10 Signs of a One-Sided Relationship: A Guide for Christian Singles

Dating is exciting—full of possibility, growth, and laughter. But let’s be real: sometimes, relationships feel less like teamwork and more like running a solo marathon. If you’re a Christian single seeking a partnership that glorifies God, the stakes are even higher. So how do you know if you’re walking the dating road alone? Let’s break it down with a little humor, practical wisdom, and biblical truth. Here are 10 signs your relationship might be one-sided—and what you can do about […]

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Episode Transcript

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listen to right now. God bless.
Dating is exciting, full of possibility, growth, and
laughter, but let's be real. Sometimes relationships feel

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less like teamwork and more like running a
solo marathon.
If you're a Christian, single, seeking a partnership
that glorifies God, the stakes are even higher.
So how do you know if you're walking
the dating road alone?
Let's break it down with a little humor,
practical wisdom, and biblical truth.
Here are 10 signs your relationship might be

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one-sided and what you can do about it.
Number one, you're always the first to reach
out. Does your phone feel like a one
way street?
If you're always the one texting
good morning or asking
how was your day,
it's time to pause.
Relationships should be reciprocal.
If they're consistently MIA until you initiate,

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ask yourself if you're their priority
or their backup plan.
Biblical insight,
Proverbs twenty seven seventeen says,
as iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens
another.
Healthy relationships are built on mutual engagement, not
one person carrying the load.
What to do? Pull back on initiating

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and see if they step up. If they
don't, they may not value the relationship as
much as you do. Number two, they prioritize
everything else.
When your significant other always has time for
friends, hobbies, or work, but treats your time
together like a chore, it's a problem.
Sure. Life gets busy, but prioritizing
someone is a choice.

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Humorous take. If their dog gets more quality
time than you do, it's not cute anymore.
It's a one-sided relationship.
Biblical insight. Matthew six twenty one reminds us,
for where your treasure is, there your heart
will be also. If you're not a priority,
their heart might not be fully invested.
What to do? Discuss your feelings openly. If

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they're unwilling to make time for you, consider
whether this relationship aligns with your goals.
Number three,
you feel like a secret.
Have you been dating for months but still
haven't met their friends, family, or pastor?
If they're keeping you hidden, it could mean
they're not as committed as you are. Humorous
take, you shouldn't feel like a spy undercover.

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Your relationship should be out in the open.
Biblical insight, Luke eight sixteen says, no one
lights a lamp and hides it in a
jar. A genuine relationship shines brightly and isn't
concealed.
What to do?
Ask why they're hesitant to introduce you. If
there is no legitimate reason, it might be
time to reconsider.
Number four, you're the one always planning dates.

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Are you the CEO of your relationship calendar?
Do you plan every date night, dinner, or
activity while they just show up? This imbalance
can make you feel undervalued.
Humorous take. If you're the only one googling
fun date ideas, maybe the only spark here
is from your search engine.
Biblical insight.
Ecclesiastes
four nine teaches two are better than one

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because they have a good return for their
labor. Relationships
thrive on teamwork.
What to do? Give them the opportunity to
plan something. If they're unwilling, it's worth discussing
their level of commitment.
Five,
you don't feel spiritually aligned.
A Christ centered relationship should grow both partners
spiritually. If you're praying, reading scripture, and attending

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church alone while they're uninterested,
it can feel deeply unbalanced.
Biblical insight, Amish three three s, can two
walk together except they be agreed?
Spiritual unity is essential for a thriving Christian
relationship.
What to do?
Encourage spiritual discussions or invite them to join

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you in prayer or bible study.
If they're indifferent, it's a serious red flag.
Six, you're always giving,
they're always taking.
Relationships are about give and take, but if
you feel like the only one giving, that's
a problem. Whether it's emotional support, finances, or
time, balance is key.
Humorous take.

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You're a partner, not their personal ATM or
unpaid therapist.
Biblical insight, Galatians six two, calls us to
carry each other's burdens. A healthy relationship involves
mutual care and support. What to do? Set
boundaries and communicate your expectations. If they're unwilling
to give back, it's worth reconsidering.

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Seven, their actions don't match their words.
Do they say they care but consistently fail
to show it?
Words without actions are meaningless.
Humorous take.
If I love you is their favorite phrase
but their effort is MIA,
it's all talk and no walk.
Biblical insight. First John three eighteen advises, let

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us not love with words or speech, but
with actions and in truth.
Love is demonstrated through deeds.
What to do? Pay attention to patterns. Actions
reveal true intentions more than words ever could.
Eight, your concerns are always minimized.
When you try to discuss how you're feeling,
do they dismiss you? Healthy communication involves listening

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and validating each other's emotions.
Humorous take, if you feel like you're talking
to a brick wall,
it's time to stop banging your head against
it.
Biblical insight. James one nineteen encourages us to
be quick to listen, slow to speak, and
slow to become angry.
A good partner listens with care.
What to do?

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Express how their dismissal affects you. If they're
not willing to hear you out, it might
be time to move on.
Nine, you're not growing together.
A good relationship helps you grow in character,
faith, and love. If you feel stagnant or
even drained, something is off.
Biblical insight,
two Peter three eighteen urges us to grow

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in the grace and knowledge of our lord.
A god honoring relationship fosters growth, not stagnation.
What to do?
Reflect on whether this relationship brings out the
best in you. If it's holding you back,
it's okay to let go.
10,
you feel alone in the relationship.
The ultimate sign of a one-sided relationship,

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feeling lonely when you're supposed to be a
team.
If you're constantly wondering if they're truly invested,
it's time for clarity.
Humorous take,
you shouldn't feel like a contestant on a
dating show competing for their attention. It's supposed
to be a partnership.
Biblical insight. Hebrews ten twenty four reminds us

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to spur one another on toward love and
good deeds.
Relationships are about mutual encouragement and support.
What to do?
Pray for guidance and wisdom.
If the relationship doesn't feel mutual, it's okay
to step back and trust god for something
better.
The bottom line.

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One-sided relationships are draining and often lead to
heartbreak.
But here's the good news.
God wants you to experience love that reflects
his design,
one rooted in mutual respect,
care,
and Christ like love.
Final
thought. If you recognize these signs in your
relationship,
don't be afraid to evaluate it through prayer

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and wisdom.
Sometimes the healthiest choice is to let go
and trust God to bring the right person
into your life.
Remember,
you're worth pursuing,
cherishing, and prioritizing.
Don't settle for less.