May 8, 2024 • 12 mins
Kylie is back, answering some quick-fire "Have you ever...?" questions about motherhood and family life.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
It's the Happy Families podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
It's the podcast for the time poor parent who just
wants answers.
Speaker 1 (00:10):
Now, you really haven't heard much from Kylie this week,
missus Happy Families has lost her voice. Say hi to everyone,
Kylie Hello, it's slowly, slowly coming back. And so we're
trying to try to force out a podcast today because
Mother's Day is coming up in just a couple of days,
and well we're excited, at least for our Australian audience.
It's Mother's Day this Sunday and Kylie Today on the podcast,
(00:33):
We're going to do something we've never done before. There's
an old radio game that politicians refuse to play. It's
cat the yes No game. It's not the yes no
game where you're not allowed to say yes or no
and people have got to trick you into saying yes
or no. This is the yes no game where every
answer that you give has to be a yes or
a no. Now, you can qualify it with one or
two quick sentences after, but you've got to give me
a yes or a no after each question. Mother's Day's
(00:55):
coming up. I thought it could be fun to ask
you a whole bunch of questions about being mum.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
You know, I don't do anything fast one of the time.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
So I'm just going to open up and give you
a peek behind the curtain here for a sec. You
hear an edited version of the body of the podcast.
Because one of the great challenges that I have, having
once been a radio on now so there's no such
thing as dead air like that you don't say anything.
So I'll say things and if I was on the radio,
(01:25):
my co host would then say something back to me.
I mean, I haven't been on the radio for twenty years,
but once it's enough to be your co you are
my co host. Once radio is in your butt, it
doesn't leave. And so I just have this expectation that
as Kylie and I talk and banter, that Kylie's going
to respond. But like I said, you get the edited version.
Sometimes Paul Jr. Our producer, he'll be seeing this shit.
(01:46):
You go, is anyone going to say anything like hello?
Because nobody's saying and I've said my thing and Kylie's
you like to process.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
I do. It takes me a little bit of time
to process.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Your brain works differently to my brain, and there's no
thing the matter with that.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
We'll just see how this gamee goes.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
I'm a little bit nervous.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
What are you going to ask me? Politicians? Why I play?
What are you asking?
Speaker 1 (02:07):
Well, that's politicians won't give you yes, no answer. They
just got their own agenda. So here are the rules.
I've got a whole bunch of questions for you. This
is going to be the entirety of the podcast. Questions
about being a mum, Questions about your experiences over the
last twenty five years of being a mum.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
This kind of feels like filling out a survey when
they don't have the right answer.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
You must say yes or no. You can add an
explanatory sentence now and then if you must, and you
can pass once. So choose that time to pass, very.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Kid, Can I ask me?
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Well, I don't know. Craig Bruce, our executive producer, is
the one who sent the questions.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
Through great so he could be in big trouble.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
Are you ready, missus? Happy families, Let's go, Kylie Coulson.
Have you ever fallen asleep on the couch from pure exhaustion? Yes,
I thought you were going to give me more. You've
said yes or not, But the one or two sentences
after makes it more fun. But yes, where else have
you fallen asleep from your exa.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
In all old concept? That's definitely my claim to pay right.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Near the speakers. Have you ever forgotten to pick one
of the girls up from school.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Too many times?
Speaker 1 (03:19):
Have you ever eaten a Mother's Day breakfast made by
the girls and regretted the moment it went into your mouth? No,
there's been very few times that that made me breakfast.
Our girls are pretty slack on Mother's Day. I remind them.
I give them a lot of nudges, but you're the mom.
You're not my mom, so it's their responsibility to make
Mother's Day special for you.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Just think called scaffolding. Yeah, I do what you had
gotten better, but it took a pretty big barney on
step up.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
It really did. Have you ever had an argument with
your mother in law that you regret? No, we actually
get on pretty well with my mom because we live
a thousand caves. Did you underestimate a mother's love for
their children before you felt it yourself.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
I spent five days in the hospital with Shanella, our eldest,
and I don't remember sleeping a lot because I just
couldn't get enough of her.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
Want to inhale her. Literally, Kylie, do you ever have
a sleep in on the weekends and feel bad about
it afterwards?
Speaker 2 (04:23):
Never?
Speaker 1 (04:25):
That's a double barreled question. Do you ever have a
sleep in on the weekends? Never? Never? So if you did,
would you feel bad about it?
Speaker 2 (04:35):
Never?
Speaker 1 (04:36):
Have you ever compared yourself to other mums?
Speaker 2 (04:38):
Always?
Speaker 1 (04:40):
How's that worked for you?
Speaker 2 (04:43):
Well? Sometimes it works in my favor, really really well,
But most of the time it doesn't get downward.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
Social comparison feels good, doesn't it. It's nice to punch
down now and then. Have you ever wondered if you're
doing it right?
Speaker 2 (04:56):
More times than I can count?
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Do you think that you'll always worry about it? Girls?
Speaker 2 (05:01):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Have you ever met a mum that really does seem
to have it all figured out?
Speaker 2 (05:07):
Yes? Over the years, there's been plenty of people that
at the time it felt like they had everything together.
But as our friendship obviously developed and grew and we
became more vulnerable with each other, I recognized that they didn't.
But at the time all I could see was that
(05:27):
they were able to seemingly do everything so effortlessly, and
for me it just felt hard.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
Do you ever think about what it would be like
having a son.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
Yeah, I do. I don't feel like I'm missing out,
but I definitely have one did.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
Based on the experiences that we've had watching other people
with their sons. I don't feel like we're missing out either, but.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
I have wondered what it would be like and whether
or not I would actually be able to pull it together.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
Do you feel any different now that you're a grandma?
Speaker 2 (06:00):
Yeah, I do. I feel a lot more connected with
myself and a lot more confident in my capacity as
a parent.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
One of the highlights of my life, genuine highlights of
my life, is grandparenthood. I don't know quite how to
put it into words. I know this is your yes
no for Mother's Day, but I can't help I have
to intrude now and then with something. There's just something
unspeakably magnificently wonderful about watching your own children with their children,
(06:29):
especially when they're doing it well. I mean, and our
daughter and our son and Laura are doing it so well.
I think they're doing it far better than we ever did,
especially with no experience. It's just an absolute delight.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
I remember reading a real a little while back, and
it was just the acknowledgment that for some people, they
get really upset about the extra attention their children get,
the grandchildren get, and don't feel like their parents ever
loved them the way they love their grandchildren. And the
point of you that they were sharing was just the
(07:01):
acknowledgment that this is actually an extension of the love
that they have for you as their child. Yeah, And
it's so beautiful. I watch whenever we interact with Indy,
Chanelle has just got the biggest grin on her face,
like she yes, she feels the love that we have
for Indy Vicious, like she.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Knows that that's how we love her.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
Yeah, And because we love her that way, that and
it just I watch it. It fills her cup so spectacularly.
It's just it's such a beautiful kind of circle of
life moment, Kylie.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
Do you ever wish that you had the money for
a cleaner at a maid? Do I even need to
ask that question?
Speaker 2 (07:44):
So I could go without the cleaner and the maid,
but I would.
Speaker 1 (07:47):
Love a cookie. Do you ever wish that someone else
would make dinner tonight? Was the next question. I guess
I don't need to answer that. That would be every night,
every night, That question, what's for dinner? I feel so
bad when I ask it of you, Like I'll be
in the office and I'm I'm really you ask me
(08:08):
every day, but I feel terrible asking. I'm buried in work.
I so badly just want to get into the kitchen
and cook the meal so that you don't have to
think about it. But I'm either so exhausted i can
barely lift my legs, or I'm so snowed under with
work and work commitments. Oh my goodness. It's like it's
got to be one of the hardest parenting questions there is,
(08:29):
and it's got nothing to do with parenting. All right,
just a couple more. Do you ever think about the
house being empty and the girls being grown up? I mean,
we've only got a half a dozen years or so,
and we're pretty much at the emptiness stage.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
There's a part of me that's been looking forward to
that day, yes, for a very long time. But having
had baby number three leave and now we're down.
Speaker 1 (08:49):
To half yeah, we've got three kids at home, it's
actually heartbreaking.
Speaker 2 (08:53):
Yeah, it's really really challenging, and I think that the
day that the house is empty is going to be
a really sad day.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
An extension of that. Yes, no, are you nervous for
that stage of our lives together?
Speaker 2 (09:06):
No, I'm not nervous with our stage.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
We are going to have fun, right.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
I think that one of the biggest challenges that we've
had over our family life together has just been trying
to find the balance between time together and time with
our children. And I don't think that that's ever going
to end. I look at each of our children and
their needs, and then add grandchildren to the equation, and
(09:31):
I think that there's always going to be this wrestle
between when is enough time, and because we have fostered
some beautiful relationships between each of our children, I think
it's always going to be a wrestle. It's always going
to be a wrestle.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
We have three questions to go, Kylie, is there anything
you haven't said to our girls that you would like
to tell them?
Speaker 2 (09:55):
I don't think so. I don't think so. I didn't
have the best relationship with my mum growing up, and
I consistently looked for outside sources to be the maternal
figure that I needed in my life, and as a result,
I have worked so hard to build nurturing, loving relationships
(10:18):
with my girls, and I feel like we say all
the things that need to be said. I feel like, yeah,
I feel like we say all the things we need
to say.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
Kylie, is there anything that you would change?
Speaker 2 (10:30):
I think the only thing I would change is that
I knew who I was a lot earlier on in
the piece, that I had greater confidence in my own
capacity and my own ability to mother my children the
way they needed to be mothered.
Speaker 1 (10:45):
That's a perfect segue into the last question for you.
When you look in the mirror, who stares back at you.
I wasn't expecting that it's not a yes, no question.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
I kind of cheated on the last one.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
It would be a woman who has given everything, literally everything,
to not only bring these six amazing girls into the world,
but who's sacrificed the very best that she has to
give an offer for their betterment.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
That's what I see, and that's what makes you an
amazing one. I love you quietly. Happy Mother's Day, and
for everybody listening, thank you so much for participating being
a part of the Happy Families community. We love that
you listen to the podcast. We hope that it inspires
you to make your family happier. And to create stronger
(11:44):
relationships with those that matter the very most. The Happy
Family podcast is produced by Justin Ruhland from Bridge Media.
Craig Bruce is our executive producer. Thanks so much for
the questions, Craig and for helping us to make the
podcast what it is, and Jr. For the marvelous and
patient editing the you do mums, We hope you have
a wonderful, wonderful Mother's Day this weekend and that you
(12:04):
feel loved. For more information about making your family happy
of visit happy families dot com dot a U
It's the Happy Families podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
It's the podcast for the time poor parent who just
wants answers.
Speaker 1 (00:10):
Now, you really haven't heard much from Kylie this week,
missus Happy Families has lost her voice. Say hi to everyone,
Kylie Hello, it's slowly, slowly coming back. And so we're
trying to try to force out a podcast today because
Mother's Day is coming up in just a couple of days,
and well we're excited, at least for our Australian audience.
It's Mother's Day this Sunday and Kylie Today on the podcast,
(00:33):
We're going to do something we've never done before. There's
an old radio game that politicians refuse to play. It's
cat the yes No game. It's not the yes no
game where you're not allowed to say yes or no
and people have got to trick you into saying yes
or no. This is the yes no game where every
answer that you give has to be a yes or
a no. Now, you can qualify it with one or
two quick sentences after, but you've got to give me
a yes or a no after each question. Mother's Day's
(00:55):
coming up. I thought it could be fun to ask
you a whole bunch of questions about being mum.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
You know, I don't do anything fast one of the time.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
So I'm just going to open up and give you
a peek behind the curtain here for a sec. You
hear an edited version of the body of the podcast.
Because one of the great challenges that I have, having
once been a radio on now so there's no such
thing as dead air like that you don't say anything.
So I'll say things and if I was on the radio,
(01:25):
my co host would then say something back to me.
I mean, I haven't been on the radio for twenty years,
but once it's enough to be your co you are
my co host. Once radio is in your butt, it
doesn't leave. And so I just have this expectation that
as Kylie and I talk and banter, that Kylie's going
to respond. But like I said, you get the edited version.
Sometimes Paul Jr. Our producer, he'll be seeing this shit.
(01:46):
You go, is anyone going to say anything like hello?
Because nobody's saying and I've said my thing and Kylie's
you like to process.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
I do. It takes me a little bit of time
to process.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Your brain works differently to my brain, and there's no
thing the matter with that.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
We'll just see how this gamee goes.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
I'm a little bit nervous.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
What are you going to ask me? Politicians? Why I play?
What are you asking?
Speaker 1 (02:07):
Well, that's politicians won't give you yes, no answer. They
just got their own agenda. So here are the rules.
I've got a whole bunch of questions for you. This
is going to be the entirety of the podcast. Questions
about being a mum, Questions about your experiences over the
last twenty five years of being a mum.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
This kind of feels like filling out a survey when
they don't have the right answer.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
You must say yes or no. You can add an
explanatory sentence now and then if you must, and you
can pass once. So choose that time to pass, very.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Kid, Can I ask me?
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Well, I don't know. Craig Bruce, our executive producer, is
the one who sent the questions.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
Through great so he could be in big trouble.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
Are you ready, missus? Happy families, Let's go, Kylie Coulson.
Have you ever fallen asleep on the couch from pure exhaustion? Yes,
I thought you were going to give me more. You've
said yes or not, But the one or two sentences
after makes it more fun. But yes, where else have
you fallen asleep from your exa.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
In all old concept? That's definitely my claim to pay right.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Near the speakers. Have you ever forgotten to pick one
of the girls up from school.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Too many times?
Speaker 1 (03:19):
Have you ever eaten a Mother's Day breakfast made by
the girls and regretted the moment it went into your mouth? No,
there's been very few times that that made me breakfast.
Our girls are pretty slack on Mother's Day. I remind them.
I give them a lot of nudges, but you're the mom.
You're not my mom, so it's their responsibility to make
Mother's Day special for you.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Just think called scaffolding. Yeah, I do what you had
gotten better, but it took a pretty big barney on
step up.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
It really did. Have you ever had an argument with
your mother in law that you regret? No, we actually
get on pretty well with my mom because we live
a thousand caves. Did you underestimate a mother's love for
their children before you felt it yourself.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
I spent five days in the hospital with Shanella, our eldest,
and I don't remember sleeping a lot because I just
couldn't get enough of her.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
Want to inhale her. Literally, Kylie, do you ever have
a sleep in on the weekends and feel bad about
it afterwards?
Speaker 2 (04:23):
Never?
Speaker 1 (04:25):
That's a double barreled question. Do you ever have a
sleep in on the weekends? Never? Never? So if you did,
would you feel bad about it?
Speaker 2 (04:35):
Never?
Speaker 1 (04:36):
Have you ever compared yourself to other mums?
Speaker 2 (04:38):
Always?
Speaker 1 (04:40):
How's that worked for you?
Speaker 2 (04:43):
Well? Sometimes it works in my favor, really really well,
But most of the time it doesn't get downward.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
Social comparison feels good, doesn't it. It's nice to punch
down now and then. Have you ever wondered if you're
doing it right?
Speaker 2 (04:56):
More times than I can count?
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Do you think that you'll always worry about it? Girls?
Speaker 2 (05:01):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Have you ever met a mum that really does seem
to have it all figured out?
Speaker 2 (05:07):
Yes? Over the years, there's been plenty of people that
at the time it felt like they had everything together.
But as our friendship obviously developed and grew and we
became more vulnerable with each other, I recognized that they didn't.
But at the time all I could see was that
(05:27):
they were able to seemingly do everything so effortlessly, and
for me it just felt hard.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
Do you ever think about what it would be like
having a son.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
Yeah, I do. I don't feel like I'm missing out,
but I definitely have one did.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
Based on the experiences that we've had watching other people
with their sons. I don't feel like we're missing out either, but.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
I have wondered what it would be like and whether
or not I would actually be able to pull it together.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
Do you feel any different now that you're a grandma?
Speaker 2 (06:00):
Yeah, I do. I feel a lot more connected with
myself and a lot more confident in my capacity as
a parent.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
One of the highlights of my life, genuine highlights of
my life, is grandparenthood. I don't know quite how to
put it into words. I know this is your yes
no for Mother's Day, but I can't help I have
to intrude now and then with something. There's just something
unspeakably magnificently wonderful about watching your own children with their children,
(06:29):
especially when they're doing it well. I mean, and our
daughter and our son and Laura are doing it so well.
I think they're doing it far better than we ever did,
especially with no experience. It's just an absolute delight.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
I remember reading a real a little while back, and
it was just the acknowledgment that for some people, they
get really upset about the extra attention their children get,
the grandchildren get, and don't feel like their parents ever
loved them the way they love their grandchildren. And the
point of you that they were sharing was just the
(07:01):
acknowledgment that this is actually an extension of the love
that they have for you as their child. Yeah, And
it's so beautiful. I watch whenever we interact with Indy,
Chanelle has just got the biggest grin on her face,
like she yes, she feels the love that we have
for Indy Vicious, like she.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Knows that that's how we love her.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
Yeah, And because we love her that way, that and
it just I watch it. It fills her cup so spectacularly.
It's just it's such a beautiful kind of circle of
life moment, Kylie.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
Do you ever wish that you had the money for
a cleaner at a maid? Do I even need to
ask that question?
Speaker 2 (07:44):
So I could go without the cleaner and the maid,
but I would.
Speaker 1 (07:47):
Love a cookie. Do you ever wish that someone else
would make dinner tonight? Was the next question. I guess
I don't need to answer that. That would be every night,
every night, That question, what's for dinner? I feel so
bad when I ask it of you, Like I'll be
in the office and I'm I'm really you ask me
(08:08):
every day, but I feel terrible asking. I'm buried in work.
I so badly just want to get into the kitchen
and cook the meal so that you don't have to
think about it. But I'm either so exhausted i can
barely lift my legs, or I'm so snowed under with
work and work commitments. Oh my goodness. It's like it's
got to be one of the hardest parenting questions there is,
(08:29):
and it's got nothing to do with parenting. All right,
just a couple more. Do you ever think about the
house being empty and the girls being grown up? I mean,
we've only got a half a dozen years or so,
and we're pretty much at the emptiness stage.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
There's a part of me that's been looking forward to
that day, yes, for a very long time. But having
had baby number three leave and now we're down.
Speaker 1 (08:49):
To half yeah, we've got three kids at home, it's
actually heartbreaking.
Speaker 2 (08:53):
Yeah, it's really really challenging, and I think that the
day that the house is empty is going to be
a really sad day.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
An extension of that. Yes, no, are you nervous for
that stage of our lives together?
Speaker 2 (09:06):
No, I'm not nervous with our stage.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
We are going to have fun, right.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
I think that one of the biggest challenges that we've
had over our family life together has just been trying
to find the balance between time together and time with
our children. And I don't think that that's ever going
to end. I look at each of our children and
their needs, and then add grandchildren to the equation, and
(09:31):
I think that there's always going to be this wrestle
between when is enough time, and because we have fostered
some beautiful relationships between each of our children, I think
it's always going to be a wrestle. It's always going
to be a wrestle.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
We have three questions to go, Kylie, is there anything
you haven't said to our girls that you would like
to tell them?
Speaker 2 (09:55):
I don't think so. I don't think so. I didn't
have the best relationship with my mum growing up, and
I consistently looked for outside sources to be the maternal
figure that I needed in my life, and as a result,
I have worked so hard to build nurturing, loving relationships
(10:18):
with my girls, and I feel like we say all
the things that need to be said. I feel like, yeah,
I feel like we say all the things we need
to say.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
Kylie, is there anything that you would change?
Speaker 2 (10:30):
I think the only thing I would change is that
I knew who I was a lot earlier on in
the piece, that I had greater confidence in my own
capacity and my own ability to mother my children the
way they needed to be mothered.
Speaker 1 (10:45):
That's a perfect segue into the last question for you.
When you look in the mirror, who stares back at you.
I wasn't expecting that it's not a yes, no question.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
I kind of cheated on the last one.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
It would be a woman who has given everything, literally everything,
to not only bring these six amazing girls into the world,
but who's sacrificed the very best that she has to
give an offer for their betterment.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
That's what I see, and that's what makes you an
amazing one. I love you quietly. Happy Mother's Day, and
for everybody listening, thank you so much for participating being
a part of the Happy Families community. We love that
you listen to the podcast. We hope that it inspires
you to make your family happier. And to create stronger
(11:44):
relationships with those that matter the very most. The Happy
Family podcast is produced by Justin Ruhland from Bridge Media.
Craig Bruce is our executive producer. Thanks so much for
the questions, Craig and for helping us to make the
podcast what it is, and Jr. For the marvelous and
patient editing the you do mums, We hope you have
a wonderful, wonderful Mother's Day this weekend and that you
(12:04):
feel loved. For more information about making your family happy
of visit happy families dot com dot a U
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