Dating After Divorce as a Christian Single

Dating after divorce for Christian single men and women is wrought with theological and emotional minefields. So before discussing dating tips for the newly divorced, let us express our simple views on what we feel the Bible teaches about divorce and remarriage. A future article will discuss this in depth. The bottom line is God hates divorce (Mal. 2:16), and desires couples to reconcile if at all possible. However, under certain circumstances where there has been unrepentant infidelity, the offended […]

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Episode Transcript

(00:00):
Dating after divorce for Christian single men and
women is wrought with theological and emotional mind
fields.
So before discussing dating tips for the newly
divorced,
let us express our simple views on what
we feel the Bible teaches about divorce and
remarriage.
A future article will discuss this in-depth.

(00:20):
The bottom line is God hates divorce, Malachi
two sixteen,
and desires couples to reconcile if at all
possible.
However, under certain circumstances
where there has been unrepentant
infidelity,
the offended party may divorce and remarry.
Of course, no one remarries without first going
through a dating or courtship process.

(00:43):
Finally, we believe dating after divorce should never
be an end in itself,
but should be part of a process that
leads toward a lifelong commitment to marriage.
Okay.
Ready to talk about some dating tips?
Dating after divorce tips.
Take it slow.
Hello?

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You've just experienced the death of a relationship
that you thought would last
forever, you need time to grieve and heal.
What we teach folks in family divorce court
classes
is that they should do their best to
avoid a dating after divorce relationship for for
at least one year after their divorce.
Why?

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Because you need to reacquaint yourself with who
you are as a single person.
For so long, you may have thought in
terms of us,
but you are now alone.
It's a time for soul searching, searching, taking
stock of what went wrong, and seeking the
Lord for a new direction in your life.
Proverbs three five six.

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Not dating during this period of adjustment
will save you from making stupid impulsive mistakes.
Remember, whether you admit it or not, you
are in a vulnerable, needy state, and your
self esteem has taken a beating.
You could be taken advantage of during this
time, and your heart could be further broken.

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Even though you may be doubting your appeal
to the opposite sex at this time,
getting into rebound relationships will only delay your
healing process.
That's a fact.
Furthermore, statistics show that the vast majority of
people who date shortly after a separation and
or divorce
have a difficult time remaining sexually pure,

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make regrettable moral choices,
and tend to repeat prior relationship mistakes.
When you are finally ready to date again,
you may want to consider the benefits of
online dating.
By starting online, you can proceed at your
own pace in the safety of your own
home.
Think of your children first. If you have

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children,
the very worst thing you can inflict upon
them is dating
before you and they have properly healed and
acclimated to a new way of life.
Most kids dream about mommy and daddy getting
back together again. That's why they need time
to face reality.
When the time does come to introduce the
children to your dating partner,
this article on single parents dating and their

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kids may help.
Join a support group.
There are many Christian singles groups specifically
designed for the newly divorced,
whether they have children or not.
These can be a wonderful help to you
and your family.
Groups like divorcecare.com
meet all over the world and offer emotional
and spiritual support.

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Here, you can also meet people in your
area who is struggling with similar dating issues.
If you are a single divorcee or Christian
with views to share on dating after divorce,
please help other singles by voicing your comment.