's why I said, I'm going they see, and
that's why I say, you know what I cannot.

Speaker 2 (01:20:23):
And that's for that reason.

Speaker 3 (01:20:24):
I mean, I was already adamant about not mixing kids
up together, but when I saw that, that made me
even more stamp more firmer on not having all these
kids over together, because again, you don't know what these
kids are being exposed to. And now you're putting other kids,
you know, in jeopardy, like you're putting because you don't

(01:20:47):
know what they're exposed to. So you're like, oh, it's
just a baby. Baby that was Listen, that was Rosemary's
baby right there.

Speaker 2 (01:20:56):
Okay, that was one of the children of the corn.
That wasn't. No, just oh she just a little baby.

Speaker 3 (01:21:02):
She was only two. Baby has she had the tools?
Baby she was gonna get had they not come to
get her. And again, she ain't worried about me sitting
right there on the porch. I was acting like I
wasn't watching her because I was recording her.

Speaker 2 (01:21:18):
She didn't care. Sitting up there, just trying.

Speaker 3 (01:21:20):
To just sticking it, just sticking it on that just
just just jingling it around. And the other one, like
I said, she's looking at the lock, trying to assess
the type of lock.

Speaker 2 (01:21:30):
Two two years old. So again, we definitely have to be.

Speaker 3 (01:21:34):
Mindful of what we expose our kids to. And again
just putting them in the room with multiple kids, because again,
if she's seeing somebody trying to break into locks and
things of that nature, what else are they seeing.

Speaker 1 (01:21:50):
That's why I'm teaching your little friend about strange behavior.

Speaker 2 (01:21:53):
She has to go to summer camp. And you know,
you think you're doing good with them.

Speaker 1 (01:21:58):
Being in the summer camp and a good neighborhood around
good people.

Speaker 2 (01:22:02):
But kids are kids.

Speaker 1 (01:22:03):
So it's like as much as I teach her about
strange behavior and stranger danger with adults, we have to
teach them about strange.

Speaker 2 (01:22:11):
Behavior with kids. Kid ain't got no bit that's touching you.
A kid don't have no business doing this.

Speaker 3 (01:22:16):
This.

Speaker 1 (01:22:17):
We was at the park. This little girl, oh, she
was so sneaky. It was fires another little girl and
she was the bigger girl. She's trying to convince them
to drink a bottle of water and get these cookies.
When I tell you, my little diva said, I'm not
drinking that, so the other little girl poured it out.

Speaker 2 (01:22:36):
Then she's trying to sneak the cookies to her.

Speaker 1 (01:22:39):
She's all I heard was my mama gonna get me.
That's not yours. Put it down. She went to go playing.
The little girl tried to get them to eat them cookies. Again,
she got louder.

Speaker 2 (01:22:52):
Were they stealing out? The cookies?

Speaker 1 (01:22:54):
Were just in the park, So whatever somebody said, don
but that little girl. I noticed her further side of
my eyes. She was eyeballing them cookies. She was on
them cookies and her job as the bigger kid was
if I get the little ones to open it, then
I could still eat it with them and I could
blame it on them strange behavior.

Speaker 3 (01:23:18):
Baby, Listen, I'm telling you, I'm gonna start calling these
little listen. I'm gonna start just calling these little kids out. Listen,
you look, your little unfamiliar spirit. Get out of here,
Malachi and Rosemary's baby and Chucky and children out the corn.

Speaker 2 (01:23:34):
Get all these little ki listen.

Speaker 3 (01:23:35):
Get them all up out of here, all of them
up out of here, because you all are scary.

Speaker 2 (01:23:41):
Listen, these little kids scare me. Get them up.

Speaker 3 (01:23:45):
Look, get them up out of here because they weird.

Speaker 2 (01:23:50):
And listen. Listen. I don't even I don't even listen.
Little kids. I love y'all.

Speaker 3 (01:23:55):
But Nope, after seeing that, I'm like, nope, you're still too. Nope,
you will still you will steal too. Just listen because
you because your parents is telling you to do it
or they showing you just what to do. But guys,
at all times, when you have kids in your presence, listen,
especially these little kids.

Speaker 2 (01:24:14):
They listen.

Speaker 3 (01:24:15):
They're born, these little kids, they're different, like they come
out just with a special type of knowledge and a
special type of power that we definitely gotta just make
sure that we are paying attention to because again, it's
so much going on, and these kids are being exposed

(01:24:37):
to so much. It's just like we gotta watch them
and make sure that we're doing the right thing.

Speaker 2 (01:24:42):
Now, listen, guys, speaking of doing.

Speaker 3 (01:24:45):
The right thing, we are going to get into our
topic for tonight. Now, look when you are out, listen
for those that have the unfortunate pleasure of being out
in this fool recall the dating pool. Our looks important

(01:25:06):
to you? Do they matter? Does that when you are
talking about moving forward in a relationship or even approaching somebody?

Speaker 2 (01:25:16):
Does their looks matter?

Speaker 3 (01:25:19):
Does whether or not a woman fellas if she's natural,
or if she's had some enhancements done?

Speaker 2 (01:25:28):
Does that matter? What is considered too much?

Speaker 3 (01:25:34):
So tonight we're talking about our physical enhancements worth the risk,
because every time you turn around, you're hearing a story
about some young lady losing her life over getting these surgeries.
They're getting the enhancements, they're getting the bbls. They are

(01:25:57):
going over to these countries and they are come and back.
You know, if they do come back, those are fortunate
enough to come back. It's almost always some type of,
you know, side effect to what it is that they
have been through.

Speaker 2 (01:26:18):
But I want to talk about when you talk.

Speaker 3 (01:26:20):
About beauty in your eyes as being a woman, what
do you think makes a woman beautiful? And Fellas answer that,
what do you all think what makes a woman beautiful
to you?

Speaker 2 (01:26:34):
And let's talk about the natural are you?

Speaker 3 (01:26:37):
Are you guys more in tune and and on board
with the the bbls or are you preferring natural women
or it?

Speaker 2 (01:26:46):
Does it not matter?

Speaker 3 (01:26:47):
You're only looking, You're only concerned about the woman's personality
and who she is and how how she is.

Speaker 2 (01:26:55):
Cedric, you're sam natural and pretty.

Speaker 3 (01:26:59):
Tasha, you're saying yes, looks matter to a certain extent
and such. You can also saying it depends on their taste.
So when you're talking about beauty again, so what do
you think what makes a woman beautiful to you?

Speaker 1 (01:27:13):
I mean I think whatever makes that woman beautiful is beautiful,
whether she's natural or she got a weave or whatever.

Speaker 2 (01:27:20):
For me, I prefer.

Speaker 1 (01:27:23):
For me natural, I've never had we tried to do
wigs before.

Speaker 2 (01:27:28):
I don't have time to be doing it because it.

Speaker 1 (01:27:32):
Don't work for me, but that doesn't mean the next
person sitting next to me is it beautiful. I don't
like the snuffing of figus eyebraws and notelashes, but if
that's how she feels beautiful, that's on her. As far
as like what, I'm not gonna say what I think
men like. But these young men been speaking out a

(01:27:52):
lot online and it's like for them, the bbls and
the breast augmentations of all these things make them look
at a woman in a sexual way, because that's all
I'm looking at. I'm just looking at the butt, the
breast and those things. They're not looking at you like, oh,
I want to wipe her up, I want to marry her.

Speaker 3 (01:28:12):
And it's like to piggyback on what you just said,
Lady Lotus, I too. I'm like, listen, whatever makes you
feel comfortable, whatever makes you feel beautiful, then that's what
to me makes a woman beautiful. And I like to say,
whatever makes makes you feel beautiful, But we gotta here's

(01:28:33):
where the twist comes into that whatever makes you feel beautiful,
we're not doing things based upon what makes us feel good.
We're doing things based upon social media and what the
trends are that's what women are doing. I saw this
video of the Lady Delicious that was off the flavor

(01:28:56):
a look. I don't know how many years ago it was,
but I remember her team plus and to me, I
thought that she was really pretty and she had a
nice shape. So the Delicious from back then is different
from today. So she had all of this work done.
And as I watched her, I said to myself, ma'am,

(01:29:18):
you had all of this work done just to work
on social media, just to get a few likes and
a few shares like where I'm like, you were beautiful already,
but she wasn't beautiful to herself.

Speaker 1 (01:29:32):
I think something with with adding in social media. I
don't feel like they always do it for beauty. Like
you said, you did that for some likes, because they
get a lot of money once you hit them, followers
and all that stuff, and you dedicate that time into
having these followers.

Speaker 2 (01:29:54):
And stuff, and now you got to keep up this content.

Speaker 1 (01:29:57):
So I gotta keep something shaken, I gotta keep something clapping,
because in my mind, you don't have the talent to
just sit here and create something like I give props
to these families with their kids and you know they're
doing it and we don't.

Speaker 2 (01:30:12):
Have to augment our bodies to do it.

Speaker 1 (01:30:15):
But then you got the people in the limelight who
they're telling them, if you want to be famous, you
gotta have.

Speaker 2 (01:30:20):
To do it.

Speaker 1 (01:30:21):
But even if you're a part of the itdy biddy committee,
why can't we do it to make it look natural?
You could go get you a big but it's a
big breast, but they still look natural and they match
you not where your hip don't match. Nothing matches you
turn around and you just look weird. And some of
it I think it's low self esteem. Like Godi was beautiful,

(01:30:47):
and because of her low self esteem, you've done all
this stuff to you, and it's just like I can't
even look at you like you pretty right now, even
if she got with her augment in her face and
her nose. I mean, come on, MJ with sexy, dark skinned,
with that big old no man and his self esteem

(01:31:12):
and wanting to be in this limelight and somebody telling
you all the time, oh, your breast too little.

Speaker 3 (01:31:17):
And you know what, it's so crazy because just being
in this industry, like my family, it's different shades. So
we like I wasn't brought up on the colorism thing,
like the light skin dark skin. But once I got
in this, started doing the J Spot, this was the
first time I ever heard, Oh you're pretty for a

(01:31:39):
brown skin girl, are you're pretty? I'm like, huh, Like
I don't. I'm like I was confusing our first. I'm like,
I never I never heard that growing up in school,
like in my family, I never heard that until getting
you know, starting the J Spot, and I'm just like,

(01:32:01):
I'm the shine, I'm.

Speaker 2 (01:32:03):
The show shot. It don't matter what my shade is.

Speaker 3 (01:32:06):
I've always been this way, gonna be this way then
and then some and that that that slogan is taken
from my bff, my good friend.

Speaker 2 (01:32:15):
He called himself the show shot and the shine.

Speaker 3 (01:32:18):
So I'm gonna take that, you know, Listen, I'm gonna
bite off him because that's what you always say.

Speaker 2 (01:32:24):
You out.

Speaker 3 (01:32:25):
I am what I am, But I'm just like, I'm
not gonna talk to you now.

Speaker 2 (01:32:30):
Listen. When I do, I will tell you the descriptions.

Speaker 3 (01:32:33):
That I do call people, and and these are the
the adjectives that I've used to describe people. Listen, No,
you know, broke, Runnie over there now, Dusty Mike over
there from around the corner. No big nose Lester, That's
who I'm talking about over there now, don't nah. Now,

(01:32:54):
will describe people like that, but rarely, almost never referring
to the color of the color of their skin, because
that's just not that's not what comes to me naturally.
But your physical attributes. Listen now, listen, come from a

(01:33:16):
big family. That's all we did was talked about each
other and talked about people, So you know, to describe
people like that, I'm sorry, that's just where.

Speaker 2 (01:33:24):
Nah, that's just us anywhere. No jab tooth Tony, No, No,
you know.

Speaker 3 (01:33:31):
No the dude listen, you know the listen Buleggs, the
one with the shoes that always wear shoes tied too tight.
That's what I'm talking about over there. That's what I'm
talking about, Not the other one you talking about, Loric. No, Jermaine, No,
not that nah, not that Jermaine. I'm talking about Jermaine

(01:33:51):
that got the broke down Corolla. That be thinking that
be thinking he all that. That's Jermaine I'm talking about.
I ain't talking about Jermaine that ride the Cadillac. I
ain't talking about that Jamaine. We do describe people like that?
You know that's that's that's more. You know that now
I can I can resonate with that. But all this
skin told stuff. But what makes a woman beautiful? Ladies,

(01:34:14):
you gotta you gotta be here with yourself, like we
can't stop teaching.

Speaker 1 (01:34:19):
Beauty is in the eyes of the behold. Because beauty
is because I think I'm beautiful. Then you're not gonna
think I'm beautiful. And the beauty most people don't understand
is they start on the inside.

Speaker 2 (01:34:32):
My beauty start with my hello.

Speaker 1 (01:34:34):
My beauty starts with how I treat you, because you
could be one of the ugliest people to the world.
But if you treat me good and you're nice, I
don't even see your your physical I don't see that
no more.

Speaker 2 (01:34:48):
I'm trying to get that deep.

Speaker 1 (01:34:50):
You'm trying to get there deep like that, but you know,
to be able to lay down next to me, right,
But I'm just not gonna be sitting in your face like,
oh my god, you is so ugly. I can't be
your friend right your eyes going that way, or your
teeth rolling out of your mouth whatever. If you ugly
like Danny, you got an ugly personality.

Speaker 2 (01:35:12):
You need to go hide in a cave somewhere. Now,
I did. I'm gonna tell you now, I'm gonna have
a petty moment.

Speaker 3 (01:35:17):
I did know this guy that I had stopped talking
to him because it was something on his finger that
was growing. I just could not understand what it was.
And I'm just like, lord, if he touched me, I
am just going to melt like the snowman, just like
you know, the snowman.

Speaker 2 (01:35:32):
Like I'm like, cause I didn't.

Speaker 3 (01:35:33):
I didn't know what it was, and I didn't want
if you touch me, it was going to jump off
on me.

Speaker 2 (01:35:39):
But you all, that was back in.

Speaker 1 (01:35:41):
The day when I shallow hair moment and your hey
days a lot of them shallow a lot of them.

Speaker 3 (01:35:47):
So that was like but I think that was like
one of the most pettiest ones, the shallowest ones.

Speaker 2 (01:35:52):
The guy that had the thing on his on his
hand and I'm just like, can you just can you
just take the hand off the table.

Speaker 3 (01:36:00):
I don't know what it was, but it was just
like some type of growth that I was just like, I.

Speaker 1 (01:36:06):
Mean, we nearly got our hangups and we're not gonna
talk to somebody or be around somebody because of a
hang up.

Speaker 2 (01:36:11):
But the beauty part of it, you know that, and that.

Speaker 3 (01:36:16):
I couldn't focus on nothing else, so I can't. I
don't even remember how he looked. I just remember the
thing on his hand, and I'm just like, you know,
it seemed like it would be talking. But you know,
he was just a very He had very generous pockets, though,
I will say that, so that's just you know, but
that was back, you know, before I was redeemed you all,
you know, you know, just being able to take advantage

(01:36:37):
and just being thankful for how generous his pockets were.
But nevertheless, you know again when you looking at yourself, he.

Speaker 1 (01:36:45):
Had to use that hand with that growth on it
to get that money out of that pocket, just to.

Speaker 3 (01:36:49):
Use it on the growth, use it, use it to
swipe it years. Just as long as you ain't touching me,
then that would that. Listen, everything everything worked out just
fat as long because you was not touching over here.

Speaker 2 (01:37:02):
And listen, you can touch your card or your cash
and give it to the listen, no no, no no.

Speaker 3 (01:37:08):
And the cash you can leave it on the table
and we're spread with the LIFs ole when you leave
up out here.

Speaker 2 (01:37:12):
But that's that's that's the work.

Speaker 3 (01:37:13):
But you know, I'm just like when it comes to
beauty ladies today, society has so much it's put so
much pressure. Nobody wants to age. Nobody wants to you know,
that's the natural progression in life. You get older, listen

(01:37:34):
some things.

Speaker 2 (01:37:36):
Listen.

Speaker 3 (01:37:36):
We can help things out by changing our diets, changing
you know, exercise them more and listen.

Speaker 2 (01:37:43):
If you over forty plus, then you know.

Speaker 3 (01:37:46):
Listen, check some of them hormone balances, because if you're
not losing weight like you want to, when you know
that you eat, ride and you're working out, it may
be your hormones. So you know, look into doing things
like that up the natural route if there's some changes
that you want to make.

Speaker 2 (01:38:03):
But it's just like drastically these enhancements. Listen.

Speaker 3 (01:38:09):
I've seen the girl put this thing on this waist
trainer own and like literally I'm like, what's happening to
your rib cage? Like literally everything was sucked.

Speaker 2 (01:38:21):
In And I'm just like, do you remember corsets?

Speaker 1 (01:38:26):
And do you remember they stopped back in the day,
and like, but the seventies, those women's was putting on
those corsets that we call today. It's a difference between
a waiste trainer and a fitness band, right, But the
corsets were giving them that coke bottle shape, but it
was also moving their organs.

Speaker 2 (01:38:48):
Yep.

Speaker 1 (01:38:48):
So when you're putting on that waist trainer and you're
doing the you know, I pray for her all the time.
It'skishkor she's made her waist so small. I have her
waist trainer. I ain't gonna trip, but I ain't trying
to do what she did. Where do you think your
organs are going and your abdomen? You know, just put
on the waist train and there's some girl almost fell

(01:39:09):
out one day, help me take it off.

Speaker 2 (01:39:11):
You about to die? You know what I'm saying. It's
like we are dying, y'all.

Speaker 1 (01:39:16):
We are dying at high high rates over these surgeries
trying to go overseas. These surgeries are not even anything
could happen. They just jabbing and jerking in your body.
They don't know how far they're going. These doctors don't

(01:39:37):
even know how far they should go. They're just doing it.
And then you still gotta do the work to keep it.
So why not just eat right? Why not just do
some exercise, cause you're gonna go get that surgery. You're
gonna spend all that money, and you're still gonna have
to come home and put your Hulu bone and go
to the gym and work out and watch what you

(01:39:58):
eat or you're gonna lose all your money because all
that fact gonna come right back.

Speaker 3 (01:40:02):
Now, Twin Williams, she said, be looking like an ant.
Some of it it looks ridiculous. It truly, it truly does.
And I'm just like you know, we we we some
of us gotta do better. But when it comes to risking,
like you said, moving your organs around and no doubt

(01:40:24):
you messing with your ribs. So now that's gonna be
messing with your spine, your and your posture and all that.
It's just like for what for what to to to
be an influencer, to get likes, to be like influence

(01:40:44):
the old lady. No, And I don't I can't wait,
I don't even want like I'm not wait. I'm having
a hard time looking at the younger ones.

Speaker 1 (01:40:54):
I'm just seventy years old, and that little booty over
be sitting there like.

Speaker 3 (01:40:59):
It's gonna it's like you're gonna have one. You gonna
want to have the one silicone and then the other one.

Speaker 2 (01:41:06):
Listen, let them things, you know who I admire.

Speaker 3 (01:41:09):
I'm just like and I said, she just gonna and
this is no shade. I like this because I'm gonna
be just like that lounell.

Speaker 2 (01:41:16):
Baby. She let them things, baby, but she on her lives.
Them things be hanging.

Speaker 3 (01:41:22):
They be sitting on, they be sitting on the table,
they be sitting everywhere, and I loving it out.

Speaker 2 (01:41:29):
What that's beauty?

Speaker 1 (01:41:31):
Yeah, because she's comfortable in her own skin.

Speaker 2 (01:41:34):
Her own skin. I'm just like, that's the way you
have to do it.

Speaker 3 (01:41:38):
It's like, okay, when I go outside, then I'm gonna
fix myself up so i can be outside. But I'm like,
I'm not about to be sitting up here. And that's
what she be sitting around here and be rocking out.
And I'm just like, I don't want these wire bras.
I don't want none of man, these bras out for
the devil. And I'm telling you these dogs on them

(01:41:58):
these thongs. Listen, y'all can take them thongs.

Speaker 2 (01:42:03):
I don't want the man. Listen.

Speaker 3 (01:42:07):
Listen, when listen, when you got listen, I know if
a real, but eat them, eat them throngs up your
booty be eating them up like the cookie monster.

Speaker 2 (01:42:16):
Baby.

Speaker 3 (01:42:17):
I know them things get lost all up in that
bb L.

Speaker 2 (01:42:21):
I know you just don't what d what kind of
panties you're gonna have to be.

Speaker 3 (01:42:27):
You gonna have to be free because ain't no panties
fitting them big.

Speaker 1 (01:42:32):
They just go spread that thing and they they can't.

Speaker 2 (01:42:37):
Wear a throng. They have to wear a G string.

Speaker 1 (01:42:40):
A dog gets with flat booties, you think, so, yeah,
a dog and a G string at the same thing.

Speaker 2 (01:42:45):
No, a dong is for.

Speaker 1 (01:42:47):
A flat booty, so that little piece could lay on it,
But the throng is gonna go up in there because
it's just the string.

Speaker 2 (01:42:56):
A string bikini. You could deal with the string up
in there. They're not.

Speaker 1 (01:43:00):
I'm you wearing a song with that big old piece
of staying put.

Speaker 3 (01:43:06):
It.

Speaker 1 (01:43:07):
It's the friction that girl, that is what you call
that little snatch on the side of the matches.

Speaker 2 (01:43:14):
That a strap on the side of the matches. You
just waiting, you.

Speaker 3 (01:43:17):
Sit up and walking, and it's just like a yeast
infection fire.

Speaker 2 (01:43:21):
That's how your booty doing.

Speaker 3 (01:43:24):
Just chomping and pantings, just chomping whatever you got up,
just chomping it up. But it's like when we think
about it late and we it's like we all, I
think women, we collectively just have to start embracing each
other's natural beauty and letting each other know, like, man,
you know, you look cute like that.

Speaker 2 (01:43:42):
That's a nice look.

Speaker 3 (01:43:44):
You look nice, you know, start encouraging that and encouraging
each other because to be your natural, authentic self. We're
not doing that because it's not acceptable. So it's like
it's almost it's not acceptable, it's not it's not admired.
So we got women out here that they're willing to

(01:44:06):
risk their their eye site for these eyelashes, putting these
things on, Letting these people put these glues and stuff
on that the glue, hair, hair glue, weave glued on
the eyelashes.

Speaker 2 (01:44:22):
That is dangerous from an esthetition. You should not be
doing that. You should not be.

Speaker 1 (01:44:26):
Really putting any type of glue near your eyes unless
it was specifically made for the lashes.

Speaker 3 (01:44:35):
Stop going to these little, these little Korean shops because
they don't care. They wash their hands with with dish detergents.

Speaker 2 (01:44:43):
They're not even.

Speaker 3 (01:44:44):
Properly sanitizing this stuff, and then you're letting them put
the license.

Speaker 2 (01:44:48):
Yeah I know.

Speaker 1 (01:44:49):
And the on salon is not licensed to give you
waxes either. They're not licensed to wax your eyebrows, wax
your whu, wax your back.

Speaker 2 (01:44:58):
All they licenses on the walls for.

Speaker 3 (01:45:01):
Nails nil, and they doing and they doing some of everything.
So then you have a growth on your eye and
whatever it is, the fungus and all this other stuff
because they're using the wrong product.

Speaker 2 (01:45:14):
Oh and it's so sad.

Speaker 3 (01:45:16):
So it's just like we have to start just looking
and loving ourselves and saying, you know what, Listen, this.

Speaker 2 (01:45:23):
World is gonna get whatever it is that I give it.

Speaker 3 (01:45:26):
I'm gonna chug down a couple of smoothies, but whatever
whatever is not gotten rid of by the smoothies and
a little workout, a little jog here, and look, you know,
I'm not getting nothing nipped. I'm not getting nothing tucked.
I'm not listening. I'm gonna try to suck it in

(01:45:47):
and I'm gonna try to listen. Hurry up, takes the
pit you Why so I'm acting like I can't breathe.

Speaker 2 (01:45:50):
After that, it's.

Speaker 3 (01:45:51):
All bets are off whatever leans over, it leans over.

Speaker 2 (01:45:56):
I've earned the right for it to lean over. This
way with it and rock with it. We're not doing
all this.

Speaker 3 (01:46:03):
Nipping and tucking. Like Listen, we're gonna do a few
jumping jacks. We're gonna do a few sit ups, and
whatever does not go away from that. It was meant
to be. It's mine and I've earned it all these Listen.
You have earned these stripes. You have earned your war wounds.

Speaker 2 (01:46:21):
Listen, you have earned it. Just relax and let it go.

Speaker 3 (01:46:25):
You have earned it. That's like the weekend, say you
have earned it. So don't before choosing to go out
and get these dangerous procedures done and do all of
this stuff. To yourself, ask yourself, why am I doing

(01:46:46):
this because I don't like how I look? Or am
I doing this because of what is popular now? And
make sure that money worth your health and make sure
if you are getting these which I don't even I
don't even you know, support these the surgeries and stuff
like that, because they're dangerous and they're unnecessary. It's just like,

(01:47:07):
why do everybody want to be shaped the same you
wanna look?

Speaker 2 (01:47:11):
You know? And here's the thing, you're not gonna catch
a man you steal single.

Speaker 3 (01:47:16):
It's like they going risking their lives just to come back,
just to get on social.

Speaker 2 (01:47:20):
Media, just to still be single. Listen.

Speaker 3 (01:47:22):
You could have kept them dragon saggy titties and been single,
happy and single.

Speaker 2 (01:47:29):
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