June 21, 2022 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 48 year old single woman and I’ve raised a handsome and productive young man with the help of my ex-husband. My ex-husband was a very hands-on dad, but we did not see eye-to-eye in our marriage. His father always spoiled him, but lately his dad has been busy with a new woman and now he’s become distant from our son. If I call his dad, it takes him days to call me back....................
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Today's election day in Virginia, in DC and run up
elections in Alabama and Georgia. We need you to go
and vote today. Go to when we All Vote dot
org get out all your voting information. To get it all,
just go to when We All Vote dot org. And
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(00:23):
If you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,
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is Strawberry letter. Thank you, nep you. Subject why can't
he cut her loose? Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a forty
eight year old single woman and I've raised a handsome
and productive young man with the help of my ex husband.
My ex husband was a very hands on dad, but
we did not see eye to eye in our marriage.
(01:06):
His father always spoiled him, but lately his dad has
been busy with the new woman and now he's become
distant from our son. If I call his dad, it
takes him days to call me back. My son told
me who his dad is dating now, and she's nothing
but trouble. She's married to an older man and she's
got control of the money, but she lusts after other
(01:27):
men because she's not satisfied sexually. So now she's got
her claws and my ex and he can't think straight.
She has a bad reputation for messing around on her husband,
but these men don't seem to mind. I mind a
lot because my ex and I have a sexual relationship
and he's cut me off because of her. He and
(01:49):
I can go weeks without a word, but as soon
as we see each other, it's clothes off and we're
in the bed together. It is what it is, and
after twenty years, we still can't keep our hands off
each other. I know that he sees other women, but
I don't have time to date, so he meets my
sexual needs. What this woman has done has messed up
(02:10):
my good thing, and I want to know why he
can't cut her loose. I got him on the phone
recently and I told him I need a tune up,
and he told me, he'd see what he could do.
If I told him that a month ago, he'd be
at my house or I'd be at his within an
hour or so. He's never put me off. So why
is he picking someone who's been passed around or something
(02:34):
he's been getting for twenty years over something he's been
getting for twenty years. Why can't he cut this woman
loose to that, I say, don't worry about him cutting
her loose. You cut him loose. What's wrong with you?
I mean, this is really a stupid letter here. I
thought this was going to be about your ex and
(02:54):
how he's no longer there for your son. You say,
you know, because that's the most important thing here, But
then the letter took a hard left and turns out
you're just mad because he's got a girlfriend and you
can't catch up with them to have sex. What this
is not making any sense? I mean, you know it's over.
If you can't give it away. You're really selling yourself
(03:17):
short here. Why are you so disrespectful to yourself? Why
are you settling for this? I mean you say you
don't have time to date, but you really don't have
time not to date. It's over. You have to make
time for you now. I mean, can't you say, can't
you see that he's not even thinking about you at
this point. He does not want you focus on that
(03:38):
so you can get the strength to get him out
of your system. I mean, you're playing yourself right now.
It doesn't matter what her reputation is, none of that.
Your husband doesn't care. Is what he likes right now.
You got to get yourself together and move on. Steve, Well, well, well, well,
well right down my alley. Let us like this, go
(04:06):
right down to the street that I stay on. I
love when women asked the question why can't he cut
her loose? Well, I think we all know the answer
to that. Let's walk her down memory lane. Back down
memory lane. I saw a photograph. It was such a
(04:27):
happy pad. Oh look at me, back down memory lay. Well,
you're forty eight ye old single woman. You raised a
handsome and productive young man with the help of my
ex hug. Now, your ex husband was a very hands
(04:49):
on dad. But y'all didn't see eye to eye in
the marriage. Things happened. His father's always spoiled Hi, probably true,
But lately his dad has been busy with the new woman,
and now he's become distant from our son. Now, let's
(05:10):
look at this moment in this letter. His dad has
been busy with the new woman, and now he's become
distant from our sons. Now, as I read the rest
of this letter, I want you to notice that we
never ever mentioned the son again. There ain't nothing in
this letter about the distance between the boy and the dad.
(05:36):
There's no instances of where he don't pick up his son.
No more. This boy is a grown ass son. He
don't need to get picked up. Take nowhere. The boy
can probably drive, He's a productive young man. No more
mentions of the boy in this letter. So she tried
to fool us by blaming this on her husband's relationship.
(06:00):
Ship with this new woman is hurting the relationship with
the Sun. If I call his dad, it takes him.
If I call his dad, it takes him days to
call me back. That ain't got nothing to do with
the Sun. Then my son told me his dad is
dating now, and he's and he's dating now, and she's
(06:21):
nothing but trouble. Wait a minute, all, I bet you
all the Sun told you was daddy dating. Now you've
added in here, and she's nothing but trouble. See so
far he's still talking to Oh just ain't about to boy,
It ain't on Steve. We'll have part two of your
response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour.
(06:43):
Today's Strawberry letters subject why can't he cut her loose?
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening show,
all right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is why can't he cut her loose? Well, see, lady,
why can't he cut her loose? It's obvious. I'll tell
(07:05):
you that in a little minute. But the real thing
is you tried to make this letter like you and
your ex husband have raised his really hands on, productive,
handsome young man. And you know he was such a
hands on dad, and now that he's dating this woman,
h he didn't cut his son out of his life.
But then there ain't no evidence in the letter that
he didn't quitn't fool it with his son. You said
(07:27):
his father's always spoiled him, but lately his dad been
visited with this new woman, and NIS become distant from
my son. If I call his dad, it takes him
days to call me back. My ex is never hear
from me yes or ain't. No, damn Davis were talking
(07:49):
year heck email nothing, not a So don't what you're
tripping for now. My son told me that his dad
is dating. Now, well that means the son is talking
to his dad on levels that you ain't because now
the son had told you that the dad is dating.
(08:11):
And you say, but now she's nothing but trouble. She's
married to an older man, and she's got control of
the money, and she lusts after other men because she's
not satisfied sexual y'all must live in a small term.
So now she's got her claws in my ex and
he can't thank straight. She got a bad reputation for
messing around on her husband. And these men don't seem
(08:32):
to mind. Why because now I mind a lot because
my X and I have a sexual relationship and he's
cut me off. Here's what the wrong with the damn letter.
Here is to why she can't cut him off. It
ain't got nothing to do with your son now, and
(08:54):
he's cutting me off because of her. He and I
can go weeks without a word, but as soon as
we see each other this clothes off. Wait a minute,
Wait a minute, lady, you need to make up your mind.
A minute ago, you said I called his dad and
it takes some days to call me back. Then didn't
the letter say he and I can go weeks without
(09:16):
a word, but as soon as we see each other,
this close off and we're in the band together. It
is what it is. After twenty years, we still can't
keep our hands off each other. So you mean he
get to have his cake and eat it too, He
get to divorce you, not call you. Ain't got to
deal with none of the things in the marriage, but
(09:37):
then he can do you whenever he wants to. Oh
my god, this is amazing. And after twenty years we
still can't keep our hands off each other. I know
that he sees other women really and can still have you.
Oh my god, this is great quest. Do you know
how many people are signed up for this? But I
(10:00):
don't have time to date, so he meets my sexual needs.
What this woman has done has messed up my good thing,
and I want to know why he can't cut her loose.
Let's answer this question right now. This woman has messed
up your good thing, and I want to know why
(10:21):
he can't cut her loose because she got a good
a thing whoa what? She has messed up my good thing?
And I want to know why he can't cut her
loose because she got a good a thing. Why, hey,
(10:45):
man listening to this, know what I'm talking about. She
got a good a thing. That's why I can't cut
her loose. Now I know women that's a little Now,
that's like, oh my god, Steve, that's what it is.
Why he can't cut her loose. I'm calling her and
takes her left. I got him on the phone recently
(11:07):
and I told him I need to tune up, and
he told me he'll see what he can do. Now
you know what Ray said, he dating other women and
now he'd have found goody two shoes tune up. I
don't need no tune up. Plus, after twenty years, I
can do you anytime I want to, So sit tight.
You ain't got time to date. Sitting tight? You know,
(11:32):
eat your potato chips, get you some Netflix, and I'll
be over there when I get there. I get to
you when I get to you. If I told him
that a month ago, he'd be in my house or
I be at his within an hour or so. He's
never putting me off, So why is he picking someone
who's been passed around over something he's been getting for
(11:53):
twenty years. You don't hear that sentence. Let me translate
it for you. You saying, so, why is he picking
someone who's been passed around over something he's been getting
for twenty years? Let me read what you really wrote
that you don't know yet? Come on, so he never
put me off, So now he's picking somebody who is
(12:15):
really good, fresh and new. May have been passed around,
but it's it just got passed to him over something,
the same old thing he's been getting for twenty years.
Anytime he wanted, Why can't he cut this woman loose?
Because she has messed up your good thing with a
(12:39):
gooder thing. That's all. It's she's got a good thing,
all right, that's all to it. I'm sorry, all right,
all right, thank you. Steve. Comments on today's Strubberry Letter
at m on Instagram, and Facebook. Check out the Struwberry
(12:59):
Letter podcast on demand as well. Now, coming up with
forty six minutes, Coming up with forty six minutes after
the hour, it's Junior and Sports talk. Right after this.
You're listening to this Dave Harvey Morning Show
Today's election day in Virginia, in DC and run up
elections in Alabama and Georgia. We need you to go
and vote today. Go to when we All Vote dot
org get out all your voting information. To get it all,
just go to when We All Vote dot org. And
it's time now for today's Strawberry Letters. We switch gears.
(00:23):
If you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry letter to Steve Harvey
FM and click submit Strawberry letter and we could be
reading your letter live on the air, just like we're
gonna read this one right here, right now. You never know,
it could be yours. You never know. Buckle up and
hold on tight. We got it for you. Here it
(00:44):
is Strawberry letter. Thank you, nep you. Subject why can't
he cut her loose? Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a forty
eight year old single woman and I've raised a handsome
and productive young man with the help of my ex husband.
My ex husband was a very hands on dad, but
we did not see eye to eye in our marriage.
(01:06):
His father always spoiled him, but lately his dad has
been busy with the new woman and now he's become
distant from our son. If I call his dad, it
takes him days to call me back. My son told
me who his dad is dating now, and she's nothing
but trouble. She's married to an older man and she's
got control of the money, but she lusts after other
(01:27):
men because she's not satisfied sexually. So now she's got
her claws and my ex and he can't think straight.
She has a bad reputation for messing around on her husband,
but these men don't seem to mind. I mind a
lot because my ex and I have a sexual relationship
and he's cut me off because of her. He and
(01:49):
I can go weeks without a word, but as soon
as we see each other, it's clothes off and we're
in the bed together. It is what it is, and
after twenty years, we still can't keep our hands off
each other. I know that he sees other women, but
I don't have time to date, so he meets my
sexual needs. What this woman has done has messed up
(02:10):
my good thing, and I want to know why he
can't cut her loose. I got him on the phone
recently and I told him I need a tune up,
and he told me, he'd see what he could do.
If I told him that a month ago, he'd be
at my house or I'd be at his within an
hour or so. He's never put me off. So why
is he picking someone who's been passed around or something
(02:34):
he's been getting for twenty years over something he's been
getting for twenty years. Why can't he cut this woman
loose to that, I say, don't worry about him cutting
her loose. You cut him loose. What's wrong with you?
I mean, this is really a stupid letter here. I
thought this was going to be about your ex and
(02:54):
how he's no longer there for your son. You say,
you know, because that's the most important thing here, But
then the letter took a hard left and turns out
you're just mad because he's got a girlfriend and you
can't catch up with them to have sex. What this
is not making any sense? I mean, you know it's over.
If you can't give it away. You're really selling yourself
(03:17):
short here. Why are you so disrespectful to yourself? Why
are you settling for this? I mean you say you
don't have time to date, but you really don't have
time not to date. It's over. You have to make
time for you now. I mean, can't you say, can't
you see that he's not even thinking about you at
this point. He does not want you focus on that
(03:38):
so you can get the strength to get him out
of your system. I mean, you're playing yourself right now.
It doesn't matter what her reputation is, none of that.
Your husband doesn't care. Is what he likes right now.
You got to get yourself together and move on. Steve, Well, well, well, well,
well right down my alley. Let us like this, go
(04:06):
right down to the street that I stay on. I
love when women asked the question why can't he cut
her loose? Well, I think we all know the answer
to that. Let's walk her down memory lane. Back down
memory lane. I saw a photograph. It was such a
(04:27):
happy pad. Oh look at me, back down memory lay. Well,
you're forty eight ye old single woman. You raised a
handsome and productive young man with the help of my
ex hug. Now, your ex husband was a very hands
(04:49):
on dad. But y'all didn't see eye to eye in
the marriage. Things happened. His father's always spoiled Hi, probably true,
But lately his dad has been busy with the new woman,
and now he's become distant from our son. Now, let's
(05:10):
look at this moment in this letter. His dad has
been busy with the new woman, and now he's become
distant from our sons. Now, as I read the rest
of this letter, I want you to notice that we
never ever mentioned the son again. There ain't nothing in
this letter about the distance between the boy and the dad.
(05:36):
There's no instances of where he don't pick up his son.
No more. This boy is a grown ass son. He
don't need to get picked up. Take nowhere. The boy
can probably drive, He's a productive young man. No more
mentions of the boy in this letter. So she tried
to fool us by blaming this on her husband's relationship.
(06:00):
Ship with this new woman is hurting the relationship with
the Sun. If I call his dad, it takes him.
If I call his dad, it takes him days to
call me back. That ain't got nothing to do with
the Sun. Then my son told me his dad is
dating now, and he's and he's dating now, and she's
(06:21):
nothing but trouble. Wait a minute, all, I bet you
all the Sun told you was daddy dating. Now you've
added in here, and she's nothing but trouble. See so
far he's still talking to Oh just ain't about to boy,
It ain't on Steve. We'll have part two of your
response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour.
(06:43):
Today's Strawberry letters subject why can't he cut her loose?
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening show,
all right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is why can't he cut her loose? Well, see, lady,
why can't he cut her loose? It's obvious. I'll tell
(07:05):
you that in a little minute. But the real thing
is you tried to make this letter like you and
your ex husband have raised his really hands on, productive,
handsome young man. And you know he was such a
hands on dad, and now that he's dating this woman,
h he didn't cut his son out of his life.
But then there ain't no evidence in the letter that
he didn't quitn't fool it with his son. You said
(07:27):
his father's always spoiled him, but lately his dad been
visited with this new woman, and NIS become distant from
my son. If I call his dad, it takes him
days to call me back. My ex is never hear
from me yes or ain't. No, damn Davis were talking
(07:49):
year heck email nothing, not a So don't what you're
tripping for now. My son told me that his dad
is dating. Now, well that means the son is talking
to his dad on levels that you ain't because now
the son had told you that the dad is dating.
(08:11):
And you say, but now she's nothing but trouble. She's
married to an older man, and she's got control of
the money, and she lusts after other men because she's
not satisfied sexual y'all must live in a small term.
So now she's got her claws in my ex and
he can't thank straight. She got a bad reputation for
messing around on her husband. And these men don't seem
(08:32):
to mind. Why because now I mind a lot because
my X and I have a sexual relationship and he's
cut me off. Here's what the wrong with the damn letter.
Here is to why she can't cut him off. It
ain't got nothing to do with your son now, and
(08:54):
he's cutting me off because of her. He and I
can go weeks without a word, but as soon as
we see each other this clothes off. Wait a minute,
Wait a minute, lady, you need to make up your mind.
A minute ago, you said I called his dad and
it takes some days to call me back. Then didn't
the letter say he and I can go weeks without
(09:16):
a word, but as soon as we see each other,
this close off and we're in the band together. It
is what it is. After twenty years, we still can't
keep our hands off each other. So you mean he
get to have his cake and eat it too, He
get to divorce you, not call you. Ain't got to
deal with none of the things in the marriage, but
(09:37):
then he can do you whenever he wants to. Oh
my god, this is amazing. And after twenty years we
still can't keep our hands off each other. I know
that he sees other women really and can still have you.
Oh my god, this is great quest. Do you know
how many people are signed up for this? But I
(10:00):
don't have time to date, so he meets my sexual needs.
What this woman has done has messed up my good thing,
and I want to know why he can't cut her loose.
Let's answer this question right now. This woman has messed
up your good thing, and I want to know why
(10:21):
he can't cut her loose because she got a good
a thing whoa what? She has messed up my good thing?
And I want to know why he can't cut her
loose because she got a good a thing. Why, hey,
(10:45):
man listening to this, know what I'm talking about. She
got a good a thing. That's why I can't cut
her loose. Now I know women that's a little Now,
that's like, oh my god, Steve, that's what it is.
Why he can't cut her loose. I'm calling her and
takes her left. I got him on the phone recently
(11:07):
and I told him I need to tune up, and
he told me he'll see what he can do. Now
you know what Ray said, he dating other women and
now he'd have found goody two shoes tune up. I
don't need no tune up. Plus, after twenty years, I
can do you anytime I want to, So sit tight.
You ain't got time to date. Sitting tight? You know,
(11:32):
eat your potato chips, get you some Netflix, and I'll
be over there when I get there. I get to
you when I get to you. If I told him
that a month ago, he'd be in my house or
I be at his within an hour or so. He's
never putting me off, So why is he picking someone
who's been passed around over something he's been getting for
(11:53):
twenty years. You don't hear that sentence. Let me translate
it for you. You saying, so, why is he picking
someone who's been passed around over something he's been getting
for twenty years? Let me read what you really wrote
that you don't know yet? Come on, so he never
put me off, So now he's picking somebody who is
(12:15):
really good, fresh and new. May have been passed around,
but it's it just got passed to him over something,
the same old thing he's been getting for twenty years.
Anytime he wanted, Why can't he cut this woman loose?
Because she has messed up your good thing with a
(12:39):
gooder thing. That's all. It's she's got a good thing,
all right, that's all to it. I'm sorry, all right,
all right, thank you. Steve. Comments on today's Strubberry Letter
at m on Instagram, and Facebook. Check out the Struwberry
(12:59):
Letter podcast on demand as well. Now, coming up with
forty six minutes, Coming up with forty six minutes after
the hour, it's Junior and Sports talk. Right after this.
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