MINI: Is having a boyfriend embarrassing now?

Britt is MAD about a recent British Vogue article that claims that it's now 'embarrassing' to have a boyfriend. 

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Speaker 1 (00:10):
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Speaker 1 (00:16):
Maddie Jay, I want to get your take on this
article that Vogue has released now, how do you feel
about having a boyfriend?

Speaker 3 (00:23):
Well, not for you personally, but like, but not for me.

Speaker 4 (00:26):
I've always preferred having a girlfriend. But if you want
to have a boyfriend, I think it's great.

Speaker 3 (00:30):
I love it. I love people being in love.

Speaker 1 (00:32):
Well, Vogue has written this article a couple of days
ago now, but it's circulating everywhere that I'm looking. We
spoke about it ourselves on Life on Cut on our podcast,
the heading is having a boyfriend embarrassing now a bit
of clickbait, you'd think, but when you go in, it's
not clickbait. In fact, the whole article is about how
cringe and embarrassing and loser ish it is to now

(00:53):
like have a boyfriend and post them online.

Speaker 3 (00:57):
This is what it says.

Speaker 1 (00:58):
If someone so much as says my boyfriend on social media,
they're muted. There's nothing I hate more than following someone
for fun, only for their content to become boyfriend of
f They go on to say that it is now
seen as cringe and culturally loser ish when people post
their partners, and it's leading to more people wanting to
hide their partners on social media. Wow, okay, isn't this

(01:22):
a wild statement to say? Hey, now having a boyfriend
is makes you a loser? Line?

Speaker 2 (01:27):
Is?

Speaker 3 (01:28):
Are we embarrassing? Am I the problem? What do you think?

Speaker 4 (01:31):
Have you ever come across someone posting about their partner
online on socials and going, oh, I don't want to
see that anymore.

Speaker 3 (01:37):
Look, there's a part of it that I understand.

Speaker 1 (01:39):
I think I understand what they're trying to say, But
I also think I'm giving them too much credit here.
Maybe you're following them because they are the single person.
You can relate to them because you're also single. Then
they fall in love, get a boyfriend, and then that
becomes their personality and you don't relate to their content anymore. Sure,
you can mute them, you can unfollow them because it
doesn't serve you anymore.

Speaker 4 (01:58):
Can I ask you a question? Yeah, so you have
been single for a long time? Was it fourteen years? No?

Speaker 1 (02:02):
Like ten years?

Speaker 4 (02:03):
Ten years when you then met Ben and you were
happily in love and it was out there.

Speaker 3 (02:08):
You're posting that on social media.

Speaker 4 (02:10):
Did you find that people unfollowed you or do people
give you any negative feedback because you were talking about
Ben Moore.

Speaker 1 (02:17):
To be honest, I think I got probably more love
and more followers. But I think that my journey was
maybe mine's different. It was very public, like got dumped
on the Bachelor and had a really bad dating life,
and I think there were more people that were rooting
for me than not.

Speaker 3 (02:31):
And also I don't.

Speaker 1 (02:32):
Make it my personality right, like I don't even live
in the same continent as my husband. But here my
worries with this is that women are scrutinized so heavily
for everything they do already, like the way they look,
what size they are, what they wear, what socks they wear,
are they ankle socks? Are they long socks? What contraception
do they use? What are you doing for a job?

(02:53):
Are you traveling?

Speaker 3 (02:54):
Are you on your own?

Speaker 1 (02:55):
Like every single thing we do is labeled and criticized.

Speaker 4 (02:59):
And now I can't even be happy in love without
someone saying.

Speaker 2 (03:01):
Look exactly now to even just be like, oh my god,
you've got a boyfriend, loser, like I'm canceling you give
me the I that to me is insane, because what
we want to do in life is find that person
to like, spend our life with and be happy with.

Speaker 1 (03:15):
And I can't imagine all the young women now being like,
oh my god, I'm finally happy. But if I post
my partner, will I get cars?

Speaker 3 (03:20):
Do you know what I love?

Speaker 4 (03:21):
Maybe it's because I'm old and I'm boring and this
is not who she's writing about in this Vogue article.
But I love when someone's like, oh my gosh, I've
met someone really amazing and I love them so much,
and here they are.

Speaker 3 (03:32):
I'm like, that's great. I'm into that. And if it's
a wedding carousel, I'm like, oh I love a carousel.

Speaker 4 (03:38):
Oh my god, give me a wedding carousel any day
of the week. That's the content that I want to see.
I love seeing people that are happy and that they're
in love. I think maybe I could be put into
and two to make five here, But this could have
been written by someone who has just gone through a
very bad breakup and the last thing they want to
do is be reminded that other people have what she
doesn't do.

Speaker 1 (03:55):
You know what, who cares? Live your best life? Post
whatever you want If it's authentic to you and you're happy.
Don't care like if someone wants to unfollow you because
you are happy. They are not the people you want
in your life. That's my take it home. Flatter to
the people at the back.

Speaker 3 (04:10):
Singing sister, who you do?

Speaker 2 (04:12):
You do