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March 15, 2023 10 mins

Full Disclosure, No Exposure: Catfishing An Ex's New Partner

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Robin Terri kip On Brisbane's Kiss.

Speaker 2 (00:06):
Robin Terry and Kipps full disclosure, no exposure.

Speaker 3 (00:10):
Forgive me Father for a sin.

Speaker 1 (00:12):
You can go to our website Kiss ninety seven to
three dot com dot au tell us your story and
we know that you'll remain anonymous.

Speaker 4 (00:19):
We get your story. It's full disclosure, but no exposure.

Speaker 2 (00:21):
Now we're going into catfishing today. The absolute definition of
catfishing setting up an online profile, yeah, to someone to
try and fool them.

Speaker 4 (00:29):
We'll pretend, yeah, pretending to be someone else that you're not.

Speaker 5 (00:32):
You're not in a way of trying to, you know,
interrupt them and yeah and feel awful.

Speaker 1 (00:36):
And before we get into this story, people under twenty
five might need a little history lesson that. Before Facebook,
there was a little thing called MySpace.

Speaker 4 (00:43):
And they had they had it in their hands.

Speaker 1 (00:46):
MySpace was social media and then they blew it.

Speaker 4 (00:49):
Then they blew it all.

Speaker 1 (00:50):
But anyway, this this person, this catfisher, used MySpace. Here's
his story.

Speaker 6 (00:55):
Film girl and it didn't work out and it was
my whole When she left, she kind of broke some
guitars and stuff on mine that I was really really
bitter about. So I was waiting till she was dating again,
and then I created a MySpace page and got in

(01:17):
contact with her new bloke and just really went to
catfish down with him and I hold on a secret
and ever sent tervis were really really full, and I
was sending him photos and I downloaded off the Internet.

Speaker 1 (01:31):
And he was.

Speaker 6 (01:32):
By that stage living with a friend of mine as well,
so I knew he's about him.

Speaker 4 (01:36):
The tat was really good.

Speaker 2 (01:38):
So he's trying to cruel the new relationship essentially, Yeah.

Speaker 5 (01:41):
Pretty much because he'd had some guitars wrecked and couldn't
forgive and forget he done the wrong thing.

Speaker 4 (01:49):
He he Well, we didn't establish that. They just broke up.

Speaker 5 (01:53):
Well no, anyway, Yeah, well no, I just think I mean, look,
you can't make excuses for it.

Speaker 1 (02:01):
Catfishing is just there's no there's no good reason for it.
There's no excuse for it. It's gress and we've seen
how much it can hurt people in the news, you know,
with the Lincoln Lewis story, because he was used as
the catfish person like they pretended to be him. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
and lives were destroyed. But for me it happened, and
look it wasn't. It wasn't the worst because I was
in such a good place at that time, Like I was,

(02:24):
I was dating, and I was confident and things were fine.
But I did something to cross my boss at a
place I used to work out, and I thought it
was a funny cross, like I stole his dessert at
a head of function and his revenge was to catfish me.

Speaker 4 (02:40):
What did he do?

Speaker 1 (02:40):
He set up a profile, He bought a burner phone
and he had so like a prepaid mobile, was sending
me texts from a girl? Okay, why would someone do that?
Even as a joke, it was pretty full on. We
we organized a date. We're gonna we're going to meet up.

Speaker 5 (03:01):
You're in a good place and I wasn't.

Speaker 4 (03:03):
I wasn't. I didn't have a like a significant other,
but you were out.

Speaker 3 (03:06):
There just having a good time about I had good confidence.

Speaker 4 (03:09):
I was like, yeah, of course, of course this girl
wants to talk to me, this gorgeous woman.

Speaker 3 (03:14):
Did you find out?

Speaker 1 (03:15):
Well, we organized a date and that was the punchline
of the date because he used to say that he
was the bear, and don't poke the bear.

Speaker 4 (03:22):
He used to say.

Speaker 1 (03:23):
And so I arrived at the date, and then sitting
at this table was a man in a giant bearsuit.

Speaker 4 (03:30):
Who just waved to me as I walked into the car.

Speaker 3 (03:33):
So that was like a gag taken to the absolute match.
Were you angry?

Speaker 4 (03:38):
I was a little bit, yeah, because that's.

Speaker 5 (03:41):
Like playing with your emotions and you were probably prepping
yourself there.

Speaker 3 (03:46):
I did I dress shave to put your under his arm?

Speaker 4 (03:50):
Yes, I did everything right.

Speaker 2 (03:52):
But me while back a guitar man, he's just smash guitars.

Speaker 3 (03:56):
It's hear him again, let me play. I want to
hear him again.

Speaker 6 (04:05):
Girl didn't work out.

Speaker 7 (04:07):
It was my fault.

Speaker 4 (04:09):
Okay, it was his fault.

Speaker 2 (04:10):
Okay, but she smashed guitars and things like that. You know,
said he was bitter over it, you know.

Speaker 3 (04:16):
Yeah, because he's a dick. Do that?

Speaker 2 (04:22):
You catfish the new guy? And the new guy would
you put himself on faithful like Kip had?

Speaker 4 (04:27):
But yeah, but no, I don't think No, I don't
think there's any excuse for it.

Speaker 3 (04:32):
Fishing, but catfishing, I know.

Speaker 5 (04:33):
But people do it, and it clearly is out of
their own revenge, not for like, how is that ever
going to be a good thing to do to someone?
I mean, if you've got any experience in cat fishing,
because apart from the bed for kids like thirteen, one,
six or five, because I am curious to see how
you found out and what happened to that person.

Speaker 2 (04:52):
The bear was sitting at Max Breanner with every things
saying no dessert for you.

Speaker 4 (04:56):
Yeah, our story this morning was quite the confession.

Speaker 6 (05:00):
Steady girl, and it didn't work out. I was really
really bitter about side. I was waiting till she was
dating again, and then I created a MySpace purge and
got in contact with her new bloke and just really
went to catch us down with him.

Speaker 4 (05:16):
It's just awful.

Speaker 5 (05:18):
It's one of the big fears I have of getting
into online dating.

Speaker 3 (05:21):
I just think people's motives can be awful.

Speaker 5 (05:23):
But Matt of ken Moore, you have a story none
of us expected what happened with when you were catfished.

Speaker 8 (05:31):
Yeah, good morning, guys, there are you going? So? I
was on one of these dating apps and met this girl.
She looked beautiful, Swedish model, you know that tan beauty, fantastic,
chatted for a while, went on a date. Totally different
person like Mars will have been a monkey. She was
that different.

Speaker 2 (05:51):
Okay, Matt, do you see yourself as a guy who
would attract Swedish models?

Speaker 3 (05:55):
Can I say that to you?

Speaker 8 (05:57):
I don't think you know I'm Douglas going there, But yeah,
I'm pretty decent looking lad, I'd say, okay, So.

Speaker 3 (06:02):
Hang on, so what what?

Speaker 4 (06:04):
What?

Speaker 3 (06:04):
Where's the cat fishing come into this?

Speaker 1 (06:06):
Like?

Speaker 3 (06:06):
What happened when you got to the date?

Speaker 6 (06:09):
So?

Speaker 8 (06:09):
I got to the date and it was so awkward,
but I am a nice chap. I sat down and
I actually went through with the date and had dinner
with this person. It was so the whole date was
so awkward, and as our desserts were done, I was
out of there.

Speaker 4 (06:23):
Did you mention that any stage?

Speaker 7 (06:25):
Man?

Speaker 4 (06:25):
So, hey, how come you don't look like your photos?

Speaker 6 (06:28):
Nah?

Speaker 8 (06:29):
Because I felt awkward and I didn't want to be mean,
and I didn't want to be you know, tarnished for
are you're only going out with someone based on what
they look like? So I thought, oh, yeah, I'll be
a nice guy. I was raised right. So I sat
down and had dinner and then you know, the next
day to text me, I want to go on another date.
And that's when I kind of hid behind the text

(06:49):
message and was like look, I'm really sorry, I'm not interested.
You weren't who you were. If you're going to do
that now, who knows what else should be hiding?

Speaker 3 (06:57):
And what did she mean?

Speaker 8 (07:00):
She lost it at me? Lost it? So you're only
going out with people based on what they look like?
You scam you this like the tool went to town
on me. So now whenever I go on a date
with someone, before I go on a date, I make
them send me a photo of them touching their nose.

Speaker 5 (07:17):
Is the number one thing that is coming back through
When I was on the apps about do you really
look like who you say you are?

Speaker 8 (07:23):
And I mean my airbrush?

Speaker 3 (07:26):
Yeah?

Speaker 8 (07:26):
Well yeah brush high heaven?

Speaker 3 (07:29):
Are you too mad? Are you airbrushed?

Speaker 6 (07:31):
No?

Speaker 8 (07:31):
Never, never, never, never, never ever. I went out. I
did go out with this little Instagram and for a while,
and she used to airbrush me to the point where
my friends would be like, have you had surgery?

Speaker 4 (07:44):
Thanks?

Speaker 5 (07:45):
Mad?

Speaker 3 (07:45):
And Sally of Coopero, what do you reckon? What's happened?

Speaker 8 (07:49):
Hey?

Speaker 7 (07:51):
Look, I think I could probably win on the catfish
story today.

Speaker 3 (07:56):
Great? Not great?

Speaker 7 (07:58):
So I I guess my first little dip into online
dating happened after my marriage breakdown. So I was a
little bit vulnerable. I wouldn't say I was completely naive,
but anyway, I end up chatting to a guy who
had a mediocre photo, nothing over the top, no model photos.
We were getting along really well, having a chat in

(08:20):
the process of organizing to meet face to face, and
he basically started to make a few comments that made
me question whether the photo he had up was actually him.
A long story short, I confronted him and said, you know,
the photo that you've got up, I don't know.

Speaker 8 (08:36):
I think it was.

Speaker 7 (08:36):
Something to do his hair or something. And he said, oh,
I don't actually know what the photo is. That's on
the dating app. My friend set up the you know,
it's a bit weird, so real flags. Anyway, I had
a conversation and he said, no, that's actually a photo
of my friend. So I told him that was completely weird,
and I pretty much didn't want to chat to him.

(08:59):
But then he started to tell me about his life
and it turns out that he had actually he was
an Australian guy, Brisbane boy, who had been in jail
in America or committing a felony. He had actually stolen
or made fake, sorry fake tickets to their super Bowl
or whatever that big event is the.

Speaker 8 (09:22):
Yep.

Speaker 7 (09:23):
So he told me this story. Of course he didn't
do it. He was set up and ificially lived with
and all of that. Anyway, so he sent me that.
He then sent me a photo of himself the real hymn,
without sounding like a snob or being disrespectful. Absolutely horrified
and anyway, I googled it. So he had done those things.

(09:45):
He was a criminal living in an ex criminal I guess,
living in Brisbane. But we didn't meet. He was very
very very keen to meet, didn't want to be judged,
and I guess I was. You know, I just told
him miss Hi. You know, I basically called him out
on his catfishing. If you are, you know, want to
redeem yourself as a new and improved version of someone

(10:07):
who isn't like like, you know, lies and is deceitful,
then you need to kind of be honest on your
dating site.

Speaker 1 (10:13):
Yeah, and if you're going to be a con man,
at least be gorgeous, you know what I mean, the gorgeous.

Speaker 7 (10:21):
And look, I don't want to be disrespectful, but you know,
this is kind of like a dude that you'd expect
creeping around in your.

Speaker 2 (10:26):
Yard, right, Sally, Sally. I don't want to sound I
don't want to sound dodgy. Yes, I've got a couple
of tickets to go and see Friends and Machine of
the Day on the Green of the weekend. They're by
fighting tickets. I haven't.

Speaker 4 (10:41):
They're real legit.

Speaker 2 (10:42):
Do you want to go with a friends?

Speaker 7 (10:44):
Fabulous?

Speaker 8 (10:45):
Yes?

Speaker 7 (10:45):
Please, thank you so much.

Speaker 4 (10:47):
It's improv and kids on Bristone's Cheese ninety seventy three.
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