Why Ignoring Grief Keeps You Stuck in Infertility & How to Finally Break Through

“Grief isn’t just emotional, it’s cellular.”

Topics Discussed: 

• Unacknowledged grief and its impact on fertility
• Miscarriage, IVF failure, and invisible layers of loss
• How grief gets stored in the body and nervous system
• Science-backed effects of unresolved grief on hormones and immunity
• Real-life stories of grief showing up as physical symptoms in children
• Learning to honor and process grief for deeper healing

“Grief is not a sign of weakness; it’s proof that you loved and believed in something.”

Hello Beautiful Souls, Monica here. Today we’re getting raw about a topic no one prepares you for on this fertility journey—grief. Not just the grief of miscarriage or failed IVF, but the invisible grief that creeps into your body, your friendships, your sex life, and even your sense of self. The kind of grief that lingers in your tissues like an unwanted guest and quietly shuts down your body’s ability to receive life.

I share how grief can dysregulate your hormones, suppress your immune system, and trap you in fight-or-flight—making you feel like no matter how “perfect” your diet or protocol is, something still isn’t working. I get personal about losing my dad, watching grief show up as pneumonia in my child’s lungs, and realizing that our bodies will always find a way to express what we refuse to feel.

This isn’t about fixing yourself or bypassing the hard stuff. It’s about giving grief a seat at the table, so it no longer hijacks your energy in silence. If you’re tired of holding it all in, if you’ve been “strong” for too long, this episode is your permission slip to soften, to feel, and to heal. Press play and let’s talk about the grief no one talks about—but every fertility warrior knows too well.

“If you don’t face the grief, it stays stuck. And stuck grief blocks life.”

Timestamps:

• 01:23 The invisible layers of grief in fertility struggles and why you need to recognize grief.
• 03:58 The science of how grief dysregulates the body and blocks fertility even when you’re doing everything right. 
• 05:26 The story of losing my father and how grief showed up as physical illness in my children.
• 09:54 The miscarriage I processed alone, and the long-term impact of pushing grief away.
• 13:08 Understanding that unprocessed grief and stored trauma can turn into a deeper health risk than diet or lifestyle. 
• 15:30 The importance of learning to honor and process grief for deeper healing during your fertility journey. 

“You weren’t broken, you were doing the best you knew how—and that’s all you can control.”

Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-ignoring-grief-keeps-you-stuck-in-infertility-how-to-finally-break-through 

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Monica

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Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Pr