Boys Perspective On Weddings with Josh Moss

With Marley tying the knot later this year Tilly wanted to hear his perspective on MARRIAGE. But to make things more interesting, their producer Jay organised a special guest to join the conversation and share his thoughts on the topic.

Welcome aboard Josh Moss!!! Josh was on season one of Love Island Australia, is content creator/influencer and has a podcast - No Hard Feelings - where he talks about dating, sex and relationships with his co-host.

You can listen to it here: No Hard Feelings

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Okay, let's go bring him in, bring the big Laddy in.
The poor kids just sitting out there, Jay, bring him in.
She's got a phone out. This is a train wreck.

Speaker 2 (00:11):
Life is an endless series of train wrecks, with only
brief commercial life breaks of happy.

Speaker 3 (00:17):
Hi guys, Hi, Molly, how are you?

Speaker 1 (00:22):
I'm good, I'm good. How are you? Till it's going
to be bad? I got a.

Speaker 3 (00:25):
Speeding fine on the way here, so put two and
two together.

Speaker 4 (00:29):
Of course, train raate, guys, she's been in parking for
two hours by this time.

Speaker 5 (00:33):
Oh yeah, yeah, four hours, one hour?

Speaker 3 (00:38):
Yes, correct, completely screwed.

Speaker 1 (00:41):
Good start anyway, Well for all these listening, thank you
for tuning in. As always, I'm Marley and this is
Tilly Hie, and and Jay's back. We got Jay back
in the studio to Jay, our producer back on this train.
Tilly's over there in the Sydney studio. I'm back in
the Melbourne studio. So I'm hype. We got the whole
gang together. This is going to be a fun one

(01:02):
till god.

Speaker 3 (01:02):
Yeah, Molly, what have you been up to?

Speaker 1 (01:06):
Not too much? Not too much lately. I've a wedding planning,
I guess I mean, I mean Lynn's been doing a
bulk of the work, of course, but you know, I've
been doing what I can so yeah, just like planning
for this wedding it's coming up quick.

Speaker 3 (01:17):
Oh yeah, what does wedding planning for a guy look like?

Speaker 1 (01:20):
Why do you seem so unenthused when you say that that?
I feel like there's there's some You're yeah, you're taking
shots at me with this. I'm just interested, Well, what
you are you assuming that it looks different than what
a female would be doing in this situation. Potentially, you
know what, You're right, yes, but on yeah, it is.
It's a lot different. Look Lynn out there picking colors, colors, Wow,

(01:41):
as you name it. Jay, I'm doing all.

Speaker 3 (01:42):
The hard work you did the food testing.

Speaker 1 (01:45):
Yes. Actually I've got food tasting coming up in a
couple of weeks, so I will happily do the food
tasting here, Paul, Lyn's missing Ale on that. That's honestly
the best part.

Speaker 3 (01:52):
That's the worst job. Mary. That sounds hard.

Speaker 1 (01:54):
That's literally my role right now, food tasting. Oh my god, oh.

Speaker 3 (01:58):
My god, on that, Maley. I actually desperately want to
ask you some boys perspectives on weddings. I don't want
to just go and ask Tom and seem like a psychopath.
So I'm like, maybe I'll get some opinions for us.

Speaker 1 (02:10):
Yeah, this is good, all right, I'm down for that.
What do you got for me?

Speaker 4 (02:13):
Wait, guys, before you get to that, we've been trying
to obviously, with Marley back in the studio, we've been
trying to get as many guests in as we can
because it's way better when he's here in Australian obviously
not in America.

Speaker 5 (02:24):
Yes, so I actually have arranged a guest.

Speaker 4 (02:27):
He does a podcast here, and he actually does, I
think his podcast on sex and relationships, so he might
be a really good guests about marriage anyway. Huge And
his name is Josh and he was on Reraility TV
and instead of you guys haven't met him, I don't
think Josh Moss, Yeah I haven't.

Speaker 1 (02:46):
I think I know him though, I think I know him.

Speaker 3 (02:48):
Yeah, I've heard of him, but we've never really met.
I don't think.

Speaker 4 (02:50):
Well, he does a podcast here, same place you guys do,
so so bring him in.

Speaker 1 (02:56):
Bring him in, bring him in. Well about the red carpet, baby,
go get the big lad in here. You just text
him in really, get out of your seat, come on,
help him in here here is I'm gonna give him
round of the pause and yeah, we got the party
lights on. Hello that a girl, give my heart. Show
him to his seat, that's all right, no stress. Show

(03:18):
him to his seat, Tilly, get his get his seat
out for him to wait.

Speaker 3 (03:22):
I forget that. You can't hear. He hasn't got his headphones.

Speaker 1 (03:24):
I know, Josh big lad. I am so, I'm I'm Marley, mate.
It's nice to meet you. Wait, Josh, you got it, Josh,
I just want to apologize formally on behalf of this
whole podcast production. Just the tragic intro that that was.
I am really.

Speaker 2 (03:41):
Sorry, Honestly the intro made it. I love the party.

Speaker 1 (03:45):
Old train wreck for a reason, mate, and you are
on board with us. It is nice to meet you, mate,
I'm Marley.

Speaker 2 (03:51):
Nice to me, man, nice to me, both of you.
I mean, wow, wow, what an entrance. I didn't know
had that function in the studio because.

Speaker 1 (03:56):
We've got it all over here, We've got it all
over Yeah. Yeah, it's a pleasure to have you.

Speaker 3 (04:00):
Hey, Molly, does it go on your studio too?

Speaker 1 (04:02):
Yeah, we've got it. But I don't really get the
Josh effect because I'm not up to his aura status yet.
You know, I'll get there one yet. I'm not yet
introduced with the party lights just yet.

Speaker 2 (04:12):
Okay, you'll get there one day.

Speaker 3 (04:13):
Man.

Speaker 2 (04:14):
It really is something when you get it. Yeah, I
wish everyone got party lights. You know, we can't just
be giving them round really, you know what I mean?

Speaker 1 (04:23):
That's that's the go Josh, thank you again for joining us.
We want to do a little bit of an icebreaker here,
just for everyone listening on and even Tilly and I.
This is our first time meeting you. I think, Tilly,
is this your first time you guys meeting as well.

Speaker 3 (04:34):
I think I've actually met you before somewhere at an event, probably,
I think I have. I don't remember it, but I
think I remember maybe. But that's how this world works. Yeah, okay,
So Jay our producer, guys, if you hear Jay, that's
our producer. Another voice. He wants us to ask a
little icebreaker question which I personally wouldn't do, but actually

(04:57):
I wasn't allowed to use the one that I want.

Speaker 1 (04:59):
I'm glad. I'm glad H said said no to that.

Speaker 3 (05:02):
Hr is in Ja exactly Okay, okay, so this question, Molly,
you actually might want to add some input as well. Okay,
is it annoying if you have a girlfriend and they
asked you to unfollow? Are the girls on social media?

Speaker 1 (05:19):
Can you give me a give me an example of
who the girl is, Like is she? I mean, if
it's a girl from high school that's a friend of yours,
if you're actually friends, I feel like that's weird.

Speaker 3 (05:33):
Okay, Okay, let's just speak generally, like what TikTok people
would be saying un following like hot influences, like people
that are just posting like bikini picks that mean nothing
to you.

Speaker 1 (05:44):
Yeah that's fair, I think, Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2 (05:47):
I mean, look, I would be annoyed purely the fact
that she's asked me to do it, Like I would
just trying.

Speaker 1 (05:52):
To do it exactly Josh spot On.

Speaker 2 (05:56):
It's like it's like setting the tone. It's setting the tone,
like in a really bad way. He's like asking you
to unfollow people, Like what's the next step. It's like
I don't want you to talk to this person or whatever,
So like it's setting a really bad tone. Like I
feel like I would just do it.

Speaker 1 (06:09):
Yes, you know what I mean yeah, because I was asking, yes, yes.

Speaker 3 (06:13):
Guys, would you do it? That's the question, would you do?

Speaker 1 (06:15):
What? Unfollow?

Speaker 3 (06:16):
Would you just unfollow?

Speaker 1 (06:17):
Yeah, that's what I'm saying. It would happen beforehand. And
I think, and that's what I mean.

Speaker 3 (06:21):
By if you start dating or when when you start.

Speaker 1 (06:23):
Dating, when you start dating, because and that's what I
mean by just what you were saying, Josh, it would
be weird if she started asking those questions, because you're right,
where does that stop? And it's like, well, this relationship
is already a little rocky if you don't trust me
in that, you know, aspect of the relationship as well.

Speaker 2 (06:38):
Yeah, per So it's just the asking that weird.

Speaker 3 (06:41):
Okay, all right, wait, should we just read his biodop
points out? Just let's let's actually go through. I'll tell
you what Jay has gotten about you.

Speaker 2 (06:50):
Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, let's list pressure on Jay describing
me like amazing, I'm coming for you.

Speaker 1 (06:57):
Yeah, let's go. Let's go read out.

Speaker 3 (07:00):
Okay, Okay, let's go. You're thirty one years old yea
from Sydney single has adhd same, Yeah, I think I
do on your right now? Oh yeah, Marley and j
AmAm what right now?

Speaker 2 (07:13):
No, I used to be okay, same.

Speaker 1 (07:15):
I just stop taking it? Does that does That's what
I would be scared about.

Speaker 3 (07:17):
Do you get anxiety?

Speaker 2 (07:19):
I literally I've said this to Jay before. I had ADHD,
before it was cool. I had it.

Speaker 3 (07:25):
We did a podcast on this.

Speaker 2 (07:28):
Literally, I literally had ADHD before it was cool. I
had it back in the day when teachers didn't even
believe it was a real thing. You're a bad kids, Well,
they thought I was a bad kids. I had it
in like nineteen ninety nine when I was in like
junior junior school and like my parents, like I got
medically diagnosed by a doctor, and teachers would not believe
it was a real thing. They literally just thought this
kid's naughty, he's a lost cause, throw him in the

(07:50):
back of the room, like he's literally And I was
never a naughty kid. It was more just like I
couldn't concentrate and I had like you know what's called
like I couldn't I didn't have any attention on anything.
So I wasn't actually naughty. But yeah, I had, I
had and then I got onto riddle and but I
mean back in the day, I mean, I'm not sure
what the medication is like now, but it had a
lot of pretty intense cider feeling, you know, so I yeah,
I mean I didn't have any appetite to eat any food.

(08:13):
I also.

Speaker 3 (08:16):
When I want to get skinny, I start eats.

Speaker 1 (08:19):
Once a day and it's like a cracker and I
just go, that is not that. Yeah, that's only in summer.

Speaker 3 (08:26):
I want to win to die.

Speaker 2 (08:29):
But yeah, anyway, so I don't take it now because
I had a lot of side effect when I was younger,
like didn't any food. I'd also sedated a lot of
my personality lawsuiting coming.

Speaker 3 (08:41):
So next day's ridding. You're a season one participant on
Love Island.

Speaker 2 (08:45):
Oh you were very Yeah.

Speaker 3 (08:49):
Wait as if you went on without knowing like any
premise of it or was it in England before it
was on in.

Speaker 2 (08:55):
Australia so it could it out? Yeah, they've done a
couple of seasons in the UK. I think maybe only two,
maybe three, And yeah, I was the o G. I
didn't really know like what to expect from it. I
kind of just heard it. I was listening to a
podcast actually, and I heard an ad for it on
on the podcast and it was just like, oh, you applied. Yeah, I applied.
I literally I'm one of those scumbags as well.

Speaker 1 (09:19):
We were saying it, he was saying it before. We
are the same, the same thing, Josh Man.

Speaker 2 (09:24):
Everyone on the show was like, oh, who hit you up?
You know how much? Like how much they offer you?

Speaker 3 (09:27):
And I was I was like, I.

Speaker 2 (09:32):
Was in the corner, just like I just applied like
a normal person and like instantly look down upon like,
oh my.

Speaker 1 (09:37):
God, we and then look at you.

Speaker 2 (09:38):
But yeah, yeah, yeah, now I'm on the train Wreck podcast.
I've reached the pinnacle. Guys, no one else in my
season getting part yeah, come on, yes.

Speaker 3 (09:50):
Yes, Okay, next thing Jay's written. Okay, we obviously know
about you being well known for your relationship with Amelia.
We won't that, okay, before.

Speaker 2 (10:01):
You can touch on it. I don't care, really, yeah,
I don't care.

Speaker 3 (10:03):
Oh my god. Okay, some people are a bit orcs. Okay,
literally me and Mally. This is where I think Marley,
I think we met Josh when we met Amal.

Speaker 1 (10:12):
A fashion week. Well, probably have to have. I feel
like either you well, I definitely have. And it's just
you just got such a lovely looking face. You know,
you're just I've definitely I don't know if we've met,
but i've definitely. Yeah, I've definitely seen.

Speaker 2 (10:27):
I think I saw your fashion week. You're rocking some
cool outfit or something. I think you will take that, baby,
let's go. He's one of those people at fashion week
that like he wears like a really cool outfit and
then I go home and like try and picture myself
in the outfit and it just like looks terribly in
my head.

Speaker 3 (10:42):
And yeah, the only black eye fashion Week two years ago?

Speaker 1 (10:46):
What has that got to do with? How cool?

Speaker 5 (10:49):
You know what.

Speaker 2 (10:51):
This?

Speaker 1 (10:51):
I get a compliments? She wants to just try you
know what I mean?

Speaker 3 (10:55):
Okay, all right, if I see a person of color
in a nice out fit, it looks much better than
a white person.

Speaker 1 (11:02):
Yeah, I think you look great in the outfit.

Speaker 2 (11:04):
I just want to say, thanks man, appreciate it.

Speaker 3 (11:06):
Yeah all right, well that's where I reckon, we've seen you. Okay,
this is interesting. Before fame Eurosports administrator. So did you
just do admin like front desk work?

Speaker 2 (11:17):
No, So I worked for the NRL, which one is
that that's like the yeah, that league, that league, and
I kind of just was like, I mean, it wasn't
like a massive role or anything like that. It was
I used to go and like organize like the kids
sports days at schools, then like organized like the gala days,
and then player signings and kind of work behind the

(11:37):
scenes at actual games and stuff like that. So it's
really cool. But actually, when I applied for Love Island,
they Channel nine and ITV really didn't like that was
my job. Like they didn't know how to brand me,
because when you go on a reality TV show, your
brand is whatever your job.

Speaker 1 (11:50):
Is category, so that they.

Speaker 2 (11:53):
Always they kept calling me up and they were like, oh,
do you have anything else you do? And I'm like,
not really, guys, that's my job, Like I can't lie
about it. And then I had to get like footage
of me like at work that they were going to use,
and they couldn't use it because there was kids in
the video, and so they kept trying to would have
loved that, but yeah, I know they should. Maybe I
wouldn't have got maybe someone wuld have step forward. And
then like so they kept calling me and trying to

(12:15):
rebrand me, and then in my interviews, like everyone was
dressed in their like work at tire and they put
me in a full suit, and I was like, guys,
I don't wear a suit, like I'm not actually like
working for like the Sharks, like admin scenes like play
an agent, and they just literally anyway, So long story short,
they didn't like the job.

Speaker 3 (12:30):
Wait, so you don't do that anymore? So do you
just like do what everyone here does and like just
write off life with like your influencer career and everything.

Speaker 2 (12:40):
So like, I definitely do like social media as well.
But then I also work for Channel and nine, so
I the recap show of Love Island.

Speaker 3 (12:47):
Oh of course I forgot that.

Speaker 2 (12:49):
I don't know, Yeah with flex Mammy.

Speaker 3 (12:52):
It's Mammy, not Mammy. Maybe it's my I think it's
Mammy I see on our series.

Speaker 2 (13:02):
Yes, actually she said you didn't have the best time
on it.

Speaker 3 (13:04):
Well, we never got to see her because if she'd
waited out for you, Marley, she might she might have
had a friend. Apparently everyone was ready.

Speaker 1 (13:12):
For Listen and listen to where she's going.

Speaker 3 (13:17):
You're just a nice person.

Speaker 1 (13:18):
You have good would.

Speaker 3 (13:21):
That's what I'm saying. So stop making it out like this.

Speaker 1 (13:24):
I'm not making anything. This is just you know, I'm
just rolling with what you what you give us.

Speaker 3 (13:31):
You're also a podcast host for No Hard Feelings with
Cass Yes McGill.

Speaker 2 (13:37):
Miguel, Yes, Yeah, I think that's so.

Speaker 3 (13:40):
We want to know what no hard feelings means.

Speaker 2 (13:43):
It basically just means not to get offended in our podcast,
because we offend a lot.

Speaker 3 (13:48):
Of relationship wise. It's just like, don't get offended.

Speaker 2 (13:51):
Yeah, it's just like we mean no hard feelings by
anything we say.

Speaker 3 (13:54):
Comments like do people give bad reviews and stuff?

Speaker 2 (13:58):
It's less about the reviews and more people are triggered
in our like social media content.

Speaker 1 (14:02):
Like some of that.

Speaker 3 (14:04):
Yeah, I rage beta monitor like.

Speaker 2 (14:06):
Literally our comments like we get sometimes I don't know,
four or five per moments and they're like fucking going
really yeah, but.

Speaker 3 (14:13):
You need that, don't you reckon?

Speaker 2 (14:14):
That's what gets into presise it does. It does. So
we we both were like we me and Cash both
always say like just we just don't take it part.

Speaker 1 (14:21):
Of love that well.

Speaker 3 (14:21):
People are bored of boring people that won't say their opinion.

Speaker 2 (14:24):
Yeah, so that's why we named it that and it
actually is quite fitting.

Speaker 3 (14:27):
Now, So wait, is that not a Love Island term?

Speaker 2 (14:31):
No hard feelings?

Speaker 3 (14:31):
What's the one they say on Love Island? Eggs in
your boss, Oh eggs in your bush's.

Speaker 2 (14:37):
It's like the universal Love Island language.

Speaker 3 (14:39):
Right, Okay, And then you also create a lot of
dating related content hilarious.

Speaker 1 (14:45):
I have seen what's what's the latest, what's the latest
on TikTok, what's the latest video coming out?

Speaker 3 (14:51):
Wait, I've never seen any of them.

Speaker 2 (14:54):
I just post a whole lot of like trying to
be relatable dating stuff, you know, just about like.

Speaker 1 (14:59):
That does so well, doesn't it?

Speaker 2 (15:01):
Just sometimes like just about like delusional thoughts we have
and like the rough nature that dating is, and you know,
all sorts of just try and literally be relatable. Do
you people, do.

Speaker 1 (15:12):
You have a random thought throughout the day and go,
you know what, I just must not be the only
person in this universe that's thinking this way and just
come out with a video and.

Speaker 2 (15:18):
It just yeah, like literally day to day, I just
like will be I don't know, dating or whatever, and
I'll just think a situation will happen to me, and
then I might exaggerate it a little bit, but I'm like,
this is pretty relatable, Like I feel like this is
a common thing, and then I just post about it.
Sometimes they do well, sometimes they do terrible and like you.

Speaker 1 (15:33):
Just I don't know.

Speaker 2 (15:34):
I don't even know how like how to work out
what's good or what's not good. But yeah, just try
and go of my own experiences.

Speaker 3 (15:39):
Okay, And one last thing, Jay wants to know if
you're dating someone and how you're going to marry her.
You just highlighted that part.

Speaker 2 (15:50):
I just saw it highlight Thanks Jay.

Speaker 4 (15:54):
I know, I was just like, this would be a
good question to ask eventually, not let's just ram it
into the middle of the commonnversation.

Speaker 5 (16:01):
Willy nilly, Okay.

Speaker 3 (16:03):
Josh, are you dating anyone? And are you going to
marry her?

Speaker 1 (16:08):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (16:08):
I'm definitely saying someone at the moment.

Speaker 1 (16:11):
I love that.

Speaker 2 (16:12):
Yeah, so married? Am I going to marry her? I
mean that's a that's a hard hitting question, but I
mean the intention is to always get married, So okay,
but I can't I can't sit here and be like,
you know, if I don't marry her, I'll, you know,
give you a thousand dollars or something like that. So like,
it's very much like, I guess I can see a
world where I marry this person, but very very early on.

Speaker 1 (16:34):
You wouldn't even get into the relationship, right, Like you
said the intentions there, like, you wouldn't even get into
it unless you think married. What do people do that?
I think people do.

Speaker 3 (16:42):
We talked about this. Remember, as soon as you meet
a girl, a guy meets a girl, they're in the
fuck or marry category right away, straight away that date
you either are datable or just a route. Do you agree, yes.

Speaker 2 (16:57):
Most guys will know within like five minutes.

Speaker 1 (17:00):
Stilly said that guys know right away, whereas girls right right,
right right.

Speaker 2 (17:04):
But also like maybe some girls want to be put
into either fuck or married category. Who knows if every
girl wants to be put in the married category, like
they might want to just be in the casual category
as well, So like it goes both ways.

Speaker 1 (17:16):
I guess guys, I'm gonna put my end up. I
am absolutely definitely in the married category here, Josh, just
a quick update on this end, and for everyone listening,
I'm getting married in December twice, actually, Josh, two times,
just to make sure of things.

Speaker 2 (17:28):
You know, when you keep saying twice, it makes me
think you're marrying two different girls.

Speaker 1 (17:32):
And we're in two different outfits. Were as you as
you said before, Josh, you know, the aura has to
be there, at these weddings, so we've got to switch
up the fits. So it almost is like I am no, No.

Speaker 2 (17:41):
That's amazing, though, like congratulations, it's not easy to find
someone to marry these days harder than it was thirty
years ago.

Speaker 3 (17:48):
Do you wreck it?

Speaker 1 (17:49):
Yeah? I reckon really hard.

Speaker 3 (17:50):
Yeah, really I reckon it's actually easier because of social media.

Speaker 2 (17:54):
Yeah, but I mean you could argue in a sense
that it is easier to meet a whole bunch of
new people, but to find your soul mate. I feel
like these days people are just so distracted with you know,
different things.

Speaker 3 (18:06):
So many options.

Speaker 2 (18:07):
Yeah, like people more invest more time into their career,
like they can have babies later due to like technology
and science and stuff like that. So and like so
many options. Like how many hot girls or hot guys
do you see on social media? And if you're single,
like you're like you can't choose because you.

Speaker 1 (18:23):
Feel like you get almost a little desensitized, Josh, Like
you know, you be all of these Yeah, like you said,
you know, either beautiful beautiful women or guys all over
your feed, and you're like, oh, they're all kind of
like the same, They're all kind of in the same
bucket and you kind of get your sensitized.

Speaker 3 (18:38):
I guess, guys, what about like personality wise, like what,
how do you know when you want to marry someone
or when you want to propose? Like because looks aside,
I think like there's so many other factors, and I
just want to know as a girl, like, how do
you know when that you're gonna marry this girl? Like
obviously your early days, but have you been in that
situation before, Maley, how did you you know?

Speaker 1 (19:00):
Yeah? Well, let me let me start off, because I
literally just got engaged last year. Yeah, and I think
I think I'm going to talk for the guys here.
I feel like we always take a lot longer to
be ready to propose, like on average, than than women.
And I don't and I don't think. I don't know why.
And again it could be societal pressures that women feel

(19:22):
like once they're in a relationship for this amount of
X amount of years that they they should have a
ring on it. But I feel like with guys, we're
just so like we're in the relationship, like you're my girl,
like this is this is cool? Like I don't even
I'm not It's not that I don't want to get
engaged till you're smiling because you're like, this is but
it's just like it's not like a huge it's a
big deal. Don't get me wrong, it's a massive deal. Well,

(19:44):
it's just it's tough to explain. It's just like you're
you're just like you're my girl, Like I'm not I'm
not too stressed, Like we're gonna we're gonna get engaged
when we get engaged in mind.

Speaker 3 (19:51):
Yeah, okay, this is my next question. Did one day
a little thing in your mind grating and you're like
it's proposal time? Like what how did that look for you?

Speaker 1 (20:01):
Yeah? An argument every other day with Lynn about why
I haven't No, I'm kidding, I'm kidding, o kidding. No, no, no, no, no, no, no,
I don't think it was one day again, it was gradual.
It was just timing. It was just timing to where
because we we were together for eight eight years, eight
of years eight nine years before, which is a long time.

(20:22):
Well is it that we started we started when we.

Speaker 3 (20:25):
Were saying my opinion, I'm not offending you.

Speaker 1 (20:27):
Yeah, no, no, no, I'm not at all. But we we
we started dating in college, you know, so and we
were doing our own thing, having our own careers and
stuff like that. So yeah, I don't think there was
one specific moment I would have. I knew from a
year or two in definitely that this is going to
be the girl that I will marry for sure.

Speaker 3 (20:44):
Okay, all right, so you knew it was just about
choosing Josh, What about you?

Speaker 2 (20:49):
I think it's it's look, it's easy to be attracted
to someone these days physically, but I think it's really
really hard to connect with someone on a personal level.
I think that that's really really hard these days. And
I feel like because you know, most of us are jaded,
most of us have like most of us have been

(21:09):
through the ringer in terms of dating, you know what
I mean, Like where like we see things through like
the bullshit lenses, do you know what I mean?

Speaker 3 (21:17):
Like we look for red flags, we know what we're
looking for.

Speaker 2 (21:20):
Well, we've just yeah, we had to run. Yeah, we've
been put through it, so like our guards up, so
like even for someone to get through those walls is hard,
you know what I mean. So, like, you know, most
people who have been dating for a number of years
have been through a shitty relationship. They've been ghosted, they've
been you know, using abuse, they've been a rebound, they've

(21:41):
been in a situation ship. So like we have our
guard ups. So for someone to break through that wall,
it takes a lot of time, and it takes a
lot of commitment, and it takes a lot of trust,
and trust these days is really hard to come by.
So I feel like when you connect with someone and
you start to let those walls down and your guard down,
and you connect with them and you have simi values
and life goals and all that sort of stuff, like,

(22:02):
that's really fucking hard. Some people never ever find that,
literally never.

Speaker 3 (22:06):
I agree, and I actually I always say this to people,
like when you find that, you just know one hundred percent,
Like I'll say to my dad. My dad will be
like to me about my boyfriend, He's like, are you
going to marry Tom? Like it's only been three years,
but I'm like one hundred percent one day, that is
one thousand percent in the person. Because once you find
that that is hard.

Speaker 1 (22:24):
To be a best friends a best friend that is
exactly right right there. I call cap On Tilly first
because I feel like you said you didn't want to
get married as well.

Speaker 3 (22:34):
Okay, no, this is my thoughts on marriage. I will
tell you my thoughts on marriage. I want, like I
would want to get married, but I do not need
one hundred and fifty thousand dollar wedding. My dream wedding
is like family friends, maybe fifty people tops on a farm,
just re using my mum's old dress. I want a

(22:56):
cheap ring, like I want like fake diamond. I don't
want a real diamond and like exactly yep, like my
thing is very different. So yeah, no, I do want
to get married, Maley, but I want to get married
after I have kids. Can we like, oh my kids
at my wedding? Like, I just have different views. I
do want to do it, I just don't care.

Speaker 1 (23:15):
Can you invite Josh to the wedding because of how
tragic this podcast is going? At least give them some
free or doves and a couple of drinks. I'd love
to go. But guys, I agree, I think. And that
is where Lynn and I like knew that this was right,
Like from early early on, we actually were best friends
before we started dating. You know, we kind of just
fell into it, which I think is just the coolest

(23:36):
way to start getting yourself into a relationship and that
is that's actually a good point that you brought up, Josh,
because that's how I knew when I was like, this
is my best friend in the whole wide world, Like why, Like,
I want to get married to my best friend and live,
you know, the rest of my life with her because
there's no one else that makes me smile like she does,
makes me laugh, makes me feel emotions, love, It takes

(23:59):
care of me, you know, in a way that no
one else does. So yeah, that's how I knew.

Speaker 4 (24:05):
Do you guys ever feel like though in a long
term relationship, you get the feelings of hmm, is this
the person that I want to spend the rest of
my life with?

Speaker 3 (24:13):
You know what you're thinking?

Speaker 1 (24:15):
Oh? Yeah, because Jay, you're going through that a bit
too right, long term?

Speaker 4 (24:20):
I don't know.

Speaker 1 (24:22):
Oh sorry, were you saying long term? I thought you
said long distance. I thought you meant long distance.

Speaker 4 (24:26):
No, no, no, no, no, I'm this is all something I'm
personally going through. I mean, it's a genuine feeling that
you get. I mean, sorry, your phone me on the bus, I've.

Speaker 1 (24:35):
Gone on round. I just start that question again, because
I thought you were referring to just going through distance
and thinking like, is this relationship.

Speaker 2 (24:43):
Marley just casually goes Jay's looking elsewhere.

Speaker 1 (24:46):
Jay, you were talking to me the other week Beers
and you were saying that this might not be it.

Speaker 2 (24:50):
Marley's all set, he's got a wedding coming up, he's
locked in, and he's just gonna fuck everyone else up
to make himself look better.

Speaker 1 (24:56):
I'm in the clear now, fellas I'm talking Ja.

Speaker 2 (25:00):
Sorry, Okay, that was the best thing I've ever heard.
Just completely fucking over the producer Jay so badly.

Speaker 4 (25:11):
No, I love you, Hailey disclaim. My question is though,
like I feel like guys, especially something they go through
is like the feeling and girls might go for this too.
I obviously don't know, but I've had this. Is this
the person? Is this what I want for the rest
of my life?

Speaker 1 (25:28):
Do I want to?

Speaker 5 (25:29):
I want to?

Speaker 4 (25:29):
And it's not even about other women, It's about you know.
This is where I'm set and this is going to
be and I'm in my twenties and you know, you
know this chapter. Is this where I want this to?
Because getting married is a big deal. Do you send
the stake in a ground? This is the future. So
I don't know if you guys want to free yourself
onto the bus here.

Speaker 5 (25:46):
But do you guys ever have you ever had had
those fils?

Speaker 1 (25:49):
Yeah, I think we all do. Especially, I think we
all do, especially when you're starting starting a relationship and
growing together. Is you've got to start. If you're not
having these conversations with your then I think, yeah, you're
kind of just throwing yourself in pretty quickly as well.
I think you need to have these conversations and that's
what leads you to the point of being ready to

(26:09):
propose and say that this is this is it. You
are the person that I do want to move forward
through my life for the rest of my life with.
So yeah, I think it's natural too it. I don't
think there's anything wrong to have those feelings or have
those thoughts, and I think you should be asking yourself
tough questions like that, like like that, what do you reckon? Josh?

Speaker 2 (26:29):
Yeah, I mean for me, like, if I'm completely honest,
like I see people getting married, you know, at weddings
and stuff like that, and one of the first thoughts
that runs through my mind is I wonder if they're
up there and it crosses their mind at all, for
even for one second, they're like, this is the last
girl I'm ever all guy, I'm ever gonna kiss, ever
gonna be with, I'm never gonna I'm never ever gonna flirt.

(26:51):
I'm never gonna flat with anyone else in my whole life.
I shouldn't be I shouldn't be like and that's it,
like right, and I'm gonna you know, and I'm having
kids with this person and that's it till the day
I die.

Speaker 1 (27:00):
Yeah, yeah, literally, And that's They're.

Speaker 3 (27:03):
Scary thing, you know what I mean.

Speaker 2 (27:05):
That scares me a little bit.

Speaker 1 (27:06):
It is it is.

Speaker 3 (27:07):
Wait, Josh, you have been in a four year relationship
along with Amelia, like in your head, like if you
don't mind me asking, like did you ever think like okay,
I want a proposal, like any of that stuff. Have
you gone through this because you are just like a
bit older, Like that's out of my time frame right now,
but like have you experienced that? Obviously, Molly has.

Speaker 2 (27:29):
Look, there were definitely certain moments in the relationship where
I was like I could end up with this girl
forever and that like proposal maybe on the cards, But
then there was also things in the relationship that stopped
me from fully going to the next step, and I
think that was on both sides. You know, we both
had sort of issues that came up in the relationship.
You know, it takes two parties to make a relationship work,

(27:52):
and I feel like on both parts, if you look
back on it, we I mean, I can admit that
there was a lot of things that I probably didn't
do ride and you know, not that I ever cheated
or anything like that, but like there we was just
certain things that I probably didn't give her that she wanted,
and I definitely didn't receive things from her that I
wanted as well. So yeah, so now I feel like,
you know, moving forward, like when I, you know, my

(28:13):
new partner, like when I was dating and stuff like that,
Like there were certain non negotiables for me that I
looked out for, and she ended up dating a guy
that was like completely different from me, like a full
one eighty with just everything, just everything, like you know,
he was from overseas and everything. So she did a
one eighty. So I would say that she was definitely
looking for something a bit different as well, which is

(28:34):
completely fine.

Speaker 1 (28:35):
So and do you think now, Josh, that now the
new relationship that you're in, do you communicate these things
early now, Like this is what I want, This is
I don't know my love language is how I feel,
you know, you know worth throughout this relationship or whatever
it might be. Do you communicate these things early now?

Speaker 2 (28:53):
One hundred percent, Like there are just some non negotiables now,
and there's things that I just would not put up with,
you know, looking back on our relationships. I mean, I'm
sure you guys can do it as well. You can
look at previous things that happen in your relationship and
you go, I would just never go through that again.
Like I would put my foot down immediately at certain things.
And that's what going through relationships and breakups does. You
learn from your You're meant to learn from your mistakes.

(29:14):
So definitely now, like if I when I was you know,
dating and seeing people or whatever, like if I saw
something that even slightly remotely resembled stuff that I didn't like,
I would just that's it. That's it. It's it's it's guys.
If you're seeing you know, toxic things at the start,
and you're seeing red flags and whatever you're seeing, let
me give you the tip. They don't go away. You

(29:36):
can't fix someone no one is a project like it. Literally,
I'm telling you, like, these problems stay around forever.

Speaker 1 (29:42):
Something.

Speaker 2 (29:42):
They don't like that though.

Speaker 1 (29:43):
Don't you think some people like like a bit of
trouble and chaos in their lives.

Speaker 3 (29:47):
When you're young, But you're all.

Speaker 1 (29:49):
I hope not. Yeah, but I feel like some people
like go after that sometimes, you know.

Speaker 2 (29:52):
On dred percent that's human nature, Like some people are
just built to want to fix certain things and stuff
like that. But like coming from like, yeah, some of
these issues and I'm not saying that my ex needed
she wasn't fixing, but I'm just saying certain issues in
the relationship on both ends, like they didn't go anywhere.
They literally just persisted the entire time.

Speaker 3 (30:12):
Wait, have you guys heard of the eighty twenty rule
to so eighty percent is good and twenty percent is bad?
Is the twenty percent something that you're willing to work
with and fix in the relationship or is the twenty
percent like a non negotiable badd a they're twenty percent
problems bad? Like there's some things that in your relationship

(30:34):
issue you off. I'm like, can I tolerate that twenty percent?
Or is that twenty percent bad not for me. I
think I reckon that's a good rule, Like I've thought
about that stuff before and partially.

Speaker 1 (30:45):
Yeah, I actually like that. Yeah, I haven't heard of that,
And I think eighty twenty is good because there's always
going No one's perfect, right, No one's perfect. But I
think a relationship, man, it's it's it takes a team,
you know, to get through these things, or like you
just mentioned Josh, expressing and communicating you know, of these
boundaries or these non negotiables or whatever it might be.
And seeing how that person responds, if they respond, you know,

(31:07):
in a way where they're like no, I'm not going
to change this at all, or if they're willing to
work on that thing, that's how you kind of know
that this person is right for you.

Speaker 2 (31:16):
Yeah, for sure.

Speaker 1 (31:17):
But I feel like everyone's going to add some bad.

Speaker 3 (31:20):
That's such a boy thing to say, because like I
think boys get like triggered by things and like will
write them in the back of their head because like
from like past trauma from other girls or whatever. Because
what you're saying, like, oh, that's a definite note for
me or whatever. My boyfriend does it too, is like, nah,
I'm not putting up.

Speaker 1 (31:40):
What's the point, what's the point?

Speaker 3 (31:43):
Yes, tum A too is like no, we don't do that. Ye,
Like he's like stop doing that now. That's like not
in a rude way, just like boys so much are
better like what they want and what they need.

Speaker 5 (31:55):
Yet yeah true, Wow, in what world do you live in?
Boys are better at municating?

Speaker 3 (32:02):
No, you're bad communicators, but you you know what you
want black or white? Like you said, like it's like
I don't tolerate that. Yes I do that, or no,
we're not dealing with that. Like it's boys are a
lot better than that. Girls will like just like dance
around the shoe.

Speaker 1 (32:17):
I think.

Speaker 2 (32:17):
I think we're just like we're too like simple to
like hide things and have double meanings.

Speaker 5 (32:22):
This is.

Speaker 2 (32:24):
What it is, Like, this is a situation. I'm not
I'm not like witty enough to hide this, like like
good or bad. You're gonna either slap me or you're
gonna hug me, Like this is the situation, Like I
don't know if it's good or bad? You know what
I mean? That's my feel anyway.

Speaker 3 (32:38):
Yeah, okay, these are the questions that like I as
a girl, and I think the girls would want to know, Like, let's.

Speaker 1 (32:47):
Just go through them quickly for the girls.

Speaker 3 (32:48):
This is for the girls. This is not a gamified thing.
This is just for the girls. Okay, let's do like
an on average. How long do we think you should
wait to propose?

Speaker 1 (32:59):
Well, guys, I'm going to be I'm going to be
losing this. Yeah, I guess I made you. I can't
say anything else.

Speaker 2 (33:05):
Ye, and in Josh, I don't just get I don't know.
I don't even believe in proposals. I don't really believe
in like sor right.

Speaker 1 (33:14):
This is a this is a great take. Here, tell
me about that, Josh.

Speaker 2 (33:17):
I don't know, Like I don't really see the point
of marriages in twenty twenty four.

Speaker 1 (33:20):
Oh, I love this. Let's get it, let's get it.

Speaker 2 (33:22):
I really, I really don't. I really don't understand what
the point of marriage is anymore. I understand back in
the day that like people had to get married because
families would unite and you'd share land, and like you
you unite like all your assets and stuff like that.
But like today, I think that there's actually a really
dodgy message that gets pushed to younger people that you're

(33:43):
only successful if you get the insane proposal, you have
the crazy good wedding, you have the what's the thing
of honeymoon, you have the honeymoon, you post about it
all on social media, and society deems you a success
and someone that has done well in life and that
you show off to all your friends and stuff like that.
And I think it puts a lot of unfair pressure

(34:06):
on girls to get married, have kids, have a honeymoon
by a certain age, and I think it creates a
lot of anxiety. And I think it's really unfair on
girls to feel that, oh my god, my friend's got married.
It's not married yet. I'm panicking now where it's twenty
twenty four, and I feel like a success doesn't mean
you have the white picket fence with the wedding, the

(34:28):
big ring, the kids. Like, girls these days can kill
it in the workforce. Girls these days can become CEOs,
Girls these days can become President of the United States.
Like maybe like there's literally literally like we shouldn't be
looking at that as a success. And I think that
it needs to be pushed to the younger generation that
there are different ways to measure doing well in life

(34:51):
now and having all those things and I think that,
you know, it starts with movies, it starts with everything
where people are told they have to find their prince charming.
And I just don't. I don't know, like i'd I
don't know. I don't like these days. How many more
times do you see people having kids before they get.

Speaker 1 (35:05):
Having kids, buying a home together, all of it.

Speaker 2 (35:08):
Literally, I would love to see the numbers of people
that have kids now before they get married, as opposed
to forty years. Yes, my sister, My sister had two kids,
had one kid before she got married, yep. And she's
got another kid on the way. And she got married
last year and it was an incredible wedding and I
loved it and it was amazing. But she got married
beautiful day.

Speaker 1 (35:26):
Great.

Speaker 2 (35:27):
She didn't even change her name when I passed port.
She couldn't be bothered.

Speaker 1 (35:30):
Because you know, like the efforts and the energy and
the money and everything that you have to go through
to get that done is a lot, linn.

Speaker 2 (35:37):
Yeah, sixty grand cost of one day sixty grand?

Speaker 3 (35:41):
Okay, that is one of my other questions. How much
do you think you should spend on a wedding for me?
I wouldn't spend any more than twenty k max.

Speaker 1 (35:49):
Because guys, that I'm telling you, I said the exact
same thing to Lynn. Shit, no, I said the same
thing because no, I'm just saying you say that going
in because I said the same thing that babe, we
are not spending over X amount, and she was like, yeah, no, absolutely,
that's that's yeah, of course, and the things just start
adding up. All of this crap is so expensive, guys,

(36:10):
And I don't want to say crap. It's all beautiful, right, babe,
I'm not saying crap.

Speaker 2 (36:14):
I reckon, it'd be better if you just took ten
of your best friends. He takes ten of his best friends,
she takes ten of her best friends, and you guys
go to like the mal Dives and you just have
like ten days there, little ceremony. You spend the same
amount of money, and then you get like these sick
memories of like a full ten day holiday.

Speaker 1 (36:26):
I for the longest time Lynn wanted to elope and
just do that as well, whereas I I did want
more of a traditional Yeah, no, I don't think there's
anything wrong with that. I just wanted a little bit
more of a traditional wedding, which is as soon as
I propose she got the spreadsheet out right away and
she literally had everything planned from the jump. Oh she
was ready. She was ready, guys.

Speaker 2 (36:47):
But in the same vein like, I'm not here hating
on people get married. Oh, it is a beautiful thing,
and like to some couples it is really really important.
But I would be to be really interested to see
in twenty thirty, forty fifty years how many people get married.
And I agreed, like, literally, I think it's a dying thing.
I think that marriages are going to start to become irrelevant.

Speaker 4 (37:05):
To answer your question before, Josh, in the nineteen nineties,
which is I'm guessing when most of us were born,
the average in America at least was twenty eight percent
of births happened outside of marriage. And now in twenty twenty. Now,
in twenty twenty when this was taken, it's forty percent.
Double wow, not quite doubled, guys, it's top percent.

Speaker 1 (37:27):
I had twenty Yeah.

Speaker 3 (37:31):
I'll do the mask.

Speaker 1 (37:32):
Wow.

Speaker 3 (37:33):
Okay, wait, but guys, just quickly say it. Then, Okay,
what's what's the mac you would want to spend on
a wedding. I'm twenty grand ten k each.

Speaker 1 (37:41):
You're dreaming. Well, no, no, if you yeah, you can
do that. Sorry sorry, yeah, yeah, I will.

Speaker 3 (37:47):
Tell you in a few years my wedding will be
twenty Yeah.

Speaker 1 (37:50):
Well it's hard. It's hard for me to answer that one.
I don't like talking about my finances too. No, no, no,
I just.

Speaker 3 (37:55):
Want to know what you would want to spend.

Speaker 1 (37:57):
I would tell me as a boy, I would say, well,
I was, yeah, like forty for you.

Speaker 2 (38:05):
See, I didn't even want that splitting it. Are you
splitting that or is that like forty total total? Or
is that total?

Speaker 1 (38:11):
Yeah? Yeah? Total? Right? What about you, Josh?

Speaker 3 (38:16):
Josh?

Speaker 2 (38:16):
Yeah, I would say maybe, yeah, twenty five grand each?

Speaker 1 (38:19):
Yeah, hold on, just before.

Speaker 2 (38:21):
We move on?

Speaker 3 (38:21):
Do you guys want to spend a lot before.

Speaker 1 (38:23):
We move on? No, it's just I think we're realistic.
You just like to trust me. The stuff adds on,
So Josh, let's say and yeah, like just in general,
we don't even have to speak specifics. But if a
girl's non negotiable, you're four years in, is like we
need to get married or like this isn't gonna work.
But she's the one, Josh, you know what I mean?
She is it? What are you gonna do?

Speaker 2 (38:43):
No, Like I'm all, I'm I'm not against getting married. Yeah,
like I definitely do it, but I just like I'm
not as Yeah, no, I'm not as obsessed about doing
it as I was when I was as I thought
when I was like younger, like you had to get married.
But like I'm like, what really even changes when you
get married? Like if you've already got kids, you already
bought a house together, nothing, what actually happens, Like I

(39:05):
don't even know, like not changes Like yeah, I like so,
I mean, look, if she wanted to, like, I definitely
can see myself getting married one day, but I'm just
like i'd have to be in the financial position to
do it, Like I'd have to you know, we'd have
to work out exactly how big the wedding wants. We
have to agree to a lot of things. But you know,
just because I didn't marry her straight away doesn't mean
my like love.

Speaker 1 (39:24):
Would die for her.

Speaker 2 (39:24):
I'd want to leave. But if you wants to get
married out for four years and she was the one,
I would definitely consider it, and I would definitely make
a plan to do it.

Speaker 3 (39:31):
Okay, next one, how much, like Maley, you do not
need to tell me the cost of your ring. I
do not care. I just want to know how much
in your ideal world would you guys want to spend
on an engagement room because apparently it's three months salary
is what people, it's like the going rate. I personally

(39:52):
a thousand dollars ring. Fine, wow, I would just want
to cheapy because I'll lose it with ADHD right when
I'm having expensive.

Speaker 1 (39:59):
My limit would be I'm trying to think back when
I was getting mine, my limit would be six grand probably,
I reckon.

Speaker 3 (40:10):
Yeah, I think that's good. That is a very good investment.

Speaker 1 (40:13):
And when I when I and also with my ring,
just just quickly, I don't want to guess myself up.
It would be guys, But I like personalized the whole
ring myself.

Speaker 3 (40:21):
Yeah, it was very cute.

Speaker 1 (40:22):
Yeah with Olivia, that's absolutely amazing. And yeah, personalized the
whole thing. So I thought that was really cool. It
was special. It's a cute, little dainty ring, nothing crazy
out landing, personalized it. It was sentimental.

Speaker 3 (40:35):
She didn't know you were doing it exactly. These things
are all like they're all made up to like just
look like a whole visage. Like the ring is like
chosen by the girl, she chose her a ring. I'm like,
what that takes away the whole magic of it.

Speaker 1 (40:52):
I was going to say, let's let's ring that, let's
ring that bell bessage.

Speaker 3 (40:56):
Okay, regardless, I do not want my ring to be chosen.

Speaker 1 (41:00):
I mean yeah, no, no, definitely not the damn point.

Speaker 3 (41:02):
There is no sentimentality.

Speaker 1 (41:03):
Yeah, that's what was special.

Speaker 3 (41:05):
Sprinkle little things and be like, oh this would be cute,
but I want a full surprise. Yeah, okay, ring costco.

Speaker 2 (41:13):
Yeah, I would probably be happy to go three. I'll
be happy to go like four month salary. Oh really, okay,
four months salary, I think.

Speaker 3 (41:22):
Okay, well, we won't ask you what that would.

Speaker 1 (41:25):
Look like.

Speaker 2 (41:33):
Because you can't. Like everyone's price is going to be difficult.
So like that's why I'm like, I'd be willing to
put in four months salary.

Speaker 3 (41:40):
All right, Okay, so.

Speaker 2 (41:44):
Exactly exactly. Slash a collaboration.

Speaker 3 (41:51):
Jewelers hit him up. Okay. Last one, guys, how do
you guys choose an intimate or a public proposal?

Speaker 5 (42:01):
Like?

Speaker 1 (42:01):
What what?

Speaker 3 (42:02):
Marley? I know your answer, but like, how does a
boy choose a proposal? I guess you're not fully deep
in your relationship yet, so it'll probably be something sentimental.

Speaker 1 (42:11):
But like wait, wait, wait, what are you saying? Line
is Moley Mine wasn't sentimental?

Speaker 3 (42:16):
Yours was sentimental. So I'm saying Josh doesn't getting know
yet because you're not deep into his relationship. Are you
guys wanting big extravagant ones? Marley's was in a park
in New York City? Josh, what would you do?

Speaker 5 (42:28):
Josh doesn't want to get married? Give a about that?

Speaker 3 (42:31):
It does, Jake? Give him the benefit of the doubt
if you do, what would you go for? Like a
holiday in Fiji? Like what are you thinking?

Speaker 2 (42:39):
Yeah, I'd like to do something like super unique, like
whether it was like this crazy extravagant thing, Like I'd
kind of like to do something where like I'm thinking,
I don't know, maybe I get like a bird trainer
or something and like some crazy eagles got like the
ring like in its in its like feet or something.
You know, a man flies down.

Speaker 1 (42:57):
For someone that doesn't want to get married. That was
just awful specific and brilliant. That was brilliant, brother.

Speaker 2 (43:05):
I don't know, like something that's like kind of cool
and like not like something that's kind of funny.

Speaker 1 (43:09):
I hear you know what I mean? Like I think
if the third takes off with the four month salary
worth of ring and literally takes off.

Speaker 2 (43:17):
Well that's why with the Birdman, you've got to get insurance.
I mean, you got to speak to.

Speaker 3 (43:20):
The bird get insurance on your ring to get insurance. Okay,
well guys, so but would you like consider Maley you
very well did this. You considered photography in your.

Speaker 1 (43:30):
Proposal, but the photography was done by my best friends. Yes,
and that's where I didn't want any I wanted it
to be really really special obviously. I wanted the moment
to be captured. And I also didn't want Lynn to
for the first ten to fifteen seconds even realize that
anyone was there capturing. And I wanted the moment about us. Yeah,
like if she knows someone's there, Yes, the whole thing captured.

(43:52):
So the whole thing was captured.

Speaker 2 (43:54):
Brother, Yeah, that's incredible.

Speaker 3 (43:56):
Check.

Speaker 1 (43:57):
Yes, so lenm, I do these pit checks where we
come away from the camera and that's how I like
set it up. So like she had no idea, like
absolutely not.

Speaker 2 (44:05):
Yeah, I think I would definitely like to record it.
It's really special, you know, what I mean, like, like
you've got that moment, and you know, I think that
that's cool.

Speaker 4 (44:13):
Especially you guys post your entire lives on social media.
Of course you fuckers are recording it. What are you
talking about clean?

Speaker 5 (44:21):
Yeah, money influences. I'm going to keep it private.

Speaker 2 (44:28):
No, that's us trying to be relatable, but they're not
actually doing it.

Speaker 3 (44:31):
No camera, it's a no from me.

Speaker 2 (44:34):
Wait, so you would want you would want a lab
grown diamond?

Speaker 1 (44:37):
No, yeah, but that's yeah, she wanted like fake fake.
Yeah she didn't even want because I was going to say,
so it doesn'tish.

Speaker 2 (44:45):
Wow, I feel like you're one of like lots of
girls would not want that.

Speaker 3 (44:48):
Yeah, but I prioritize money like I love money, Okay, Yeah,
I just save like I drive around in like a
four thousand dollars ship box because I.

Speaker 1 (44:57):
Wouldn't even call it four thousand dollars. You should see
to say this thing. You should see the type of
person doesn't even have room.

Speaker 3 (45:03):
Money is like everything I want to buy a farm.

Speaker 2 (45:05):
I'm going to make an assumption you will avoid tolls
to save money.

Speaker 3 (45:10):
And add ten minutes.

Speaker 2 (45:11):
Yes, you know.

Speaker 1 (45:12):
What she's done. Once we had to pay for all.
She smacked the parking like the parking meter like for
about a minute and a half actually longer two and
a half minutes, just to get this ticket to like
come out and like there was a glitch in the
system instead of paying the two dollars whatever, it was good. Yeah,
it works much.

Speaker 3 (45:32):
That's why I'm going to have a farm at twenty
five years old. Thank you.

Speaker 2 (45:35):
A farm would be incredible.

Speaker 3 (45:36):
Yes, I know, a farm in the northern Beaches. That's
my dream.

Speaker 2 (45:39):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (45:39):
Animals wo yep.

Speaker 1 (45:41):
Thanks, eagles to be specific. We'll train them, We'll do
this is the whole land, Josh. You let us know
when you're ready.

Speaker 2 (45:50):
But then it's a scam till he's teaching the eagles
to fly away with the ring.

Speaker 3 (46:00):
All right, guys, this is I know, probably your answers.
What are your thoughts on strippers at Bucks or Hen's night?

Speaker 1 (46:07):
Oh wait, what did you say? No? I think it's well,
it's quite quite a normal thing, isn't it. Like the
people on one last night?

Speaker 2 (46:21):
Have you had a Bucks party?

Speaker 1 (46:22):
May have I had one? No? No I haven't. I haven't.
And I want to do something really chill for my Bucks,
Like I don't really Yeah, I don't care for it personally,
No vegas. No, no, that's not always going to say.
Bucks parties used to be or bachelor parties. It used
to be the night before a wedding. That is absolutely insane.
Imagine pulling up. Yeah, and I'm terrible with a hangover too,

(46:44):
so like imagine pulling up to your wedding. Yeah. So
it doesn't really matter for me, but a.

Speaker 2 (46:50):
Lot of guilty grooms would have been what I look,
I don't think it's necessary to have strippers tradition.

Speaker 3 (46:58):
Don't you think it's compulsory for the tradition?

Speaker 1 (47:00):
Well, like, I understand why people do it, but I
don't wouldn't.

Speaker 3 (47:02):
Bother me at all. Just don't don't get like head
or something.

Speaker 2 (47:06):
But so everything else below that is play on.

Speaker 3 (47:12):
Seriously, I don't mind if like a little stripper girl
comes into the house and does a little strip. I
do mind if there's like blowjobs or like cookups or
something involved.

Speaker 1 (47:22):
I think anyone would mind that.

Speaker 2 (47:25):
I'm glad you've verified that, Otherwise I would have thought
until you said that blow jobs I thought would play
on at Bucks parties. Now that I've gotten that, now
I know now now, thank you, so much Tilly. Wow, Okay,
slow jobs are no. If you're getting married, don't get
a blow job off a stripper. Tilly has given us

(47:46):
that information.

Speaker 3 (47:47):
You can have your face oh my god, yeah, okay,
don't do it.

Speaker 2 (47:52):
Is this the universal for all girls?

Speaker 3 (47:54):
Just giving.

Speaker 2 (47:57):
Guys? Refer back to this podcast. If you're getting in
from your future till he said, tits in face, play
on blow jobs off the cars. Everything else is up
to your discression.

Speaker 3 (48:09):
What do you think if a girl has a stripper
at her hence.

Speaker 1 (48:13):
Think, yeah, I think it's the set like it's it's
just it seems like it's a traditional thing. It's yeah, yeah, yeah,
yeah right, Like any.

Speaker 2 (48:21):
I'm not like, I'm not mad about Like, I don't
think there has to be strippers there, Like, I still
have a really good time with my friends. At the
same time, I don't want to be a party pooper
if they've organized it, I think, but I mean I don't.
I'm not like so often if the strippers aren't there.

Speaker 3 (48:37):
Like as long as I'm got my so of right,
So he's saying there must be a strip of there.
Everything you're saying is leading.

Speaker 2 (48:42):
No, No, what I'm saying, I'm saying I'm saying if
they're if there weren't strippers, I wouldn't care.

Speaker 1 (48:47):
He's not going to not show up to his butts.

Speaker 3 (48:49):
Kind of off it.

Speaker 2 (48:50):
No, No, I actually don't care. Like, as long as
I got my friends and we're having a good that's.

Speaker 1 (48:54):
All that I want to do. Bro kick back with
the boys and just.

Speaker 2 (48:56):
Like like I have I know some shocking stripping store.
Really yeah, like if your man is telling you that
there's no strippers at the Bucks party, look into it,
because I know pretty much pretty much ninety nine percent
of times there are strippers there. And like I know,
I'm throwing a lot of lads under the bus here,
but tradition, but a lot of lads lie about it.

(49:17):
And then before the Bucks kicks off, they say, guys,
this is our story. We're telling all the girlfriends this.

Speaker 1 (49:24):
They have a full game.

Speaker 5 (49:26):
Can you stop right now?

Speaker 1 (49:32):
Under the buses? Now he's written off.

Speaker 2 (49:37):
No, but I'm not saying anything bad happens. I'm not
saying anything bad happens, but like it's just boycode. Yeah,
No one's like getting blow jobs or whatever. But like
sometimes like.

Speaker 3 (49:46):
You know, that's what they say. Yeah, guys, we've been
here for four hours.

Speaker 1 (49:51):
Yeah, that's good stuff. Josh. I want to first and
foremost thank you for coming on, thank you for your patience,
and thank you for dealing with this train wreck that
you're in the studio with Tilly. This has been This
has been a this has been a grind this one, mate.

Speaker 2 (50:03):
Thank you, no, thank you, guys. I had a lot
of fun and yeah, we got to chat about a
lot of interesting things and I've learned. I've learned a
lot about you too. Yeah, some really good stuff and
some questionable stuff. And you know, Jay is going to
be single, our producer, So things have happened in this episode.
There's a lot of things that have happened.

Speaker 1 (50:21):
But there's lessons with that because you learn from those
lessons and then there's more open communication for the next relationship,
as we've learned, Josh. So Jay, you'll be all right,
gott Jay, if.

Speaker 3 (50:29):
You end up single, there's always more options. There's plenty
of fish in the sea.

Speaker 5 (50:34):
My god had our four year anniversary.

Speaker 3 (50:38):
Congratulations, congratulations, And he wore a tailor. I just commented
on his Taylor Swift outfit. I know he's in love,
he's in deep. If he's dressing up as Taylor Swift
for her. He's clearly in love.

Speaker 1 (50:51):
Yeah, Jay is in love, and you are buying Josh
some some lunch after this. Guys, thank you all for listening.
Keep sending in all your questions, your problems, your train rex.
We love hearing them. Follow us on Trainwreck the Pod
on Instagram. Josh again, thank you so much for joining us. Brother,
you are truly a delight. Thank you.

Speaker 2 (51:05):
Thanks so much, guys, appreciate it.

Speaker 1 (51:07):
Bye, guys,