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Speaker 3 (01:26):
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Speaker 2 (01:27):
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Speaker 3 (01:37):
Thank you for tuning in. Guys.

Speaker 2 (01:39):
Listen, we have an amazing show line tonight, and listen,
we're gonna go ahead and get it started. Listen with
our first hot topic. Now, you know, listen, you all
I need to know. Honestly, I thought about this long
and hard, and I said, you know what, listen, the
foolishness be real, and that's just what it is. So
what do you got?

Speaker 3 (02:00):
I think? Listen? Chris Brown. Listen. He has been on tour.
He was just here in Chicago. He's just touring all over.

Speaker 2 (02:07):
So you know, after Chris Brown's tours, he has meet
and greets with his fans and he takes pictures. So
the one lady she took a picture with him, and
she went viral because the picture that she took, she
ended up her boyfriend ended up dumping her as a
result of seeing the picture that she took with Chris Brown.

Speaker 3 (02:30):
Now this kind of sound, this is kind of sounding.

Speaker 2 (02:33):
Usherish from last year when Usher was going around, you know,
getting with all, you know, grinding and doing whatever.

Speaker 3 (02:40):
He's sexually serenading the women.

Speaker 2 (02:42):
But I think at least most of those were celebrities
that he was doing that to but listen, Chris Brown
is getting down in the trenches. He is getting with
his fans meet and greet. They're paying up one thousand
dollars an up for these meet and greece. So my
question is this, When you're paying a dollars for a
meet and greet, I mean, and this is your one

(03:05):
shot to meet this celebrity, are you gonna do something,
especially if you're married or in a relationship, are you
gonna do anything that will possibly jeopardize your marriage or
your you know, your relationship for a picture.

Speaker 3 (03:24):
Is I mean, isn't that deep? I mean, I understand
being a fan and fans fan out.

Speaker 2 (03:29):
But to me, this was when I'm seeing the pictures,
I'm just like, well this is a little more than
fanning now and my thing is this, Listen.

Speaker 3 (03:38):
If you're willing to throw.

Speaker 2 (03:40):
Away and tear up your whole household, then by all
means rock out, tear up your household, do whatever it
is that you do.

Speaker 3 (03:48):
Make it happen.

Speaker 4 (03:49):
Bood do you?

Speaker 2 (03:50):
But for me, if I pay one thousand dollars for
a meet and greet, now listen, depending on who the
celebrity is and depending on my relationship status, will determine
the way I'm gonna act back there at the meet
and greet, And I'm not gonna I'm just gonna be
honest with you.

Speaker 3 (04:07):
I'm depending on my relationship status.

Speaker 2 (04:10):
If I'm married, then the meet and greet, I'm gonna
conduct myself as married. If I'm in a relationship, depending
on listen, are we you know, are we headed somewhere
or you know, we you know, we just we just together,
you know, we just seeing, you know, we're just seeing
what things are gonna go then, you know, listen, depending

(04:30):
on if the you know, the moon has eclipsed or not,
will determine if I'm going to have my best behavior.
But being in that single situation going in there, I'm
knowing that at any time, listen, if things go left,
it could cost me. So maybe these women were like,

(04:52):
you know what, listen, it's not every day that you
get to meet Chris Brown. So I'm going to do whatever.
And should they be given a pass? Should listen? Should
your mate, your spousal significant other? Should they be given
a pass? If they are dealing? You meet a celebrity
and you get to see them backstage in their you know,

(05:15):
private close meet and greet. Should they be give given
a pass to fan out and to you know, to
just pass out and just do whatever it is that
they desired that they would do, because you know that
they're gonna never they'll never see this person again, chances are,
but the way social media is, and listen, the way

(05:38):
some of these people be out there, just listen getting
all to it. Listen, you do something freaky enough, you know,
somebody gonna keep in contact with you.

Speaker 3 (05:46):
And I'm just gonna be honest with you.

Speaker 2 (05:48):
You do something freaky enough, so we can't really say
that you'll never see them again. But let's just pretend like,
you know, you may never see that celebrity again.

Speaker 3 (05:58):
Is it okay?

Speaker 2 (05:59):
Should people be given a pass? Should this woman have
been given a pass by her dude to say, you
know what, Listen, this is Chris Brown. She paid all
this money for the meet and greed. You know, she
deserves the opportunity to you know, fan out and to
just be there and have a good time like she

(06:19):
She deserves to do this. So I'm not going to
ruin it or anything like that for her. I want
her to have a great time, you know, I want
her to do that. So you know what, she gets
a pass on this because when I go and do
mine and I go out and go where I'm going,
I'm gonna need her to have the same energy and
have the same understanding that I have here. I'm gonna

(06:42):
need her to give me the same grace that I'm
extending to her. But again, if you're married again, if
you and your partner, like, listen, some guys who's back,
then he needs to be Jennet Jackson.

Speaker 3 (06:55):
But now let's say you meet, they meet. Who's who
do you all consider sexy these days?

Speaker 2 (07:01):
I don't know, like the thirty thirty plus plus plus men,
who do you all consider you know, the chick that
is sexy? Because it's so much like I don't know,
it's it's a lot of women out here.

Speaker 3 (07:15):
It's a lot of women entertainers.

Speaker 2 (07:17):
But I'm really not sure who's considered hot today and
who's not. But whoever the hot, whoever the it chick
is today, Ladies, would you give your dude, husband or
boyfriend a past to you know, have you know, enjoy themselves,
do whatever they want to do, behave however they want

(07:38):
to behave at this meet and greet. If they got
a chance to meet the celebrity the woman's their woman's
celebrity crush, because.

Speaker 3 (07:46):
Nine times out of ten these are crushes.

Speaker 2 (07:48):
If these people are paying a thousand bucks to get backstage,
I'm gonna say that it's a crush.

Speaker 3 (07:54):
Somebody's crushing on somebody and that's.

Speaker 2 (07:57):
Just how it is, and so that's why the acting
that way. But should you get a pass? Should you
get a pass and say you know what? Look, okay,
you did it? Now when I do it, all I'm
saying is I don't won't know. I don't want to
hear nothing. I don't want to hear anything, just like
I have to sit back and watch the pictures come

(08:20):
on social media when I go and have my moment,
I'm gonna need you to have the same understanding. But
when you're married again, if you have that type of
relationship and you have already discussed that, like look and
yo guy or you know he knows, Like, man, I
know this chick is crazy about some Chris Brown. I mean, listen,

(08:43):
she every time his song come on, every time wherever
he is, She's trying to be so I understand how
she feels about Chris Brown. And I know that again,
that she's not going to see him again. So if
she got up on him, got a little close to
him or whatever, you know, I'm not gonna feel any
type of way, or are you gonna feel some type

(09:04):
of way, because at the end of the day, this
is still your wife and she's you know, she didn't
you know, do anything sexual with them, but the pictures
were definitely raunchy. They were definitely a little bit too
close for comfort. But you say, you know what, I'm
gonna give her a pass on that. You know, I'm
gonna let her go because again, I understand that she

(09:26):
love her some Chris Brown, and that's just how it is.
So I'm just gonna, you know, I'm going to let
it go. Is that the type of attitude that we
should take about this? Is this the type of attitude
that this young lady is to let her? Dude take
this attitude because it was a couple of men that
were definitely not feeling the love that they women gave.

Speaker 3 (09:47):
To Chris Brown on his tour.

Speaker 2 (09:49):
So again, I think that it's a conversation that probably
should be had before going you know, before going there.
And listen, ladies, if you know that show dude is
not the one to be playing these type of games
with unless you're prepared to be single, unless you're prepared

(10:10):
for this to be the end. And I know you
may be saying, oh, it is not that deep, so
why do we have to break up?

Speaker 3 (10:16):
Listen?

Speaker 2 (10:16):
You chose him, not me, and you chose to go
and act the way you act at that concert, knowing
good and well that he wasn't gonna fly for that.
So really, you are the only one to blame for
the way that you carry You carried on at the event.

Speaker 3 (10:33):
We didn't carry on like that. You carried on like
that at the Chris Brown concert.

Speaker 2 (10:39):
Now you single, and now Chris Brown he moved on
and he's somewhere else groping and taking pictures like that
with whomever else.

Speaker 3 (10:47):
Listen, one lady, they said, listen.

Speaker 2 (10:50):
Her meet and greet was so good she went back
and she paid another thousand dollars to get back there
again to have another few moments with him. So I'm
just like, listen, ma'am, you twenty five hundred dollars. I
just hope if you got kids that's in college or
their only way to college, I sure hope that you remember,
you know how freely. You gave up whatever it is

(11:10):
that you needed to give up to get back there
and meet and greet with Chris Brown.

Speaker 3 (11:14):
I hope that you have that same energy.

Speaker 2 (11:16):
But my thing is this, in everything, I mean, we
gotta have some we gotta have some order, We gotta
have some order.

Speaker 3 (11:24):
So it's just like, if.

Speaker 2 (11:26):
This is the way you're doing things, like again, make
sure your dude is on one accord with that, Like
you got somebody that's okay with you, you know, jumping
down like that and being so freely like that, Hey,
pretty Tasha, how you doing?

Speaker 3 (11:41):
So that's that.

Speaker 2 (11:42):
So if you're going out to these Chris Brown concerts
and you are going back there for the meet and greet, please,
I don't know, governing your like they say they say
in the church, governing yourselves accordingly.

Speaker 3 (11:55):
You gotta govern.

Speaker 2 (11:56):
Yourselves accordingly, because if you don't, you gonna be back
out here singleing, single and trying to mingle all over again.
And I can tell you this, honey, you do not
want to be out here in these single streets because
you know why, the single streets have fecal matter in it.
I don't care what people like to say, Oh it

(12:17):
depends on what income bracket you date. You dating in,
know it, don't It is fecal matter in all all
income brackets. Because you got butthos, douchebags, liars, cheaters, narcissists,
you got all these crazy folks. They come in all brackets.
They come in all income brackets, all social classes. So

(12:40):
therefore we can't just say, oh, it's just it's just
only only poor people or people in poverty.

Speaker 3 (12:47):
They're the only ones that got fecal matter in that
day in pool. Nor it ain't.

Speaker 2 (12:50):
Look at all the stuff that's going on in Hollywood,
all that money floating around and trickling through there, and
do you see all that fecal matter in those Hollywood
streets that I should let you know that it's fecal
matter in all of these streets.

Speaker 3 (13:03):
Hey man. So listen, guys, our next high topic.

Speaker 2 (13:06):
Now this is a question. I'm just puzzled by this question.
But let me see what you guys think about this.

Speaker 3 (13:13):
So listen. You go on a date.

Speaker 2 (13:17):
It was the best date of your life, Like you
guys really had.

Speaker 3 (13:22):
An amazing time.

Speaker 2 (13:25):
You guys. Listen, y'all did the horizontal mambo.

Speaker 3 (13:28):
Baby.

Speaker 2 (13:28):
Let me tell you something they had Joe told spinning,
they had you about to swing off the chandeliers.

Speaker 3 (13:35):
That thing was so good.

Speaker 2 (13:37):
And so then they leave and the next day you
don't hear from them. Months go by and you don't
hear from them, and you like, okay, man, you know
we were vibing, like man, the chemistry, the attraction was
so strong, like, oh my god, like I've never felt
like that about anyone before.

Speaker 3 (14:00):
Are like, ma'am, what is up with this?

Speaker 2 (14:02):
Like I really really really want to know, like what
what's going on? Like man, So you're again, months go by,
haven't heard from them, So you decide to become inspect
the gadget. You're like, you know what, let me see
what's going on. So you google them and you find
out they have been arrested. Baby, they are sitting in jail.

(14:26):
They left you in a situation occurred, and now they
are behind bars.

Speaker 3 (14:33):
How would you handle that? What what's your next move?

Speaker 2 (14:36):
You found out, listen, it's a serious crime that they
have committed and they're in jail.

Speaker 3 (14:44):
They're accused.

Speaker 2 (14:44):
They're sitting in jail. It's a serious crime. We don't
know what it is. A serious it's serious, Okay, it's
serious and they're in jail. What is your next move?
Do you say, whoa, thank god I dodge that bullet,
or do you try to get it in contact with
them to see what is going on? Do you get
in contact with them and try to figure out, like, man,

(15:07):
you know what happened? Like how I mean, how did
this happen? How did you end up in this situation?
Like what's going on? Would you do that? Or would
you say, you know what, ain't my business? Ain't my business?
We did, We were not in a relationship, we were
not together. We had a good time, we had a
good moment. I thought that it could have led to

(15:29):
something else, But you got bigger fish to fry right
now you are locked up and it was just one date.
So do you reach out to them? What is your
next What is your next move? In a situation like that? Again,
the chemistry was on and popping. Chemistry was second to none.

(15:52):
You've never had a date like that. They showed you,
they winded, dined you. You guys had an amazing time.
You dubbed it as one of the best dates ever,
one of the best nights ever for you. And again
you find out they didn't contact you the next day.

Speaker 3 (16:13):
So months go by and you you don't hear from
them again.

Speaker 2 (16:18):
So you decide to become inspector gadget and now you're
looking up, you're in, you're in on your googling and
looking at them up like, look, let me figure out
what's going on. And you find out that they are
in jail on a seat. They've been locked up. It's
a serious offense. What is your next move? Do you say?

Speaker 3 (16:40):
Again, not my fight, not my man. I'm a man.
My business that ain't got nothing to do with me.

Speaker 2 (16:47):
That has app Listen, that's that's his problem, that's her problem,
whatever it is, it has absolutely nothing to do with me.

Speaker 3 (16:55):
Or would you.

Speaker 2 (16:56):
Reach out and try to figure out what's going going
on for me? I would say, you know, it was
one date. It was a great night.

Speaker 3 (17:09):
Listen.

Speaker 2 (17:09):
If you want to call me and talk to me
and give me your answer, you can call seven O
eight two two three eight nine five three Again. That
number is seven O eight two two three eight nine
five three. What is your next move? Are you gonna
try to figure out what happened? They're in jail. You
had the best date ever? Are you trying?

Speaker 3 (17:30):
Are you gonna figure out.

Speaker 2 (17:32):
James is saying, if you do the crime, you will
do the time, and I get that, But the question
is this, James, so you guys had the best date ever?

Speaker 3 (17:44):
What is your next move?

Speaker 2 (17:45):
Would you reach out and try to figure out would
you reach out to them in jail and try to
figure out what's happening and what's going on with them
or what you be like? You know what, Listen, you're
in jail. There is nothing that I can do for you.
There's nothing like, there's nothing. I mean, we had a
good night. It wasn't meant to be. If it's meant

(18:06):
to be, and it will be, but clearly it was
not meant to be, which is kind of how I
would look at it, is like, clearly this was not
meant to be. Clearly our dodge the bullet literally, you know,
because here you are, you're in jail now Again, if
it turns out to be like something they got into
it with somebody and it was self defense, you know, Okay,

(18:30):
that's understandable. But if you're in jail and we had
one date, is that enough of me to really sit
there and try to ride something out with you? I
don't one date. I don't care if it was the
best date ever. That's where our story ended, because you're
in jail. You're in jail, so maybe I mean, if

(18:53):
you get out in some time and I'm still out
here treading around the knees, you know, fecal matterfield streets,
and if I'm out, you know, if I'm still available,
you know, and you decide, listen, maybe we can talk
about what happened with you, with your situation, and we
can kind of see if there could be a part

(19:14):
two or a date two. But I don't know because
it's so much that will change, Like you will have
changed as a person because of what you've experienced by
being in jail, So you would have changed. So it's
so much stuff that would have changed. So it's like,
do you really do you really want to do that again?

Speaker 3 (19:36):
I would just say, you know what I cannot and
I will not cry.

Speaker 2 (19:41):
Over spilled milk, And this is basically where we end,
and you know we would. I would just leave it alone,
like that there would be anything, There would be anything else.
Now for me personally, I don't think I would have
even found out that they were in jail, because I
would have shock as I was ghosted, because that's what

(20:03):
people are doing these days.

Speaker 3 (20:04):
And I would have left it alone.

Speaker 2 (20:05):
So if I didn't hear from you the next day
and a week goes by, I've been ghosted. It's time
to move on, you know. I guess it wasn't meant
to be. So that's where the story would have ended
for me.

Speaker 3 (20:19):
It would have ended way.

Speaker 2 (20:20):
Before, a couple of months, a few months finding out,
you know, that they're in jail.

Speaker 3 (20:25):
The story would have ended for me the following week.

Speaker 2 (20:28):
Now, some people I know, they would have been like, listen,
the story would have ended the next day. If they
didn't call me and I called them and they didn't
call me back, you know, they didn't reach they didn't
reach back out, then that would have been it. That
would have been it. But something would it. And here's
the thing, with them going to jail, there would have
to been a tell tale sign. So there was no

(20:49):
way that for me that this could go longer than
a week, because if they're in jail now, they phone
gonna eventually get cut off. You gonna call, So for me,
I be like, dang, something must have happened or they
changed their number whatever. Knowing me, I'm just kind of
skeptical out the opted for Yeah, they don't change their number.

Speaker 3 (21:08):
They don't want to be bothered, and it's all good.
It's all good.

Speaker 2 (21:12):
I will remember that that bomb date for what it was.
But you know, I gotta get back out there, you know,
and tread through these streets yet again, tread through this trash's.

Speaker 3 (21:23):
Out here that you gotta, you know, you gotta, you.

Speaker 2 (21:26):
Know, navigate your way through these uh fecal matterfield streets.
That's called dating. But I wouldn't. I'm not going to
I'm not gonna wait. I'm not gonna judge you. But
I'm also not going to wait around. What am I
waiting for? We didn't have anything. We had a good time,

(21:46):
we had a great date, but we were not around
each other long enough for anything to be established, anything
of substance to be established. So therefore, you know, I
would not. There's nothing there. There's nothing in there for me.
So if there's nothing there, we didn't have anything. So
I'm not going to go and put all my eggs

(22:08):
in a basket and then start making up this.

Speaker 3 (22:11):
Fairy tale relationship.

Speaker 2 (22:13):
When the circumstances have changed, the playing field has changed,
You're in jail. It's some other stuff going on. You're
gonna have a whole bunch of stuff going on right now.
I don't know you like that to sign up for
that journey. I wish you well if you want to
keep in contact and be pin pals, I could possibly
be a pin pal. But that's about it. I can't

(22:36):
put nothing on your books. I can't come and see you.
I can't do any of that.

Speaker 3 (22:40):
I'm not.

Speaker 2 (22:41):
I can't do anything. I can't collect no you know,
except no phone calls. Collect phone calls, because what that's
gonna do is that's gonna send you mixed messages. That's
gonna let you think that you know, you got some
hope over here and really again, depending on what you're
in there for and how long. I mean, I'm not gonna.

Speaker 3 (23:01):
Sell myself that type of dream. I'm just not. I
I am not.

Speaker 2 (23:05):
James is saying, if they feel they strong, I'm sorry
you said. If they feel that's strong, then right and
find out the.

Speaker 3 (23:14):
Situation with a professional liar.

Speaker 2 (23:18):
I don't know what the last pro being, but okay,
pretty Tasha's saying, preach sister Jay exactly. They got me
twisted to think I'm finna wait on them all because
we went on one day.

Speaker 3 (23:29):
It don't work like that.

Speaker 2 (23:30):
Absolutely like one day again, even though it was we're
saying that, you know what, this was the best one date,
the best first date ever, you know again, it's still
it was not that good enough for me to sit
up there and say, you know what, I'm going to
sign up for this.

Speaker 3 (23:49):
I'm I'm not I mean, I'm not curious, George. Listen,
I ain't curious, George.

Speaker 2 (23:54):
I can wait and see whatever happens again if you
get out and you haven't, you know, it's depends, but
for me to go through that journey with you, I'm
not gonna sign I'm not gonna sign up for that,
pretty Tasha saying furthermore, if he in prison, good luck
on him. I ain't got nothing to do with that.
Absolutely absolutely, I have nothing to do with that. And

(24:16):
you just got them listen, it is what it is.
That's just that's that's how I feel about the situation.
Is just like I am not going to sit up
there again and waste again.

Speaker 3 (24:28):
What if you saying, you sit up here, you're doing
all of this and.

Speaker 2 (24:31):
You got googly eye and all of this other stuff,
and here you are you googly eye, you're looking crazy
and you're like, oh, they get out and now it
don't work out with y'ad. You'd be like, oh my god,
I wasted all of this dog gone time. I could
have just went on and did what I needed to

(24:54):
do and got back at stayed out there in the
dating field. But no, no, you want to sit up there.
You wanna be all good, and you wanna be all
I'm gonna be all advanced in and answering.

Speaker 3 (25:04):
Nope, nope, nope, nope, nope, no, no, nope. So I'm
not gonna do it again to each his own.

Speaker 2 (25:12):
To people that if you feel like that's the best,
you know, that's that's the route for you, then I
would definitely say take that, like.

Speaker 3 (25:18):
Do what you have to do, do what works for you.

Speaker 2 (25:22):
But I'm not going to sell myself that type of
dream and sit up there and just you know, disappoint
have myself set up for these type of disappointments.

Speaker 3 (25:34):
It's just not it's a it's a no for me.

Speaker 2 (25:36):
So but again, I wouldn't say, oh, were you guilty
and you deserve to write And I wouldn't sit and
pass judgment on your situation because I don't know how
you ended up in there. All I know is that
you're in there, and you're in there. That's just that
you're in there.

Speaker 3 (25:53):
And I'm not going to interrupt you being in there.
I just won't do that.

Speaker 2 (25:59):
And I'm not gonna with myself or my life on
holder on pause.

Speaker 3 (26:03):
If you get out again, like I said, if you
get out.

Speaker 2 (26:06):
And we're able to see something which I don't know,
like I say, being in jail, depending on what that
situation was, The dynamics of what made you look good,
what made you appealing, what made you desirable, could possibly
change depending upon the situation. So I would just say

(26:27):
navigate and proceed with caution. Proceed in those type of
situations with caution. Now, speaking of proceeding with caution, ladies,
a man he invites you out to dinner. You show
up unexpectedly with one or two of your friends. Do

(26:50):
you expect him to pay for them as well? So
you going out on the first date, you meet this guy,
you know, you guys are vibing and everything. You out
and you bring one or two of your friends. Do
you expect this man to pay for you and your friends?
Your friends you brought the two friends and now they're

(27:11):
sitting there and everybody like, oh, meals on him? How
does that work?

Speaker 3 (27:17):
Here's see.

Speaker 2 (27:18):
When I saw this, I'm just like, Okay, wait a minute,
y'all missing a whole point of taking the friends. The
friends are supposed to be incognito. The friends are not
invited on the date. He should never know that you
have someone there in the restaurant with you, watching you.

(27:39):
He should never know that if you're doing it right.
So this sounds like a situation in which you know,
she just wanted somebody to you know, y'all going out
and y'all trying to finesse buddy out of a meal.
If that was the goal, then listen, just say it.
Don't listen. Let's not be wasting people time. You brought
these chicks so that y'all can all off a nest

(28:00):
buddy out of a meal. So I would say, no,
he is not responsible for feeding them or giving them.

Speaker 3 (28:06):
Any He's not responsible for that.

Speaker 2 (28:09):
Why would you get they should have ate before they
left home. Why are y'all even why they even at
the table with y'all. I don't understand that. Why are
they at the table they're supposed to be hiding and being,
you know, sitting around watching like you know, listen, how
you gonna do backup? How y'all gonna help him do something?
And he know that y'all there, How y'all gonna help

(28:34):
y'all sitting up.

Speaker 3 (28:35):
There, y'all sipping.

Speaker 2 (28:36):
In in and and and entertaining the devil.

Speaker 3 (28:39):
And you supposed to be watching the devil. So you
sitting up there.

Speaker 2 (28:42):
Laughing, y'all, y'all ain't watching nothing. So now he on
a day with all three of y'all, and he can
Jeffrey Dahmer, all three of y'all, ain't nobody paying no attention.

Speaker 3 (28:54):
Y'all worried about if he should have paid for the meal.

Speaker 2 (28:57):
Wait a minute, y'all worried about the let's you are
worried about the wrong thing in this situation.

Speaker 3 (29:04):
You worried about your meal. I thought y'all was supposed
to be there for safety reasons.

Speaker 2 (29:10):
You're supposed to be there to make sure there's no
flag on the play. You're supposed to be there to
make sure that there is no foolery going on. But
you can't focus on nothing because you're trying to figure
out if this man is gonna pay for your meal.

Speaker 3 (29:26):
We have got to do.

Speaker 2 (29:27):
Better, amen, please, we have definitely we have got to
do better.

Speaker 3 (29:33):
We've got to do better. Because here's the thing.

Speaker 2 (29:36):
If I'm going out with someone and I'm asking, you know,
my friends to.

Speaker 3 (29:41):
Come, you better believe he will.

Speaker 2 (29:44):
Never know that I had my friends there. He would
never know that. You know why, because your job is
to watch. Your job is not to come there to
get a meal and figure out what's going Your job.
Your job is to sit and watch and make sure

(30:05):
I'm safe and make sure that Famo don't get beside himself.

Speaker 3 (30:10):
But if y'all sitting up here and y'all eating, and
we eating, and we just who watching. So now he
got his friends.

Speaker 2 (30:19):
If you see, you're supposed to be staked out at
another table. So y'all don't even notice that he got
four dudes coming in and they sitting around now and
they watch it.

Speaker 3 (30:30):
You don't know they watch it because all of.

Speaker 2 (30:31):
Y'all sitting up there eating and drinking, is just ordering
all this stuff.

Speaker 3 (30:35):
And y'all just worried about if he gonna pay.

Speaker 2 (30:38):
Yeah, he gonna yeah, he's gonna get paid, all right,
He's gonna get paid, and not in the way that
y'all thinking.

Speaker 3 (30:46):
So when you are going out on the date, ladies.

Speaker 2 (30:51):
And your friends are going friends, your job is to watch.
Your job is not to be a part of the date.
That's just like taking your kids on the If you
got them sitting up at the table with you, that's
like taking your kids. They that's taking your kids with
you and you sitting them at the table.

Speaker 3 (31:09):
That's the same. You mess well have brought the kids.

Speaker 2 (31:12):
If you was gonna have your girlfriends sitting at the
table with y'all, you should have just brought your kids.
Why you just didna bring the kids? So at least
the meals would have been cheaper. Because the purpose of
doing this is again for protection. So if she don't
feel comforted, like, listen, I met him on you know,
the dating side or whatever, you know, So I just

(31:33):
want to make sure everything is on the up and up.
So we're gonna be at this restaurant or we're gonna
be wherever, you know. So I want y'all to come
and look out for me, because I know if I
go and I do this for one of my friends,
ain't nobody gonna know I'm there. Listen, I'm hide the
gym shoes on, I'm high something else, and listen, if
we gotta get down, we gotta get down. Hopefully it

(31:53):
don't come to that, because you know, again, listen, my
days are being you know fully one hundred percent of
I sit in the west side.

Speaker 3 (32:01):
Listen, my knees don't work the way they used to.
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (32:05):
My shoulder, one of my shoulders went out, so I'm
waiting for that to come back on eBay. I put
an order in like a year ago. Still haven't got
that shoulder. Like something is wrong with my rotator cuff.
So I'm really not the person that you really want
to be out here trying to get in all these
scuffles and stuff with I'm I'm really not because like
my good hand, I can definitely call the cops.

Speaker 3 (32:28):
I can. I can definitely do that. I can definitely
probably get the top off the mace.

Speaker 2 (32:32):
I can do that. But as far as getting physically
involved in it, like I just don't heal the way
I used to, So like I can't be, you know,
out here having all these physical altercations and things of
this nature because you know, I just don't. I don't
have time for it, like I don't. I don't heal
the way that I used to. Like I got burned

(32:53):
a few weeks ago and I still got this bruise
on my arm. So that's just I'm just letting you
know that at this point in my life, I believe
easily and I don't. Yeah, I don't heal as quickly
as I used to. So, as I said, my favorite
slogan is, you gotta count me out. You got to
count me out, You got to count me out. You

(33:14):
don't have to count me out of that foolishness. Hey man,
you're gonna have to count me out. I'm not gonna
be able to listen. So you might wanna find another
friend that's gonna be about that life and take them.
I'm just saying I'm probably more of the conversational list friend.
I'm not really sure if I'm the friend that would
be getting into all these tussles in this day. Hey, Gretchen,

(33:37):
how you doing? Gretchen is shacking in from Florida. How
you doing, Gretchen. So, but again, ladies, the purpose of
going on the date is not to be seen. It's
not to be over there trying to get you know,
trying to get a meal or something like that.

Speaker 3 (33:51):
That's not the purpose of you going. The purpose of
you going.

Speaker 2 (33:54):
Is to have your girls back and to sit there,
you know, sit in the background and figure out what's
going on.

Speaker 3 (34:01):
That's that's your goal.

Speaker 2 (34:03):
Your goal is not to get there and get a
meal and all of this other stuff. If you want
a meal, then you and your friends should you on
the friend other friends should order and do all of
that before you know beforehand. But again, if this is
done right, the man will never know that your friends
are there. He should never know that they're there, because again,

(34:25):
they're not there to actually join the date. They're there
to be protection and to just make sure that nothing
happens to you on that date. Now listen, speaking of
something happening on dates. Now, look, guys, what are your
thoughts on this? So this man, listen, this brother, he

(34:47):
goes on a solo vacation without his girlfriend after she
could not pay for her part of the trip. Is
he wrong for going on this vacation solo because she
couldn't pay for her Listen, she could not afford to

(35:07):
pay for her part of the trip.

Speaker 3 (35:09):
So he was like, listen, I'm sorry to.

Speaker 2 (35:12):
Hear that, stupid ish, I'll see you when I get back,
because I'm still going just because you can't go. I'm
still going on the trip and I'm gonna have fun.
I'll bring you back some souvenirs. But baby, I'm going. Okay,
I am going. Yes, Cleo, they gonna have to count

(35:34):
me out this one right here, They're gonna have to
count me out.

Speaker 3 (35:36):
But is this man wrong for going on his date solo? Listen?

Speaker 2 (35:42):
His girl is like, I can't afford it. I don't
have my part. He's like, okay, that's fine. I will
see you when I get back. I'll bring you some
souvenirs and that will be that is this man?

Speaker 3 (35:59):
Is he wrong for this, pretty Tasha?

Speaker 2 (36:01):
You're saying he still could have paid, been a gentleman
and paid Let's hold on, I'm sorry he's going so fast.
He still could have been a gentleman and paid her way. Sorry,
some sum you're sorry. That's that's that's that's a pretty
touch thing. This sorry, such and such, that's what pretty
Sasha said.

Speaker 3 (36:21):
I'm just gonna put it in air quotations.

Speaker 2 (36:23):
Your sorriest Saka, your mama should have kept her legs closed.
You know she should have popped up birth control pill.
That's a pretty SOSU. I know, I'm gonna say it
for you, pretty touch because that's where I felt like
you was coming from that place. So I got you.
I got you, pretty toach. Don't worry about it, Cedric,
you're saying he did wrong. In my book, he should

(36:44):
have paid, he should have paid. So you saying that
he should have paid? What else you guys saying? So
I'm listen, Okay, look, okay, let me just be honest.
I'm gonna straddle the fence.

Speaker 3 (36:55):
Okay. It depends on where he went. Okay, he it
depends on where he went.

Speaker 2 (37:05):
Maybe he couldn't afford for both of them. Maybe he couldn't
afford to pay for both of them to go to
wherever they were going to, especially if let's say, if
it was one of these fancy resort destinations man.

Speaker 3 (37:20):
That costs like five thousand dollars, you know, to go.

Speaker 2 (37:24):
Should he not go and experience that because she couldn't
afford it?

Speaker 3 (37:31):
Should he not go? Like I would? I don't know.

Speaker 2 (37:35):
I would have to really numb yet our rey kia
on that because I'm just like, okay, So cause you
can't afford it right now for whatever reason. I don't
really take vacations a lot, so it's my vacation time
and I want to go and I want to have
a good time. So now I'm supposed to not go
to a vacation on vacation and vacation how I want

(37:58):
to because you can't afford it. Now, how fair is
that to me? How fair is that to him? He's like, listen,
we had a plan. We knew we were gonna go
on this trip, and the game plan was to save
and do this, this, this and this, and we have
to stack and you know, do everything accordingly. So I

(38:20):
kept up with my end of the bargain, but you did.
And I understand that things come up, but I'm still
gonna go. Cedric, you're saying he wanted to do the
solo thing. He never should have told her at all.
That's a good point, pretty Tasha.

Speaker 3 (38:35):
That is true.

Speaker 2 (38:36):
If he can't afford it, then he shouldn't expect the date.
Wait wait, wait, so if he came the trip is
five let's say the trip was five thousand dollars, Pretty Tasha,
should he still not go because it was five thousand
and he couldn't you know, he couldn't afford it, he
should just go by Okay, you're saying he should just
go by himself, and Cedric, you're saying, just go and

(38:58):
do your thing. So loo absolutely now I would be
like that too, like don't get my hopes all up
high and then you go by yourself. But my thing
is I'm a planner. So if he were to tell me, like, listen,
I wanna do this by this amount of time, I'm
gonna be looking and I'm like, okay, you know, man,

(39:19):
I don't know if I'm gonna be able to manage
it around this time. I don't think I'm gonna be
able to do that. So if he was to tell me, then,
you know, listen, I really been looking forward to going here.
I still I still think I'm gonna go. I'm not
gonna be mad at that, Like I am not going
to be mad because my finances did not allow for

(39:40):
me to go it just I wouldn't.

Speaker 3 (39:44):
I wouldn't be I wouldn't be mad. I wouldn't be
mad at that.

Speaker 2 (39:47):
If you know, if he decided to just steal up
and go like okay, I'm not again, it's not his responsibility,
you know it would it be nice? Of course, who
doesn't want to be treated to a nice vacation?

Speaker 3 (40:04):
Who wouldn't.

Speaker 2 (40:05):
But again, if he were to say, you know, listen,
I can't swing that like I can't swing that amount
for both of us, then I can understand that. Now
what I would like, Now, what I would have what
would have had me feeling a little bit kind of
in my feelings. Now this is the part. If I
chose to like look at it like this, then I

(40:27):
would be in my feelings and I would be like, Okay, well,
you know what. I'm not expecting you to pay for
me to go. But if you wanted to go with
me on vacation, if you wanted us to do something,
and you found out that I couldn't afford my part
of it, then let's plan a trip that I can

(40:48):
go on, that I can afford, that I would be
able to do what I need to do, and then
you go on your trip at a later time, Like
if you really that's how I feel. If he really
wanted to do that, if you really wanted us to
go as a couple, and you wanted us to be,
you know, spend some time like this on vacation, and

(41:09):
again she couldn't afford that particular trip, then why not
make another suggestion? This is where compromise comes in at
and a lot of times I think that in relationships
today we forget about that word. It's all enoughing. Oh well,
it's this is the trip that I picked. Okay, so

(41:30):
is that it. I can't afford it, So that's it.
You just gonna go without me. I'm like, okay, well,
you don't have nothing, you know, no choice but to
accept that. But I feel some type of way. Yes,
I would not because he didn't pay for me. That
would not be why I would feel some type of way.
I would feel some type of way. It's because when

(41:51):
you found out I couldn't afford it, you didn't make
another suggestion, or if I made another suggestion, you kicked
my suggestion. And you were just adamant about going to
this place alone. Now, because once you found out I
couldn't afford it, you were not open.

Speaker 3 (42:08):
To anything else.

Speaker 2 (42:10):
That's the part that I would be kind of in
my feelings about is because again you were not open
to doing anything else so that we can do something together.
You were just you know, adamant about doing it your
way and doing what it is that you wanted to do,
which that would be fine, but again that would be
that would be something like in the back of my mind,

(42:32):
like you know, a red flag for me. That would
be you know, like, okay, well, you not really flexible
on things like once you see something you like, Okay.

Speaker 3 (42:41):
Listen, I'm gonna do it this way. Da da da da.

Speaker 2 (42:43):
I'm not saying don't go on your trip, not saying
it at all. I'm not saying pay for me. What
I'm saying is if you wanted to really do something
with us, if you wanted us to really do something together,
and you know that the destination that you chose was
out of my price range, and I could ford to
do it right now, either, can we you know, pick

(43:04):
another date, Can we pick another destination, can we pick something?
So it's a whole lot of other options that could
have been you know, mentioned prior to him just jumping
up and going solo dolo. So I don't think that
he really wanted to do anything with her. Sedjric, you're

(43:24):
saying if the shoe was on the other foot, that
Ninja would have been salty. Absolutely, you're seeing no discussion
or compromise absolutely, And it's like I think that we're
missing that word like we. It's just like again with
a lot of people, it's all or nothing, like we're
either doing it this way or we're not doing it
at all.

Speaker 3 (43:43):
And it's okay, it's okay if people choose to operate
like that.

Speaker 2 (43:47):
But if you're choosing to operate like that, how far
and how.

Speaker 3 (43:52):
Healthy is that relationship really going to be?

Speaker 2 (43:56):
Is that relationship really going does that relationship stand a
chance on growing.

Speaker 3 (44:02):
To be something strong and solid?

Speaker 2 (44:05):
And my answer would be no, because again, if you're
together and we you know, making moves just based upon me,
me me, me, me me, I'm doing what's best for me.
If we're not doing what's best for we, then why are.

Speaker 3 (44:23):
You in a relationship?

Speaker 2 (44:24):
Like I mean, if you're not looking forward to building
something with somebody and that's a part like that's a
little piece of a stepping stone towards you know, something serious,
and that would tell you like.

Speaker 3 (44:35):
That's a huge to me, that's a huge.

Speaker 2 (44:39):
Character situation right there. That's that's a huge that show
to me, how he handled that was a lot that
the way he handled it, it spoke volumes about his character.

Speaker 3 (44:56):
In my opinion, it spoke volumes.

Speaker 2 (44:58):
So if you a type of person that just you know,
you know, oh you focusing on the money again to me,
as I said, it was not the money whatsoever. It
was not because he didn't offer that that that that's
not the issue. The issue is there was no compromise,

(45:19):
There were no other alternatives.

Speaker 3 (45:22):
There was nothing else put on the table. It was
just this.

Speaker 2 (45:26):
And when we said no, then that was that. Okay,
I'm out. I'll see you when I get back. So
that spoke violence people. So it's like when you in
these relationships, just like, look.

Speaker 3 (45:37):
At how people move.

Speaker 2 (45:39):
Let people do what they're gonna do naturally and organically,
let people be who they are. See what happens with
us is a lot of times we try to correct
that action before they even do it. No, sometimes when
you gotta sit back and let people move how they're

(45:59):
gonna move.

Speaker 3 (46:00):
They're either gonna.

Speaker 2 (46:01):
Move themselves closer to you in your life or they're
gonna move their way out of your life. But whatever
it is, you gotta let them do and move how
they're gonna move, so you can know who you're dealing with.
Pretty Tasha, you're saying he should have never said nothing
to her about that trip. Cedric, you're saying, big red flag. Absolutely,
that was a huge red flag. And pretty Tasha, you're

(46:25):
saying exactly, sister, Jay, he ain't ready to date.

Speaker 3 (46:28):
He just I'm sorry, hold on, these come too fast.
He not ready to date. It'll it'll pop up. Hold on.

Speaker 2 (46:33):
But nevertheless, you are right, he he he's not ready
to proceed with anything serious. In my opinion, because again,
the way he just moved like that, that said that
said a lot. You said, he's not He ain't ready
to date. He just need to chill out and get
his priorities together or just continue to be just to

(46:55):
continue to be single, don't be in a relationship, just continue.
He may be a person that would be fun to
just date, like okay, you want to go hang out
like okay, yeah, I can go.

Speaker 3 (47:07):
A little bit of that. He might be that type
of person.

Speaker 2 (47:10):
But this red flag, with the fact that there was
no compromise or no other solution or suggestion than to me,
that says that he's definitely not in that. He's not
in that relationship realm. You know, in my opinion, Cleo,
you're saying it was already planned, so people have to

(47:32):
be responsible on doing their part. It's about it's more
than about it being planned, Cleo, because it wasn't it,
and for this particular scenario, it wasn't planned. So they
were talking about a vacation, so he brought it up,
and this.

Speaker 3 (47:48):
Is where he suggested it. So she couldn't go.

Speaker 2 (47:52):
So the red flag becomes, well, if he's solo, he's
been on and he's determined to just go on this
trip right now by himself. But he did not or
was not open to compromising to another destination where she
would be able to pay her way and they go

(48:12):
and have a vacation together as a couple. He wasn't
willing to do that, or he wasn't willing to postpone
the trip in order for her to be able to
get her stuff together so that they would be able
to go on this trip together. His immediate reaction was
to okay, I'm gone. Okay, well you can't. You don't

(48:33):
have it right now, I'm gone. If he wanted to,
if he really wanted her to go, and if he
was thinking about the relationship, if he was thinking about
the wei opposed to the me, then he would they
would be fine. But he was not thinking about the wei.
He was just thinking about me, and it showed it

(48:54):
in his action. Clear you're saying, oh, okay, I agree,
he should have made some suggestions. So yes, So again,
it's not about you know, not spending the money, it's
the fact that you know nothing else.

Speaker 3 (49:05):
You know, he wasn't open to anything else.

Speaker 2 (49:09):
And Setia get saying he already had it planned before
he told her. I'm with you on that on Setia
because he and it's like, here's the thing, if you're
in a relationship, depending.

Speaker 3 (49:19):
Upon how long they've been in a relationship.

Speaker 2 (49:21):
You already know or got a good ideal on what
your partner's finances are looking like, you know how they
are with money. So it's like a lot of stuff
we already know this, especially if we've been dealing with
people for quite some time, like you already know. So
it is a good chance that he knew. He knew that, Listen,

(49:42):
I'm gonna plan this trip to believe and.

Speaker 3 (49:48):
All this other stuff. And it's like you know that.

Speaker 2 (49:51):
You know it's gonna take her a minute to save
up for that trip, but you already had it in mind,
like you are already know on my pant, and she
gonna be able to go because she you know, she
don't make that type of money. You already know she
ain't got that saved right now, so she ain't gonna
be able to go. But guess what, I'm still going.
He probably thought like that. And again, if he says

(50:12):
that he's not gonna pay, like, I'm not, okay, you
don't have to pay.

Speaker 3 (50:17):
You don't have to pay.

Speaker 2 (50:18):
That's not I'm not gonna jump on you about not
paying because if you chose to, you chose to. If
you choose not to, I mean, that's fine. So the
money in him paying for is neither here nor there.
It was the fact that there was no compromise and that,
like Cedric said, he probably already planned it all along
knowing that she would not be able to go because

(50:41):
he already knew her, you know, her financial circumstances, and
he just wanted to go by himself, which I mean,
if that's the case, I mean, honey, do you go
go by yourself? Come back by yourself and just listen,
live for yourself, be yourself.

Speaker 3 (50:56):
Hey, Maurice, how you doing so?

Speaker 2 (50:58):
Again, it's like we gotta look and you gotta see
how people move.

Speaker 3 (51:03):
And listen, pay attention to how people treat you.

Speaker 2 (51:06):
We gotta stop trying to brush off everything and just
try and make it seem as though you know it's not.

Speaker 3 (51:13):
You know, like the.

Speaker 2 (51:14):
Red flag is not right there before our eyes, because
sometimes you know, when one look overlook things like this,
you know you're overlooking something again, not the money. It
was that way they moved in the situation, and that
told you a lot about who they are and how

(51:35):
they would possibly be.

Speaker 3 (51:36):
So that said a lot.

Speaker 2 (51:38):
Listen, guys, we're gonna take a short musical break, and
when we return, we have more hot topics to get into.

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Fresham and I'm men so deep my fils.

Speaker 6 (52:14):
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Your action showing me don't expect me to be say
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You talk to who.

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While my heart's invite.

Speaker 5 (52:37):
Suo Jo and it's really killing me that with you.

Speaker 6 (52:44):
I gotta share, like what should do to meet?

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Baby? Why can't you be fair? Be holy? We just
as this.

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Speaker 5 (53:00):
Come, let's stop wait, eat just the time?

Speaker 4 (53:06):
You know, and I know it's don't even here right.

Speaker 6 (53:11):
Do you even love me? That's not showing me? Tell
them like what you do to me?

Speaker 3 (53:20):
Baby?

Speaker 4 (53:21):
Why can't you be fair?

Speaker 3 (53:24):
Pe only he just does this.

Speaker 6 (53:28):
Let's just stop liting me just time.

Speaker 5 (53:32):
Let's stop wait, eat just the time. Let's stop wait
eat ju the.

Speaker 3 (53:43):
Time, Erica, you're saying exactly.

Speaker 2 (53:55):
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Speaker 3 (54:48):
Update.

Speaker 2 (54:48):
I still do not have Oh my god, every time
I think about this, I get so angry.

Speaker 3 (54:54):
I still do not have my group back.

Speaker 2 (54:56):
Grown in Sexy Conversations with Jay and the please, oh,
just every cuss word that you can imagine. I just
want to say it right now. I just want to
post all kinds of bad stuff to the people that
I've hacked my group. So and I still don't have
any luck with contact and Facebook about this. So it's
just like, Okay, I'm trying to figure out some other

(55:18):
things to do. But as of right now, these people
are still ruining the group that I spent all these
years buildings since twenty fifteen. They are messing my ish up,
and they are messing with my money. But just a
little Grown in Sexy Conversations with Jay update, I still
don't have it. The hackers are still hacking and doing
whatever it is that they're all over there doing. But

(55:41):
I have not given up hope. So I'm still working
and trying to figure out how to get this thing
done and I don't think I'll ever stop working on that.
So that's just update with that. But thank you growing
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Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, and thank you,
thank you.

Speaker 2 (56:12):
God listen our next hot topic, because let me tell
y'all something.

Speaker 3 (56:17):
The foolery is real.

Speaker 2 (56:19):
When I say, it's so important, that's why we have
to make sure we know who we are marrying.

Speaker 3 (56:26):
But then it's like, you gotta also.

Speaker 2 (56:27):
Make sure what kind of spawns that these people have
given birth to. And then you know, some of them
call them kids, but it depends on how they act,
and then I'll address them how they act.

Speaker 3 (56:38):
But here's the next hot topic. The lady wants to know.

Speaker 2 (56:41):
They want to know, is it wrong to put a
pad lock on a deep freezer? If the husband is
saying this, is it wrong to put a pad lock
on my deep freezer? If my wife's now listen to
I'm all about listening to the terminology. So if my
wife's teenage kids keep eating the one or two food

(57:05):
items I request from the store and my work lunch
is even with my name on it, mind you, we
have an entire fridge or freezer, they will still have
access to twenty four to seven.

Speaker 3 (57:20):
So this man is like, listen.

Speaker 2 (57:24):
My wife got these teenagers, and these bamas are eating
me out of a house and home.

Speaker 3 (57:34):
They eating up everything.

Speaker 2 (57:36):
He's like, listen, I have had to put a padlock
on the freezer. I've tried putting my name on the stuff,
the one or two things that I want. I tried
to put my name on it, but I come to
the refrigerator and it's still has been eaten. So I'm

(57:57):
putting a padlock on the freezer so that I can
keep the items that I want. Am I wrong for that?
What do you all think? Is this god wrong for that?
Cleo is saying, awesome job, Jay, thank you so much.

Speaker 3 (58:10):
Cleo.

Speaker 2 (58:11):
Is the husband wrong for putting a pad lock on
the freezer. He's like, listen, I'm sick of these some
of them up and I know he wanted I know
he was cussing and some cuss words, so y'all can
fill am in. I'm sick of these some sums. I
worked too hard for this food and all I want.
All I wanted.

Speaker 3 (58:32):
Was my pepsi and my chips and my chicken breast.

Speaker 2 (58:37):
That's all I want it. All I wanted was my
frozen pizza. I put my name on there, and I
come home and they are still eating my food. What
am I supposed to do? He put a pad lock?
So is he wrong? Erica is saying, put a refrigerator
in your room. That would solve the problem. That's a

(58:58):
good idea. Erica and Cedric get saying my dad did it,
so I don't see any problems with it.

Speaker 3 (59:06):
And you know what, listen, I'm gonna tell y'all something.

Speaker 2 (59:09):
Listen, my family, I know this situation all too well.
We didn't have a padlock on our refrigerator. But I
have a huge family. It's a lot of us. So
there are people in my family, my siblings, that they
used to go and do this very thing. They used

(59:30):
to eat my stepfather's stuff, drinking stuff up just because
they knew it would aggravate him. And it was always
like World War three, And I was always trying to
figure out.

Speaker 3 (59:42):
I'm like, no, I used to I'm gonna tell y'all
to honest god truth.

Speaker 2 (59:46):
I used to think he was crazy because I'm just like,
ain't nobody eating your food, Ain't nobody touching your stuff?

Speaker 3 (59:53):
Like woo, what ain't nobody doing?

Speaker 2 (59:55):
And to come to find out years later, my sisters,
my crummy sisters, are confessing to the job. You know,
they are confessing to eating his stuff and drinking his stuff.

Speaker 3 (01:00:09):
I'm like, you all suck. We got in so much trouble.

Speaker 2 (01:00:14):
It was always, when I tell you, it was always
some confusion up on that West side. It was always
some confusion, and I never knew what. I always thought
that it was a figment of his imagination because I
wasn't doing it and I never seen anybody else doing it.
But years later we're talking and then they started just confessing. Yeah,

(01:00:38):
you know how he used to always say, yeah, I
used to drink his food. I'm like, oh, my goodness,
do you know how many unnecessary punishments I was on
because nobody fessed off.

Speaker 3 (01:00:50):
So I'm getting on all of these.

Speaker 2 (01:00:51):
Punishments because these my crummy sisters are eating his man
stuff up and drinking his stuff and just torturing him.

Speaker 3 (01:01:03):
And I'm thinking, oh my god, he is losing it.

Speaker 2 (01:01:06):
We have finally drawn drove him to the edge. And
when I tell you, let me tell you. Though he
didn't put no refrigerator, he didn't do no locks and stuff.
But baby, he was when I tell you, king petty,
king patty. But I will say this, I mean he
was not the mean type of you know, he didn't

(01:01:30):
he didn't want to be around the kids, and he
just he just tolerate the kids because he would the mother.

Speaker 3 (01:01:36):
He was not that dude.

Speaker 2 (01:01:38):
We knew that he loved us, and but we wanted
we just wanted to drive him crazy because he was
so easy to aggravate. But he was also good at
getting back at us. So it's like if we would
make his food and stuff disappear, then he would do
patty stuff like this. He would come and like when
we were at school, he would come if he knew,

(01:02:01):
like we had like our favorite whatever it was, that
we would leave and it would be in our room.
You'll come back and it was missing and you'll be
looking all over for it.

Speaker 3 (01:02:13):
He never said anything, never said anything.

Speaker 2 (01:02:17):
You I was looking for my favorite music and my tape,
you know, cassettes and all this and that could never
find anything. I'm like, I know, I left this right here,
so now he was paying us back. So if he
gonna be going crazy and he can't find his stuff,
then we ain't gonna be able to find our stuff.
So they stopped once they stuff because I think one

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time he took one of their shoes, he left the
other one there and it was just one shoe and
for a long time they could not find the other
gym shoe. So he would do stuff like that. So
I'm like, whoo, child, let me tell you something, baby.
The foolishness they used to go on, I would say
to the wife, ma'am, wife, you gotta have a conversation

(01:03:01):
with these teenagers. But it's like with these teenagers, they're appetites.
And then if by these being step kids too, they
the whole mentality here is just a whole different ball game,
a whole different it's just a whole different atmosphere. So
if he has to put the padlock on the freezer

(01:03:24):
to protect the stuff that he wants, then let this
man put the padlock on the refrigerator to protect the
stuff that he wants, because it's not like he's locking
up all of the food and he's locking up the refrigerator.

Speaker 3 (01:03:39):
That's not what he's doing.

Speaker 2 (01:03:41):
He's locking up the deep freezer with the ish that
he got specifically for him.

Speaker 3 (01:03:47):
He's like, you have refrigerator whatever in the refrigerator, that's
a free for all.

Speaker 2 (01:03:51):
But what's in this freezer, it's mine. It's mine and
only mind and bet nobody touching. Man hey man again, guys,
we're gonna take a short musical break and when.

Speaker 3 (01:04:04):
We retire, we are more topics to get into. Stay tuned.
You're listening to the Jase spot.

Speaker 2 (01:04:10):
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Speaker 6 (01:05:19):
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Speaker 6 (01:05:29):
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Not here, not good dumb.

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Speaker 2 (01:06:14):
A welcome back to the J Spot, where we are

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But sit it right next to me. We got esthetician
boom chandler, mother of a group of who.

Speaker 3 (01:07:37):
Dudes, Hey, and a little lady. She ain't back home yet,
but lady loadus.

Speaker 6 (01:07:43):
She not back on, Yeah, she'll be on Friday. I
go pick up Friday. She will off for two weeks, y'all.

Speaker 3 (01:07:49):
So how has it been?

Speaker 6 (01:07:50):
It has been a blessing outside.

Speaker 9 (01:07:51):
I've been packing the whole time, so it really it
really doesn't matter. And her little cat getting crazy and crazier,
so I know, he like, where's she at?

Speaker 3 (01:08:00):
Have you been playing with him and keep them in
the company? Yeah? I have here.

Speaker 9 (01:08:05):
This is his spot right here. He jumped up in
my arms and he just laid across my shoulder.

Speaker 3 (01:08:11):
He really see, I don't see man.

Speaker 2 (01:08:14):
I remember when Amir was little and we tried to
do this cat thing, see my son, and now we
were just too scary, like you all listen, because we
had scared of it's just a cat, right, but they
had a claw. Baby, Well, i'll tell you no lies.
We have pictures of we were picking up the cat
up with the you know, the the the min the

(01:08:36):
oven mits that you put that you put in the
ove that you picked the food out and put the
hot food in. We had the oven mits to pick
the cat up because we don't want the cat clawing it.

Speaker 3 (01:08:45):
Baby, I can't tell you how many times that little
kid failed. I got some war wolves with my little ash.
I got war I can't tell you.

Speaker 2 (01:08:52):
And the name of our cat was Midnight She she,
I can't tell you how many times midnight she she
fell down. Well, it was dropped down because you know,
she do like this, and we're trying to bring it
down the stairs baby, from the second floor to thank god,
it was carpeting in the hallway cause midnight. So let's
just we just had to go get Midnight. She she
to the to the to the adoption people and tell

(01:09:14):
them we wasn't gone. We wasn't because we wasn't. We
wasn't about that life.

Speaker 6 (01:09:18):
So since then, I'm truly a doll person.

Speaker 4 (01:09:21):
But I did care.

Speaker 2 (01:09:22):
I'm not a you know, I've tried to be a
pet person. I really did try, but I don't know.
It's just something about him. Like if if I found
my ideal dog would be stay away from me, and
I'll stay away from you, like I'll take care of you.
If you want to come occasionally and rub up against
my leg, I'm okay with that. I might be okay

(01:09:44):
with you even come and laying in my lap, but
all that come and get me, because then I'd be like,
you know, all that trying to get in your face
and stuff.

Speaker 3 (01:09:52):
I'm not really.

Speaker 9 (01:09:55):
That's your match. That's gonna match your energy, that's gonna
give you what you want.

Speaker 3 (01:09:59):
I feel like that's have a teacup cat, a teacup dog.

Speaker 9 (01:10:03):
Little ain't good. Bider's who they get on my nerves.
They got big, they got a big dog energy.

Speaker 3 (01:10:08):
The little teacup.

Speaker 9 (01:10:09):
Yeah they're so little and plus, don't you don't really
want a teacup because they're hybrids and they get sick
a lot.

Speaker 3 (01:10:14):
Oh see, they're not real. I need a dog that
can even that can take a child, child.

Speaker 6 (01:10:20):
Or you know, like something that's that's chill.

Speaker 9 (01:10:23):
They big and fluffy. They just won't love if you're
scared of them. Animals know that you're scared of.

Speaker 3 (01:10:28):
Them, Well then I guess ain't no, ain't. It ain't
gonna be.

Speaker 6 (01:10:31):
Like okay, it's nuts like this. This cat is not
meant for me. Like he's nuts.

Speaker 3 (01:10:35):
He's just over the tip. He act like a dog.

Speaker 2 (01:10:38):
See I had I had a Chihuahua. Her name was
Princess ghtt tuckle bell Man.

Speaker 3 (01:10:44):
Princess.

Speaker 2 (01:10:45):
Now, Princess was all black and Princess thought that she
was a pitbull and no, Princess thought that she was
a big dog. And I'm just like, I'm saying, what's
with you? I'm just like, yo, I can't even I'm like, man,
she jumped out there. I was trying to take her
to the what was that pet coat? And she jumped

(01:11:05):
out the dog on the buggy and I'm pink. People
up in there looking at me like I did something.
She almost broke her neck jump.

Speaker 3 (01:11:12):
I'm like, so what you what? You what you want
me to do? I tried to catch her. I didn't
know she was gonna squiggle out the dog on thing.
I said, oh, child, let me go, because these people
right here is not gonna.

Speaker 6 (01:11:22):
Be well, you know how they feel about them animals.
Animals are humans.

Speaker 2 (01:11:26):
They would have had me on animal cruelty. But guys, listen,
thank you so much for tuning in. When you get
a chance to plut the white cord in for me,
late lord back because so don't go out.

Speaker 3 (01:11:36):
But guys, listen, thank you so much for tuning in.
Listen our next hot topic. Listen.

Speaker 2 (01:11:43):
I try, I'll try, I really really try. But what
do you all think about this? So the lady says
she told a guy she had just started talking to
that she has h.

Speaker 3 (01:12:01):
And he blocked her.

Speaker 2 (01:12:03):
So now she's feeling some type of way and she
wants was he wrong for blocking her?

Speaker 4 (01:12:12):
Ma'am?

Speaker 3 (01:12:14):
Like, I don't know, I sympathize with your situation.

Speaker 2 (01:12:18):
But if he decides that that's not something for him,
or he's not willing to that's not a situation that
he wishes to entertain, is he wrong for that? How
is he wrong for not wanting to go forward with you?
Because that's something that could be potentially hazardous to him?

(01:12:43):
And do not start talking about oh, well, he's shaming her.

Speaker 3 (01:12:46):
He did not shame her. He said it was not
for me, and he has that right to say it's
not for him. Ma'am.

Speaker 2 (01:12:55):
You cannot get all distraught because of that situation. And
I mean that's something that you have to deal with
and unfortunate.

Speaker 3 (01:13:03):
There would be somebody out there.

Speaker 2 (01:13:05):
I'm not saying that it's nobody out there for you,
because we know that now today with everything, every HIV
is no longer you know, the kiss of death, but
everybody is still not You know, that's a lot, and ma'am,
you have to be honest with yourself and accept and

(01:13:26):
respect a person for coming at you like that, like
maybe he could have told you, but where you gonna
What were you gonna do? What were you gonna do
when he told you like he ain't want to be bothered,
you know, or it's not a good situation for him.
Would you try to lay all that guilt? Maybe that's
why he blocked her, But what do you think about that?

Speaker 3 (01:13:43):
Lady? Love to I don't just.

Speaker 6 (01:13:44):
Feel like he did what he wanted to do. You
can't be mad about that.

Speaker 9 (01:13:48):
People don't people don't look as certain things through the
same eyes that he's not gonna look at you and
be like, oh, did.

Speaker 6 (01:13:55):
You get pricked by a needle in the hospital. The
first person thought.

Speaker 9 (01:13:59):
Is you, oh right, you just out here sleeping with
people right when that may not be the case, but
you know, he did what he had to do.

Speaker 3 (01:14:07):
You can't and she could have been born with it.

Speaker 9 (01:14:10):
Like jay Z said on to the next one, exactly,
he ain't gonna care, not gonna care.

Speaker 2 (01:14:14):
If that, And that is definitely the case. Again, especially
this is not like this is what was thirty years ago.
This is today twenty twenty four. People are living long
and healthy lives. For this, people are you know, not
coming up. You know, they're not showing any signs of
symptoms and things of that nature. But we can't forget

(01:14:36):
that this still is a potentially deadly situation. So again
for him to be thinking about his life and his safety,
is he wrong for that? No, he's not wrong for that.
Like it's again, and be thankful that you you did this,
You discussed this up front. Opposed to you falling in

(01:14:58):
love with him and he falling in love with you
and then he ended, you would have really been heartbroken.
So just be glad that it was somebody that you
were just talking to and trying to get to know,
and do not let that deter you from telling people
up front, because I believe that this is something that
you know should be mentioned upfront.

Speaker 3 (01:15:19):
That's just me like, let these huge things like that.

Speaker 2 (01:15:23):
Yes, like I would rather get the chop up front
opposed to you know, we've had this long relationship and
now you drop this type of bomb on me. I
wouldn't be able to trust you because you you've held
on to this huge you know, this huge part of

(01:15:44):
your life. I'm not even gonna say a secret, but
you've held onto this huge part of your life that
you know I should probably be aware of, and you
held on to it.

Speaker 3 (01:15:54):
So that would just make me think, well, what else
are you holding on to?

Speaker 6 (01:15:57):
I think I think there's I mean all aspects.

Speaker 9 (01:16:01):
That's important because if I if I'm going to be
intimate with you, I need to know this. You know,
I was just like to say the kids and thing,
but you know, back then get it for kissing, but
at the at the that is important to me that
anything I gotta do with my health is even that
trump kids to me, That trump everything. We need to

(01:16:23):
talk about this up front. You know, it ain't got
to be the first couple of days. Look, I need
to know before I want to you know.

Speaker 3 (01:16:32):
That that I need to know.

Speaker 9 (01:16:36):
Yes, so many dates, we get excited and now we
anticipating this person's touch and I don't want to be disappointed,
you know.

Speaker 6 (01:16:45):
Yeah, now just like dang, I can't even sleep with you.

Speaker 3 (01:16:47):
Oh well, onto the next one.

Speaker 2 (01:16:49):
By right down got me all hot and bothered and
worked all up, and now just for what and the
child don't let it be no, no man. And with
the race jogging, I'm like, why would you do this?
I would just break out and start crying right there?

Speaker 3 (01:17:06):
You come here with that slong dog.

Speaker 6 (01:17:09):
You know you have a slom dog.

Speaker 2 (01:17:12):
And you're gonna tell me it's the slong dog is
potentially deadly. Oh my god, this is so not fair.
It's just like, oh, I would cry like a baby.
He would be thinking that I'm crying, but he was like,
you don't have to cry.

Speaker 3 (01:17:27):
I'm okay, No you're not.

Speaker 4 (01:17:30):
I'm not okay.

Speaker 3 (01:17:31):
This is not about it already pictured it in me.
I'm like, you know, do you know what I was
playing on doing with that? And it's like you tell me,
don you tell me this?

Speaker 6 (01:17:44):
I can like the drama dramatic.

Speaker 3 (01:17:46):
Please check please, I cannot take this Ish, Please, I
can't go. He's like, I'm gonna take you. I know
you're not gonna take me home. I'm gonna I got
it right outside. Okay, I just need waiter, please, I
need some water. I'm hot. I cannot and he's sitting
up there. He gonna stand up. No, don't you stand up. Please,

(01:18:07):
just sit back down.

Speaker 2 (01:18:09):
Okay, you know, just sit back you know, so tell
me that upfront. You could listen, tell me in a message,
tell me something, but do not do not, do not,
do not. Cedric is saying, were they just starting to
converse and show interest in one another? Yes, she said
that they had just started talking and pretty Tasha is saying, right,

(01:18:32):
probably an easy person.

Speaker 3 (01:18:34):
You gotta have easy going person.

Speaker 2 (01:18:37):
To deal with something like this, and just somebody that's
understandable and knowledgeable on how both people have to know
how to protect themselves, saying I applaued her telling him, period,
it took a lot of Ish to put that out there. Absolutely,
and that's what I'm saying. It's just like and people
as you should. This is no matter what a person

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may feel about your situation, you cannot take away a
person's right to choose and decide if they want to
proceed with you.

Speaker 3 (01:19:08):
Just like you were saying, lady, Lord's with the kid thing.

Speaker 2 (01:19:11):
You cannot take that right if somebody decided that they
you know, they letting you know that they don't want kids,
and you know you got kids, and you wait until
they have feelings.

Speaker 3 (01:19:18):
For you, then you ease them on.

Speaker 2 (01:19:20):
Yeah, well you know I got nick knacked, Patty Wacken,
you know I got them jumping jack.

Speaker 3 (01:19:27):
You know you know I got them on over here.
You can't do that to people.

Speaker 2 (01:19:31):
So it's like important things I think should be revealed
in the beginning. And ma'am, I'm sorry that you know
he blocked you, but you know he has to do
what he has to do for him, like you can't
be mad at him.

Speaker 3 (01:19:46):
And we're not saying that you know you got this
for a bad reason.

Speaker 2 (01:19:50):
We don't know however you contracted it, but we're glad
that you're taking care of yourself.

Speaker 3 (01:19:55):
Hopefully you're taking care of yourself.

Speaker 2 (01:19:57):
And continue to, you know, let people know that you
potentially see yourself wanting to be involved with because people
deserve to know and they have a right to be
able to make a decision on if there your situation
is something that they choose to be involved with, they
have They definitely have the right to know that. So definitely,

(01:20:20):
do not do not try to take away a person's
right to figure that out or make that decision. Now, guys,
our final hot topic. Now, listen, I'm full of ish today.
I'm just gonna tell you that I'm full of ish.
But I've said this before, so I agree. This man
says threesomes should go both ways in a relationship. A

(01:20:47):
man should be open to inviting another man in the bedroom. Amen,
I'm gonna say that again in the bed room. He
said that it should go both ways. So if you
expecting her to eat a little, a little, a little
hoody hat, okay, and she don't ain't a dang, then

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you should be prepared to look at little schlong done.

Speaker 3 (01:21:15):
No, that's all I'm saying. No, we're not doing that.
No we're not We're not We're not doing That's what
this brother said.

Speaker 9 (01:21:21):
That brother got some extra special curricular activities that he
wanted to do. But over here this world, if we
gonna do you know, you can have a woman and
I can have a man. You and that man better
stay far away from each other as y'all can.

Speaker 2 (01:21:37):
Don't even let you a little rubas touching on each other,
you know, he said. He said, listen for all you
brothers that want to have these threesomes, and y'all want
these women to have threems.

Speaker 6 (01:21:53):
And she like, you know, you didn't watch a lot
of porn growing up.

Speaker 4 (01:21:57):
Huh.

Speaker 9 (01:21:57):
He didn't watch a lot of porn growing up because
those did not touch each other, he.

Speaker 2 (01:22:02):
Said, And that's what the guys, I said. Cedric said
that Ninja is fruity, thank you, and e Cetric. He's
also saying, hey, my baby girl said thank you for
the birthday wishes.

Speaker 3 (01:22:11):
Happy about happy birthday. But yes, now listen, but I
you agree with this.

Speaker 2 (01:22:17):
I've said this to a dude or two. First of all,
don't ask me lord, and I try to be deep.
I try to be deep.

Speaker 3 (01:22:26):
But this brother, we weren't even we were just talking.
We ain't in our relationship. So I had, you know,
I had to go home and I had to really
look in the mirror.

Speaker 2 (01:22:36):
I said, Okay, clearly, I said, clearly, is something about it?
I said, you know, maybe my whole vibes own. Maybe
that's you know, I had to go. You know, I
got this meter at home. It's called the hormometer, okay,
and I had to go and sit on the hormometer
so I can see what my love for Hoe was

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that day.

Speaker 3 (01:22:58):
Because for you to ask me and we're not even
in a relationship.

Speaker 2 (01:23:05):
So and he asked me a few times, and I'm
just like, you know, I was always able to just
like think, you know, but this time we were at
face to face and he asked me.

Speaker 3 (01:23:17):
Again, and I was just like, Lord, why do itst
thou testest me? Lord?

Speaker 2 (01:23:24):
So I said, you know, I told him, Yes, I say,
you know what, I think you're right. I think you're right.
So I have the perfect guy in mind. Wait a minute,
what you're talking about?

Speaker 3 (01:23:34):
A guy?

Speaker 2 (01:23:35):
I ain't into? No men, I'm not into women. This
is what I've been trying to tell you. So why
I got to be with somebody that I'm not into?
But you can't be with somebody that you're not into.
You filed for that, No, you filed for it. Now
you see how it feels now now I'm patty. See,
I thought you were gonna be mature about this.

Speaker 6 (01:23:53):
What I am being very mature about it? You being
very childish about the situation.

Speaker 2 (01:23:59):
So all I'm saying, I'm like, now that I think
of it, I'm like, you know, he probably don't jump
down with a dude or two.

Speaker 3 (01:24:03):
And then you know I'm not.

Speaker 6 (01:24:06):
I'm not jumping on that bandwagon.

Speaker 3 (01:24:08):
Listen.

Speaker 9 (01:24:09):
I've listened enough naughty movies to know that in these situations,
people don't have to touch the other.

Speaker 6 (01:24:17):
Per I mean, you know, it look caressing.

Speaker 3 (01:24:18):
But to me, and don't touch each other. Eric is
saying he on the download for show, I'm gonna upload. Listen.
He's just like, I just.

Speaker 2 (01:24:26):
Wanna go ahead on and tell you what I'm about
right now, baby girl. He was like, listen, if you
want some ladies, if y'all looking for that type of guy,
this is what you want them to say. You want
them to be like this brother, to be open minded
and say, you know what I think that she should.
I'm an equal opportunities. Okay, I'm gonna have some equal
were gonna be equal in this relationship. I'm you gonna

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watch this dude blow my butthole out, and you know,
and I'm gonna I don't know if I respect.

Speaker 3 (01:24:55):
I don't know. I couldn't don't.

Speaker 6 (01:24:58):
I wouldn't. I'm leaving, y'all.

Speaker 3 (01:25:02):
Yeah, I'm out.

Speaker 2 (01:25:03):
I'm probably not because I'm like, I'm not gonna I
already know I'm not gonna respect a double standard that
I will accept what you that's that is a double standard.

Speaker 6 (01:25:12):
That I will accept women and women and the man,
but the man touching the other man.

Speaker 3 (01:25:17):
I'm leaving.

Speaker 6 (01:25:18):
I'm going to grab my little clothes and now I'm
just go right down.

Speaker 3 (01:25:23):
Out the door.

Speaker 2 (01:25:24):
See, I'm like, my thing is this, don't ask me
no ish that you don't want. Don't ask me to
do nothing that you don't want to have.

Speaker 3 (01:25:30):
Done to you. And that's how I am.

Speaker 2 (01:25:32):
I'm like, so if you don't want it done to you,
then don't ask me to do it, because if it's
good enough for me, then it's good enough for you
because it's supposed to be. Oh we right, you care
about my well being, so I care about you. Or
so let's just see how this is gonna work. But
you know, I felt like the Brothers.

Speaker 3 (01:25:51):
Was gonna think that.

Speaker 2 (01:25:51):
You know, this brother was you know, he you know,
he likes he liked he like his his his his
backyard to be played and you know listen. I'm not listen.
If you like it rock out, That's all I can say.
If you like it out, rock out. But what I'm
saying is, don't ask me nothing if you don't want

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me to ask you the same thing and return, because
that is my that is that is one of my
petty qualities that you know, if it's good enough for me,
it better be good enough for you.

Speaker 3 (01:26:22):
Hey Peterson, how you doing now?

Speaker 2 (01:26:24):
Listen speaking of if it's good enough for you, If
it's good enough for me, it's got to be good
enough for you. Tonight, guys, we are talking about because
we just this is a perfect question to segue into
our topic for tonight. How important is sexual attraction?

Speaker 3 (01:26:45):
How listen?

Speaker 2 (01:26:47):
You in a relationship and you know, you meet somebody
and before you know it, baby, you can't even get
good in the seat? You like, Oh my god, lord,
poor child, I just cannot. I'll just be like they
be like, what you what You're rocking for nothing?

Speaker 3 (01:27:09):
Nothing? My back, I'm just.

Speaker 2 (01:27:11):
Trying to stretch my back, and just you know, as
I stretch my back, I'm just trying to remember all
of the stuff that I learned this Sunday school and
all of again.

Speaker 3 (01:27:20):
You know the good, the good virtuous.

Speaker 2 (01:27:23):
Stuff that you know that they have you going up
in the you know, in the in the Bible class
and you got the the single women's ministry, the single sister, this,
the single sister that the I'll be like back, let
me say I used to be up in them single class, like,
oh god, if they say something, if you say.

Speaker 3 (01:27:39):
One more thing, I'm going out here and I'm gonna
jump on me a dome. Keep on talking about you know.
So that's what I be sitting there thinking.

Speaker 2 (01:27:46):
I was like, sir, but when I think about sexual attraction,
how important is it?

Speaker 3 (01:27:54):
What you mean? Don't you need edi breathe? I don't
know what what what things you want to be? What
say y'all? I dumb, ma'am.

Speaker 6 (01:28:08):
See if if that isn't there, then what is there?
A boring relationship?

Speaker 3 (01:28:16):
We just they're nice to you.

Speaker 9 (01:28:18):
I mean, you could be nice to me. But I
would like to be sexually attracted to you in some
sort of way. Like a sexual attraction don't got to
be you know, it's jumping on top of each other.
But you know the way you want better make me,
you know, tingle or your biceps or something the way
you look at me. Something better, you know, strike the match,
because if it doesn't, then I'm I'm I ain't about

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to be around here because you go get cheated on
if I ain't.

Speaker 2 (01:28:43):
I'm telling you that's the only way. That's that's that's
the only thing that can keep me alive. I'm just
gonna I'm just gonna tell you right now, that's what.

Speaker 6 (01:28:49):
That what that girl saying that song scratch my half, that's.

Speaker 3 (01:28:54):
The only thing that can you.

Speaker 2 (01:28:56):
You have to you have to have And now listen,
for those that don't know what sexual attraction is. According
to an online source, sexual attraction is when you're attracted
to someone sexually and want them to sexually please you
or something of the sort.

Speaker 3 (01:29:14):
Now listen, that was day stuff. That was the online source.

Speaker 2 (01:29:18):
But you just want to do all kinds of nasty
things to me on the computer and you just.

Speaker 6 (01:29:25):
To take it it, take, take, take it, and it
just smacked you in your face.

Speaker 2 (01:29:29):
Who and you just thinking about all of the nasty,
disgusting stuff you gonna do to them that right there now.

Speaker 3 (01:29:36):
If you are not having that type of experience, I'm.

Speaker 9 (01:29:41):
Sorry, sorry, I don't care if the honeymoon face is over.

Speaker 3 (01:29:48):
That one ain't Cedric can say absolutely important. Now here's
the thing. Can you be.

Speaker 2 (01:29:57):
Romantically attracted to someone but not sexually attracted to them?

Speaker 9 (01:30:03):
You're gonna have the online source to be what a
romantic attraction is because I'm a romantic fantasizer all day
every day.

Speaker 6 (01:30:09):
Disney messed me up.

Speaker 2 (01:30:11):
According to an online source, when you have a romantic
attraction to someone, you also usually have a sexual attraction
to them as well. So romantic attractionantic it kind of
goes hand in hand. But I'm gonna say the romantic
is a little bit more. You know, it matters with

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the heart.

Speaker 9 (01:30:34):
I'm gonna say romantic I must be, you know, fantasized
about us.

Speaker 6 (01:30:37):
Getting married and.

Speaker 9 (01:30:40):
What I'm gonna do to you because I ain't giving
you all of me right now, but on that night, boy,
you're gonna get it at all.

Speaker 3 (01:30:45):
And I'm just like so that.

Speaker 2 (01:30:46):
So I think that there could be. I think there's
a bigger difference. But I mean they're in the same category,
they're in the same ballpark. But again, I think that
the romantic because you know the heart and it's the
way you feel. But that sexual attraction that's just dirt,
that's just lust. Were just fanna get to it. We're
finna do the thing. We're finna do the horizontal mambo.

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We hanging off chandeliers and we hanging off showering.

Speaker 9 (01:31:15):
Attraction to a total stranger. You can have a sexual
attraction to dress elbow.

Speaker 2 (01:31:22):
Man.

Speaker 6 (01:31:22):
I'm already Brian fast and furious.

Speaker 3 (01:31:26):
Al right that the pink dude?

Speaker 10 (01:31:29):
Oh yeah, no, you know I do have you know,
people like since we on this type of people ask
you those type of you know, if you had a
you know, choice to step out of your you know,
who would you choose?

Speaker 9 (01:31:42):
I got to and it's Adam Levine and it's Bryant
Paul Walker to.

Speaker 2 (01:31:50):
Not the other one that you if you still got him,
then I'm if he come, I'm scared for you, Paul,
I said it all right, peace.

Speaker 3 (01:32:00):
He could come in my dreams all he wanted to.

Speaker 9 (01:32:04):
And then the other one, if I had to, you know,
dance on the other side of the table, it would
be Angelina Jolie.

Speaker 6 (01:32:10):
If you really it's the lips. It's the lips.

Speaker 3 (01:32:15):
That's all.

Speaker 6 (01:32:16):
It's supposed to be important.

Speaker 3 (01:32:17):
She looked just like that thing off of the she
looked like she come out the tone raider.

Speaker 9 (01:32:22):
That's all I well, you know, it's only I mean,
when it comes to clear people, it would only be her.

Speaker 2 (01:32:29):
I would now see. I would have said, let me see,
I would say old school. If I had to go
the same route, I would say old school, foxy brown baby.

Speaker 3 (01:32:39):
Pam Grier, give me Pam Grier.

Speaker 6 (01:32:41):
But that's Shines stepping on the other side of the
world of the clear peace.

Speaker 3 (01:32:46):
I don't want. I don't have no clear I don't
have no clear desires.

Speaker 9 (01:32:49):
I don't have clear desires either, Because I told you,
Larry traumatized me, and it's still weird. I named my
son Larry, but I forgot about little Larry in Texas.

Speaker 6 (01:33:01):
That little boy liked me so much. We had to
be in like second we had to be in like
second grade. He used to walk me home. He used
to tell my daddy, I'm walking.

Speaker 3 (01:33:11):
Home with y'all.

Speaker 6 (01:33:12):
And one day Larry flashed me.

Speaker 9 (01:33:16):
Traumatized me for the rest of my life because I
don't ever want to see that little pink biscuit.

Speaker 8 (01:33:22):
Oh no, it just looked like flesh, flesh of the
flesh with no color, slime.

Speaker 3 (01:33:34):
I can't look like slime. It was just a pik
no I would know.

Speaker 6 (01:33:40):
So I was traumatized so much.

Speaker 2 (01:33:43):
So my two would be I can't say my two
because they are really they are accessible, and I don't
want to be in a room and then somebody see
on me and then they think I can't be profound.

Speaker 3 (01:33:52):
I'm gonna keep the people.

Speaker 9 (01:33:53):
I'm gonna keep the other people of color to myself
because that's fine because they ain't never gonna happen.

Speaker 3 (01:33:59):
Yeah, I'm just like like, I'm just.

Speaker 6 (01:34:01):
That Leddy could give it to I ain't playing about Leddy.

Speaker 3 (01:34:04):
Who is Leddy? She furious too? That was dumb, girlfriend.
I have no no, no pink no, no pink people.

Speaker 9 (01:34:12):
She ain't hispanic, she ain't pink, she's brown, but she
ain't for coco puffs.

Speaker 2 (01:34:19):
I need me some cocoa puffs. That's that's how I'm apt.
But I like to say I can't.

Speaker 3 (01:34:22):
I can't.

Speaker 2 (01:34:23):
I just say say my old school my woman crush
would have been Pam, Yeah, Pam Brill baby that foxy Yep.
I'm just like yes, baby, But today I have to
really think, Oh no, okay, So now I like I
love how of a love of admiration. Nothing woman crushes

(01:34:46):
about her. But you know, listen, I love me some
Chaka Khan all that. I feel like she is my
auntie to like the fullest extent.

Speaker 6 (01:34:52):
I'll just be like that that's what you feel about.

Speaker 3 (01:34:58):
Just be showing he ain't see he's the one. I mean,
I know we not really related, but I love you,
I honest my.

Speaker 6 (01:35:05):
Mother, sorry Mama, but Diana.

Speaker 3 (01:35:07):
Is my mama. Yeah, yeah, that that she my second one.

Speaker 9 (01:35:12):
It was like the hair and just her essence, and
you know how she was so skinny and just elegant.

Speaker 6 (01:35:21):
Lady sees the.

Speaker 3 (01:35:22):
Blues every day. And that was.

Speaker 2 (01:35:26):
The billy when she did the bill, all of them,
I could definitely do. Oh, I'm just like baby. Listen now, Biby.

Speaker 6 (01:35:36):
D Williams are peat.

Speaker 3 (01:35:39):
You could have got no because he was with boys,
so he couldn't get don't blesshe me? I wish I
was a girl. Williams. Google Maga, Yes, ask Google. So
now listen, when you're talking about sexual attraction, what is this?

Speaker 2 (01:35:57):
What if they're good to you, good for you, but
there is no sexual attraction whatsoever?

Speaker 3 (01:36:06):
Do you stay in that type of relationship or do
you part ways? Again. They are everything that you should need.
This is the person for.

Speaker 2 (01:36:20):
You, like I mean, financial wise, attitude wise, everything or people.

Speaker 3 (01:36:26):
They check off everything.

Speaker 2 (01:36:30):
But there's no there's no sexual attraction whatsoever. They treated
They treat you better than anybody has ever treated you.
They I mean they pull are down for you, loyal everything,
but you don't even get a fizz.

Speaker 3 (01:36:51):
There's not a you know, I would.

Speaker 6 (01:36:55):
Literally thin some Jada Pinkinsmith entanglements going on.

Speaker 3 (01:37:00):
I'm just gonna.

Speaker 2 (01:37:02):
Erica is saying, I gotta go, Yeah, you know, because
I don't think I gotta go.

Speaker 3 (01:37:08):
I just think I gotta entangle.

Speaker 9 (01:37:11):
I mean, he's he's everything every he has checked every
single box.

Speaker 6 (01:37:17):
He is financially taking.

Speaker 3 (01:37:19):
Care of me.

Speaker 6 (01:37:20):
I mean, we love each other. We laughing, we joking.
We got everything.

Speaker 9 (01:37:25):
But when it comes down to that department, we're gonna
have to go see some coaches. We're gonna have to,
you know, try a few things. Were gonna have to
try a lot of things, and if nothing brings that excitement,
there shall be some august outseteing up whatever his name
is happening, and you're just gonna have to accept it. Sorry, Listen,

(01:37:47):
you ain't going to make no other chick happy. You
not taking all of that happiness nowhere else, nowhere no.

Speaker 3 (01:37:55):
Now is it me?

Speaker 2 (01:37:57):
Let's figure it out, Erica said, he and take the
right box, and uh, Cedric is saying stay so listen.
There can be there are a lot of attractions that
can be off in a relationship, but sexually ain't one
of them.

Speaker 3 (01:38:16):
It's it's a lot of them that can be off.
But I am not going to feel like I listen,
I don't put all this time.

Speaker 2 (01:38:24):
In and now I get over here old rocking and
chills because you know it's that's that's to calm your nerves.

Speaker 3 (01:38:33):
And he he, I would like the bliss and I'd
be like, you know, he's like you over there rocking
on the chip.

Speaker 2 (01:38:39):
Something else. But clearly you know there's nothing going on.
And I understand about being able to talk to somebody,
but I think that the attraction is either there or
it's not. Do you think it is something that can
be fixed?

Speaker 9 (01:38:54):
It has to be something that I feel like, if
you really love this person, who care about this person,
why isn't that sexual attraction there? Do they feast saying
you know, what, what is it that's not making me
sexually attracted to you, because even without thinking about a
person's body parts, like whether he's big or he's small,
what is it that I'm not a.

Speaker 6 (01:39:17):
Sexually attracted That sexual attraction comes.

Speaker 9 (01:39:20):
Before we even sleep with each other, right, So why
is it that sexual attraction there?

Speaker 3 (01:39:27):
What is it?

Speaker 6 (01:39:28):
We need to figure it out? What is it that
I don't like about you? That is not coming out right?
And sometimes it's just like that person, ain't that person
you should have left?

Speaker 3 (01:39:37):
And such like is saying they can always be taught.

Speaker 9 (01:39:41):
I don't know about that. You can't teach sexual attraction.
You can't teach sexual pleasure. But an attraction is like
like you're attracted to somebody. I'm attracted to the way
you look. I'm attracted to you know. I love when
you wear your hair like that, Like that turns me
on a baby. I love when you cut your hair

(01:40:01):
on your face like that. That sexual attraction, it can't
be taught, but it's possibly something that this person is
missing that I can say.

Speaker 6 (01:40:12):
You know, try different style of jeans, you know, go
to the gym, workout.

Speaker 9 (01:40:18):
Maybe you need to pump your chest up a little bit,
you know, maybe her chest is too flat, and you
just ain't attracted to it because you know, ain't nothing
right there, and she ain't got no butt, but you
really like her and she's a good woman.

Speaker 3 (01:40:31):
True. Then we're gonna have.

Speaker 9 (01:40:32):
To go, you know, do some squats, go buy a
little booty. The best friend that when it got her
what they call it a.

Speaker 3 (01:40:43):
Natural bb Glorilla.

Speaker 6 (01:40:47):
Oh god, she got a natural they said. They said
she got a natural girl.

Speaker 2 (01:40:52):
Anything that you do on botting head, just like these braids.
This hair is natural. It's natural off of something.

Speaker 6 (01:40:57):
No, they call it natural because it looks natural, but.

Speaker 9 (01:41:01):
It was opposed to it being that big old thing
that don't match her hips or her waist. Like you
could look at her and tell, had this girl did
all it is before she became famous, nobody would have
been really really to tell, because she's still a part
of the Eddie Betty committee.

Speaker 3 (01:41:16):
Just you know, been little.

Speaker 2 (01:41:19):
They always coming up with new categories all I know.
I know the listen Eric and she's saying, I mean
he didn't check the right box. So my thing would
be So when you're seeing that these people that they're
the everything for me, I would say that really they
can't be everything if the sexual attraction is missing, so

(01:41:39):
they you know they almost so, then it's like you
would have to make a conscious decision on you know,
this is who's good for me?

Speaker 3 (01:41:48):
So I'm going to have to just do I give
up like off for uh why did I get me
here the eighty twenty? Do I give up all of.

Speaker 2 (01:41:56):
That and for this? Or do I have to have
this and I can just get rid of I don't
care about anything else? Is the sexual attraction that important
that I would you would give up a relationship that
has almost everything else that you need, but not that

(01:42:18):
that sexual attraction.

Speaker 9 (01:42:20):
If we eighty years Oh, your old wrinkly self, better
make me go.

Speaker 3 (01:42:30):
What if it's not working? Well?

Speaker 9 (01:42:34):
He got fingers and about It's like, okay, alastis it
better be something about? Like that is a being attracted
in multiple ways? It's just I mean that's just a
turn on.

Speaker 2 (01:42:49):
Well see it's like the thing is it's like, so
you're doing it and then they're like they're wondering why
your body is not reacting like you're going like is
it really fair to them that you just go through
the motions.

Speaker 6 (01:43:02):
And we have sex and I don't be sexually attracted
to you as sexy. Sex attract attraction.

Speaker 9 (01:43:11):
Attraction is something I'm missing out right, So that's what
I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (01:43:14):
So should you cheat yourself out of the full experience,
because at the end of the day, if you're not
responding to them, then aren't you I mean with me
and they gonna young when you're like, well, I bucked,
I broke. So that's that that that's on you, yo,
that that that's issue. You gotta deal with that.

Speaker 9 (01:43:33):
But see, that would be a problem because if I'm
not sexually attracted to you, then you being selfish.

Speaker 6 (01:43:38):
And I can't get off. We really got a problem.

Speaker 9 (01:43:41):
In my younger days, I would have stayed in the
back of my mad I see somebody else, I'm seeing
somebody else in my head, whatever the case may be.
But in this day and age of me knowing that
I only have one life to live, and I'm older
and I'm smarter, and we're not gonna.

Speaker 6 (01:43:57):
Play these games, I'm not feeling you like that.

Speaker 9 (01:44:01):
We ain't gonna be able to do this. We can
hang out, we could be friends. I don't know if
you like the F word.

Speaker 3 (01:44:05):
You know I.

Speaker 6 (01:44:08):
Had that before before somebody liked me and he was
a really.

Speaker 3 (01:44:17):
To be a good don't.

Speaker 9 (01:44:18):
I can't say his name, but you know, I learned
this new word, but I got to look it up
and keep figuring it out before I start using it.

Speaker 6 (01:44:25):
But he really liked me, and he used to always
be like, I'm a kidnap you. I'm a kidnap you.

Speaker 9 (01:44:30):
And I used to be like, please don't in my
mind like because I'm not attracted to you in that way,
like I don't see you where I want where I
could be like, yeah.

Speaker 6 (01:44:41):
Kidnap me, let's go.

Speaker 9 (01:44:43):
No, just keep doing what we Let's get some food,
hang out. No, we're not We're not gonna do that.

Speaker 2 (01:44:50):
Man, Like you said, at this day, everything is really
at this day and time for me, I believe that.
You know, sexual attraction again is very important, and it's
one of those attractions that cannot be you know, missing
out of a relationship. But in the grand scheme of things,
if I had all of this and I had to
choose between the sexual attraction and every getting everything else

(01:45:16):
from my partner, I'm gonna have to stay.

Speaker 3 (01:45:18):
I will not. I'm not.

Speaker 2 (01:45:20):
I won't throw it away, throw a whole everything else
away for the sexual attraction. I just have to pretend
to my mind that I'm celibate and you know, be
sleeping with this dude every night, sleep it with. But
I'm just like it would it would have to be somewhere.
I would probably have to get some type of therapy
just so I can fix myself.

Speaker 9 (01:45:42):
So how I can you know, some therapy said to
fix the fact that you is not sexually attracted to this.
The therapist is gonna say, well, why aren't you And
You're gonna just sit there and say, I don't know,
it's something, but.

Speaker 3 (01:45:56):
I right, man, maybe they can help you figure it out.

Speaker 2 (01:45:59):
So it's just like because I'm like, the thought for me,
I think that what would keep me just on the
right track is the thought of losing all of that,
losing you over. You know, I wouldn't want to do
that because again, I'm gonna.

Speaker 3 (01:46:13):
Lose you anyway.

Speaker 9 (01:46:14):
When you catch me with august Austina Talbot, I had
an entanglement and we wasn't real I wasn't really happy
when we got.

Speaker 2 (01:46:22):
Married anyway, And that's probably I'm see, and that is
a prime just wasting We're just wasting valuable time. And
I would never like I'm like, if if I say
I love you, then I'm never gonna be out there
trying to hurt you or put you in a bad spot,
because again, you are all of this, you offer all

(01:46:43):
of this up, all of this amazing stuff is just
missing the candle on the you know, which happens to
be the most important part of the birthday art. You know,
it's missing that you take that candle out of there. Man,
So shoot, what do you guys think that you were
saying that they would stay. He was staying that they

(01:47:03):
can always be taught. But again, I would just say,
you know, it's I'm not going to minimize how important
the sexual attraction is.

Speaker 3 (01:47:13):
I would I'm not because again, we breathing right there.

Speaker 9 (01:47:19):
If I ain't trying to like check out what's in
your pants, if I ain't like you know me and
we check y'all out like y'all check us out.

Speaker 3 (01:47:26):
Right, it has to be something attractions in you.

Speaker 11 (01:47:31):
And then you just touch me, and I'm just like, oh,
don't get har hard, like I guess, just lay down,
be still like a board, laying there like see right,
he died on top of me, you know.

Speaker 3 (01:47:45):
All the.

Speaker 2 (01:47:50):
So you have to definitely make sure that it's it's
so it's so important that you gotta.

Speaker 3 (01:47:58):
Just, you know, be a a lot of much truer topic.
This is not a mature topic.

Speaker 2 (01:48:03):
It's it's helpful because again, this is where you would say,
you know what I'm making up in my mind, I
want to be with this person, and I'm willing to
accept that, you know what, I.

Speaker 9 (01:48:14):
Want to be with you, and then entanglement and we're
gonna discuss it. We're gonna talk about it. I'm not cheated,
I'm not getting caught up.

Speaker 3 (01:48:24):
And that's the thing.

Speaker 2 (01:48:25):
So would you ever tell your partner that you're not
sexually attracted to them?

Speaker 6 (01:48:30):
That's a horrible But we're gonna have to discuss these.

Speaker 3 (01:48:34):
I don't know, like men are, I don't know, like
that ego.

Speaker 6 (01:48:38):
Gonna have to get put to the side.

Speaker 9 (01:48:39):
We're gonna have to figure this out because it's some
maint right and we need to figure out what it
is or I'm not gonna be here.

Speaker 3 (01:48:45):
I don't know because I'm I.

Speaker 2 (01:48:46):
Would have to really weigh my options on that because
me and they their egos are so so fragile. So
you're telling him, you know that something is off and
you may be sending it in the nicest way possible.
So now that's gonna open up the door for him
to go and she because now you he got he
feels like he got the you know race. He got
to have his ego stroke.

Speaker 9 (01:49:07):
No, he gotta have his ego strong, because you just
need to be a man. And let's talk about it, like, uh,
well what that girl nacked toy? Brasaid, let's be a man.
Let's just talk about it. Hey, the schlong dog ain
making my heart go pit a patty, It ain't putting
the butterflies in my stomach.

Speaker 6 (01:49:22):
We need to figure this out.

Speaker 3 (01:49:24):
He'd like, all right, I'm gonna go put the slong
dog on somebody.

Speaker 9 (01:49:27):
Well, then you go here, because I already to entanglement
with this little boy down the street and already called
me like twenty one.

Speaker 3 (01:49:35):
Now you better figure it out, o child.

Speaker 2 (01:49:38):
I'm just like, yes, I'm just like so I would say,
don't this is a conversation. But I would definitely say,
you know, tread lightly.

Speaker 6 (01:49:47):
You tread tread?

Speaker 9 (01:49:48):
That line have to always say we always got tread
lightly for they feelings anymotion.

Speaker 3 (01:49:53):
But even if it's so, are we able to accept
if a man tells.

Speaker 9 (01:49:57):
Us that you come up in my face, come back, baby,
I don't like the way you sucked my schlong dom
last night with Daddy.

Speaker 3 (01:50:03):
What you want me to do? How you want me
to do it?

Speaker 5 (01:50:05):
Right?

Speaker 9 (01:50:05):
Because I don't want somebody else to do it. Okay,
that's the same thing with my sexual attraction to you.
I am not sexually attracted to you. And if that
is like right here, we gotta talk about this.

Speaker 6 (01:50:16):
We gotta figure it out.

Speaker 2 (01:50:17):
We can't just brush this under the world because I
just don't know how, Like, how do you That's something
I'm gonna explore.

Speaker 3 (01:50:23):
How do you? Maybe we have to be hypnotized or
I'm gonna bring the energy guy hypnotized.

Speaker 2 (01:50:29):
I'm gonna I'm gonna reach out to this guy. Years ago,
we had a guy. He he read energy.

Speaker 3 (01:50:33):
He was he was an energy reader and he would
tell you all you and got.

Speaker 6 (01:50:38):
Nothing to do with you to be sexually attractive to somebody.

Speaker 2 (01:50:43):
I'm anna contact to him because it could be I'm
gonna see a hypnotism off, Our energies are off.

Speaker 11 (01:50:49):
He's like, he like it could be a trauma, that
it's a blockage going on in your uh, in your
in your root chakra's yeah, it's chakra block.

Speaker 3 (01:50:58):
It's not.

Speaker 2 (01:50:59):
It's called in a disconnection. So it's causing a disconnection.

Speaker 9 (01:51:02):
From where you pass somebody at work or you've seen
somebody outside.

Speaker 6 (01:51:07):
Is there an attraction? Do you get a little excited
when you see the gray pants?

Speaker 3 (01:51:12):
But it's blocked for this one.

Speaker 2 (01:51:13):
So I needed to get unblocked for the good one,
because then I'm gonna be out here with all the
mess and the fecal matter out here in these streets,
and that's what I don't want to, you know, to do.
So I would say, if you had to choose, I'm
gonna choose to stay. I mean again, hopefully you know everything,

(01:51:36):
Hopefully everything else will you know, I think that everything
else will be. It'll it'll make it bearable and it
will be okay. But I don't think that it will be.
And again, I would just have to really think about that,
because it's just like.

Speaker 6 (01:51:50):
If were you sexually attracted to them in the beginning, and.

Speaker 2 (01:51:57):
Sexually attracted now, if it died down, there's a problem
and that can be fixed.

Speaker 3 (01:52:01):
But if it was never there, how do you I
don't know how. I don't I'm like you, we shouldn't never.

Speaker 6 (01:52:10):
Even did this because you was a great guy, that's it.

Speaker 3 (01:52:13):
And you gave him some great and that's.

Speaker 9 (01:52:14):
How them great guys turned into jack backs because some
woman held.

Speaker 6 (01:52:20):
On to him like they do us. They hold on
us because we good.

Speaker 9 (01:52:23):
Women, and then get mad when the girl girl gone mad,
and that's the good guy and that be the end
of that.

Speaker 3 (01:52:29):
So I'm just like, I don't know.

Speaker 2 (01:52:31):
I would say, I would say it's so sexual attraction,
it's very, very important. But whether to say, make the
decision to leave or to stay, I would say, you
have to.

Speaker 3 (01:52:44):
You know, you have to use your best judgment and
you have to do.

Speaker 2 (01:52:47):
What is best for you know what's best for you,
and you know proceed proceed accordingly. But I'm not gonna
say to stay because I don't know. I'm not saying
to leave because I don't know. Each person's situation is different.
But I do say that being sexually attracted to your

(01:53:10):
mate or your spouse is majorly, majorly, majorly important.

Speaker 6 (01:53:14):
You won't let me put my giftee in you.

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Just make listen, I'd be live little oh child.

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