TPJ 6: Meredith's Story - from Frustrated Wife to Peaceful Partner

It doesn't take two to tango.

Do you ever feel frustrated, disconnected, or misaligned with your spouse or partner? Does it seem like the spark and passion you once had is gone?

Have you ever thought that maybe your relationship has run its course, and it’s time to go separate ways?

If so, I've got good news for you! There is hope for you, AND change is possible, even if you have to work on it without your partner.

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In this episode, I interview Meredith. Things we discussed:

• How she felt overwhelmed by the demands of life, the unrealistic expectations of society for partners and parents.
• She was so tired of how everyone paints this [phony] picture of what life is supposed to look like, and how it can make us all feel like we’re missing the mark.
• How Meredith and her partner were on the verge of splitting up.
• Not completely miserable, and they had their up moments, but there were a lot of down moments, and it was wearing on them.
• She knew that something needed to change. She was tired of trying to figure it out on her own by reading articles, asking friends for advice (who often ended up reinforcing the negativity), etc.
• They were having the same fights over and over.
• • Budgeting and money.
  • Misaligning over approaches to parenting.
  • Arguments over where they should live.
• How as partners, we’re supposed to fill each other up, not deplete each other.
• Remember you have choices (own your own choices). Just because you feel it doesn’t make it true. You can always choose how you respond. Don’t let your emotions rule you. You can take a break, clear your head, and come back with a fresh perspective.
• Stop saying yes to everything. Prioritize your time. It’s ok to say no and spend more time with your family. Give yourself permission to say no, to have some downtime, to just be.
• Instead of shoving everything down, putting on the game face, dig in and investigate when you’re feeling angry or stressed.
• Outsource/delegate to give you more time.
• Crystal clear communication (learn to really listen and not take what your spouse is saying personally).
• Think about what kind of memories you want your children to have of you, of their childhood. (what helped her decide to go through the course).
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