Please Close The Windows And Doors

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Speaker 1 (00:01):
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(00:24):
hold on tight. We got it for you. Here it
is letter, Thank your nephew. Subject please close the windows
and doors. Dear Uncle Steve and un Shirley. I'm a
twenty four year old student and I still live at
home with my parents. My parents had me when they
were eighteen years old, so they're still young, fly and
very much in love with each other. I love hanging

(00:46):
out with them because we listen to the same music
and we get along great. But there's a huge issue
that I'm having with them, and I made jokes about it,
but they don't seem to care. Sometimes it's fun to
be cool cool with my parents and send other times
it gets to be too much. I'm allowed to smoke
weed in the house because it's legal in our state,

(01:06):
and it helps me with my cramps. I'm allowed to
have my boyfriend stay overnight, but he's got to sleep
in the guest room. I'm allowed to use profanity, and
I can express myself any way I choose to around them.
I appreciate the openness, I really do. But what I
don't appreciate is how open they are with me. My parents'

(01:28):
bedroom is below my bedroom, and they have sex darn
near every day. It doesn't have to be at night.
I can be getting ready to go to work at
three in the afternoon and they are in there going
at it with the door open. They've jokingly told me
to stay upstairs if I don't want to see or
hear it. But what they don't know is I can

(01:49):
still hear it, and so can the neighbors, probably because
they have the windows up too. I've been sitting in
the hot tub on the patio and I've heard my
parents having sex allowed on a Sunday afternoon. I would
love to move, but I can't afford rent and my car.
Note it's their house, but I don't don't I deserve
a little respect as long as I live here. The

(02:11):
jokes about it aren't working, so would I'd be out
of line to ask them to close the door and
the windows during sex. Sorry to say this, but nope,
you have no rights. You have no rights. It's their house, period.
Your job is to be grateful you have a nice
place to lay your head, and to get a job,

(02:32):
some kind of job, save your money so you can
get a place of your own one day soon. I
know you got your rent and your car note and
all of that, but you know that's up to you
to get out, get a job, and get your own places.
If you don't like what you're hearing. But I do understand.
I do understand what you're saying. I hear you. You
feel how you feel, and your feelings are valid. But

(02:53):
until you can move out, your hands are tied. No
child has ever been comfortable with catchy or hearing their
parents doing it. I don't know any child who's comfortable
with that. Most kids think it's disgusting, even though that's
how they got here. I get that part, but that's
what grown people do, and parents do it too. Okay,

(03:16):
you know that at twenty four, of course they should
close the door, but they they might be doing it
to help you. They know you don't want to hear
them they're not. You know, they're not that caught up.
I think that's their way of helping you into trying
harder to move out. They want you to start being
more responsible and to get out on your own. Remember

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that even though you guys are really close, you and
your parents are really close, they are not your best friends.
They are still your parents. And parents everywhere have this
thing about this is my house, and I do what
I want to do in my house. If you don't
like it, you can lead. That's just how parents are.
But I say this, look at the bright side. I
know it's embarrassing, but at least your parents are in love.

(04:00):
They're making love. They're not arguing, they're not yelling, they're
not trying to kill each other. So there's that, Steve
Well your last statement they now trying to kill each other.
You don't know that. I'm just going start with that

(04:22):
well interesting letter. So as I was listening to the letter,
I figured, you know, I do numbers all the time.
You're twenty four year old student. You live with your parents.
Your parents had you when they were eighteen, which means
your parents right now forty two, forty two. That's young

(04:49):
to have a twenty four year old in the house
living there. That's young man. So they still young. Fly
very much in love with yall, and I love hanging
out with him because y'all listen to the same music.
Because forty two years old, that's hip hop. You're hip hop.
Y'all listening to the same music. Way different from me

(05:10):
and my kids, way different. You know. We get along great,
but there's a huge issue that I'm having with them,
and I made jokes about it, but they don't seem
to care. Sometimes it's fun to be cut with my parents,
and other time it gets to be too much. And
why is that? Because I'm telling you, as parents that

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are listening to this letter that we're about to read,
your child really wants a parent. Your child really wants
to be parented. I tell all my kids, I like you.
We can do some friendly stuff, but all your friends
is up at the school. I'm your damn daddy. Now

(05:56):
let's just be clear about that. Ha ha he he heiled.
We get Hi. Hi, he's sometimes, but I'm not your friend.
I'm your parents and I'm gonna play my role. But
you I'm allowed to smoke weed in the house because
it's legally in our state, and it helps me with
my cramps. No, that's not why you allowed to smoke

(06:18):
weed in the house. You to smoke weed in the
house because that's what they do. If it was illegal,
they let you smoke it. They're letting you do whatever
they do because they ain't trying to be your parents.
They focusing on being your damn friend. It's gonna get old,
and I can see that it already has. All right,

(06:41):
hang on, Steve, we'll have part two of your response
coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's
strawberry letter subject please close the windows and doors. Will
get back into it right after this. You're listening, all right, Steve.
Come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is
please close the windows and doors. This woman is having

(07:06):
a problem. She's twenty four. Her problem is with her parents,
who are not parenting because they're so busy being her
damn friend. They had this little girl at eighteen. They
are now forty two years old. She's twenty four. That's sher.

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She likes hanging with her parents because they have a
good time because they listen to the same music. That's
a hip hop generation. Got it. I missed that. My
kids missed that. They know good hair. Well. When I
get in the car, you know what we're listening to, Daddy,
Can we listen to something else? Naw, daddy, you heard

(07:50):
little babies new and nah, I don't know who little
baby is dead baby, that dad baby, black baby, white baby,
new baby. But now she has a problem because she

(08:11):
says hanging out with him is cool with my parents,
and other times it gets to be too much. I'm
allowed to smoke weed in the house because it's legal
in our state and it helped me with my cramps. No,
you allowed to smoke weed in the house because that's
what they do. If it was illegal, they let you
smoke weed. I'm allowed to have my boyfriends stay overnight

(08:33):
because that's what they did. They had you at eighteen.
At eighteen, that means that the sex was going on
before they was eighteen, so that's what they did. But
he's got to go to sleep in the guess room,
like he ain't snuck over there in the middle of
the night, and hell, he gonna stay in the guess room.

(08:56):
I'm allowed to use profanity, and I can express myself
anywhere I choose around them, because that's what they do.
They're cussing around you. My kids can cuss around me.
Now that was an age when they lived in my house.
That ain't happen. But when you move out to the

(09:17):
house and you come back over, you can come Now
you need to understand something. Now, there's no way you
can out cuss me. I'm over here cussing if you
want to. I got some combinations. You're not quite familiar.

(09:39):
I put it together. But what I don't appreciate this
is how open they are with me. But what I
don't appreciate is how open they are with me. My
parents bed room is below my bedroom, and they have
sex down there every day. It don't have to be
at night. I can be getting ready to go to
work at three and afternoon and they are. They're going

(10:00):
at it. You know why they because they could couldn't
do it. They're your friends change your parents. With the
door open. They've jokingly told me to stay upstairs if
I don't want to see it or hear it. But
what they don't know is I can still here, and
so can the neighbor's probably because they have the windows

(10:21):
up too. I've been sitting in the hot tub on
the pattil I've heard my parents having sex loudly on
a Sunday afternoon. I would love to move, but I
can't afford to rent and my cardos. It's their house,
but I don't. Don't I deserve a little respect as
long as I live here. The jokes about it aren't working.
So would I be out of line that asks them
to close the door and windows doing sex. Shelley said,

(10:42):
you can't cause it's your mama's the house, and technically
she's right. But see, y'all friends, friends get to talk
to friends like they WoT. I think you should sit
them down as friends and say, Mom, Dad, the hell
going on? I would use another word, but yeah, you know,

(11:03):
but they allow you because this sugar honey iced tea
y'all doing it. It's some. It's some bull sugar honey
iced teeth because all these fudge and neighbors is listening
to y'all upstairs fudge and they can hear it. Now Fudge,

(11:25):
y'all need to stop. This is embarrassing. This sugar honey
iced teeth col had to stop because you two ends.
It's just too damn But since they let you talk
any kind of way. But now here's what you're gonna

(11:48):
have to do. You got to move. You got to move.
And I want to say this to you, young lady.
You're obviously in school and stuff. You're twenty four. Sometimes
parents teach us what not to do, just like they
teach us what to do. I have a lot of
boys that come to my menor and camp who are

(12:09):
from father in his home who avowed when they have
a child, they're not gonna do like their fathers did.
So when you do have a child and you're obviously waiting,
remember these moments and remember the feelings you have. It's
cool to be cool with your parents, but even you
at twenty four still want to have some guidelines. You
want some parents, and this letter is for parents. Just

(12:32):
listen to this. Stop trying to be your kids. Damn
they need guidance and love and discipline. They would appreciate
that more than you sitting up smoking. We custle with
them having set with the damn dope. True. All right, Steve,
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