Have you ever felt trapped in a relationship, or like you knew something was off but didn't know what to do about it? Maybe you've had a vague awareness that you're somehow suffering (and so is she), but again, you didn't know how to even start to go about addressing it.
A lot of people know the term "codependence" but aren't clear on what it actually means in a concrete way, or what to do about it if it does fit. For example, how do you know if you're codependent or your spouse is? Can one person "be" codependent while the other is not?
Here we go right into what codependent dynamics are, and aren't -- and how to grow into independence and ultimately interdependence.
In Jason's words of his own experience: "It was years of trying as hard as I could to make things better but never being good enough to matter how hard I tried." And, "That rescuer is filled with needing to be needed. That’s where it began for me."
If your love relationships have always confusing, unfulfilling, or just not quite right -- or if you've often felt like you were just taking care of your partner (she wasn't able to take care of herself), this will likely be helpful to you.
The men we work long for MORE, and I also want to say direct: That's available. You don't have to stay stuck. Growth is always possible.
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Memorable quotes from this episode:
- “As long as my partner was approving of me, there was a sense of, ‘I’m OK.’”
- “There was a fear — if I’m not with her, I’ll be alone.”
- “We’re deeply entwined with each other where there’s almost no agency or independence.”
- “While the relationship was ‘safe’, we were both suffering deeply inside.”
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