If your eight-year-old won’t walk into another room without you, this episode will change everything. Justin and Kylie unpack what’s really going on beneath “irrational” childhood fears—and why pushing independence backfires. Instead, you’ll hear the science of secure attachment, relatable stories, and simple steps that make your child braver because you’ve got their back.
KEY POINTS
- Your child’s fear isn’t irrational—it’s real to them.
- Why forcing independence increases fear and dependence.
- Resilience is relational: kids become brave when they feel safe.
- How modelling your own fears helps kids face theirs.
- Four practical, developmentally sound ideas to reduce anxiety and build confidence.
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
“Force creates resistance. The more we push independence, the more our kids cling.”
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
- Go with them—compassion beats coercion.
- Skip the praise for doing things alone; it creates pressure.
- Trust development—he’ll grow into independence naturally.
- Stay curious—watch for any underlying stressors or changes.
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