September 1, 2022 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 41 year old entrepreneur and I own a brokerage firm. I’m dating a 40 year old former pro athlete and we met 3 years ago. He is a coach and he owns a laundromat. I have my own house and he has his house. I was driving a small sports car when I met him and he suggested I get an SUV for all of my yard signs and stuff for my business..........................................
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and listen.
If you need advice on relationships, on work, on sex,
on parenting, on dating, please please please submit your Strawberry
Letter to Steve HARVEYSM dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter.
We could be reading your letter live on the air,
just like we're going to read this one right here,
(00:23):
right now, and you never know it could be yours. Yeah, right, Shirley, Ladies,
Gylan's time for the Strawberry Letter with my good friend
Shirley Strawberry. All right, thank you, my good friend. Junior
subject subject he called me a call girl. Dear Stephen, Shirley.
I'm a forty one year old entrepreneur and I own
(00:44):
a brokerage firm. I'm dating a four year old forty
year old former pro athlete, and we met three years ago.
He's a coach and he owns a laundromat. I have
my own house and he has his own house. I
was driving a small sports car when I met him,
and he suggest I did I get an SUV for
all of my yard signs and stuff for my business.
(01:04):
I was fine driving my little BMW, but for my
fortieth birthday, he surprised me with a twenty twenty two SUV.
He loves giving gifts and I love getting them, but
it's the commentary after the gift that bothers me. I
wasn't wearing designer labels before I met him, but he
loves to buy them for me, so I let him.
(01:27):
He has flurged on overpriced designer shoes and purses for
me since we met. He said, I have to look
a certain way to represent him properly. He loves to
brag about whatever he spends money on. Over the weekend,
he went too far with the bragging, and now we're
not speaking. We were at a rooftop bar on Sunday
(01:47):
with three other couples, and the males moved away from
the female so they could smoke cigars. They were still
an earshot of where we were sitting, and I overheard
my man say that I'm the black Julia Roberts from
Pretty Woman, and he has spent a lot of money
on me so I can be as fly as he is.
He said I was worth every bit of it because
(02:08):
he plans to marry me. I went over to him
and cursed him out. One of his boys told me
that I'm focused on the wrong part of what my
man said. He told me to focus on the fact
that my guy wants to marry me, But how can
I when he compared me to a prostitute from a movie.
You feel the way you feel. That's okay, your feelings
(02:29):
are valid. But I really think that the anger you
have towards your man and what made you curse him
out at the party was a build up of all
the things that get on your nerves about him. You've
got a big bragger on your hands. He's someone that
is generous, and how he buys nice things for you
but selfish, and how he needs so much attention and
(02:50):
credit for doing that. When you do things for people,
especially for your mate, it should be from the heart
because you want to do it, and gratitude and a
ciation should be all the thanks you need. Although you
love getting the gifts, you're not even into all these
expensive designer things. That is what he wants you to
(03:11):
wear because he wants you to represent him in a
certain way. So I think you were just sick of
all his bragging and saying you were the black Julie
Roberts was the last straw for you, and you just
let him have it. I mean, clearly he's clueless because
in the same sentence he said he wanted to marry you.
I really don't think he was knowingly saying you were
(03:32):
a prostitute or anything like that. He was just bragging
so much he got caught up and says something real
stupid at the time. So tell him how you feel
about his bragging. Tell him you don't like it, and
you want him to stop. But know that this is
who he is before you get married, and he'll only
change if he wants to change for you. But you
(03:54):
know know that you're not the black Julie Roberts. You're
not a prostitute, Okay, And I don't think he really
meant that. I really don't, Steve, Lady, relax, you find
the mess up. Listen to me, Lady, you find the
mess up. You overheard. I'll wait till I get there.
You forty one, your entrepreneur, You own a broken firm.
(04:15):
You're dating a former pro athlete. Met three years ago.
He's a coach. He got a laundrymat. You got your
own house, He got his own house. He was driving
a small sports car when you met him. He suggests
you get an suv for all your yards, signs and
stuff for your business makes sense to me. But I
was fine driving my little BMW. See see right here,
(04:37):
Now here's where you don't. I don't want you to
miss what's happening. Your man actually has an interest in
what you do for a living, unlike some people who
don't give a damn what you do. They just want
what they want. But now he said, you ought to
get an suv so when you're going around in the
brokeish firm, you can have your signs and stuff in
(04:57):
the car. Oh I was fine with my little Yeah
you was, but then guess what For your fortieth birthday?
He surprised you with a twenty twenty two suv. He
bought you and fulfill the need that he saw his
woman needed. He loves giving gifts and I love getting them.
(05:20):
So far sound like we win it, but it's the
commentary after the gift that bothers me. I wasn't wearing
designer labels before I met him, but he loves to
buy them for me, so I let him. Yeah, see,
you wasn't buying designer stuff, but now he buying it
for you. You wasn't into that but you let him.
(05:40):
You know why, because it looked good. You know why,
because it feel good. You know why, because it makes
you look and feel a certain way when you got
it on. That's why you buy the stuff he has
splurged on. Overpriced designer shoes. Listen to me, lady, They're
not overpriced. That's how much they cost. See, they're not
(06:04):
over priced for what they are. Pay Less exists, so
you can pay less Nieman, Marcus Mono, o'blonic, Christian Luberton.
They don't have a But then pay less shoes don't
look like lano and and Christian Lubertins. They don't look
(06:25):
like that. O give a damn what you do? Hang on, Steve,
Oh god, now what I'm like? What are you mad
for her? What for what? We'll have part two. We'll
have part two of Steve's response coming up at twenty
three minutes after the hour. The topic for today's Strawberry
(06:46):
Letter is the subject he called me a call girl.
We'll get back into it right after this. Calm down,
you're listening to show, all right, Come on, Steve, let's
recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject he called me a
call girl? All right, Shirley wants me to calm down
and not be angry in my response, so he is
(07:08):
less attempted. Here is this woman that's an entrepreneur, how
a homebroker or drives a small BMW started dating a
former athlete. He's a coach, got a laundry match, she's
an entrepreneur. He failed for this woman right away and
starts shoing an interest in her and said, hey, you
are to get her by suv instead of driving this
(07:30):
little sports car round for your business. I was fine
driving the sports car round, but on her fortieth birthday
he's surprised it with a brand new twenty twenty two suv.
Oh wow, she liked it. Man, what a guy. So far?
We winning, as I said. And then he loves giving
gifts and I love getting them. Okay, shut your mouth
(07:52):
and keep taking the gifts. What's wrong? And then but
it's the commentary after the gift that bothers me. Everybody
they ain't perfect something, come with everything? You know? I don't.
I don't really care for being famous sometime, but when
they hand me my check, I shut my damn mouth
and gonna gets back to being famous. Okay, almost started
(08:16):
to get loud again, go back. I wasn't wearing designer
labels before I met him, but he loves to buy
them for me, So I let him. Oh, now you
wants to wear the product, the Louis Vaton, Now you
like stuff, uh Birkins, and now you likes the Christian
(08:37):
Loubertons and the Milanos and you like it now, don't you?
And the Jimmy shoes, Yeah, you like it. He has
splurged on overpriced designer shoes. Stop saying that they're not overpriced.
These is what these shoes cost, and them is what
them shoes cost. They not overpriced. That's just that's what
(09:02):
them shoes over their cost. They charge that for a reason.
Them is Shawaska crystals on that shoe. That's why they
up there. That's real leather. That's crock on the toe.
That ain't the frick. Okay, come back down and buys
(09:26):
persons for me. Since we met, he said, I have
to look a certain way to represent him properly. That's
just a man being a little braggish. I'll admit that.
But you know, I want you to be out there
when you're out there with me. In other words, what
he's saying is He want to make sure he looked
like the man he's supposed to look like by having
the woman he got. And if he ain't taking care
(09:47):
of his business, he knows his woman can't look like
she taking care of her business because this man's job
to provide. That's what he's leaning home. He loves to
brag about whatever he spends money on. Over the weekend,
he went a little bit too far bragging and now
we're not speaking. We had a rooftop ball on Sunday,
three couples. He moved over to the female. They moved
away from the female so they could smoke cigars. They
(10:08):
were still in earshot. When sitting I overheard my man say,
I'm the black Julia Robins from Pretty Woman, and he
has spent a lot of money on me so I
could be as fliess he is. And he said it's
worth every bit of it because he plans to marry me.
I went over to him and cust him out. What.
First of all, I never saw Pretty Woman. I don't
(10:31):
know what the hell you talking about. You never saw
that you got? You gotta see that? Yeah, Richard, here,
how has that changed your life? It made you believe
in fairy Tales and Romance again. Yes, okay, well I
didn't watch the movie, but she didn't. Went over and
(10:54):
custed him out because he said that. Then one of
his boys tried to save it as he should and
told me, I'm focused on the wrong part of what
my man says. He told me to focus on the
fact that the guy wants to marry me. The analogy
is unimportant. He don't even know what he realized. He
probably don't even realize what he said. You the black
you were, Julian Robert like, he compared me to a
(11:15):
prostitute from a movie. Black dude, don't even be knowing
all that right there. All he know is you fine
to him, and he's willing to put everything he got
into you because you're worth it, and he wants to
marry you. How to head on? You man ain't speaking
to him. Damn, Julia Robinson, you're stupid ass. Man don't
(11:37):
know movie analogy. What's her name, Julia Roberts, He does
no movie and analogy Because that's what he said, and
that's what happened in the movie. Movie. That's exactly what
happened in the movie. He married her. Yeah, yeah, they
were together they lead you to believe that he just
(11:57):
told us for men. She was a sitt in the movie.
She was a prostitute in the movie. No here the
part y'all missing to him. She was the pretty woman
in the movie. That's Robert, that's what pretty woman in
the movie was. Listen to me. She my Julia Roberts,
(12:19):
my pretty woman. Ain't no man. If the man no prostitute.
Richard Gear he white White. That's a man's driving force.
And when we get around each other, I definition what
we do, who we are, and how much we make.
(12:41):
And he talking trash with his boys. You was in
ear shot. You overheard the conversation between men, and all
the men knew was man he feeling her. Now you
pull yourself together, for you lose your man over a
damn movie analogy, because ain't nobody calling you no prostitute.
Post your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey FM,
(13:04):
on Instagram, at Facebook. Coming up at forty six minutes
after the hour, it's Sports Talk with Junior. Right after this,
you're listening to this Dave Harvey Morning Show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and listen.
If you need advice on relationships, on work, on sex,
on parenting, on dating, please please please submit your Strawberry
Letter to Steve HARVEYSM dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter.
We could be reading your letter live on the air,
just like we're going to read this one right here,
(00:23):
right now, and you never know it could be yours. Yeah, right, Shirley, Ladies,
Gylan's time for the Strawberry Letter with my good friend
Shirley Strawberry. All right, thank you, my good friend. Junior
subject subject he called me a call girl. Dear Stephen, Shirley.
I'm a forty one year old entrepreneur and I own
(00:44):
a brokerage firm. I'm dating a four year old forty
year old former pro athlete, and we met three years ago.
He's a coach and he owns a laundromat. I have
my own house and he has his own house. I
was driving a small sports car when I met him,
and he suggest I did I get an SUV for
all of my yard signs and stuff for my business.
(01:04):
I was fine driving my little BMW, but for my
fortieth birthday, he surprised me with a twenty twenty two SUV.
He loves giving gifts and I love getting them, but
it's the commentary after the gift that bothers me. I
wasn't wearing designer labels before I met him, but he
loves to buy them for me, so I let him.
(01:27):
He has flurged on overpriced designer shoes and purses for
me since we met. He said, I have to look
a certain way to represent him properly. He loves to
brag about whatever he spends money on. Over the weekend,
he went too far with the bragging, and now we're
not speaking. We were at a rooftop bar on Sunday
(01:47):
with three other couples, and the males moved away from
the female so they could smoke cigars. They were still
an earshot of where we were sitting, and I overheard
my man say that I'm the black Julia Roberts from
Pretty Woman, and he has spent a lot of money
on me so I can be as fly as he is.
He said I was worth every bit of it because
(02:08):
he plans to marry me. I went over to him
and cursed him out. One of his boys told me
that I'm focused on the wrong part of what my
man said. He told me to focus on the fact
that my guy wants to marry me, But how can
I when he compared me to a prostitute from a movie.
You feel the way you feel. That's okay, your feelings
(02:29):
are valid. But I really think that the anger you
have towards your man and what made you curse him
out at the party was a build up of all
the things that get on your nerves about him. You've
got a big bragger on your hands. He's someone that
is generous, and how he buys nice things for you
but selfish, and how he needs so much attention and
(02:50):
credit for doing that. When you do things for people,
especially for your mate, it should be from the heart
because you want to do it, and gratitude and a
ciation should be all the thanks you need. Although you
love getting the gifts, you're not even into all these
expensive designer things. That is what he wants you to
(03:11):
wear because he wants you to represent him in a
certain way. So I think you were just sick of
all his bragging and saying you were the black Julie
Roberts was the last straw for you, and you just
let him have it. I mean, clearly he's clueless because
in the same sentence he said he wanted to marry you.
I really don't think he was knowingly saying you were
(03:32):
a prostitute or anything like that. He was just bragging
so much he got caught up and says something real
stupid at the time. So tell him how you feel
about his bragging. Tell him you don't like it, and
you want him to stop. But know that this is
who he is before you get married, and he'll only
change if he wants to change for you. But you
(03:54):
know know that you're not the black Julie Roberts. You're
not a prostitute, Okay, And I don't think he really
meant that. I really don't, Steve, Lady, relax, you find
the mess up. Listen to me, Lady, you find the
mess up. You overheard. I'll wait till I get there.
You forty one, your entrepreneur, You own a broken firm.
(04:15):
You're dating a former pro athlete. Met three years ago.
He's a coach. He got a laundrymat. You got your
own house, He got his own house. He was driving
a small sports car when you met him. He suggests
you get an suv for all your yards, signs and
stuff for your business makes sense to me. But I
was fine driving my little BMW. See see right here,
(04:37):
Now here's where you don't. I don't want you to
miss what's happening. Your man actually has an interest in
what you do for a living, unlike some people who
don't give a damn what you do. They just want
what they want. But now he said, you ought to
get an suv so when you're going around in the
brokeish firm, you can have your signs and stuff in
(04:57):
the car. Oh I was fine with my little Yeah
you was, but then guess what For your fortieth birthday?
He surprised you with a twenty twenty two suv. He
bought you and fulfill the need that he saw his
woman needed. He loves giving gifts and I love getting them.
(05:20):
So far sound like we win it, but it's the
commentary after the gift that bothers me. I wasn't wearing
designer labels before I met him, but he loves to
buy them for me, so I let him. Yeah, see,
you wasn't buying designer stuff, but now he buying it
for you. You wasn't into that but you let him.
(05:40):
You know why, because it looked good. You know why,
because it feel good. You know why, because it makes
you look and feel a certain way when you got
it on. That's why you buy the stuff he has
splurged on. Overpriced designer shoes. Listen to me, lady, They're
not overpriced. That's how much they cost. See, they're not
(06:04):
over priced for what they are. Pay Less exists, so
you can pay less Nieman, Marcus Mono, o'blonic, Christian Luberton.
They don't have a But then pay less shoes don't
look like lano and and Christian Lubertins. They don't look
(06:25):
like that. O give a damn what you do? Hang on, Steve,
Oh god, now what I'm like? What are you mad
for her? What for what? We'll have part two. We'll
have part two of Steve's response coming up at twenty
three minutes after the hour. The topic for today's Strawberry
(06:46):
Letter is the subject he called me a call girl.
We'll get back into it right after this. Calm down,
you're listening to show, all right, Come on, Steve, let's
recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject he called me a
call girl? All right, Shirley wants me to calm down
and not be angry in my response, so he is
(07:08):
less attempted. Here is this woman that's an entrepreneur, how
a homebroker or drives a small BMW started dating a
former athlete. He's a coach, got a laundry match, she's
an entrepreneur. He failed for this woman right away and
starts shoing an interest in her and said, hey, you
are to get her by suv instead of driving this
(07:30):
little sports car round for your business. I was fine
driving the sports car round, but on her fortieth birthday
he's surprised it with a brand new twenty twenty two suv.
Oh wow, she liked it. Man, what a guy. So far?
We winning, as I said. And then he loves giving
gifts and I love getting them. Okay, shut your mouth
(07:52):
and keep taking the gifts. What's wrong? And then but
it's the commentary after the gift that bothers me. Everybody
they ain't perfect something, come with everything? You know? I don't.
I don't really care for being famous sometime, but when
they hand me my check, I shut my damn mouth
and gonna gets back to being famous. Okay, almost started
(08:16):
to get loud again, go back. I wasn't wearing designer
labels before I met him, but he loves to buy
them for me, So I let him. Oh, now you
wants to wear the product, the Louis Vaton, Now you
like stuff, uh Birkins, and now you likes the Christian
(08:37):
Loubertons and the Milanos and you like it now, don't you?
And the Jimmy shoes, Yeah, you like it. He has
splurged on overpriced designer shoes. Stop saying that they're not overpriced.
These is what these shoes cost, and them is what
them shoes cost. They not overpriced. That's just that's what
(09:02):
them shoes over their cost. They charge that for a reason.
Them is Shawaska crystals on that shoe. That's why they
up there. That's real leather. That's crock on the toe.
That ain't the frick. Okay, come back down and buys
(09:26):
persons for me. Since we met, he said, I have
to look a certain way to represent him properly. That's
just a man being a little braggish. I'll admit that.
But you know, I want you to be out there
when you're out there with me. In other words, what
he's saying is He want to make sure he looked
like the man he's supposed to look like by having
the woman he got. And if he ain't taking care
(09:47):
of his business, he knows his woman can't look like
she taking care of her business because this man's job
to provide. That's what he's leaning home. He loves to
brag about whatever he spends money on. Over the weekend,
he went a little bit too far bragging and now
we're not speaking. We had a rooftop ball on Sunday,
three couples. He moved over to the female. They moved
away from the female so they could smoke cigars. They
(10:08):
were still in earshot. When sitting I overheard my man say,
I'm the black Julia Robins from Pretty Woman, and he
has spent a lot of money on me so I
could be as fliess he is. And he said it's
worth every bit of it because he plans to marry me.
I went over to him and cust him out. What.
First of all, I never saw Pretty Woman. I don't
(10:31):
know what the hell you talking about. You never saw
that you got? You gotta see that? Yeah, Richard, here,
how has that changed your life? It made you believe
in fairy Tales and Romance again. Yes, okay, well I
didn't watch the movie, but she didn't. Went over and
(10:54):
custed him out because he said that. Then one of
his boys tried to save it as he should and
told me, I'm focused on the wrong part of what
my man says. He told me to focus on the
fact that the guy wants to marry me. The analogy
is unimportant. He don't even know what he realized. He
probably don't even realize what he said. You the black
you were, Julian Robert like, he compared me to a
(11:15):
prostitute from a movie. Black dude, don't even be knowing
all that right there. All he know is you fine
to him, and he's willing to put everything he got
into you because you're worth it, and he wants to
marry you. How to head on? You man ain't speaking
to him. Damn, Julia Robinson, you're stupid ass. Man don't
(11:37):
know movie analogy. What's her name, Julia Roberts, He does
no movie and analogy Because that's what he said, and
that's what happened in the movie. Movie. That's exactly what
happened in the movie. He married her. Yeah, yeah, they
were together they lead you to believe that he just
(11:57):
told us for men. She was a sitt in the movie.
She was a prostitute in the movie. No here the
part y'all missing to him. She was the pretty woman
in the movie. That's Robert, that's what pretty woman in
the movie was. Listen to me. She my Julia Roberts,
(12:19):
my pretty woman. Ain't no man. If the man no prostitute.
Richard Gear he white White. That's a man's driving force.
And when we get around each other, I definition what
we do, who we are, and how much we make.
(12:41):
And he talking trash with his boys. You was in
ear shot. You overheard the conversation between men, and all
the men knew was man he feeling her. Now you
pull yourself together, for you lose your man over a
damn movie analogy, because ain't nobody calling you no prostitute.
Post your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey FM,
(13:04):
on Instagram, at Facebook. Coming up at forty six minutes
after the hour, it's Sports Talk with Junior. Right after this,
you're listening to this Dave Harvey Morning Show
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