January 29, 2024 • 24 mins
As I get older, I can't help but think about the whole weight and body image thing. I've had my share of ups and downs when it comes to my body, and I'm sure you can relate.
But you know what I've come to realize? It's all about embracing and loving yourself, no matter what size you are. ❤️
Let's collectively ditch the overthinking about our size and celebrate our bodies for all the amazing things they can do! 🎉 So here's to self-love, acceptance, and rocking our unique sizes with style and grace!
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Shana (00:00):
Welcome back to how it's really going with Shayna record
today's episode.
I want to talk about weight andgetting older.
A bit of a springboard from theperimenopause episode that I did
last week.
If you haven't listened to thatyet, it is all about
perimenopause and my journeythrough perimenopause and the
symptoms and things in thefrustrations.
(00:20):
Just everything that I'veexperienced since realizing that
I was actually going throughperi-menopause.
So if you haven't checked thatout, please do.
And I would say that this is abranch of that episode because.
The fluctuating weight that I'venoticed in my own body is
definitely part of going throughmenopause and the hormone
fluctuations.
(00:41):
But I just wanted to just talkabout weight in general, I'm
speaking for all women when Isay this, maybe I shouldn't be,
but I feel like.
Wait and thinking about ourweight and our size and all of
that stuff is just such a bigpart of being a woman.
And it really fucking sucks andI hate that.
How we look physically is beensuch an important.
(01:07):
Thing, for us to have to thinkabout like, it's not important,
but we've made it important.
Society has made it important.
And that we feel we are not asgood or good enough, or that we
don't fit in.
If we're not a certain size and.
I just, I'm just so done withthat.
Like I have.
(01:29):
I feel like if this is actuallythe funny thing.
Is I've felt like this my wholelife.
I have been somebody who hasworried and thought about my
weight, my whole life.
And when I look back atpictures, when I'm in my
twenties, I worried and thoughtabout it.
When I was in my thirties, Iworried and thought about it.
And now for sure, my forties,I'm worrying less about it, but
(01:51):
I definitely still think aboutit.
But I look back at pictures ofme and my twenties and my
thirties and fuck.
I was so fucking skinny.
Like what was I worried andthinking about.
I, I remember when I was in mytwenties and thirties, I don't
even know exactly where it was,but probably my twenties.
Like I used to have a journalwhere I used to journal about
the food that I was eating andlike, We would take supplements
(02:14):
that were I'm certain were notgood for us.
To keep us, skinny.
I remember taking this onecalled pro NZ.
99.
And it was like, my heart ratewent like through the roof when
I would take that, but I didn'tcare because it made me skinny.
There were so many things that Iwas doing back in that time of
my life.
When I, what was I thinking?
(02:35):
I was definitely thin.
I mean, I don't even know what Iweighed back then.
But we're sure as hell a lotless than what I weigh now.
And I was concerned about itback then.
And so, it's like we can't win.
You.
It's like we can't win no matterwhat size we are, no matter
what.
Is going on, we're stillconstantly thinking about our
weight and how our jeans fit andhow thin we look.
(02:57):
And I am frankly, over it.
I'm over it.
Now that doesn't mean that it'sit's gone from my consciousness
to think about it.
I know for me, one of the thingsthat I'm really working on right
now, as I'm moving closer andcloser to 50, I just turned 48.
This past year in 2023.
I am working on my mindset andaccepting my body as it is, and
(03:23):
feeling good about myself,regardless of what size of jeans
I'm wearing and really just.
Embracing and accepting andloving my body because here's
the thing.
I work out, I try and eathealthy.
I'm not perfect.
I definitely enjoy life and Ienjoy food and I try and make
better choices.
But I'm not somebody who's superstrict and super restricting.
(03:46):
I, if I want to have a bowl ofice cream at night, I will have
a bowl of ice cream.
I'm not going to not enjoy thethings in life.
But I'm also, working to eatmore protein and I'm trying to
work out three to five times aweek.
And I'm doing things to, to helpmyself feel healthy and to feel
strong.
But what I'm really working onletting go of from a mindset
(04:07):
perspective is doing thosethings to stay thin.
'cause I feel like trying to bethin is a losing battle one for
me.
And two it's not.
It's not doing.
For me, my mental health, anyfavors, and I think.
The thing we need to work on asa society, especially well, for
(04:31):
women as a society.
And I'm not saying that mendon't go through this, like my
husband, I had this conversationthe other day and he said, men.
Do think about this stuff andthey are, but it's just
societal, what is the word?
From a society standpoint or aconditioning standpoint, it's
okay for a guy to be a bitoverweight.
We're not all going oh my gosh.
If a guy puts on 10 pounds orwhatever, no, one's really
talking about it or sayinganything about it, in my
(04:53):
experience.
And maybe they do think aboutthis more than I, I think they
do, but I do believe that from awomen's.
Perspective, it is much more ofa, an issue.
Then it is for guys.
I don't know, it seems that wayto me anyways.
But.
What I believe and what I amworking towards is just having a
(05:15):
good relationship with my bodyin the sense that if I'm healthy
and strong at whatever size thatis.
That is what is good for me.
And that's what I am working on.
Really accepting with myself.
It's funny because I was justchatting a friend of mine on
Facebook messenger, because Iwas, I had purchased a weighted
(05:36):
vest.
Because Dr.
Mary, Claire Haber, who is amenopause specialist.
And women's health specialist.
She recommended wearing aweighted vest when you're either
doing your workouts and, or justwalking to help, it helps raise
your heart rate.
It helps with bone density.
It helps with muscle mass.
And it helps to create more ofthat zone two cardio, which is
(05:57):
really good for us.
I don't know all the specificsbehind it.
I'm not that into it, but I justknow that a lot of people talk
about zone two cardio and thatthe weighted vest really helps
with that.
I'm somebody who I will, if yousay it's good, I will do it.
So anyhow, I bought one and I wI did a little Instagram on it.
And my friend messaged mesaying, oh, that she had gotten
one too.
(06:17):
And we were just talking abouthow she's like, I've put on 10
pounds in this last year.
And she's I don't know why.
Like I, obviously she's also inperimenopause as well.
And, we're just talking aboutjeans, fitting tight and all
these stuff, and I'm just like,Like, Why can't we just accept
ourselves?
And know that as we get older,these things are going to change
and that's okay.
And that's just part of theprocess.
(06:38):
Sure does it have to be, couldwe go extra hard and work out,
Six days a week and, cut back oncalories and really do all these
things to help mitigate theweight gain.
A hundred percent we could, butmost people aren't going to go
to that extreme to try and keepa thin frame.
Like it's just not feasible foreveryone.
(06:59):
Everyone could do it.
Yes.
But not everyone is going to doit.
And I feel like it's a smallpercentage that would actually
go to that extreme to stay thin.
And it's not something that I'mwilling to do.
I'm willing to work out and behealthy, but I'm also wanting to
find the balance betweenenjoying my life, having those
(07:20):
workouts feeling strong, butalso being okay with.
The size that I am, whateversize that is.
And not feeling like I'm lessthan which I know is a me thing.
I totally get that.
It's a me thing.
When I walk into a group.
And I feel bigger than everybodyelse.
And I'm starting to feelself-conscious.
All those things.
I get that.
(07:40):
That's a me thing that, whetherother people are thinking that
or not is none of my business.
But it is something that I don'twant to do anymore.
I don't want to walk into a roomand do that anymore.
I want to walk into a room andjust feel good about the fact
that I'm with friends and that Ifeel good and strong with
myself, regardless of what sizeI am.
And that's for me, the mentalpiece of what I'm working on
(08:02):
right now.
As somebody who's, gearingtowards menopause fairly quickly
as I'm moving into my fiftiesand accepting myself.
And I watched this video.
It was a Peloton video from oneof the Peloton instructors.
And I want to find her namebecause I want to give her
credit.
And if you do find this, pleaseabsolutely listen to it.
(08:23):
It was so good.
Someone sent it to me, myfriend, Kristin sent it to me so
the video is a Peloton videofrom Christine DEC role, she's
one of the.
The instructors on Peloton andshe is, I am, I can, I, will I
do on Instagram?
And her message was.
You know how she's like someoneasked her how she stays so
(08:44):
positive as she's getting olderand all these things.
And I think she's thereferencing the fact that she is
not the same size that she usedto be when she was, major cycler
and all the things.
And she just says, it's not easyto stay positive.
It is a mindset shift that youhave to make, and it's about
appreciating your body.
And appreciating all the thingsthat your body has done for you.
(09:06):
My body has produced threechildren.
I have done some things to mybody that probably weren't so
great.
Back in the days.
And my body has recovered fromthose things, and, it's just
like being grateful for ourbodies and the fact that they
have done hard things for us.
And, we've gone through thingsin our lives and our bodies are
(09:26):
still working for us, and Ijust.
How do we come to a place wherewe collectively just appreciate
our bodies for what they areregardless of the size.
And I just feel like.
My metabolism is changing, mybody structure is changing.
Regardless of what I do, itdoesn't seem to mitigate some of
(09:48):
those things.
I feel like I work out more thanI ever have now.
And it's that much harder tokeep things in check.
And at some point I'm just goingto be okay with it.
And that's what I'm workingtowards is like just being okay
with the fact that.
I'm wearing a different size nowand that things look different
and I am just going to own itand just feel good about the
(10:11):
fact that I have a strong body.
That works for me every singleday.
And that I have my health andthat's what, that's the message
that I really want to share.
And that's the message that Iwant my daughter to feel like.
I want her to know that.
Whatever size she is fine.
The major thing that we want tofocus on is, are you healthy?
(10:33):
Are you making good choices?
Are you working out to be strongso that, when you are in your
sixties, seventies, eighties,You can get up off the toilet
kind of thing, and you can,travel the world and still feel
healthy I want that to be themessage, I just wanted to turn
on the mic and talk about thisbecause it is really difficult
(10:53):
as somebody who, feels thatpressure.
To be thin and I just want tosay like, I'm over it, I'm over
it.
And it's not that I'm saying I'mgiving up and I'm not going to
try.
It's that I'm going to changethe narrative around why it is
that I'm working out.
Why it is that I'm trying tomake healthy choices and it's
not to fit into a certain sizeit's so that I can feel healthy
(11:15):
and strong and that I can get upoff the floor without.
Feeling like I I'm going to fallover or that.
You know that I can't get up offthe floor kind of thing.
And make that the focus of whyI'm doing the things that I do.
It's why I have the weightedvest.
It's why I do my workouts.
It's why I'm trying to makehealthier choices and add more
(11:35):
protein to my diet and get ridof some of the refined sugars
and, but also on the flip side,I also want to enjoy my life.
And I also want to, do thingsthat are fun and eat good food
and not have to sit there andthink about how many calories
and how many.
Carbs and how many things like Iwant the balance.
And that balance is going tocome with probably, some extra
(11:57):
pounds and that's okay.
And that's okay.
That's what like that is.
Okay.
And we should be good with that.
Like that's living a good life.
And maybe it's my own pressuresthat I put on myself and, maybe,
it's my own thing.
I don't know.
I don't feel like I'm alone inthis.
But I do feel like society, as awhole has put this.
(12:21):
Pressure on women to be acertain size and to look a
certain way in order to beconsidered.
Good looking or sexy orattractive, or like you're good
enough.
All of that shit.
And it's unfortunate that's theway that it's been.
I really hope that the narrativemoving forward for our daughters
(12:44):
and our daughters, daughters isthat.
It's about being healthy andstrong.
At whatever size that ends upbeing.
And because healthy in strong isnot the same for everyone.
Especially as we age.
My healthy and strong at age 20is looking different than it was
at age 30 after three, aftertwo, three kids that, and it's
(13:06):
gonna look different at 40 andit's gonna look different at 50
and it's gonna look different at60.
and we have to be okay withthat.
I don't think it's typical.
Nor is it normal for someone tobe the same size right through
until they're a hundred.
I'm sure it happens.
And I'm sure people work reallyhard to make that happen, but I
(13:26):
don't think it's typical and Idon't think that we should be
expecting to be the same sizethroughout our whole life,
because that is that's, what'sfucking us up is that we think
that it should be easy or weshould be working towards being
the same.
Weight and size our whole life.
And it's not about that at all.
It's about being healthy andstrong.
Whatever that looks like, andit's going to look different at
(13:48):
each that's should be the norm.
Right?
So.
I don't know, I just I'm justdone with it.
I just want to put on my clothesin the morning and be like, you
know what?
You look great.
You feel good?
You're healthy.
You, woke up this morning.
Who cares if you're wearing asize 12 or a 10 or whatever size
jeans you're wearing, who thefuck cares?
(14:08):
Just go out and live your life.
You don't know how much time youhave stopped worrying about your
weight.
Just go and enjoy.
And that's what I want to getto.
And I, I'll be honest.
I'm not a hundred percent thereyet.
But every day.
I get closer and closer to itbecause it's just so exhausting.
Having to think about it all thetime.
(14:29):
And my husband, I went out fordinner last night.
I wore jeans that I've worn out,many times.
I felt like I looked nice, but Icould feel that my jeans were
tight.
And I could feel that like, whenwe were sitting down to dinner,
I popped open the button becauseit was getting tight, especially
after I had eaten.
And I was just like, you knowwhat?
I think I just need to not wearthese right now, or maybe get
(14:51):
another size bigger so that Ican feel comfortable when I'm
out.
Instead of trying to suck myselfinto jeans that are tight and
feel uncomfortable all night,which for what?
Right?
Like who cares?
My husband loves the way that Ilook, he thinks it's great.
He doesn't care.
And so why does it matter?
So anyways, if you arestruggling with this as well,
(15:14):
and you are feeling the feelingsthat I have been feeling.
I think we need to band togetherin in the sense that we need to
start spreading the message thatit's okay to change your body is
going to change.
And it's okay.
Just continue to keep working onbeing healthy and making healthy
choices, and working out to bestrong working out so that your
(15:35):
bones and your muscles areworking for you as you age,
instead of working out to tryand stay in a size six or a
size, whatever.
And really just, just make thatthe norm.
It's great.
If you want to be, To theextreme on either end of this
conversation.
You do you everybody's going todo their thing.
(15:55):
But I think There are more of uswho are in that space of.
Trying to do something that justisn't going to work for us
because we're not willing tomake the lifestyle changes that
need to be made.
In order to stay a certain size.
And for those of us who are inthat boat, we just need to
(16:15):
mentally get ourselves to thatspace.
That says it's okay to not bethe size you were when you were
30.
It's okay.
That your body's changing.
And that things fit differentlyand maybe you look differently
in the mirror.
And it's okay.
You're still beautiful.
You're still strong.
You're still healthy.
It just looks different.
(16:36):
It's just, the package ischanging.
That doesn't mean your changing.
It doesn't mean that you'rebetter or worse or any of those
things.
It just means you're in movinginto a new phase of life and
it's okay.
And you're still worthy of allthe things that you were worthy
of before.
You're not anything less.
You're just as amazing.
(16:56):
You just come in a bit of adifferent package.
And I think that's what wereally just need to accept
within ourselves.
That's what I want to say.
So I'd love to hear from you.
If you listened to this episodeand you feel me on this.
I would love to hear from you inmy DMS on Instagram.
I love when you guys message meon Instagram and share your
(17:16):
thoughts about these episodes,because this is why I turn on my
mic and do this is because Iwant to have conversations and
talk about how things are reallygoing.
And help others feel likethey're not alone.
that's my purpose here.
So if you felt this in any wayand you want to reach out, you
can do it either at, I am ShanaRecker on Instagram or feel free
to message me on my.
(17:38):
Art account, which is Shana.
Recker underscore art I'mavailable on both.
And yeah.
So if you're in this boat, justlove yourself today.
Give yourself a squeeze.
Don't worry about what how yourjeans fit.
Go put on some stretchy pants,make some healthy choices.
Give yourself some zone, twocardio or a weight workout.
This week and help get strongand yeah, we'll see you on the
(18:03):
next episode.
All right, everyone.
We'll talk to you soon.
Bye.
For now.
Welcome back to how it's really going with Shayna record
today's episode.
I want to talk about weight andgetting older.
A bit of a springboard from theperimenopause episode that I did
last week.
If you haven't listened to thatyet, it is all about
perimenopause and my journeythrough perimenopause and the
symptoms and things in thefrustrations.
(00:20):
Just everything that I'veexperienced since realizing that
I was actually going throughperi-menopause.
So if you haven't checked thatout, please do.
And I would say that this is abranch of that episode because.
The fluctuating weight that I'venoticed in my own body is
definitely part of going throughmenopause and the hormone
fluctuations.
(00:41):
But I just wanted to just talkabout weight in general, I'm
speaking for all women when Isay this, maybe I shouldn't be,
but I feel like.
Wait and thinking about ourweight and our size and all of
that stuff is just such a bigpart of being a woman.
And it really fucking sucks andI hate that.
How we look physically is beensuch an important.
(01:07):
Thing, for us to have to thinkabout like, it's not important,
but we've made it important.
Society has made it important.
And that we feel we are not asgood or good enough, or that we
don't fit in.
If we're not a certain size and.
I just, I'm just so done withthat.
Like I have.
(01:29):
I feel like if this is actuallythe funny thing.
Is I've felt like this my wholelife.
I have been somebody who hasworried and thought about my
weight, my whole life.
And when I look back atpictures, when I'm in my
twenties, I worried and thoughtabout it.
When I was in my thirties, Iworried and thought about it.
And now for sure, my forties,I'm worrying less about it, but
(01:51):
I definitely still think aboutit.
But I look back at pictures ofme and my twenties and my
thirties and fuck.
I was so fucking skinny.
Like what was I worried andthinking about.
I, I remember when I was in mytwenties and thirties, I don't
even know exactly where it was,but probably my twenties.
Like I used to have a journalwhere I used to journal about
the food that I was eating andlike, We would take supplements
(02:14):
that were I'm certain were notgood for us.
To keep us, skinny.
I remember taking this onecalled pro NZ.
99.
And it was like, my heart ratewent like through the roof when
I would take that, but I didn'tcare because it made me skinny.
There were so many things that Iwas doing back in that time of
my life.
When I, what was I thinking?
(02:35):
I was definitely thin.
I mean, I don't even know what Iweighed back then.
But we're sure as hell a lotless than what I weigh now.
And I was concerned about itback then.
And so, it's like we can't win.
You.
It's like we can't win no matterwhat size we are, no matter
what.
Is going on, we're stillconstantly thinking about our
weight and how our jeans fit andhow thin we look.
(02:57):
And I am frankly, over it.
I'm over it.
Now that doesn't mean that it'sit's gone from my consciousness
to think about it.
I know for me, one of the thingsthat I'm really working on right
now, as I'm moving closer andcloser to 50, I just turned 48.
This past year in 2023.
I am working on my mindset andaccepting my body as it is, and
(03:23):
feeling good about myself,regardless of what size of jeans
I'm wearing and really just.
Embracing and accepting andloving my body because here's
the thing.
I work out, I try and eathealthy.
I'm not perfect.
I definitely enjoy life and Ienjoy food and I try and make
better choices.
But I'm not somebody who's superstrict and super restricting.
(03:46):
I, if I want to have a bowl ofice cream at night, I will have
a bowl of ice cream.
I'm not going to not enjoy thethings in life.
But I'm also, working to eatmore protein and I'm trying to
work out three to five times aweek.
And I'm doing things to, to helpmyself feel healthy and to feel
strong.
But what I'm really working onletting go of from a mindset
(04:07):
perspective is doing thosethings to stay thin.
'cause I feel like trying to bethin is a losing battle one for
me.
And two it's not.
It's not doing.
For me, my mental health, anyfavors, and I think.
The thing we need to work on asa society, especially well, for
(04:31):
women as a society.
And I'm not saying that mendon't go through this, like my
husband, I had this conversationthe other day and he said, men.
Do think about this stuff andthey are, but it's just
societal, what is the word?
From a society standpoint or aconditioning standpoint, it's
okay for a guy to be a bitoverweight.
We're not all going oh my gosh.
If a guy puts on 10 pounds orwhatever, no, one's really
talking about it or sayinganything about it, in my
(04:53):
experience.
And maybe they do think aboutthis more than I, I think they
do, but I do believe that from awomen's.
Perspective, it is much more ofa, an issue.
Then it is for guys.
I don't know, it seems that wayto me anyways.
But.
What I believe and what I amworking towards is just having a
(05:15):
good relationship with my bodyin the sense that if I'm healthy
and strong at whatever size thatis.
That is what is good for me.
And that's what I am working on.
Really accepting with myself.
It's funny because I was justchatting a friend of mine on
Facebook messenger, because Iwas, I had purchased a weighted
(05:36):
vest.
Because Dr.
Mary, Claire Haber, who is amenopause specialist.
And women's health specialist.
She recommended wearing aweighted vest when you're either
doing your workouts and, or justwalking to help, it helps raise
your heart rate.
It helps with bone density.
It helps with muscle mass.
And it helps to create more ofthat zone two cardio, which is
(05:57):
really good for us.
I don't know all the specificsbehind it.
I'm not that into it, but I justknow that a lot of people talk
about zone two cardio and thatthe weighted vest really helps
with that.
I'm somebody who I will, if yousay it's good, I will do it.
So anyhow, I bought one and I wI did a little Instagram on it.
And my friend messaged mesaying, oh, that she had gotten
one too.
(06:17):
And we were just talking abouthow she's like, I've put on 10
pounds in this last year.
And she's I don't know why.
Like I, obviously she's also inperimenopause as well.
And, we're just talking aboutjeans, fitting tight and all
these stuff, and I'm just like,Like, Why can't we just accept
ourselves?
And know that as we get older,these things are going to change
and that's okay.
And that's just part of theprocess.
(06:38):
Sure does it have to be, couldwe go extra hard and work out,
Six days a week and, cut back oncalories and really do all these
things to help mitigate theweight gain.
A hundred percent we could, butmost people aren't going to go
to that extreme to try and keepa thin frame.
Like it's just not feasible foreveryone.
(06:59):
Everyone could do it.
Yes.
But not everyone is going to doit.
And I feel like it's a smallpercentage that would actually
go to that extreme to stay thin.
And it's not something that I'mwilling to do.
I'm willing to work out and behealthy, but I'm also wanting to
find the balance betweenenjoying my life, having those
(07:20):
workouts feeling strong, butalso being okay with.
The size that I am, whateversize that is.
And not feeling like I'm lessthan which I know is a me thing.
I totally get that.
It's a me thing.
When I walk into a group.
And I feel bigger than everybodyelse.
And I'm starting to feelself-conscious.
All those things.
I get that.
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That's a me thing that, whetherother people are thinking that
or not is none of my business.
But it is something that I don'twant to do anymore.
I don't want to walk into a roomand do that anymore.
I want to walk into a room andjust feel good about the fact
that I'm with friends and that Ifeel good and strong with
myself, regardless of what sizeI am.
And that's for me, the mentalpiece of what I'm working on
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right now.
As somebody who's, gearingtowards menopause fairly quickly
as I'm moving into my fiftiesand accepting myself.
And I watched this video.
It was a Peloton video from oneof the Peloton instructors.
And I want to find her namebecause I want to give her
credit.
And if you do find this, pleaseabsolutely listen to it.
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It was so good.
Someone sent it to me, myfriend, Kristin sent it to me so
the video is a Peloton videofrom Christine DEC role, she's
one of the.
The instructors on Peloton andshe is, I am, I can, I, will I
do on Instagram?
And her message was.
You know how she's like someoneasked her how she stays so
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positive as she's getting olderand all these things.
And I think she's thereferencing the fact that she is
not the same size that she usedto be when she was, major cycler
and all the things.
And she just says, it's not easyto stay positive.
It is a mindset shift that youhave to make, and it's about
appreciating your body.
And appreciating all the thingsthat your body has done for you.
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My body has produced threechildren.
I have done some things to mybody that probably weren't so
great.
Back in the days.
And my body has recovered fromthose things, and, it's just
like being grateful for ourbodies and the fact that they
have done hard things for us.
And, we've gone through thingsin our lives and our bodies are
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still working for us, and Ijust.
How do we come to a place wherewe collectively just appreciate
our bodies for what they areregardless of the size.
And I just feel like.
My metabolism is changing, mybody structure is changing.
Regardless of what I do, itdoesn't seem to mitigate some of
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those things.
I feel like I work out more thanI ever have now.
And it's that much harder tokeep things in check.
And at some point I'm just goingto be okay with it.
And that's what I'm workingtowards is like just being okay
with the fact that.
I'm wearing a different size nowand that things look different
and I am just going to own itand just feel good about the
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fact that I have a strong body.
That works for me every singleday.
And that I have my health andthat's what, that's the message
that I really want to share.
And that's the message that Iwant my daughter to feel like.
I want her to know that.
Whatever size she is fine.
The major thing that we want tofocus on is, are you healthy?
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Are you making good choices?
Are you working out to be strongso that, when you are in your
sixties, seventies, eighties,You can get up off the toilet
kind of thing, and you can,travel the world and still feel
healthy I want that to be themessage, I just wanted to turn
on the mic and talk about thisbecause it is really difficult
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as somebody who, feels thatpressure.
To be thin and I just want tosay like, I'm over it, I'm over
it.
And it's not that I'm saying I'mgiving up and I'm not going to
try.
It's that I'm going to changethe narrative around why it is
that I'm working out.
Why it is that I'm trying tomake healthy choices and it's
not to fit into a certain sizeit's so that I can feel healthy
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and strong and that I can get upoff the floor without.
Feeling like I I'm going to fallover or that.
You know that I can't get up offthe floor kind of thing.
And make that the focus of whyI'm doing the things that I do.
It's why I have the weightedvest.
It's why I do my workouts.
It's why I'm trying to makehealthier choices and add more
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protein to my diet and get ridof some of the refined sugars
and, but also on the flip side,I also want to enjoy my life.
And I also want to, do thingsthat are fun and eat good food
and not have to sit there andthink about how many calories
and how many.
Carbs and how many things like Iwant the balance.
And that balance is going tocome with probably, some extra
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pounds and that's okay.
And that's okay.
That's what like that is.
Okay.
And we should be good with that.
Like that's living a good life.
And maybe it's my own pressuresthat I put on myself and, maybe,
it's my own thing.
I don't know.
I don't feel like I'm alone inthis.
But I do feel like society, as awhole has put this.
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Pressure on women to be acertain size and to look a
certain way in order to beconsidered.
Good looking or sexy orattractive, or like you're good
enough.
All of that shit.
And it's unfortunate that's theway that it's been.
I really hope that the narrativemoving forward for our daughters
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and our daughters, daughters isthat.
It's about being healthy andstrong.
At whatever size that ends upbeing.
And because healthy in strong isnot the same for everyone.
Especially as we age.
My healthy and strong at age 20is looking different than it was
at age 30 after three, aftertwo, three kids that, and it's
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gonna look different at 40 andit's gonna look different at 50
and it's gonna look different at60.
and we have to be okay withthat.
I don't think it's typical.
Nor is it normal for someone tobe the same size right through
until they're a hundred.
I'm sure it happens.
And I'm sure people work reallyhard to make that happen, but I
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don't think it's typical and Idon't think that we should be
expecting to be the same sizethroughout our whole life,
because that is that's, what'sfucking us up is that we think
that it should be easy or weshould be working towards being
the same.
Weight and size our whole life.
And it's not about that at all.
It's about being healthy andstrong.
Whatever that looks like, andit's going to look different at
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each that's should be the norm.
Right?
So.
I don't know, I just I'm justdone with it.
I just want to put on my clothesin the morning and be like, you
know what?
You look great.
You feel good?
You're healthy.
You, woke up this morning.
Who cares if you're wearing asize 12 or a 10 or whatever size
jeans you're wearing, who thefuck cares?
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Just go out and live your life.
You don't know how much time youhave stopped worrying about your
weight.
Just go and enjoy.
And that's what I want to getto.
And I, I'll be honest.
I'm not a hundred percent thereyet.
But every day.
I get closer and closer to itbecause it's just so exhausting.
Having to think about it all thetime.
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And my husband, I went out fordinner last night.
I wore jeans that I've worn out,many times.
I felt like I looked nice, but Icould feel that my jeans were
tight.
And I could feel that like, whenwe were sitting down to dinner,
I popped open the button becauseit was getting tight, especially
after I had eaten.
And I was just like, you knowwhat?
I think I just need to not wearthese right now, or maybe get
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another size bigger so that Ican feel comfortable when I'm
out.
Instead of trying to suck myselfinto jeans that are tight and
feel uncomfortable all night,which for what?
Right?
Like who cares?
My husband loves the way that Ilook, he thinks it's great.
He doesn't care.
And so why does it matter?
So anyways, if you arestruggling with this as well,
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and you are feeling the feelingsthat I have been feeling.
I think we need to band togetherin in the sense that we need to
start spreading the message thatit's okay to change your body is
going to change.
And it's okay.
Just continue to keep working onbeing healthy and making healthy
choices, and working out to bestrong working out so that your
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bones and your muscles areworking for you as you age,
instead of working out to tryand stay in a size six or a
size, whatever.
And really just, just make thatthe norm.
It's great.
If you want to be, To theextreme on either end of this
conversation.
You do you everybody's going todo their thing.
(15:55):
But I think There are more of uswho are in that space of.
Trying to do something that justisn't going to work for us
because we're not willing tomake the lifestyle changes that
need to be made.
In order to stay a certain size.
And for those of us who are inthat boat, we just need to
(16:15):
mentally get ourselves to thatspace.
That says it's okay to not bethe size you were when you were
30.
It's okay.
That your body's changing.
And that things fit differentlyand maybe you look differently
in the mirror.
And it's okay.
You're still beautiful.
You're still strong.
You're still healthy.
It just looks different.
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It's just, the package ischanging.
That doesn't mean your changing.
It doesn't mean that you'rebetter or worse or any of those
things.
It just means you're in movinginto a new phase of life and
it's okay.
And you're still worthy of allthe things that you were worthy
of before.
You're not anything less.
You're just as amazing.
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You just come in a bit of adifferent package.
And I think that's what wereally just need to accept
within ourselves.
That's what I want to say.
So I'd love to hear from you.
If you listened to this episodeand you feel me on this.
I would love to hear from you inmy DMS on Instagram.
I love when you guys message meon Instagram and share your
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thoughts about these episodes,because this is why I turn on my
mic and do this is because Iwant to have conversations and
talk about how things are reallygoing.
And help others feel likethey're not alone.
that's my purpose here.
So if you felt this in any wayand you want to reach out, you
can do it either at, I am ShanaRecker on Instagram or feel free
to message me on my.
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Art account, which is Shana.
Recker underscore art I'mavailable on both.
And yeah.
So if you're in this boat, justlove yourself today.
Give yourself a squeeze.
Don't worry about what how yourjeans fit.
Go put on some stretchy pants,make some healthy choices.
Give yourself some zone, twocardio or a weight workout.
This week and help get strongand yeah, we'll see you on the
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next episode.
All right, everyone.
We'll talk to you soon.
Bye.
For now.
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