June 12, 2025 • 24 mins
In this episode of Celeste, the Therapist, Celeste explores the powerful impact of disciplined consumption on our mindset and daily habits. Drawing inspiration from motivational speaker Myron, she discusses how changing what you consume can help you shift from merely surviving to actively living a fulfilling life. Celeste emphasizes the importance of being mindful about the media and information you expose yourself to and how this intentional consumption can lead to positive changes in your mental health and overall well-being. Tune in for practical tips and insights on how to start incorporating disciplined consumption into your wellness journey. Don't forget to check out the visual version of this episode on YouTube for an enhanced experience.
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(00:02):
Hey, thank you all so much for joining another episode of Celeste, the therapist
podcast. My name is Celeste. I'm a therapist from Boston. If you've never been
into my podcast before, I appreciate you for giving me a
try. What we do on this podcast is I talk about issues
that we go through, and I help you think about ways you can
work through them. My whole platform and the premise of what
(00:23):
I talk about is helping you shift the way you think Because
we can get stuck in some faulty thinking And
I realize like a lot of us are so used
to just surviving life. We don't recognize like how
we can work on living life And there are some things that
we can do that we don't recognize Oh, if I just change the way i'm doing
(00:43):
this or if I just change my exposure to this It
can really help me shift my mindset, right? So
today we're talking about the consumption what you consume One
of the things I do if you've been listening to this for a while. I love listening to motivational
videos I look at it as my medicine and I
was listening to I can't think of his name right now myron something
(01:06):
And one of the things he talked about as creating change
is the consumption of what we consume. So we're
just going to jump right into it. And if you are listening
to me on audio, don't forget these episodes are
on YouTube. I create visuals. So
if you want to follow along, if you want to make this part of your Wellness
(01:28):
journey right these podcasts I'm talking about very short to
the point to help you with the way
that you're operating so one of the words that he used was
discipline consumption and How that can
help people with their habits, right? And so that
was one of the things that he shared and I just wanted
to break specifically discipline consumption down because
(01:51):
I recognize people may not realize exactly how
the way that they're consuming things could be affecting their mental health, right?
So what is discipline consumption? So in the context of mental health
and well-being, it's the mindful, intentional approach to
what we consume in life. Including not only material goods,
(02:12):
but experiences and activities, right? Obviously like
food is something we consume. I feel like that's another topic just really
quick This is not a part of my podcast, but what you
eat as well can affect your mental health brain fog all
of these things So really be mindful of it. That's a podcast by
itself that I want to create Where I'm talking about like
(02:33):
the foods and things that you're eating moving your body like
it matters today. We're talking about conversations,
what you're exposing yourself to, right? Because a lot of times we
don't realize like, oh, I'm having these conversations with my coworkers even
after work, talking about all the hard things that have happened at work,
not recognizing like you're just allowing yourself to stay in that space
(02:55):
mentally, right? You could leave work and still find yourself
consumed by work, right? So this idea of disciplined
consumption, I hope that if you have been struggling
with some of the ways that you're feeling and thinking, It'll
help you think about well, like what is it that I'm consuming when
I'm struggling I check in with myself Okay, what am I doing? I
(03:16):
know if I watch a movie like I'll look at what the movie's about
I don't like watching sad stuff I just don't I'm not saying like you
can't watch that me personally I know what my limitations
are and I won't watch the movie and if I do watch something in
a scene or something catches me off guard I can really feel it and how I
feel and I work on changing my algorithm by watching something
(03:37):
funny So the forms of
consumption, media, like what we're watching, what we're seeing,
conversations and self-talk, right?
So your consumption of information and perspectives happen
in these various forms. So I want you to be mindful of
these forms of consumption. I'm gonna talk about how they affect
(03:59):
us, right? I'm gonna break it down. So the media consumption,
right? What you're watching on TV, what you
are looking at on social media. So there's
visual and audio influence, right? So the content we assume through
television, movies, and music can create strong emotions.
I just post, you know, someone's like, oh, you don't go on
(04:22):
your stories as much on Instagram. I'm actually busy too. One
of the things is I'm busy, but also, Social media
is, I mean, what's happening around the world is hard. There's a lot of hard news.
And as much as I try to curate my feed, sometimes
things come up. And I can feel it in my spirit,
like, especially one of the things I don't like, I don't like bullies. And
(04:43):
there's a lot happening in America that I feel like is very bullying behavior.
When I say there's nothing I can do about it meaning I can't change it overnight And
also I just want people to be mindful too. Like there's so much going on.
We can't Save the world by ourselves. We can't put our
hands in everything So what I look at what i'm doing as
(05:03):
i'm working with mental health and helping people shift their thought
process. I look at my My platform and what
I do is part of the solution right sometimes what
you do to help is take care of yourself right being of
sound mind right there's just so much happening but the
the things that we're watching if we're not mindful we
(05:25):
can find ourselves being um emotionally
responding to all the things that we're seeing um
i just seen a post uh there's a psychologist i love
dr judith Joseph and she was sharing
about this study that um she was
on another podcast she's so lucky and she was sharing a
(05:45):
study about how when they took people's phones
away for two weeks They took people's phones away
for two weeks their joy like their joy Numbers
are because they don't really they was talking about that experience the joy started to rise
Right because they're not being consumed by all of this stuff that's happening. They're
making connections. They're in nature so really
(06:07):
being mindful of how much social media you're consuming even
if it's not about it being bad news just sitting on your phone and
all day, in between the moments you have, not
really enjoy your food, not really allowing the sun
to hit you, that's a problem. Another way
media consumption can influence us, so
(06:27):
normalization of behavior. So media often portrays certain behaviors
as normal or acceptable. Being mindful, a
lot of Teenagers are a lot some 42 And
and I didn't grow up with social media social media social Facebook came
out when I was in college And I think that a
lot of the shows and things that people are seeing Because you
(06:49):
see them so much you get desensitized and they feel normal The
way that they show a crime or people
go live and somebody just got shot or something, right?
People get so desensitized to it. I haven't been desensitized. Like
that stuff really makes me sad. I think about the
people's families. And so there's a lot of ways
(07:12):
that when you are over consuming certain media,
The behavior starts to feel seem normal like being depressed
or I think about and I'm not knocking church But
I grew up in church. I think about certain like
churches how Being poor or not having nothing
people it just becomes normal like as if they're not supposed to
(07:35):
Have wealth or or have joy, right? It's the the
um the way that the the wealth or
like you see the pastors and and stuff with these like nice
cars and everybody in the sanctuary kind of suffering and
i'm not saying this is all churches but there's this normalization
of behaviors that take place When
(07:55):
we consume certain media over and over again, so be mindful I
like I'll watch a reality TV show but I
know that that is a Reality TV show and there's a
lot going on behind the scenes and what we see is not always
what it is Like I'm conscious of that Sometimes if you're
watching this stuff, you're not conscious of that you're seeing the
(08:16):
girl get the 50 roses and roses aren't cheap
and then you don't realize you may have an attitude with your partner because they
never got you a rose right so being mindful of
recognizing what you're consuming, how is it making you
feel? And then these cognitive patterns, right?
So repeated exposure to specific themes or narratives
(08:38):
can create cognitive biases. So this example, it says,
if someone is constantly exposed to negative portrayals of certain groups or situations,
it may shape their beliefs, attitudes towards those groups leading to
stereotypes or prejudices. I
grew up watching Law and Order, Matlock, those
like kind of crime shows right and um
(09:00):
it it was like normal for the police to press for stuff because
we're like oh they're guilty right we know they're guilty it
wasn't until all of the things came out and a
lot of people have already been aware i didn't understand systemic racism
until i got to college in my africana studies class like i
literally literally was oblivious to it Now, when
(09:21):
I'm watching, if I'm watching like a law and order or those like
Chicago, like those Chicago blues or, and they're roughing
up somebody, I immediately like get pissed off. Before I
never used to get pissed off because I seen it so much, it was just normal.
But then I recognized like, this isn't normal. This is why there's so much stereotypes that
take place in the black, within the black community, not
(09:42):
just with outside races, but even with our own race, like there's so much
biases that take place, when people look
a certain way or move a certain way or have certain clothes on, we
don't realize it's because they normalize that those are the criminals in
these certain shows, right? So my mind
is so aware of how certain things are portrayed and
(10:04):
how it may not be fair. Now
conversations, right? So we just talked about how media can affect
you. Let's talk about the conversations that you're having with people,
right? So social influences of social interactions.
So the conversations we're having with friends, families, colleagues can
significantly impact our self-perception and emotional state. So
(10:26):
on both ends, it's not just a negative way it can affect us, because it
can affect us positive ways. And also, let me just be clear with the media stuff.
I kind of like hit on like the ways it can affect you negatively, but
I listen to motivational videos almost every day. I send
quotes to people. I send things that stick out for me. Those
things that I'm listening, they have an effect, but they have a positive effect
(10:49):
where it's making me feel like I can conquer my day. It's making me
feel that like, um, this day is going to be great when I start my
day that way. Right. So not only does the media can affect you
in a negative way, it can also affect you in a positive way. Obviously my podcast, my
platform. I talk about mental health, I talk about ways you can shift your thinking.
So obviously, there's positive effects of
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the media. And the same with conversations, what we're getting into.
So self-perception, emotional state. So positive
supportive conversations can boost your self-esteem and encourage personal
growth, while negative or critical conversations can lead
to self-doubt and feelings of inadequacy. right
so being mindful when you talk to certain people I you know
(11:32):
my circle is a lot smaller than it was before but I
recognize now that I'm older and I can look back how certain people
the things they would say would affect me in a certain way and not
realizing how I'm feeling because it's based off of what they've
said I can't help what people say but I can
be mindful on how much engagement I have with them. I
(11:52):
started off this podcast saying like when people are at
work talking about, oh, all the toxic stuff that's happened and then you leave
work, you call and talking about it, you're keeping yourself in that space, not
realizing that this conversation is affecting me
in a negative way. Now let's say you find a group,
let's say you want to become an entrepreneur and you find a group that's
(12:13):
doing things, you'll be surprised. Being in that group of
entrepreneurs will help influence you and
it will help you feel like, you know what, I can do this. So the
conversations you're having with people, being mindful how
they can lead you into this way of opportunity and
growth or to stagnation and poor self-esteem. Another
(12:35):
way conversations can affect you is emotional contagion.
So emotions can be contagious, engaging with people who are
consistently negative or pessimistic can drain their energy. And
then obviously, if you're talking to people that are positive, when people
talk to me, they always say like, dang, I feel so motivated, I feel this.
You know, when you listen to my podcast, my platform is meant to encourage
(12:56):
you, to empower you. So like those kinds of conversations I
have with people are typically empowering and encouraging. Now
be mindful of the ones that are draining. You ever get off the phone with somebody and
you're like, oh my God, I feel so tired. You may not even realize that I'm constantly
bringing this awareness to people when I work with them about, it's
not that those people are bad, but you've allowed yourself to
(13:17):
be a dumping ground, right?
Where they know if I call Celeste, she gonna listen, right? And
then you might've had 10, 15, 11 things to do and
you find yourself draining when you get off the phone. Conversations that
you have with people can encourage you motivate you or
it can drain you and I'm not saying those people that may be
(13:38):
draining I'm not saying cut them off or don't talk to them because some of
them could be your kid right or your friend what
I'm saying is be aware of what you're
feeling and and what you're doing with them because a lot
of times we stay in these states with people
and we don't recognize how we're affected and if you're really cool with them it's
(13:59):
okay to be like hey you know I realize like we're always talking
about work right we're on vacation how about we like leave work
at work you might be able to encourage them to get out of their own way Instead
of it just being, well, this is how Celeste is. Don't be telling people this is just how I
am. Come tell me that you're struggling with how I'm
communicating and that I'm draining you. I would rather know. And
(14:20):
if it's a meaningful relationship, I think it's important to
let people know, because they don't know. If you've always allowed yourself to
be available, that's all they know of you. But if you say,
and it's not a bad thing, if you say something like, I
recognize that, you're always saying
hard things about work and it seems like it's draining
(14:42):
and I know I get overwhelmed by it. Have you thought about like
maybe like let's just talk about work for 10 minutes and then let's
just leave it there right because what we engage in
and what we consume will consume our mind. Our mind can only go at the direction
that we take it. And we don't recognize that our mind is only going at
the direction we take it. So if we're on reality TV and social media
all day, our mind is only going at that direction, right? If
(15:05):
we're listening to Celeste's Therapist podcast, if we're listening to
all these amazing motivational speakers, if
we're in nature, right? If we are working on our goals,
our mind is gonna go at the direction that we're taking it, right? We
have more power than we realize. We just have to start to have
faith and start to believe in ourselves. The last thing about conversations I
(15:26):
want to say is conversations often reinforce our existing beliefs
and attitudes. Unfortunately, like
now, you can believe anything that's like crazy,
somebody's gonna believe it with you, right? Being mindful
on like what you believe in, make sure it's what you want and
not what society says, right? My thing is if you're
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not harming anybody, you're not harming yourself or others, like
allow the thoughts and stuff to flow and see where it
takes you, but being mindful, That is your
stuff and not someone else's stuff. The only way to do that is to really spend
some time alone, right? We struggle with being alone, but I
promise you it's helpful to spend some time alone so you can really
(16:08):
know, is this me or is this my culture? Is this my family? Is this
what my mom and my daddy want me to do? Or is this what I really want to do, right?
So these are some ways in which the
conversations can affect us. And again, it can
go in a positive direction or a negative direction. And
then the last thing is, oh, we just talked about
(16:29):
the normalization of behaviors. Yeah,
we just talked about that. So the forms of, oh,
wait, no, I'm going backwards. Hold on, give me one second, guys. Let
me go to the next one. media consumption we
talked about that one all right and
(16:49):
then we talked about conversations and then the next one the
last one is self-talk this is so important y'all know why this is so
important you with yourself 24 7 of course this is
so important like your your voice and the dialogue you
have with yourself it matters So the way we talk to ourself
can have a profound impact on our mental health. For me, my self-talk
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is positive. Even when I screw up, I'm like, all right, Celeste, it's okay, you got this. I'm
constantly talking to myself in a positive way. So
cognitive behavioral patterns, Our thoughts influence
our feelings and behaviors. If we consistently engage in
negative talk, it can lead to a cycle of negative emotions and
unproductive behavior. Conversely, practicing positive affirmations,
(17:31):
constructive self-talk can help break the cycle and promote healthier behaviors.
Why are you feeling stuck? You may ask the action stuff. What are you saying to
yourself? I'm constantly reframing even in real time
when I'm working with people. Wait, can you say that again? And so they'd be like dang that
didn't sound right It doesn't sound right and guess what that's what you're saying
to yourself all the time If you could just see it callously and say it to me. I
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know when you're by yourself. That's how you're talking and Change happens
with making a decision to change but if even in your mind
you're blowing that decision and telling yourself It's not gonna work. How
are you gonna make that change? Remember your mind goes at the pace that you take it.
Where are you taking your mind? Right. Are you tell what are you telling
yourself? And then the next thing I
(18:13):
want to say is mindset shifts, right? Shifting the way you
think, baby, that's what we're doing over here. So by consciously changing
our self-talk, we can shift our mindset from a fixed perspective, believing
our abilities are static, to a growth mindset,
believing we can develop our abilities. This shift
can lead to increased motivation and willingness to embrace challenges. When
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I tell y'all we are malleable, we can change just
because we were brought up a certain way, just because we were exposed
to certain things, just because we've been through certain things, doesn't mean
that we can't create change. We can absolutely create change, but
I recognize it starts with our mind. It starts with
what we are consuming, what we are allowing in our mind is so important.
(18:58):
The last thing I'll say about this, right? Cause I'm
all about like, how do we change that? Media, right?
So I said media conversations and self-talk. If you're following
me on YouTube, you can see it on the screen. So start curating your
social media feeds and choose uplifting content, right? Be mindful
of what you are consuming. Even if you're not ready to do
(19:19):
that yet and curate your feed, pay attention to
what's coming up for you when you're watching this stuff. Conversations be
intentional on engaging conversations that inspire and uplift you and
set boundaries with negative influence So if your co-worker wants
to keep talking about work after work, hey, it's five o'clock, baby
We are we off like let's go have a drink. Let's go for a walk Let's
(19:40):
leave work at work until you make that decision to be
intentional on what you engage in people will constantly consume
you with the negative talk right and you will constantly feel
like you're drained and not realize it and self-talk, be
intentional about positive self-talk and affirmations. When
I tell you like you're with yourself 24-7, Believe
(20:03):
that listen to what I'm saying. It's not a lie. You are with yourself all
the time And so if you can't talk life into
your life, right? How you expect for change to
happen right change is gonna happen But
it starts with you. It can't it's not about your past. We
can't change our past. It's not about what somebody's not doing We can't
(20:23):
make them do anything It's gonna start up here. So
I hope that was helpful. I hope that makes sense. If you're new here,
if you're in the Boston area, Stoughton area, I
have a wellness center. We have three regular classes that
take place once a month. We have mindful yen, we have
a restorative yoga, and we have a rest and restore. If
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you go to STWYT, you can find it. This
month, we are going to have two new classes. We
are going to have a trauma-informed yoga
session, and you can find out the details on stwyt.com. That
is happening Saturday, June 14th at 10 a.m. And
then at the end of the month, we're gonna have a sound healing class
(21:07):
with Jillian Miller. And if you're not familiar with trauma-informed
yoga, it can help you with your nervous support system,
body awareness. It's an empowered space, right? This
is a visual on YouTube. I'm reading it for people that are listening. And
then for a sound healing, right, the
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frequencies and the way that it flows with
this type of somatic work can help you
with your anxiety. It can have your system. create
this calmness and focus, right? So one
of the things, I created this wellness center. Again, I have a practice
where I have clinicians under me, but what my main focus
(21:50):
has been with creating this is these somatic classes. I
want us to get into our body. I want us to not just like think
about or intellectualize what we need. I want us to like
allow our body to give itself what it needs, right? And
so that's why I created it. Black owned, women owned,
right? So, you know, you can come here and feel comfortable and
(22:11):
know like this space is for you So if you are curious about
any of the classes that I do or have questions Go to
my website stwy t.com follow me on all social
media platforms at Celeste the therapist email us at
the Wellness Center is info at stwy t.com
again, that's info at stwy t.com and And
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until next time, beautiful people. Oh yeah, also, I have two books. If
you're watching me on YouTube, you can see I have this guided
journal called 365 Days of Intentional Living. And
I also have this book called Relationship Goals.
It's a guide to a healthy relationship. You can find those books
in the classes and information about me at either stwyt.com, that's
(22:55):
my wellness center, or you can go to my website, celestatherapist.com.
Hey, thank you all so much for joining another episode of Celeste, the therapist
podcast. My name is Celeste. I'm a therapist from Boston. If you've never been
into my podcast before, I appreciate you for giving me a
try. What we do on this podcast is I talk about issues
that we go through, and I help you think about ways you can
work through them. My whole platform and the premise of what
(00:23):
I talk about is helping you shift the way you think Because
we can get stuck in some faulty thinking And
I realize like a lot of us are so used
to just surviving life. We don't recognize like how
we can work on living life And there are some things that
we can do that we don't recognize Oh, if I just change the way i'm doing
(00:43):
this or if I just change my exposure to this It
can really help me shift my mindset, right? So
today we're talking about the consumption what you consume One
of the things I do if you've been listening to this for a while. I love listening to motivational
videos I look at it as my medicine and I
was listening to I can't think of his name right now myron something
(01:06):
And one of the things he talked about as creating change
is the consumption of what we consume. So we're
just going to jump right into it. And if you are listening
to me on audio, don't forget these episodes are
on YouTube. I create visuals. So
if you want to follow along, if you want to make this part of your Wellness
(01:28):
journey right these podcasts I'm talking about very short to
the point to help you with the way
that you're operating so one of the words that he used was
discipline consumption and How that can
help people with their habits, right? And so that
was one of the things that he shared and I just wanted
to break specifically discipline consumption down because
(01:51):
I recognize people may not realize exactly how
the way that they're consuming things could be affecting their mental health, right?
So what is discipline consumption? So in the context of mental health
and well-being, it's the mindful, intentional approach to
what we consume in life. Including not only material goods,
(02:12):
but experiences and activities, right? Obviously like
food is something we consume. I feel like that's another topic just really
quick This is not a part of my podcast, but what you
eat as well can affect your mental health brain fog all
of these things So really be mindful of it. That's a podcast by
itself that I want to create Where I'm talking about like
(02:33):
the foods and things that you're eating moving your body like
it matters today. We're talking about conversations,
what you're exposing yourself to, right? Because a lot of times we
don't realize like, oh, I'm having these conversations with my coworkers even
after work, talking about all the hard things that have happened at work,
not recognizing like you're just allowing yourself to stay in that space
(02:55):
mentally, right? You could leave work and still find yourself
consumed by work, right? So this idea of disciplined
consumption, I hope that if you have been struggling
with some of the ways that you're feeling and thinking, It'll
help you think about well, like what is it that I'm consuming when
I'm struggling I check in with myself Okay, what am I doing? I
(03:16):
know if I watch a movie like I'll look at what the movie's about
I don't like watching sad stuff I just don't I'm not saying like you
can't watch that me personally I know what my limitations
are and I won't watch the movie and if I do watch something in
a scene or something catches me off guard I can really feel it and how I
feel and I work on changing my algorithm by watching something
(03:37):
funny So the forms of
consumption, media, like what we're watching, what we're seeing,
conversations and self-talk, right?
So your consumption of information and perspectives happen
in these various forms. So I want you to be mindful of
these forms of consumption. I'm gonna talk about how they affect
(03:59):
us, right? I'm gonna break it down. So the media consumption,
right? What you're watching on TV, what you
are looking at on social media. So there's
visual and audio influence, right? So the content we assume through
television, movies, and music can create strong emotions.
I just post, you know, someone's like, oh, you don't go on
(04:22):
your stories as much on Instagram. I'm actually busy too. One
of the things is I'm busy, but also, Social media
is, I mean, what's happening around the world is hard. There's a lot of hard news.
And as much as I try to curate my feed, sometimes
things come up. And I can feel it in my spirit,
like, especially one of the things I don't like, I don't like bullies. And
(04:43):
there's a lot happening in America that I feel like is very bullying behavior.
When I say there's nothing I can do about it meaning I can't change it overnight And
also I just want people to be mindful too. Like there's so much going on.
We can't Save the world by ourselves. We can't put our
hands in everything So what I look at what i'm doing as
(05:03):
i'm working with mental health and helping people shift their thought
process. I look at my My platform and what
I do is part of the solution right sometimes what
you do to help is take care of yourself right being of
sound mind right there's just so much happening but the
the things that we're watching if we're not mindful we
(05:25):
can find ourselves being um emotionally
responding to all the things that we're seeing um
i just seen a post uh there's a psychologist i love
dr judith Joseph and she was sharing
about this study that um she was
on another podcast she's so lucky and she was sharing a
(05:45):
study about how when they took people's phones
away for two weeks They took people's phones away
for two weeks their joy like their joy Numbers
are because they don't really they was talking about that experience the joy started to rise
Right because they're not being consumed by all of this stuff that's happening. They're
making connections. They're in nature so really
(06:07):
being mindful of how much social media you're consuming even
if it's not about it being bad news just sitting on your phone and
all day, in between the moments you have, not
really enjoy your food, not really allowing the sun
to hit you, that's a problem. Another way
media consumption can influence us, so
(06:27):
normalization of behavior. So media often portrays certain behaviors
as normal or acceptable. Being mindful, a
lot of Teenagers are a lot some 42 And
and I didn't grow up with social media social media social Facebook came
out when I was in college And I think that a
lot of the shows and things that people are seeing Because you
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see them so much you get desensitized and they feel normal The
way that they show a crime or people
go live and somebody just got shot or something, right?
People get so desensitized to it. I haven't been desensitized. Like
that stuff really makes me sad. I think about the
people's families. And so there's a lot of ways
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that when you are over consuming certain media,
The behavior starts to feel seem normal like being depressed
or I think about and I'm not knocking church But
I grew up in church. I think about certain like
churches how Being poor or not having nothing
people it just becomes normal like as if they're not supposed to
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Have wealth or or have joy, right? It's the the
um the way that the the wealth or
like you see the pastors and and stuff with these like nice
cars and everybody in the sanctuary kind of suffering and
i'm not saying this is all churches but there's this normalization
of behaviors that take place When
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we consume certain media over and over again, so be mindful I
like I'll watch a reality TV show but I
know that that is a Reality TV show and there's a
lot going on behind the scenes and what we see is not always
what it is Like I'm conscious of that Sometimes if you're
watching this stuff, you're not conscious of that you're seeing the
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girl get the 50 roses and roses aren't cheap
and then you don't realize you may have an attitude with your partner because they
never got you a rose right so being mindful of
recognizing what you're consuming, how is it making you
feel? And then these cognitive patterns, right?
So repeated exposure to specific themes or narratives
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can create cognitive biases. So this example, it says,
if someone is constantly exposed to negative portrayals of certain groups or situations,
it may shape their beliefs, attitudes towards those groups leading to
stereotypes or prejudices. I
grew up watching Law and Order, Matlock, those
like kind of crime shows right and um
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it it was like normal for the police to press for stuff because
we're like oh they're guilty right we know they're guilty it
wasn't until all of the things came out and a
lot of people have already been aware i didn't understand systemic racism
until i got to college in my africana studies class like i
literally literally was oblivious to it Now, when
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I'm watching, if I'm watching like a law and order or those like
Chicago, like those Chicago blues or, and they're roughing
up somebody, I immediately like get pissed off. Before I
never used to get pissed off because I seen it so much, it was just normal.
But then I recognized like, this isn't normal. This is why there's so much stereotypes that
take place in the black, within the black community, not
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just with outside races, but even with our own race, like there's so much
biases that take place, when people look
a certain way or move a certain way or have certain clothes on, we
don't realize it's because they normalize that those are the criminals in
these certain shows, right? So my mind
is so aware of how certain things are portrayed and
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how it may not be fair. Now
conversations, right? So we just talked about how media can affect
you. Let's talk about the conversations that you're having with people,
right? So social influences of social interactions.
So the conversations we're having with friends, families, colleagues can
significantly impact our self-perception and emotional state. So
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on both ends, it's not just a negative way it can affect us, because it
can affect us positive ways. And also, let me just be clear with the media stuff.
I kind of like hit on like the ways it can affect you negatively, but
I listen to motivational videos almost every day. I send
quotes to people. I send things that stick out for me. Those
things that I'm listening, they have an effect, but they have a positive effect
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where it's making me feel like I can conquer my day. It's making me
feel that like, um, this day is going to be great when I start my
day that way. Right. So not only does the media can affect you
in a negative way, it can also affect you in a positive way. Obviously my podcast, my
platform. I talk about mental health, I talk about ways you can shift your thinking.
So obviously, there's positive effects of
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the media. And the same with conversations, what we're getting into.
So self-perception, emotional state. So positive
supportive conversations can boost your self-esteem and encourage personal
growth, while negative or critical conversations can lead
to self-doubt and feelings of inadequacy. right
so being mindful when you talk to certain people I you know
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my circle is a lot smaller than it was before but I
recognize now that I'm older and I can look back how certain people
the things they would say would affect me in a certain way and not
realizing how I'm feeling because it's based off of what they've
said I can't help what people say but I can
be mindful on how much engagement I have with them. I
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started off this podcast saying like when people are at
work talking about, oh, all the toxic stuff that's happened and then you leave
work, you call and talking about it, you're keeping yourself in that space, not
realizing that this conversation is affecting me
in a negative way. Now let's say you find a group,
let's say you want to become an entrepreneur and you find a group that's
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doing things, you'll be surprised. Being in that group of
entrepreneurs will help influence you and
it will help you feel like, you know what, I can do this. So the
conversations you're having with people, being mindful how
they can lead you into this way of opportunity and
growth or to stagnation and poor self-esteem. Another
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way conversations can affect you is emotional contagion.
So emotions can be contagious, engaging with people who are
consistently negative or pessimistic can drain their energy. And
then obviously, if you're talking to people that are positive, when people
talk to me, they always say like, dang, I feel so motivated, I feel this.
You know, when you listen to my podcast, my platform is meant to encourage
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you, to empower you. So like those kinds of conversations I
have with people are typically empowering and encouraging. Now
be mindful of the ones that are draining. You ever get off the phone with somebody and
you're like, oh my God, I feel so tired. You may not even realize that I'm constantly
bringing this awareness to people when I work with them about, it's
not that those people are bad, but you've allowed yourself to
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be a dumping ground, right?
Where they know if I call Celeste, she gonna listen, right? And
then you might've had 10, 15, 11 things to do and
you find yourself draining when you get off the phone. Conversations that
you have with people can encourage you motivate you or
it can drain you and I'm not saying those people that may be
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draining I'm not saying cut them off or don't talk to them because some of
them could be your kid right or your friend what
I'm saying is be aware of what you're
feeling and and what you're doing with them because a lot
of times we stay in these states with people
and we don't recognize how we're affected and if you're really cool with them it's
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okay to be like hey you know I realize like we're always talking
about work right we're on vacation how about we like leave work
at work you might be able to encourage them to get out of their own way Instead
of it just being, well, this is how Celeste is. Don't be telling people this is just how I
am. Come tell me that you're struggling with how I'm
communicating and that I'm draining you. I would rather know. And
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if it's a meaningful relationship, I think it's important to
let people know, because they don't know. If you've always allowed yourself to
be available, that's all they know of you. But if you say,
and it's not a bad thing, if you say something like, I
recognize that, you're always saying
hard things about work and it seems like it's draining
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and I know I get overwhelmed by it. Have you thought about like
maybe like let's just talk about work for 10 minutes and then let's
just leave it there right because what we engage in
and what we consume will consume our mind. Our mind can only go at the direction
that we take it. And we don't recognize that our mind is only going at
the direction we take it. So if we're on reality TV and social media
all day, our mind is only going at that direction, right? If
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we're listening to Celeste's Therapist podcast, if we're listening to
all these amazing motivational speakers, if
we're in nature, right? If we are working on our goals,
our mind is gonna go at the direction that we're taking it, right? We
have more power than we realize. We just have to start to have
faith and start to believe in ourselves. The last thing about conversations I
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want to say is conversations often reinforce our existing beliefs
and attitudes. Unfortunately, like
now, you can believe anything that's like crazy,
somebody's gonna believe it with you, right? Being mindful
on like what you believe in, make sure it's what you want and
not what society says, right? My thing is if you're
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not harming anybody, you're not harming yourself or others, like
allow the thoughts and stuff to flow and see where it
takes you, but being mindful, That is your
stuff and not someone else's stuff. The only way to do that is to really spend
some time alone, right? We struggle with being alone, but I
promise you it's helpful to spend some time alone so you can really
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know, is this me or is this my culture? Is this my family? Is this
what my mom and my daddy want me to do? Or is this what I really want to do, right?
So these are some ways in which the
conversations can affect us. And again, it can
go in a positive direction or a negative direction. And
then the last thing is, oh, we just talked about
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the normalization of behaviors. Yeah,
we just talked about that. So the forms of, oh,
wait, no, I'm going backwards. Hold on, give me one second, guys. Let
me go to the next one. media consumption we
talked about that one all right and
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then we talked about conversations and then the next one the
last one is self-talk this is so important y'all know why this is so
important you with yourself 24 7 of course this is
so important like your your voice and the dialogue you
have with yourself it matters So the way we talk to ourself
can have a profound impact on our mental health. For me, my self-talk
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is positive. Even when I screw up, I'm like, all right, Celeste, it's okay, you got this. I'm
constantly talking to myself in a positive way. So
cognitive behavioral patterns, Our thoughts influence
our feelings and behaviors. If we consistently engage in
negative talk, it can lead to a cycle of negative emotions and
unproductive behavior. Conversely, practicing positive affirmations,
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constructive self-talk can help break the cycle and promote healthier behaviors.
Why are you feeling stuck? You may ask the action stuff. What are you saying to
yourself? I'm constantly reframing even in real time
when I'm working with people. Wait, can you say that again? And so they'd be like dang that
didn't sound right It doesn't sound right and guess what that's what you're saying
to yourself all the time If you could just see it callously and say it to me. I
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know when you're by yourself. That's how you're talking and Change happens
with making a decision to change but if even in your mind
you're blowing that decision and telling yourself It's not gonna work. How
are you gonna make that change? Remember your mind goes at the pace that you take it.
Where are you taking your mind? Right. Are you tell what are you telling
yourself? And then the next thing I
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want to say is mindset shifts, right? Shifting the way you
think, baby, that's what we're doing over here. So by consciously changing
our self-talk, we can shift our mindset from a fixed perspective, believing
our abilities are static, to a growth mindset,
believing we can develop our abilities. This shift
can lead to increased motivation and willingness to embrace challenges. When
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I tell y'all we are malleable, we can change just
because we were brought up a certain way, just because we were exposed
to certain things, just because we've been through certain things, doesn't mean
that we can't create change. We can absolutely create change, but
I recognize it starts with our mind. It starts with
what we are consuming, what we are allowing in our mind is so important.
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The last thing I'll say about this, right? Cause I'm
all about like, how do we change that? Media, right?
So I said media conversations and self-talk. If you're following
me on YouTube, you can see it on the screen. So start curating your
social media feeds and choose uplifting content, right? Be mindful
of what you are consuming. Even if you're not ready to do
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that yet and curate your feed, pay attention to
what's coming up for you when you're watching this stuff. Conversations be
intentional on engaging conversations that inspire and uplift you and
set boundaries with negative influence So if your co-worker wants
to keep talking about work after work, hey, it's five o'clock, baby
We are we off like let's go have a drink. Let's go for a walk Let's
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leave work at work until you make that decision to be
intentional on what you engage in people will constantly consume
you with the negative talk right and you will constantly feel
like you're drained and not realize it and self-talk, be
intentional about positive self-talk and affirmations. When
I tell you like you're with yourself 24-7, Believe
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that listen to what I'm saying. It's not a lie. You are with yourself all
the time And so if you can't talk life into
your life, right? How you expect for change to
happen right change is gonna happen But
it starts with you. It can't it's not about your past. We
can't change our past. It's not about what somebody's not doing We can't
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make them do anything It's gonna start up here. So
I hope that was helpful. I hope that makes sense. If you're new here,
if you're in the Boston area, Stoughton area, I
have a wellness center. We have three regular classes that
take place once a month. We have mindful yen, we have
a restorative yoga, and we have a rest and restore. If
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you go to STWYT, you can find it. This
month, we are going to have two new classes. We
are going to have a trauma-informed yoga
session, and you can find out the details on stwyt.com. That
is happening Saturday, June 14th at 10 a.m. And
then at the end of the month, we're gonna have a sound healing class
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with Jillian Miller. And if you're not familiar with trauma-informed
yoga, it can help you with your nervous support system,
body awareness. It's an empowered space, right? This
is a visual on YouTube. I'm reading it for people that are listening. And
then for a sound healing, right, the
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frequencies and the way that it flows with
this type of somatic work can help you
with your anxiety. It can have your system. create
this calmness and focus, right? So one
of the things, I created this wellness center. Again, I have a practice
where I have clinicians under me, but what my main focus
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has been with creating this is these somatic classes. I
want us to get into our body. I want us to not just like think
about or intellectualize what we need. I want us to like
allow our body to give itself what it needs, right? And
so that's why I created it. Black owned, women owned,
right? So, you know, you can come here and feel comfortable and
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know like this space is for you So if you are curious about
any of the classes that I do or have questions Go to
my website stwy t.com follow me on all social
media platforms at Celeste the therapist email us at
the Wellness Center is info at stwy t.com
again, that's info at stwy t.com and And
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until next time, beautiful people. Oh yeah, also, I have two books. If
you're watching me on YouTube, you can see I have this guided
journal called 365 Days of Intentional Living. And
I also have this book called Relationship Goals.
It's a guide to a healthy relationship. You can find those books
in the classes and information about me at either stwyt.com, that's
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my wellness center, or you can go to my website, celestatherapist.com.
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