ASK UNCUT: "I've been dating a guy for almost a year... but I still haven't met his parents"

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Danielle joins us to get some advice on her relationship of 12 months. Everything is GREAT except, he won't introduce her to his family. Red flag?

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:10):
Heart podcasts. Hear more Kiss Podcast playlist and listen live
on the free iHeart app. It is time for Ask Uncut.
We do it every week on our podcast. You, guys, well,
you need help, so you come to the right place.
You come to us. Unfortunately, Laura's off, so we've got her.

Speaker 2 (00:28):
There's no need for the Unfortunately. I am here to
offer my services. I'm very experienced in the dating world Britain.
I've been married now for almost two three and.

Speaker 1 (00:38):
You dated thirty women simultaneously, so you do have the experience.

Speaker 2 (00:42):
I've been through it all, so I'm here to share
my wisdom and knowledge.

Speaker 1 (00:46):
Well, we have Danielle on the phone today who's got
a bit of a problem with her boyfriend and her
family and in laws or something. Danielle High Welcome, Hi, guys,
Thank you so much. What's the story.

Speaker 3 (01:00):
Yeah, so we've been together for about a year and
he just won't introduce me to his family. It's literally
like the only thing about him that makes you feel
a bit weird, like everything else is perfect. So it's
gonna get your advice on it.

Speaker 2 (01:16):
Happen a year. Do you know what, though, I actually
think that's a blessing because honestly, who wants to go
and see the other one's family and then you got
to make the awkward conversation at Christmas.

Speaker 1 (01:29):
No, you don't want to hang out with him, but
you want them. You want to know that they know
you exist, Like you don't need to go and be
with them all the time. But it's like it's a
red flag for sure, if a family doesn't know you exist.
But Danielle does like his other friends and like the
general population. Know when I say that, I mean like
does he post you on Instagram and stuff?

Speaker 3 (01:49):
Yeah, he's posted me like a few times on his story.

Speaker 1 (01:52):
Oh no Grid, no no post, no Grid. Post is
a big flag because it's the disappearing story as well.

Speaker 3 (02:00):
Twenty four hours you've gone, yeah exactly, and look like
he's great. But yeah, it's just like the one thing,
like he's really close with his family, and I just
he sees them a lot and he's just not really
ready to take that step.

Speaker 2 (02:14):
So you know, what, do you know what birthday's coming up?
And I think you can like say.

Speaker 3 (02:20):
Hey, do you know his birthdays coming?

Speaker 2 (02:21):
Well, like it will come up eventually, Okay, like he's
going to you know, let's we don't know what's gonna happen.
He may still be alive in twelve months time. Let's hope, right, Danielle.
But when his birthday does come, you can say, hey,
you just do your thing with your family. I want
you to have fun, and then you can kind of
secretly find out. You need to get into his phone,

(02:43):
find out where they're going for lunch or dinner or
breakfast wherever it is with his family, and then you
need to then rock up.

Speaker 1 (02:49):
This is so convoluted, you give the worst advice. You're
telling her a break and enter into his phone and
stalk him.

Speaker 2 (02:54):
Yeah, but then you can then you can meet the family.
Maybe you can watch from afar and decide if you
want to hang out with a family or not, if
they're the right family for you.

Speaker 1 (03:04):
And that's probably where you see him with his other
girlfriend at the family lunch. Look, I am in all seriousness.
Have you ever just asked him and said, hey, why
can't I meet them? Or can I meet them?

Speaker 2 (03:16):
Or like?

Speaker 1 (03:16):
What's his response?

Speaker 3 (03:18):
Well, his response is that he's not quite ready to
take that step yet.

Speaker 1 (03:22):
Yeah, yeah, I think he's seeing someone else, do you know? Okay,
I say that I don't want to sound like an
absolute mole, but I had the exact same thing. I
was with this guy for two years and I finally
met his family about after about eighteen months, and he
would never introduce me to them, even though we were

(03:44):
like locked and loaded, like we were so serious, but
he always made up excuses why I couldn't meet them. Oh,
they were going through some family things, or they were
having a divorce, so I'm not ready whatever, And it
turns out it was just because he was in another relationship,
so like I didn't know that I was with him
for years, but the reason he was like, oh, I
can't have my world's collide. I need to keep them separate.
And I'm absolutely not saying that that is what your

(04:06):
situation is. That's very rare, but it's a bit weird.
If you're in a serious relationship and you're a year deep,
I feel like there needs to be even if it's
just a coffee, it doesn't have to be serious.

Speaker 2 (04:18):
Daniel, Can I just us before you go ideally, how
many months into a relationship would you like to meet
the family? Do you think what's the benchmark?

Speaker 3 (04:27):
Maybe like months in sure?

Speaker 1 (04:31):
Do you guys live in the same city, like, is
it actually accessible? Yeah?

Speaker 3 (04:35):
Yeah, we live in the same place.

Speaker 2 (04:36):
So I think we can all agree that six months
is the deadline to meet the family. Is that what
we're saying.

Speaker 1 (04:41):
Yeah, I reckon.

Speaker 3 (04:42):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (04:43):
Did I just solve the case?

Speaker 1 (04:45):
No, I don't think you've solved anything.

Speaker 2 (04:51):
Daniela, You're welcome.

Speaker 1 (04:53):
I just I think Danielle, you just need to say.

Speaker 2 (04:55):
Hey, like it's really sorry, is it, Danielle Daniello.

Speaker 1 (04:57):
I don't know.

Speaker 2 (04:57):
Oh god, I'm so sorry.

Speaker 1 (04:59):
I just tell you to be really honest and say
it's important to you. You need to set it. You
need to set it out to me.

Speaker 2 (05:07):
Ignore me.

Speaker 1 (05:08):
She stopped listening around ten minutes ago. Good Luck, I'm
praying good.

Speaker 2 (05:12):
Luck, Daniella, Danielle, whoever you want.

Speaker 3 (05:15):
Bye,