“What if I stop judging myself and let the pieces fall so something better can be built.”
Topics Discussed
• The messy middle of TTC and IVF recovery • Emotional healing during fertility burnout • Subconscious patterns and self judgment • Frequency shifts and embodied surrender • Radical honesty with yourself during the journey • Letting go of control and rebuilding from a grounded place
“You cannot light switch your body. You cannot snap your fingers and erase decades of patterns.”
Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be…
This episode takes you straight into the heart of the messy middle, that uncomfortable space between who you were and who you are becoming. If you feel like life is a wobbly tower of blocks and you are using every toe, finger, and nose hair to hold it together, you are not alone. This is the moment where surrender feels impossible and control feels safer, yet your body is quietly asking for stillness, honesty, and trust.
We explore the deep emotional patterns that rise when everything starts to fall apart, the subconscious urge to fix what is not fixable, and the beauty that comes from letting yourself “do nothing” for a moment. Yes, I even talk about my husband sleeping his way to genius and how your soul babies probably wish you would slow down long enough to hear yourself think.
This conversation invites you to soften. To witness the chaos without judgment. To release the frantic Googling and the need for the next perfect plan. And to remember that the void is not punishment. It is power. The version of you on the other side of this episode is clearer, calmer, and more aligned. Press play and feel the shift begin.
“Judgment only comes from the mind. No one is judging you but you.”
Timestamps00:00 Opening insight on intuition and fertility 01:28 The truth about the messy middle of TTC 04:40 Why letting go of control changes your emotional frequency 07:29 The radical honesty required for real transformation 10:25 How doing nothing can create the biggest breakthroughs 12:47 Reframing setbacks, miscarriages, and slow progress 14:46 Understanding judgment, frequency, and emotional alignment
“Sometimes the greatest healing comes from sitting in the void and doing absolutely nothing.”
Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/when-your-infertility-ivf-journey-feels-like-it-is-falling-apart-even-when-you-re-doing-everything-right
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Monica
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