May 1, 2025 • 17 mins
Confessions For Cash: She Got Divorced And No One Knows The SHOCKING Reason
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Speaker 1 (00:12):
I heard podcasts year more kiss podcasts, playlists and listen
live on the Free Heart.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Good morning, Sammy, had a road stale? Hey Sammy, Hi,
how are you good?
Speaker 3 (00:25):
Good? Thanks? Mate?
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Now you have got a confession.
Speaker 4 (00:29):
What is it? Outside of me? There is only one
person who knows the real reason why I divorced my
husband after fifteen years? What?
Speaker 3 (00:40):
Wow?
Speaker 1 (00:41):
Is it your husband who knows the real reason? Oh?
Speaker 5 (00:45):
Okay, well three, So you're married for fifteen years and
you're about to tell everyone why you got why you
got divorced?
Speaker 3 (00:57):
Yeah, okay, holy let's go mate. What happened?
Speaker 4 (01:02):
Okay? So this only had like just my marriage officially
ended about a year and a half ago. I was pregnant,
about five months pregnant with my last baby, and I
said to my husband, I would love to choose her name.
I want to choose her name. It's my last baby.
And he'd always been very firm on picking babies names,
(01:25):
and it wasn't really an option for me to choose
their name.
Speaker 3 (01:29):
Right, So he named he named you did you have
how many others?
Speaker 4 (01:33):
Are two others?
Speaker 3 (01:34):
Okay? So he named the first two?
Speaker 4 (01:36):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (01:37):
Right? Okay, okay?
Speaker 4 (01:39):
And so with this one, I was like, it's my
last baby, I want to name her. And it became
a massive argument which lasted over a week, and in
the end I was like, why can't I name it?
Like what is the big problem with me naming one
of our kids? And he just yelled I'll forget what
it is and left. And so he would work two
(02:02):
weeks away and then be home for two weeks and
then go again. So he was gone for two weeks
and then when he came back, it was the sort
of we're not talking about it at that's it was.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
He five fo What was he doing for two weeks?
Speaker 4 (02:13):
Well, he said it was five fox but getting there?
Speaker 3 (02:18):
Yeah, sorry, okay.
Speaker 4 (02:21):
So one one evening a message popped up on his
phone and it was a really weird one and I
was like okay, and it was like, oh, it's just spam,
it's fine. And like I'd been talking with my girlfriend
over a period of two weeks and you know, we
were sitting having she was having a glass of wine
and she's like, oh, he probably wants to name the
(02:42):
baby because that's what he names his other kids as
a joke. Yeah, you don't plan to seed like that
in a pregnant woman's head the starters. So then this
message popped up and I was like, let's look into it.
So started going through his phone and you know, went
into maps and everything else to see where he was going.
(03:04):
And there was an address listed under home, which was
not our address. Okay, time, so ended up it was
only a few suburbs away. So I ended up driving
over to this place. It didn't look anything remarkable. It
wasn't a business place or anything like that. It was
just a normal home. And so I went home and
(03:25):
you know, went about for the next couple of weeks,
and he left again, and I actually drove to this
address again and his car was parked there and started
doing a little bit of Facebook stalking and found out
that he had a whole other family. Wow, oh that
(03:50):
with kids and.
Speaker 3 (03:52):
All of that.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
So through my Facebook stalking, found out that he had
now three kids with this woman, and then they were
the same as my kid's name. So my girlfriend's joke
of probably so he doesn't forget it wasn't really a
joke about.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
Because hang on, wait, so he had potentially five, nearly
six children, and each of those children had the same
names in separate families because as he threw at you
in an argument, so he doesn't forget the name m yep.
Speaker 3 (04:30):
Oh my goodness. So the oldest kids on each side
of the same names. So he had a whole other life.
Speaker 4 (04:37):
Really whole other family. Like he was engaged to this woman,
and like he was ten years older than me, and
they'd gone to high school together, and it was always,
you know, she was just a friend of mine. You know,
we're just say hi every now and.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
Again, so you knew her.
Speaker 4 (04:52):
Wow, I'd never met the woman. I absolutely never met
the woman. It was just kind of one of those okay, well,
you know, people know people. It's fine, yeah, wow, Yeah.
But like it really came to a head sort of
about a month after I had my last baby. She'd
(05:12):
posted an ad on Facebook saying that they had a
family event and they wanted someone to come and stay
with mum while they were at this event. And I responded, So, you.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
Were about to go into the house of the person
you know is the other woman, Yeah you suspect yep.
Speaker 3 (05:29):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (05:31):
So it was it was very very confronting to walk
in and see, you know, pictures of him with his
kids on the wall that mirrored what was on my wall,
and you know that on the table that I was
thinking of you when I bought this for you today,
and I'm like, oh, this is just so confronting.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
So you walk into the house, the mom's there as
she and your husband there then too, he wasn't there.
Speaker 4 (06:07):
At the time. He sort of stopped by and picked
her up and they left.
Speaker 1 (06:12):
And he didn't see you.
Speaker 4 (06:14):
No, not at that time, not.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
At that times have felt so sick in the house,
did you Like, Yeah, how'd you feel in the house
seeing the pictures?
Speaker 3 (06:23):
Like could you could you move?
Speaker 4 (06:28):
I think like I took a beat. I took like
I took a beat, and then I was like, Okay,
that's a confirmation. Get through this. This is what you've
got to do next. I think I just went into
sort of flight mode of this is what's got to
happen next. You know, you are here for a reason.
So you know, I ended up hanging out with this
(06:48):
woman's mum and she was absolutely beautiful. She had the
most wicked sense of humor, and she she was she
was very heavy drink and she drank a lot during
the period in whenter I was with her, right and
you know, just sort of got talking about her daughter
and her daughter's Beyonce, and how they've been engaged for
(07:09):
like eleven years and you didn't think that he was
ever going to marry her and she didn't like him
and everything else. And I said, oh, well, there's probably
been engaged that long because he can't get married. And
she was like, what do you mean, and I said,
because I'm actually his wife.
Speaker 3 (07:24):
Oh wow? What did she say?
Speaker 4 (07:28):
She was like, I'm sorry. What. So I sort of
just showed her my wedding photos and him, you know,
photos of him at the birth of my kids, and
she was like I knew there was something about him
that I didn't like.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
Wow, okay, so let's fast forward to when they come home.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (07:48):
So her and I were sort of sitting in the
lounge room and he came in first and he just
stopped and he went white, and it was sort of
that oh god, dear in the headlights look. And then
she came in behind him, and he didn't say a
word the entire time, and she was like, oh, did
(08:08):
you have a good night. I was like, yeah, and
now we're done, you know, let me know if you
want to do this again. And I left.
Speaker 3 (08:16):
So you didn't say no. Confrontation. You didn't say anything,
You just left.
Speaker 1 (08:20):
Yep me And why why didn't you say something?
Speaker 4 (08:27):
Because why play into his line and give him the
justification of him seeing me hurt by what he's done.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
Oh fair enough, that is so strong. Okay, So you're.
Speaker 4 (08:39):
My girlfriend on the way home and we had a
little bonfire in the backyard and we burned everything that
he owned. Yeah, and then he came home like a
week later because he had to stick to his you know,
two weeks on, two weeks off, and he's like, oh,
where's my staff, And I'm like, it's the ash in
the backyard.
Speaker 5 (08:57):
But here's your horse.
Speaker 3 (08:58):
Papers, here's your divorce papers. So did he.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
Didn't try and walk in going let me explain. I'm
so sorry, Like he just thought you would just keep going.
Speaker 4 (09:09):
Yeah, I think because I didn't try to find him
about it, and I didn't say anything, and you know,
there was no contact with us. But for that week.
Speaker 3 (09:18):
What sweet under the rugs? Like, Sam, He's going to
be fine.
Speaker 2 (09:25):
Yeah, And so hang on, now you've only told your
friend and now asked what about your kids?
Speaker 4 (09:34):
No, I haven't told them.
Speaker 3 (09:35):
They don't know that. They don't know about the other family.
Speaker 4 (09:38):
Nope, Nope, it's not It's not up to me to
tell them and to destroy him in their eyes. You know,
at the end of the day, he is still they
he doesn't have anything to do with them now. He's
very much moved on with his new family. He put
those kids into the school where my kids were going,
and when I found out, I pulled my kids out
of that school and we moved a couple of couple
(09:59):
hebs away.
Speaker 3 (10:00):
So they're still together.
Speaker 4 (10:02):
Yep.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
So when you when he came home and said, where's
all my stuff? And you said, ashes in the backyard?
What did he do?
Speaker 4 (10:10):
Was like, but why you're not?
Speaker 5 (10:13):
What?
Speaker 1 (10:14):
And did he and did he expect you to just
keep on going?
Speaker 4 (10:18):
Yeah? Yeah? And then when I handed him in the papers,
he's like, what are these for? And I was like, well,
you're going to need these to finally marry this woman. Yeah,
so let's get it moving.
Speaker 3 (10:30):
Do you surely she knows?
Speaker 4 (10:32):
I don't know. I don't know her.
Speaker 3 (10:35):
Mom told her after you told the mom, surely.
Speaker 4 (10:39):
Well, I would like if one of my kids did that,
I'd be like, right, this is that, Like, let's go
where where? Where about out? Like why would you do
that to a person. But yeah, it was more so
just you know, and the dad told my kids that
it was just, you know, we just didn't mesh well
anymore together.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
What's okay? So now, custody wise, is he seeing them?
Speaker 4 (11:05):
No, he hasn't seen them since he picked up the
divorce papers on that.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
Yep, Sammie, why are you keeping a memory of a
man who's a complete drop kick? Like I mean, I
so respect you. You have so much courage and you
are so strong, But why are you protecting him? I
don't know.
Speaker 4 (11:31):
It's not about protecting him. It's about protecting the kids,
you know. And at the end of the day, that
was between him and I. It's not about bringing the
kids into it and then them going, oh, well, now
I have this opinion of you in this way.
Speaker 3 (11:46):
It's so big of you. But I know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
I can't help but feel like you are doing the
right thing because it doesn't improve their lives to know
that their dad's an ahole.
Speaker 4 (11:56):
But well, that's exactly right, Sammy.
Speaker 1 (11:58):
What happens if they find out and they blame you
for not telling them. I don't care about him, I
really care about you.
Speaker 4 (12:07):
Look, I think that will be an unimaginable a hurdle
to try and get over.
Speaker 1 (12:13):
Because they will find it eventually, won't They of course they.
Speaker 4 (12:16):
Will look They probably will. They probably will. And all
I can do is hope that they sort of understand
why I haven't told them, because, like my oldest daughter
is is it a really vulnerable age where she's forming
these relationships and she's finding herself and I don't want
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her to be afraid of that falling in love and
you know, thinking that this sort of stuff can happen
in her future. I want her to see the beautiful
side of it.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
This situation, no, just a life. I haven't seen the
beautiful side of this situation, but beautiful would always make
her look at all the boys and you know, probably
a relationship in the same way.
Speaker 3 (13:04):
So you probably should have you.
Speaker 4 (13:08):
I mean, sorry, I haven't start as well. So I
don't want him to grow up and think, hey, this
is okay for men to do, or have even that
idea in the head of because I swear to God,
I would just lose my mind if this was my son.
Speaker 3 (13:22):
Have you have you, like asked Google, like what he is?
Speaker 4 (13:26):
Like?
Speaker 3 (13:27):
He is that a psychopath?
Speaker 2 (13:28):
Like it just seems like this is such an insane
thing for a man to do, to have two families,
name the kids the same, but.
Speaker 3 (13:35):
The walk home after just being found out. Yeah, and
than there is something there. It's not just ego that
you didn't get away with that.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
What does he do for a living that he can?
Does he pay you?
Speaker 3 (13:47):
Now?
Speaker 1 (13:47):
Like, do you get any subsidy from him?
Speaker 4 (13:49):
Nothing?
Speaker 1 (13:50):
So, but he was supporting two families.
Speaker 4 (13:53):
Yeah, but like I was also working full time as well, okay.
Speaker 3 (13:58):
A special job. Yeah, if he's not five? What is
he doing now?
Speaker 4 (14:02):
I don't know. I don't know. And that's the thing,
like so much since our marriage ended, so much of
it has been called into question as to you know,
what was actually real that you told me an entire
time together?
Speaker 1 (14:16):
You poor love, I mean, and if you haven't told anyone,
you've got like one friend who's supporting you through this. Yeah,
that's insane. I get why you wanted to tell someone else.
Is that why you're called Yeah?
Speaker 4 (14:30):
I think so, because like it's something that just you
never ever think that it's going to happen to you.
You know, you didn't You're like, this doesn't happen, and
then it does happen, and you know, as a woman,
it calls into question everything that you believe about yourself.
(14:51):
Every bit of confidence and self love and self worth
just gets ripped away from you until you were left
share boned and with nothing behind you. And the rebuild
of yourself is the the most painful thing that you
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can ever go through, but it is also the most
rewarding to see yourself come out the other side and
you know, stand there proudly and say, you know what,
this is what I'm doing and I'm okay with it now.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
And I think that's why I kind of questioned why
you take on the responsibility of that lie, because it's
not you, mate, it's him, Like you have done absolutely
nothing wrong, and to be treated with such contempt and
to name children so that he can't forget, he wouldn't forget,
(15:47):
like that man has no care or concern for anyone
else other than himself.
Speaker 4 (15:54):
Yeah, do you know, I'll tell you.
Speaker 1 (15:56):
One thing for whatever it's worth, and just to think
about moving forward. When I went to the head of
pediatric psychiatry to try and help my kids through their
suicide of their dad, I was told, with any sort
of information that you have that you have to deal
with with kids, be age appropriate, but be honest. Yes,
(16:19):
So just put that in all the other stuff that
you're dealing with and all the other support you're getting.
But mate, you have done nothing wrong.
Speaker 2 (16:32):
You're extraordinary, extraordinary, and you've come out the other side
with a story that most people don't want. But what
a story it is, and thank you so much for
sharing it with a Sammy incredible and it doesn't feel
like five hundred bucks is enough, but five dollars, so.
Speaker 3 (16:53):
Thank you for sharing.
Speaker 4 (16:54):
Thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (16:55):
And I would say to you, Sammy, if there's any
way that we could help or support you, if we
could help you with counselors, if we can help you
in any way, because it sounds like you're extraordinary but
you know it's also tough to do that alone, then
we absolutely will.
Speaker 4 (17:12):
Thank you so much. I really appreciate that. Good luck, mate,
Thank you
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Speaker 2 (00:20):
Good morning, Sammy, had a road stale? Hey Sammy, Hi,
how are you good?
Speaker 3 (00:25):
Good? Thanks? Mate?
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Now you have got a confession.
Speaker 4 (00:29):
What is it? Outside of me? There is only one
person who knows the real reason why I divorced my
husband after fifteen years? What?
Speaker 3 (00:40):
Wow?
Speaker 1 (00:41):
Is it your husband who knows the real reason? Oh?
Speaker 5 (00:45):
Okay, well three, So you're married for fifteen years and
you're about to tell everyone why you got why you
got divorced?
Speaker 3 (00:57):
Yeah, okay, holy let's go mate. What happened?
Speaker 4 (01:02):
Okay? So this only had like just my marriage officially
ended about a year and a half ago. I was pregnant,
about five months pregnant with my last baby, and I
said to my husband, I would love to choose her name.
I want to choose her name. It's my last baby.
And he'd always been very firm on picking babies names,
(01:25):
and it wasn't really an option for me to choose
their name.
Speaker 3 (01:29):
Right, So he named he named you did you have
how many others?
Speaker 4 (01:33):
Are two others?
Speaker 3 (01:34):
Okay? So he named the first two?
Speaker 4 (01:36):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (01:37):
Right? Okay, okay?
Speaker 4 (01:39):
And so with this one, I was like, it's my
last baby, I want to name her. And it became
a massive argument which lasted over a week, and in
the end I was like, why can't I name it?
Like what is the big problem with me naming one
of our kids? And he just yelled I'll forget what
it is and left. And so he would work two
(02:02):
weeks away and then be home for two weeks and
then go again. So he was gone for two weeks
and then when he came back, it was the sort
of we're not talking about it at that's it was.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
He five fo What was he doing for two weeks?
Speaker 4 (02:13):
Well, he said it was five fox but getting there?
Speaker 3 (02:18):
Yeah, sorry, okay.
Speaker 4 (02:21):
So one one evening a message popped up on his
phone and it was a really weird one and I
was like okay, and it was like, oh, it's just spam,
it's fine. And like I'd been talking with my girlfriend
over a period of two weeks and you know, we
were sitting having she was having a glass of wine
and she's like, oh, he probably wants to name the
(02:42):
baby because that's what he names his other kids as
a joke. Yeah, you don't plan to seed like that
in a pregnant woman's head the starters. So then this
message popped up and I was like, let's look into it.
So started going through his phone and you know, went
into maps and everything else to see where he was going.
(03:04):
And there was an address listed under home, which was
not our address. Okay, time, so ended up it was
only a few suburbs away. So I ended up driving
over to this place. It didn't look anything remarkable. It
wasn't a business place or anything like that. It was
just a normal home. And so I went home and
(03:25):
you know, went about for the next couple of weeks,
and he left again, and I actually drove to this
address again and his car was parked there and started
doing a little bit of Facebook stalking and found out
that he had a whole other family. Wow, oh that
(03:50):
with kids and.
Speaker 3 (03:52):
All of that.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
So through my Facebook stalking, found out that he had
now three kids with this woman, and then they were
the same as my kid's name. So my girlfriend's joke
of probably so he doesn't forget it wasn't really a
joke about.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
Because hang on, wait, so he had potentially five, nearly
six children, and each of those children had the same
names in separate families because as he threw at you
in an argument, so he doesn't forget the name m yep.
Speaker 3 (04:30):
Oh my goodness. So the oldest kids on each side
of the same names. So he had a whole other life.
Speaker 4 (04:37):
Really whole other family. Like he was engaged to this woman,
and like he was ten years older than me, and
they'd gone to high school together, and it was always,
you know, she was just a friend of mine. You know,
we're just say hi every now and.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
Again, so you knew her.
Speaker 4 (04:52):
Wow, I'd never met the woman. I absolutely never met
the woman. It was just kind of one of those okay, well,
you know, people know people. It's fine, yeah, wow, Yeah.
But like it really came to a head sort of
about a month after I had my last baby. She'd
(05:12):
posted an ad on Facebook saying that they had a
family event and they wanted someone to come and stay
with mum while they were at this event. And I responded, So, you.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
Were about to go into the house of the person
you know is the other woman, Yeah you suspect yep.
Speaker 3 (05:29):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (05:31):
So it was it was very very confronting to walk
in and see, you know, pictures of him with his
kids on the wall that mirrored what was on my wall,
and you know that on the table that I was
thinking of you when I bought this for you today,
and I'm like, oh, this is just so confronting.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
So you walk into the house, the mom's there as
she and your husband there then too, he wasn't there.
Speaker 4 (06:07):
At the time. He sort of stopped by and picked
her up and they left.
Speaker 1 (06:12):
And he didn't see you.
Speaker 4 (06:14):
No, not at that time, not.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
At that times have felt so sick in the house,
did you Like, Yeah, how'd you feel in the house
seeing the pictures?
Speaker 3 (06:23):
Like could you could you move?
Speaker 4 (06:28):
I think like I took a beat. I took like
I took a beat, and then I was like, Okay,
that's a confirmation. Get through this. This is what you've
got to do next. I think I just went into
sort of flight mode of this is what's got to
happen next. You know, you are here for a reason.
So you know, I ended up hanging out with this
(06:48):
woman's mum and she was absolutely beautiful. She had the
most wicked sense of humor, and she she was she
was very heavy drink and she drank a lot during
the period in whenter I was with her, right and
you know, just sort of got talking about her daughter
and her daughter's Beyonce, and how they've been engaged for
(07:09):
like eleven years and you didn't think that he was
ever going to marry her and she didn't like him
and everything else. And I said, oh, well, there's probably
been engaged that long because he can't get married. And
she was like, what do you mean, and I said,
because I'm actually his wife.
Speaker 3 (07:24):
Oh wow? What did she say?
Speaker 4 (07:28):
She was like, I'm sorry. What. So I sort of
just showed her my wedding photos and him, you know,
photos of him at the birth of my kids, and
she was like I knew there was something about him
that I didn't like.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
Wow, okay, so let's fast forward to when they come home.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (07:48):
So her and I were sort of sitting in the
lounge room and he came in first and he just
stopped and he went white, and it was sort of
that oh god, dear in the headlights look. And then
she came in behind him, and he didn't say a
word the entire time, and she was like, oh, did
(08:08):
you have a good night. I was like, yeah, and
now we're done, you know, let me know if you
want to do this again. And I left.
Speaker 3 (08:16):
So you didn't say no. Confrontation. You didn't say anything,
You just left.
Speaker 1 (08:20):
Yep me And why why didn't you say something?
Speaker 4 (08:27):
Because why play into his line and give him the
justification of him seeing me hurt by what he's done.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
Oh fair enough, that is so strong. Okay, So you're.
Speaker 4 (08:39):
My girlfriend on the way home and we had a
little bonfire in the backyard and we burned everything that
he owned. Yeah, and then he came home like a
week later because he had to stick to his you know,
two weeks on, two weeks off, and he's like, oh,
where's my staff, And I'm like, it's the ash in
the backyard.
Speaker 5 (08:57):
But here's your horse.
Speaker 3 (08:58):
Papers, here's your divorce papers. So did he.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
Didn't try and walk in going let me explain. I'm
so sorry, Like he just thought you would just keep going.
Speaker 4 (09:09):
Yeah, I think because I didn't try to find him
about it, and I didn't say anything, and you know,
there was no contact with us. But for that week.
Speaker 3 (09:18):
What sweet under the rugs? Like, Sam, He's going to
be fine.
Speaker 2 (09:25):
Yeah, And so hang on, now you've only told your
friend and now asked what about your kids?
Speaker 4 (09:34):
No, I haven't told them.
Speaker 3 (09:35):
They don't know that. They don't know about the other family.
Speaker 4 (09:38):
Nope, Nope, it's not It's not up to me to
tell them and to destroy him in their eyes. You know,
at the end of the day, he is still they
he doesn't have anything to do with them now. He's
very much moved on with his new family. He put
those kids into the school where my kids were going,
and when I found out, I pulled my kids out
of that school and we moved a couple of couple
(09:59):
hebs away.
Speaker 3 (10:00):
So they're still together.
Speaker 4 (10:02):
Yep.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
So when you when he came home and said, where's
all my stuff? And you said, ashes in the backyard?
What did he do?
Speaker 4 (10:10):
Was like, but why you're not?
Speaker 5 (10:13):
What?
Speaker 1 (10:14):
And did he and did he expect you to just
keep on going?
Speaker 4 (10:18):
Yeah? Yeah? And then when I handed him in the papers,
he's like, what are these for? And I was like, well,
you're going to need these to finally marry this woman. Yeah,
so let's get it moving.
Speaker 3 (10:30):
Do you surely she knows?
Speaker 4 (10:32):
I don't know. I don't know her.
Speaker 3 (10:35):
Mom told her after you told the mom, surely.
Speaker 4 (10:39):
Well, I would like if one of my kids did that,
I'd be like, right, this is that, Like, let's go
where where? Where about out? Like why would you do
that to a person. But yeah, it was more so
just you know, and the dad told my kids that
it was just, you know, we just didn't mesh well
anymore together.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
What's okay? So now, custody wise, is he seeing them?
Speaker 4 (11:05):
No, he hasn't seen them since he picked up the
divorce papers on that.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
Yep, Sammie, why are you keeping a memory of a
man who's a complete drop kick? Like I mean, I
so respect you. You have so much courage and you
are so strong, But why are you protecting him? I
don't know.
Speaker 4 (11:31):
It's not about protecting him. It's about protecting the kids,
you know. And at the end of the day, that
was between him and I. It's not about bringing the
kids into it and then them going, oh, well, now
I have this opinion of you in this way.
Speaker 3 (11:46):
It's so big of you. But I know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
I can't help but feel like you are doing the
right thing because it doesn't improve their lives to know
that their dad's an ahole.
Speaker 4 (11:56):
But well, that's exactly right, Sammy.
Speaker 1 (11:58):
What happens if they find out and they blame you
for not telling them. I don't care about him, I
really care about you.
Speaker 4 (12:07):
Look, I think that will be an unimaginable a hurdle
to try and get over.
Speaker 1 (12:13):
Because they will find it eventually, won't They of course they.
Speaker 4 (12:16):
Will look They probably will. They probably will. And all
I can do is hope that they sort of understand
why I haven't told them, because, like my oldest daughter
is is it a really vulnerable age where she's forming
these relationships and she's finding herself and I don't want
(12:37):
her to be afraid of that falling in love and
you know, thinking that this sort of stuff can happen
in her future. I want her to see the beautiful
side of it.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
This situation, no, just a life. I haven't seen the
beautiful side of this situation, but beautiful would always make
her look at all the boys and you know, probably
a relationship in the same way.
Speaker 3 (13:04):
So you probably should have you.
Speaker 4 (13:08):
I mean, sorry, I haven't start as well. So I
don't want him to grow up and think, hey, this
is okay for men to do, or have even that
idea in the head of because I swear to God,
I would just lose my mind if this was my son.
Speaker 3 (13:22):
Have you have you, like asked Google, like what he is?
Speaker 4 (13:26):
Like?
Speaker 3 (13:27):
He is that a psychopath?
Speaker 2 (13:28):
Like it just seems like this is such an insane
thing for a man to do, to have two families,
name the kids the same, but.
Speaker 3 (13:35):
The walk home after just being found out. Yeah, and
than there is something there. It's not just ego that
you didn't get away with that.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
What does he do for a living that he can?
Does he pay you?
Speaker 3 (13:47):
Now?
Speaker 1 (13:47):
Like, do you get any subsidy from him?
Speaker 4 (13:49):
Nothing?
Speaker 1 (13:50):
So, but he was supporting two families.
Speaker 4 (13:53):
Yeah, but like I was also working full time as well, okay.
Speaker 3 (13:58):
A special job. Yeah, if he's not five? What is
he doing now?
Speaker 4 (14:02):
I don't know. I don't know. And that's the thing,
like so much since our marriage ended, so much of
it has been called into question as to you know,
what was actually real that you told me an entire
time together?
Speaker 1 (14:16):
You poor love, I mean, and if you haven't told anyone,
you've got like one friend who's supporting you through this. Yeah,
that's insane. I get why you wanted to tell someone else.
Is that why you're called Yeah?
Speaker 4 (14:30):
I think so, because like it's something that just you
never ever think that it's going to happen to you.
You know, you didn't You're like, this doesn't happen, and
then it does happen, and you know, as a woman,
it calls into question everything that you believe about yourself.
(14:51):
Every bit of confidence and self love and self worth
just gets ripped away from you until you were left
share boned and with nothing behind you. And the rebuild
of yourself is the the most painful thing that you
(15:11):
can ever go through, but it is also the most
rewarding to see yourself come out the other side and
you know, stand there proudly and say, you know what,
this is what I'm doing and I'm okay with it now.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
And I think that's why I kind of questioned why
you take on the responsibility of that lie, because it's
not you, mate, it's him, Like you have done absolutely
nothing wrong, and to be treated with such contempt and
to name children so that he can't forget, he wouldn't forget,
(15:47):
like that man has no care or concern for anyone
else other than himself.
Speaker 4 (15:54):
Yeah, do you know, I'll tell you.
Speaker 1 (15:56):
One thing for whatever it's worth, and just to think
about moving forward. When I went to the head of
pediatric psychiatry to try and help my kids through their
suicide of their dad, I was told, with any sort
of information that you have that you have to deal
with with kids, be age appropriate, but be honest. Yes,
(16:19):
So just put that in all the other stuff that
you're dealing with and all the other support you're getting.
But mate, you have done nothing wrong.
Speaker 2 (16:32):
You're extraordinary, extraordinary, and you've come out the other side
with a story that most people don't want. But what
a story it is, and thank you so much for
sharing it with a Sammy incredible and it doesn't feel
like five hundred bucks is enough, but five dollars, so.
Speaker 3 (16:53):
Thank you for sharing.
Speaker 4 (16:54):
Thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (16:55):
And I would say to you, Sammy, if there's any
way that we could help or support you, if we
could help you with counselors, if we can help you
in any way, because it sounds like you're extraordinary but
you know it's also tough to do that alone, then
we absolutely will.
Speaker 4 (17:12):
Thank you so much. I really appreciate that. Good luck, mate,
Thank you
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