November 17, 2022 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, my boyfriend has to have the spotlight on him at all times. It seems like every week he tells me that he went off on a co-worker because they don’t respect his authority. I always have to remind him that he’s not anyone’s supervisor at the job, he’s just been there longer than anyone else. He’s got a big ego and a big mouth. He laughs loud and he brags all of the time. I’m talking about bragging like he can knock it out the park every night, when he’s really not even tapping first base....................................
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need
advice on relationships, on dating, work, sex, parenting, and more.
Please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. Because you never know, we
could be reading your letter live on the air, just
like we're gonna read this one right here, right now,
(00:21):
right now. Buckle up and hold on tight. We guided
for you here it is Strawberry Letter. Before we do
the Strawberry Letter, I just want to put a disclaimer
out for young children that are writing in the cars
with your parents and everything you might want to turn away.
This letter gets a little racy at times, a little spicy. Okay,
thank you subject. Nothing is big except his mouth. Dear
(00:45):
Stephen Shirley, My boyfriend has to have a spotlight on
him at all times. It seems like every week he
tells me that he went off on a coworker because
they don't respect his authority. I always have to remind
him he's not anyone's supervisor at the job. He's just
been there longer than anyone else. He's got a big
(01:06):
ego and a big mouth. He laughs loud, and he
brags all of the time. I'm talking about bragging like
he can knock get out of the park every night,
when he's really not even tapping first base. When I
met him, he bragged about his size and kept telling
me to grab on to it. I should have grabbed
it and stretched it a little bit each time I
(01:28):
saw him. I had seen him without clothes on, and
I don't know much about a man, so I assumed
it might get bigger when he got excited. Well, we
finally had sex and had stayed the same size. It's
like he doesn't know he's small because he kept bragging
the whole time. I got annoyed at him. And now
when I see him, I think of how big his
(01:50):
feet are and how short his toes are. My mind
goes to the craziest things about a person once they
disappoint me. He is nothing big on him except his
mouth and his ego. I don't want to throw him
away just because he's tiny. I'm willing to work on
this relationship a little longer. He thinks I'm falling in
love with him, but that's not what's happening, at least
(02:12):
not yet. I want to continue to get to know
him and find ways to make our sex life better, Dee.
Despite his small size, it is hard to find a
man these days, and I'm pretty sure this man won't
ever cheat on me, or if he does cheat, it
will only it would only happen once because he's so tiny.
Do you think he can ever change? Am I crazy
(02:34):
to stay with him? Okay? Surely before you answer this letter,
I am sitting up on the edge of my seat.
Surely gonna answer this. Go ahead. Shit, Well, thank you, Steve,
thank you? Uh? Anyway she says, is she crazy to
stay with him? I'm really not sure what you want
(02:55):
Steve and I to do here, uh, because there's not
a lot we can do about your particular situation. And
sorry you had to find out about his size that way.
Maybe you could have accepted it better and not have
been so disappointed had he not built himself up and
bragged about his size so much. When you ask if
(03:15):
he could ever change? Are you talking about his size?
Probably not? Probably not. Can he change his big mouth? Will? Yes,
definitely he can do that, but he's not gonna do
that because he's been bragging for way too long. It's
a part of him. Now, First, you need to decide
why are you really with this man. You have said
(03:37):
nothing good about him in this entire letter. You even
said if he cheats, it will only be one time
because of his size, which means if he cheated, you
know he would come back to you, so you would
put up with that. So my question is are you
settling because you don't believe you can get anyone else?
(03:57):
You said you want to stay and work with him.
This is not what makes a good relationship. Settling You're
gonna continue to complain about him if you stay. So,
so no, I'm saying, don't. Don't settle this. Don't settle.
You gotta make up your mind here either you're gonna
be with them or not, and you don't. There's nothing
good in this letter that you've written about him, So
(04:18):
why stay? Steve? Here's what I take away from this
whole letter. Now I'm gonna do a reenactment on the
second half because there's really nowhere to go. Shirley's absolutely crack.
What do you want us to do? But I'm gonna
tell you one thing though. This man right here is
the epitome of Norman Vincent Peale's book The Power of
(04:42):
Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale. This man has thought
himself into everything he needed to feel good about. He
got a big mouth. He ain't to supervise on the job.
He got everybody thinking him. He got a big eagle
because he's a small man. He got a big mouth
(05:05):
because he's a small man. He laughs loud and brags
all the time. Because he's a small man. I'm talking
about bragging like he can knock it out the park
every night. He ain't even really tapping first base. But
in his mind though, this boy has convinced himself that
(05:26):
he all of that. Had a bag of chips. When
you met him, he bragged about his size, and he
kept telling me grab on to it. I should have
grabbed a stretch a little bit of that time my song.
I'd have seen him without clothes on, and I don't
know much about a man, so I assumed it might
get bigger when he got excited. Now let me tell
(05:46):
you what's wrong so far, And you assume when you
saw him neck and how small he was when he
got excited would get bigger. Normally, that's what happens. He's
not been on a lot of sports teams with guys before.
Because when you get in the locker room, and you
play sports, is when you first discover you might be
in a little bit of trouble. So here's what's happening.
(06:08):
When you play sports, you're in the locker room, and
that's when you discover you might not be all you
thank you all. So obviously he ain't played no sports
because I remember when Eric Green came out to shower.
Who's that Eric the Great? That's what he was called
(06:29):
after he came out to shower, Eric the Great Green,
Lord have mercy. We was in the nave grade that
boy came out the shower. I said, who uncle is this?
Hold on, we'll have part two of Steve's response coming
up in twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter.
(06:49):
Subject nothing is big except his mouth. You're listening to show?
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is nothing is big except his mouth. Now,
she's been dating this man that's been bragging. He's boastful,
he loud, he talked crazy, he thanked, he more than
(07:12):
he is a supervisor. He and then when it comes
down to the bedroom, ain't nothing big on him but
his mouth. The man is small, and he been using
the power positive thinking and has convinced himself and has
tried to convince her that he is all of that
and everything grabbing. You know, she said in the middle
(07:34):
of the letter, she don't know much about a man,
but she thought that if she saw him without his
clothes on, when he got excited, it would get bigger.
That's how it works. But that had high work with him.
And the reason he don't understand this because he's not
an athletic man. He didn't play sports, because when you
play sports, you'd be around me, and all the time
you come out that shower. I was in the ninth
grade when Eric the Great Green, Great Green came out
(07:58):
to shower one time in the north grade. That the
problems in the ninth grade, you know, fourteen, You know,
Eric the Great Green came. His name was just Eric
Green at first, but when he came out that shower naked,
they called him Eric the Great. He was a Viking.
(08:19):
That boy came out that shower. We were sitting there,
let's little boys, We were just going, Lord Jesus, who
uncle is this? Daddy? Who Lord? What is? And we
all knew then we had from growing to do and
Eric the Great was already there. So obviously this man
has not been around athletics anymore. Now you want to
(08:42):
know what can you do? And there's nothing Me and
Shirley can help me. That are products that can help him.
That was a product out years back called Extend and
I don't know about seeing that anymore. I don't see
even commercials on that no more. But they have stuff
that you can do. He got to do something, but
it ain't really but he The problem is you. He's
(09:03):
kind of like dealing with her earlier alcoholic and he
don't know that alcohol again, he don't know. He's small,
and you got to stop helping with all that. Holly
her phone. Understand how he does that? He don't know
because he thinks he killing. Yeah, he ain't listened to
(09:24):
nobody putting himself. You got to tune yourself out, fellas
and listen to these women all listen here, yeah, all right?
WHOA In meantime she's looking at her phone, Yeah, looking
at her nails. She's doing her nails. You just delusion
(09:45):
all about who you are. So to show you how
it worked, ladies, you can ask me anything. You're in
a relationship with me, and you're trying to bring and
reach the subject. Ask me in a cool when I'm
gonna show you how he having the call? Honey, what's
going on? Can you tone it down? Yeah? You're talking
so loud? Why are you so loud? I can't help me.
(10:05):
You know, big man gotta do big things. You know
what I mean? You know what I mean. You know
what I'm saying. Girl, I can't help I can't tone
it down because it ain't it won't tone down, you
know what I'm saying. Yeah, I got that. You can't talk, girl, Yeah,
I got all that. When when you're laughing, why are
(10:26):
you just over the top at a ten with the laugh,
the falling all out? Come on listening to me? If
I don't laugh loud all over here, you're doing this cry?
I got all this here on you like this here
and all that cry? You know I do the last
help coming up all this whipping and moaning. You know
(10:48):
you're moaning this stuff. I rather he laughed. You know,
supposed to be a great time for both of us.
So I laugh hard. So we're gonna get it in
the move. Because if I stopped this laughter, I got
to deal with the moans. Of ecstasy and sometimes pain
because it's just so much. You know what I'm saying,
you know what? I know that hey that you you know,
(11:09):
you brag a lot, You're loud and everything, but do
you have any idea you know, like, um, how can
I put this gingerly? You're small, you know, grown man,
small for a grown man. Yes, and I haven't real
with a lot of guys. Well you un't read letter.
(11:30):
What these little toes got to do with it? Yeah?
You know what I'm saying. Yeah, I got small toes
for a man, but that's called I didn't toe off
all these sheets from all these gripping up all my life,
you know what I mean, these toes and stunted because
I didn't had to stand up on him because I'd
be standing up in it. So now I didn't gotta
crush my toes down. Girl. I'm just you know how
(11:50):
you know how hard it is to be this size.
It had tried to explain this to people, you know
what I mean? So you know, baby, I'm just you know, small,
I got these small told but now I don't know
what you're talking about. Everything else, got everything out else? Girl? Sure? Yeah, yeah,
(12:11):
so yeah, I'm trying. I'm really trying to graft sate
you so much. That's not it. You're not taking my
breath away, and you can't talk. That's what I do.
I get him featureless. That's that's just it. You don't
let nobody talk you over. No, no, no, because I
(12:33):
don't want you to, because I know you have in
trouble describing what's happening to you. I did try to
help it out, you know what I'm saying, but you
just loud. I'm trying to communicate with you and tell
you how we can make communicate. Baby, go ahead, Okay, Okay,
I'm listening, but I don't hear nothing, because in my mind,
I hear mold. In my mind, I hear satisfaction, I
(12:57):
hear gratitude. I hear in my mind here, oh lord,
hockey tain't no more. Post your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter.
Add Steve Harvey FM on Instagram and Facebook, and check
out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand now coming up
at forty six minutes after the hour, It's Junior and
Sports Talk. Right after this, you're listening to the Day
(13:20):
Harvey Morning Show.
Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need
advice on relationships, on dating, work, sex, parenting, and more.
Please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. Because you never know, we
could be reading your letter live on the air, just
like we're gonna read this one right here, right now,
(00:21):
right now. Buckle up and hold on tight. We guided
for you here it is Strawberry Letter. Before we do
the Strawberry Letter, I just want to put a disclaimer
out for young children that are writing in the cars
with your parents and everything you might want to turn away.
This letter gets a little racy at times, a little spicy. Okay,
thank you subject. Nothing is big except his mouth. Dear
(00:45):
Stephen Shirley, My boyfriend has to have a spotlight on
him at all times. It seems like every week he
tells me that he went off on a coworker because
they don't respect his authority. I always have to remind
him he's not anyone's supervisor at the job. He's just
been there longer than anyone else. He's got a big
(01:06):
ego and a big mouth. He laughs loud, and he
brags all of the time. I'm talking about bragging like
he can knock get out of the park every night,
when he's really not even tapping first base. When I
met him, he bragged about his size and kept telling
me to grab on to it. I should have grabbed
it and stretched it a little bit each time I
(01:28):
saw him. I had seen him without clothes on, and
I don't know much about a man, so I assumed
it might get bigger when he got excited. Well, we
finally had sex and had stayed the same size. It's
like he doesn't know he's small because he kept bragging
the whole time. I got annoyed at him. And now
when I see him, I think of how big his
(01:50):
feet are and how short his toes are. My mind
goes to the craziest things about a person once they
disappoint me. He is nothing big on him except his
mouth and his ego. I don't want to throw him
away just because he's tiny. I'm willing to work on
this relationship a little longer. He thinks I'm falling in
love with him, but that's not what's happening, at least
(02:12):
not yet. I want to continue to get to know
him and find ways to make our sex life better, Dee.
Despite his small size, it is hard to find a
man these days, and I'm pretty sure this man won't
ever cheat on me, or if he does cheat, it
will only it would only happen once because he's so tiny.
Do you think he can ever change? Am I crazy
(02:34):
to stay with him? Okay? Surely before you answer this letter,
I am sitting up on the edge of my seat.
Surely gonna answer this. Go ahead. Shit, Well, thank you, Steve,
thank you? Uh? Anyway she says, is she crazy to
stay with him? I'm really not sure what you want
(02:55):
Steve and I to do here, uh, because there's not
a lot we can do about your particular situation. And
sorry you had to find out about his size that way.
Maybe you could have accepted it better and not have
been so disappointed had he not built himself up and
bragged about his size so much. When you ask if
(03:15):
he could ever change? Are you talking about his size?
Probably not? Probably not. Can he change his big mouth? Will? Yes,
definitely he can do that, but he's not gonna do
that because he's been bragging for way too long. It's
a part of him. Now, First, you need to decide
why are you really with this man. You have said
(03:37):
nothing good about him in this entire letter. You even
said if he cheats, it will only be one time
because of his size, which means if he cheated, you
know he would come back to you, so you would
put up with that. So my question is are you
settling because you don't believe you can get anyone else?
(03:57):
You said you want to stay and work with him.
This is not what makes a good relationship. Settling You're
gonna continue to complain about him if you stay. So,
so no, I'm saying, don't. Don't settle this. Don't settle.
You gotta make up your mind here either you're gonna
be with them or not, and you don't. There's nothing
good in this letter that you've written about him, So
(04:18):
why stay? Steve? Here's what I take away from this
whole letter. Now I'm gonna do a reenactment on the
second half because there's really nowhere to go. Shirley's absolutely crack.
What do you want us to do? But I'm gonna
tell you one thing though. This man right here is
the epitome of Norman Vincent Peale's book The Power of
(04:42):
Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale. This man has thought
himself into everything he needed to feel good about. He
got a big mouth. He ain't to supervise on the job.
He got everybody thinking him. He got a big eagle
because he's a small man. He got a big mouth
(05:05):
because he's a small man. He laughs loud and brags
all the time. Because he's a small man. I'm talking
about bragging like he can knock it out the park
every night. He ain't even really tapping first base. But
in his mind though, this boy has convinced himself that
(05:26):
he all of that. Had a bag of chips. When
you met him, he bragged about his size, and he
kept telling me grab on to it. I should have
grabbed a stretch a little bit of that time my song.
I'd have seen him without clothes on, and I don't
know much about a man, so I assumed it might
get bigger when he got excited. Now let me tell
(05:46):
you what's wrong so far, And you assume when you
saw him neck and how small he was when he
got excited would get bigger. Normally, that's what happens. He's
not been on a lot of sports teams with guys before.
Because when you get in the locker room, and you
play sports, is when you first discover you might be
in a little bit of trouble. So here's what's happening.
(06:08):
When you play sports, you're in the locker room, and
that's when you discover you might not be all you
thank you all. So obviously he ain't played no sports
because I remember when Eric Green came out to shower.
Who's that Eric the Great? That's what he was called
(06:29):
after he came out to shower, Eric the Great Green,
Lord have mercy. We was in the nave grade that
boy came out the shower. I said, who uncle is this?
Hold on, we'll have part two of Steve's response coming
up in twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter.
(06:49):
Subject nothing is big except his mouth. You're listening to show?
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is nothing is big except his mouth. Now,
she's been dating this man that's been bragging. He's boastful,
he loud, he talked crazy, he thanked, he more than
(07:12):
he is a supervisor. He and then when it comes
down to the bedroom, ain't nothing big on him but
his mouth. The man is small, and he been using
the power positive thinking and has convinced himself and has
tried to convince her that he is all of that
and everything grabbing. You know, she said in the middle
(07:34):
of the letter, she don't know much about a man,
but she thought that if she saw him without his
clothes on, when he got excited, it would get bigger.
That's how it works. But that had high work with him.
And the reason he don't understand this because he's not
an athletic man. He didn't play sports, because when you
play sports, you'd be around me, and all the time
you come out that shower. I was in the ninth
grade when Eric the Great Green, Great Green came out
(07:58):
to shower one time in the north grade. That the
problems in the ninth grade, you know, fourteen, You know,
Eric the Great Green came. His name was just Eric
Green at first, but when he came out that shower naked,
they called him Eric the Great. He was a Viking.
(08:19):
That boy came out that shower. We were sitting there,
let's little boys, We were just going, Lord Jesus, who
uncle is this? Daddy? Who Lord? What is? And we
all knew then we had from growing to do and
Eric the Great was already there. So obviously this man
has not been around athletics anymore. Now you want to
(08:42):
know what can you do? And there's nothing Me and
Shirley can help me. That are products that can help him.
That was a product out years back called Extend and
I don't know about seeing that anymore. I don't see
even commercials on that no more. But they have stuff
that you can do. He got to do something, but
it ain't really but he The problem is you. He's
(09:03):
kind of like dealing with her earlier alcoholic and he
don't know that alcohol again, he don't know. He's small,
and you got to stop helping with all that. Holly
her phone. Understand how he does that? He don't know
because he thinks he killing. Yeah, he ain't listened to
(09:24):
nobody putting himself. You got to tune yourself out, fellas
and listen to these women all listen here, yeah, all right?
WHOA In meantime she's looking at her phone, Yeah, looking
at her nails. She's doing her nails. You just delusion
(09:45):
all about who you are. So to show you how
it worked, ladies, you can ask me anything. You're in
a relationship with me, and you're trying to bring and
reach the subject. Ask me in a cool when I'm
gonna show you how he having the call? Honey, what's
going on? Can you tone it down? Yeah? You're talking
so loud? Why are you so loud? I can't help me.
(10:05):
You know, big man gotta do big things. You know
what I mean? You know what I mean. You know
what I'm saying. Girl, I can't help I can't tone
it down because it ain't it won't tone down, you
know what I'm saying. Yeah, I got that. You can't talk, girl, Yeah,
I got all that. When when you're laughing, why are
(10:26):
you just over the top at a ten with the laugh,
the falling all out? Come on listening to me? If
I don't laugh loud all over here, you're doing this cry?
I got all this here on you like this here
and all that cry? You know I do the last
help coming up all this whipping and moaning. You know
(10:48):
you're moaning this stuff. I rather he laughed. You know,
supposed to be a great time for both of us.
So I laugh hard. So we're gonna get it in
the move. Because if I stopped this laughter, I got
to deal with the moans. Of ecstasy and sometimes pain
because it's just so much. You know what I'm saying,
you know what? I know that hey that you you know,
(11:09):
you brag a lot, You're loud and everything, but do
you have any idea you know, like, um, how can
I put this gingerly? You're small, you know, grown man,
small for a grown man. Yes, and I haven't real
with a lot of guys. Well you un't read letter.
(11:30):
What these little toes got to do with it? Yeah?
You know what I'm saying. Yeah, I got small toes
for a man, but that's called I didn't toe off
all these sheets from all these gripping up all my life,
you know what I mean, these toes and stunted because
I didn't had to stand up on him because I'd
be standing up in it. So now I didn't gotta
crush my toes down. Girl. I'm just you know how
(11:50):
you know how hard it is to be this size.
It had tried to explain this to people, you know
what I mean? So you know, baby, I'm just you know, small,
I got these small told but now I don't know
what you're talking about. Everything else, got everything out else? Girl? Sure? Yeah, yeah,
(12:11):
so yeah, I'm trying. I'm really trying to graft sate
you so much. That's not it. You're not taking my
breath away, and you can't talk. That's what I do.
I get him featureless. That's that's just it. You don't
let nobody talk you over. No, no, no, because I
(12:33):
don't want you to, because I know you have in
trouble describing what's happening to you. I did try to
help it out, you know what I'm saying, but you
just loud. I'm trying to communicate with you and tell
you how we can make communicate. Baby, go ahead, Okay, Okay,
I'm listening, but I don't hear nothing, because in my mind,
I hear mold. In my mind, I hear satisfaction, I
(12:57):
hear gratitude. I hear in my mind here, oh lord,
hockey tain't no more. Post your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter.
Add Steve Harvey FM on Instagram and Facebook, and check
out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand now coming up
at forty six minutes after the hour, It's Junior and
Sports Talk. Right after this, you're listening to the Day
(13:20):
Harvey Morning Show.
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