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Speaker 1 (00:12):
Laura, come on, Oh, we're on We're here. Hello, Hello, Hello,
loall Hello, don't we have some news for you all?
Speaker 2 (00:25):
What do you got there? Britt?
Speaker 1 (00:26):
It's not me, but it's us. Life on Card podcast,
the podcast that Laura and I host, which is.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
Separate to the radio show in case you've been curious.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
Is going on a national Australian tour with seven locations
and we're kicking off ten days.
Speaker 3 (00:42):
Is it?
Speaker 2 (00:43):
Oh my god, it's too close.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
It's the month of October. It is.
Speaker 4 (00:45):
But also I mean, we love our little trio here
at the pickup, so we're taking.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Mitch Jury with us. We're going all across the country.
Speaker 4 (00:52):
If you've ever thought when you've been listening to this show, god,
I really would love to see them live up on
stage doing what they do in front of everyone. That's
what we're going to be doing. And it starts on Sunday,
the eighth of October. Our very first show is in Adelaide,
So if you're an Adelaide listening, go get your tickets.
Laugh uncutpodcast dot com dot au. And then we're heading everywhere.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
Yeah, and every city has different guests, so we're going
to be all having some banter ourselves. But then we've
got different guests. We've got Rebel Wilson coming as a
very special guest to the Sydney Show. So if you've
ever wanted to sit down with Rebel and have an
in person, intimate conversation, this is it, because Rebel doesn't
do these chats like this is a very rare event.
But then we've got so many other people all around
(01:31):
the country. We've got Home and Away actress Emily Weir coming.
Speaker 4 (01:34):
Her story is so interesting actually, it's so much like
people don't know this about her, but Emily is completely sober.
She stopped drinking when she was in her twenties and
she has a really interesting story around why.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
Bunch of other cool people. But we've got Mitch Cherry
em scene and opening. We've got Sam Fisher, the amazing
performer who's going to be singing and opening every single shows.
It's actually going to be wild. I'm excited.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
I think the best part is going to be hearing
about it on the pick up every day because we're
going to be like in bunks, to be in hotel
rooms together. We're going on campus, we are.
Speaker 4 (02:02):
Literally going on on team tour and doing it all
across the country. Now that's all coming up. You can
get your tickets. I say it again, laugh on upodcast
dot com. Today, you, Britt, you have quite an important
update for us.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
Yeah, I'm going to be sharing another update on my
fertility journey because I did think I had sort of
come to a head with it about a month ago.
If you're listening, you'll know that I was doing some
egg freezing. But I do have another update and it
is not over yet.
Speaker 3 (02:28):
All right, we'll get to that next here at the
pick up. Welcome to Tuesday Afternoon thanks to chemist Warehouse.
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(02:48):
All right now, Britt, you've got an update for us
here on your fertility journey.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
Yeah, I do.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
I froze my eggs for the first time about three
years ago, and then I froze them again just about
a month or so ago. So now I'm going through
that process with my partner Ben, who lives overseas. So
I was sort of giving you guys live updates on
that as it was happening, because I think it's really important.
If you missed my last update, this is it.
Speaker 5 (03:13):
I only got four eggs, which is really low, and
then one of those eggs immediately was no good. So
I ended up with only three eggs and having had
fifteen last time, and knowing that fifteen only makes that
one child, three is is very low.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
So I'm talking about egg freezing there if you didn't
quite catch that. So this is the second time I
had frozen my eggs, so I have like another update
on that update. So I thought I was sort of
updating you guys as I was going, as the process
was happening, and maybe I did that too soon so
that I was actually with Mitch at the time. I
(03:50):
got a call saying, you know, your three has gone
to two. One you know was no good, and so
I got upset at that because I thought, wow, like
they're dropping like flies, but two still great. And then
I received another call saying there were some complications and
they weren't mature enough and there's a whole there's a
whole multitude of reasons that eggs and embryos and things
like that don't fully develop and form and not viable.
(04:13):
My two that I got were not viable, so I
ended up with nothing, no eggs. Yeah, which is fine.
It is fine because other people go through far more
than that. But yeah, it's definitely disappointing and a bit
(04:34):
of a hit to think that you can go through
this whole process for weeks of these injections and in
your head you're like, well, I have science on my side,
like I have everything pushing in the direction to get
what I need, and then to come up with nothing.
Knowing that I you know, I had all the help
I could get and I still didn't get one egg
(04:56):
as a woman is like, really, I knew my fertility
wasn't great, but I didn't always that bad.
Speaker 4 (05:03):
But do they give you any information as to why,
because I know what the very first time you like
what you said, this is your second time doing egg freezing.
The first time you got fifteen eggs.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
Yes, that was about three years ago. I got fifteen eggs.
I am doing it again in November. I'll go the
third time. And I've spoken to my fertility doctor and basically,
we're just going to pump me so hard full of
hormones excessively, which means I'm going to be really, really crook.
You could possibly go into what they call hypovarian syndrome,
which is very painful, can sometimes be dangerous if they
(05:36):
go too far. But they're going to try and get
the balance just right, just maybe topple me over to
get as many as I can. So I'm hoping it's
not I'm hoping this doesn't mean that there's never ever
going to be any I think I say, X round
could be different, and I say, like the next harvest,
I think the next harvest.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Is going to be good.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
But I feel like I went to the farmer's market
got a dozen eggs, like dropped him on the way home.
You know, you.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
Say, like you know, it's not okay, it's not good.
It's also all right for it to be a shitty situation.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
Yeah, because it is.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
It's the reality of life. And like you've said, thousands
of women go through this every day. I don't know
if you can speak to it. I can't. As a man,
I kind of fathom the emotions, but you must. You
would think I'm a failure this is me. You take
it so personally right, you just I mean.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
Yeah, you do for sure. But it's not just me.
I feel a let down for my partner Ben. He
lives overseas, so he's living in Scotland and it affects
him as much as it affects me. You know, he
wants kids. I live with the fact that he won't
get them. He's so amazing and he's been so supportive.
Speaker 3 (06:44):
How do you react when because you were with him
when you found out.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Yeah, I was beside myself because you automatically think the
worst as well, Like I have complete faith now after
speaking to my doctor again that we will get some
in the next round. But at the time, you know,
when you're like I almost fel better by walloween in
myself pity. I was like, I'm never gonna be able
to do this for you. I'm sorry, Like it's I
can't even do it with science, you know, I just
got really low. And he's like, this is not this
(07:11):
doesn't matter. He's like it doesn't change anything, and next
time is going to be better and we're going to
do this together. And he's he was really really great
and he's really big on positivity. He's like, don't let
the eggs in there. Hear what you're saying.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
And I was like, there's none in there.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
They can't hear me. That's my update. I guess it's
like one thing I do want to say to any
women out there, I really would recommend going to get
a fertility test, just even your blood test, because since
I've been speaking about this, so many women have message
saying I wish I got mine checked earlier because I
went to get a checked and it's too late. I'm
going to early menopause, my fatility is bad. I've got
(07:46):
into introces, so many things, and it's so easy to
go and get that initial blood test just to start
the process.
Speaker 2 (07:52):
We got yet we got ye little eggies.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
No scrambled eggs for Bricky.
Speaker 3 (07:57):
Okay, well now you can make absolutely no.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
And I'm too awkward being serious.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
I always have to throw it in thet.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
Tuesday.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
Here on the pickup, Britt, Laura and Mitch.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
Hello, heading to the chemist ware house today.
Speaker 3 (08:13):
You'll get great savings every day. Now you've heard of
snakes on a plane, but get ready for arguably far
scarier Laura Burham on a plane.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
It's way worse.
Speaker 4 (08:22):
No, it is not worse than a snake. I think
I'd take a snake. But look, I went on a
holiday without my kids recently. I went away for seven
days on a child free trip. She came back, Laura,
I know, no, I missed my kids so much, but
this was big for me. I've never been on an
international trip without my children. I've never been away from
my children for that long. It was my first time
(08:44):
getting on an international flight without my kids, and it
made me realize how much I don't like other people's kids.
Speaker 3 (08:52):
Oh, and you're the first person on this show to
rab it on about how your kids get scolded on
planes and how it's not nice.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
With your kids.
Speaker 4 (09:01):
No, no, no, no, no. I have never said that
my kids get scolded on planes. My kids behave because
do you know why it's so hard to parent your
children on a plane, because you have to try and
control them, And that's what didn't happen in this situation.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
So he me out. I'm sitting there with my sister.
Speaker 4 (09:18):
It's also she's also got two kids the same age
as mine, so it's a big deal for us. We're
on this little trip together and sitting directly behind me
is a five I'd say he was about five five
year old kid. I was next to the window, then
next to him was his dad, and then next to
his dad was another kid.
Speaker 5 (09:33):
Right.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
Dad was traveling with the kids all by himself.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
Hero yeah right, yeah, bra beautiful, so beautiful.
Speaker 4 (09:41):
Dad decided that he actually didn't care what the kids did,
so long as they didn't bother him. Dad was having
a sleep while his five year old son had pulled
out some plato, had pulled down his trade table and
was mashing that plato into the trade table like it
was his job, like he was trying to roll a
pizza dough out. So all I was getting for a
good two minutes was bang, bang bang bang bang bang.
(10:03):
Was behind the tray table attached to my chair because
those trays are so flimsy, so I was trying to rest.
Speaker 2 (10:09):
I couldn't because all I was getting was this bang
on the back of the seat.
Speaker 4 (10:12):
So I turned around and I went into my full
blown Karen mode. Now I've spoken about being a Karen
on this show before. In fact, recently I talked about
how much I enjoy being a Karen. No, I think
if there is a Karen in this room, it's me.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
I love a letter.
Speaker 4 (10:28):
I love complaining. I can't tell you the amount of
times where people in our street are having parties. And
I'll say to my husband Matt, and I'll go, is
it too early to call the police yet? It was
like seven pm but the sun still up. No, So
I didn't call the police in this incident. I wasn't like, oh, look,
is there any flight? What are they called a plane?
Police marshal. What I did is I turned around and
(10:53):
the dad was sleeping, So I put my arm through
the little hole and I tapped him on the knee
and I said, father, excuse me, could you please ask
your son to stop banging my seat? And you could
tell he was a bit startled, and he was like, oh, oh,
can you stop stop banging the seat? And then he
goes back to sleep. Five minutes later, bang bang. But
it was horrible and like, I am not leaving my
(11:15):
kids at home to deal with somebody else's kids on
this plane.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
So I turned back around and I was like, excuse.
Speaker 4 (11:20):
Me again, wake come yeah, could you maybe just maybe
the trade table's a bad idea for the Plato, Like,
could you please, could you please anyway? The dad took
it and he was like once again. He was like
I stop, and then okay, I'm at this point, come on, like,
ask your kid to actually stop. I agree, and he
was not. He was just the dad did not care
because the kid was occupied, so he didn't have to
(11:40):
deal with his own child being annoying. I'm a single, brave,
beautiful father on a plane by himself, doting dad. He's
a doting dad anyway. So the dad once again checked out,
and then it continued, and it continued for a good
twenty five minutes, and I was like, I actually can't
wear an hour and a half into this six hour
flight and I need this to stop. And I turned
around to the child and I was like, excuse me,
you need to stop banging my seat right now.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
I spoke to the child directly.
Speaker 1 (12:04):
You disciplined discipline. I put on your child.
Speaker 4 (12:08):
I put on my ten out of ten mum voice,
and the little kid went like this okay, and he
just put the trade table away. Not one single bang
from there on in. I wond I won the war
against the five year old.
Speaker 3 (12:22):
And we've spoken to the dad. The child a non
verbal and the holiday has been ruined.
Speaker 4 (12:27):
The kid was fine, I'm sorry, but like, there comes
a point where it's okay to step in and pair
it someone else's child.
Speaker 3 (12:35):
There is such a one an hour, one.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
Hour into a flight.
Speaker 2 (12:38):
If they can't stop it, then someone else cares.
Speaker 3 (12:40):
You were the most thirty seven year old I've ever.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
Known you as in this moment, so young, you're.
Speaker 3 (12:46):
So you can't talk, Britt, you cannot talk to another child.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
On a plane as a thirty six year old. You're
very thirty seven right now. I think I cannot relate
to you right now, Laura, I'm in Miches's generation.
Speaker 2 (12:59):
Sorry about that. Guys, Look, I think it's fine.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
Well, the kids joining us on the phone now, Hidi,
he's not speaking, he's traumatized, all right. Next time on
the show, listen, how would you feel right if your
partner you got a new partner? However, they were still
full time career for their ex. I was still living
and looking after their ex.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
Wh why are they taking care of them?
Speaker 3 (13:19):
Well, I'll tell you why. I'll tell you all about it.
Next on the Pickup, it's the Pickup. Welcome back, Britt,
Laura and Mitch. Here thanks to Chemists Warehouse, they want
to give you a free Doctor Consult. Download the instant
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Speaker 1 (13:34):
I want to tell you guys about a TikTok that
I saw that's gone viral, but it really stopped me
in my tracks. It's about a woman and her relationship
with her now husband and her ex husband, and I
want to know if you guys think you'd do the
same thing. How he listen to what she said.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
My name is Chris.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
My first husband had a severe traumatic brain injury fifteen
years ago.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
We're no longer married, but I helped take care of him.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
I'm his legal guardian.
Speaker 2 (13:57):
I love him very very much. He's very much a
part of family.
Speaker 1 (14:01):
Chris, who you just heard, and her partner Brandon, were
childhood sweethearts, so it's all they knew was each other.
They'd planned to spend their entire life together, and then
at twenty four and twenty three years old, Chris got
a call that he had been in a really bad
car accident and he had a really severe traumatic brain injury.
Doctors did say if he did live, his life would
(14:24):
never be the same. So you know, she had committed
to him and committed to this for better or for worse,
and it ended up being for worse. He did come
out of the coma, but he has been left with
such severe injuries that he was just never the same.
So Chris stuck around for a while and tried to
make it work, but once she realized he was never
(14:45):
going to come back to normal, they split up. But
what she did say is she promised him that she
would always look after him, and she still does. So
she ended up remarrying and they both are the cares
of Brandon. He's in a nursing home now, but they
he comes to the house every week and has dinner,
and they take them out for dinner, and they take
them out for him out for outings. And there's one
(15:05):
video in particular that's gone viral and it's her new
husband added a restaurant with her ex husband in a
wheelchair and he's feeding him dinner and it's a really
beautiful moment. But I just thought, Wow, there's probably not
many people that would do that.
Speaker 4 (15:17):
Well, Britt, I think that the thing that's so I mean,
it is a beautiful story, but I think the thing
that's so interesting is how much is divided people People
saying whether they would do it or they you know,
whether even if she made the right decision to walk
away from her marriage, whether they would do that if
that was their partner who was in the same position.
I think, I mean, I think it's beautiful that she
has continued to be a part of both of you know,
(15:41):
his life, and also managed to still go on and
carry on with her life. But at the same time,
I think, what an incredible new husband to have the confidence,
the empathy, the kindness to say, Okay, I want to
be in a relationship with you, but I will also
support your husband who is like unable to do anything
for himself. I just think it's so it's such a
devastating situation, but more than anything, what amazingly caring, kind,
(16:05):
generous people they are.
Speaker 2 (16:06):
She is his.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
Guardian, and it makes me think, well, there must be
no one else around because they were so young. It
was fifteen years ago and they were in their early twenties,
So I don't know if there's anyone else to look
after him. But I think hats off to her and him.
But that's such an incredible thing to say, like, I
promise you I'll look after you forever and I'm going
to do it.
Speaker 3 (16:24):
Well, yeah, the crazy thing is that, I mean, they
weren't together for a very long time. They were twenty
four and twenty three, sweetheart, so a lot of those
relationships often don't work out, so you wouldn't We don't
know if they were going to work out. But the
fact that she claims that he was her soulmate, I mean,
is beautiful. I'd like to think that I do it
for a partner of mine, but then I don't think
you can even fathom it until you're in that situation.
Speaker 4 (16:44):
But also there's people in the comment section as well,
which is saying, like, you know, I think some people
have very traditional views of marriage, like you're married, well,
then you're going to stick it out for better orf
for worse, and stay married. And I think some people
had an issue with the fact that she's caring for
him but she's moved on in a new romantic relationship
judgment around whether she should have left her marriage and
whether she should be caring for him whilst also being
(17:05):
married to someone else. And it made me think of
my so my great auntie, my nana sister. She had
Ourzeimers really young, and it's something that runs in our family,
and it's quite prolific in our family. And she was
in her sixties when she was diagnosed and died from Alzheimist.
Speaker 2 (17:23):
Late sixties.
Speaker 4 (17:24):
Yeah, and she had been married to love her life,
and my uncle he was caring for her, but she
was in a nursing home. She was never going to
come back from having Alzheimist. She had no idea who
he was. And he started dating again, and I remember
some people being happy about it, and I remember some
people really in our family being like, how could he
(17:44):
do that? How could he move on so quickly? But
it's I guess the thing is is that it's not quick.
They're never going to be the same version of a person.
And so when you get married, are you marrying that
person regardless of who they end up being or regardless
of what ends up happening to them? Because I think,
you know, it's one thing to age and for your
body to get older, but for your mind to completely.
Speaker 2 (18:04):
Not be there? Ye, then who are you married to?
Just married to a body of flesh.
Speaker 1 (18:09):
It's such a good point, Laura, because Chris in this story,
she said I was grieving a living person. Yeah, like
he was that's exactly what my uncle went through. Yeah, yeah,
he was here, but he wasn't. And I think, like,
who are we to stop that? Who are we to
comment on that from you know, we don't know that situation.
Speaker 3 (18:26):
Human's a complex. You can love again. It doesn't negate
the history of love that your annie and uncle had, and.
Speaker 4 (18:32):
It doesn't mean that you don't still care for the
person that they are. But I just I look at
that and I think people are so able to love
one person, like you said, Mitch, but also to be
able to care and still hold that part of their
love for someone else at the same time.
Speaker 2 (18:45):
And it's not as one dimensional as we look at
these things.
Speaker 3 (18:47):
Sometimes crazy stuff was Props to the new husband too,
that's a big ass for him.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
I agree. I think they've done the best with what
they can in that situation.
Speaker 3 (18:55):
Yeah, totally. All right, guys, let's get out of here.
We're done for your Tuesday afternoon. If you missed it,
Britt gave us an update of fertility Journey earlier.
Speaker 1 (19:01):
In the show. Yes, I did definitely give you an update.
This is my third time, no, my second time egg freezing. Sorry,
and I don't I don't have a great update.
Speaker 3 (19:09):
It's all on the podcast if you want to have
a listen, search to pick up and we will see
you tomorrow. Guys.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
That's it from us, Bye bye,
Laura, come on, Oh, we're on We're here. Hello, Hello, Hello,
loall Hello, don't we have some news for you all?
Speaker 2 (00:25):
What do you got there? Britt?
Speaker 1 (00:26):
It's not me, but it's us. Life on Card podcast,
the podcast that Laura and I host, which is.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
Separate to the radio show in case you've been curious.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
Is going on a national Australian tour with seven locations
and we're kicking off ten days.
Speaker 3 (00:42):
Is it?
Speaker 2 (00:43):
Oh my god, it's too close.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
It's the month of October. It is.
Speaker 4 (00:45):
But also I mean, we love our little trio here
at the pickup, so we're taking.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Mitch Jury with us. We're going all across the country.
Speaker 4 (00:52):
If you've ever thought when you've been listening to this show, god,
I really would love to see them live up on
stage doing what they do in front of everyone. That's
what we're going to be doing. And it starts on Sunday,
the eighth of October. Our very first show is in Adelaide,
So if you're an Adelaide listening, go get your tickets.
Laugh uncutpodcast dot com dot au. And then we're heading everywhere.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
Yeah, and every city has different guests, so we're going
to be all having some banter ourselves. But then we've
got different guests. We've got Rebel Wilson coming as a
very special guest to the Sydney Show. So if you've
ever wanted to sit down with Rebel and have an
in person, intimate conversation, this is it, because Rebel doesn't
do these chats like this is a very rare event.
But then we've got so many other people all around
(01:31):
the country. We've got Home and Away actress Emily Weir coming.
Speaker 4 (01:34):
Her story is so interesting actually, it's so much like
people don't know this about her, but Emily is completely sober.
She stopped drinking when she was in her twenties and
she has a really interesting story around why.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
Bunch of other cool people. But we've got Mitch Cherry
em scene and opening. We've got Sam Fisher, the amazing
performer who's going to be singing and opening every single shows.
It's actually going to be wild. I'm excited.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
I think the best part is going to be hearing
about it on the pick up every day because we're
going to be like in bunks, to be in hotel
rooms together. We're going on campus, we are.
Speaker 4 (02:02):
Literally going on on team tour and doing it all
across the country. Now that's all coming up. You can
get your tickets. I say it again, laugh on upodcast
dot com. Today, you, Britt, you have quite an important
update for us.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
Yeah, I'm going to be sharing another update on my
fertility journey because I did think I had sort of
come to a head with it about a month ago.
If you're listening, you'll know that I was doing some
egg freezing. But I do have another update and it
is not over yet.
Speaker 3 (02:28):
All right, we'll get to that next here at the
pick up. Welcome to Tuesday Afternoon thanks to chemist Warehouse.
Heading today you'll get great savings every day Tuesday on
the Pickup with Britt, Laura and Mitch. Or thanks to
Chemist Warehouse, they want to give you a free doctor's consult.
Download the Instant Consolet app today, save this coupon co
write this down c W free to claim your free consult.
(02:48):
All right now, Britt, you've got an update for us
here on your fertility journey.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
Yeah, I do.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
I froze my eggs for the first time about three
years ago, and then I froze them again just about
a month or so ago. So now I'm going through
that process with my partner Ben, who lives overseas. So
I was sort of giving you guys live updates on
that as it was happening, because I think it's really important.
If you missed my last update, this is it.
Speaker 5 (03:13):
I only got four eggs, which is really low, and
then one of those eggs immediately was no good. So
I ended up with only three eggs and having had
fifteen last time, and knowing that fifteen only makes that
one child, three is is very low.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
So I'm talking about egg freezing there if you didn't
quite catch that. So this is the second time I
had frozen my eggs, so I have like another update
on that update. So I thought I was sort of
updating you guys as I was going, as the process
was happening, and maybe I did that too soon so
that I was actually with Mitch at the time. I
(03:50):
got a call saying, you know, your three has gone
to two. One you know was no good, and so
I got upset at that because I thought, wow, like
they're dropping like flies, but two still great. And then
I received another call saying there were some complications and
they weren't mature enough and there's a whole there's a
whole multitude of reasons that eggs and embryos and things
like that don't fully develop and form and not viable.
(04:13):
My two that I got were not viable, so I
ended up with nothing, no eggs. Yeah, which is fine.
It is fine because other people go through far more
than that. But yeah, it's definitely disappointing and a bit
(04:34):
of a hit to think that you can go through
this whole process for weeks of these injections and in
your head you're like, well, I have science on my side,
like I have everything pushing in the direction to get
what I need, and then to come up with nothing.
Knowing that I you know, I had all the help
I could get and I still didn't get one egg
(04:56):
as a woman is like, really, I knew my fertility
wasn't great, but I didn't always that bad.
Speaker 4 (05:03):
But do they give you any information as to why,
because I know what the very first time you like
what you said, this is your second time doing egg freezing.
The first time you got fifteen eggs.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
Yes, that was about three years ago. I got fifteen eggs.
I am doing it again in November. I'll go the
third time. And I've spoken to my fertility doctor and basically,
we're just going to pump me so hard full of
hormones excessively, which means I'm going to be really, really crook.
You could possibly go into what they call hypovarian syndrome,
which is very painful, can sometimes be dangerous if they
(05:36):
go too far. But they're going to try and get
the balance just right, just maybe topple me over to
get as many as I can. So I'm hoping it's
not I'm hoping this doesn't mean that there's never ever
going to be any I think I say, X round
could be different, and I say, like the next harvest,
I think the next harvest.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Is going to be good.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
But I feel like I went to the farmer's market
got a dozen eggs, like dropped him on the way home.
You know, you.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
Say, like you know, it's not okay, it's not good.
It's also all right for it to be a shitty situation.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
Yeah, because it is.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
It's the reality of life. And like you've said, thousands
of women go through this every day. I don't know
if you can speak to it. I can't. As a man,
I kind of fathom the emotions, but you must. You
would think I'm a failure this is me. You take
it so personally right, you just I mean.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
Yeah, you do for sure. But it's not just me.
I feel a let down for my partner Ben. He
lives overseas, so he's living in Scotland and it affects
him as much as it affects me. You know, he
wants kids. I live with the fact that he won't
get them. He's so amazing and he's been so supportive.
Speaker 3 (06:44):
How do you react when because you were with him
when you found out.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Yeah, I was beside myself because you automatically think the
worst as well, Like I have complete faith now after
speaking to my doctor again that we will get some
in the next round. But at the time, you know,
when you're like I almost fel better by walloween in
myself pity. I was like, I'm never gonna be able
to do this for you. I'm sorry, Like it's I
can't even do it with science, you know, I just
got really low. And he's like, this is not this
(07:11):
doesn't matter. He's like it doesn't change anything, and next
time is going to be better and we're going to
do this together. And he's he was really really great
and he's really big on positivity. He's like, don't let
the eggs in there. Hear what you're saying.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
And I was like, there's none in there.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
They can't hear me. That's my update. I guess it's
like one thing I do want to say to any
women out there, I really would recommend going to get
a fertility test, just even your blood test, because since
I've been speaking about this, so many women have message
saying I wish I got mine checked earlier because I
went to get a checked and it's too late. I'm
going to early menopause, my fatility is bad. I've got
(07:46):
into introces, so many things, and it's so easy to
go and get that initial blood test just to start
the process.
Speaker 2 (07:52):
We got yet we got ye little eggies.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
No scrambled eggs for Bricky.
Speaker 3 (07:57):
Okay, well now you can make absolutely no.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
And I'm too awkward being serious.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
I always have to throw it in thet.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
Tuesday.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
Here on the pickup, Britt, Laura and Mitch.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
Hello, heading to the chemist ware house today.
Speaker 3 (08:13):
You'll get great savings every day. Now you've heard of
snakes on a plane, but get ready for arguably far
scarier Laura Burham on a plane.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
It's way worse.
Speaker 4 (08:22):
No, it is not worse than a snake. I think
I'd take a snake. But look, I went on a
holiday without my kids recently. I went away for seven
days on a child free trip. She came back, Laura,
I know, no, I missed my kids so much, but
this was big for me. I've never been on an
international trip without my children. I've never been away from
my children for that long. It was my first time
(08:44):
getting on an international flight without my kids, and it
made me realize how much I don't like other people's kids.
Speaker 3 (08:52):
Oh, and you're the first person on this show to
rab it on about how your kids get scolded on
planes and how it's not nice.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
With your kids.
Speaker 4 (09:01):
No, no, no, no, no. I have never said that
my kids get scolded on planes. My kids behave because
do you know why it's so hard to parent your
children on a plane, because you have to try and
control them, And that's what didn't happen in this situation.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
So he me out. I'm sitting there with my sister.
Speaker 4 (09:18):
It's also she's also got two kids the same age
as mine, so it's a big deal for us. We're
on this little trip together and sitting directly behind me
is a five I'd say he was about five five
year old kid. I was next to the window, then
next to him was his dad, and then next to
his dad was another kid.
Speaker 5 (09:33):
Right.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
Dad was traveling with the kids all by himself.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
Hero yeah right, yeah, bra beautiful, so beautiful.
Speaker 4 (09:41):
Dad decided that he actually didn't care what the kids did,
so long as they didn't bother him. Dad was having
a sleep while his five year old son had pulled
out some plato, had pulled down his trade table and
was mashing that plato into the trade table like it
was his job, like he was trying to roll a
pizza dough out. So all I was getting for a
good two minutes was bang, bang bang bang bang bang.
(10:03):
Was behind the tray table attached to my chair because
those trays are so flimsy, so I was trying to rest.
Speaker 2 (10:09):
I couldn't because all I was getting was this bang
on the back of the seat.
Speaker 4 (10:12):
So I turned around and I went into my full
blown Karen mode. Now I've spoken about being a Karen
on this show before. In fact, recently I talked about
how much I enjoy being a Karen. No, I think
if there is a Karen in this room, it's me.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
I love a letter.
Speaker 4 (10:28):
I love complaining. I can't tell you the amount of
times where people in our street are having parties. And
I'll say to my husband Matt, and I'll go, is
it too early to call the police yet? It was
like seven pm but the sun still up. No, So
I didn't call the police in this incident. I wasn't like, oh, look,
is there any flight? What are they called a plane?
Police marshal. What I did is I turned around and
(10:53):
the dad was sleeping, So I put my arm through
the little hole and I tapped him on the knee
and I said, father, excuse me, could you please ask
your son to stop banging my seat? And you could
tell he was a bit startled, and he was like, oh, oh,
can you stop stop banging the seat? And then he
goes back to sleep. Five minutes later, bang bang. But
it was horrible and like, I am not leaving my
(11:15):
kids at home to deal with somebody else's kids on
this plane.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
So I turned back around and I was like, excuse.
Speaker 4 (11:20):
Me again, wake come yeah, could you maybe just maybe
the trade table's a bad idea for the Plato, Like,
could you please, could you please anyway? The dad took
it and he was like once again. He was like
I stop, and then okay, I'm at this point, come on, like,
ask your kid to actually stop. I agree, and he
was not. He was just the dad did not care
because the kid was occupied, so he didn't have to
(11:40):
deal with his own child being annoying. I'm a single, brave,
beautiful father on a plane by himself, doting dad. He's
a doting dad anyway. So the dad once again checked out,
and then it continued, and it continued for a good
twenty five minutes, and I was like, I actually can't
wear an hour and a half into this six hour
flight and I need this to stop. And I turned
around to the child and I was like, excuse me,
you need to stop banging my seat right now.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
I spoke to the child directly.
Speaker 1 (12:04):
You disciplined discipline. I put on your child.
Speaker 4 (12:08):
I put on my ten out of ten mum voice,
and the little kid went like this okay, and he
just put the trade table away. Not one single bang
from there on in. I wond I won the war
against the five year old.
Speaker 3 (12:22):
And we've spoken to the dad. The child a non
verbal and the holiday has been ruined.
Speaker 4 (12:27):
The kid was fine, I'm sorry, but like, there comes
a point where it's okay to step in and pair
it someone else's child.
Speaker 3 (12:35):
There is such a one an hour, one.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
Hour into a flight.
Speaker 2 (12:38):
If they can't stop it, then someone else cares.
Speaker 3 (12:40):
You were the most thirty seven year old I've ever.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
Known you as in this moment, so young, you're.
Speaker 3 (12:46):
So you can't talk, Britt, you cannot talk to another child.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
On a plane as a thirty six year old. You're
very thirty seven right now. I think I cannot relate
to you right now, Laura, I'm in Miches's generation.
Speaker 2 (12:59):
Sorry about that. Guys, Look, I think it's fine.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
Well, the kids joining us on the phone now, Hidi,
he's not speaking, he's traumatized, all right. Next time on
the show, listen, how would you feel right if your
partner you got a new partner? However, they were still
full time career for their ex. I was still living
and looking after their ex.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
Wh why are they taking care of them?
Speaker 3 (13:19):
Well, I'll tell you why. I'll tell you all about it.
Next on the Pickup, it's the Pickup. Welcome back, Britt,
Laura and Mitch. Here thanks to Chemists Warehouse, they want
to give you a free Doctor Consult. Download the instant
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Speaker 1 (13:34):
I want to tell you guys about a TikTok that
I saw that's gone viral, but it really stopped me
in my tracks. It's about a woman and her relationship
with her now husband and her ex husband, and I
want to know if you guys think you'd do the
same thing. How he listen to what she said.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
My name is Chris.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
My first husband had a severe traumatic brain injury fifteen
years ago.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
We're no longer married, but I helped take care of him.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
I'm his legal guardian.
Speaker 2 (13:57):
I love him very very much. He's very much a
part of family.
Speaker 1 (14:01):
Chris, who you just heard, and her partner Brandon, were
childhood sweethearts, so it's all they knew was each other.
They'd planned to spend their entire life together, and then
at twenty four and twenty three years old, Chris got
a call that he had been in a really bad
car accident and he had a really severe traumatic brain injury.
Doctors did say if he did live, his life would
(14:24):
never be the same. So you know, she had committed
to him and committed to this for better or for worse,
and it ended up being for worse. He did come
out of the coma, but he has been left with
such severe injuries that he was just never the same.
So Chris stuck around for a while and tried to
make it work, but once she realized he was never
(14:45):
going to come back to normal, they split up. But
what she did say is she promised him that she
would always look after him, and she still does. So
she ended up remarrying and they both are the cares
of Brandon. He's in a nursing home now, but they
he comes to the house every week and has dinner,
and they take them out for dinner, and they take
them out for him out for outings. And there's one
(15:05):
video in particular that's gone viral and it's her new
husband added a restaurant with her ex husband in a
wheelchair and he's feeding him dinner and it's a really
beautiful moment. But I just thought, Wow, there's probably not
many people that would do that.
Speaker 4 (15:17):
Well, Britt, I think that the thing that's so I mean,
it is a beautiful story, but I think the thing
that's so interesting is how much is divided people People
saying whether they would do it or they you know,
whether even if she made the right decision to walk
away from her marriage, whether they would do that if
that was their partner who was in the same position.
I think, I mean, I think it's beautiful that she
has continued to be a part of both of you know,
(15:41):
his life, and also managed to still go on and
carry on with her life. But at the same time,
I think, what an incredible new husband to have the confidence,
the empathy, the kindness to say, Okay, I want to
be in a relationship with you, but I will also
support your husband who is like unable to do anything
for himself. I just think it's so it's such a
devastating situation, but more than anything, what amazingly caring, kind,
(16:05):
generous people they are.
Speaker 2 (16:06):
She is his.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
Guardian, and it makes me think, well, there must be
no one else around because they were so young. It
was fifteen years ago and they were in their early twenties,
So I don't know if there's anyone else to look
after him. But I think hats off to her and him.
But that's such an incredible thing to say, like, I
promise you I'll look after you forever and I'm going
to do it.
Speaker 3 (16:24):
Well, yeah, the crazy thing is that, I mean, they
weren't together for a very long time. They were twenty
four and twenty three, sweetheart, so a lot of those
relationships often don't work out, so you wouldn't We don't
know if they were going to work out. But the
fact that she claims that he was her soulmate, I mean,
is beautiful. I'd like to think that I do it
for a partner of mine, but then I don't think
you can even fathom it until you're in that situation.
Speaker 4 (16:44):
But also there's people in the comment section as well,
which is saying, like, you know, I think some people
have very traditional views of marriage, like you're married, well,
then you're going to stick it out for better orf
for worse, and stay married. And I think some people
had an issue with the fact that she's caring for
him but she's moved on in a new romantic relationship
judgment around whether she should have left her marriage and
whether she should be caring for him whilst also being
(17:05):
married to someone else. And it made me think of
my so my great auntie, my nana sister. She had
Ourzeimers really young, and it's something that runs in our family,
and it's quite prolific in our family. And she was
in her sixties when she was diagnosed and died from Alzheimist.
Speaker 2 (17:23):
Late sixties.
Speaker 4 (17:24):
Yeah, and she had been married to love her life,
and my uncle he was caring for her, but she
was in a nursing home. She was never going to
come back from having Alzheimist. She had no idea who
he was. And he started dating again, and I remember
some people being happy about it, and I remember some
people really in our family being like, how could he
(17:44):
do that? How could he move on so quickly? But
it's I guess the thing is is that it's not quick.
They're never going to be the same version of a person.
And so when you get married, are you marrying that
person regardless of who they end up being or regardless
of what ends up happening to them? Because I think,
you know, it's one thing to age and for your
body to get older, but for your mind to completely.
Speaker 2 (18:04):
Not be there? Ye, then who are you married to?
Just married to a body of flesh.
Speaker 1 (18:09):
It's such a good point, Laura, because Chris in this story,
she said I was grieving a living person. Yeah, like
he was that's exactly what my uncle went through. Yeah, yeah,
he was here, but he wasn't. And I think, like,
who are we to stop that? Who are we to
comment on that from you know, we don't know that situation.
Speaker 3 (18:26):
Human's a complex. You can love again. It doesn't negate
the history of love that your annie and uncle had, and.
Speaker 4 (18:32):
It doesn't mean that you don't still care for the
person that they are. But I just I look at
that and I think people are so able to love
one person, like you said, Mitch, but also to be
able to care and still hold that part of their
love for someone else at the same time.
Speaker 2 (18:45):
And it's not as one dimensional as we look at
these things.
Speaker 3 (18:47):
Sometimes crazy stuff was Props to the new husband too,
that's a big ass for him.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
I agree. I think they've done the best with what
they can in that situation.
Speaker 3 (18:55):
Yeah, totally. All right, guys, let's get out of here.
We're done for your Tuesday afternoon. If you missed it,
Britt gave us an update of fertility Journey earlier.
Speaker 1 (19:01):
In the show. Yes, I did definitely give you an update.
This is my third time, no, my second time egg freezing. Sorry,
and I don't I don't have a great update.
Speaker 3 (19:09):
It's all on the podcast if you want to have
a listen, search to pick up and we will see
you tomorrow. Guys.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
That's it from us, Bye bye,
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