February 23, 2023 • 14 mins
Justin & Kylie reflect on their week and determine what they can do better next time
Topics included in this episode -
- Justin & Kylie are headed to the Richard Marx concert
- Coulson daughter #2 is headed to the other side of the world
- Kylie had a rough week & called her Dad
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
It's their Happy Family's podcast Richard Marx q pac No kids,
Well you and me go to a rich Marx concert,
my honey.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
At least I get to do a next year.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
You know how at the start of the podcast, j R.
Always puts the best part of the podcast right there
that I think is a big quote. If he doesn't
do it, he didn't think it was as good as
you and I did. And now here's the stars of
our show, my mum and dad. Hello, this is doctor
Justin Colson, the founder of Happy Families dot com dot you.
I've been such a good mood today because it's Friday.
(00:35):
But do you know what I'm really excited about, Kylie?
I think I know, yeah, yeah, yeah, Well that's because
you heard me quing a few things up and getting
ready here on on YouTube. Right. So when you say,
what what do we? What have I I'm.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
Being dragged along to a concert night.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
So we going to a concert tonight. I'm so excited
we go to a concert? And how excited are you?
Speaker 2 (00:57):
Concerts aren't really my thing? Oh?
Speaker 1 (00:59):
Come on, but what about song? Do you remember? Do
you remember when we were dating? I'm sure I must
have sung this to you. You remember this song. Remember yeah, So, folks,
we are going to see Richard Marx tonight.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
At Q Pak.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Boom. Remember this. It's going to be so great. I
cannot wait. This is what parenting is all about, having
a night off from the kids. So asleep, you are
going to get into trouble.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
Tickets in cost you half as much as Billy Joel.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
We're going to be hearing great songs like this. Remember,
Richard Marx is amazing, big hair a great stuff. You're
my favorite song of all the Richard Marks songs. Though,
tell me that I have a guess. Can you remember
the what do you think would be the best one?
I love right here waiting great stuff? You're not You're
(01:48):
not guessing. You're looking at me like you don't know
any of your songs, so you can't possibly guess about
this one. This one.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
I'm sad.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
I love this one Hazard and you know what I
love about this song? You just don't know what happened?
Speaker 2 (02:05):
I know was what's so devastating?
Speaker 1 (02:07):
Was a creep? I mean he's he's singing the song
and he sounds like such a nice guy. But was
he a creep? Or is he just a scapegoat? Did
something bad happen. I'm so excited tonight. I'm so palmed.
This is like a I get to relive my mid
to late adolescents, early adolescents. I can't even remember what
years it was. But Richard Marx Q pack no kids,
(02:27):
well you were me, baby, are.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
Richard Mark's concept? My honey? At least I get to
do it next year.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
That might be the line of the day. I think
that needs to be our A big quote. Like you
know how at the start of the podcast, Jr. Always
puts the best part of the podcast right there that
I think is he's if he doesn't do it, he
didn't think it was as good as you and I
did as well as I did anyway. Hey, so that's
that's enough personal news for now. We've got some more
big news. We're going to talk more about this next week.
(02:54):
But we have a daughter who's about to leave home,
like literally leave home and move as far away just
about it you can.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
We've got three more sleeps.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
Yeah, other side of the world. Do a number two.
She's about to fly the nest.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
Well she might be doing a number two, but we've
not had a child do something.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
This speak Well, I first thought he got married at
nineteen that was pretty big. But this one, yes, but
she's lived ten minutes away from this one at the
age of twenty, is flying to England for eighteen months.
So we'll talk about it.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Just put this into perspective because I'm really a little
bit nervous.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
She's got to get on.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
A plane here in Marucci door and fly to Sydney.
But from Sydney she then has to go to the
international airport or by herself and get on a flight
to go to Katar. Yeah, and once she's in Qatar,
she then has to find herself on another airplane to
get all the way to Manchester.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
It's so exciting, so exciting.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
I'm not sure she's going to even make it. I'm
really nervous.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
Well today for Alder, but it's tomorrow. I want to
talk about that daughter and the experiences we've had. And
I had a wake up call, I guess. So I
had this eye opening moment on Sunday. So for those
of you who have missed the news, our daughter is
going to spend eighteen months as a missionary for our
church in the United Kingdom and doing all sorts of
missionary work and service work. And I think it's going
(04:14):
to be such a good thing. One of the challenges
that you have as a parent as your kids grow
up is it's really hard to see them as anything
other than your kid, the one who fights with their
sisters or brothers and has a big sook when the
dishes need to be done, or mind you, this daughter
is really good with the dishes. But I'm just using
these as examples. We see this child as the obstinate one,
(04:36):
or the one who doesn't know how to take anything
seriously or can't possibly take everything. So yeah, I can't
possibly live without our oversight and our guidance, And that's
kind of I mean, she's my little girl, she might
be our second daughter, and she's definitely an adult. She's
been working, and over the last couple of years, Kylie,
I've found that I have underestimated her with the very
(04:59):
best of intention. Multiple times, I've seen what she's done
as she's finished school, got through school really well, and
then done the things that she's done since school, And
now she's doing this, and she's blown me away. Every
time I've paused and taken a good look at Holy smags,
look at this kid. Go on Sunday in our church congregation.
She was asked to stand up and address I don't know,
(05:19):
two hundred and fifty three hundred people for fifteen minutes.
She was asked to give a fifteen minute talk about
her preparations and things that she holds really dear. And
she spent some time on Saturday morning putting some thoughts together,
and I asked her she needed a hand. She said, no,
I've got it, and I was thinking, hang on, I'm
the professional speaker here, like you need my help, but
I didn't push. She said I've got it, and I said, okay, well,
(05:41):
let's just hope that she doesn't crash and burn. She
stood up in front of that congregation and spoke for
fifteen sixteen minutes and was extraordinary. And I'm not saying
that as a completely subjective, emotionally involved father. I'm pretty impartial,
pretty disinclined to give praise to people who give talks,
(06:03):
because it's really rare to find somebody who will give
a great talk. She did such a great job that
when she finished, I thought to myself, I think she
just gave the perfect talk, Like there is literally nothing
that I want to say to her about what she
could have done better. She just did such a great job.
(06:24):
And I told her that, I just said, I'm not
into praise. I'm not into making you feel good just
because i'm your dad and i'm supposed to you know that,
I'll tell you if I liked it and if I
didn't like it. And I just said, I can't think
of anything you could have done better. That was absolutely brilliant.
And again I just sat there, Kylie, and I thought,
so often we think to ourselves about our kids. Are
they not ready or I haven't prepared them well enough,
or this or that or oh my goodness, I hope
(06:46):
they're not going to go out there and make a
full of themselves or are full of me, or any
of those things. And I am concerned that she can't cook.
I am concerned that she's not going to do the
washing the right way or all of those adult things
that you just But she can learn those once she's
out there, once she's living life.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
There's nothing like real life experience. Yeah, yeah, to teach
us the things that we need to learn at the
right time.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
I was just so blown away. I was so blown
away by this kid and for all of the ups
and downs of parenting and all the times where I think,
oh my goodness, I might be a parenting expert. I'm done.
This is so hard. I'm sick of the kids. I
want to have some time away. This was just outstanding,
And that's my old do Better tomorrow. Just I guess
we have to keep on doing what we're doing because
(07:30):
it's working out, okay. We just don't see it when
we're in the moment, when we see the kids in
a different context, when they're not being our kids, when
they're being people in society, when they're at a friend's house,
or when they're at school, when they're down at the
park or whatever it is. That's when we get to
see who they really are. Not when they're in the
living room and they're squabbling with their sister about who
(07:50):
ate somebody's last piece of chocolate. That's not what really
shows who they are. It's the stuff they're doing out there.
And I just feel so grateful. What's your old do
better tomorrow? As we get all set for our concert tonight.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
Well, in contrast to that, I've had a pretty tough week.
I've been physically unwell for much of the week, and.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
You're coming off the back of me having a couple
of lousy weeks. Do you know how I got over
my lousy couple of weeks? Two things. First of all,
you treated me like there was nothing wrong. That made
a huge difference. And secondly, after two weeks of languishing
and just thinking, heck, I'm a well being expert, I'm
a parenting expert. I'm supposed to how this works. I
just decided that I was going to pretend that everything
was fine, and by pretending actually suddenly got better.
Speaker 2 (08:38):
So fake it till you make it.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
Yeah, yeah, kind of yeah, faked. That's not clinical psychological advice.
There's a lot more work that needs to be done
for people who are dealing with depression, anxiety and so on,
But sometimes that's actually all you need. Just fake it
till you make it. I bounced back like I came
good in in phenomenal ways because I faked it till
I made it. Even in relation to a couple of
bigger issues and a couple of big relationships, I just
pretended they were fine, and they actually became fine. Like
(09:01):
they're not perfect, they're still stuff, but they're fine. Anyway,
I cut you off. So you've had a tough, tough week,
and you've been sick for a few days, which makes
it worse.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
And so the mood kind of for me has shifted,
and I was feeling quite low, and then the lead
up to Sunday was feeling pretty depleted emotionally and physically,
and I ended up calling my dad and asking him
to pop over and just spend some time with me.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
And when you say you called your dad and us
him to pop over, he lives an hour and forty
minutes away with your mum. I like, they lived together,
but your mum wasn't well enough to come. So your
dad just jumped in the car and said, sure, I'll
come and spend an hour and forty minutes with you.
He did, well, I'll drive for an hour and forty
minutes so that I can spend some time with you.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
And so, because of the timing of his day, we
actually attended church together and you know, relished in the
opportunity to see our daughter just blossom, really blossom. Yeah,
it was. It was interesting because their oldest sister actually
looked at me that afternoon and she said, did I
(10:02):
actually just literally witness Abby grow up today? She was
personally blown away at who was standing in front of her,
and the things that she shared and just the confidence
that her challenges have actually given her. Yeah, and it
was really beautiful to witness. So coming off the back
(10:24):
of that and still feeling quite low and just really
needing to be with my dad, I sat with him
for a little bit of time and kind of offloaded
would be the best words.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
Just had a big cry and this is what has
been like being married justin.
Speaker 2 (10:45):
But I just I pose the question is it really
worth it? Like I feel like I have given the
very best of everything I am and everything I'm capable
of doing and being, and yet the kids still fight
like crazy, and the bickering is just intense, and their
unwillingness to help when I need it, and the list
is just a mile long. And I just had got
(11:10):
to the point where I kind of felt, you know what,
I actually don't want to carry this anymore. It just
feels too heavy. And the interesting thing is, over the years,
as I've spent many hours with my dad is it's
not usually anything he says. It's just that I feel
enveloped in love in those moments. And as I watched
(11:34):
him start to process, I recognize that there was actually
two things going on for him in that moment. He
was trying to process my pain while he actually relived
his own as a parent. To be a parent means
that you pretty much wear your heart on the outside
all the time, and it has the potential to break
(11:57):
a million times over so many different ways and for
so many different reasons. But to just know that, well,
my dad couldn't fix it, he could love me and
he could understand and he could sit with me in
that space was such a gift. And so I guess
(12:21):
the take home for me is remembering that my relationship
with my dad has never been perfect. It has been
fraught with challenge, and there have been dean fights over
the years, and you know, disharmony and discord and real
honest challenge. But when the going gets tough, he's my
(12:44):
safe harbor. He's the place that I want to go
because I know that the turbulenceeeds can't reach me in
that space. And if he can do that for me
in spite of all of my weakness with my own children,
hopefully I can be that person for them. Now. They
think they're big kids and they're capable of doing life
on their own and that's what they're supposed to be doing.
(13:05):
But there will come a time where the seas will
get too much. And if they only know that, well
I can't fix it, that they can come home to
a place of love, then I think I've succeeded as
a parent.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
That's my takeover, Kylie. I really love that that story
and I'm grateful they shared it. It also reminds me
of all the times where I get it wrong, where
I'm not the cool dad, where I'm not the patient dad,
where I'm anything but, and it's a great reminder for
how we can be better. The Happy Families podcast is
produced by Justin Rulan from Bridge Media. Craig Bruce is
our executive producer. Hey, we really hope that you have
(13:39):
a great weekend. We are definitely going to have a
great weekend because Richard Marx this tonight. I can't wait
for that and I'm hoping that tomorrow we're not going
to be so tired that we can't be great parents
for the weekend. Have a great weekend, everyone. Thanks so
much for listening to The Happy Family's podcast. If you
would like more information about how to make your family happier,
you can find it all at happy families dot com
(14:00):
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It's their Happy Family's podcast Richard Marx q pac No kids,
Well you and me go to a rich Marx concert,
my honey.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
At least I get to do a next year.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
You know how at the start of the podcast, j R.
Always puts the best part of the podcast right there
that I think is a big quote. If he doesn't
do it, he didn't think it was as good as
you and I did. And now here's the stars of
our show, my mum and dad. Hello, this is doctor
Justin Colson, the founder of Happy Families dot com dot you.
I've been such a good mood today because it's Friday.
(00:35):
But do you know what I'm really excited about, Kylie?
I think I know, yeah, yeah, yeah, Well that's because
you heard me quing a few things up and getting
ready here on on YouTube. Right. So when you say,
what what do we? What have I I'm.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
Being dragged along to a concert night.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
So we going to a concert tonight. I'm so excited
we go to a concert? And how excited are you?
Speaker 2 (00:57):
Concerts aren't really my thing? Oh?
Speaker 1 (00:59):
Come on, but what about song? Do you remember? Do
you remember when we were dating? I'm sure I must
have sung this to you. You remember this song. Remember yeah, So, folks,
we are going to see Richard Marx tonight.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
At Q Pak.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Boom. Remember this. It's going to be so great. I
cannot wait. This is what parenting is all about, having
a night off from the kids. So asleep, you are
going to get into trouble.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
Tickets in cost you half as much as Billy Joel.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
We're going to be hearing great songs like this. Remember,
Richard Marx is amazing, big hair a great stuff. You're
my favorite song of all the Richard Marks songs. Though,
tell me that I have a guess. Can you remember
the what do you think would be the best one?
I love right here waiting great stuff? You're not You're
(01:48):
not guessing. You're looking at me like you don't know
any of your songs, so you can't possibly guess about
this one. This one.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
I'm sad.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
I love this one Hazard and you know what I
love about this song? You just don't know what happened?
Speaker 2 (02:05):
I know was what's so devastating?
Speaker 1 (02:07):
Was a creep? I mean he's he's singing the song
and he sounds like such a nice guy. But was
he a creep? Or is he just a scapegoat? Did
something bad happen. I'm so excited tonight. I'm so palmed.
This is like a I get to relive my mid
to late adolescents, early adolescents. I can't even remember what
years it was. But Richard Marx Q pack no kids,
(02:27):
well you were me, baby, are.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
Richard Mark's concept? My honey? At least I get to
do it next year.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
That might be the line of the day. I think
that needs to be our A big quote. Like you
know how at the start of the podcast, Jr. Always
puts the best part of the podcast right there that
I think is he's if he doesn't do it, he
didn't think it was as good as you and I
did as well as I did anyway. Hey, so that's
that's enough personal news for now. We've got some more
big news. We're going to talk more about this next week.
(02:54):
But we have a daughter who's about to leave home,
like literally leave home and move as far away just
about it you can.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
We've got three more sleeps.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
Yeah, other side of the world. Do a number two.
She's about to fly the nest.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
Well she might be doing a number two, but we've
not had a child do something.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
This speak Well, I first thought he got married at
nineteen that was pretty big. But this one, yes, but
she's lived ten minutes away from this one at the
age of twenty, is flying to England for eighteen months.
So we'll talk about it.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Just put this into perspective because I'm really a little
bit nervous.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
She's got to get on.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
A plane here in Marucci door and fly to Sydney.
But from Sydney she then has to go to the
international airport or by herself and get on a flight
to go to Katar. Yeah, and once she's in Qatar,
she then has to find herself on another airplane to
get all the way to Manchester.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
It's so exciting, so exciting.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
I'm not sure she's going to even make it. I'm
really nervous.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
Well today for Alder, but it's tomorrow. I want to
talk about that daughter and the experiences we've had. And
I had a wake up call, I guess. So I
had this eye opening moment on Sunday. So for those
of you who have missed the news, our daughter is
going to spend eighteen months as a missionary for our
church in the United Kingdom and doing all sorts of
missionary work and service work. And I think it's going
(04:14):
to be such a good thing. One of the challenges
that you have as a parent as your kids grow
up is it's really hard to see them as anything
other than your kid, the one who fights with their
sisters or brothers and has a big sook when the
dishes need to be done, or mind you, this daughter
is really good with the dishes. But I'm just using
these as examples. We see this child as the obstinate one,
(04:36):
or the one who doesn't know how to take anything
seriously or can't possibly take everything. So yeah, I can't
possibly live without our oversight and our guidance, And that's
kind of I mean, she's my little girl, she might
be our second daughter, and she's definitely an adult. She's
been working, and over the last couple of years, Kylie,
I've found that I have underestimated her with the very
(04:59):
best of intention. Multiple times, I've seen what she's done
as she's finished school, got through school really well, and
then done the things that she's done since school, And
now she's doing this, and she's blown me away. Every
time I've paused and taken a good look at Holy smags,
look at this kid. Go on Sunday in our church congregation.
She was asked to stand up and address I don't know,
(05:19):
two hundred and fifty three hundred people for fifteen minutes.
She was asked to give a fifteen minute talk about
her preparations and things that she holds really dear. And
she spent some time on Saturday morning putting some thoughts together,
and I asked her she needed a hand. She said, no,
I've got it, and I was thinking, hang on, I'm
the professional speaker here, like you need my help, but
I didn't push. She said I've got it, and I said, okay, well,
(05:41):
let's just hope that she doesn't crash and burn. She
stood up in front of that congregation and spoke for
fifteen sixteen minutes and was extraordinary. And I'm not saying
that as a completely subjective, emotionally involved father. I'm pretty impartial,
pretty disinclined to give praise to people who give talks,
(06:03):
because it's really rare to find somebody who will give
a great talk. She did such a great job that
when she finished, I thought to myself, I think she
just gave the perfect talk, Like there is literally nothing
that I want to say to her about what she
could have done better. She just did such a great job.
(06:24):
And I told her that, I just said, I'm not
into praise. I'm not into making you feel good just
because i'm your dad and i'm supposed to you know that,
I'll tell you if I liked it and if I
didn't like it. And I just said, I can't think
of anything you could have done better. That was absolutely brilliant.
And again I just sat there, Kylie, and I thought,
so often we think to ourselves about our kids. Are
they not ready or I haven't prepared them well enough,
or this or that or oh my goodness, I hope
(06:46):
they're not going to go out there and make a
full of themselves or are full of me, or any
of those things. And I am concerned that she can't cook.
I am concerned that she's not going to do the
washing the right way or all of those adult things
that you just But she can learn those once she's
out there, once she's living life.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
There's nothing like real life experience. Yeah, yeah, to teach
us the things that we need to learn at the
right time.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
I was just so blown away. I was so blown
away by this kid and for all of the ups
and downs of parenting and all the times where I think,
oh my goodness, I might be a parenting expert. I'm done.
This is so hard. I'm sick of the kids. I
want to have some time away. This was just outstanding,
And that's my old do Better tomorrow. Just I guess
we have to keep on doing what we're doing because
(07:30):
it's working out, okay. We just don't see it when
we're in the moment, when we see the kids in
a different context, when they're not being our kids, when
they're being people in society, when they're at a friend's house,
or when they're at school, when they're down at the
park or whatever it is. That's when we get to
see who they really are. Not when they're in the
living room and they're squabbling with their sister about who
(07:50):
ate somebody's last piece of chocolate. That's not what really
shows who they are. It's the stuff they're doing out there.
And I just feel so grateful. What's your old do
better tomorrow? As we get all set for our concert tonight.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
Well, in contrast to that, I've had a pretty tough week.
I've been physically unwell for much of the week, and.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
You're coming off the back of me having a couple
of lousy weeks. Do you know how I got over
my lousy couple of weeks? Two things. First of all,
you treated me like there was nothing wrong. That made
a huge difference. And secondly, after two weeks of languishing
and just thinking, heck, I'm a well being expert, I'm
a parenting expert. I'm supposed to how this works. I
just decided that I was going to pretend that everything
was fine, and by pretending actually suddenly got better.
Speaker 2 (08:38):
So fake it till you make it.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
Yeah, yeah, kind of yeah, faked. That's not clinical psychological advice.
There's a lot more work that needs to be done
for people who are dealing with depression, anxiety and so on,
But sometimes that's actually all you need. Just fake it
till you make it. I bounced back like I came
good in in phenomenal ways because I faked it till
I made it. Even in relation to a couple of
bigger issues and a couple of big relationships, I just
pretended they were fine, and they actually became fine. Like
(09:01):
they're not perfect, they're still stuff, but they're fine. Anyway,
I cut you off. So you've had a tough, tough week,
and you've been sick for a few days, which makes
it worse.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
And so the mood kind of for me has shifted,
and I was feeling quite low, and then the lead
up to Sunday was feeling pretty depleted emotionally and physically,
and I ended up calling my dad and asking him
to pop over and just spend some time with me.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
And when you say you called your dad and us
him to pop over, he lives an hour and forty
minutes away with your mum. I like, they lived together,
but your mum wasn't well enough to come. So your
dad just jumped in the car and said, sure, I'll
come and spend an hour and forty minutes with you.
He did, well, I'll drive for an hour and forty
minutes so that I can spend some time with you.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
And so, because of the timing of his day, we
actually attended church together and you know, relished in the
opportunity to see our daughter just blossom, really blossom. Yeah,
it was. It was interesting because their oldest sister actually
looked at me that afternoon and she said, did I
(10:02):
actually just literally witness Abby grow up today? She was
personally blown away at who was standing in front of her,
and the things that she shared and just the confidence
that her challenges have actually given her. Yeah, and it
was really beautiful to witness. So coming off the back
(10:24):
of that and still feeling quite low and just really
needing to be with my dad, I sat with him
for a little bit of time and kind of offloaded
would be the best words.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
Just had a big cry and this is what has
been like being married justin.
Speaker 2 (10:45):
But I just I pose the question is it really
worth it? Like I feel like I have given the
very best of everything I am and everything I'm capable
of doing and being, and yet the kids still fight
like crazy, and the bickering is just intense, and their
unwillingness to help when I need it, and the list
is just a mile long. And I just had got
(11:10):
to the point where I kind of felt, you know what,
I actually don't want to carry this anymore. It just
feels too heavy. And the interesting thing is, over the years,
as I've spent many hours with my dad is it's
not usually anything he says. It's just that I feel
enveloped in love in those moments. And as I watched
(11:34):
him start to process, I recognize that there was actually
two things going on for him in that moment. He
was trying to process my pain while he actually relived
his own as a parent. To be a parent means
that you pretty much wear your heart on the outside
all the time, and it has the potential to break
(11:57):
a million times over so many different ways and for
so many different reasons. But to just know that, well,
my dad couldn't fix it, he could love me and
he could understand and he could sit with me in
that space was such a gift. And so I guess
(12:21):
the take home for me is remembering that my relationship
with my dad has never been perfect. It has been
fraught with challenge, and there have been dean fights over
the years, and you know, disharmony and discord and real
honest challenge. But when the going gets tough, he's my
(12:44):
safe harbor. He's the place that I want to go
because I know that the turbulenceeeds can't reach me in
that space. And if he can do that for me
in spite of all of my weakness with my own children,
hopefully I can be that person for them. Now. They
think they're big kids and they're capable of doing life
on their own and that's what they're supposed to be doing.
(13:05):
But there will come a time where the seas will
get too much. And if they only know that, well
I can't fix it, that they can come home to
a place of love, then I think I've succeeded as
a parent.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
That's my takeover, Kylie. I really love that that story
and I'm grateful they shared it. It also reminds me
of all the times where I get it wrong, where
I'm not the cool dad, where I'm not the patient dad,
where I'm anything but, and it's a great reminder for
how we can be better. The Happy Families podcast is
produced by Justin Rulan from Bridge Media. Craig Bruce is
our executive producer. Hey, we really hope that you have
(13:39):
a great weekend. We are definitely going to have a
great weekend because Richard Marx this tonight. I can't wait
for that and I'm hoping that tomorrow we're not going
to be so tired that we can't be great parents
for the weekend. Have a great weekend, everyone. Thanks so
much for listening to The Happy Family's podcast. If you
would like more information about how to make your family happier,
you can find it all at happy families dot com
(14:00):
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