From Infertility Burnout to Fertility Breakthrough: The Real Reason You’re Not Getting Pregnant

“I don't care if it's voodoo, it's working.”

Topics Discussed:

• The power of using your voice on the fertility journey

• How childhood wounds and people-pleasing patterns sabotage fertility

• Gut health and its surprising connection to emotional suppression

• Letting go of perfectionism and societal expectations

• Radical responsibility and nervous system regulation

• Understanding the energetic roots of fertility issues

• The impact of SIBO and functional medicine protocols

• The role of inner child healing and subconscious reprogramming

• Challenges of navigating fertility with a partner not on the same page

• Releasing limiting beliefs and stepping into trust and surrender

“If you don't feel safe, and you're in a state of fear, you're going to have cortisol overdrive.”

Hello, beautiful Monica here! And oh honey, buckle up, because today we’re diving into the emotional jungle gym that is your fertility journey. Spoiler alert: it’s not just about diet, supplements, and fancy med protocols. Sometimes, the real block is you not using your damn voice. Yep, we said it.

In this raw and revelatory episode, we sit down with a brave soul who has been through more fertility treatments than anyone should ever have to endure (we're talking double digits, people). But the real kicker? She hadn’t been speaking up—for her body, her emotions, her intuition. And let’s be real, when your husband is channeling all the Type A, competitive, masculine energy, it’s no surprise your inner child is quietly rocking in a corner whispering, “Please don’t fight.”

We talk about burping (yes, burping) and how it's somehow the digestive version of not using your voice—seriously, who knew your gut could get passive-aggressive too? We unravel people-pleasing, perfectionism, and the childhood moments that had you hustling for love and safety. Monica walks her guest through a transformational subconscious technique that had her feeling chills—in the best possible way. And just when you think you’ve heard it all, we go full metaphysical with past life patterns and inner child work. Because why not?

So if you’ve been quietly nodding along with society’s rules while screaming inside, this one’s your wake-up call. Spoiler: the more you people-please, the longer you stay in fertility hell. Let’s change that.

“You attract what you're vibing on.”

Timestamps:

03:13 When you don’t use your voice, you’re not setting boundaries or following your intuition 05:39 Gut symptoms like burping linked to emotional suppression 07:04 Quitting a high-stress job and facing fears of disappointing a partner 10:23 Relationship shifts and fear of changing the status quo 13:37 Fertility treatments making things worse when gut health isn’t addressed 16:52 Having the courage to stand in your power—even if it feels like you need “balls” to do it 18:44 The ‘no’ phase of fertility and becoming radically selfish (in the best way) 21:38 Childhood rot, emotional inheritance, and the body’s reaction to unresolved trauma 24:31 The danger of outsourcing worthiness and the subtle art of not giving a f**k 26:52 Internalizing the need to be perfect and strong to keep the peace 28:58 Visualization and emotional flipping technique to rewire stored trauma 34:18 Whole brain integration and the chills-inducing release moment 39:23 Bringing a photo of your inner child into your healing journey 42:11 Choosing to step into the woman you were born to be, baby or no baby 45:02 Fertility Breakthrough Sessions: What they are, who they're for, and how to get one

“This is not evidence of your future, because you’re going to start moving differently now.”

Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/from-infertility-burnout-to-fertility-breakthrough-the-real-rea