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Speaker 1 (00:12):
Laura and come on in. Hello ladies, Thursday afternoon. Greetings
your Mitch. Did you cycle him here?
Speaker 2 (00:24):
I've never seen you wear so much micro and active
in your entire life.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
I'm going for a walk after the show, and I
don't want to have to get changed after.
Speaker 3 (00:31):
Do you think that wearing active wear is an appropriate
attire for coming to work?
Speaker 4 (00:34):
Like?
Speaker 5 (00:35):
Where are we at with the whole active wear as well?
Speaker 1 (00:37):
Expect I'm just in the black T shirt and I
mean five inchin.
Speaker 3 (00:40):
It's not the black T shirt, Mitch, it's the very
short short.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
Stand up Mitch.
Speaker 5 (00:47):
You don't need to stand up.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
We saw them very short.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
As your hot girl walks are getting more intense, your
shorts are getting shorter.
Speaker 5 (00:54):
I've noticed there's a direct correlation between the two.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
Oh my legs growing. Perhaps it's okay you wear all time.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
Yeah, if I'm not at work doing this, and sometimes
even doing this, I'm one hundred percent always in active.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
Where can I just say nothing worse than someone that
wears active where to work with their like it's smelly
active wear. Oh all right, that's enough.
Speaker 5 (01:11):
We have a brilliant I've had enough of this.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
No, we've got to ask on cut coming up. As
you know, it's one of our favorites here on a Thursday.
We do it on the podcast on Life on Cut podcast.
A listener writes in or calls in with the deepest,
darkest burning question and we do our best to get
our completely unqualified advice.
Speaker 1 (01:29):
But with a lot of enthusiasm.
Speaker 5 (01:31):
Yeah, always coming up.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
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feel in like a bit of therapy.
Speaker 5 (01:53):
Oh therapy Thursday. We love it.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
This is ask on Cut sanction. Let's jump in ask
ur Cut.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
We do this every week on our podcast Life on
Podcast where you guys ride in your deepest, darkest burning
questions and we do our best to answer them. And
we have someone that's called in this week beck Hi,
beck I.
Speaker 4 (02:13):
Beg hi, guys, I'm so exciting to be talking to you.
Speaker 5 (02:18):
Please me, I've got a.
Speaker 4 (02:20):
Call I had. Oh it's the worst, excuse my name voice,
but I've got a question for you. So it's do
I change my last name? Basically, my partner and I
we've been together for or five years and we got
engaged finally at the start of this year, and our
wedding is not too fast around the corner. It's in February.
(02:40):
I had told my partner that I would absolutely change
my last name and take his. However, as we're getting
closer to the wedding, I'm getting cold feet and I'm
feeling really nervous about.
Speaker 5 (02:51):
It, about the wedding or the name.
Speaker 4 (02:53):
More the name change because femininely child, my dad, his
sibling is. He only has a sister. So my situation
is if I take his name, like yeah, yeah, basically
it ends with me.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
So what have you spoken to your partner about not
wanting to take his name or that you are feeling
like you're having a bit of a change of heart.
Speaker 4 (03:16):
Well, no, not yet, because I think he'll be a
bit upset because I always said I would, and I
think he won't understand why I would change my name.
I didn't make a joke the other day about hyphenating,
and he was like, wait what, And I think no.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
I think a hyphen's a happy medium. Look, the whole
taking the man's name is very archaic. It always has been.
It's just it's just what society expects of us. No
one even knows why we do it anymore. It's just
what we've been told to do, so we do it.
I think trying to approach the hyphen if nothing else,
so you don't have to completely change.
Speaker 3 (03:48):
But what are you going to do in the instance
if you guys have kids, so say you do keep
your name and then you have children together, what last
name would you give the kids?
Speaker 4 (03:58):
This is this is the other thing I don't I
would assume they just have to take his name.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
Well, that's the thing. Why why do you have to assume? Also,
this is what I hate about this whole situation. Why
does this have to happen? I understand the patriarchy, We're
not going to destroy it in the three pm pickup,
but I just feel you should. What do you want
to do, Beck, Do you want to keep your surname
or not? If it ends with you, does that upset you?
Speaker 4 (04:19):
It kind of does. And I feel like it's so
nice that I have the same nickname as my dad
because our surname's foodles. What's fun to be called goodie?
Speaker 1 (04:26):
Then keep it? Then My answer is keep it because
if that's how you feel, keep it. And you have
to have a conversation with your husband.
Speaker 3 (04:32):
It's so hard because what if you know, you have
had these conversations all the way, you are obviously engaged now,
and then you worry that when you do speak to
him that he's going to react badly to it, like.
Speaker 1 (04:40):
Well, it's not the right partner, even totally.
Speaker 3 (04:43):
I mean that's very easy to say though, Like you know,
and beck is actually living there. So if you do
broach this conversation with him, do you feel that he
will just be disappointed? Do you think he's going to
want to call the wedding off? Like, what do you
think will be his level of frustration?
Speaker 4 (04:59):
I think I don't think he would call the wedding off.
I do think he would be really disappointed, and I
think I get the feeling he would take it quite personally.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
I mean, I don't know your fiance, but I would
think if he's going to pull the pin on the
wedding over you broaching this, then it's.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Probably perfectly honest. He needs to, and I'm sure he's
a lovely person back, but he needs to understand the
nuance of why you why it's important to you. I'm
going to end up marrying a man one day, We're
going to keep our names. Means nothing to us, and
that's only because we have the privilege of being two men.
He just needs to understand what is actually at play here.
And I think regardless of whether or not you choose
to keep your name, he needs to understand why it's
(05:36):
important if you want.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
To beck speaking from experience, am I got married to
my husband last year. His last name's Johnson, and I've
remained a burn and both of our little girls have
the last name Johnson Matt. When we originally got together,
he very much said that he wanted us to have
the same name in the household. He wanted me to
take his name, and I sat down and had an
honest conversation with him about how I really felt attached
(05:59):
to my name and I really wanted to keep it,
and I was so surprised by how okay he was
with it once he realized how important it was to
me and he never pushed back, so.
Speaker 5 (06:09):
You may be pleasantly surprised.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
But I think if you're just doing it because you
don't want to disappoint him, but it doesn't feel authentic
for you, then I think it's a really important conversation
that you should have.
Speaker 4 (06:19):
Oh thank you, but actually makes me feel so much better.
I'm going to tell him, Laura.
Speaker 5 (06:23):
Said, Yeah, did you tell him, Laura Burn?
Speaker 3 (06:27):
No?
Speaker 2 (06:27):
But sorry in your situation, Laura, Matt, your husband didn't
change his name to Burn, So if you want all
the same name as a family, that's where it comes
to the issue.
Speaker 4 (06:35):
I don't mind. It's like we have kids. We obviously
want to have kids together, and he would want the
kids to have his name. It's just more maybe my name.
Speaker 5 (06:42):
Yeah, and that was a sacrifice we made as well.
Speaker 4 (06:45):
Yeah, oh no, that's really good to know that. Don't
so much better.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
If the relationship falls apart, just blame Laura Burn. Yes,
you know she's the one who pushed you.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
In the end, Laura Johnson, she doesn't exist's saying so much.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
If you want to get in touch, you can hit
us up on the Pickupsocials or pickup dot Com. Dot
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Speaker 5 (07:05):
Coming up.
Speaker 3 (07:06):
I want to tell you guys about a very look
got a little bit heated a fight that I had
with my lovely husband Maddie J. I may have doubled down.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
Oh good, coming up, All right, that's next on the pickup.
It is the pickup. Welcome Britt, Laura and Mitch here
thanks to chemist Warehouse heading today great sievings every day.
Speaker 3 (07:25):
Do you, guys, ever have a fight with your partner
and then you know that you're wrong, Like halfway through
the fight, somewhere along the way, you're like, I've made
a grave error here.
Speaker 5 (07:34):
But then you just double down because you're stubborn.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
It's the shame. You can't double down once you've picked
a fight. You just have to. You got a hold on.
Speaker 5 (07:41):
Yeah, that was the only way to fight. That's what
you do.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
Look to put it into perspective, my beautiful husband Matt
and I we don't fight very often, but we bicker.
We bicker like an old married couple, and I think
it's what keeps the spark alive.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
You know, you are as a young married couple.
Speaker 5 (07:55):
I know, but you know we had kids before we
got married.
Speaker 3 (07:58):
So like, we're well in the trenches, right, that's what
you do when you're in the trenches.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
You're bicker. You're bicker, you're bicker.
Speaker 3 (08:03):
Anyway, recently, our youngest Lola, she's two years old. She's
had a horrendous ear infection, and we're both running on
very little sleep. We are both tiged, and we are
spread way too thin. Anyway, one night, her ear drum perforated. So,
like I think some parents will know this. It's like
when it's like they peek in pain, they're screaming, and
(08:23):
then you walk in in the morning and all this
gunk is just oozing out of their ears. Right, yuck,
it's so yuck, But it also is just this moment
of relief for them as well. So Lola, her ear
drum are perforated, except I didn't know that that's what
it was, or this gunk could come out of her ear.
And I was like, well, she had swimming lessons in
the morning, right, which, if your kids got an ear infection,
(08:45):
you probably shouldn't send them to swimming lessons.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
No, definitely not if anyone as an ear infection, don't get.
Speaker 3 (08:51):
But also swimming lessons are expensive and her older sister
was going, and so we were like, look, just go.
She can kind of just get a legs wet.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
No.
Speaker 3 (09:03):
No, I was like, just just she can just play,
like get her body wet, but don't like let her
put her head under, you know, like don't let her
get anything above the sort of the shoulders wet. But
she's got a swim instructor. She could have just floated along.
Her swim instructor could have bobbed her up and down
a few times. Anyway, So that's what I said to Matt.
I was like, she can go, but don't let her
get her ear wet.
Speaker 5 (09:24):
And so she'd been assimming lessons for half an hour.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
I gave him a call and I was like, how's
it all going, and he was like, oh, yeah, put
a cap on, YadA YadA, yah, she's fine. I was like,
what do you mean she's fine? And he was like, oh,
she's she's okay, like you know, she's got a cap on.
And now I felt like he wasn't taking the ear
infection seriously enough, and I said she could go deaf
was very dramatic, and then he got angry at me. Anyway,
back and forth for a little bit The bickering escalated,
(09:48):
and then he said, what's something he should never say
on a call?
Speaker 5 (09:51):
He said, cheers pow? Oh them fight and were kids hard?
Doesn't it cheese?
Speaker 3 (09:58):
It's as like, all right, ledge cheers poal. So of
course I got angry and it escalated and I said.
Speaker 5 (10:04):
How dare you call me pal? I am not your pal? Anyway.
Speaker 3 (10:08):
It went on for a while and maybe I overreacted,
and halfway through the overreacting, he said, are you sure
you don't have your period?
Speaker 1 (10:16):
Hey, pal?
Speaker 3 (10:20):
And I was like, oh, oh, he doesn't want to
have a bigger he wants a fire.
Speaker 1 (10:26):
Ready.
Speaker 3 (10:27):
So I was like, how dare and anyone knows, don't
say this to someone. Don't ever say it to war
who's angry? I was like, how dare you minimize my feelings?
I was like, this is not because I am emotional.
I was like, I, you are wrong. Anyway, this it escalated.
I was yelling maybe I overreacted, and he was like
I don't know about this, and I was like, I reckon,
and he doubled down and he once again said, I reckon,
(10:49):
you've got your period, so.
Speaker 5 (10:52):
Rude, rude.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
I'm not dating dating women? And I know that you
don't say that to women.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
I don't say that, even if you think that might
be the case, you don't say that. And so of
course I told him he was completely wrong and what
he'd done had made me so upset. I even sent
him a text message afterwards, and I said to him
that I feel like he's been less loving lately and
he needs to really think about his behavior and he
should call me and apologize.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
At this point, I'm just wondering where they are.
Speaker 3 (11:20):
Who knows where she has a head under the water.
The entire assuming lesson. I was upset, and I'd send
a few back and forth messages. Then I stood up
and I was like, Ah, there it is.
Speaker 5 (11:31):
I think I just got my period.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
You didn't tell him that though you take that to
the grave, you never admit.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
Don't tell him. You can't tell him. He'll win that
argument forever.
Speaker 3 (11:41):
No, it's day four now, and I have to just
tell him I've got a headache for seven days.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
That's so funny.
Speaker 3 (11:46):
I hate that he was right, and I really overreacted.
And honey, if you're listening to this, I'm sorry that
I'm such a walking cliche.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
Got to give him the credit it's like a basset hand.
He knew like clockwork.
Speaker 5 (11:55):
Sniff it out me. Oh that's not it's just the
once every month. I'm a peper.
Speaker 3 (12:00):
I'm a bit crazy and he knows it. And look, yeah,
I really do hate that.
Speaker 5 (12:04):
I'm a walking cloichee Oh god.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
The Laura Johnson Byrne.
Speaker 3 (12:08):
Family Hunt can't wait to tell you what the arguments
we have next week.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
All right back after this on the pickup. It is
the Pickup with Britt, Laura and Mitch.
Speaker 4 (12:16):
Here.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
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Speaker 5 (12:24):
You're always very bubbling, Mitch. And I think I've just
realized why it is.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
I'm a nice, loving person with a great life and
good friends and a radio show that I love and
a door.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
You have zero stressing your life because you don't adult.
You don't know how to adult, and you know how
I know this.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
Hold on, where are you in on this intervention?
Speaker 5 (12:41):
I have done No, I am taking a back seat
right here.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
Oh it's not an intervention, it's an accusation. I mean,
you know, we're just getting coffee Laura before the show,
and his mom called and he was on speaker. You know,
he always puts Michelle on speaker.
Speaker 1 (12:52):
And Muma loves you guys, so careful what you say.
Speaker 5 (12:55):
We love your mum. I'm so nice to you.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
I'm Tim Michelle. This is why I'm bringing this up.
And she asked Mitch what he wants for dinner, and
I was like, Oh, that's cute. They're getting ready there
go to order any breach.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
And for context, I've just moved back in with my
parents at twenty seven.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
Yes, Mitch's twenty seven newly single Bad Breakup moved back
with the fan.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
Bad?
Speaker 5 (13:15):
Wasn't that the summary? That was a summary? And so
Michelle's like, what do you want for dinner?
Speaker 4 (13:19):
Mitch?
Speaker 2 (13:20):
I thought they were going to or eats and like
have a movie night, and Mitch started to rattle off
this really long list. He wanted his mom to go
and get from the grocery store. Then he rattled off
a breakfast list salmon, multi grain, low carb bread and
poached eggs.
Speaker 5 (13:36):
Then he said, if they have any of like this
caviari and everything he likes that.
Speaker 3 (13:41):
No, it's not Wait, brit So was this just a
shopping order. Or is your mom doing the cooking?
Speaker 1 (13:46):
Bitch?
Speaker 2 (13:46):
No, like she cooks every meal, Laura, every meal? Which, Turia,
do you even know how to adult?
Speaker 1 (13:51):
Listen here they have said, we want to help you
get back on your feet. So how we will help
is we would just cook your meals for you. No,
so my mum and my dad cooked my dinners and
some of my breakfast and maybe a lunch if they're free.
Speaker 3 (14:03):
Okay, who is doing and snacks? Who is doing? Like
you're washing and you're tidying of your person.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
You are in on this intervention. My mom does all
my washing.
Speaker 5 (14:12):
No, she doesn't know I live at home. She does
in taxes to.
Speaker 2 (14:18):
She does, Mitch, you're never gonna get into a relationship
because you live like a charge.
Speaker 1 (14:23):
She just itemized some of the receipts that I printed,
and she scanned them and put them in a word doc. Listen. No, no, no, no, no,
because it's actually easier for my mum to do mine.
Let me tell you why. Because no, it is because
it'd be so confusing if if I said, I also
need the washing machine. So I just put it in
the basket with everyone, and she does it all in
one go Mitch.
Speaker 3 (14:40):
This is literally weaponized in confidence to try and turn
around and say, oh, it's easier for mom to do
it because she's already doing it.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
It's not easier, it's more work. She enjoys it.
Speaker 5 (14:50):
This is no one I'm always washing My mom.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
Works two days a week, and God bless it, she
loves looking after the family. That she's the best mum
in the whole world, and she has offered to do this.
I lived alone for years. I can adult. I may
have forgotten certain key aspects, but I'm getting to help mom.
Speaker 2 (15:05):
She gets up before she goes to work, and you
don't start work until two o'clock because we do the afternoon.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
Huh.
Speaker 2 (15:11):
And you make her cook you breakfast before she goes
to work, a hot breakfast, mind you, I heard what
you said. You don't have to be at workd o.
Speaker 4 (15:18):
No.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
She meal preps on a Sunday night and she freezes.
Speaker 5 (15:25):
I wonder how many people are living like you.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
Well, the laundry is the worst part, I think, because
that's like I'll go through. I've been through a lot
of clothes in my hot Go walk Era. I'm sweating too.
Oh God, you've set this whole thing up. Rihanna's here
on six five. What's what was your mum doing for you? Rihanna?
Speaker 4 (15:39):
My mom is ironing for me.
Speaker 5 (15:41):
How old are you?
Speaker 4 (15:42):
Rand And I'm thirty and I've got two small kids
at home too.
Speaker 1 (15:46):
That's so funny for you.
Speaker 3 (15:48):
Is it just because the volume of ironing is too high?
Or is it because you don't ever want to iron?
So your mom's like, fine, give it to me.
Speaker 4 (15:55):
Come on, that's her and she loves it, so I
can't deny her. I'll take it my washingye, And and.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
Thank you God.
Speaker 5 (16:03):
Don there an intervention for you.
Speaker 3 (16:05):
There is no mother on the planet who enjoys ironing.
Speaker 4 (16:08):
Stop.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
My mom puts on a podcast too, and she loves
life podcast she does, Thanks, Rihanna, And I love you, babe, Hianna.
I'm thirteen, one of sixty five. We should all start
like a walking group. I love these girls. And what
does your mum do for you?
Speaker 4 (16:22):
My mum folds my washing every Friday?
Speaker 2 (16:25):
Oh, you guys are making me sick.
Speaker 5 (16:27):
And how old are you? Anna? Forty five?
Speaker 4 (16:29):
Mid thirty?
Speaker 5 (16:32):
Married?
Speaker 2 (16:32):
You're a married mother and you take your washing.
Speaker 1 (16:35):
So now I'm twenty seven, I've still got baby teeth,
it's okay for me to do this.
Speaker 4 (16:38):
No.
Speaker 5 (16:38):
Do you know what I've realized.
Speaker 3 (16:40):
I think the intervention needs to be with my mom
because she doesn't do enough. I agree, that's where we
need to turn this around to give Kimbo a call next.
Speaker 2 (16:48):
I would pile it up, yeah, and then go over
on a Friday.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
Or we just get Michelle. She can start making a buck.
You know, she worked tw days a week. She could
make some money.
Speaker 5 (16:56):
I don't give it a number.
Speaker 1 (16:56):
Out should be a business propositions, right. But back after this,
I've got I've got to reheat it for retarda that's
in the freezer at the office building. He's going to go, Yeah,
the Kiss Studios, and it's going to love you Michelle.
That's us done. You can podcast the show on iHeart.
Just search the pick up pretty self explanatory and you'll
get all of us and you can catch up and well,
what are you standing by tomorrow?
Speaker 5 (17:16):
Bybee
Laura and come on in. Hello ladies, Thursday afternoon. Greetings
your Mitch. Did you cycle him here?
Speaker 2 (00:24):
I've never seen you wear so much micro and active
in your entire life.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
I'm going for a walk after the show, and I
don't want to have to get changed after.
Speaker 3 (00:31):
Do you think that wearing active wear is an appropriate
attire for coming to work?
Speaker 4 (00:34):
Like?
Speaker 5 (00:35):
Where are we at with the whole active wear as well?
Speaker 1 (00:37):
Expect I'm just in the black T shirt and I
mean five inchin.
Speaker 3 (00:40):
It's not the black T shirt, Mitch, it's the very
short short.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
Stand up Mitch.
Speaker 5 (00:47):
You don't need to stand up.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
We saw them very short.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
As your hot girl walks are getting more intense, your
shorts are getting shorter.
Speaker 5 (00:54):
I've noticed there's a direct correlation between the two.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
Oh my legs growing. Perhaps it's okay you wear all time.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
Yeah, if I'm not at work doing this, and sometimes
even doing this, I'm one hundred percent always in active.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
Where can I just say nothing worse than someone that
wears active where to work with their like it's smelly
active wear. Oh all right, that's enough.
Speaker 5 (01:11):
We have a brilliant I've had enough of this.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
No, we've got to ask on cut coming up. As
you know, it's one of our favorites here on a Thursday.
We do it on the podcast on Life on Cut podcast.
A listener writes in or calls in with the deepest,
darkest burning question and we do our best to get
our completely unqualified advice.
Speaker 1 (01:29):
But with a lot of enthusiasm.
Speaker 5 (01:31):
Yeah, always coming up.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
All right, we've got some help coming up here at
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Australia with Brit, Laura and Mitch here. Hello, Hi, welcome,
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Apply Chemist ware House, Great savings every day. Ladies. You
feel in like a bit of therapy.
Speaker 5 (01:53):
Oh therapy Thursday. We love it.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
This is ask on Cut sanction. Let's jump in ask
ur Cut.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
We do this every week on our podcast Life on
Podcast where you guys ride in your deepest, darkest burning
questions and we do our best to answer them. And
we have someone that's called in this week beck Hi,
beck I.
Speaker 4 (02:13):
Beg hi, guys, I'm so exciting to be talking to you.
Speaker 5 (02:18):
Please me, I've got a.
Speaker 4 (02:20):
Call I had. Oh it's the worst, excuse my name voice,
but I've got a question for you. So it's do
I change my last name? Basically, my partner and I
we've been together for or five years and we got
engaged finally at the start of this year, and our
wedding is not too fast around the corner. It's in February.
(02:40):
I had told my partner that I would absolutely change
my last name and take his. However, as we're getting
closer to the wedding, I'm getting cold feet and I'm
feeling really nervous about.
Speaker 5 (02:51):
It, about the wedding or the name.
Speaker 4 (02:53):
More the name change because femininely child, my dad, his
sibling is. He only has a sister. So my situation
is if I take his name, like yeah, yeah, basically
it ends with me.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
So what have you spoken to your partner about not
wanting to take his name or that you are feeling
like you're having a bit of a change of heart.
Speaker 4 (03:16):
Well, no, not yet, because I think he'll be a
bit upset because I always said I would, and I
think he won't understand why I would change my name.
I didn't make a joke the other day about hyphenating,
and he was like, wait what, And I think no.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
I think a hyphen's a happy medium. Look, the whole
taking the man's name is very archaic. It always has been.
It's just it's just what society expects of us. No
one even knows why we do it anymore. It's just
what we've been told to do, so we do it.
I think trying to approach the hyphen if nothing else,
so you don't have to completely change.
Speaker 3 (03:48):
But what are you going to do in the instance
if you guys have kids, so say you do keep
your name and then you have children together, what last
name would you give the kids?
Speaker 4 (03:58):
This is this is the other thing I don't I
would assume they just have to take his name.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
Well, that's the thing. Why why do you have to assume? Also,
this is what I hate about this whole situation. Why
does this have to happen? I understand the patriarchy, We're
not going to destroy it in the three pm pickup,
but I just feel you should. What do you want
to do, Beck, Do you want to keep your surname
or not? If it ends with you, does that upset you?
Speaker 4 (04:19):
It kind of does. And I feel like it's so
nice that I have the same nickname as my dad
because our surname's foodles. What's fun to be called goodie?
Speaker 1 (04:26):
Then keep it? Then My answer is keep it because
if that's how you feel, keep it. And you have
to have a conversation with your husband.
Speaker 3 (04:32):
It's so hard because what if you know, you have
had these conversations all the way, you are obviously engaged now,
and then you worry that when you do speak to
him that he's going to react badly to it, like.
Speaker 1 (04:40):
Well, it's not the right partner, even totally.
Speaker 3 (04:43):
I mean that's very easy to say though, Like you know,
and beck is actually living there. So if you do
broach this conversation with him, do you feel that he
will just be disappointed? Do you think he's going to
want to call the wedding off? Like, what do you
think will be his level of frustration?
Speaker 4 (04:59):
I think I don't think he would call the wedding off.
I do think he would be really disappointed, and I
think I get the feeling he would take it quite personally.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
I mean, I don't know your fiance, but I would
think if he's going to pull the pin on the
wedding over you broaching this, then it's.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Probably perfectly honest. He needs to, and I'm sure he's
a lovely person back, but he needs to understand the
nuance of why you why it's important to you. I'm
going to end up marrying a man one day, We're
going to keep our names. Means nothing to us, and
that's only because we have the privilege of being two men.
He just needs to understand what is actually at play here.
And I think regardless of whether or not you choose
to keep your name, he needs to understand why it's
(05:36):
important if you want.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
To beck speaking from experience, am I got married to
my husband last year. His last name's Johnson, and I've
remained a burn and both of our little girls have
the last name Johnson Matt. When we originally got together,
he very much said that he wanted us to have
the same name in the household. He wanted me to
take his name, and I sat down and had an
honest conversation with him about how I really felt attached
(05:59):
to my name and I really wanted to keep it,
and I was so surprised by how okay he was
with it once he realized how important it was to
me and he never pushed back, so.
Speaker 5 (06:09):
You may be pleasantly surprised.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
But I think if you're just doing it because you
don't want to disappoint him, but it doesn't feel authentic
for you, then I think it's a really important conversation
that you should have.
Speaker 4 (06:19):
Oh thank you, but actually makes me feel so much better.
I'm going to tell him, Laura.
Speaker 5 (06:23):
Said, Yeah, did you tell him, Laura Burn?
Speaker 3 (06:27):
No?
Speaker 2 (06:27):
But sorry in your situation, Laura, Matt, your husband didn't
change his name to Burn, So if you want all
the same name as a family, that's where it comes
to the issue.
Speaker 4 (06:35):
I don't mind. It's like we have kids. We obviously
want to have kids together, and he would want the
kids to have his name. It's just more maybe my name.
Speaker 5 (06:42):
Yeah, and that was a sacrifice we made as well.
Speaker 4 (06:45):
Yeah, oh no, that's really good to know that. Don't
so much better.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
If the relationship falls apart, just blame Laura Burn. Yes,
you know she's the one who pushed you.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
In the end, Laura Johnson, she doesn't exist's saying so much.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
If you want to get in touch, you can hit
us up on the Pickupsocials or pickup dot Com. Dot
you will get you on for an as gun cut.
Speaker 5 (07:05):
Coming up.
Speaker 3 (07:06):
I want to tell you guys about a very look
got a little bit heated a fight that I had
with my lovely husband Maddie J. I may have doubled down.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
Oh good, coming up, All right, that's next on the pickup.
It is the pickup. Welcome Britt, Laura and Mitch here
thanks to chemist Warehouse heading today great sievings every day.
Speaker 3 (07:25):
Do you, guys, ever have a fight with your partner
and then you know that you're wrong, Like halfway through
the fight, somewhere along the way, you're like, I've made
a grave error here.
Speaker 5 (07:34):
But then you just double down because you're stubborn.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
It's the shame. You can't double down once you've picked
a fight. You just have to. You got a hold on.
Speaker 5 (07:41):
Yeah, that was the only way to fight. That's what
you do.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
Look to put it into perspective, my beautiful husband Matt
and I we don't fight very often, but we bicker.
We bicker like an old married couple, and I think
it's what keeps the spark alive.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
You know, you are as a young married couple.
Speaker 5 (07:55):
I know, but you know we had kids before we
got married.
Speaker 3 (07:58):
So like, we're well in the trenches, right, that's what
you do when you're in the trenches.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
You're bicker. You're bicker, you're bicker.
Speaker 3 (08:03):
Anyway, recently, our youngest Lola, she's two years old. She's
had a horrendous ear infection, and we're both running on
very little sleep. We are both tiged, and we are
spread way too thin. Anyway, one night, her ear drum perforated. So,
like I think some parents will know this. It's like
when it's like they peek in pain, they're screaming, and
(08:23):
then you walk in in the morning and all this
gunk is just oozing out of their ears. Right, yuck,
it's so yuck, But it also is just this moment
of relief for them as well. So Lola, her ear
drum are perforated, except I didn't know that that's what
it was, or this gunk could come out of her ear.
And I was like, well, she had swimming lessons in
the morning, right, which, if your kids got an ear infection,
(08:45):
you probably shouldn't send them to swimming lessons.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
No, definitely not if anyone as an ear infection, don't get.
Speaker 3 (08:51):
But also swimming lessons are expensive and her older sister
was going, and so we were like, look, just go.
She can kind of just get a legs wet.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
No.
Speaker 3 (09:03):
No, I was like, just just she can just play,
like get her body wet, but don't like let her
put her head under, you know, like don't let her
get anything above the sort of the shoulders wet. But
she's got a swim instructor. She could have just floated along.
Her swim instructor could have bobbed her up and down
a few times. Anyway, So that's what I said to Matt.
I was like, she can go, but don't let her
get her ear wet.
Speaker 5 (09:24):
And so she'd been assimming lessons for half an hour.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
I gave him a call and I was like, how's
it all going, and he was like, oh, yeah, put
a cap on, YadA YadA, yah, she's fine. I was like,
what do you mean she's fine? And he was like, oh,
she's she's okay, like you know, she's got a cap on.
And now I felt like he wasn't taking the ear
infection seriously enough, and I said she could go deaf
was very dramatic, and then he got angry at me. Anyway,
back and forth for a little bit The bickering escalated,
(09:48):
and then he said, what's something he should never say
on a call?
Speaker 5 (09:51):
He said, cheers pow? Oh them fight and were kids hard?
Doesn't it cheese?
Speaker 3 (09:58):
It's as like, all right, ledge cheers poal. So of
course I got angry and it escalated and I said.
Speaker 5 (10:04):
How dare you call me pal? I am not your pal? Anyway.
Speaker 3 (10:08):
It went on for a while and maybe I overreacted,
and halfway through the overreacting, he said, are you sure
you don't have your period?
Speaker 1 (10:16):
Hey, pal?
Speaker 3 (10:20):
And I was like, oh, oh, he doesn't want to
have a bigger he wants a fire.
Speaker 1 (10:26):
Ready.
Speaker 3 (10:27):
So I was like, how dare and anyone knows, don't
say this to someone. Don't ever say it to war
who's angry? I was like, how dare you minimize my feelings?
I was like, this is not because I am emotional.
I was like, I, you are wrong. Anyway, this it escalated.
I was yelling maybe I overreacted, and he was like
I don't know about this, and I was like, I reckon,
and he doubled down and he once again said, I reckon,
(10:49):
you've got your period, so.
Speaker 5 (10:52):
Rude, rude.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
I'm not dating dating women? And I know that you
don't say that to women.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
I don't say that, even if you think that might
be the case, you don't say that. And so of
course I told him he was completely wrong and what
he'd done had made me so upset. I even sent
him a text message afterwards, and I said to him
that I feel like he's been less loving lately and
he needs to really think about his behavior and he
should call me and apologize.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
At this point, I'm just wondering where they are.
Speaker 3 (11:20):
Who knows where she has a head under the water.
The entire assuming lesson. I was upset, and I'd send
a few back and forth messages. Then I stood up
and I was like, Ah, there it is.
Speaker 5 (11:31):
I think I just got my period.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
You didn't tell him that though you take that to
the grave, you never admit.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
Don't tell him. You can't tell him. He'll win that
argument forever.
Speaker 3 (11:41):
No, it's day four now, and I have to just
tell him I've got a headache for seven days.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
That's so funny.
Speaker 3 (11:46):
I hate that he was right, and I really overreacted.
And honey, if you're listening to this, I'm sorry that
I'm such a walking cliche.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
Got to give him the credit it's like a basset hand.
He knew like clockwork.
Speaker 5 (11:55):
Sniff it out me. Oh that's not it's just the
once every month. I'm a peper.
Speaker 3 (12:00):
I'm a bit crazy and he knows it. And look, yeah,
I really do hate that.
Speaker 5 (12:04):
I'm a walking cloichee Oh god.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
The Laura Johnson Byrne.
Speaker 3 (12:08):
Family Hunt can't wait to tell you what the arguments
we have next week.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
All right back after this on the pickup. It is
the Pickup with Britt, Laura and Mitch.
Speaker 4 (12:16):
Here.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
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Speaker 5 (12:24):
You're always very bubbling, Mitch. And I think I've just
realized why it is.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
I'm a nice, loving person with a great life and
good friends and a radio show that I love and
a door.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
You have zero stressing your life because you don't adult.
You don't know how to adult, and you know how
I know this.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
Hold on, where are you in on this intervention?
Speaker 5 (12:41):
I have done No, I am taking a back seat
right here.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
Oh it's not an intervention, it's an accusation. I mean,
you know, we're just getting coffee Laura before the show,
and his mom called and he was on speaker. You know,
he always puts Michelle on speaker.
Speaker 1 (12:52):
And Muma loves you guys, so careful what you say.
Speaker 5 (12:55):
We love your mum. I'm so nice to you.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
I'm Tim Michelle. This is why I'm bringing this up.
And she asked Mitch what he wants for dinner, and
I was like, Oh, that's cute. They're getting ready there
go to order any breach.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
And for context, I've just moved back in with my
parents at twenty seven.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
Yes, Mitch's twenty seven newly single Bad Breakup moved back
with the fan.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
Bad?
Speaker 5 (13:15):
Wasn't that the summary? That was a summary? And so
Michelle's like, what do you want for dinner?
Speaker 4 (13:19):
Mitch?
Speaker 2 (13:20):
I thought they were going to or eats and like
have a movie night, and Mitch started to rattle off
this really long list. He wanted his mom to go
and get from the grocery store. Then he rattled off
a breakfast list salmon, multi grain, low carb bread and
poached eggs.
Speaker 5 (13:36):
Then he said, if they have any of like this
caviari and everything he likes that.
Speaker 3 (13:41):
No, it's not Wait, brit So was this just a
shopping order. Or is your mom doing the cooking?
Speaker 1 (13:46):
Bitch?
Speaker 2 (13:46):
No, like she cooks every meal, Laura, every meal? Which, Turia,
do you even know how to adult?
Speaker 1 (13:51):
Listen here they have said, we want to help you
get back on your feet. So how we will help
is we would just cook your meals for you. No,
so my mum and my dad cooked my dinners and
some of my breakfast and maybe a lunch if they're free.
Speaker 3 (14:03):
Okay, who is doing and snacks? Who is doing? Like
you're washing and you're tidying of your person.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
You are in on this intervention. My mom does all
my washing.
Speaker 5 (14:12):
No, she doesn't know I live at home. She does
in taxes to.
Speaker 2 (14:18):
She does, Mitch, you're never gonna get into a relationship
because you live like a charge.
Speaker 1 (14:23):
She just itemized some of the receipts that I printed,
and she scanned them and put them in a word doc. Listen. No, no, no, no, no,
because it's actually easier for my mum to do mine.
Let me tell you why. Because no, it is because
it'd be so confusing if if I said, I also
need the washing machine. So I just put it in
the basket with everyone, and she does it all in
one go Mitch.
Speaker 3 (14:40):
This is literally weaponized in confidence to try and turn
around and say, oh, it's easier for mom to do
it because she's already doing it.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
It's not easier, it's more work. She enjoys it.
Speaker 5 (14:50):
This is no one I'm always washing My mom.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
Works two days a week, and God bless it, she
loves looking after the family. That she's the best mum
in the whole world, and she has offered to do this.
I lived alone for years. I can adult. I may
have forgotten certain key aspects, but I'm getting to help mom.
Speaker 2 (15:05):
She gets up before she goes to work, and you
don't start work until two o'clock because we do the afternoon.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
Huh.
Speaker 2 (15:11):
And you make her cook you breakfast before she goes
to work, a hot breakfast, mind you, I heard what
you said. You don't have to be at workd o.
Speaker 4 (15:18):
No.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
She meal preps on a Sunday night and she freezes.
Speaker 5 (15:25):
I wonder how many people are living like you.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
Well, the laundry is the worst part, I think, because
that's like I'll go through. I've been through a lot
of clothes in my hot Go walk Era. I'm sweating too.
Oh God, you've set this whole thing up. Rihanna's here
on six five. What's what was your mum doing for you? Rihanna?
Speaker 4 (15:39):
My mom is ironing for me.
Speaker 5 (15:41):
How old are you?
Speaker 4 (15:42):
Rand And I'm thirty and I've got two small kids
at home too.
Speaker 1 (15:46):
That's so funny for you.
Speaker 3 (15:48):
Is it just because the volume of ironing is too high?
Or is it because you don't ever want to iron?
So your mom's like, fine, give it to me.
Speaker 4 (15:55):
Come on, that's her and she loves it, so I
can't deny her. I'll take it my washingye, And and.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
Thank you God.
Speaker 5 (16:03):
Don there an intervention for you.
Speaker 3 (16:05):
There is no mother on the planet who enjoys ironing.
Speaker 4 (16:08):
Stop.
Speaker 1 (16:10):
My mom puts on a podcast too, and she loves
life podcast she does, Thanks, Rihanna, And I love you, babe, Hianna.
I'm thirteen, one of sixty five. We should all start
like a walking group. I love these girls. And what
does your mum do for you?
Speaker 4 (16:22):
My mum folds my washing every Friday?
Speaker 2 (16:25):
Oh, you guys are making me sick.
Speaker 5 (16:27):
And how old are you? Anna? Forty five?
Speaker 4 (16:29):
Mid thirty?
Speaker 5 (16:32):
Married?
Speaker 2 (16:32):
You're a married mother and you take your washing.
Speaker 1 (16:35):
So now I'm twenty seven, I've still got baby teeth,
it's okay for me to do this.
Speaker 4 (16:38):
No.
Speaker 5 (16:38):
Do you know what I've realized.
Speaker 3 (16:40):
I think the intervention needs to be with my mom
because she doesn't do enough. I agree, that's where we
need to turn this around to give Kimbo a call next.
Speaker 2 (16:48):
I would pile it up, yeah, and then go over
on a Friday.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
Or we just get Michelle. She can start making a buck.
You know, she worked tw days a week. She could
make some money.
Speaker 5 (16:56):
I don't give it a number.
Speaker 1 (16:56):
Out should be a business propositions, right. But back after this,
I've got I've got to reheat it for retarda that's
in the freezer at the office building. He's going to go, Yeah,
the Kiss Studios, and it's going to love you Michelle.
That's us done. You can podcast the show on iHeart.
Just search the pick up pretty self explanatory and you'll
get all of us and you can catch up and well,
what are you standing by tomorrow?
Speaker 5 (17:16):
Bybee
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