The Jaye Spot Podcast

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Come into the J Spot, replacing your G Spot every
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(00:20):
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Speaker 2 (00:27):
Woo, good evening, good evening, good evening, and welcome to
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Speaker 3 (00:41):
Woo.

Speaker 4 (00:48):
You have entered the J Spot, where we all strengthening
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for allowing me to join you on your ride home,
Join you as you cook dinner, join you as you
pop the kids upside the head yell at them because
you know what school is back in session, these little jokers.

(01:55):
I came home and here they are. Listen, they I've
been out all some along, now they want to come
to My teacher said that that that that I gotta.
I'm like, oh, I'm cut all that out. Ain't no
crying up in here. You wasn't crying when you was

(02:18):
up in here all summer long on that game. Oh
I got you, I'm level two.

Speaker 5 (02:23):
And all this and that and all.

Speaker 4 (02:24):
Listen, you got all the cheat codes, know how to
crack the codes everything for these games. Now we're doing
your one plus one and your three plus threes, and
now all of a sudden, you want to stay the shop, Like,
what's wrong with you? My teacher? You know y'all know

(02:47):
how they get when you, you know, trying to get
over worked up, like you still not gonna shack them up.
So that teacher said that that what did Joe teacher say?
You've been in school three three minutes what the teacher do.
I said, Now, tell me what the teacher that's listen,

(03:08):
That's how it used to be when when while Sun
was in school, what the teacher say.

Speaker 5 (03:11):
Come on, come on over here.

Speaker 4 (03:13):
And tell me what the teacher say. Now, and you
better tell me exactly what the teacher say.

Speaker 5 (03:17):
You better not missing out.

Speaker 4 (03:19):
Listen.

Speaker 5 (03:19):
I was crazy with this stuff growing up. But God's listen.
School is back in session.

Speaker 4 (03:26):
Listen. Make sure you know what's going on at your
children's school. Listen. They send the package home to let
you know what they expect of your child, your children
at these schools.

Speaker 5 (03:40):
Listen.

Speaker 4 (03:40):
Do not go up that giving these teachers a hard time.
Do not listen, ladies. Let me let me talk to
us real quick.

Speaker 5 (03:48):
Sisters. Now listen, y'all in the building. I know what
I'm about to say.

Speaker 4 (03:52):
Y'all probably not gonna like It's It's alright, because we
need sometimes we need to have a little hard to heart.
So let's have a little hard to heart.

Speaker 5 (04:01):
Ladies.

Speaker 4 (04:03):
Please do not, and I repeat, do not go up
to the school with those bonnets on. Okay, listen, listen.
I don't care, but we don't want to see them
up in the school. I don't care if it's a
new one, if it's a silk one, if it's the one,
it's in style, whatever it is. Those need to stay

(04:25):
at home. I understand you just got your hair done.
I understand you just going around the corner and you
got you know, the I understand all of that.

Speaker 5 (04:35):
Take it off.

Speaker 4 (04:37):
Please take them off, especially if they nasty. Especially, you
know some of y'all got the or smelling like smoke, weed, smoke,
you smelling like traces. I ain't gonna say the other word,
but y'all know the other word. Y'all know the other
smell that them bonnets be smelling like. Take it off,
smelling like all like cigarettes, smoke. Take it off.

Speaker 5 (05:00):
Do not drop your kids off smelling like weed.

Speaker 4 (05:04):
You in the car. It's seven o'clock in the morning.
You dropping the kids off. They go up in the
school smelling like weed. Come on, now, you all look, now, look,
we have got to do better.

Speaker 5 (05:17):
We look, it's past time for all.

Speaker 4 (05:19):
Let you know what, Jay Donty sitting up here judging people.

Speaker 5 (05:23):
I'm not judging you. We gonna talk, you know why,
because I'm from the same area. So we gonna.

Speaker 4 (05:28):
So we're gonna talk. That's why I can talk to
you because listen, I know them streets that west side. Listen,
I'm gonna take who wanna talk about Pulaski? Who wanna
talk about Laramie? Who wanna talk about Central? Who wanna
talk about Madison? So I'm gonna talk about it cause
you know what, Listen, that's the that's the house. Listen,

(05:49):
that's home. Who wanna talk about Cicero? Who wanna talk
about Chicago Avenue? So therefore we are gonna talk about
it tonight. Do not drop them kids off smelling like weed,
smelling like that, loud Listen, them kids come up and
there I know they have cause I'm getting high. I'm
getting the contact just off they clothes. Now you're wondering

(06:12):
why the kids up in the classroom they can't sit down,
and they say, oh, he got eighty eight.

Speaker 5 (06:17):
He don't have ADHD he had.

Speaker 4 (06:20):
Don't you recognize when a child is high because they
parents been smoking all that? Listen, cush, good, good, loud.
Whatever you all are calling, and you know some of
y'all lacening with some other stuff too. We're gonna talking
about that later. But for the want, listen, do not
be dropping them kids off and they smelling. Listen, they're
smelling like weed, They smelling like liquor, they smelling like

(06:44):
cigarette smoke. You got them drop. But then you think
that they're supposed to be able to have a productive day,
such as you saying west Side, absolutely west Side, like
for real, west.

Speaker 5 (06:54):
Side, truly, truly, truly, this is the.

Speaker 4 (06:57):
West Side, because it's like it's crazy, like it is crazy.
There is no reason why we these kids should be
coming to school smelling like that. Then you got them there.
They haven't eating because they haven't gotten up on time,
so they don't have a balanced breakfast. Now, for those
households that do not have the funds for the breakfast

(07:20):
and stuff like that, I understand that. But here's where
here is where you're gonna get my pushback at. If
you got money for weed, you got money for a
box of cereal on some milk. I'm gonna say that again.
If you got money to smoke weed, you got money
to buy a box of cigarette, or buy buy a
box of cereal and some milk. Dollar tree, sell everything

(07:41):
for over a dollar. Get you some found you some
y'all know how to do it. Don't act like we
don't know how to get what we need, so we're
not gonna do that. I ain't having no fing.

Speaker 5 (07:52):
I'm doin it.

Speaker 4 (07:53):
Best I can. You should should So if you are
doing the best that you can, you shouldn't be half.
You shouldn't have those lash is on. You shouldn't have
a long, grimmy hair down to your butt. You shouldn't
have any of that because all of that costs money.
That clearly, at this point, you're telling us that you
don't have to be able to feed your kids and

(08:13):
give them what they need, So you shouldn't have all
the extra frivolous stuff that is not needed. So I'm
trying to help somebody on today. So next thing, make
sure that your kids have the supplies that they need
for school so that they can be productive. Make sure
that they have everything. Listen, now, I know some of

(08:34):
these teachers aren't asking for some things that are kind
of unrealistic. Ma'am. We're not getting them a three hundred
dollars calculator and they in first grade.

Speaker 5 (08:45):
We're just not We're not We're not doing that, ma'am.

Speaker 4 (08:48):
We're not buying twelve rolls of bounty paper towel, and
we're not doing all that. I'm gonna send them off
with the starter kid on one son daughter when y'all, when.

Speaker 5 (08:59):
You use your box, then you.

Speaker 4 (09:02):
Come back and we'll go back to the store and
we'll get the other one.

Speaker 5 (09:05):
But I'm not sending you a whole twit. I'm not
doing that.

Speaker 4 (09:09):
Okay. So I'm gonna look and I'm gonna say they
made a mistake on a quantity.

Speaker 5 (09:14):
You got that, right, sedgec what's sorry they made a
mistake on that quantity.

Speaker 4 (09:19):
If I'm sending one child to the classroom, I'm not
buying twelve bottles a hand sanitizer. I'm just not doing it.
I'm going to buy one. Teacher, you send me a
note when my child runs out of the hand sanitizers
that's needed. Then you come back and then we'll talk.
But dude, I'm not sending all of that. So buy

(09:40):
what you can get, get what you need, Get the
most important things first. Okay.

Speaker 5 (09:47):
So we gotta do that.

Speaker 4 (09:48):
But we cannot let these lists deter us from doing
what we need to do. The next thing, the next thing.
You all look, now, look, I know the struggle be real.

Speaker 5 (10:03):
Do not under listen. I understand the struggle be real.

Speaker 4 (10:06):
And I'm about to hit some nerves when I say
what I'm about to say, but I'm gonna say it anyway.
Do not drop them kids off at school looking like
who did it?

Speaker 5 (10:17):
What for?

Speaker 4 (10:18):
And why stop letting them go out the house looking
like anything? You could send them to school with their
little school uniform shirt all dirty and wrinkled. The kids
ain't hair, ain't comb Oh, listen, stop being raggedy and trifling.

Speaker 5 (10:38):
Look, I'm gonna say it.

Speaker 4 (10:40):
Stop being raggedy and trifling, okay, cause some of this
is just raggedy and trifling. Some of this don't have
nothing to do with a person. Cannot do it because
I promise you this. When they say it's ladies' night,
she's clean. Even if her house is filthy, she's clean.

(11:00):
She's neat because she's trying to catch the next one.

Speaker 5 (11:04):
I can promise you.

Speaker 4 (11:05):
When they say listen, half off for the dudes, they
there and they're clean. If they seeing Air Force ones
and jeans, they there with the Air Force wants and
the jeans own, because that's what it's say. So why
not do the same for your kids? Watching your kid
to school looking like any your thing, looking like don't

(11:26):
nobody care. We gotta stop that. We gotta stop that
and make sure they doing their homework. Make sure they're
doing what they need to be doing every single night.

Speaker 5 (11:40):
Make sure they come home. We're your homework. They come home.
Get right there, get right into them, right to the
right to the game. Like no, no, no, no, no, no.

Speaker 4 (11:51):
Serve not today. We're not doing that game.

Speaker 5 (11:53):
Not today.

Speaker 4 (11:54):
We're not doing the game. Bless your heart, but we're
not doing that game today. So you can take that
game and you can kick rocks with that game because
we're not doing that game.

Speaker 5 (12:03):
What we gonna do today, you gonna.

Speaker 4 (12:07):
Get this reading done. And like they used to tell us,
you gonna get this learning, So you gonna that's what
you're gonna do. You're gonna get this learning today. Whether
you want it or not, you gonna get the learning.
You're gonna get the learning. And that's what's just gonna happen.

Speaker 5 (12:21):
Guys.

Speaker 4 (12:22):
Look, you gotta make sure you have a relationship with
the kid, your children's teachers. You have to make sure
you going up there and look again, do not go
up in there with an attitude because some of these listen,
I'm gonna tell y'all, some of these schools you gotta
pray before you go up there because some of them.

Speaker 5 (12:43):
Now I'm not gonna lie.

Speaker 4 (12:44):
I look, I know, y'all, some of these schools you
gotta pray before you get up there, because you will.
You there's a good chance that you could catch, you know,
a case of two, you know, messing around with some
of these teachers that really.

Speaker 5 (12:57):
Don't want to be there. So I'm I'm not gonna
sit up there in.

Speaker 4 (13:00):
Front and act like all these teachers you can talk
to and all of them got sense. They don't. They don't,
they don't, they just they just therefore a check.

Speaker 5 (13:09):
I'm gonna be.

Speaker 4 (13:10):
Honest with you. But for those that are the few
that are there to actually cater to and teach your child,
let's make sure that we're making their job as easy
as possible. It's not your job, it's not the teacher's
job to make sure your kids know how to write

(13:30):
their name and all this other stuff. You have to
take some responsible We have to take some responsibility as
well for our kids' education.

Speaker 5 (13:39):
So let's stop placing it. If a teacher, y'all do.

Speaker 4 (13:42):
Her job, no no, no, no, no, no, the job
starts at home with us.

Speaker 5 (13:48):
So we have to start.

Speaker 4 (13:49):
We have to do our job, and then we can
point and delegate who is next. But we have to
make sure that we have laid the foundation for our
children to be successful for when they get to school. Now,
I know, y'all, like you know what, Jay, ain't nobody
even trying to hear all that. Well, we need to
hear it, Okay, we need to hear it, especially us
my urban family.

Speaker 5 (14:10):
Listen, my west side, my south listen, my hood folks.

Speaker 4 (14:14):
We need to hear it, y'all because we down we
down hood zero the rest of the world ten we
nou no no, no, no, no no, and we listen. But
for real, we winning though, really, if you really think
about it, because look at all of the good fruit
that they pluck out of the west side, and then
they pluck the good fruit and then they leave the

(14:35):
rest of the undiscovered good fruit here. But it's some
good fruit on the west side, it's some good fruit
on the south side, it's some good fruit in the hood.
So don't let nobody make you think that there's nothing
good going on in the hood, because there's so much
good going on in the hood. We just gotta stop
letting it be tainted by the stuff that's really not

(14:56):
on board, that's.

Speaker 5 (14:57):
Not on the up and up. So it's okay, we
have to call a couple of people.

Speaker 4 (15:00):
You know, you gotta get called out for doing reckless
things and not doing what you're supposed to do by
these kids. So we're gonna make sure that these kids
have a productive year. We're gonna make sure because again
we're gonna make sure we are representing for our children.
So again, mother, stop going up to the school with

(15:20):
them bondis and oh, last, but not least, put some
clothes on. Please stop going up to the school with
them bad bbls out and listen, you got one vanilla
cheek hanging out them nasty shorts. You got another burnt
cheek hanging out them nasty shorts. Listen. I don't know

(15:43):
who told you that that was cute, but can I
tell y'all, come on, it's not.

Speaker 5 (15:50):
It's not it's Look, it's ridiculous.

Speaker 4 (15:53):
Okay, it is absolutely reridiculous. That's not that's not school apparel.
The security guard, Tyrone, he tired of seeing it. He's
tired of seeing it from the post us on social
media they say that they tired of smelling it too.
I ain't never smelled it, but I know I'm tired
of seeing it. So listen, we have to make sure

(16:16):
that we are dressing in a presentable manner when we
go up there to be on business for our kids.

Speaker 5 (16:22):
So again, look, put some clothes on. Let's not be
sitting up here acting like we are this all I got.

Speaker 4 (16:30):
Listen, you got more than them stretched out nasty booty shorts.

Speaker 5 (16:33):
That's showing that lopsided booty.

Speaker 4 (16:35):
Please look, put it up, Okay, put it up out.

Speaker 5 (16:39):
See that's how these bees always hating.

Speaker 4 (16:43):
Nobody's hating, says, nobody's hating. We just disgusted, and we're tired.
We are disgusted, and we are tired of seeing booty everywhere. Listen,
I'm so sick of turning on the tea every time.
If I see one more person twerking, I'm gonna start
just throwing eggs on site.

Speaker 5 (17:03):
I'm so sick.

Speaker 4 (17:04):
Look, I don't even want to see nobody dancing anymore
because I'm just so sick of all of the twerk
and it is absolutely ridiculous, and I get I'm I'm
just done, guys, I'm floored. I am tired of all
of the go ahead, go head. Oh oh, so she
can go ahead, go ahead, little mama, go ahead, little mama.

Speaker 5 (17:26):
So little mama can.

Speaker 4 (17:27):
Do everything, but when it comes down to doing the work, now,
little mama got a problem. Now see now, don't nobody
understand how to read and how to do all this
other stuff because little mama got a problem. So look,
we gotta do better with this. Okay, So can we
agree that this year, parents, mothers, we gonna not go

(17:50):
to school with these filthy bonnets home and we're not
gonna go to the school with these nasty stretched out
shorts that are you know that got your bad BBA
allowed or.

Speaker 5 (18:01):
You know what, or it may not even be a
bb it's too much.

Speaker 4 (18:05):
It's just listen, stop coming up there with them shirts
and the stomach is all and it's just doing all. Look, no, no, no, no, no.

Speaker 5 (18:16):
Why do I have a problem Because I get distracted.
So I know these kids are distracted.

Speaker 4 (18:21):
Okay, I get stuck right in mid thought and I'm
just like, what in the world is going on? Yes,
ceter they cutting off already, and this is just this
is just the first couple of days of school.

Speaker 5 (18:36):
So imagine what the school year is gonna bring.

Speaker 4 (18:39):
That's not bees be wanting to hate, bees be mad
because they ain't built like ma'am. Let's just settle this.
We're not We're not mad. We're we're we're not mad.
We're glad that you are built. However you built, We
glad about that. We just don't want to see it
nor smell it. We don't want to see like you're

(19:00):
distracting the children, ma'am. It's about the children, fellas.

Speaker 5 (19:05):
We and and mother Suku.

Speaker 4 (19:07):
Y'all be smoking at weed too when you're dropping these
kids off. Please stop smoking at weed in the car
dropping these kids off. Stop smoking at weed and listen.
Stop listening. Look, I'm not trying to tell nobody how
to parent. Okay, not trying to tell not but let's

(19:28):
reconsider let me say this, say it this way. Let's
reconsider the type of music that we Let's consider the
type of gotcha cedric, thank you. Let's reconsider the type
of music that we have. And we're exposing our kids too.
Let's kind of reconsider that type of music because again,

(19:52):
we got all of this stuff and the kids are
being exposed to all of this, and then they go
to class and you dropping them off to school and
and b be this, and I'm gonna stump for them,
and then they get the class and then now they
can't focus on this. So men, he played one. He

(20:13):
played nick neck on my thumb with a knugger. They
can't focus on that. You know why, because they too busy.
They rable to stump or be out because that's what
you don't put in their little spirits on their way
to school. So we definitely gotta be mindful of that.
And we gotta, y'all, we just gotta do better by
the kids. We gotta do better by what we are

(20:37):
exposing them to. And just man, just focus on creating
a better and positive environment.

Speaker 5 (20:45):
We gotta work with what we got.

Speaker 4 (20:47):
So just because we in the hood don't mean we
gotta go and fall into the near the negative stereotype.
So let's help foster in a more positive environment, faster
in environment of learning and higher learning and growth and
positivity so that you can see your little plants they

(21:07):
grow up to be strong, positive, productive trees opposed to
strong week week and rotten trees. So let's think about that, guys.
We're gonna take a short musical break and when we return,
we have more hot topics to get into. Guys, listen,
you thought that was something Listen, were on a road tonight.

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You're listening to the j spot where we are strengthening
relationships and families. One conversation.

Speaker 6 (21:38):
Getting homes and you love us and no it doesn't
care not to please me.

Speaker 7 (21:47):
I like law, those stays.

Speaker 6 (21:50):
Right by myselfe.

Speaker 7 (21:54):
Sheem my fine, homma clode and sounds.

Speaker 6 (22:00):
It's not getting pissed. I gotta be freaked a woman
in the shit.

Speaker 7 (22:04):
They got to grow up in a pan.

Speaker 6 (22:06):
Ain't no imitation here we do with grown folks down
all the clamos.

Speaker 7 (22:10):
Coping that dy like aid.

Speaker 6 (22:13):
Oh yeah, that's what I'm luck in fun. Oh yeah,
now that's my sight shut.

Speaker 4 (22:19):
She saw something.

Speaker 6 (22:20):
The Kings push your beatty mood. You got a couple
of member syd.

Speaker 7 (22:23):
That's how I do it. I'ma cheat you love Hey,
It's gotta be.

Speaker 6 (22:28):
Something about how I'm gonna change love. I need to
fill something special him. When I stand in her, I'm
cheating love her. I'm very pretty when it comes to
my line. But when my jools are all small off
her line say it's times to choose it. Now I

(22:51):
can stay in the jellou side cause I don't do
the drama. Woo. No, i'ma choose love to that energy energy.

Speaker 7 (23:02):
Oh yeah, she gotta know exactly one love me.

Speaker 4 (23:07):
And when I showed.

Speaker 7 (23:08):
Affection she was she thmas because she I got a
lot of kids. But I'm just grown to play the game.
I don't even entertain you. Hang, kids don't get it
twisted into the bob hey, and she.

Speaker 8 (23:20):
Moved about it.

Speaker 7 (23:21):
He just gotta turn in.

Speaker 6 (23:23):
She just like a cool, like a hour plod in
the snipper got I'll.

Speaker 7 (23:28):
Watch her when she had Oh yeah that's what.

Speaker 6 (23:33):
Yeah, now that's shot, she says the impatims because she
found the side calling the memoside is.

Speaker 2 (23:40):
So I do.

Speaker 7 (23:42):
I'm gonna cheat your love. Heck, this gotta.

Speaker 6 (23:45):
Be something about her that I'm gonna cheat you love.
I hate to feel something special. Hang, when I staring,
I will cheat.

Speaker 9 (23:56):
You love her.

Speaker 6 (23:58):
I'm very vacant when come to my life. But when
I fo was a fastball of her life. City sounds
the cheese and U are you the one bad I've
been search that. I've been searching the.

Speaker 7 (24:14):
Type of girl of iss in my dream in my dreams?

Speaker 6 (24:20):
Stay, are you the one that makes me that's so
so happy? Don't find then missed my life feel.

Speaker 7 (24:29):
So comfy, so complete? Can you satisfying a SENTI what
a satisfaby? Baby?

Speaker 6 (24:38):
Can then?

Speaker 9 (24:40):
Can you be the one that so he is in
my fantasy?

Speaker 6 (24:44):
Baby?

Speaker 4 (24:44):
Can you?

Speaker 6 (24:46):
Oh?

Speaker 7 (24:47):
Yeah, that's why? Oh yeah now thatx W.

Speaker 6 (24:53):
She sounds in the King Special Beatty movie couple of
Memosi is how I'm doing dream Hey gotta be something
about Hey, it's up this special when I stand.

Speaker 4 (25:15):
There?

Speaker 6 (25:15):
If anything, when it comes to my line, by the way,
my pools are all spalling. Her line said, it's time
to choose.

Speaker 2 (25:23):
Everyone.

Speaker 4 (25:32):
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over on all of our platforms. Now, listen, guys, speaking
of notifications and platforms, were gonna get into a little
celebrity news and I want to know what do you
all think about this? So carly read it's saying that

(27:59):
it does doesn't matter what happens.

Speaker 5 (28:04):
Any type of situation.

Speaker 4 (28:05):
She says, don't you ever contact my man for nothing?
I don't care who you are, she says, if she
don't want no woman, her friends, the mother, anybody, no
woman should ever be contacting her man for anything.

Speaker 5 (28:24):
Ladies, what do you all think about that? Do you
think that she has a good point? Like and she
said even.

Speaker 4 (28:33):
If she was in a car accident or something happened
to her, she was in jail, or anything. She said,
let me deal with it. She was like, under no
circumstance are you to contact my man ever? I don't
care what it is. I could need blood from him.
Don't you ever, I'm saying, I'm emphasizing, I'm feeling like

(28:54):
that's what she's saying.

Speaker 5 (28:54):
Don't you never?

Speaker 4 (28:56):
With her perfect nails, she said, don't you ever ever
contact my man in that order for nothing? What do
you all think about that? She said, not even if
it's an emergency. So now I'm gonna agree on some things,
like you.

Speaker 5 (29:17):
Shouldn't just be calling my dude up unless you all.

Speaker 4 (29:23):
Were friends before he and I got together. But if
I'm the introduction, then I'm with her, like, I don't
see what do you all why would why would there
even be a need for you all to exchange numbers?

Speaker 5 (29:39):
That's me. I don't see why there would be a
need to exchange numbers.

Speaker 4 (29:43):
That's one thing. But maybe if he has a business
or she has a business and they're trying to, you know,
get together to connect a network, then I'm not sure
I would have a problem with that, but I would
want to know, like, okay, so what's going on, Like
why do you guys, Like what's the purpose that you

(30:04):
guys connect them? But I'm not gonna go to the
extent where, oh, well, if something happens to me, then
you can't even contact him, then there's no reason for
you to be able to contact him. Stay out of this,
you know, leave him alone. Hey, Erica, how you doing
over there? Hey James, Hey everybody, thank you so much
for checking in. Hey Peterson, why would you need to

(30:28):
contact my man? So I'm with her on that on
a day to day basis, but again, if something happens,
then you should be able to contact him on my behalf.
If I'm laying up in the hospital and he's my
next he's my emergency contact, of course, contact him. Girl
saved my life, you know, but that normal chit chat.

(30:50):
You know, I wouldn't understand what would be the purpose
of you, you know, having to be in contact with
my man like that, Like why would you? Because for me,
I don't want any of my friends dude's phone numbers.
Because I'm telling you, I'm gonna listen, and I know
I feel like I'm the most straight and narrow person.

(31:11):
I am.

Speaker 5 (31:13):
I really really am, I really am.

Speaker 4 (31:16):
So if you come to me about your dude, it's
gonna be a problem because I'm just like, I don't
I look, I don't want them. So my thing would
be this, let me do everything and my power to
ensure that I'm not having any problems and I'm not

(31:36):
overstepping my bounds or I'm not doing anything of that nature,
so that you will be and you will be you know,
you will be comfortable, and I'm going to be comfortable
because the last thing I want to do is be uncomfortable.
And we're supposed to be friends, and you thinking that
I'm pushing up on your man, so and even not
if you even think I'm pushing up, but I just

(31:59):
don't want to give the appearance or even be in
a position where that could even possibly be the case,
because my thing is this, I value friendships.

Speaker 5 (32:12):
I value my friends' friendships.

Speaker 4 (32:14):
I value that, I value relationships, and I respect relationships.
So my thing would be is, I'm not going to
put you in position to you know, not you know,
to not trust me, and I don't want to put
you in position to not trust him.

Speaker 5 (32:33):
Now if you know.

Speaker 4 (32:35):
That you got a mutt.

Speaker 5 (32:39):
Do not stay.

Speaker 4 (32:41):
Do not step to your girlfriends when you know that
you got a mutt. You know he doesn't chet it
on you with everything. Listen, girl, don't come in my ear.
Don't come in my ear with this. Don't come in
my face with this. You know he ain't no good.
You done took him back a thousand times. What you

(33:01):
mean how he get my phone umber? I don't know
he could have got it out your phone? Who else
phone number do he got in there? Don't come talking
to me about the low life that you. I love him, well,
you love him, but do he love you. I'm gonna
tell you something. You with your dysfunction on toxic love,

(33:22):
y'all better run on. Y'all better range on some dog
You're best to range on some where you better range
on because I'm not trying to deal with it. So listen,
take your toxic insecure love somewhere else. So do I
think that Curly Rich, I think that she, you know,
went a little bit too far with the you know well,

(33:42):
I don't care if I am. It's an emergency and
I need some help, don't have a contact. I think
that that part was a little too far from me.
But just generally speaking, I think that she has a point, like,
there's no reason for me to there's no reason for
you to have to contact somebody else's dude. Like, there's

(34:04):
just no reason for us to have to contact this dude.
There's no reason for us to be in contact with
each other if it's not an emergency for her, or
maybe even if we decide to, you know, plan some
type of surprise or something, then you know that could
be the case. But to just be you know, a
part of the random.

Speaker 2 (34:26):
You know.

Speaker 4 (34:26):
Oh, I'm just I'm just checking you just to see
how you doing. I'm just calling you to see how
you doing?

Speaker 5 (34:31):
Bro?

Speaker 4 (34:31):
Why Like I listen, I listen, the whole hood will
come out of me. Hey, pretty Tasha, how you doing?
The whole hood will come out. I'll be like, bro,
dog like why, Like what's the purpose of you?

Speaker 5 (34:45):
How you doing?

Speaker 4 (34:46):
Why do you want to know? How am I doing?

Speaker 2 (34:49):
Like?

Speaker 5 (34:49):
If I'm doing fine, what's it to you? If I'm
not doing fine? What's it to you?

Speaker 4 (34:54):
So like that's where I would want to know, Like
why are you checking on me? Like, don't check on me?
Check on your wamen, That's what you check on, check
on your girl, don't check on me. So I do
see it from that standpoint. Like again, I wouldn't want
to be in position where you know, my name is
being brought up in those type of situations, So I

(35:15):
just wouldn't.

Speaker 5 (35:17):
Cedric is saying no.

Speaker 4 (35:18):
Why even open up the door for those issues? Absolutely,
So it's just like, let's not, let's not do this.
If we see each other in past and when we
see each other when we were her cool, it's all love, family,
it's a big dog, you know, I look all at
all love. But if she's not, if she's not there,
or we're not If she's not there, we're not in

(35:40):
each other's presence. There's no reason for us to be
having private conversations because again it may start off innocent,
but I'm gonna always ask why are we talking?

Speaker 5 (35:52):
Why is this?

Speaker 4 (35:53):
Why is this particular situation? Why is this now happening? Like,
what's the purpose of us? And there would be none.
The only purpose is you're trying to get to know me.
We're gonna set up some stuff and now we gonna
it's gonna be a us. We're gonna be cheated, and
I know that's gonna you. Listen, if you fall for

(36:15):
your friend's friend, your friend's dude, he cheating know her
with you? What do you think is gonna happen with you?
First of all, when the friend find out, you already
know that she's dumping you as a friend. Okay, she's
gonna dump you as a friend, but she's gonna keep

(36:36):
her dude. She's gonna keep her dude. But she's gonna
drop you as a friend. She gonna jump you and
all this other good stuff, but she gonna keep her man.
Now see and see how to happen. So why even
put yourself through all of this to not have a friend,
have all this drama going on? And now you down

(36:57):
like here you go and now you're wondering, Ah, she tripping,
she shan't be south insecure? Where if she your friend,
then you know she insecure. If she your friend, you
know one flew over the cuckoo's nest and got stuck there.
So why would you even test her? She already telling
you now don't be around her, man, She already telling

(37:19):
you that. So whether you like it or not, it's
how she feels, whether you think that she's insecure or not.

Speaker 5 (37:27):
It's how she feels, and she has a right to
feel that way.

Speaker 4 (37:31):
If you think that that's extra, Again, who are you
to challenge how she feels about the relationship. Again, I
wouldn't go that far, but I'm like, okay again with me,
my man? What you calling them fun? But you're calling
them fuck? Like for me, I don't call nobody else's dude,
even if we got some business to take care of.

Speaker 5 (37:51):
And if I do, I'm always letting the woman know.

Speaker 4 (37:55):
If I know the woman, listen, I'm gonna call I'm
gonna call Read and I'm gonna have him to do
such and such like, girl, go ahead, I'm like, I'm
just letting you know. You ain't gotta I'm just letting
you know, because again, I to keep away the just
the appearance, just the even somebody even lie, possibly lying

(38:18):
on you, or if some what if somebody saw you
and Red together and y'all working on.

Speaker 5 (38:23):
Business, but why you wouldn't tell his woman?

Speaker 4 (38:26):
So now they gonna bring it back to oh girl,
and they gonna make it seem like it's something that
it wasn't. So I've always had the philosophy and I've
always thought like this, I need to cover my own behind,
not that I don't have good intentions.

Speaker 5 (38:42):
Not that I'm not on the up and up. It's
not about me. It's not about me not being on
up and.

Speaker 4 (38:47):
Up, or oh Jay, you don't trust yourself around nobody
else's dude. I don't trust your dude. I don't trust
your dude. And I don't trust you because I know
how you can take a little something and you can
go truly to the left, and I would hate to
have to knock you out the side of your brain
for going left over this muth that you got. So

(39:08):
so I look at it like this, I'm looking at it.
I'm being charitable. I'm helping the world. I'm helping you out.
I'm helping you have to not to get knocked out
the side of your head. That's what I'm helping you,
help me, help you not to have me knock you
out the side of your head because you're talking crazy.

Speaker 5 (39:26):
What do I want him?

Speaker 4 (39:28):
Fuck?

Speaker 5 (39:28):
He don't have nothing for you? You taking care of him?

Speaker 4 (39:32):
So what do what? You what? I want to be
in position where you taking care of.

Speaker 9 (39:36):
Me and him.

Speaker 5 (39:37):
I'm good. I'm good, though.

Speaker 4 (39:39):
But but bless your ministry over there, y'all can keep
doing that. See, I'm telling y'all listen, I'm on team.
I would rather have no love than that struggle that
pope broken starving love. I'm good. You're gonna have to
count me out that foolishness. So that's what we're doing
over there. So she say, don't contact the men. Ladies,

(40:02):
don't contact a man, and that's just it. Just don't
contact the man, and then you ain't got nothing to
worry about it.

Speaker 5 (40:08):
See, no, har I'm no foul.

Speaker 4 (40:10):
But if you see an issue with that, you'd have
to ask yourself like, okay, So seriously, why do I
see an issue with my friend saying don't contact her man?
Why would I see that as an issue? Why would
that possibly bug me?

Speaker 5 (40:28):
It shouldn't bug you.

Speaker 4 (40:29):
Because again, you know it's her man and her dude.
Speaking of her man and her dude. Guys, what do
you all think about this? So the lady, she says,
she her and her husband got married and they have
been married for seven years, and so.

Speaker 5 (40:49):
He had five kids outside.

Speaker 4 (40:51):
Of the mayor, so he had five kids before they
got married, and the baby mama, his baby mama ended
up running into some harsh and it caused her to
lose her place, and so now he had to get
custody of his five kids.

Speaker 5 (41:08):
So the wife tells him.

Speaker 4 (41:10):
You know, I told you in the beginning that I
didn't want to be responsible for your kids and I
don't want I didn't want to take on this responsibility.

Speaker 5 (41:20):
I didn't want to be involved with it.

Speaker 4 (41:22):
And so he brought the kids to their home anyway,
and he told the wife that she wouldn't have to
be involved.

Speaker 5 (41:29):
With his kids.

Speaker 4 (41:29):
That he got it. So she said that she left
him because she knew that he would want her to
be involved some type of way with his kids. And
she know he knows that he told her that that's
not what she signed up for, so she left him.
Question so what was she wrong for leaving this man? Again,

(41:50):
he told she told him in the beginning, I don't
want to have the responsibility of having to deal.

Speaker 5 (41:57):
With five kids. You knew I told you this in
the beginning.

Speaker 4 (42:02):
I'm out, you got your kids, I'm out, And she
said she left, and she says she's happy now that
she left him and his five kids, and she's happy
because that's not what she signed up for. So is
she wrong for leaving because I don't. I'm i'm i'm,
I'm I'm stuck. Because here's the thing. We get mad

(42:25):
if men say this, but now here, we got little
miss trifling pants over here. But see, I'm gonna say
trifling pants because she married him knowing.

Speaker 5 (42:39):
That he had five kids.

Speaker 4 (42:41):
So are you saying that you were just okay with
laying up with a man as long as he wasn't
taking care of his kids? You fine with him laying
up with you and got five kids that he's not
taken care of because he's trying to keep you happy.
So therefore he's not doing what he needs to do

(43:03):
for his children because he's focusing on what's making your
ragty behind happy. See right there, that's where my problem
would come in right there, because dude, you chose this
chick over your kids. So like that's foul right there,
Like you chose this chick. So you guys both willingly

(43:24):
went into the situation. You went in knowing that he
had five kids. He went in with you knowing that
you wanted nothing to do with his five kids. So
to me, you both were wrong, and they both set
themselves up for this crazy situation because you go in
knowing that you didn't want this, neither one you wanted

(43:47):
you guys, your kids. You knew she didn't want to
be bothered with the kids. This is how kids get hurt.
This is how kids get mistreated. When people are telling
you how they feel about your kids, believe them. Stop
being so desperate. And I'm gonna say desperate, because when

(44:10):
you started choosing people over the well being of your children,
you're being desperate. That's desperate because you chose somebody in
spite of them telling you how they felt about your kids.
You still chose them. And that's not cool. That's not

(44:32):
cool at all, because now you've put your children's safety
in the way. You've jeopardized your children's happiness, You've jeopardized
their well being for somebody else. You jeopardize that for
this woman. The moment she told you that she didn't

(44:56):
want to have anything to do with your kids, you
shouldn't have married her. This is a conversation that should
be in See. This is why I A would say
we gotta have these hard conversations up front. You gotta
have the what if conversations up front, because no doubt,
what if something happened to my girlfriend or my baby

(45:18):
mama with the kids, and then I gotta get custody
and the kids gotta come and live with me. How
are you gonna feel about that? Are you going to
be okay with stepping in and helping me sist you
will be my wife?

Speaker 5 (45:32):
How can you be his wife?

Speaker 4 (45:34):
And you got five he got five kids and you.

Speaker 5 (45:37):
Not have anything to do with it.

Speaker 4 (45:39):
So on the one half of me is saying, you
know what, I'm glad that the Wayne did leave because
opposed to mistreating kids that she already knew she didn't
want to deal with in the beginning. So I am
glad that she did leave, you know. So that's the
thing about that. I'm glad that she left because before
you mistreat the child, it's good that you that you left.

(46:04):
So that's a good thing, because let me find out
you done did something to end one of my kids.

Speaker 5 (46:14):
And one of them.

Speaker 4 (46:17):
You don't, you don't, you don't even want you don't
even want to know, And that's all i'mna says, you
don't even want to know. So we gotta definitely make
sure that we are putting ourselves in position to be
the best that we can be for our kids and
we gotta stop jeopardizing our children's safety and their happiness
over our own. Because it's like, at the end of

(46:38):
the day, the kids did not ask to be here.
And the crazy part about it is this stuff is
happening in real life. So I was in the rod
share a couple matter of fact, it was yesterday, and
so the lady and that, the driver and that we
were talking, and so she told me this exact same thing.
She was just like, you know, she married a man

(46:59):
that did not want to have anything to do with
her two children that she brought into the marriage that
were not his, so he always treated her children differently,
and so she stayed with this man all the way
up into her children were grown. So can you imagine
the emotional and the psychological crap that those kids had

(47:23):
to go through with this man because he didn't want them,
He didn't want he wasn't.

Speaker 5 (47:29):
A father, he was just there.

Speaker 4 (47:32):
So now that he's out of the picture, now they're grown,
and now she finds herself trying to backtrack, and now
she's trying to make up for the times that she
subjected them to being with, you know, with her ex husband.
And now I don't know if she did it because financially,

(47:54):
you know, he provided financially and it was a good
trade off financially for them, but emotionally they suffered a
lot at his hands because he would say things to
them because he didn't want you know, he didn't want
them there. And she did eventually have children with him,
and he treated his biological children better than he treated

(48:18):
her two children from a previous relationship. So it's just like, listen.
So that's why I'm always I'm a firm believer and
I'm an advocate of people saying listen, I don't deal
with people that got kids. Respect those type of people.
You all stop trying to get mad and get all

(48:39):
up in your feeling I'm a package deal. Well, honey,
he don't want your package. The package that you are bringing,
he doesn't want it, So get out of his face
and wait until you meet somebody that does not mind
the package that you bring.

Speaker 5 (48:56):
But you are not the gift for him because he
don't want but you sell them.

Speaker 4 (49:01):
And it's okay. We gotta start respecting people that feel
like that. Fellas, when you get these ladies and they
telling you, listen, I don't want any kids, or I
don't want to deal with a dude that got kids
by another lady that I already got kids.

Speaker 5 (49:19):
You should leave her alone.

Speaker 4 (49:21):
And here's why, because any event anything happened to your
child's mother, and she's no longer the primary caregiver for
your children.

Speaker 5 (49:33):
What are you gonna do with your kids?

Speaker 4 (49:34):
You're gonna let them go to they grandparents, You're gonna
let them go to the foster care system. What are
you gonna do because you're not hooked up with somebody
that already told you I don't want your kids.

Speaker 5 (49:46):
I don't want your kids nowhere around me. Your kids
are not welcome.

Speaker 4 (49:50):
In this house. If my kids are not welcome, neither
am I. And we gotta get good and be okay
with moving ourselves from situations like that. We take all
of this stuff to heart. He saying, he know then
with women that got kids, So what, he don't deal

(50:13):
with women that got kids. It's so many other dudes
out here that deal with women that have kids.

Speaker 5 (50:21):
She man bro, she man bro, She fouled.

Speaker 4 (50:24):
She said, she don't want to deal with me because
I got kids. So what, it's another chick out here
that will deal with you. You find a chick that
got kids and listen, couple up. So I'm never mad
if a man say.

Speaker 5 (50:39):
Oh, well, Jay, I can't talk to you because you
have you have a kid.

Speaker 4 (50:44):
Okay, next, I'm not I'm not for you, and it's like,
I don't what am I getting upset about? What am
I getting in my feelings about? Because I'm not the
couple tea for you, and that's just that. I'm not
the cup of tea. I don't do tea. I do coffee.

Speaker 5 (51:06):
So I'm not mad.

Speaker 4 (51:07):
Because I'm not that for you. I'm cool with that.
Thank you for telling me up front. Thank you before
we wasted all of this time. But what we do
is we like to hide things. We like to act
like it wasn't said. We like to act like all
of this stuff. Then you get your feelings.

Speaker 5 (51:25):
Hurt when they stand on business and say, well, I
already told you.

Speaker 4 (51:30):
That I didn't want this. I didn't want a situation
like this. You was cool to hang out with, you
was cool to do all of this with. Now okay,
it's time for me to move on, Like I met
somebody that brings what I'm looking for. Now we're mad.

Speaker 5 (51:47):
Now we're mad. Now you're all up in your feelings. Now, no,
they told you, but you thought that you was gonna
put it on them that.

Speaker 4 (51:56):
Let's be honest, we'd be thinking all we gonna hang
off the shadowy out out up, and it's gonna be
whose is it? Say my name stand up in all
this other good stuff. And they still leave you for
what they said that they won't it somebody with no kids.

Speaker 5 (52:16):
So you waste all your.

Speaker 4 (52:17):
Time and time and energy getting your feelings all invested
in these people that's already telling you you not what
you not who they checking for? You're not they checking
for somebody else. So listen, pick it all up, brush
yourself off, and keep it moving. But we not gonna
get stuck. So when people tell you that your child

(52:43):
or your kids are not welcome and they're not wanted,
believe them and move on. Stop trying to force stuff. Cedric,
I see you talking about some of that. Bostilios. I
see you.

Speaker 5 (52:54):
I may pick something up this weekend.

Speaker 4 (52:56):
I'm look you gonna we're gonna be enemy, Cedric, I
already tell you that. But but we got to move
on from those situations, because again, it's not healthy for
anybody involved, especially the kids. Now speaking of healthy, listen
to you all, what do you all think about this
foolishness this man him and his wife to breed his

(53:20):
bride to Beya should say, they're planning their wedding and
I think they had over one hundred guests that they
were invited to the wedding.

Speaker 5 (53:29):
And guess what these folks.

Speaker 4 (53:31):
Charging their guests four hundred and fifty dollars to attend
their wedding. What do you all think about that the
bride and the groom are charging their guests four hundred
and fifty dollars to attend their wedding. And so, needless
to say, they got all the RSVPs back and nobody

(53:54):
is coming. And guess what they got the nerve to
be mad, because ain't nobody coming today in a world
four hundred and fifty dollars.

Speaker 5 (54:02):
So, in other words, you trying to charge the people and.

Speaker 4 (54:08):
Have them pay for your wedding. Like why would you
have a wedding that that's that extravagant and you can't
even afford to pay for it, Like just do something small,
Like I thought that that was the raggediest thing. But
they have the nerve to be offended. They have the
nerve to be offended because their guests refuse to pay

(54:32):
the four hundred and fifty dollars. Would you all invite
somebody to your wedding and then charge them, or would
you have something that's reasonable, because again it's like, Okay,
weddings are expensive, but guess what, You're in charge of
your budget. So if you plan something that is within

(54:54):
your financial rem then you should be fine. But the
problem is we get caught up in all of these
extravagant all this from fray, and now you're in debt
after the wedding, like you gotta get the you gotta.

Speaker 5 (55:10):
Get the huge wedding ring, which I don't want a.

Speaker 4 (55:14):
Huge ring because you know, I'm just like not a
huge person like that, like a lot of you know,
so I don't want a huge ring. And then like,
I don't even want a huge wedding because do you
guys know how long those ceremonies are. Let me tell
y'all something what I was, you know, for those that
don't know, I was engaged some years ago and I was,

(55:37):
you know a few days away from actually getting married. Listen,
So I had done been through the wedding rehearsals, had done,
you know, did everything got the hall, just everything like
I was. Just you could blink your eyes and I
would have been married. That's just how close to being
married I was. But I called it off. And now

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going back and looking at all of the money that
I spent, and mind you, I lost ninety percent of
that money.

Speaker 5 (56:08):
I did.

Speaker 4 (56:08):
I lost it, but you know what, I kept my
peace of mind. So if I go back and I say, geez,
you see all this money you lost.

Speaker 5 (56:17):
Would you do it again? I would do it again.
I would totally do it again.

Speaker 4 (56:23):
So I would lose it all again just to be
where I am now, because that would not have been
a good situation. But that also taught me that I
don't want a big wedding. I don't have time for
people like that. You gotta do all of these rehearsals.
You have to practice the dance steps and get the

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march this way, and do this and do I'm like,
I am not doing this foolishness.

Speaker 5 (56:51):
You gotta work with the wedding coordinator.

Speaker 4 (56:54):
You gotta taste them, figure out what cake you want
and how much, saying oh, I am not doing this
foolishness again. I'm running away and I'm gonna comeback married.
I'm going to come back mary. Uh.

Speaker 5 (57:12):
Somebody asked me, are you too still cordial?

Speaker 4 (57:15):
Now we are. But when I first called the web,
now baby, he would see me in traffic, Baby, he
was giving.

Speaker 5 (57:22):
Me both of them middle fingers.

Speaker 4 (57:23):
I'm just like, oh you rude. I'm like, oh, okay.
But now now, now it is. Now it's cordial. I
really don't see him like that a lot. But I've
talked to him a few times and he's wanted he's
wanted to go to lunch. Now. Listen, I'm from the

(57:44):
West Side, brother. Listen, ain't no way what we got
to talk. We ain't got no kids together, we ain't
got no business together, we ain't got nothing together. You
are not fan to strangle me up and feed me
to the dogs. I'm sorry, I'm not so I'm good
on that. So I'm not gonna no, I'm not interested
in that part. But I still love you.

Speaker 5 (58:03):
But I nope, nope, nope, nope.

Speaker 4 (58:06):
We can be friends from a distance. So yeah, we
are still cordial. The times that I've seen you know,
I've talked to him. You know, a few years ago,
he caught me every now and then you know, and
talk to me or whatnot. So I mean, it's it's
cool on my part, but I'm like, I'm still watching you.
I'm like, I'm not gonna, you know, get to the
point where I'm like, okay, we be f ass and

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I'm gonna go out.

Speaker 5 (58:31):
Mamma ain't raised.

Speaker 4 (58:32):
No, she sure did not. She sure did not. So no,
but I learned that, you know, with all of that
being said and how expensive weddings are, I'm like, I
would not because it was so much. It was so
stressful just planning it, all of the practices and stuff.
So I'm like, you know, going forward, when I do

(58:54):
actually make it to the when I actually make it
to the altar, we gonna.

Speaker 5 (59:01):
We gonna go get we running away.

Speaker 4 (59:04):
We are running away and we gonna listen, be out
there and somebody's chapel or maybe be on an apple
farm or something. But I am not because I don't
have the patience for And that's what going through that
process of planning that wedding, it showed me that I
don't have the patience for that. All you want this nice,

(59:25):
big wedding and this and that, and it was gonna
be nice, but I don't have the patience to ever
go through that again. So I would never plan something
big like that, unless it was something that he wanted big,
and then he could plan it. I'm like, you know what,
I would take the role up the dude. I'm like,
whatever you wanna do, it's fine with me. Just tell

(59:50):
me where I gotta show up and what time I
gotta be there. But I don't won't listen. I don't
care about the cake because I don't like cake like that,
only like cake, So I wouldn't care anything about the
wedding cake.

Speaker 5 (01:00:03):
I don't care about the colors.

Speaker 4 (01:00:05):
Oh well, this is pastile, but it's the napkins are
futia and they won't have pastile in until pastill is in.

Speaker 5 (01:00:13):
Hey, keep all them napkins, keep all of see you
know all that.

Speaker 4 (01:00:19):
You all. My nerves are just not set up for
stuff like that, And it wasn't set up for things
like that back then either.

Speaker 5 (01:00:25):
But now I got a good grip on, you know what,
just saying I'm not doing it.

Speaker 4 (01:00:30):
I'm not doing it, because at times it was times
that I used to say, you know what, I'm just
gonna go ahead on with it, because you know this
is what they want to do today. I'm not I'm
not no. I can't stand up in no heels long
like that, So I probably need to get married on
the beach so I don't have to have any shoes on,
So that would be my wedding. But to ask people

(01:00:52):
to pay four hundred and fifty dollars for something that
you are playing, and this is for you, brother, you
need to lower your buddy and you asking people for
four hundred and fifty dollars. You may need to get
married in your backyard, which as you, your wife.

Speaker 5 (01:01:07):
The preacher, and the dog, as y'all witness. That's what
it's sounded like that you need to do.

Speaker 4 (01:01:10):
But you can't be upset with people if he if
they decide that they can't, they're not going to pay
you four hundred and fifty dollars. They probably don't even
like you like that. You invited one hundred people so
your wedding, ninety three ninety seven of them don't like.

Speaker 5 (01:01:27):
You, so of course they not gonna pay the four
hundred and fifty dollars. They not gonna do it.

Speaker 4 (01:01:33):
Somebody said he wanted to shoot his shot. He probably did,
you know, But the shot listen those shots shooting days
for that particular situation for me is over with.

Speaker 5 (01:01:46):
And my thing is this.

Speaker 4 (01:01:48):
I'm like this when I'm all in, I'm all in
and I'm holding on. I hold on and sometimes I
know I hold on a little bit longer than I should.
And the reason why I do is because when I'm done,
I'm done, I'm ten toes down in mass I'm like, listen,
you can get both of these middle fingers. Once I'm done,

(01:02:10):
I'm done, and I'm a I'm a cool done though
I'm not a done that is going to act up
and act crazy, come to your job, call your job,
try to blow up your spot with your chicken. Now,
I'm not that done.

Speaker 5 (01:02:25):
I'm the done that you.

Speaker 4 (01:02:26):
She never existed. She never existed. Man, she don't call,
You can't call and see.

Speaker 5 (01:02:32):
I'm for what.

Speaker 4 (01:02:35):
Whether you breathe or not breathe, that's no longer my problem,
that's no longer my concern, you know, So if hopefully
nothing happens to you. But when I'm done, I'm done.
So that's why I hold on like I do, because
I know that once the switch goes off, it's just
like the generator everything and that's it. You know how

(01:02:58):
when you hear the power go off and the whole
thing you like, oh deck all the powers off. That's
how I am. And then it doesn't come back on.
So now I can see you in public, I can
speak to you. I can you know, no hard feelings,
no attitude, no nothing, because I know that I gave
it all that I can. And now I'm okay. I'm okay.

Speaker 5 (01:03:22):
I'm okay with not being the person for you. I'm
okay with that.

Speaker 4 (01:03:28):
Like some people think that that's a and sometimes it
can be really hard. I'm not saying that it's easy
to get to that place, but when you know who
you are, like, okay, this ain't This is not the
experience for everybody. Everybody cannot handle this experience. And people,

(01:03:50):
some people try to make.

Speaker 5 (01:03:51):
You feel bad.

Speaker 4 (01:03:51):
Oh yeah, you ain't you ain't married, you ain't been married. Well,
you don't know how many rings I said no to.
You don't know what is being you know why said no?
It's oh you old people getting older? And you know, okay,
I'm like, uh am, I supposed to be threndered Listen.

(01:04:15):
I would rather age gracefully and peacefully. A supposed to
be dealing with some domestic violence. Ish just to be saying, oh, well,
I'm married, but you're cracking my head up. You cracking
my head in the wall every chance you get. But
I was married. Listen, Listen, I got married. Listen, we

(01:04:36):
done did it now? Listen, my last name is changed.

Speaker 5 (01:04:39):
But I gotta have.

Speaker 4 (01:04:40):
Put all this makeup on to have this black guy
that I keep walking for some reason, I keep walking
into this brother's fist. And for the life of me,
I can't figure out why I'm good. I'm good because
I would hate to have to shoot somebody. I'm just
gonna say it, Hey, black eye equal bullet, our b's

(01:05:03):
are not gonna be the same blackout bullet. So to
keep yourself out of that, to keep me out of that,
just listen, just a be at peace with yourself.

Speaker 5 (01:05:14):
You are the only one that you have to be
okay with.

Speaker 4 (01:05:19):
It's just you. You don't owe anybody any explanations. You
know where you come from. You know why you're single,
or you know why you desire your marriage.

Speaker 5 (01:05:29):
You know why.

Speaker 4 (01:05:31):
See they're for me. That's why I always like to
say no e thine self, because for me, I don't
feel like there's an end between for me. So you
see how I just said, you give me a black eye,
I gotta put a bullet in you. You see how
it's not there's no middle. So how did you go
from a black guy to a bullet? Because that's that's

(01:05:52):
where it is. That's what that's what black eye equals bullet.
That's how ce one plus one black eyed bullet.

Speaker 5 (01:05:59):
That's it's the same. It's the same for me.

Speaker 4 (01:06:02):
So why put yourself in that situation just so that
you can say People can say, oh.

Speaker 5 (01:06:09):
Yeah, she married. Yeah, you know shit, I got married
a couple of years ago.

Speaker 4 (01:06:14):
You married, and you suffering in silence because you didn't
want to hear what people had to say about you,
you know, not being married. So sometimes you gotta listen.
I'm gonna say all the time, you have to choose
you first. You can't be worried about because listen, people
are gonna talk about you. Whatever. How she thinks she

(01:06:36):
all at because she mad how she ain't married. Some
might'st be around with her.

Speaker 5 (01:06:40):
How she got to you know, so people gonna talk.

Speaker 4 (01:06:45):
It don't matter like you can't win for losing because
people gonna always have something to say. But what you
have to understand is that you have to do what
makes you happy. That said eat the cake anime absolutely
right now you say eat the cake? Now I gotta
shoot you.

Speaker 5 (01:07:03):
You see what I'm saying. See how that do?

Speaker 4 (01:07:05):
Like? See eat the cake now it's a bullet. Now
I gotta shoot you, you know, And that's you know.
Now the family getting up in there now need a bail,
money and lawyer, and then they gotta go talk to
doctor Showinsky and then doctor Shlewinsky gonna tell them, you know,
will we gonna have to That was insanity right there.
Do you see her her her her mental record, like

(01:07:27):
she don't look like she's crazy. Ah, did you see
these notes that I've been taking on this chickpall these years?

Speaker 5 (01:07:34):
Now you're family mad because I ain't got to spend
no time up in there. You see what I'm saying.

Speaker 4 (01:07:37):
So look, let's just keep everybody safe. Me and doctor
Showinsky we kicking it over here. But everybody listen, ladies,
don't let society press you or make you feel bad
because you're over thirty or thirty five and you're not

(01:08:00):
married or you've never been married, or you don't have
any kids. Don't let society put that type of pressure
on you, and then you end up in a situation
where you would go back and say, man, I wish
that I had to just stayed to myself. I wish
that you up in the bathroom crying, or you on
your way home from work and you don't want to

(01:08:22):
go home from go home from work because you know
what's waiting waiting for you when you get home. Why
why put yourself through that? Why if just to say
that you married, But if you got a good dude,
and that's what y'all going for, then rock out, because listen,
I'm all for marriage, all for marriage, all for love. Listen,

(01:08:43):
Believe it or not, I'm a sucker for love. I'm
a big romantic. But then, like I say, when, when
when the switch flips though, that's see, that's the thing,
when the switch flip and you gotta cock that thing back.

Speaker 5 (01:08:56):
I'm okay, I'm I'm okay with that one too. So
know y thine self.

Speaker 4 (01:09:01):
But don't let people put that pressure on you and say, oh, well,
you're not worth it or something is wrong with you
because you've reached a certain age. And man, because I
hear people you know, some people say, oh, she ain't
got no kid, something must be wrong with her. She
probably don't want no kids. She probably never wanted any kids.

(01:09:24):
You ever thought about that. It's not hard to make
a kid, So it's you know, so she took the
measures to not have a kid, especially if she wasn't married.
If she's not married by a certain age, some must
be wrong with her. Why you ain't married? Why you
she must be crazy. Listen when dudes, at this point,

(01:09:46):
if you out there dating and you ask me, why
are you single?

Speaker 5 (01:09:52):
Something must be wrong with you. I'm like, aren't you
single too? So what's wrong with you?

Speaker 4 (01:09:58):
Then you get the looks like I just unless you're
not single? And you up in here pretending like you single.

Speaker 5 (01:10:06):
So some listen.

Speaker 4 (01:10:07):
So somebody gonna say something.

Speaker 5 (01:10:08):
Somebody.

Speaker 4 (01:10:09):
But don't let people put all of this ish on
you that you don't put on yourself. So like the
sin in the comments, love yourself. Be happy with where
you are. I'm not saying this is not a oh
I don't need a man because I don't jump on
that train. Listen.

Speaker 5 (01:10:29):
I love men.

Speaker 4 (01:10:31):
Listen. There is nothing like the power of the schlong dog. Okay,
let me, let me see what I'm saying. Listen, the
right one connected to the right dude and the right personality.
We all that popping, but you get.

Speaker 5 (01:10:43):
The wrong schlong dog with the wrong dude. Now forget it.

Speaker 4 (01:10:48):
Just count me out. Just count me out. So you're
not gonna hear me over here saying.

Speaker 5 (01:10:52):
Oh I don't need a man, I don't like me
and being this.

Speaker 4 (01:10:56):
Mm hmmm, wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong, cystover here. I loves
me a brother, love them, love them the pieces, you know,
I just you know, it seems like it's the crazy brothers.

Speaker 5 (01:11:09):
I'm going through my crazy season right now, so that's
the ones that you know want to love on you.

Speaker 4 (01:11:15):
You gotta be careful with that type of foolishness, you know,
because look, okay, everything be real. But it's okay with
just saying you know what, Listen, I'm a chill because
what's for me is for me, and maybe if it's
not meant for me to be married a coupled up,
I'm okay with that because and we're gonna do a

(01:11:35):
show about this being single versus being lonely. But don't
let society like put all that ish on you. If
you know that you're going to be happy. And ain't
nobody knocking you upside your head and you getting up,
And ain't nobody cheating on you, Ain't nobody lying to you,
Ain't nobody stealing from you, ain't nobody stressing you out?

Speaker 5 (01:11:57):
You wit it. I don't care what society say you
are with it. Imagine being in a situation.

Speaker 4 (01:12:03):
Where you know.

Speaker 5 (01:12:05):
Something said, girl, you better run, and you chose to stay.

Speaker 4 (01:12:12):
Can you imagine what type of price you're gonna have
to pay for not listening to what the ancestors was
telling you, girl, Get on up out of that the
angels that have been assigned to watch over you, and
you didn't get up out of there and they told
you to. Now you gotta deal with all of this
stuff that you would not have had to deal with

(01:12:35):
had you just listened to what was in you opposed
to being following and you know, falling to the falling
with the pressures of this society to couple and get
with somebody that is not for you, and you, knowing

(01:12:55):
your gut feel like for me, I saw it. It
was clear day.

Speaker 5 (01:13:01):
I said to myself.

Speaker 4 (01:13:02):
I said, it was the things that we were just
dealing with and challenges and stuff like that, and I said,
you know what, man, I already saw Listen, I'm gonna
say something real key you guys. I saw me having
to go through get in a divorce before I had
even made it down the owl. I'm just like all

(01:13:23):
of this stuff, I'm like, it was in my mind.

Speaker 8 (01:13:25):
You.

Speaker 4 (01:13:25):
I wasn't talking to family and friends about this. I
was just processing all of this stuff internally. I was
just processing all of this, and I'm just like, man,
you know, I need to get out of here. Like
I'm like this, this is this that bull junkie right here,
and I'm like this could get bad for a whole
lot of people if this continues.

Speaker 5 (01:13:47):
Like if we go forward with this, this is not
going to work.

Speaker 4 (01:13:51):
So I'm like, wait a minute, why do I have
to get a divorce when I can just not show
up to the When I can just call this ish
all right now. It's gonna be cheaper than going through
the process, you know, of going through this day and
trying to get me in and going through this whole circus.

(01:14:13):
Guess what I said, You got to kill me out.
You got to kill me out. And I left. Man,
I'm like, yo, Deuce is like I'm done. That's it.
That's it, that's it. Was it a hard decision?

Speaker 9 (01:14:31):
No?

Speaker 4 (01:14:32):
Was it? Have I looked back and said, man, you
know s no, not at all, not at all.

Speaker 5 (01:14:39):
And I'm like, it was just.

Speaker 4 (01:14:41):
Well with my spirit because that was the decision for.

Speaker 5 (01:14:46):
Me to make.

Speaker 4 (01:14:47):
That was not my forever person, that was not my
that was not my leader, that was not my king,
that was not my partner, And it was okay. Now
that people have I'm to say, absolutely, may God care,
absolutely not.

Speaker 5 (01:15:04):
They were still talking.

Speaker 4 (01:15:06):
And guess what while you talking, you getting cheated on,
and I'm sleeping in peace, You getting knocked upside your head,
and I'm sleeping in peace. You getting your money stole
from you and spent on other chicks, and I'm sleeping
in peace, keeping all my money, keeping all this.

Speaker 5 (01:15:23):
So who really?

Speaker 4 (01:15:25):
Who really winning? So don't worry about what people are seeing.
Stand on your own two feet and do what makes
you happy. But the thing is, you gotta be able
to you gotta be willing to stand ten toes down
in it, no matter who like it and who don't.
And once you start living like that, this is my

(01:15:47):
life and I make my rules and you live on
your own terms. You're gonna be freer, you're gonna be
happier because listen, nobody is over my happiness but me.
If you don't like it, there's the door, like you
can exit, you can rotate left.

Speaker 5 (01:16:04):
And that's where I had got to the point where
it was like a switch.

Speaker 4 (01:16:09):
That came on, because you know, sometimes I used to
not say everything, but it was like once the you know,
I just felt liberated. I'm like, I'm just gonna start
saying anything. And now once you start saying anything, now
people leave you alone. See now now because now you
gotta be the bad guy. Oh I right now she's
gonna start because if you leave me alone, then I

(01:16:30):
won't start. But if you open up Pandora's box, baby,
I'm coming for you full fledged. So like they used
to say back in the day, don't start none. It
won't be none. But when you're talking about having these
weddings and things like that, I would say, plan something
that is within your budget, because it's unfair to plan

(01:16:53):
a huge wedding like that, playing something huge like that
and you know that you are not able to afford that.
Don't plan stay in your budget, stay in your rem
stay in something that is going to be feasible for you.
So rock out. But again, if you're not there and
you don't have anybody and you single, or you are

(01:17:15):
of a certain age and you don't have kids yet
and things of that nature, listen, don't let all this
is stress you out.

Speaker 5 (01:17:24):
Stop focusing on what you don't have.

Speaker 4 (01:17:27):
And that's because that's right there, That's what keeps a
lot of people unhappy, is because you think about all
of the stuff that you don't have. So it's like
it's sometimes it's just helpful to redirect that energy and
focus on what you do have, focus on the good
things that you do.

Speaker 10 (01:17:45):
What do you what good do you have going on?
Opposed to hold man, I don't have a man and
I don't have it is and I don't have oh
oh oh cry me a.

Speaker 4 (01:17:57):
I'm like, look, you come, look, it's only it's only
one or two complaints you get with me, and then
I'm gonna be like child okay, because I'm like I
want to find her. I want to find a solution.
I'm a solution seeker. So you cannot come to me
complaining and just want to complain. You don't want to
find a solution. You don't want to find a way out.

(01:18:19):
You cannot because listen because my nerves are not there
like that, like my nerves are the way I'm wired.
I'm like, okay, and this ain't right and this ain't right.
And so while you're staying there, okay, so I already
see solutions on how we can get you up out
of that, but you don't want to hear the solutions.
You just want to keep complaining. And I be like,

(01:18:40):
woo once I once I started the poor child, just
know you're finna get put out.

Speaker 5 (01:18:46):
Fin the end of conversation. One of the two is
about to happen.

Speaker 4 (01:18:50):
You about to get put out or I'm gonna have
to end the conversation because you draining me all of
this draining stuff, all this complain girl, can you believe
he cheat?

Speaker 11 (01:18:59):
Oh?

Speaker 4 (01:19:00):
And with the cheating stories, listen, once you know that
they are cheaters and you take them back because they
don't promise to change. And that's fine. I'm not with
I'm not against anybody that believes in reconciling and all this.
I'm all for love Team Jay Love, Yep, yep, all that.

(01:19:23):
But friend, you cannot come over here and keep calling me.
Tell girl, can you believe Nope? Nope, nope, nope, nope, nope, nope.
We've been through this already. You already know what you're
dealing with. So look, let that man cheat in peace. Okay,
let's stop. Look stop because we already know what happened.

(01:19:44):
The last time you found out he was cheating, you
took him back. So that's why he's cheating again. So
now you have forfeited your right to come over here
and complain and think I'm gonna listen to it, because
I'm just I'm not built like that. I'm not built
like that to go through the complaining all over again. Yeah,

(01:20:09):
And I saw him over there, and can you believe
he got to to now he got another it's another
girl involved. Can you believe? No, The question is can
you believe it? I'm sitting up here like I can't
believe you actually on my phone with this foolishness again.
And I'm not already told you I love you, Fred,

(01:20:33):
but we're not talking. We're not talking about this because
here's why do you guys ever feel like this? Like
you have friends and they come to you and they're
dealing with their relationship issues and they have a partner
that's cheating or not doing right, and you know that
they don't want to hear the truth. All they want

(01:20:54):
you to agree with their decision, and when you don't
agree with it, you know, now you go lose a friend.
So what I do is, I'm just like, I don't agree,
but I don't say something that I know will tear
up what you trying to believe in, because I already
know you ain't going nowhere. You know your friends and

(01:21:16):
you know how they're talking, and you know whether or
not they going somewhere. So once I decide that you
ain't going nowhere, I'm ready to talk about something else.
So you'll come to me and call me girl?

Speaker 6 (01:21:31):
Can you can you?

Speaker 4 (01:21:33):
Can you believe he not did this? And I caught
him over here and this and that? You know what
my next question be.

Speaker 5 (01:21:42):
I'm like, so, now what you getting the kids for Christmas?

Speaker 4 (01:21:44):
What's y'all going? Is y'all mama cooking your sister and them?

Speaker 5 (01:21:47):
We what we doing for you?

Speaker 4 (01:21:49):
Ain't hear what I said? I said, huh, you you
ain't here what I said? I was telling you I
saw him cheating, y'a. I said, you did you not
hear what I said? I said, what are we getting
the kids for Christmas? What are you cooking? Or am
I cooking? So you don't want to talk about it.
We already talked about this six months ago, and you
took them back. Somebody said, let them do their thing.

(01:22:12):
Let them do their thing.

Speaker 5 (01:22:13):
Absolutely, I let them do what they gonna do.

Speaker 4 (01:22:16):
Let them cheat in peace and leave me so I
can live my life in peace, and we you and
I can be in peace. Because if I tell you
how I feel, then now you're gonna be mad at me.
So I know you don't want to hear what I'm saying.
I know you don't want to hear it because you
can tell by a person's conversation that they just want

(01:22:39):
you to listen and agree with what they're saying. But
if you say something that goes against what they believe
in and they what they want to accept from that situation,
now guess.

Speaker 5 (01:22:53):
What you become.

Speaker 4 (01:22:54):
You become a hater. You are They just didn't want
to see us together. Now why some want to say, listen,
I don't care if you all are together or not.
What I ask and beg of thee, don't put me
in it because see now when I get off the
phone with you, now I gotta go talk to myself
about you because the stuff that I could not say

(01:23:18):
to you because I know it's gonna slice you from
here to here.

Speaker 5 (01:23:21):
You know, I gotta go.

Speaker 4 (01:23:22):
Now, I gotta go talk to myself to vent about what.

Speaker 5 (01:23:26):
You're giving me. And so I try, because doctor Slewinsky
have asked me.

Speaker 4 (01:23:32):
To limit the amount of times that I'm talking to
myself so in order to not do that, because now
you're gonna have them up my meds like now like
it's something wrong with me, But no, you causing me angst.
I like the word anks. You causing me angst in
my life.

Speaker 5 (01:23:49):
And I don't need it.

Speaker 4 (01:23:51):
So listen, guys, let people do what they gonna do.

Speaker 5 (01:23:54):
Rock out, do whatever, live however.

Speaker 4 (01:23:57):
But most importantly, you rock out and you live however.
You live on your terms, and you do what makes
you happy. Don't let this world tell you that something
is wrong with you because you don't have kids at
a certain age. Don't you let this world tell you
something is wrong with you because you're not married or
you haven't been married by a certain age. Don't let
this world do that to you. If you are happy

(01:24:20):
where you are, that's great. If you not happy where
you are, get happy, get happy in the situation that
you are in, and then watch things change. Whatever is
meant for you. We have to start understanding this. What's
meant for me will be. You may be desiring something
that is not meant for you. And I'm not saying

(01:24:42):
having kids or marriage is not meant for you. I'm
not saying that. I'm saying, get good at understanding and
accept them what the assignment is for your life. Because
my assignment is different from your assignment. So we gotta
be happy with where we are. And man, listen, it's
meant to be. It will be, somebody said exactly. So

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it's what's meant to be.

Speaker 5 (01:25:05):
It will be.

Speaker 4 (01:25:05):
So you gotta continue to walk in that. But if
you listening to all these memes and all these pot
see this ain't gonna go viral. You know why because
I'm trying to keep us together. See I'm not talking Oh,
men ain't this and women ain't this? See I'm not
talking that. So this ain't gonna go viral. It's cool

(01:25:26):
because I'm trying to keep us together because I believe
in us being together. So I'm saying, don't listen to
all of that that negative stuff that's out here. That's
all you see. Oh, black men are not choosing black women.
Ain't want black women whoa no, stop taking all that
stuff in. It's just no. Your time is coming, Gods.

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we're gonna get into tonight's hot topic, the pros and
cons of co parenting. Are you on board or are
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You know, sometimes I miss those college days, you know,
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I missed those days.

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But now being an adult, you know, some things changed.
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You know, working you know, working a lot, you know,
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you know, all types of stuff. You know, still trying
to get a little snooze in from.

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But you know what, sometimes it ain't always like that.
You know, you gotta always be on the hustle, and
that's what I've been doing.

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you know, keep me balanced, sor to speak, you know,
got over this so they can see you in over
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we're gonna get in our to our topic for tonight.

(01:31:41):
Tonight we are talking about the pros and cons of
co parenting. Now here's the here's the question. How willing
are we really to put our grown up differences to
the side and do what's best when it's come to

(01:32:04):
when it comes to dealing with the for your children
and when it comes to dealing with the other parents,
how willing are we to do that? Because a lot
of times, listen, we get all up in our feelings
and we want to do what is best. You scoot
up to the same sumpson. We want to do what

(01:32:24):
we want to do, and we want to be right
about everything, and sometimes that's not always feasible for.

Speaker 5 (01:32:31):
Us to be right about everything.

Speaker 4 (01:32:33):
So I say, when we are talking about co parenting,
you know what, sometimes we got to give up our
right for the other person's wrong just so that we
can have a peaceful situation. And so when we're going
and talking about co parenting, do you make it hard

(01:32:56):
to deal with you? So?

Speaker 5 (01:32:57):
I know you are young man, you coming up in
the ranks and everything.

Speaker 4 (01:33:01):
So just generally speaking as a young man that's dating,
do you think are you hard to deal with?

Speaker 11 (01:33:08):
Honestly, I'm not hard to deal with. I mean I
feel like that. I just I just want to be heard,
you know what I'm saying, Like, I just want to
be heard. I want my my feelings to matter, my
thoughts to matter, you know what I'm saying, Like I
want to be able to come to that person and
just tell them, you know how I'm feeling. And you know,
if you know, if that person doesn't respect that, they

(01:33:30):
first of all, they're not gonna respect you for who
you are, and they're not gonna respect you know what
you stand for.

Speaker 9 (01:33:35):
And that person is not for you.

Speaker 11 (01:33:37):
And that's a that's a straight up facts right that
they're not They're not for you, and you need to
find somebody else. So I mean, like I said, like
I'm not hard to deal with it all or very
well put together, god fearing man. You know what I'm saying.
If the young lady out there, she don't accept me
for who I am, it's no no hard feelings. I mean,
it's somebody else out there for me, you know what

(01:33:59):
I'm saying. I'm pretty sure the Lord knows who it
is and he's gonna direct them to me. And I'm
not gonna go soul searching around doing none of the
other stuff. He gonna he gonna place some right there
for me and be like, there you go, there, you
gonna sirt this, this right here is the one for you.
Now if you mess it up, then that's all on you.
And I'm and I'm gonna have to be like, you

(01:34:19):
know what, Lord, you are absolutely right. I'm gonna believe
I'm gonna trust you on that, and I'm gonna I'm
gonna I'm gonna stick with what you say, because if
you say this is the right one for me, hey,
I'm hey, hey, I'm gonna do it.

Speaker 9 (01:34:29):
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 5 (01:34:30):
So, oh yeah, this guy, he sounded real familiar.

Speaker 9 (01:34:34):
That's what you call bars, right though, So take notes, fellas.

Speaker 4 (01:34:39):
So listen, when I when I think about am I
hard to deal with? Do I make it hard to
deal with me? And I will say, why are you
looking at me like that?

Speaker 9 (01:34:51):
Oh yeah, this is gonna be interesting?

Speaker 4 (01:34:53):
Hell yeah, I should have just skipped on by this.

Speaker 9 (01:35:00):
No, go ahead and tell them, go ahead and tell them.

Speaker 4 (01:35:04):
So there's a two part question. This is a two
part answer for me. So I'm not hard to deal with,
but I'm hard to play with, if that makes sense.
So the being in the One of the privileges of
being in the thirty plus plus plus age range is

(01:35:26):
knowing myself.

Speaker 5 (01:35:28):
And when I say knowing myself, I know what.

Speaker 4 (01:35:32):
I'm going to deal with, and I know what I'm
not gonna deal with.

Speaker 5 (01:35:35):
I know what battles to choose.

Speaker 4 (01:35:39):
And then when I'm so old school saying, I know
when to hold them and when to fold them. So
I choose my battles wisely. And sometimes that may come
off as being hard to deal with because today today's me,
I don't have a lot of energy to argue and

(01:35:59):
go back and forth.

Speaker 5 (01:36:01):
I just don't.

Speaker 4 (01:36:02):
So if I see that we're not on the same page,
then I'm gonna let you be right and I'm gonna
move accordingly. So from some people's standpoint, that may make
one hard to deal with. And if that's so, then
I'm hard to deal with when it comes to being

(01:36:23):
that way. But when it comes to raising kids and
co parenting, I'm a firm believer on we have to
do what is best for the child. We have to
do what's best for the kids, and a lot of
times we as grown people, we make it hard because

(01:36:49):
I want things my way, they want things their way,
and we're not looking at the big picture. And the
big picture is the little person that is involved. So
we should be able to put aside our differences, our
dislike for each other, our contempt to whatever that feeling

(01:37:10):
may be that's negative. We should be able to put
that aside for each other and focus on doing what
is best for the kid.

Speaker 5 (01:37:19):
Because here's the deal, we didn't have that much contempt
contempt for each other when we was a toe you
with all that. See when we getting it in Listen,
it's all who's this is? Say my name?

Speaker 4 (01:37:36):
I'm tenth told that. Listen, it's all fun. Now there's
a kid involved. Now we can't stand each other guts,
But we gotta go back to that place in our
mind for when we did have a little bit of
positive feelings for that person, and now we gotta do

(01:37:57):
what we have to do to make things work for
the kids.

Speaker 5 (01:38:03):
So is it possible to co parent with somebody that
you really don't get along with?

Speaker 4 (01:38:12):
What do you think about that? Would that be an
ideal situation? Would you be able to coperent with someone?
If ever being in that situation that you don't get
along with?

Speaker 11 (01:38:23):
Now, it depends you know, because you know, some people
might be able to. It depends on the type of
person you know, that you're dealing with.

Speaker 9 (01:38:32):
You know, if they.

Speaker 11 (01:38:34):
You know, if they don't have a problem with like
co parents and y'all. You know, y'all get along, well,
you know, of course it's going to work out. But
for some people, it's just not gonna work out. Like, like,
it's just not gonna work out. You know, y'all got differences.
You know, y'all fight and argue all the time, stuff
like that she not.

Speaker 9 (01:38:52):
Hearing you and you not hearing her.

Speaker 11 (01:38:54):
It's just not gonna work you know what I'm saying,
especially if y'all haven't like sat down and like actually
had the actual conversation with each other face to face.
And that's why, like dating and when it comes to
like dating women and like just like talking and stuff
like the relationship, it's important to communicate, you know what
I'm saying. It's important to like, you know, talk about
this stuff because in situations when you have, like you know,

(01:39:17):
when you have like kids and stuff like that, like
it's gonna be hard to like, you know, explain that,
you know, like to like the kid and stuff like that.
You know, like why mom and dad didn't get along
and stuff like that, and why they co parents and
stuff like that. Then the kid gotta like look to
you know, the mother and the dead, you know, like Okay,
so who wrong? Like I mean, because I didn't have

(01:39:37):
to come in this world, you know, they're gonna be
the kid gonna be looking at both of.

Speaker 9 (01:39:40):
Y'all, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 11 (01:39:41):
So, like it's it's just important to like, you know, communicate,
especially in like relationships and especially and like the dating
face because like I just feel like that in this generation,
in this world's like no nobody is doing that. Like
nobody is communicating. Ain't nobody having like these actual conversations
and stuff. And that's why the dating game is just
it's just bad out here, you know what I'm saying.

(01:40:03):
Like nobody is listening to each other, nobody is like
communicating like they should, and it's like everybody is just
like pointing the finger at each other, you know what
I'm saying, And they're just not having like these conversations.
And I believe that would make a difference if people
that actually had these conversations and like, you know, stop
pointing to blame in other people and just like you know,
point the blame at themselves and like communicate with they partner.

Speaker 4 (01:40:25):
And Sai, you said something there, because communication is definitely
the key in a lot of these situations. And again
to just piggyback on when we are communicating. Sometimes if
you're not being heard, like you feel yourself talking and

(01:40:46):
y'all just talking at each other, you talking round and
round and round. You know what. Sometimes we gotta get
and we don't like doing this, especially sometimes you know,
we as black people. But sometimes you need to get
a third part already involved. You need to get a
mediator involved. Sometimes you need to get a pastor involved,
somebody that you trust, somebody that is going to be neutral,

(01:41:09):
not be on her side, not be on your side,
and somebody that can come together and help you all
sort out whatever the issues are and sort out whatever
it is.

Speaker 5 (01:41:21):
So they hear you, and then they hear the other person.

Speaker 4 (01:41:25):
But then they help you, guys, to hear each other,
because sometimes one of the biggest parts and one of
the biggest pieces to communicating effectively is hearing the other person.
And a lot of times we talk just to get
our point out, or we listen just to be able.

Speaker 5 (01:41:44):
To respond opposed to listening to understand.

Speaker 4 (01:41:48):
And I think that we are all guilty of that
at some point in having conversations with people where we're
not even focusing on what's being said in order to
unders staying what the person is saying, we're listening to
be able to respond. So that's something that some of
us may need some help with doing, especially if you

(01:42:11):
find yourself talking about the same thing over and over
again and you like, Okay, we already talked about this,
and it makes you feel like a person is not listening,
and they may be listening, but they're not really understanding.

Speaker 5 (01:42:26):
So I'm all for bringing a third party involved to.

Speaker 4 (01:42:30):
Try to help, you know, situate and help us get
on a you know, help us become get on one accord.
Because again, when you are co parenting, that means that
something that was a breakdown in what was once a relationship,
and that's not always easy to deal with. So I

(01:42:51):
went from we went from being in love or loving
each other a lot of times, or we went from
being with each other to now we have kids involved,
and now we're no longer together, but we got these kids,
and we gotta be able to work together. And sometimes
let's just be real, sometimes we are not ready to

(01:43:12):
work with each other because I still haven't worked through
my personal issues with you.

Speaker 5 (01:43:18):
You they still love this person, but they've moved on
from you.

Speaker 4 (01:43:26):
But you have a kid, so now you can't afford
to sit in your feelings, and now you want to
keep the kid away from the other person because you're
in love with them, or you still have some feelings
for them, but those feelings are not being reciprocated. So
we can't now take the kid and say, oh, it's

(01:43:47):
all mine just because you didn't love me. I know
you not gonna love the kid. You all. That is
a huge mistake and it's a huge misconception that we
need to stop doing that just because we gotta learn
to separate the two. And I know a lot of

(01:44:07):
time for ladies, some of us, it's hard for us
to do that. It's hard for me to say, you
know what, because he wasn't a good man for me
in the relationship that I know he's not gonna be
a good father. Those are two different things. Those are
two different things. He could have cheated on you all
through the relationship and all through the marriage, but he

(01:44:30):
is a good father. He shows up, he does what
he has to do for the kid, love.

Speaker 5 (01:44:35):
Instills all this good stuff.

Speaker 4 (01:44:37):
So we cannot make that assumption, and we cannot go
around punishing these fathers because they were not what we
wanted in a relationship. So those are two different things.
So when you're talking about co parenting, what do you
think would be some pros for a situation where someone

(01:45:00):
what you have to cope here? Or what do you
think would be some pros to copers?

Speaker 11 (01:45:04):
I would say, you know, it's between like the you know,
two people, uh, the man and the woman. You know,
you know, each of y'all, you know, y'all give a responsibility.
You know she you know you know I would say this,
like write a list down, you know what I'm saying, Like,
write down the list of the things that y'all gonna do,

(01:45:24):
what she gonna do, the list of the things that
you're gonna do, and.

Speaker 9 (01:45:27):
Just stick with it. You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 11 (01:45:29):
And you know, you know I will say if once
you write that list, she and then y'all, you know,
y'all come to an agreement and be like, okay, you
know I could you know, I have no problem doing
this and then you don't have a problem with doing
what you have to do. And once y'all come to
like an agreement, I'll say, stick with that, you know
what I'm saying, Like, you know, stick with the list
that y'all both made. You know, therefore it to be

(01:45:51):
much you know, it'd be much you know, easier, you know,
during like the co parenting process. I'll say, like, you know,
making the list because like you know, that's it's very helpful,
helpful for like both of the two, and like there's
no like no hiccups and stuff like that, there's no
issues and stuff like that because y'all both wrote down
what y'all was gonna do, and y'all have like specific

(01:46:12):
things and tasks that y'all gonna do for the baby.
And I feel like that with that, with those lists,
you know, that'll alleviate so many problems, you know what
I'm saying. So therefore, you know, with the you know,
with the baby and everything, you know, that'll like take
care of like a whole lot of problems. And you know,
and whoever whoever munk up during that, hey, that's that's

(01:46:34):
that's that's their problem. You know what I'm saying, so
you're doing what you got to do on your list,
and she doing what she and she not doing what
she's doing on her list. So she doing certain stuff
on the list, and then she just skip over all
of the other stuff that she doing that she didn't
mess up because she listened to her friends and stuff
like that, getting all of this bad advice and stuff
like that. Girl, you don't need no list, You don't

(01:46:56):
need to do all of this.

Speaker 4 (01:46:57):
Just do them on child support.

Speaker 5 (01:46:58):
You don't have to do all of that.

Speaker 4 (01:47:00):
What you arguing with, Look, you ain't y gotta do
all it.

Speaker 11 (01:47:04):
Then that's where the problem begins at and you just
stick to your list. And since she even messed on
up and she listened to her friends and stuff that
she's she's gonna have to lay in that because she
did that.

Speaker 9 (01:47:16):
She did that to us. So she put her own
self in that situation.

Speaker 11 (01:47:20):
Why because she was listening to her friends when she
could have just simply just followed her her list that
she had.

Speaker 9 (01:47:27):
For the co parancon process. And now she thene monked
on up because she was.

Speaker 11 (01:47:30):
Listening up, she was getting bad energy and bad vibes
and the wrong information from from her friends and yeah,
and that's what's gonna cause and that's what will cause problems.

Speaker 4 (01:47:41):
Right there, listen, thirty thirty thirty plus plus plus plus people.
I would have to say this was a that was
a new one for me. I don't know if you
got but that, to me, that was a really good
point to make a list. And it's a really good
point because now you can hold yourselves accountable. You can

(01:48:01):
hold each other accountable because we said what we were
going to be responsible for doing. Because sometimes we know,
in the heat of the moment of talking about things,
you could be like, oh, I didn't say that.

Speaker 5 (01:48:13):
I didn't say that. I never said that.

Speaker 11 (01:48:15):
But if it's right, here got all we got all
of these gadgets out here, We got all these iPhones,
these androids, these I pads, these all of this stuff. Hey,
write a list, recorded, do whatever you gotta do. Therefore
you can keep documentation improved. You know what I'm saying
that you said you was gonna do what you you
was gonna do, and she said she was gonna do
what she was gonna do. So have for whoever munk

(01:48:37):
up during all of this, you know that's gonna be
that person's fault, you know what I'm saying. So therefore
you gotta pay per trail on what's going on. So therefore,
you know, and I'll actually, you know, will take this
advice for myself as well too, because hey, it's a
whole lot of stuff going on out here in the world,
you know what I'm saying, Like, and you know, the
legal court system out here, they ain't they ain't, they
ain't got nothing, They ain't got no love for the

(01:48:58):
brothers out here. But you know what I mean saying, Oh,
we're gonna rise up like the Three Kings. We're gonna
rise on up against these folks, and we're gonna we're
gonna we're gonna have these We're gonna have these lists,
you know, List twenty twenty four, twenty twenty five. That's
us fellas were coming out. We're gonna be doing lists
forever and ever and ever. Put put in the comments
section lists twenty four, twenty five, twenty six.

Speaker 9 (01:49:20):
And and and infindit it in beyond lists.

Speaker 11 (01:49:23):
We all making lists, and what we're gonna do, whatever
situation in, just just make a list.

Speaker 4 (01:49:28):
Stick with the record.

Speaker 9 (01:49:29):
We'll do whatever you gotta do.

Speaker 11 (01:49:31):
But we're coming out with list fellas, we hey we
we we're gonna we gotta regain our spot because yeah,
some of these women are they be trying to they
be trying to trick us on up out here. And
you know what, some of the some of the ladies
y'all gonna have to want to get in on this too. Hey,
make a list, record, do whatever you gotta do. Hey,
save a whole lot of issues.

Speaker 4 (01:49:49):
Well, listen, look, I'm I'm on board for a list.
I mean, like I said, that was the first time
that I heard of a list, and I don't have
that in my notes. So I'm going write that down
because that was definitely a good point, like to make
a list and say, you know what, listen, this is
what I'm gonna do. This is what you're gonna do.

(01:50:11):
And I think the list. Now here's the thing. Let's
clarify this. The list is going to change as that
you know. So the list is so this is where
the communication comes in as so now okay, well I
need you to do this or let me do this,
or let me do that. So this is where the
power of communication comes in at But you know what,

(01:50:32):
the list is going to be so crucial because you
have a starting point. You have a starting point, and
therefore we're not overstepping and stepping on each other and
fighting and pulling with each other.

Speaker 5 (01:50:46):
So I think that that's definitely a good point.

Speaker 4 (01:50:50):
Now. According to an online source, here are a few
pros to co parenting. The first being co parenting increases
a child sense of security and reduce its stress. They
know that they're loved, especially when they see the parents
getting along.

Speaker 5 (01:51:09):
See, it's very helpful. Don't get me wrong.

Speaker 4 (01:51:12):
I believe that the ideal household for a child is
for the parents to be together. That's the ideal, hands down.
But if it's toxic and unhealthy for those two adults
to be together, no, we got it. You go to
your corner, You go to your corner, and then we're

(01:51:34):
gonna come together. I'm gonna be healthy for my kid.
You gonna be healthy. And when we come together, we're
going to be healthy in front of our child. Even
if we don't care too much for each other. Guess what,
our child should never know it so when co parents.
And another big thing is we should never be bad

(01:51:57):
talking to other parents, no matter if you think that
the mama is trifling, you think that the daddy is
no good. The child should never know that. Your child
should never feel that, they should never feel that type
of negative energy towards their other parent, because it's not fair,

(01:52:19):
like you already brainwashing and you're poisoning your child against
the other parents. So now they don't even have a
fair shot to be able to fairly be able to
love their parent because you've impressed upon them your feeling
about that parent. And so therefore that is not fair

(01:52:40):
for us to do that. So we gotta make sure
that we are doing the right thing for our kids.
Co Parenting increases the likelihood of two active parents remaining
active in the kids' life. You're gonna remain active in
the life if both parents are involved, and again, it
just makes a better well rounded It also improves communication

(01:53:03):
and the relationship with the parents. When you guys are
able to come together, to work together, to work it
out and do what's best for the kid. Listen, that
kid is going to win, hands down. That kid is
gonna win. Now here's the thing. Here's some cons to
co parenting. It can be stressful if those levels of

(01:53:26):
communication are not there, if that list is not there
and you're not following the list. It can be very,
very stressful to co parents. It can be stressful when
the parents don't get along. I mean, you guys are
arguing all in front of the kids, just calling each
other every raggedy, ratchet name you can think of. All

(01:53:47):
of that is going down in front of the kids.
And then the next one is the parents. You constantly
trying to pit And this is a big one that
we cannot do this. Let's stop trying to make the
children shoe sides.

Speaker 5 (01:54:03):
You shouldn't want.

Speaker 4 (01:54:04):
You shouldn't feel good about your child not liking his
or her father. You should not feel good about your
child not liking his or her father. You should not
feel good about that. You should not be wanting to
pick the kids against put them against each other where
it's better of it.

Speaker 5 (01:54:23):
I'm better than your mama, don't you don't do that.
Don't do that because.

Speaker 4 (01:54:28):
It's not healthy. And you know who it's not healthy for.
It's not healthy for your kids. So, when we're talking
about the pros and the cons of co parenting, co
parenting is very possible. Co parenting can be a very
positive experience, but it depends on the outlook in the

(01:54:53):
goals of both parents involved. And when I say the goals,
is our goal to raise a well rounded child, or
it's our goal to one up each other, because if
we always put the child's needs first, then guess what
the child is going to get everything that he needs

(01:55:14):
here or she needs from both parents.

Speaker 5 (01:55:16):
But if we choose to.

Speaker 4 (01:55:17):
Feed our egos and one up each other and keep
this toxic stuff going, then guess what the child is
who loses in the end. So, guys, listen co parenting again.
It can be it can be a challenge, but if
we're really focusing on the kids and wanting to make
that situation work, let's start listen. If you having a

(01:55:38):
problem with getting on one accord with the other parent,
try getting the mediator, try getting a third part or
neutral third party involved to try to start you guys off,
and just try to show you, guys, how to communicate
with each other and how to create these lists and
how to become on one accord so that you can

(01:55:59):
do whats best and stop focusing on your dislike for
each other and focus on your love for your child. Guys,
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