July 27, 2022 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 49 year old married woman and my husband is 47 and boring with a capital B. We have gained weight since we got married and he’s a thigh and butt kind of guy so he’s constantly rubbing on me and grabbing my behind. That’s all he’s done to show me affection in the last year. Sex with him is boring and as soon as he is done, he falls asleep. We don’t cuddle and he sleeps with his back to me.................................
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Thank you, nephew. Subject He's not creative enough for me.
Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a forty nine year old married
woman and my husband is forty seven and boring with
a capital B. We have gained weight since we got married,
and he's a thigh and butt kind of a guy.
(00:44):
So he's constantly rubbing on me and grabbing my behind.
That's all he's done to show me affection in the
last year. Sex with him is boring, and as soon
as he's done, he falls asleep. We don't cuddle and
he sleeps with his back to me. I talked to
him about being a little more creative in the bedroom,
and he said he has a lot of stress to
(01:05):
perform at work, and his body gets tired quicker because
of all the extra weight he's carrying around. I told
him I would come up with a few ways for
us to enjoy sex again without it hurting his knees
or his back. I started watching videos, not porn, to
study positions and techniques to please him. I thought that
(01:25):
this age sex would be natural and fun, but he
sees it as work. I asked him to watch a
few of the videos, and he said that's adding something
else for him to do, and there's not enough time
in the day as it is. I've never seen a
man that's as uninterested in sex as he is right now.
I use what I learned in a video on him,
(01:46):
and he literally laid there and let me do all
of the work. And he didn't put in any effort.
So when I finished, I didn't let him finish. I
might as well have used my toy. And speaking of toys,
he used to loveday with them, but he said, we're
too old to be fooling around like that. Now. He
never tells me no when I want sex, but he
(02:07):
won't put forth any effort, and I feel unloved. I
asked him if my weight is a turn off, and
he said that we are both overweight. So no, is
he really not interested in sex? Or is he lying
about my weight being a problem? All I need is
some creativity. Well, I think this is a problem, you know,
especially if it's really cheating that. I mean, if it's
(02:31):
really the weight that you're dealing with. Sex is just
too important in a marriage. I applaud your wife for
your effort. I mean, you've already done so much to
try and make your sex life better. You've gone as
far as doing real research watching movies, not pouring, you say,
and then you've tried out what you learn from those
movies on your husband. That's a lot. But he just
lies there. He told you he gets tired quicker because
(02:54):
of the extra pounds and the stressed work. I mean,
you know, stress and work that could cause extra weight.
We do know that. But you say he will still
have sex with you. He never tells, you know, which
means maybe that he is interested on some level, he
just won't initiate it, or he turns his back and
goes to sleep when it's over, So maybe he's not interested.
(03:17):
And then you're over there, still awake and mad afterwards,
and oh yeah, he did say you guys are too
old for toys and stuff. Has he just given up?
I mean, is it a medical issue? Is he cheating?
What is it? You want the intimacy, you want that romance,
in that connection, you want to cuddle, That's what we
women like. I mean, he's not even trying to do
(03:37):
any of that. And you know, all marriages hit rough patches,
but it is hard to keep a marriage together when
you're just doing the bare minimum. So I mean, if
it's the weight, if it's the weight like you think
it is, like you say it is in this letter,
start with just trying to get healthier, and you know
what that means, changing your diet, starting exercise, starting to
lose some of those pounds. All right, that's what I
(04:00):
had for you. You should see a difference if that,
If the weight is truly the issue, um, you should
see a difference. Hopefully you guys will start feeling a
little better about yourselves and feeling better and looking better. Steve,
that's all I got, she said, the weight. Well, no,
(04:21):
y'all want me to do this now? Yes, come on, No,
we're not sure. I'm sure, yeah, right, you know, SHERYLA.
I appreciate your response, your eutfort. I'm going with the weight.
She said, it was the weight. Yeah, but you did
(04:43):
not address the weight because I know you would in
a way that can help this come. We bounced it
all around the subject. She said it right off the dribble,
she know what this is. Husband is boring with a
(05:06):
capital two feet. Right after that, she said, we have
game weight since we got married, and he's a thigh
and butt kind of guy, so he's constantly rubbing on
me and grabbing my behind. Okay, I can show you
(05:27):
that a large part of this weight games in that air.
I can show you that. But right now we don't
have a problem because he a button thigh man, and
you do gave me plenty more. But he also the
game and that's all he's done to show me affection.
In the last year. Sex with him is boring and
(05:51):
as soon as he's done, so I'm just gonna set
up the next year we come back. I'm gonna show
you the problem that this weight has called. And a
lot of this, lady, is your fault, and the other
half is his fault. It's some dudes and don't when
(06:17):
you beg and got to focus on these, don't cast
the dudes. It's not always possible. So when we come back,
dudes and don't. All right, and I'm gonna have much
shot how much weight hold that thought? All right? We'll
(06:42):
be back art at twenty three minutes after the hour
with today's Strawberry letter. The title He's not creative enough
for me. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening to show, all right, Come on, Steve, let's
recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject is he's a creative
enough for me. We got a problem with this letter.
(07:04):
This forty nine year old woman and her husband forty seven.
She claims is boring in the capital B. And the
reason is because we have gained weight since we got there.
We just the key and both of them peau. And
he's a button thigh guy, and so all he does
now is rub on me. That's the total affection that
(07:26):
she gets from him. And and but sex with him
is boring. And as soon as he's does boss sleep.
A couple other things I want to point out in
this letter. He said he has a lot of stress
to perform at work and his body gets tied quickly
because of the extra weight he's carried around. So this
(07:48):
ain't this, ain't this, ain't what he talk So you
can pick up thirty pounds and still be the same
person to the dirty is up dead and you can
still perform and anything over or the fifty pound. We
got to start making some adjustments, and I'm assuming this
(08:08):
letter it's gonna require some ajustments, becaus soon as he
gets through, he fall out of me. And he don't
never turn it down because it's still sex. It all
this here with so she talking about that they had
to get him watch porn. She said he was. I
told him that I would come up with a few
ways for us to enjoy sex again without hurting his
(08:29):
knees on his back. That's a lot of ways your
knees and back is hurt for just regular walking and
talking to you. Second, you're a bad shake. Your involved
in sex a lot, a lot. Even when you laying
down place down, you got to come up on your
(08:49):
knees at one point because you didn't game. You wait,
your show. Can't lift up on your toes no more
that toes and stretching your legs out straight. That's out.
You have got to use your knees that he to
pick up so much damn weight his knees down. Yeah,
his nudity is hurting on a mattress. You know how
much weight your fat ass to day? Your knees is her, Shirley,
(09:12):
don't stop. Your knees is hurting on the mattress. M
to wait his fat asking game and then you laying
up there. Then watch the video with all this stuff
you can't do. See here, the danger with watching Pawn.
Everybody in the porn old movie is shape. You can't
do what's in the movie. So now I have created
(09:32):
you be quiet, Shirley, you be dead what you could have?
Healthy people you're talking about too fat ass people get
here trying to act like they in the part old film,
and you can't do that because the size and the
weight is gonna restrict a lot of what you do.
Thieves are some of them that are technique and size
(09:54):
restriction restricts. Technique that is fatigue and fall stability in
ball hand in ball, you can't hold your body in
certain positions. Let me explain something to you. It's a
lot of stuff y'all just can't do that. All this
stuff you've seen in the pawn on top of pool table.
(10:14):
Y'all can't do that. Y'all can't do that, get all
that cam table? Why the kids don't play that? You
can't do that? Right here? All this stuff you see
him splashing saint squad on top of each other, splashing
up in the seat. You can't get her up on
that seat and not hold her up there with your
(10:36):
needs all these restrict this stuff you see that that
ain't other that. You know how you pick your parting up?
You're not going to do that. Can't nobody carry your
ass across the room no more? You ain't been carried
across the room. He badly he can't tell you, fat ass?
Take everything to come up scans tonight, damn show. Can't
(10:56):
get up some stuff to all that wheezing and then
pick your thick ass up? And can you round the
room like you want to get card around me? Because
you saw that in the pown old field. I'm gonna
tell you something else. Ain't walm mountains mounting them up
on the wall. That's not happening no more, wal mountain.
You know how you get picked up slammed up against
the wall? Us round me in the neighbor's apartment trying
(11:17):
that right there, because that ain't number sheet rocking wood
framing right there. And then now and then they have
a little pink uh you know, insulation in that. But
if you slam a big person up against apartment wall,
y'all ba being the mother people apartment, so all that
wall mountains. Tell you something. Chandelier swanders out. Listen to shell.
Ain't almost chandelier swain all this? Who would yall? You
(11:40):
stud y'all was younger and lighter, you swaying crossed down
that chandelier and see what happened, And everybody in there
gonna get electroc q. They're gonna put all the wires
down out that ceiling, and then your AS's gonna be
sent up in here in this bed shocked and all
this hire, all this little sexiest up that army crawling
to the bed. He get tied soon as he come
out of the bed. When he get out on ball fold,
(12:02):
he trying to pull his big ass up on the
foot of that bed and Armory crawl clean your leg.
He can't do that no more. That ain't what he'd do.
Let me tell y'all something, don't knob diving. That's out an.
I'm gonna don't knob din an, I'm gonna put your
foot on that door knob and see what happens. Snap
that damn don't knob off that hinge, and y'all be
(12:22):
in that bed room and miss work tomorrow because you
can't get out. Now you got to call the neighbor
because y'all big ass and broke the door. Knob off
the door, so ain't no more, don't knob dit ain't
no mo had and go see all these stages out.
Y'all need to get a damn gym membership and say, no, man,
that's what you need. I appreciate my answer all the more.
(12:47):
Now you don't appreciate mine as You gotta tell me
fat as people the truth, all right, you ain't what
it was, and y'all not going to do all these
position no more. He bend over there no moment on
Instagram and now you don't broke the back into account
and Steve Harvey FM dot com. Y'all sitting in here,
got Murphy bed in the middle of y'all living room
(13:09):
and check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand coming
up next to his sports talk with Junior. Right after this,
you're listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com.
All you have to do is click submit Strawberry Letter.
We could be reading your letter live pop fip on
the air, like we're gonna read this one right here,
right now, and you never know, it could be yours.
(00:22):
You never know. Buckle up and hold on tight. We
got it for you here. It is the Strawberry Letter.
Thank you, nephew. Subject He's not creative enough for me.
Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a forty nine year old married
woman and my husband is forty seven and boring with
a capital B. We have gained weight since we got married,
and he's a thigh and butt kind of a guy.
(00:44):
So he's constantly rubbing on me and grabbing my behind.
That's all he's done to show me affection in the
last year. Sex with him is boring, and as soon
as he's done, he falls asleep. We don't cuddle and
he sleeps with his back to me. I talked to
him about being a little more creative in the bedroom,
and he said he has a lot of stress to
(01:05):
perform at work, and his body gets tired quicker because
of all the extra weight he's carrying around. I told
him I would come up with a few ways for
us to enjoy sex again without it hurting his knees
or his back. I started watching videos, not porn, to
study positions and techniques to please him. I thought that
(01:25):
this age sex would be natural and fun, but he
sees it as work. I asked him to watch a
few of the videos, and he said that's adding something
else for him to do, and there's not enough time
in the day as it is. I've never seen a
man that's as uninterested in sex as he is right now.
I use what I learned in a video on him,
(01:46):
and he literally laid there and let me do all
of the work. And he didn't put in any effort.
So when I finished, I didn't let him finish. I
might as well have used my toy. And speaking of toys,
he used to loveday with them, but he said, we're
too old to be fooling around like that. Now. He
never tells me no when I want sex, but he
(02:07):
won't put forth any effort, and I feel unloved. I
asked him if my weight is a turn off, and
he said that we are both overweight. So no, is
he really not interested in sex? Or is he lying
about my weight being a problem? All I need is
some creativity. Well, I think this is a problem, you know,
especially if it's really cheating that. I mean, if it's
(02:31):
really the weight that you're dealing with. Sex is just
too important in a marriage. I applaud your wife for
your effort. I mean, you've already done so much to
try and make your sex life better. You've gone as
far as doing real research watching movies, not pouring, you say,
and then you've tried out what you learn from those
movies on your husband. That's a lot. But he just
lies there. He told you he gets tired quicker because
(02:54):
of the extra pounds and the stressed work. I mean,
you know, stress and work that could cause extra weight.
We do know that. But you say he will still
have sex with you. He never tells, you know, which
means maybe that he is interested on some level, he
just won't initiate it, or he turns his back and
goes to sleep when it's over, So maybe he's not interested.
(03:17):
And then you're over there, still awake and mad afterwards,
and oh yeah, he did say you guys are too
old for toys and stuff. Has he just given up?
I mean, is it a medical issue? Is he cheating?
What is it? You want the intimacy, you want that romance,
in that connection, you want to cuddle, That's what we
women like. I mean, he's not even trying to do
(03:37):
any of that. And you know, all marriages hit rough patches,
but it is hard to keep a marriage together when
you're just doing the bare minimum. So I mean, if
it's the weight, if it's the weight like you think
it is, like you say it is in this letter,
start with just trying to get healthier, and you know
what that means, changing your diet, starting exercise, starting to
lose some of those pounds. All right, that's what I
(04:00):
had for you. You should see a difference if that,
If the weight is truly the issue, um, you should
see a difference. Hopefully you guys will start feeling a
little better about yourselves and feeling better and looking better. Steve,
that's all I got, she said, the weight. Well, no,
(04:21):
y'all want me to do this now? Yes, come on, No,
we're not sure. I'm sure, yeah, right, you know, SHERYLA.
I appreciate your response, your eutfort. I'm going with the weight.
She said, it was the weight. Yeah, but you did
(04:43):
not address the weight because I know you would in
a way that can help this come. We bounced it
all around the subject. She said it right off the dribble,
she know what this is. Husband is boring with a
(05:06):
capital two feet. Right after that, she said, we have
game weight since we got married, and he's a thigh
and butt kind of guy, so he's constantly rubbing on
me and grabbing my behind. Okay, I can show you
(05:27):
that a large part of this weight games in that air.
I can show you that. But right now we don't
have a problem because he a button thigh man, and
you do gave me plenty more. But he also the
game and that's all he's done to show me affection.
In the last year. Sex with him is boring and
(05:51):
as soon as he's done, so I'm just gonna set
up the next year we come back. I'm gonna show
you the problem that this weight has called. And a
lot of this, lady, is your fault, and the other
half is his fault. It's some dudes and don't when
(06:17):
you beg and got to focus on these, don't cast
the dudes. It's not always possible. So when we come back,
dudes and don't. All right, and I'm gonna have much
shot how much weight hold that thought? All right? We'll
(06:42):
be back art at twenty three minutes after the hour
with today's Strawberry letter. The title He's not creative enough
for me. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening to show, all right, Come on, Steve, let's
recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject is he's a creative
enough for me. We got a problem with this letter.
(07:04):
This forty nine year old woman and her husband forty seven.
She claims is boring in the capital B. And the
reason is because we have gained weight since we got there.
We just the key and both of them peau. And
he's a button thigh guy, and so all he does
now is rub on me. That's the total affection that
(07:26):
she gets from him. And and but sex with him
is boring. And as soon as he's does boss sleep.
A couple other things I want to point out in
this letter. He said he has a lot of stress
to perform at work and his body gets tied quickly
because of the extra weight he's carried around. So this
(07:48):
ain't this, ain't this, ain't what he talk So you
can pick up thirty pounds and still be the same
person to the dirty is up dead and you can
still perform and anything over or the fifty pound. We
got to start making some adjustments, and I'm assuming this
(08:08):
letter it's gonna require some ajustments, becaus soon as he
gets through, he fall out of me. And he don't
never turn it down because it's still sex. It all
this here with so she talking about that they had
to get him watch porn. She said he was. I
told him that I would come up with a few
ways for us to enjoy sex again without hurting his
(08:29):
knees on his back. That's a lot of ways your
knees and back is hurt for just regular walking and
talking to you. Second, you're a bad shake. Your involved
in sex a lot, a lot. Even when you laying
down place down, you got to come up on your
(08:49):
knees at one point because you didn't game. You wait,
your show. Can't lift up on your toes no more
that toes and stretching your legs out straight. That's out.
You have got to use your knees that he to
pick up so much damn weight his knees down. Yeah,
his nudity is hurting on a mattress. You know how
much weight your fat ass to day? Your knees is her, Shirley,
(09:12):
don't stop. Your knees is hurting on the mattress. M
to wait his fat asking game and then you laying
up there. Then watch the video with all this stuff
you can't do. See here, the danger with watching Pawn.
Everybody in the porn old movie is shape. You can't
do what's in the movie. So now I have created
(09:32):
you be quiet, Shirley, you be dead what you could have?
Healthy people you're talking about too fat ass people get
here trying to act like they in the part old film,
and you can't do that because the size and the
weight is gonna restrict a lot of what you do.
Thieves are some of them that are technique and size
(09:54):
restriction restricts. Technique that is fatigue and fall stability in
ball hand in ball, you can't hold your body in
certain positions. Let me explain something to you. It's a
lot of stuff y'all just can't do that. All this
stuff you've seen in the pawn on top of pool table.
(10:14):
Y'all can't do that. Y'all can't do that, get all
that cam table? Why the kids don't play that? You
can't do that? Right here? All this stuff you see
him splashing saint squad on top of each other, splashing
up in the seat. You can't get her up on
that seat and not hold her up there with your
(10:36):
needs all these restrict this stuff you see that that
ain't other that. You know how you pick your parting up?
You're not going to do that. Can't nobody carry your
ass across the room no more? You ain't been carried
across the room. He badly he can't tell you, fat ass?
Take everything to come up scans tonight, damn show. Can't
(10:56):
get up some stuff to all that wheezing and then
pick your thick ass up? And can you round the
room like you want to get card around me? Because
you saw that in the pown old field. I'm gonna
tell you something else. Ain't walm mountains mounting them up
on the wall. That's not happening no more, wal mountain.
You know how you get picked up slammed up against
the wall? Us round me in the neighbor's apartment trying
(11:17):
that right there, because that ain't number sheet rocking wood
framing right there. And then now and then they have
a little pink uh you know, insulation in that. But
if you slam a big person up against apartment wall,
y'all ba being the mother people apartment, so all that
wall mountains. Tell you something. Chandelier swanders out. Listen to shell.
Ain't almost chandelier swain all this? Who would yall? You
(11:40):
stud y'all was younger and lighter, you swaying crossed down
that chandelier and see what happened, And everybody in there
gonna get electroc q. They're gonna put all the wires
down out that ceiling, and then your AS's gonna be
sent up in here in this bed shocked and all
this hire, all this little sexiest up that army crawling
to the bed. He get tied soon as he come
out of the bed. When he get out on ball fold,
(12:02):
he trying to pull his big ass up on the
foot of that bed and Armory crawl clean your leg.
He can't do that no more. That ain't what he'd do.
Let me tell y'all something, don't knob diving. That's out an.
I'm gonna don't knob din an, I'm gonna put your
foot on that door knob and see what happens. Snap
that damn don't knob off that hinge, and y'all be
(12:22):
in that bed room and miss work tomorrow because you
can't get out. Now you got to call the neighbor
because y'all big ass and broke the door. Knob off
the door, so ain't no more, don't knob dit ain't
no mo had and go see all these stages out.
Y'all need to get a damn gym membership and say, no, man,
that's what you need. I appreciate my answer all the more.
(12:47):
Now you don't appreciate mine as You gotta tell me
fat as people the truth, all right, you ain't what
it was, and y'all not going to do all these
position no more. He bend over there no moment on
Instagram and now you don't broke the back into account
and Steve Harvey FM dot com. Y'all sitting in here,
got Murphy bed in the middle of y'all living room
(13:09):
and check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand coming
up next to his sports talk with Junior. Right after this,
you're listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show
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