September 25, 2025 • 8 mins
Let’s be real: being a single Christian can feel like a lifelong membership to the Waiting Room Club, where the chairs are a little too hard, the magazines are way outdated, and the receptionist keeps saying, “He’ll be with you shortly.” We wait, we pray, and sometimes we even feel a little bit lost. So, if you’re feeling the pinch (or maybe even the pain) of being a single Christian, this article is for you. We’ll dive into some biblical […]
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(00:00):
Let's be real. Being a single Christian can
feel like a lifelong membership to the waiting
room club where the chairs are a little
too hard, the magazines are way outdated, and
the receptionist keeps saying, he'll be with you
shortly. We wait, we pray, and sometimes we
even feel a little bit lost. So if
you're feeling the pinch or maybe even the
pain of being a single Christian, this article
(00:21):
is for you. We'll dive into some biblical
advice, practical tips, and maybe even a few
laughs to help you get through this season
with your faith and humor intact.
One, embrace the single season as a gift.
Yes. Really.
As counterintuitive
as it sounds, singleness is often described as
a gift in the Bible. Paul himself said
(00:42):
in first Corinthians seven seven, I wish that
all of you were as I am, but
each of you has your own gift from
God. One has this gift, another has that.
So while marriage is indeed a blessing,
Paul suggests that singleness can be too.
Being single can open doors to unique experiences,
growth, and even ministry opportunities that married people
(01:03):
might not have. It's a time for self
discovery and to grow closer to God without
the distractions and obligations
that come with espousing kids.
The pain of singleness often comes from wanting
something that seems elusive. But instead of focusing
on what you don't have, try reframing it
to think about what you do have in
this season. It's like a period of divine
preparation,
(01:23):
a time when god might be doing something
profound within you.
Two, let yourself feel the feels. No spiritual
bypassing here. As Christians, we sometimes feel like
we need to put on a brave face
and say things like, I'm waiting on the
lord's timing. But deep down, it's okay to
admit that singleness can be lonely and confusing.
God never asks us to stuff our emotions
(01:45):
or pretend everything's fine when it isn't.
The Psalms are filled with raw, honest emotions,
and David, a man after god's own heart,
was never shy about expressing his despair and
frustration.
So if you're having a rough day, don't
feel guilty about it. Talk to God. Be
honest with yourself and let your emotions have
their moment. Painful as it may be, admitting
(02:06):
our struggles to God often opens the door
for him to comfort us. Matthew five four
reminds us, blessed are those who mourn, for
they shall be comforted. When you allow yourself
to be real with god, you create space
for him to heal and restore you.
Three,
surround yourself with life giving friendships. While your
single status might make you feel like a
(02:27):
third wheel sometimes,
remember that being single doesn't mean you have
to be alone.
The Bible constantly emphasizes the importance of community,
like in Ecclesiastes
four nine to 10.
Two are better than one. If either of
them falls down, one can help the other
up.
Friendships,
especially with other believers, can be a powerful
(02:47):
source of encouragement and laughter, yes,
laughter,
during tough times.
Make time to build friendships that lift you
up, where you can share your dreams, struggles,
and victories.
Whether it's joining a small group, finding a
mentor,
or just having that friend who brings snacks
and terrible jokes,
friends can help make this season a little
(03:08):
easier.
Four,
be cautious about dating apps. Swipe right on
discernment.
In the age of dating apps, it's easy
to feel like God's plan is just a
swipe away.
While these platforms can connect you with people
you wouldn't meet otherwise,
proceed with caution.
Rushing into a relationship or lowering your standards
(03:28):
can lead to heartache and detours from god's
best.
Proverbs four twenty three warns,
above all else, guard your heart for everything
you do flows from it.
Being discerning doesn't mean you can't try online
dating. It just means you need to prayerfully
consider each connection.
Remember that not everyone on a Christian dating
site is necessarily walking closely with God.
(03:50):
Be patient,
don't compromise,
and let God guide your steps as you
navigate this complex digital world.
Five,
pursue your passions and purpose.
One of the biggest myths about singleness is
that life begins after marriage
as if your real purpose is on hold
until you have a ring on your finger.
That's far from the truth.
(04:12):
You are a complete and whole person as
you are with unique gifts, dreams, and a
purpose.
Ephesians two ten says, for we are God's
handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good
works,
which God prepared in advance for us to
do.
Instead of waiting to become complete in a
relationship,
use this time to discover who you are
(04:32):
and what God has planned for you.
Volunteer, start that passion project, or maybe even
go on a mission trip.
This is your time to shine and grow
into the person God created you to be.
Six,
learn to laugh. Yes, even at yourself.
Sometimes the best remedy for loneliness and pain
is a good laugh.
(04:54):
Proverbs seventeen twenty two reminds us, a cheerful
heart is good medicine.
Laugh at the awkward moments, the well meaning
but cringy advice from married friends, and even
the things you used to worry about.
Humor has a way of lifting our spirits
and giving us perspective.
There will always be people who ask, so
when are you getting married or offer unsolicited
(05:16):
advice about your love life.
Instead of getting frustrated, try to find the
humor in it. It's amazing how much lighter
life feels when we can laugh at the
things we can't control.
Seven, remember that God's timing is perfect.
It can be hard to trust God's timing
when you're already tired of waiting,
but let's look at Romans eight twenty eight.
(05:37):
And we know that in all things, God
works for the good of those who love
him, who have been called according to his
purpose.
God's timeline might not align with ours, but
he promises that his plans are for our
ultimate good.
Remember the story of Sarah and Abraham who
waited for years for god's promise of a
child?
Their story wasn't without mistakes, but ultimately, God
(05:59):
fulfilled his promise.
If God has put the desire for marriage
in your heart, trust that he sees you,
and he knows the timing that's best.
Eight,
grow closer to God in the waiting.
Psalm 37 verse four says,
delight yourself in the Lord, and he will
give you the desires of your heart.
(06:21):
Instead of viewing singleness as a waiting room,
think of it as an invitation to grow
closer to god.
Use this time to deepen your faith,
immerse yourself in scripture, and cultivate a relationship
with him that will be the bedrock of
any future relationship.
Marriage doesn't make you closer to God and
being single doesn't distance you from him. But
(06:42):
how you use this season to nurture your
spiritual growth will influence everything that comes next.
Nine, serve others, the secret remedy for loneliness.
One of the best ways to combat loneliness
is to serve others.
Jesus constantly modeled the life of service, and
serving others not only blesses them, but also
(07:04):
fills your own heart with joy and purpose.
Find a ministry,
volunteer at a shelter, or offer your time
and skills to those in need.
You'd be amazed at how much fulfillment comes
from giving to others.
Jesus constantly modeled a life of service, and
serving others not only blesses them, but also
fills your own heart with joy and purpose.
(07:25):
Find a ministry,
volunteer at a shelter, or offer your time
and skills to those in need. You'd be
amazed at how much fulfillment comes from giving
to others, and you might even meet like
minded people along the way.
10, don't forget
you are enough.
At the end of the day, it's easy
to feel like singleness defines you, but remember
(07:45):
that your worth comes from God, not your
relationship status.
Psalm 139
verse 14 says, I praise you because I
am fearfully and wonderfully made. My works are
wonderful. I know that full well.
God sees you, loves you, and calls you
enough just as you are.
Singleness might be a tough season, but it's
also one filled with opportunities to grow,
(08:06):
laugh, serve, and trust in god's timing. So
take a deep breath,
laugh at the awkwardness,
Let's be real. Being a single Christian can
feel like a lifelong membership to the waiting
room club where the chairs are a little
too hard, the magazines are way outdated, and
the receptionist keeps saying, he'll be with you
shortly. We wait, we pray, and sometimes we
even feel a little bit lost. So if
you're feeling the pinch or maybe even the
pain of being a single Christian, this article
(00:21):
is for you. We'll dive into some biblical
advice, practical tips, and maybe even a few
laughs to help you get through this season
with your faith and humor intact.
One, embrace the single season as a gift.
Yes. Really.
As counterintuitive
as it sounds, singleness is often described as
a gift in the Bible. Paul himself said
(00:42):
in first Corinthians seven seven, I wish that
all of you were as I am, but
each of you has your own gift from
God. One has this gift, another has that.
So while marriage is indeed a blessing,
Paul suggests that singleness can be too.
Being single can open doors to unique experiences,
growth, and even ministry opportunities that married people
(01:03):
might not have. It's a time for self
discovery and to grow closer to God without
the distractions and obligations
that come with espousing kids.
The pain of singleness often comes from wanting
something that seems elusive. But instead of focusing
on what you don't have, try reframing it
to think about what you do have in
this season. It's like a period of divine
preparation,
(01:23):
a time when god might be doing something
profound within you.
Two, let yourself feel the feels. No spiritual
bypassing here. As Christians, we sometimes feel like
we need to put on a brave face
and say things like, I'm waiting on the
lord's timing. But deep down, it's okay to
admit that singleness can be lonely and confusing.
God never asks us to stuff our emotions
(01:45):
or pretend everything's fine when it isn't.
The Psalms are filled with raw, honest emotions,
and David, a man after god's own heart,
was never shy about expressing his despair and
frustration.
So if you're having a rough day, don't
feel guilty about it. Talk to God. Be
honest with yourself and let your emotions have
their moment. Painful as it may be, admitting
(02:06):
our struggles to God often opens the door
for him to comfort us. Matthew five four
reminds us, blessed are those who mourn, for
they shall be comforted. When you allow yourself
to be real with god, you create space
for him to heal and restore you.
Three,
surround yourself with life giving friendships. While your
single status might make you feel like a
(02:27):
third wheel sometimes,
remember that being single doesn't mean you have
to be alone.
The Bible constantly emphasizes the importance of community,
like in Ecclesiastes
four nine to 10.
Two are better than one. If either of
them falls down, one can help the other
up.
Friendships,
especially with other believers, can be a powerful
(02:47):
source of encouragement and laughter, yes,
laughter,
during tough times.
Make time to build friendships that lift you
up, where you can share your dreams, struggles,
and victories.
Whether it's joining a small group, finding a
mentor,
or just having that friend who brings snacks
and terrible jokes,
friends can help make this season a little
(03:08):
easier.
Four,
be cautious about dating apps. Swipe right on
discernment.
In the age of dating apps, it's easy
to feel like God's plan is just a
swipe away.
While these platforms can connect you with people
you wouldn't meet otherwise,
proceed with caution.
Rushing into a relationship or lowering your standards
(03:28):
can lead to heartache and detours from god's
best.
Proverbs four twenty three warns,
above all else, guard your heart for everything
you do flows from it.
Being discerning doesn't mean you can't try online
dating. It just means you need to prayerfully
consider each connection.
Remember that not everyone on a Christian dating
site is necessarily walking closely with God.
(03:50):
Be patient,
don't compromise,
and let God guide your steps as you
navigate this complex digital world.
Five,
pursue your passions and purpose.
One of the biggest myths about singleness is
that life begins after marriage
as if your real purpose is on hold
until you have a ring on your finger.
That's far from the truth.
(04:12):
You are a complete and whole person as
you are with unique gifts, dreams, and a
purpose.
Ephesians two ten says, for we are God's
handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good
works,
which God prepared in advance for us to
do.
Instead of waiting to become complete in a
relationship,
use this time to discover who you are
(04:32):
and what God has planned for you.
Volunteer, start that passion project, or maybe even
go on a mission trip.
This is your time to shine and grow
into the person God created you to be.
Six,
learn to laugh. Yes, even at yourself.
Sometimes the best remedy for loneliness and pain
is a good laugh.
(04:54):
Proverbs seventeen twenty two reminds us, a cheerful
heart is good medicine.
Laugh at the awkward moments, the well meaning
but cringy advice from married friends, and even
the things you used to worry about.
Humor has a way of lifting our spirits
and giving us perspective.
There will always be people who ask, so
when are you getting married or offer unsolicited
(05:16):
advice about your love life.
Instead of getting frustrated, try to find the
humor in it. It's amazing how much lighter
life feels when we can laugh at the
things we can't control.
Seven, remember that God's timing is perfect.
It can be hard to trust God's timing
when you're already tired of waiting,
but let's look at Romans eight twenty eight.
(05:37):
And we know that in all things, God
works for the good of those who love
him, who have been called according to his
purpose.
God's timeline might not align with ours, but
he promises that his plans are for our
ultimate good.
Remember the story of Sarah and Abraham who
waited for years for god's promise of a
child?
Their story wasn't without mistakes, but ultimately, God
(05:59):
fulfilled his promise.
If God has put the desire for marriage
in your heart, trust that he sees you,
and he knows the timing that's best.
Eight,
grow closer to God in the waiting.
Psalm 37 verse four says,
delight yourself in the Lord, and he will
give you the desires of your heart.
(06:21):
Instead of viewing singleness as a waiting room,
think of it as an invitation to grow
closer to god.
Use this time to deepen your faith,
immerse yourself in scripture, and cultivate a relationship
with him that will be the bedrock of
any future relationship.
Marriage doesn't make you closer to God and
being single doesn't distance you from him. But
(06:42):
how you use this season to nurture your
spiritual growth will influence everything that comes next.
Nine, serve others, the secret remedy for loneliness.
One of the best ways to combat loneliness
is to serve others.
Jesus constantly modeled the life of service, and
serving others not only blesses them, but also
(07:04):
fills your own heart with joy and purpose.
Find a ministry,
volunteer at a shelter, or offer your time
and skills to those in need.
You'd be amazed at how much fulfillment comes
from giving to others.
Jesus constantly modeled a life of service, and
serving others not only blesses them, but also
fills your own heart with joy and purpose.
(07:25):
Find a ministry,
volunteer at a shelter, or offer your time
and skills to those in need. You'd be
amazed at how much fulfillment comes from giving
to others, and you might even meet like
minded people along the way.
10, don't forget
you are enough.
At the end of the day, it's easy
to feel like singleness defines you, but remember
(07:45):
that your worth comes from God, not your
relationship status.
Psalm 139
verse 14 says, I praise you because I
am fearfully and wonderfully made. My works are
wonderful. I know that full well.
God sees you, loves you, and calls you
enough just as you are.
Singleness might be a tough season, but it's
also one filled with opportunities to grow,
(08:06):
laugh, serve, and trust in god's timing. So
take a deep breath,
laugh at the awkwardness,
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