September 25, 2025 • 5 mins
So, you’re a single Christian trying to stay holy while navigating a world that seems determined to throw temptation at you from every direction. It’s like walking through a dessert buffet when you’re on a strict diet. Except instead of desserts, it’s a never-ending stream of, well… you get the idea. Fear not, friend. This guide is here to help you keep your focus on God while keeping your sense of humor intact. Let’s dive into some practical, warm, and […]
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(00:00):
So you're a single Christian trying to stay
holy while navigating a world that seems determined
to throw temptation at you from every direction.
It's like walking through a dessert buffet when
you're on a strict diet,
except instead of desserts, it's it's a never
ending stream of well,
you get the idea.
Fear not, friend.
This guide is here to help you keep
(00:20):
your focus on God while keeping your sense
of humor intact.
Let's dive into some practical, warm, and and
slightly funny strategies to keep those desires in
check while living your best single holy life.
One,
acknowledge the desire
because you're human.
Surround yourself with people who who understand your
(00:41):
values and can support you when the going
gets tough. Whether it's a close friend, a
mentor, or a church group, having someone to
call when temptation strikes can make a world
of difference.
But maybe don't start every conversation with, hey.
I'm struggling with sexual desire.
Ease into it. Something like,
hey. Can we pray together? I'm going through
(01:01):
something. It might feel a bit less awkward.
Five,
channel your energy creatively.
Got all this pent up passion? Channel it.
Write a novel, paint a masterpiece, or tackle
your Pinterest DIY board.
God gave you creativity for a reason, and
turning your energy towards something productive not only
keeps your mind busy, but might also lead
(01:23):
to discovering hidden talents.
Bonus,
you can use these talents to impress your
future spouse someday.
Imagine casually saying, oh, that? I painted it
during my single years while resisting temptation.
Major brownie points.
Six,
guard your eyes and ears.
The stuff you consume matters.
(01:44):
If you're constantly bombarded with overly sexualized content,
your desires will naturally flare up.
Be intentional about what you watch, read, and
listen to. Opt for uplifting movies, faith based
books, and worship music
that redirects your thoughts to God.
Pro tip.
Set up boundaries on your devices.
(02:04):
Apps like CovenantEyes or accountability software can help
you stay on track.
And, hey, it's way less stressful than pretending
you didn't watch that questionable movie when someone
checks your browser history.
Seven,
practice gratitude for singleness.
It's easy to focus on what you don't
have, but remember,
(02:25):
singleness is a gift. It's a time to
grow, explore,
and deepen your relationship with God without the
marriage. Write a gratitude list about all the
things you love about this season of life.
For example,
freedom to travel without consulting anyone,
more time to binge watch Bible studies, or
let's be real with chosen. The joy of
(02:47):
hogging the bed every night.
Celebrate this stage instead of longing for the
next one.
Eight,
stay physically active.
It might sound unrelated, but staying active can
can actually help regulate your emotions and physical
urgency. Go for a jog, take a Zumba
class, or crush it in the gym.
(03:08):
10, trust God's timing.
This one's hard, but it's crucial.
Trust that God knows your desires and has
a plan for you. When you surrender your
timeline to him, it becomes easier to focus
on the present and live fully in the
now. Remember, if God's keeping you single right
now, it's for a reason.
Maybe he's still working on your future spouse,
(03:30):
or maybe he's preparing you for something even
bigger than you imagined.
11, don't demonize
marriage or sex.
Let's clear one thing up. Sex isn't dirty
or shameful. It's a beautiful gift from God
meant to be enjoyed in the context of
marriage.
Remind yourself that waiting doesn't mean you're rejecting
the gift. It means you're honoring its value.
(03:51):
Think of it like saving up for a
rare treasure. The wait makes it all the
more precious.
12,
focus on your purpose.
When you're laser focused on fulfilling your god
given purpose, there's less room for distractions.
Ask yourself,
what does god want me to do in
this season?
Whether it's starting a ministry, mentoring someone, or
(04:12):
excelling in your career, pouring your energy into
your calling can make the wait feel worthwhile.
13, remember grace.
Lastly, give yourself grace.
You're not perfect, and you're going to have
moments where you stumble.
When that happens, don't beat yourself up. Confess,
pray, and move forward knowing God's mercies are
new every morning.
(04:33):
Final thoughts.
Controlling sexual desire as a Christian single is
no walk in the park, but it's far
from impossible.
With prayer, community, creativity, and a good dose
of humor, you can navigate this season with
grace and joy. And when temptation strikes, remember,
you're not alone. God's got you, and he's
cheering you on every step of the way.
(04:54):
Now go out there and live your best
single, God honoring life. And when you finally
meet that special someone, you'll be glad you
wait.
So you're a single Christian trying to stay
holy while navigating a world that seems determined
to throw temptation at you from every direction.
It's like walking through a dessert buffet when
you're on a strict diet,
except instead of desserts, it's it's a never
ending stream of well,
you get the idea.
Fear not, friend.
This guide is here to help you keep
(00:20):
your focus on God while keeping your sense
of humor intact.
Let's dive into some practical, warm, and and
slightly funny strategies to keep those desires in
check while living your best single holy life.
One,
acknowledge the desire
because you're human.
Surround yourself with people who who understand your
(00:41):
values and can support you when the going
gets tough. Whether it's a close friend, a
mentor, or a church group, having someone to
call when temptation strikes can make a world
of difference.
But maybe don't start every conversation with, hey.
I'm struggling with sexual desire.
Ease into it. Something like,
hey. Can we pray together? I'm going through
(01:01):
something. It might feel a bit less awkward.
Five,
channel your energy creatively.
Got all this pent up passion? Channel it.
Write a novel, paint a masterpiece, or tackle
your Pinterest DIY board.
God gave you creativity for a reason, and
turning your energy towards something productive not only
keeps your mind busy, but might also lead
(01:23):
to discovering hidden talents.
Bonus,
you can use these talents to impress your
future spouse someday.
Imagine casually saying, oh, that? I painted it
during my single years while resisting temptation.
Major brownie points.
Six,
guard your eyes and ears.
The stuff you consume matters.
(01:44):
If you're constantly bombarded with overly sexualized content,
your desires will naturally flare up.
Be intentional about what you watch, read, and
listen to. Opt for uplifting movies, faith based
books, and worship music
that redirects your thoughts to God.
Pro tip.
Set up boundaries on your devices.
(02:04):
Apps like CovenantEyes or accountability software can help
you stay on track.
And, hey, it's way less stressful than pretending
you didn't watch that questionable movie when someone
checks your browser history.
Seven,
practice gratitude for singleness.
It's easy to focus on what you don't
have, but remember,
(02:25):
singleness is a gift. It's a time to
grow, explore,
and deepen your relationship with God without the
marriage. Write a gratitude list about all the
things you love about this season of life.
For example,
freedom to travel without consulting anyone,
more time to binge watch Bible studies, or
let's be real with chosen. The joy of
(02:47):
hogging the bed every night.
Celebrate this stage instead of longing for the
next one.
Eight,
stay physically active.
It might sound unrelated, but staying active can
can actually help regulate your emotions and physical
urgency. Go for a jog, take a Zumba
class, or crush it in the gym.
(03:08):
10, trust God's timing.
This one's hard, but it's crucial.
Trust that God knows your desires and has
a plan for you. When you surrender your
timeline to him, it becomes easier to focus
on the present and live fully in the
now. Remember, if God's keeping you single right
now, it's for a reason.
Maybe he's still working on your future spouse,
(03:30):
or maybe he's preparing you for something even
bigger than you imagined.
11, don't demonize
marriage or sex.
Let's clear one thing up. Sex isn't dirty
or shameful. It's a beautiful gift from God
meant to be enjoyed in the context of
marriage.
Remind yourself that waiting doesn't mean you're rejecting
the gift. It means you're honoring its value.
(03:51):
Think of it like saving up for a
rare treasure. The wait makes it all the
more precious.
12,
focus on your purpose.
When you're laser focused on fulfilling your god
given purpose, there's less room for distractions.
Ask yourself,
what does god want me to do in
this season?
Whether it's starting a ministry, mentoring someone, or
(04:12):
excelling in your career, pouring your energy into
your calling can make the wait feel worthwhile.
13, remember grace.
Lastly, give yourself grace.
You're not perfect, and you're going to have
moments where you stumble.
When that happens, don't beat yourself up. Confess,
pray, and move forward knowing God's mercies are
new every morning.
(04:33):
Final thoughts.
Controlling sexual desire as a Christian single is
no walk in the park, but it's far
from impossible.
With prayer, community, creativity, and a good dose
of humor, you can navigate this season with
grace and joy. And when temptation strikes, remember,
you're not alone. God's got you, and he's
cheering you on every step of the way.
(04:54):
Now go out there and live your best
single, God honoring life. And when you finally
meet that special someone, you'll be glad you
wait.
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