The Gift of Singleness: 5 Top Reasons Why You Might Have It

Have you ever thought about whether or not you have the “gift of singleness?”  You’ve been praying, fasting, and maybe even sent up one of those emergency “God, if this is really your plan, please send a very clear sign because I’m not seeing it” kind of prayers. Yet, here you stand in the land of singleness, and you’re wondering: Could I actually have the gift of singleness? Let’s take a deep breath, laugh a little, and explore some reasons […]

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Episode Transcript

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Have you ever thought about whether or not
you have the gift of singleness?
You've been praying, fasting, and maybe even sent
up one of those emergency.
God, if this is really your plan, please
send a very clear sign because I'm not
seeing it kind of prayers.
Yet, here you stand in the land of
singleness and you're wondering,

(00:20):
could I actually have the gift of singleness?
Let's take a deep breath, laugh a little,
and explore some reasons why this might be
God's wonderful plan for you right now.
Spoiler alert.
Singleness
might just be a gift wrapped in unexpected
packaging.

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One, God's got plans,
big plans.
Let's be real. You're not just sitting around
doing nothing.
No. You're serving in ministry, building a career,
trying new hobbies, making time for friends,
and maybe even running a side hustle.
When you're single,
you have the freedom to do all of
these things without the added responsibility of caring

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for a spouse.
Paul knew what he was talking about when
he said, an unmarried man is concerned about
the lord's affairs,
how he can please the lord.
First Corinthians
seven thirty two.
You've got some major kingdom work to do,
and this is your moment to fully embrace
it.
In your singleness, you might be able to

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focus on things that you wouldn't otherwise be
able to do with the same intensity.
After all, there are benefits to being single.
Whether it's investing time in others, pursuing a
passion, or just being available to serve when
someone asks,
this season is all about maximizing opportunities.
There's no need to rush into another phase

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of life when this one has so much
potential.
God might just be calling you to thrive
in this current season
without the distractions of a relationship.
Two,
independence looks good on you.
There's something beautifully empowering about being single.
You've got the freedom to take spontaneous trips,

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pick up new hobbies, and even binge watch
The Chosen for the third time this month
without negotiating TV rights.
More importantly,
this independence means you have space to cultivate
your relationship with god
in a way that no one else can
touch.
It's just you and Jesus,
and that's a pretty solid duo if you

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ask me.
When you're single, you learn a lot about
yourself. You grow in ways that aren't always
possible in a relationship.
Your self awareness sharpens. You become more in
tune with your strengths and weaknesses.
And you start recognizing God's voice with more
clarity.
No one else gets to speak into your

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daily decisions quite like he does.
That's a pretty special thing.
Who needs a relationship status when you've got
an ongoing conversation
with the creator of the universe?
Three.
You're in preparation mode.
Let's talk about preparation.
Being single doesn't mean that you're just waiting

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around for something better to happen.
Think of this time as God preparing you
for what's next, whether that's a future relationship
or another path entirely.
Maybe he's equipping you with the patience to
handle future in laws, the wisdom to navigate
conflict,
or even the cooking skills to avoid burning
a romantic dinner.

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Because let's be honest, we've all been there.
If marriage is in your future, then this
is the season where god is working on
you to become the best version of yourself.
It's kind of like spiritual CrossFit.
It's tough, but the results are worth it.
And if marriage isn't part of his plan,
then he's preparing you for something even better

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that aligns perfectly
with your unique gifts and calling.
Either way, you're being shaped for greatness.
Four,
less drama, more pizza.
Not to be too blunt, but one of
the perks of being single is that you
have significantly less drama in your life.
Relationship challenges, compromises, and the inevitable what do

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you want to eat dilemma
are not your concerns right now.
And you know what that means? More time
for pizza.
See, the benefits are stacking up.
Now I'm not saying relationships are all bad.
They can be wonderful, fulfilling, and absolutely worth
it in the right context.
But sometimes, it's good to embrace the simplicity

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of life without the constant emotional roller coaster
that dating can bring.
Instead of worrying about someone else's feelings or
planning dates, you get to focus on the
things that bring you joy,
contentment, and peace.
Plus, let's be real.
Less drama means more time for Netflix,
friends, and deepening your walk with God.

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Can't argue with that. Five, your identity isn't
tied to a relationship.
One of the most beautiful truths in scripture
is that your identity is found in Christ,
not in your relationship status.
Whether you're single, dating, or married,
your worth doesn't change.
The world loves to put people in categories,
single and searching, single and not searching, or

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why are you still single?
But God doesn't work that way. He calls
you his child, his beloved, and his masterpiece,
Ephesians two ten.
And that, my friend, is where your true
value lies.
Singleness is not a problem to be solved,
but a season or calling to be embraced.
If God's plan for you includes a spouse
down the road, that's wonderful. But if it

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doesn't, you're still 100%
complete in him.
You don't need anyone else to validate your
existence or make you feel worthy.
You're already enough just as you are.
The gift of singleness,
conclusion.
It's a gift.
So why might you have the gift of
singleness?
Well, maybe it's because God knows this is

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the perfect time for you to grow,
serve, and shine without any distractions.
Maybe it's because he wants to teach you
independence and deepen your relationship with him before
anything else.
Or maybe it's because you still got a
lot of pizza nights and Netflix marathons left
to enjoy.
Whatever the reason, rest assured that singleness is
not a burden, it's a gift.

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Take heart in knowing that God's plan for
your life is so much bigger than you
can see right now.
Whether this season lasts a year or a
lifetime,
trust that he's working out everything for your
good, Romans eight twenty eight. And in the
meantime,
enjoy the journey,
love the adventure,
and embrace the gift of singleness with joy,

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confidence,
and maybe a slice of pizza or two.