June 12, 2025 • 18 mins
ASK UNCUT: what to do when you've seen the ring pre-proposal and you HATE it, Britt got injured by a rogue ball before her wedding and Laura is struggling with the Man Look.
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Speaker 1 (00:10):
Hi Heart podcasts, Hear More Kiss podcast playlist and listen
live on the Free I Hunt app.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Good Pickup with britt Hockley and Laura Burn.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
Brady, your work, our windows done, that's my world, risen
the dust, only good tabs all down.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
I've done March now. But yeah, I know I'll big
get and what I want. It don't matter where. This
is the pick up.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
Happy Thursday afternoon, everyone, It's the pick up with britt
Hartley and Laura Burn.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
How are you feeling you buy this week? Laura? Well, yeah,
look I did get a little shock. I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
Happy Thursday Afternoon to everybody except for Brittany Hockley. He's
not in fact married because it was a big scare.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
It was fake if you make you Yeah, no, I
did get married last week. And you know, I got
sent an article and I saw that it had my
wedding picture in it, and I was like, cute, this
is gonna be like a cute little walked down memory
lane for last week in a reflection on the happiest
day of my life.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
Just read the headline.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
I can't It's got two photos of me in a
wedding dress. And then The headline says, Brittany Hockley reveals
her wedding was fake and her husband was denied entry
into Australia.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
That is the article that was written about my wedding.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
They make it sound like he was trying to smuggle
drugs or something, and he's always a criminal.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
It's so good, like Australia media is so good at
taking a whiff of a line and creating an entire
article around absolute nothingness.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
I vote you for it.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Fake wedding and where is Ben prove it? Where is
he now?
Speaker 3 (01:43):
He's been even real?
Speaker 2 (01:45):
He doesn't exist. I have aied my whole relationship.
Speaker 3 (01:48):
No, just to really like clarify this now if anyone listening,
the wedding wasn't fake. The wedding was real. My bank
account will confirm that. But we do have to make
it official in Australia. So that's what they're saying about
it being fake, like we have to do it here
in Australia legalities.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
It was a real wedding, it's just not yet a
confirmed marriage is so consummated.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
That's it get samanatics.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
See how the part was that Ben was He's like,
is this this is a really a good headline for
me to say that he was denied entry into a
country because my husband is Swiss and lives in Italy.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
He wasn't denied entry.
Speaker 3 (02:20):
So he got to the airport. They said, where's your visa?
He said, what visa? And that was how that went down.
Very luckily we were early and he got a visa
on the spot. He did, in fact get letting. He
is currently in my home in Australia.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
Everyone is thrilled for you, Britt, And I don't think
that there was a single person Actually, no, I take
that back.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
I was gonna say I don't.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
Think that there was a single person that read the
article that actually thought it was a scam wedding. But
then I saw a couple of comments on Instagram, so actually.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
There were people who thought it was a scam. They did.
Speaker 3 (02:49):
I couldn't believe it people because I started to get
these comments and I was like, why people writing this
on my photos? Then I saw people were reading the
headline finding my Instagram to write why did.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
You even say your vows? If it was fake? Why
did you learn German? If it was fake? And I
was like sorry, I was like, what you're like?
Speaker 1 (03:04):
Pray for their Instagram followers, go away and crag crag.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
By lingual, don't be jealous.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
It is time because it's Thursday for Ask gun Cut
and that is where we answer you're deep, you're dark,
and you're burning questions. We do this segment Ask Guncut
on our podcast Life Uncut every week every Thursday, where
we answer your listener questions and you guys call in
or you ride in. And this week we have a
question from someone who wants to remain anonymous for fear
(03:34):
of her potential future fiance finding out look a bit
double handed.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
I understand why.
Speaker 3 (03:39):
It's she wants to be anonymous, but maybe she shouldn't be.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
Maybe he needs to hear it.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
Let's call her Sally. Sally came across a photo.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
This sounds sorry, it sounds like a sort of a
story book, like Sally, like sunsets.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
No, all right, We've been talking a lot about weddings
this week because obviously brit got married. But this has
to do with when you find out that your partner
is going to propose to you.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
Yeah, so, I we're not gonna call it Sally.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
The person who wrote in they found the pictures in
their partner's phone of the engagement ring that he is
planning to propose with. It's only at the design stage,
so by the looks of things, it hasn't been made yet,
but all the tech drawings, that the cat.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
Drawings for the design for the ring have been done. Now.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Firstly, she is incredibly thrilled that he's going to propose
love of life.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
Whooh yay, so excited. I love that hold on.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
On the other hand, she absolutely hates the ring and
thinks it is the ugliest thing she's ever laid her
eyes on. Knowing that he hasn't gone through yet or
you know, she doesn't know for certain, but she doesn't
think he's gone through with making it yet. How would
you approach this situation? Do you just suck it up
and bear it and get a ring that you hate,
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or do you tell your partner that you know that
they're designing a ring because you saw it in.
Speaker 3 (04:50):
Their phone and you don't like it. She doesn't know
it hasn't been made yet. You've seen a photo. She
doesn't know that hasn't been made. That he doesn't have
it socked away, or maybe he's trying to throw off
the scent.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
Maybe he knows she's snoopy mix snoop.
Speaker 3 (05:01):
She was going to go through the phone now, so
he's put nut you don't reckon.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Here, nanna nutt. No one is that. Very few people
of that sort of like savvy.
Speaker 3 (05:09):
Okay here it is just hypothetically. It hasn't been major.
It isn't throwing off the scand it's the real ring
and she hates it. Can you tell him that you
accidentally went through his phone, saw the ring, spoil the engagement,
and double down by saying you don't like the ring? No,
unless you want him to not propose. That's like, there
are so many things wrong with that. You absolutely can't totally.
But what do you do if you get a ring
(05:31):
and it's just so hideous?
Speaker 2 (05:33):
What do you do? I know someone it's hard.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
Yeah, I know somebody that happened to and she still
has it to this day. It's been like fifteen years,
and it was bad. I will say that.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
I remember, I have a friend in my life whose
ring I actually ended up designing the ring for them,
and it worked out well, not exactly what she wanted,
but it was well. But what he wanted for her
was worlds apart from what she wanted and I remember
him sending me the designs and the ring was so
ugly and it.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
Took a really I didn't want to make it, I was.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
It took a really long time to like get him
to realize that maybe he was designing a ring for
himself and not for his future wife.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
Also, just to catch up to speed. If you don't know,
Laura is.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
A jewelry design Oh yeah, she made my wedding rings,
which were wonderful once we got it to fit properly.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
But she makes other people's engagement rings anyway.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Well, look, I think that the way that you can
get around this is you cannot tell them that you
don't like the ring. You can't even tell him that
you've seen the ring. I don't think, because it could
just you know, it's trying to god.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
You also wanted to be a surprise.
Speaker 3 (06:31):
You know what if you spoil the surprise for him,
I've seen this happen before, He's.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
Not going to do it.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Well, he might still, but he might just do it
a bit deflated, and especially if he knows you hate
the ring. What I think you can do though, You
could just start tagging him on Instagram in rings that
you really like sending him inspiration and be like, hey, honey,
in case you're ever thinking of marrying me, this is
the ring that I would really like. I think that
you can do it knowing full well that you are
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going to get proposed to he does want to marry you,
and hopefully if he hasn't started the design process, he
can make a pivot.
Speaker 3 (07:06):
I think what you can do is too There's always
this car cells on Instagram of multiple rings, and I
was like, which ring do you like? I used to
send those to Ben and be like, which one do
you think I would like? But you could put your
own bunch of pictures together, put one that is similar
to the ring that you know he's got, but also
put ones that are that you love and go through
them and say, hey, which one would you pick for me?
Speaker 2 (07:26):
And then you tell him which ones you like?
Speaker 1 (07:28):
Did we ever talk about this with you?
Speaker 2 (07:30):
Britt?
Speaker 1 (07:31):
So Britt was away in the jungle when Ben was
organizing her engagement rings.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
So this was like last year.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
Britt was in the jungle, which meant I had access
to Britt's Instagram because I was managing her social media.
And Ben told me I'm thinking of proposing to Brit
do you have any idea what kind of rings she
would want? And it was so helpful because you had
saved so.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Many engagement rings and.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
They were all the same, massive oval and with guess
what I got, massive oval and formal.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
You can thank me for that.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
I found that, and I knew exactly what you wanted.
Speaker 3 (07:59):
I had sent that to him anyway a hundred times
like this kid knew what I wanted.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
Well, he got the affirmation. You made it very easy
for everyone to.
Speaker 3 (08:07):
Know what you want it. And I think that that's
what we have to do. Take a pressure of him
just sending what you like. You don't have to say
you've seen it. Send him what you like, make it
very clear, leave print out, circle it, standaling, swipe ups,
whatever it takes.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
But unfortunately, if you do end up with him proposing
with the ring that you hate, you just I think
you've got to suck it up until one day you
get it in short and then.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
You accidentally lose it. I didn't say that because I
don't want to get sued by an intrance car. You
can melt it down to after the fact. Nah, No,
everyone's okay with that. But anyway, I have.
Speaker 3 (08:35):
Learned many things Laura over my wedding extravaganza year, the planning,
the arriving, the destination, wedding. It's done now, is done
and dusted last week. But one PSA that I have
for everybody that is getting married. Don't do ball sports,
don't do activities, and don't do contact sports. Probably let's
(08:55):
say three days in the lead up to the wedding.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
I feel like you shouldn't do contact sports. Probably a
bit longer than that. Nothing like breaking your leg before
a wedding.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
My husband, ben I, is a football player.
Speaker 3 (09:05):
I also love sports, so when we're together, we love
to play sport. We decided to go and play paddle
tennis with two of his friends, like my sister and
his groomsman.
Speaker 1 (09:14):
You messaged me we were over in Bali and Pritting
messaged me to say that she was off playing paddle
tennis and I was like, it's thirty three degrees and
seventy eight percent humidity. I was like, it's like doing
paddle tennis in a big room studio.
Speaker 2 (09:24):
It was, it was hot, it was sweaty, but it
was fun. We loved it.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
Anyway, it went south pretty rapidly, so I was opposite
my husband Ben. He was on the other team with
my sister, and I was on his best man's team,
and they're gone back and forth one hundred miles an hour,
and it was one of those rallies where you know
how it's like it's doubles, but there's only two people playing.
Speaker 2 (09:45):
It's the boys just smashing it. So you guys are
just standing on the side.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
We look in, were paying against each other, won't even.
Speaker 3 (09:51):
Getting a look in anyway. Ben does like this big
smash of the ball. Eve, who's my teammate, tries to
smash it back, but it goes off the side of
the racket and smashes into my face at like full speed,
went into my chin, into my bottom lip, and smashed
up into my teeth, and I dropped like a fly.
(10:13):
I swear to god, my teeth were knocked out. I
thought I had this moment where I thought, how long before.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
The wedding was this like twenty four hours?
Speaker 1 (10:20):
Okay, right, yeah, yeah, nothing like looking like you've just
had a lip job, like just had your lips injected
to go to your own wedding.
Speaker 3 (10:26):
So I drop, my hands are on my face and
I thought this is a disaster. I run over to
the side and I take everyone's looking and I'm fighting
back tears and I slowly take my hands away, and
I say, is it okay?
Speaker 2 (10:38):
How bad is it?
Speaker 1 (10:39):
Do?
Speaker 3 (10:39):
I have all my teeth And they all look at
me and I can see on their face, but they're like,
so fine, just take a seat though.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
We're just gonna grab some ice as a backup. And
I was like, why do we need ice? Is a backup?
Speaker 1 (10:51):
I can you could probably feel it, can taste the
blood and feel the tingling, you know, you know when
you've been smacked in the lot.
Speaker 3 (10:57):
Anyway, That's what Ben said. Ben's like, look, babe, it
just looks like you've had maybe some lip filler.
Speaker 2 (11:02):
And I was like, what on one side? And he
was like, yes, one side.
Speaker 1 (11:05):
To be fair, though on your wedding day, you couldn't
not tell. Like, I think it was a good end
result for how bad it could have been.
Speaker 3 (11:12):
I had the ice on for literally nearly twenty four hours.
I took it off.
Speaker 2 (11:15):
After an hour and I was like, are we good?
Can I keep playing? They'll like, just maybe keep it
off for a little bit longer. Keep that on, like
it was like I'd been stung by a bee on
one side of my face. Do you remember?
Speaker 1 (11:25):
I mean it's very different because it's got nothing to
do with weddings, but like I feel like bad things
can happen before a big event, right, and then you
just have to manage how that's going to go down.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
I know it your wedding day. Yes, I know you.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
You trump me with this, And I'm not trying to storytop,
but do you remember when we were in studio and
it was the logies The next day, I was chewing
on a pen and something flung across the room and
it was half of my Yeah, it was my entire
crown on my and this I'm talking, I've got a
crown on the tooth that's directly next to my front too,
so my second tooth. It's very obvious, and it just
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popped off and flew across at you like it was I.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
Dodged your tooth. And I didn't know what it was.
At the first, I was like, what was that? Was weird?
Thing broke off the pen, tooth out of my hair.
It wasn't until later.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
On when I looked at myself in the mirror, it
was like snaggletown. Thank God for emergency dentists, and I
got the most botched little crown, fake like temporary crown
put on there. No one look at the logis photos
of last year too closely. You can tell you didn't
even need that. The closed mouth smile is in. You
could have just done that logis. Yeah, but then what
if you have to talk to someone you talk like this, Hello, hello, sorry, yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
No, I locked my whole teeth out.
Speaker 3 (12:38):
Well, that's why PSA don't do ball sports, contact sports,
anything rough just before.
Speaker 2 (12:41):
The wedding sounds obviously.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
I'm sure there are lots of people people who have
sprained their ankle, broke their leg, done worse things than that. No,
that's also why you don't have your bucks or your
hends party too close or what about.
Speaker 3 (12:53):
All these people that get their eyebrows shaved off from
their bucks?
Speaker 2 (12:56):
Like, no one, no one is doing that.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
Was that just a movie? That's not you watch the Hangover?
That does not happen to real people.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
Swear to god, someone listening right now has had the
eyebrow waxed off. I bet you call up let us know.
What is your husband a teenager?
Speaker 3 (13:10):
Like?
Speaker 2 (13:10):
Are their friends seventeen? They've gone to Vegas probably.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
I need to talk to you about something that has
been plaguing my relationship.
Speaker 3 (13:20):
Well, lucky we are together now on a radio show.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
Then we talk, Oh my god, what are you doing about?
Speaker 1 (13:26):
So we've all heard of like the man look cute.
We all make jokes about it, men who can't find
things in the house.
Speaker 2 (13:32):
Like you've had a man's look. Yeah, you've had a
man's look.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
You know, you tell someone exactly where it is and
then they can't find it, and it's the quote is
it's a man's look. This has become a real point
of contention in my relationship with Matt, and I don't
know whether it's getting progressively worse, whether he's I don't know,
maybe the testosterone is increasing in him and therefore he
just can't find things anymore.
Speaker 2 (13:52):
But it is something that we deal with frequently.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
To the point where I feel as though I could
not be more specific about where I tell him something is,
and he will walk downstairs, wander around looking at the
ceiling and then say, oh, I can't find it, can't
find it.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
It must be bad too, because you're bad. So if he's, if.
Speaker 3 (14:11):
He's worse than you like, because in our relationship, you're like,
have you seen my such and such?
Speaker 2 (14:15):
And if you're guiding him then, like the both of you,
it's problems. Yeah, where are our kids? Has anyone seen?
How many kids do we have? That's why we're having
another one. Just replace him because you've lost the other one.
She'll show up.
Speaker 1 (14:28):
She's under lowed, no speaking. Okay, So we were putting.
I was putting lot the girls to bed the other night,
and Lola specifically has a drink bottle. You know that
she has in bed with her when she goes to sleep.
They both do, but they're usually always in their beds. Anyway,
I'd brought them downstairs and I had washed them, and
so i'd put them away instead of taking them back
upstairs and just putting them next to their bed. I
called out to Matt and I was like, babe, can
you get Lola's drink bottle?
Speaker 2 (14:49):
He's like, I can't find it.
Speaker 1 (14:50):
And I was like, okay, wells as he sits on
the allow and literally literally and I was like, it's
in the cupboard where the drink bottles are.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
We have this one cupboard in our house.
Speaker 1 (14:58):
Yeah, I know, because we have we have so many
drink bottles. He's got a million drink bottles for his
Boddy protein shakes or everything.
Speaker 2 (15:04):
Anyway, It's just full of drink bottles, nothing else. Yeah,
everyone has that cupboard.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
And I was like, it's in the drink bottle cupboard.
I hear nothing for a second, can't find it. And
I was like, okay, well, why don't you just grab
one of the other drink it is in there, grab
one of the other drink bottles. I know that there's
five kid appropriate drink bottles in there. There's no drink
bottles in here. And I was like, I'm sorry, are
you telling me that there is not a single drink bottle.
Speaker 2 (15:28):
In a drink bottle in a drink.
Speaker 1 (15:29):
Bottle cupboard which I just restocked. And he was like, yeah,
can't find it.
Speaker 2 (15:33):
Okay. I was like, and this is just what you do, right,
you go?
Speaker 3 (15:35):
If I walk downstairs, you know it's bad, child, but
you know it's bad if you start with mate.
Speaker 2 (15:40):
So I do. I walk downstairs, open the drink bottle.
Speaker 1 (15:43):
Cupboard full to the brim of drink bottles, right in
front of five kids drink bottles. My husband turns around
and says to me, oh, I didn't know they were
in that cupboard. Sorry, you've lived in the house for
two years. We mutually live in this house. This is
the cupboard that has always held all of the And
now I realized the reason why he keeps buying more
friggin drink bottles.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
Is because he didn't know that.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
He thought he was losing them, and he didn't realize
they were just going into a cupboard.
Speaker 2 (16:06):
I'm sorry, you don't live in the Royal Palace. The
kitchen is not that big. He could have figured it out.
I know I'm calling it. I'm going to use the
term weaponized in competence.
Speaker 1 (16:14):
Okay, well, I mean let's not let's not sorry big
terms around that some.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
People might not know the meaning to. You can tell
what I've learned something new, I will drop it.
Speaker 1 (16:22):
Matt said, you know, I might have had a man's look.
He's like, but I really try this time.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
I thought I was looking in the right covert rubbish.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
And I think that there has to be more to this,
because it can't just be weaponized in competence. Men out there,
surely they're just as capable at looking for things as
their female counterparts.
Speaker 2 (16:38):
Oh they're lazy and they're not as smart. That's odd.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
All the men in the car turning over to listen
to I don't know who else is on the afternoons. No, okay, look,
there's minimal research on this topic, which might come as
a surprise. But there is a theory. It's called the
hunter gatherer hypothesis.
Speaker 2 (16:53):
So this is what it says.
Speaker 1 (16:55):
Some researchers suggest that men inherently struggle to find things
more than women. However, some researchers suggest that men's brains
might be more adept at identifying distant, rapidly moving objects
like pray, while women's brains are better at recognizing nearby
static objects like berries and household eyes.
Speaker 2 (17:15):
Whatever.
Speaker 1 (17:16):
Because we have lost me at pray, do.
Speaker 2 (17:19):
You learn are out?
Speaker 1 (17:20):
They're catching balls and women are catching drink bottles.
Speaker 3 (17:22):
I mean that's literally what my husband does is gold
key Bye catches balls.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
Okay, here's my first thought.
Speaker 3 (17:29):
Why the hell are we doing research studies on why
men can't find stuff?
Speaker 2 (17:33):
Where?
Speaker 3 (17:33):
We haven't done them on endometriosis, we haven't done them
on menopause, we haven't done them all.
Speaker 2 (17:37):
I'm all for this that he need to be done. No,
come back to me, come back to me. We've done
research on menopause. Then we can talk about why men
can't find stuff.
Speaker 3 (17:46):
I literally just got off the I mean you were
in the break, Laura. You were listening to my conversation
with my husband. He's at my house and left him
out some keys, and I'm trying to talk him through
where they are and I'm like, no, Ben, they're right
in front of you. He's like, I can't see them.
They're not here. It was infuriating. I could see them.
Speaker 2 (18:00):
In the FaceTime. I'm like, they're they're there. He couldn't
see them, and I'm like, what is wrong with men?
Speaker 3 (18:04):
But I'm glad now we've got the research that he
can't find a berry, but he could catch a ball
and find the prey.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
I mean, we've made this very heterosexual. But what about
if you're in a same sex What if it's two
men they never find anything, but grace, you're in a
same sex relationship, Surely there's someone in your household who
just can't find anything.
Speaker 2 (18:20):
Yeah. I suck at looking for things.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
And my partner's like, if I find it in three seconds,
I'll be so mad.
Speaker 2 (18:27):
That's an empty threat, because you know you are mad.
Speaker 3 (18:29):
Nah, But you win them over, and I know you
would to you about your eyelids.
Speaker 2 (18:32):
I'm very lovable proclaimed Just look, we're getting out of here.
I've got shit to look for anyway,
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Speaker 2 (00:19):
Good Pickup with britt Hockley and Laura Burn.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
Brady, your work, our windows done, that's my world, risen
the dust, only good tabs all down.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
I've done March now. But yeah, I know I'll big
get and what I want. It don't matter where. This
is the pick up.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
Happy Thursday afternoon, everyone, It's the pick up with britt
Hartley and Laura Burn.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
How are you feeling you buy this week? Laura? Well, yeah,
look I did get a little shock. I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
Happy Thursday Afternoon to everybody except for Brittany Hockley. He's
not in fact married because it was a big scare.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
It was fake if you make you Yeah, no, I
did get married last week. And you know, I got
sent an article and I saw that it had my
wedding picture in it, and I was like, cute, this
is gonna be like a cute little walked down memory
lane for last week in a reflection on the happiest
day of my life.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
Just read the headline.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
I can't It's got two photos of me in a
wedding dress. And then The headline says, Brittany Hockley reveals
her wedding was fake and her husband was denied entry
into Australia.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
That is the article that was written about my wedding.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
They make it sound like he was trying to smuggle
drugs or something, and he's always a criminal.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
It's so good, like Australia media is so good at
taking a whiff of a line and creating an entire
article around absolute nothingness.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
I vote you for it.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Fake wedding and where is Ben prove it? Where is
he now?
Speaker 3 (01:43):
He's been even real?
Speaker 2 (01:45):
He doesn't exist. I have aied my whole relationship.
Speaker 3 (01:48):
No, just to really like clarify this now if anyone listening,
the wedding wasn't fake. The wedding was real. My bank
account will confirm that. But we do have to make
it official in Australia. So that's what they're saying about
it being fake, like we have to do it here
in Australia legalities.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
It was a real wedding, it's just not yet a
confirmed marriage is so consummated.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
That's it get samanatics.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
See how the part was that Ben was He's like,
is this this is a really a good headline for
me to say that he was denied entry into a
country because my husband is Swiss and lives in Italy.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
He wasn't denied entry.
Speaker 3 (02:20):
So he got to the airport. They said, where's your visa?
He said, what visa? And that was how that went down.
Very luckily we were early and he got a visa
on the spot. He did, in fact get letting. He
is currently in my home in Australia.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
Everyone is thrilled for you, Britt, And I don't think
that there was a single person Actually, no, I take
that back.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
I was gonna say I don't.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
Think that there was a single person that read the
article that actually thought it was a scam wedding. But
then I saw a couple of comments on Instagram, so actually.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
There were people who thought it was a scam. They did.
Speaker 3 (02:49):
I couldn't believe it people because I started to get
these comments and I was like, why people writing this
on my photos? Then I saw people were reading the
headline finding my Instagram to write why did.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
You even say your vows? If it was fake? Why
did you learn German? If it was fake? And I
was like sorry, I was like, what you're like?
Speaker 1 (03:04):
Pray for their Instagram followers, go away and crag crag.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
By lingual, don't be jealous.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
It is time because it's Thursday for Ask gun Cut
and that is where we answer you're deep, you're dark,
and you're burning questions. We do this segment Ask Guncut
on our podcast Life Uncut every week every Thursday, where
we answer your listener questions and you guys call in
or you ride in. And this week we have a
question from someone who wants to remain anonymous for fear
(03:34):
of her potential future fiance finding out look a bit
double handed.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
I understand why.
Speaker 3 (03:39):
It's she wants to be anonymous, but maybe she shouldn't be.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
Maybe he needs to hear it.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
Let's call her Sally. Sally came across a photo.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
This sounds sorry, it sounds like a sort of a
story book, like Sally, like sunsets.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
No, all right, We've been talking a lot about weddings
this week because obviously brit got married. But this has
to do with when you find out that your partner
is going to propose to you.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
Yeah, so, I we're not gonna call it Sally.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
The person who wrote in they found the pictures in
their partner's phone of the engagement ring that he is
planning to propose with. It's only at the design stage,
so by the looks of things, it hasn't been made yet,
but all the tech drawings, that the cat.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
Drawings for the design for the ring have been done. Now.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Firstly, she is incredibly thrilled that he's going to propose
love of life.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
Whooh yay, so excited. I love that hold on.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
On the other hand, she absolutely hates the ring and
thinks it is the ugliest thing she's ever laid her
eyes on. Knowing that he hasn't gone through yet or
you know, she doesn't know for certain, but she doesn't
think he's gone through with making it yet. How would
you approach this situation? Do you just suck it up
and bear it and get a ring that you hate,
(04:46):
or do you tell your partner that you know that
they're designing a ring because you saw it in.
Speaker 3 (04:50):
Their phone and you don't like it. She doesn't know
it hasn't been made yet. You've seen a photo. She
doesn't know that hasn't been made. That he doesn't have
it socked away, or maybe he's trying to throw off
the scent.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
Maybe he knows she's snoopy mix snoop.
Speaker 3 (05:01):
She was going to go through the phone now, so
he's put nut you don't reckon.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Here, nanna nutt. No one is that. Very few people
of that sort of like savvy.
Speaker 3 (05:09):
Okay here it is just hypothetically. It hasn't been major.
It isn't throwing off the scand it's the real ring
and she hates it. Can you tell him that you
accidentally went through his phone, saw the ring, spoil the engagement,
and double down by saying you don't like the ring? No,
unless you want him to not propose. That's like, there
are so many things wrong with that. You absolutely can't totally.
But what do you do if you get a ring
(05:31):
and it's just so hideous?
Speaker 2 (05:33):
What do you do? I know someone it's hard.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
Yeah, I know somebody that happened to and she still
has it to this day. It's been like fifteen years,
and it was bad. I will say that.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
I remember, I have a friend in my life whose
ring I actually ended up designing the ring for them,
and it worked out well, not exactly what she wanted,
but it was well. But what he wanted for her
was worlds apart from what she wanted and I remember
him sending me the designs and the ring was so
ugly and it.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
Took a really I didn't want to make it, I was.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
It took a really long time to like get him
to realize that maybe he was designing a ring for
himself and not for his future wife.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
Also, just to catch up to speed. If you don't know,
Laura is.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
A jewelry design Oh yeah, she made my wedding rings,
which were wonderful once we got it to fit properly.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
But she makes other people's engagement rings anyway.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Well, look, I think that the way that you can
get around this is you cannot tell them that you
don't like the ring. You can't even tell him that
you've seen the ring. I don't think, because it could
just you know, it's trying to god.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
You also wanted to be a surprise.
Speaker 3 (06:31):
You know what if you spoil the surprise for him,
I've seen this happen before, He's.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
Not going to do it.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Well, he might still, but he might just do it
a bit deflated, and especially if he knows you hate
the ring. What I think you can do though, You
could just start tagging him on Instagram in rings that
you really like sending him inspiration and be like, hey, honey,
in case you're ever thinking of marrying me, this is
the ring that I would really like. I think that
you can do it knowing full well that you are
(06:58):
going to get proposed to he does want to marry you,
and hopefully if he hasn't started the design process, he
can make a pivot.
Speaker 3 (07:06):
I think what you can do is too There's always
this car cells on Instagram of multiple rings, and I
was like, which ring do you like? I used to
send those to Ben and be like, which one do
you think I would like? But you could put your
own bunch of pictures together, put one that is similar
to the ring that you know he's got, but also
put ones that are that you love and go through
them and say, hey, which one would you pick for me?
Speaker 2 (07:26):
And then you tell him which ones you like?
Speaker 1 (07:28):
Did we ever talk about this with you?
Speaker 2 (07:30):
Britt?
Speaker 1 (07:31):
So Britt was away in the jungle when Ben was
organizing her engagement rings.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
So this was like last year.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
Britt was in the jungle, which meant I had access
to Britt's Instagram because I was managing her social media.
And Ben told me I'm thinking of proposing to Brit
do you have any idea what kind of rings she
would want? And it was so helpful because you had
saved so.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Many engagement rings and.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
They were all the same, massive oval and with guess
what I got, massive oval and formal.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
You can thank me for that.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
I found that, and I knew exactly what you wanted.
Speaker 3 (07:59):
I had sent that to him anyway a hundred times
like this kid knew what I wanted.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
Well, he got the affirmation. You made it very easy
for everyone to.
Speaker 3 (08:07):
Know what you want it. And I think that that's
what we have to do. Take a pressure of him
just sending what you like. You don't have to say
you've seen it. Send him what you like, make it
very clear, leave print out, circle it, standaling, swipe ups,
whatever it takes.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
But unfortunately, if you do end up with him proposing
with the ring that you hate, you just I think
you've got to suck it up until one day you
get it in short and then.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
You accidentally lose it. I didn't say that because I
don't want to get sued by an intrance car. You
can melt it down to after the fact. Nah, No,
everyone's okay with that. But anyway, I have.
Speaker 3 (08:35):
Learned many things Laura over my wedding extravaganza year, the planning,
the arriving, the destination, wedding. It's done now, is done
and dusted last week. But one PSA that I have
for everybody that is getting married. Don't do ball sports,
don't do activities, and don't do contact sports. Probably let's
(08:55):
say three days in the lead up to the wedding.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
I feel like you shouldn't do contact sports. Probably a
bit longer than that. Nothing like breaking your leg before
a wedding.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
My husband, ben I, is a football player.
Speaker 3 (09:05):
I also love sports, so when we're together, we love
to play sport. We decided to go and play paddle
tennis with two of his friends, like my sister and
his groomsman.
Speaker 1 (09:14):
You messaged me we were over in Bali and Pritting
messaged me to say that she was off playing paddle
tennis and I was like, it's thirty three degrees and
seventy eight percent humidity. I was like, it's like doing
paddle tennis in a big room studio.
Speaker 2 (09:24):
It was, it was hot, it was sweaty, but it
was fun. We loved it.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
Anyway, it went south pretty rapidly, so I was opposite
my husband Ben. He was on the other team with
my sister, and I was on his best man's team,
and they're gone back and forth one hundred miles an hour,
and it was one of those rallies where you know
how it's like it's doubles, but there's only two people playing.
Speaker 2 (09:45):
It's the boys just smashing it. So you guys are
just standing on the side.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
We look in, were paying against each other, won't even.
Speaker 3 (09:51):
Getting a look in anyway. Ben does like this big
smash of the ball. Eve, who's my teammate, tries to
smash it back, but it goes off the side of
the racket and smashes into my face at like full speed,
went into my chin, into my bottom lip, and smashed
up into my teeth, and I dropped like a fly.
(10:13):
I swear to god, my teeth were knocked out. I
thought I had this moment where I thought, how long before.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
The wedding was this like twenty four hours?
Speaker 1 (10:20):
Okay, right, yeah, yeah, nothing like looking like you've just
had a lip job, like just had your lips injected
to go to your own wedding.
Speaker 3 (10:26):
So I drop, my hands are on my face and
I thought this is a disaster. I run over to
the side and I take everyone's looking and I'm fighting
back tears and I slowly take my hands away, and
I say, is it okay?
Speaker 2 (10:38):
How bad is it?
Speaker 1 (10:39):
Do?
Speaker 3 (10:39):
I have all my teeth And they all look at
me and I can see on their face, but they're like,
so fine, just take a seat though.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
We're just gonna grab some ice as a backup. And
I was like, why do we need ice? Is a backup?
Speaker 1 (10:51):
I can you could probably feel it, can taste the
blood and feel the tingling, you know, you know when
you've been smacked in the lot.
Speaker 3 (10:57):
Anyway, That's what Ben said. Ben's like, look, babe, it
just looks like you've had maybe some lip filler.
Speaker 2 (11:02):
And I was like, what on one side? And he
was like, yes, one side.
Speaker 1 (11:05):
To be fair, though on your wedding day, you couldn't
not tell. Like, I think it was a good end
result for how bad it could have been.
Speaker 3 (11:12):
I had the ice on for literally nearly twenty four hours.
I took it off.
Speaker 2 (11:15):
After an hour and I was like, are we good?
Can I keep playing? They'll like, just maybe keep it
off for a little bit longer. Keep that on, like
it was like I'd been stung by a bee on
one side of my face. Do you remember?
Speaker 1 (11:25):
I mean it's very different because it's got nothing to
do with weddings, but like I feel like bad things
can happen before a big event, right, and then you
just have to manage how that's going to go down.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
I know it your wedding day. Yes, I know you.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
You trump me with this, And I'm not trying to storytop,
but do you remember when we were in studio and
it was the logies The next day, I was chewing
on a pen and something flung across the room and
it was half of my Yeah, it was my entire
crown on my and this I'm talking, I've got a
crown on the tooth that's directly next to my front too,
so my second tooth. It's very obvious, and it just
(12:01):
popped off and flew across at you like it was I.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
Dodged your tooth. And I didn't know what it was.
At the first, I was like, what was that? Was weird?
Thing broke off the pen, tooth out of my hair.
It wasn't until later.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
On when I looked at myself in the mirror, it
was like snaggletown. Thank God for emergency dentists, and I
got the most botched little crown, fake like temporary crown
put on there. No one look at the logis photos
of last year too closely. You can tell you didn't
even need that. The closed mouth smile is in. You
could have just done that logis. Yeah, but then what
if you have to talk to someone you talk like this, Hello, hello, sorry, yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
No, I locked my whole teeth out.
Speaker 3 (12:38):
Well, that's why PSA don't do ball sports, contact sports,
anything rough just before.
Speaker 2 (12:41):
The wedding sounds obviously.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
I'm sure there are lots of people people who have
sprained their ankle, broke their leg, done worse things than that. No,
that's also why you don't have your bucks or your
hends party too close or what about.
Speaker 3 (12:53):
All these people that get their eyebrows shaved off from
their bucks?
Speaker 2 (12:56):
Like, no one, no one is doing that.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
Was that just a movie? That's not you watch the Hangover?
That does not happen to real people.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
Swear to god, someone listening right now has had the
eyebrow waxed off. I bet you call up let us know.
What is your husband a teenager?
Speaker 3 (13:10):
Like?
Speaker 2 (13:10):
Are their friends seventeen? They've gone to Vegas probably.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
I need to talk to you about something that has
been plaguing my relationship.
Speaker 3 (13:20):
Well, lucky we are together now on a radio show.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
Then we talk, Oh my god, what are you doing about?
Speaker 1 (13:26):
So we've all heard of like the man look cute.
We all make jokes about it, men who can't find
things in the house.
Speaker 2 (13:32):
Like you've had a man's look. Yeah, you've had a
man's look.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
You know, you tell someone exactly where it is and
then they can't find it, and it's the quote is
it's a man's look. This has become a real point
of contention in my relationship with Matt, and I don't
know whether it's getting progressively worse, whether he's I don't know,
maybe the testosterone is increasing in him and therefore he
just can't find things anymore.
Speaker 2 (13:52):
But it is something that we deal with frequently.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
To the point where I feel as though I could
not be more specific about where I tell him something is,
and he will walk downstairs, wander around looking at the
ceiling and then say, oh, I can't find it, can't
find it.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
It must be bad too, because you're bad. So if he's, if.
Speaker 3 (14:11):
He's worse than you like, because in our relationship, you're like,
have you seen my such and such?
Speaker 2 (14:15):
And if you're guiding him then, like the both of you,
it's problems. Yeah, where are our kids? Has anyone seen?
How many kids do we have? That's why we're having
another one. Just replace him because you've lost the other one.
She'll show up.
Speaker 1 (14:28):
She's under lowed, no speaking. Okay, So we were putting.
I was putting lot the girls to bed the other night,
and Lola specifically has a drink bottle. You know that
she has in bed with her when she goes to sleep.
They both do, but they're usually always in their beds. Anyway,
I'd brought them downstairs and I had washed them, and
so i'd put them away instead of taking them back
upstairs and just putting them next to their bed. I
called out to Matt and I was like, babe, can
you get Lola's drink bottle?
Speaker 2 (14:49):
He's like, I can't find it.
Speaker 1 (14:50):
And I was like, okay, wells as he sits on
the allow and literally literally and I was like, it's
in the cupboard where the drink bottles are.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
We have this one cupboard in our house.
Speaker 1 (14:58):
Yeah, I know, because we have we have so many
drink bottles. He's got a million drink bottles for his
Boddy protein shakes or everything.
Speaker 2 (15:04):
Anyway, It's just full of drink bottles, nothing else. Yeah,
everyone has that cupboard.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
And I was like, it's in the drink bottle cupboard.
I hear nothing for a second, can't find it. And
I was like, okay, well, why don't you just grab
one of the other drink it is in there, grab
one of the other drink bottles. I know that there's
five kid appropriate drink bottles in there. There's no drink
bottles in here. And I was like, I'm sorry, are
you telling me that there is not a single drink bottle.
Speaker 2 (15:28):
In a drink bottle in a drink.
Speaker 1 (15:29):
Bottle cupboard which I just restocked. And he was like, yeah,
can't find it.
Speaker 2 (15:33):
Okay. I was like, and this is just what you do, right,
you go?
Speaker 3 (15:35):
If I walk downstairs, you know it's bad, child, but
you know it's bad if you start with mate.
Speaker 2 (15:40):
So I do. I walk downstairs, open the drink bottle.
Speaker 1 (15:43):
Cupboard full to the brim of drink bottles, right in
front of five kids drink bottles. My husband turns around
and says to me, oh, I didn't know they were
in that cupboard. Sorry, you've lived in the house for
two years. We mutually live in this house. This is
the cupboard that has always held all of the And
now I realized the reason why he keeps buying more
friggin drink bottles.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
Is because he didn't know that.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
He thought he was losing them, and he didn't realize
they were just going into a cupboard.
Speaker 2 (16:06):
I'm sorry, you don't live in the Royal Palace. The
kitchen is not that big. He could have figured it out.
I know I'm calling it. I'm going to use the
term weaponized in competence.
Speaker 1 (16:14):
Okay, well, I mean let's not let's not sorry big
terms around that some.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
People might not know the meaning to. You can tell
what I've learned something new, I will drop it.
Speaker 1 (16:22):
Matt said, you know, I might have had a man's look.
He's like, but I really try this time.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
I thought I was looking in the right covert rubbish.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
And I think that there has to be more to this,
because it can't just be weaponized in competence. Men out there,
surely they're just as capable at looking for things as
their female counterparts.
Speaker 2 (16:38):
Oh they're lazy and they're not as smart. That's odd.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
All the men in the car turning over to listen
to I don't know who else is on the afternoons. No, okay, look,
there's minimal research on this topic, which might come as
a surprise. But there is a theory. It's called the
hunter gatherer hypothesis.
Speaker 2 (16:53):
So this is what it says.
Speaker 1 (16:55):
Some researchers suggest that men inherently struggle to find things
more than women. However, some researchers suggest that men's brains
might be more adept at identifying distant, rapidly moving objects
like pray, while women's brains are better at recognizing nearby
static objects like berries and household eyes.
Speaker 2 (17:15):
Whatever.
Speaker 1 (17:16):
Because we have lost me at pray, do.
Speaker 2 (17:19):
You learn are out?
Speaker 1 (17:20):
They're catching balls and women are catching drink bottles.
Speaker 3 (17:22):
I mean that's literally what my husband does is gold
key Bye catches balls.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
Okay, here's my first thought.
Speaker 3 (17:29):
Why the hell are we doing research studies on why
men can't find stuff?
Speaker 2 (17:33):
Where?
Speaker 3 (17:33):
We haven't done them on endometriosis, we haven't done them
on menopause, we haven't done them all.
Speaker 2 (17:37):
I'm all for this that he need to be done. No,
come back to me, come back to me. We've done
research on menopause. Then we can talk about why men
can't find stuff.
Speaker 3 (17:46):
I literally just got off the I mean you were
in the break, Laura. You were listening to my conversation
with my husband. He's at my house and left him
out some keys, and I'm trying to talk him through
where they are and I'm like, no, Ben, they're right
in front of you. He's like, I can't see them.
They're not here. It was infuriating. I could see them.
Speaker 2 (18:00):
In the FaceTime. I'm like, they're they're there. He couldn't
see them, and I'm like, what is wrong with men?
Speaker 3 (18:04):
But I'm glad now we've got the research that he
can't find a berry, but he could catch a ball
and find the prey.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
I mean, we've made this very heterosexual. But what about
if you're in a same sex What if it's two
men they never find anything, but grace, you're in a
same sex relationship, Surely there's someone in your household who
just can't find anything.
Speaker 2 (18:20):
Yeah. I suck at looking for things.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
And my partner's like, if I find it in three seconds,
I'll be so mad.
Speaker 2 (18:27):
That's an empty threat, because you know you are mad.
Speaker 3 (18:29):
Nah, But you win them over, and I know you
would to you about your eyelids.
Speaker 2 (18:32):
I'm very lovable proclaimed Just look, we're getting out of here.
I've got shit to look for anyway,
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Does hearing about a true crime case always leave you scouring the internet for the truth behind the story? Dive into your next mystery with Crime Junkie. Every Monday, join your host Ashley Flowers as she unravels all the details of infamous and underreported true crime cases with her best friend Brit Prawat. From cold cases to missing persons and heroes in our community who seek justice, Crime Junkie is your destination for theories and stories you won’t hear anywhere else. Whether you're a seasoned true crime enthusiast or new to the genre, you'll find yourself on the edge of your seat awaiting a new episode every Monday. If you can never get enough true crime... Congratulations, you’ve found your people. Follow to join a community of Crime Junkies! Crime Junkie is presented by audiochuck Media Company.
Ridiculous History
History is beautiful, brutal and, often, ridiculous. Join Ben Bowlin and Noel Brown as they dive into some of the weirdest stories from across the span of human civilization in Ridiculous History, a podcast by iHeartRadio.