June 30, 2022 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been married for over half of my life and my husband checked out of the marriage five years ago. He started sleeping on the couch and then eventually moved into the guest room. I’m okay with not having sex because it wasn’t ever that good anyway. I went through periods of being bitter but didn’t do anything drastic because of our children. He told his family that I was verbally abusive to him and his mother only tolerated me so she could see our children.........................................
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Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been married for over half my
life and my husband checked out of the marriage five
years ago. He started sleeping on the couch and then
(00:43):
eventually moved into the guest room. I'm okay with not
having sex because it wasn't ever that good anyway. I
went through periods of being bitter, but didn't do anything
drastic because of our children. He told his family that
I was verbally abusive to him, and his mother only
tolerant at me so she could see our children. We
had a brunch over the Christmas holidays to celebrate my
(01:05):
husband's grandmother's birthday, my husband's grandmother gave a speech and
looked directly at me when she said that a wife
shouldn't be headstrong and should stay in her place with
a man. That's when I knew that I had to
set the record straight and let his sorry family know
that he's always been the problem. He's always been the problem.
(01:26):
I couldn't figure I couldn't figure out if he was
having women in my house or not, so I had
two cameras to try to catch him. It wasn't until
recently that I got exactly what I was looking for.
I went out to a convention in Dallas and took
the kids. My husband entertained a woman for two nights
(01:46):
in my home. The second night, they had sex on
the couch in the den, and it was caught on camera.
I held on to it until his fiftieth birthday party.
His sister did a video money of my husband's accomplishments
and gave it to me for the party. I was
able to add the three minutes of my husband's sex
(02:08):
tape to the end of the video. During the party,
I had my children leave the room and I played
the video. Everyone was shocked and speechless. I feel vindicated
and I has filed for divorce. His family really hates
how I exposed him. Was I wrong for showing the
video to his family at his party? Look, it doesn't
(02:35):
matter at this point. It doesn't matter what you do
or you know, if you were wrong or not. At
this point, the verdict is in. They hate you no
matter what. They're suffering from what's called misplaced anger. And
it's quite obvious they never liked you. They even poisoned
your grandmother's mind, and she lets you know just how
she felt about you in her speech, you know, talking
(02:58):
about a woman should be be headstrong and should stay
in her place with a man. And all that. Your
husband was caught on film having sex in your home.
They all saw it. They chose to take his side
and blame you. If I were you, I wouldn't care
what is judgment or family thought of me. They're believing
what they want to believe at this point, and the
(03:19):
truth is what they saw on film. They don't care.
The best thing you could have done, after all, this
was filed for divorce from this man who lives in
your home. He has them in your husband for years.
You said at least five years, and I'm surprised you
tolerated it for as long as you did. But you
said it was for the kids, but kids are not
It's time to let this thing go now because there's
(03:41):
nowhere else to go but your separate ways after something
like this, Steve, you know, I have a unique way
of looking at these letters, and I read very carefully
what people are saying because I like timelines, you know,
I like to figure out where blaring their life when
they write these letters. So I have picked up a
(04:03):
couple of clues. I've been married for over half of
my life. My ex husband checked out the marriage five
years ago. He started sleeping on the couch and then
eventually moved to the guest room. So, if you've been
married over half your life, and later on in the
(04:24):
letter you wait to expose your husband at his fiftieth
birthday party, I'm assuming you were married in your twenties
and y'all fifty. Let's just say y'all got married at
twenty five and y'all fifty. Now, that's how you've been
married over half your life. That's what I'm going to
assume with the timeline. Five years ago he checked out
(04:48):
and moved into the guest room. I'm okay with not
having sex because it wasn't ever that good anyway. Now,
you say you weren't upset about not having sex, but
then you said I went through periods of being bitter,
but I didn't do anything drastic because of our children.
(05:08):
What if you ain't cannon about having a sex. What
you what you're made for? Now? See little conflict hill conflict.
You were upset because he checked out the marriage, and
you should have done something about it in spite of
the children. He told his family. I was verbally verbally
abusive to it. Now, he told one side of the story.
(05:28):
But you were verbally abusive to him, and you know
who you were because you said you got bitter. You
can't cause a woman to get bitter and then she
let you live in that house in peace. That's are
not fitting to happen, ain't No, women are not built
that way. You can't make a woman bitter and then
she don't bring up bit her nests. No, it just
(05:49):
don't happen. That don't make her wrong. You made her
bitter by checking out the marriage, and she became very
verbally abusive. He told that part. He didn't tell his
family he had checked out, though, and his mother only
tolerated me so she could see how child you. We
had a brunch over Christmas Holidays to celebrate my husband
grandmama's birthday. My husband grandmama gave a speech and looked
(06:12):
directly at me when she said a wife shouldn't be
headstrong and she's stay in her place with a man.
Listen to this line. Their grandmama stood up at the
party and saying a wife shouldn't be headstrong and sho's
stay in her place with a man. Can your grandmama
speak at Mordred's birthday party? Nicktion, This is not about you.
(06:34):
Your grandmama will speak at Mordred's birthday party being headstrong.
We'll have part two of Steve's response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letters subjects
caught on film. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening, all right, Steve. Let's recap today's strawberry letter.
(06:57):
The subject is caught on film. Well, this woman been
married over half her life, so I'm assuming she's fifty
been married because her husband's fifty birthday is coming up.
In the letter. I'm assuming they got married in at
twenty so he would go he checked out the marriage
five years ago, start sleeping on couch and moving into
the guest room. She's okay, She's okay with not having
sex because it wasn't that good in anyway. Well, then
(07:19):
right after that, she said she went through peerds of
being bitter, but didn't do anything draft because of the kids.
And so that means you wasn't okay with him checking
out the marriage, And I understood he told his family
that I was verbally abusive to him, which is true
because you were bitter, and you have every right to
be verbally abusive because he's abusive to you. What man
(07:39):
checks out the marriage and stay in the house. That's
abuse right there. You did verbally abuse him, but he
did not tell his family what he did to you.
He told one side of the story. That's why people
always tell, right, So I'm so far on your sizes.
His mother only tolerated me so she could see the children.
We had a brunch over the Christmas holidays because her
grandma for her grandma's birthday party. My hub and grandmama
(08:03):
gave a speech and looked at record at me when
she said that a wife should shouldn't be headstrong and
should stay in her place with a maiden. The only
thing I gotta this was Kenny, your grandmother speak at
Margie's birthday party. Next she come talk to my headstone
(08:23):
and had wife and try to talk some old school
as sense into her because she only a new thing. Okay,
so she not coming. That's when I knew I had
to set the record straight, and I had let his
side family know that he always been the problem. So
I couldn't figure out if he was having women in
my house and not. So I hear two cameras to
try to catch you. You do know he's been having sex,
(08:46):
ain't no man checked out for five years and ain't
had set Because you don't think it is good? He
going to go get a whole lot of opinions about
his six Is this good thing? To get a whole
lot of opinions about his sex? It to you? I
don't like it. She was right about that. Next and
he just doing numbers. Now somebody fitting' like this little
(09:08):
sorry sex he got, And so she put cameras up
trying to catch him. Wasn't too recently that I got
exactly what I was looking for. Went out to convention
in Dallas, two kids with him, and he had entertained
the woman for two nights in the house. Second night
they had sex on the couch in the den, and
(09:31):
you caught it on camera. My lord, Well you held
on to this and to his fiftieth birthday party. How
you did that, I will never know, because I'm telling
you right now, everybody out of there walking in with
that damn take the night she get it. I'm getting
woke up with cold water. Heyy got something wants you
(09:52):
to see. His sister did a video montage of my
husband's accomplishments, gave it to me for the party. I'll
be in the low down there. The hell of that.
I am the three minutes of my husband's sex tape
and put it on at the end of the video. Well,
(10:13):
I will go agree with you nine that sex is
side because all the sex tape is three minutes. I'll
be damned you saying he had some sorry sex and
now he'd put it on somebody else. Ain't ain't but
three damn minutes. I'll be damned you added three minutes
(10:33):
of the sex tape to the end of the video.
During the party, I had my children leave the room
and I played the video. Everybody was shocked in speech.
I guess they are because they're talking about it and
done it. H what's his name, Dariel? I was trying
to think that his rain. It's about Herbert this time,
(10:58):
ladies and gentlemen. Herbert by the outstanding man of the
year member of the Elks lodge. Herbert has been it.
Also outstanding member down at the local union eight eighty,
where he's been delivered and saving speeches and rights for
all the workers in an auto plane. Herbert is also
a deacon down at the church Church Herbert four thirteen
(11:19):
years down at the church kat founding money and taking
kids and kids. Everybody, they gentlemanly, put your hands together
for Herbert, fast forward, taking kids. Oh Lord, not looking here,
hold on girl more doubt been too minute. I ain't
got but the middle. All right. Everybody was shocked. I
(11:44):
feel vindicated and have filed for divorce. Now here's the
part surely that I think you kind of missed on.
His family really hates how I exposed him. It ain't
that they didn't that they took his side. She they
hate the way you exposed till you was dead. Wrong
(12:05):
for for waiting until that man's fiftieth birthday party, push
it on it end or the montage tape that his
sister took all this time put together. He dined at
the Elksloud he's sentencing on a year. He dined at
the local Union. He didn't want the basketball and turn
this right here he had now your a bitter bitter
(12:30):
then set up here and put the three minute sex
tape after end at his birthday party. When you wrong that,
you damn right you was wrong, even you're shut up,
Shirley and Calum. He had that woman in the house
send the town montage. Harvey f Eminence put on the
(12:52):
here podcast on demand coming up at forty six minutes
after the hour. It's Sports Talk with Junior. You're listening
to the Day Harvey Morning Show.
Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need
advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting and more. Please
submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading you're a
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know.
(00:21):
Send those letters in because we could be reading Yours
could be yours. It could be Buckle up and hold
on tight. We got it for you here. It is
a Strawberry letter. Thank you, nephew. Subjects caught on film.
Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been married for over half my
life and my husband checked out of the marriage five
years ago. He started sleeping on the couch and then
(00:43):
eventually moved into the guest room. I'm okay with not
having sex because it wasn't ever that good anyway. I
went through periods of being bitter, but didn't do anything
drastic because of our children. He told his family that
I was verbally abusive to him, and his mother only
tolerant at me so she could see our children. We
had a brunch over the Christmas holidays to celebrate my
(01:05):
husband's grandmother's birthday, my husband's grandmother gave a speech and
looked directly at me when she said that a wife
shouldn't be headstrong and should stay in her place with
a man. That's when I knew that I had to
set the record straight and let his sorry family know
that he's always been the problem. He's always been the problem.
(01:26):
I couldn't figure I couldn't figure out if he was
having women in my house or not, so I had
two cameras to try to catch him. It wasn't until
recently that I got exactly what I was looking for.
I went out to a convention in Dallas and took
the kids. My husband entertained a woman for two nights
(01:46):
in my home. The second night, they had sex on
the couch in the den, and it was caught on camera.
I held on to it until his fiftieth birthday party.
His sister did a video money of my husband's accomplishments
and gave it to me for the party. I was
able to add the three minutes of my husband's sex
(02:08):
tape to the end of the video. During the party,
I had my children leave the room and I played
the video. Everyone was shocked and speechless. I feel vindicated
and I has filed for divorce. His family really hates
how I exposed him. Was I wrong for showing the
video to his family at his party? Look, it doesn't
(02:35):
matter at this point. It doesn't matter what you do
or you know, if you were wrong or not. At
this point, the verdict is in. They hate you no
matter what. They're suffering from what's called misplaced anger. And
it's quite obvious they never liked you. They even poisoned
your grandmother's mind, and she lets you know just how
she felt about you in her speech, you know, talking
(02:58):
about a woman should be be headstrong and should stay
in her place with a man. And all that. Your
husband was caught on film having sex in your home.
They all saw it. They chose to take his side
and blame you. If I were you, I wouldn't care
what is judgment or family thought of me. They're believing
what they want to believe at this point, and the
(03:19):
truth is what they saw on film. They don't care.
The best thing you could have done, after all, this
was filed for divorce from this man who lives in
your home. He has them in your husband for years.
You said at least five years, and I'm surprised you
tolerated it for as long as you did. But you
said it was for the kids, but kids are not
It's time to let this thing go now because there's
(03:41):
nowhere else to go but your separate ways after something
like this, Steve, you know, I have a unique way
of looking at these letters, and I read very carefully
what people are saying because I like timelines, you know,
I like to figure out where blaring their life when
they write these letters. So I have picked up a
(04:03):
couple of clues. I've been married for over half of
my life. My ex husband checked out the marriage five
years ago. He started sleeping on the couch and then
eventually moved to the guest room. So, if you've been
married over half your life, and later on in the
(04:24):
letter you wait to expose your husband at his fiftieth
birthday party, I'm assuming you were married in your twenties
and y'all fifty. Let's just say y'all got married at
twenty five and y'all fifty. Now, that's how you've been
married over half your life. That's what I'm going to
assume with the timeline. Five years ago he checked out
(04:48):
and moved into the guest room. I'm okay with not
having sex because it wasn't ever that good anyway. Now,
you say you weren't upset about not having sex, but
then you said I went through periods of being bitter,
but I didn't do anything drastic because of our children.
(05:08):
What if you ain't cannon about having a sex. What
you what you're made for? Now? See little conflict hill conflict.
You were upset because he checked out the marriage, and
you should have done something about it in spite of
the children. He told his family. I was verbally verbally
abusive to it. Now, he told one side of the story.
(05:28):
But you were verbally abusive to him, and you know
who you were because you said you got bitter. You
can't cause a woman to get bitter and then she
let you live in that house in peace. That's are
not fitting to happen, ain't No, women are not built
that way. You can't make a woman bitter and then
she don't bring up bit her nests. No, it just
(05:49):
don't happen. That don't make her wrong. You made her
bitter by checking out the marriage, and she became very
verbally abusive. He told that part. He didn't tell his
family he had checked out, though, and his mother only
tolerated me so she could see how child you. We
had a brunch over Christmas Holidays to celebrate my husband
grandmama's birthday. My husband grandmama gave a speech and looked
(06:12):
directly at me when she said a wife shouldn't be
headstrong and she's stay in her place with a man.
Listen to this line. Their grandmama stood up at the
party and saying a wife shouldn't be headstrong and sho's
stay in her place with a man. Can your grandmama
speak at Mordred's birthday party? Nicktion, This is not about you.
(06:34):
Your grandmama will speak at Mordred's birthday party being headstrong.
We'll have part two of Steve's response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letters subjects
caught on film. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening, all right, Steve. Let's recap today's strawberry letter.
(06:57):
The subject is caught on film. Well, this woman been
married over half her life, so I'm assuming she's fifty
been married because her husband's fifty birthday is coming up.
In the letter. I'm assuming they got married in at
twenty so he would go he checked out the marriage
five years ago, start sleeping on couch and moving into
the guest room. She's okay, She's okay with not having
sex because it wasn't that good in anyway. Well, then
(07:19):
right after that, she said she went through peerds of
being bitter, but didn't do anything draft because of the kids.
And so that means you wasn't okay with him checking
out the marriage, And I understood he told his family
that I was verbally abusive to him, which is true
because you were bitter, and you have every right to
be verbally abusive because he's abusive to you. What man
(07:39):
checks out the marriage and stay in the house. That's
abuse right there. You did verbally abuse him, but he
did not tell his family what he did to you.
He told one side of the story. That's why people
always tell, right, So I'm so far on your sizes.
His mother only tolerated me so she could see the children.
We had a brunch over the Christmas holidays because her
grandma for her grandma's birthday party. My hub and grandmama
(08:03):
gave a speech and looked at record at me when
she said that a wife should shouldn't be headstrong and
should stay in her place with a maiden. The only
thing I gotta this was Kenny, your grandmother speak at
Margie's birthday party. Next she come talk to my headstone
(08:23):
and had wife and try to talk some old school
as sense into her because she only a new thing. Okay,
so she not coming. That's when I knew I had
to set the record straight, and I had let his
side family know that he always been the problem. So
I couldn't figure out if he was having women in
my house and not. So I hear two cameras to
try to catch you. You do know he's been having sex,
(08:46):
ain't no man checked out for five years and ain't
had set Because you don't think it is good? He
going to go get a whole lot of opinions about
his six Is this good thing? To get a whole
lot of opinions about his sex? It to you? I
don't like it. She was right about that. Next and
he just doing numbers. Now somebody fitting' like this little
(09:08):
sorry sex he got, And so she put cameras up
trying to catch him. Wasn't too recently that I got
exactly what I was looking for. Went out to convention
in Dallas, two kids with him, and he had entertained
the woman for two nights in the house. Second night
they had sex on the couch in the den, and
(09:31):
you caught it on camera. My lord, Well you held
on to this and to his fiftieth birthday party. How
you did that, I will never know, because I'm telling
you right now, everybody out of there walking in with
that damn take the night she get it. I'm getting
woke up with cold water. Heyy got something wants you
(09:52):
to see. His sister did a video montage of my
husband's accomplishments, gave it to me for the party. I'll
be in the low down there. The hell of that.
I am the three minutes of my husband's sex tape
and put it on at the end of the video. Well,
(10:13):
I will go agree with you nine that sex is
side because all the sex tape is three minutes. I'll
be damned you saying he had some sorry sex and
now he'd put it on somebody else. Ain't ain't but
three damn minutes. I'll be damned you added three minutes
(10:33):
of the sex tape to the end of the video.
During the party, I had my children leave the room
and I played the video. Everybody was shocked in speech.
I guess they are because they're talking about it and
done it. H what's his name, Dariel? I was trying
to think that his rain. It's about Herbert this time,
(10:58):
ladies and gentlemen. Herbert by the outstanding man of the
year member of the Elks lodge. Herbert has been it.
Also outstanding member down at the local union eight eighty,
where he's been delivered and saving speeches and rights for
all the workers in an auto plane. Herbert is also
a deacon down at the church Church Herbert four thirteen
(11:19):
years down at the church kat founding money and taking
kids and kids. Everybody, they gentlemanly, put your hands together
for Herbert, fast forward, taking kids. Oh Lord, not looking here,
hold on girl more doubt been too minute. I ain't
got but the middle. All right. Everybody was shocked. I
(11:44):
feel vindicated and have filed for divorce. Now here's the
part surely that I think you kind of missed on.
His family really hates how I exposed him. It ain't
that they didn't that they took his side. She they
hate the way you exposed till you was dead. Wrong
(12:05):
for for waiting until that man's fiftieth birthday party, push
it on it end or the montage tape that his
sister took all this time put together. He dined at
the Elksloud he's sentencing on a year. He dined at
the local Union. He didn't want the basketball and turn
this right here he had now your a bitter bitter
(12:30):
then set up here and put the three minute sex
tape after end at his birthday party. When you wrong that,
you damn right you was wrong, even you're shut up,
Shirley and Calum. He had that woman in the house
send the town montage. Harvey f Eminence put on the
(12:52):
here podcast on demand coming up at forty six minutes
after the hour. It's Sports Talk with Junior. You're listening
to the Day Harvey Morning Show.
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