March 7, 2025 • 10 mins
"Nothing feels better than skinny" ... it's a reel I saw a young woman post and it instantly made me sad and mad. Let's talk about it.
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(00:00):
(Transcribed by TurboScribe.ai. Go Unlimited to remove this message.) What's up, guys?
Welcome to a brand new episode of the
Fit Women's Weekly podcast.
Not a surprise, right?
How's everything going?
Congratulations.
You've made it through the week.
How did everything go?
Did you hit your goals?
If not, why or why not?
What can you do to plan differently to
make yourself a little bit more successful next
(00:21):
week?
And following the tips that I laid out
on Wednesday's chitchat, is there anything that you
can do to demify your experience, a.k
.a. make things easier on yourself, cut corners
to be more successful?
You know, remember, it's not about trying to
do everything perfect, do everything that works perfectly
(00:42):
for you and what your goals are.
Today's episode, I want to talk a little
bit, I don't know, something that's really been
on my mind lately.
Last week, I saw someone's social media post
come up.
And she was dancing around like a town
center, an outdoor shopping center.
And over it, it simply said nothing feels
(01:03):
better than being skinny.
And I actually used it.
I created a little reel myself, just keeping
things very short and sweet.
I played her clip and then at the
end of it, I just stood kind of
dumbfounded shaking my head and simply said, is
that the kind of role model that you
want to be?
And it has been on my mind, I
think more so because words matter.
(01:26):
Simple word as skinny and celebrating it matters.
And it is hurtful.
And I have spent the past 25 years
of my life trying to take that word
out of my vocabulary and not make it
an important part of my identity or try
(01:46):
not to push it on anybody else, because
that single word affected me so hard.
So just a little bit of context.
First off, last week, which is so ridiculous
that she posted it at this time.
Last week, the final week of February was
National Eating Disorder Awareness Month, which those of
(02:07):
you guys that might not be familiar with
me, maybe you've just recently found this podcast.
I dealt with a eating disorder when I
was in college and off and on into
my 20s.
It's something that I am healed from, but
I am also a believer that you are
never completely healed from it.
It is something that is in the back
of my mind every single day.
(02:28):
A lot of the eating habits that I
have now are in spite of my past
eating disorder with this idea of I will
not let you control me, right?
So when I see young ladies celebrating the
word skinny, it hurts my heart because I
remember what that felt like.
My entire life when I was a kid,
(02:49):
that was the adjective that people would use
to describe me.
I was tall and lanky and skinny, and
it was almost celebrated, right?
I was like, oh, you're so pretty, you're
so skinny.
And so when I became a woman and
hormones changed and my body changed, and suddenly
I wasn't so naturally skinny, it was almost
like a small identity crisis for me of
(03:11):
who am I now that I'm not so
skinny that it is like a characteristic of
who I am.
And that took a really long time to
come to terms with and to heal from,
and I was always on the struggle of
like, I just want to be skinny.
And so what I want to talk about
is A, that, and being aware of it,
and two, that nothing feels better than being
(03:33):
skinny.
Well, I don't know about this particular human
that posted this, but being skinny is a
characteristic.
It is not a health trait, and it
is not always the sign of being healthy.
When I was at my skinniest, I was
also at my most unhealthiest.
I was having stress fractures.
(03:54):
I broke my wrist on a simple fall.
It wasn't an intense fall because my bones
were so brittle because I was not healthy.
I miss my periods.
I lost friendships because all I wanted to
focus on was the size of my body
and I didn't have time.
Or I also wasn't comfortable enough going out
(04:15):
to eat and experiencing the things that I
should have been experiencing at 20, 21, 22
years old, 24 years old, 25 years old,
when I got wrapped up into trying to
get into the figure competition world.
And that is very, obviously, very, very hard.
I was losing handfuls of hair.
(04:36):
So being skinny in my experience was not
only my not healthy.
It was the least healthiest I've ever experienced.
And a lot of people go through that
same thing.
I know a lot of people.
There is a very big comedian right now
who is going through a divorce.
And she's lost a considerable amount of weight.
(04:57):
And people suddenly started saying, oh my gosh,
what's your secret?
What are you doing?
And her response was, I'm going through a
divorce.
The same thing happened with one of my
good friends about a decade ago.
She went through a divorce and also lost
weight.
And it was not a glow up.
It was not an intentional, like, I just
want to feel good about myself and make
myself a priority.
(05:18):
It was such a stressful time of her
life that she could not eat.
She could not take good care of herself.
And she lost weight.
And again, people were praising her for the
weight loss, not understanding the sadness that was
going on in her life at that time.
So you never know what's going on.
And then we have things like Ozimpic, right?
(05:39):
And yes, Ozimpic does work for some people.
But what science is showing is that when
you're taking Ozimpic and you're not doing an
exercise program and you're just simply dieting alone,
you lose a significant amount of muscle mass.
And we know how important muscle mass is.
And so you get that what's called like
the Ozimpic face where you're just skinny.
(06:02):
You look frail.
You are not healthy.
I had a very, very close family member
who wasn't on Ozimpic.
She was on the Jaro.
And at one point at her lowest weight
being on the medicine, every time I would
hug her, I felt like I was hugging
a frail old woman.
And in my entire life, that is not
how this woman was to me.
(06:23):
She was strong and fit and healthy and
bold.
And I had to just like kind of
have a conversation with her of like, you
just don't look healthy anymore.
You know, you've gotten a little bit too
thin and I worry about you.
So, and so again, skinny is not the
goal that we are after.
The bold words that we should be after
(06:44):
are confidence.
What body makes you feel the most confident
about yourself?
Strength, being strong.
That is the word that we as women,
especially right now, it is National Women's History
Month.
Strong is the word that we are after
physically, mentally, most of the time, emotionally.
(07:06):
I also, that could be a whole nother
talk, but we should be aiming for strong
and what makes us strong.
We should be aiming for a body that
can get us through our day to day
life and then carry us to do the
things that we want to do.
I am proud of my body because I
put it through so much, trying to be
skinny when I was younger and it was
able to heal and come back and be
(07:28):
the body that it is now, where I
get to go run 10 miles if I
want to on the weekends.
I get to go hike mountains and lift
heavy things.
It doesn't, I probably don't deserve to be
able to do a lot of the things
that I do, but it was able to
come back and so strength is what we
should be going after.
(07:49):
And so, please, what I wish, I wish
that I had had this talk with my
younger self and that I wasn't so affected
by a single word and I really wish
that we would avoid this era where, and
it's never gonna happen, this has been the
way that it's been forever, where our physical
bodies are such a focus for everybody around
(08:11):
us because that's where this stress comes from,
of trying to look a certain way.
So, to that young woman who is dancing
around, very proud of herself and calling herself
skinny and that's how she feels the best,
if that's how she feels the best, fine,
have at it.
But don't stand on some sort of soapbox
(08:32):
and try to promote that to other people
and then use that as a way to
try to inspire people.
It is not inspirational, it's very sad and
I hope that she comes to a point
where she realizes that she is more than
quote unquote skinny.
So, that is my soapbox.
I had to get that off of my
chest because it's been weighing on me, obviously,
(08:53):
a lot.
And I'd love to hear your thoughts and
what is the one word that you would
love to describe as being nothing feels better
than X?
Think about it for a second.
For me, I'm gonna go out and say
nothing feels better than being strong and I
(09:13):
don't just mean that again and being strong
physically.
I mean being strong, being fierce, being bold
to do the things that I wanna do
in life and that's what feels the best
for me.
All right, guys, keeping it short and sweet
because that's what our Friday Fit Quickies are
all about.
If you have any thoughts on this, I
would love to hear them.
(09:33):
You can send them to me, kindle, at
fitwomensweekly.com.
Make sure that you're subscribed to the podcast
and if this episode resonated with you, do
me a favor, share it so that other
people in your circle can also hear it.
That is the best way to help support
Fit Women's Weekly.
And I haven't mentioned it in a while,
but if you're like, you know what, I
really love these podcasts that you put out.
(09:55):
Thank you for doing that or whatever because
they are completely free.
What you can do, shoot me a coffee.
I've been getting back into going to the
cafes lately so I would love to go
to a coffee shop and just get some
work done there and the link to do
that is down in the show notes, but
obviously don't feel like you need to do
that but I do have some people that
reach out from time to time and go,
(10:15):
hey, I'd love just to send you a
little thank you card.
Alright guys, thanks for hanging out with me.
I will talk to you soon.
Go get strong.
Go get healthy.
Whatever that means to you.
Bye.
(Transcribed by TurboScribe.ai. Go Unlimited to remove this message.) What's up, guys?
Welcome to a brand new episode of the
Fit Women's Weekly podcast.
Not a surprise, right?
How's everything going?
Congratulations.
You've made it through the week.
How did everything go?
Did you hit your goals?
If not, why or why not?
What can you do to plan differently to
make yourself a little bit more successful next
(00:21):
week?
And following the tips that I laid out
on Wednesday's chitchat, is there anything that you
can do to demify your experience, a.k
.a. make things easier on yourself, cut corners
to be more successful?
You know, remember, it's not about trying to
do everything perfect, do everything that works perfectly
(00:42):
for you and what your goals are.
Today's episode, I want to talk a little
bit, I don't know, something that's really been
on my mind lately.
Last week, I saw someone's social media post
come up.
And she was dancing around like a town
center, an outdoor shopping center.
And over it, it simply said nothing feels
(01:03):
better than being skinny.
And I actually used it.
I created a little reel myself, just keeping
things very short and sweet.
I played her clip and then at the
end of it, I just stood kind of
dumbfounded shaking my head and simply said, is
that the kind of role model that you
want to be?
And it has been on my mind, I
think more so because words matter.
(01:26):
Simple word as skinny and celebrating it matters.
And it is hurtful.
And I have spent the past 25 years
of my life trying to take that word
out of my vocabulary and not make it
an important part of my identity or try
(01:46):
not to push it on anybody else, because
that single word affected me so hard.
So just a little bit of context.
First off, last week, which is so ridiculous
that she posted it at this time.
Last week, the final week of February was
National Eating Disorder Awareness Month, which those of
(02:07):
you guys that might not be familiar with
me, maybe you've just recently found this podcast.
I dealt with a eating disorder when I
was in college and off and on into
my 20s.
It's something that I am healed from, but
I am also a believer that you are
never completely healed from it.
It is something that is in the back
of my mind every single day.
(02:28):
A lot of the eating habits that I
have now are in spite of my past
eating disorder with this idea of I will
not let you control me, right?
So when I see young ladies celebrating the
word skinny, it hurts my heart because I
remember what that felt like.
My entire life when I was a kid,
(02:49):
that was the adjective that people would use
to describe me.
I was tall and lanky and skinny, and
it was almost celebrated, right?
I was like, oh, you're so pretty, you're
so skinny.
And so when I became a woman and
hormones changed and my body changed, and suddenly
I wasn't so naturally skinny, it was almost
like a small identity crisis for me of
(03:11):
who am I now that I'm not so
skinny that it is like a characteristic of
who I am.
And that took a really long time to
come to terms with and to heal from,
and I was always on the struggle of
like, I just want to be skinny.
And so what I want to talk about
is A, that, and being aware of it,
and two, that nothing feels better than being
(03:33):
skinny.
Well, I don't know about this particular human
that posted this, but being skinny is a
characteristic.
It is not a health trait, and it
is not always the sign of being healthy.
When I was at my skinniest, I was
also at my most unhealthiest.
I was having stress fractures.
(03:54):
I broke my wrist on a simple fall.
It wasn't an intense fall because my bones
were so brittle because I was not healthy.
I miss my periods.
I lost friendships because all I wanted to
focus on was the size of my body
and I didn't have time.
Or I also wasn't comfortable enough going out
(04:15):
to eat and experiencing the things that I
should have been experiencing at 20, 21, 22
years old, 24 years old, 25 years old,
when I got wrapped up into trying to
get into the figure competition world.
And that is very, obviously, very, very hard.
I was losing handfuls of hair.
(04:36):
So being skinny in my experience was not
only my not healthy.
It was the least healthiest I've ever experienced.
And a lot of people go through that
same thing.
I know a lot of people.
There is a very big comedian right now
who is going through a divorce.
And she's lost a considerable amount of weight.
(04:57):
And people suddenly started saying, oh my gosh,
what's your secret?
What are you doing?
And her response was, I'm going through a
divorce.
The same thing happened with one of my
good friends about a decade ago.
She went through a divorce and also lost
weight.
And it was not a glow up.
It was not an intentional, like, I just
want to feel good about myself and make
myself a priority.
(05:18):
It was such a stressful time of her
life that she could not eat.
She could not take good care of herself.
And she lost weight.
And again, people were praising her for the
weight loss, not understanding the sadness that was
going on in her life at that time.
So you never know what's going on.
And then we have things like Ozimpic, right?
(05:39):
And yes, Ozimpic does work for some people.
But what science is showing is that when
you're taking Ozimpic and you're not doing an
exercise program and you're just simply dieting alone,
you lose a significant amount of muscle mass.
And we know how important muscle mass is.
And so you get that what's called like
the Ozimpic face where you're just skinny.
(06:02):
You look frail.
You are not healthy.
I had a very, very close family member
who wasn't on Ozimpic.
She was on the Jaro.
And at one point at her lowest weight
being on the medicine, every time I would
hug her, I felt like I was hugging
a frail old woman.
And in my entire life, that is not
how this woman was to me.
(06:23):
She was strong and fit and healthy and
bold.
And I had to just like kind of
have a conversation with her of like, you
just don't look healthy anymore.
You know, you've gotten a little bit too
thin and I worry about you.
So, and so again, skinny is not the
goal that we are after.
The bold words that we should be after
(06:44):
are confidence.
What body makes you feel the most confident
about yourself?
Strength, being strong.
That is the word that we as women,
especially right now, it is National Women's History
Month.
Strong is the word that we are after
physically, mentally, most of the time, emotionally.
(07:06):
I also, that could be a whole nother
talk, but we should be aiming for strong
and what makes us strong.
We should be aiming for a body that
can get us through our day to day
life and then carry us to do the
things that we want to do.
I am proud of my body because I
put it through so much, trying to be
skinny when I was younger and it was
able to heal and come back and be
(07:28):
the body that it is now, where I
get to go run 10 miles if I
want to on the weekends.
I get to go hike mountains and lift
heavy things.
It doesn't, I probably don't deserve to be
able to do a lot of the things
that I do, but it was able to
come back and so strength is what we
should be going after.
(07:49):
And so, please, what I wish, I wish
that I had had this talk with my
younger self and that I wasn't so affected
by a single word and I really wish
that we would avoid this era where, and
it's never gonna happen, this has been the
way that it's been forever, where our physical
bodies are such a focus for everybody around
(08:11):
us because that's where this stress comes from,
of trying to look a certain way.
So, to that young woman who is dancing
around, very proud of herself and calling herself
skinny and that's how she feels the best,
if that's how she feels the best, fine,
have at it.
But don't stand on some sort of soapbox
(08:32):
and try to promote that to other people
and then use that as a way to
try to inspire people.
It is not inspirational, it's very sad and
I hope that she comes to a point
where she realizes that she is more than
quote unquote skinny.
So, that is my soapbox.
I had to get that off of my
chest because it's been weighing on me, obviously,
(08:53):
a lot.
And I'd love to hear your thoughts and
what is the one word that you would
love to describe as being nothing feels better
than X?
Think about it for a second.
For me, I'm gonna go out and say
nothing feels better than being strong and I
(09:13):
don't just mean that again and being strong
physically.
I mean being strong, being fierce, being bold
to do the things that I wanna do
in life and that's what feels the best
for me.
All right, guys, keeping it short and sweet
because that's what our Friday Fit Quickies are
all about.
If you have any thoughts on this, I
would love to hear them.
(09:33):
You can send them to me, kindle, at
fitwomensweekly.com.
Make sure that you're subscribed to the podcast
and if this episode resonated with you, do
me a favor, share it so that other
people in your circle can also hear it.
That is the best way to help support
Fit Women's Weekly.
And I haven't mentioned it in a while,
but if you're like, you know what, I
really love these podcasts that you put out.
(09:55):
Thank you for doing that or whatever because
they are completely free.
What you can do, shoot me a coffee.
I've been getting back into going to the
cafes lately so I would love to go
to a coffee shop and just get some
work done there and the link to do
that is down in the show notes, but
obviously don't feel like you need to do
that but I do have some people that
reach out from time to time and go,
(10:15):
hey, I'd love just to send you a
little thank you card.
Alright guys, thanks for hanging out with me.
I will talk to you soon.
Go get strong.
Go get healthy.
Whatever that means to you.
Bye.
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